#i dont even know what else to say if you're seeing this without context i guess my only advice is. subscribe to dropout

[warriorbarnes]

this had me crying real tears

[straightbaittournament]

(shaking, through tears) may the best bait win! propaganda under the cut:

mulder and scully:

Infamously treated and teased by showrunners + writers like how a gay couple would be baited and like a gay couple in general, although eventually they do kiss and have a son (although that falls through and they become kind of divorced)

during the entire original run of the show i'm pretty sure chris carter would have said they never had a romantic relationship (they had a baby without ever having had sex!) however in the revival their sort of ambiguous What Are We deal was made a lot more explicit so feel free to veto based on these grounds LITERALLY INVENTED 'SHIPPING'. YOU'RE WELCOME

while i'm... pretty sure they get together eventually (i've only watched a bit of the x-files), from what i've heard they invented the term "shipping" because of people arguing over whether they would/should be romantically involved, so i think they should be included, for fandom history reasons if nothing else

they are a man and a woman who don't get together until ridiculously late but are hilariously devoted to one another, clingy, self-sacrifice-y, and also Forehead Kisses

They’re together but they’re not they love each other but barely know each other

clara and twelve:

their relationship is heavily romantic coded, but is never explicitly confirmed as romantic or not. the queerbait thing of teasing them on socials but never paying them off in canon applies here! also secret love confessions by way of double entendre or omission

they "arent romantic" but obviously they are

They are a man (I guess?) and a woman never get together but physical contact is filmed with such tension, there's jealousy with one member's significant other, "do you think I care for you so little that betraying me would make a difference," "I'm changing history to save Clara," "run you clever boy and be a Doctor," "people like you and me, we should say things to one another," "I'll be the judge of time," "If you love me in any way..." okay these all have context but trust me it's Insane

They never get to be together and in their last episode together, Clara presumably confesses her love to him and WE DONT EVEN SEE IT. like immediately after he gets his memory wiped.

[poopingonthefloor]

Davesport is Toxic NOT abusive

(((WARNING: PRETTY LONG POST UNDER THE CUT.))) I've seen some people making the claims that Davesport is comship/proship (ok well i've more seen people bitching about it) and im tired of the Davesport slander so this will be an analysis of their relationship. My motive isn't to force anyone to ship it or anything- i really dont care what you do with your life, my frustration is just when people try to make up REASONS why they don't like the ship, even though its literally canon (and not badly written). My main point is -- You can hate what you want. You don't need a reason, and it doesn't need to be bad just because you don't like it. But I will not take any slander on their ship nor any slander of people who like davesport. Davesport is absolutely toxic-- No DSAF fan would disagree. They are literally child murderers with little to no souls and literally are physically disfigured to the point they don't have the capacity to feel proper humanity anymore. You cant expect 2 men who live their lives willingly murdering and then partying in vegas to celebrate on repeat to be gentle and kind to themselves or anyone else.

However, its NOT abusive. I've seen multiple people (mostly from twitter screenshots) claim that Davesport is abusive or the way people portray it is in a fetishy or romanticizing way of abuse, when that's just not the case. I don't blame a lot of people, since a lot of it comes from reading context and intent of the artist, which not everyone is good at-- BUT I'm here to assure you that MOST people don't intend to do that much and just like to portray how their dynamic is canonically like or portray Daves obsession with Jack. Another argument I've seen (by a twitter screenshot...) is that people are comshipping Davesport because people draw Jack annoyed a lot at Dave when...thats not true? That's just Jack's personality, first off:

(From the Dave x Reader fanfic by Directdoggo)

"Jack is a bastardman not very touchy-feely. We can see this in many scenes, where Dave more or less says “I love you” and Jack responds with deflecting humour, or outright scorn. When Dave says it for the final time, this time, Jack tries to say it back, but can’t outright, only getting out: “Why is this so hard?” and “I hope you can find peace with what you’ve done.” Which Dave understood the meaning of. (Hey, better than Henry (LEGACY Jack) hearing “I love you” and proceeding to tear Dave limb from limb, huh?"

(Directdoggo describing Jack's personality)

I know it can be a little confusing to some people, but as someone who struggles with similar issues, just because he struggles to express intimately doesn't mean he can't love anything. Sometimes people are just different and communicating like that doesn't come as easily, even to the people you're closest to. To make it as easy as possible to comprehend-- He's quite literally a tsundere. (Minus the exaggerated ridiculousness in anime) He loves Dave, he just cant bring himself to say or act like it. The dismissiveness or rudeness in response to Dave's affection is not abuse, it's just a defensive response since he doesn't know how to say it back. (His way of being "shy") -- Also note its important that Dave UNDERSTANDS this about him by that point.

However Jack isn't the only thing I've seen regarding the claims that their ship is abusive-- and to debunk all of those I'm going to explain the three points that keep Davesport from being abusive, and I'll use Henry x Dave (which is what I'll call it to prevent it getting confused for FNAF willry) as an example alongside it since its super obvious why that one is messed up. Firstly, They are both bad people. By this point, Dave and Jack are murderers. It's just not surprising that they will be willing to kill each other at at least some point, considering they are willing to kill 5 year olds without remorse- and they'll both deserve it. It's only their own faults that they teamed up with the other, and it's meant to be the ultimate irony when Jack becomes even worse than Dave by "An ending". My point is- they're bad people. It's not like they're owed perfect company or would choose wholesome people to hang out with when they're literally both child murderers. Dave wasn't evil and didn't want to kill by the time he teamed up with Henry (and even after it was Henry's fault), so by that point his suffering was absolutely undeserved.

Secondly, They're lacking any specific power dynamic. Unlike Henry and Dave- whom have several levels of "Age, Father figure, and Employer", the most important one is that Henry is Dave's abuser. He manipulated him and purposefully harmed him both mentally and physically, whereas Dave never had any intention of doing either because Dave loved him and didn't want to lose him (because he had nobody else) This obviously much different with Dave and Jack, whom other than being taller and several years older than (which you can argue their 6 year age gap is weird but they didnt get to know each other till they were both older than 30 so by that point age difference doesnt rlly matter and (also theyre "mentally" like 24 and 22 canonically anyways (as much as I usually hate that argument)) Other then that they are only co-workers. This is a bit more arguable during DSAF 1, where Dave comes across more threatening and comes across like he's manipulating Jack, but I don't exactly count that because I wouldn't say theyre "shippable" or in their "situationship*" by that point (but also because them even being a ship was barely considered by the creator at that point obviously)-- whereas Dave is certainly more easily recognized as sincere to Jack in DSAF 2. Jack also is not someone who is afraid to defend himself against Dave, as shown by the fact he's willing to call out Dave's ridiculous behaviors (which is reasonable of him to do).

(Also from the Dave x reader fanfic) (I just think this specific screenshot debunks any sort of "power dynamic" claim)

My Third and Final point: There is a CHOICE involved I haven't really done much Dave defense in this post, but his defense is very simple: He is literally physically unable to comprehend guilt or conscience. Dave didn't want to murder anyone in the first place, but it was Henry who fucked with his (literal) head so much to the point he stopped being able to feel guilt. He doesn't care about murder and doing wrong because he CAN'T care. You can't really let that reflect Dave as a character when he's really not in control of himself in the first place. Now with that, that doesn't change the fact he could certainly affect and hurt people, and it's fully up to Jack as to whether or not he wants to deal with this purple man's freakish life choices and hobbies or not. And that's honestly super dependent on the ending you decide to base Jack on. Most people see the 'canon' endings to be: Gnarly ending (DSAF 1) -> An ending (DSAF 2) -> Good ending (DSAF 3) Where in all of these, Jack DOES choose to deal with Dave and basically is completely cool with murder. You don't have to follow those endings if you don't want to, but that's just typically what the modern "Davesport" is known for, but its what I'm using for my defense (considering this is a defense of both fandom and canon Davesport.) Though as opposed with Henry and Dave- Dave had no choice. Henry only ever manipulated him into thinking he did, and Henry made sure to feed this whole 'we will be a family' ideal into Dave (who never had one) so that Dave would be terrified to lose him. Jack never manipulates Dave (when teamed up with him), and Dave never manipulates Jack (tho arguable in DSAF 1 as well). They stay with each other despite all of their issues, and I believe its due to some co-dependency (imo I think Jack is also obsessed with Dave just in a different way before DSAF 3) Which isn't healthy, but not...inherently abusive.

I believe my main three points kind of cover the most of why I dont consider Davesport to be inherently a bad ship, but like I said- if you don't like it, none of that matters anyways. You dont NEED a reason to like something, and I wont try to convince you why you should ship something because I like it. Just don't hate it just because of what someone else says-- 90% of the dsaf fandom aren't comshippers, and Davesport isn't gross or "toxic /neg" just because it's not healthy. I think "Don't fetishize/romanticize literal abuse like its normal or sexy" and "We should explore more complicated and unhealthy dynamics" can and SHOULD coincide with each other!!!! I think Davesport is great because of how bittersweet it is that these two people finally found solace and acceptance in each other but couldn't get past the self-sabotaging nature of what Henry turned them both into, ultimately making it impossible to work out forever. I think embracing the Davesport makes the (kind of aged) trilogy a lot more enjoyable of an experience and I DO encourage any davesport skeptics to keep an open mind. [Pretend I wrapped this up super nicely I can never do that--- Also this is open for conversation and/or debate, and also yada yada my bad if i said something randomly terrible I have extremely poor social skills lol let me know so I dont do it again yada yada] *Also if anyone doesnt know a situationship is (at least in the context im using it in ive heard other definitions for it but its not a real word so i actually dont care) when 2(or more) people basically treat eachother like lovers but they never communicate this outright and dont technically officially date but like they treat and commit to eachother like a partner would) (So its kind of what all those people who playfully flirt and call each other their spouses as a commited running joke are in)

[spidermanifested]

💔💛🖤 for FMA because you're always correct somehow

💔: If you had to remove one major character from the series, who would you choose?

i cant just say roy mustang a fourth time im challenging myself to come up with a creative answer

honestly? and if you can believe it mostly unrelated to the third question down there. i think if you took out hughes, and had to reframe the military protagonists' motivations to make them less reliant on "we need to avenge this one guy we liked", youd have room to explore more of the actual bad things about the amestrian government. that might lead people to want to rebel. like at least the nina chapter provided insight into why the state alchemist program is inherently corrupt, all we learn from hughes dying is "Breaking News! One Weird Geometry Fact The Homunculi Dont Want You To Know About"

youd have to restructure the maria ross parts too but i figure you could work something out without too much trouble. blame her for lab 5 going down or something idk

💛: What is a popular ship you just can't get behind, and why?

takes a deep breath. This may come as a betrayal to almost all of my devils nest mutuals. it may break my streak of always being correct in the eyes of the masses. but i dont........really see what everyone else sees......... in greed/dolcetto.........

"wow big shocker from captain grido" i hear everyone saying but llet me explain myself. i can rationalize why somebody might like it. and its not even the ship itself i have beef with really. its more, the widespread fandom elevation of dolcetto as Greeds Loyalest Guy, with mainly vibes-based justifications (hes a dooooooog!!!!) instead of textual evidence, that tends to accompany it? which to be fair exists outside of a shipping context as well. like on tv tropes for example

[CITATION NEEDED]

so. My bido loving soul naturally despairs. also the fact that it seems to have achieved almost default status in the fandom spheres im most interested in, so when you go looking for nest related stuff it crops up before long and you know how it goes with overexposure

my final reason is that i do love dolcetto as a character. That guy rules. which means it does me psychic damage to see his personality replaced with that of a shy blushing puppyboy, as he so often is in the ancient fanart i find combing the google search results,

🖤: Which character is not as morally good as everyone else seems to think?

As Per My Last Email: hughes lol

like i know in series hes meant to be a heroic figure but thats kind of my problem. hes just your average nuclear family loving gun toting red blooded american i mean amestrian, who joined the army to defend his definitely-under-attack right to have said nuclear family, and then started dating a girl while he was on the front lines and then used her as an internal justification to keep committing genocide, and then when he has a kid he threatens her (3 YEAR OLD) friends with a gun, and one of his Bonding Moments with winry is giving her a lecture on gender roles because dont you know men never talk about their feelings, and do you see why i thinkmaybe tje fact that he buys his daughter a lot of toys and waves around pictures of his family doesnt inherently make him the best dad on earth. like its really easy to be a good dad when your kid is a toddler and your wife does all the hard work taking care of her and all you have to do is bring home the paycheck. wild beasts are xoming to attack me once hit post on this one i think

[blueskiesfillmymind]

what’s your opinion on each Blue version ? 👁️👁️

I was waiting for another ask!! Oh my god you're gonna be here for a while!! Cuz I'm gonna gush so much!!

Btw im gonna use acronyms for most of the titles of the animations and such so incase u need context.

KM - Kiss Me

LDT - Look Dont Touch

LF - Love Fool

SUASWM - Shut Up And Sleep With Me

BBYHL - Baby Hotline

WIW - wutiwant [one and two]

OTF - On The Floor

KMY - Kuruoze Miy

BMTHD - Bring Me The Horizon / Drown

LTH - Let It Happen

OL - Ordinary Life

So with that out of the way, Here. We. Go!

Kid blue [PRE-TRAUMA]

Blue's baby photos are just adorable!! Makes me wanna give his cheeks a small squishy squish,, I also wanna just- take him to an arcade,, he feels like such an arcade lover,, I wish to pamper him and treat him so much better, I remember when we were kids, we made mud pies and played in the rain together, and honestly those childhood memories makes me all the more happy that we've come so far,, I dont have much else to say other than he's a cutie patootie :3

Adult Blue [PRE-TRAUMA | KM - LDT -SUASWM]

My oh my,, he's such a flirt! His warm soft smug smile, his smaller more awkward moments when i flirt back with him are pure bliss,, the way he peppers me with kisses and always leans on me whenever he needs breaks from his work,, he's my handsy handsome boy!! And he loves me sosomuch,,, The way he'd give me sly glances whenever possible,, and his lovely tooth gap- Have I ever said how much I love his tooth gap? God he's seriously so lovely,, hearing him whistle simple tunes while we walk side by side,, hhrrgsggs

Mild Blue [SLBB - WIW1]

He has such a wounded heart,, it makes me wanna bitch slap pink even more whenever I think of this version of blue, even without his mouth he's quite kissable, he's more quiet than most of the other versions, yet all I can do is softly caress his cheeks, and passionately kiss him, mouth or not,, the way we'd lay together in comfortable silence as he boops his no-mouth against my own mouth, he actually loves doing that with me, kissing my cheeks even though he has no mouth, aside for his devilish smile ofc,, it's like he kisses me through a face mask,,

Heart Blue [BBYHL]

Sly,, Playboy,,, Bnuy,, BLU- no joke he's such a slut for pampering me,, and I mean that in the most loving way ever. I mean cmon, he wears a light pink sweater layered over a button up shirt, his sleazy black pants and lastly his lovely fluffy hair,, his heart glasses adorning his framed face as he looks at me with his tinted glasses,, gosh I'd be here for Years just to gush about his eyes,, The way he sometimes slips his hand near my waist to pull me closer sometimes,, gives me butterflies everytime!!

Hypersexual Blue [KMY]

The fact that when I've fallen for blue,, he was my first taste of- HOLY FUCK HIS TONGUE- May I say that his tongue knows how to knot cherry stems,, his tongue dancing along mine whenever we make out is pure bliss,, sure his mouth tastes like alcohol and booze,, but my god it makes me want to get drunk by his sensual touches,, and whenever we have that special moment,, its all like a wet dream,, his tongue is not only talented but he's surprisingly flexible, in a way he is a little stiff in some places, but he's still flexy,,

Cyan Blue [BMTHD]

Fire, Pain, just his pure denial ignites his rage, the way he sees himself is such a sad feeling, aswell as the way he's stuck in this episode of denying his entire abuse just pains me so so so badly,, During it all, he was so afraid of touching me.. almost isolating himself from me and other awful things, we ended up taking a small healthy break from one another.. but then after he healed,, he apologized for his manic behavior,, and I accepted him in a heartbeat,, having to finally feel his face again was such a blessing,, and I could tell he missed my touch aswell,,

White blue [WIW2]

All I'm going to say,, is I'm proud of him atleast,, finding his scars all over his body made me feel so sorry for him,, and when I watched the video, I felt so hurt.. the way he was silenced for being a man? I'd say that's rlly sexist. but that's not what I'm gonna touch on. I've had to comfort blue, we ended up cuddling when he got back,, I sang the two of us to sleep, and when he woke up, he kissed my cheek softly and mumbled a soft "Thank you",, aaughhh,,,

[Side note 4 paranoid: Whenever blue had those paranoid episodes, I've found another way of comforting them with my voice,, and now whenever he goes through those episodes, he'll either stand there frozen or just get to me for my comfort]

Grey Blue [LTH]

He was in such a spiral,, I felt super super awful for how the aftermath definitely made a number on him, every night he'd cling on me, to which I'd always nuzzle him to remind him how much he means to me,, every night he tears up and cried, whenever I'd see his dried tears, I'd clean them up for him,, aswell as brushing his hair that he was growing out, ngl I missed his mullet,, but hey, I'll love him no matter what <3

End Blue [OL]

... i felt so awful, and absolutely depressed when he began thinking of the things he's always been comparing himself to,, "My existence makes everyone uncomfortable, I'm a peice of shit!" Yet here I am. Thinkin the polar opposite, we both have had therapy times and during the end of it, I'd always ask for a hug, if he accepts, I'd rock him back and forth and hum a soft comforting tune,, if he dosnt want a hug, I'd ask for an alternative, and usually most time we'd always end up cuddling afterwards, I'm apart of his healing, I never want him to go through that ever again,

I'm not gonna talk about the abuser version of blue, he's nothing but a figure of his imagination, he isnt real. Not to me, and never will be real to blue,,

Anyways!!! Yeah,,, as you can tell i love blue :3

[fabulousest333]

I hope this isnt trauma dumping or sm but i just needed to get this out and also get some advice and i think i really like ur advice. So i have been jn a relationship w my bf for 2 years now and i love him with my heart and soul and we plan to get married ( ee are still young but we see that as the futuregoal) so up tntil a few months back i used to just go to random s*x chat groups and something and would share my nudes nd just stuff like that and would also watch p*rn .. these are both things that me and my bf would a 100% consider cheating and if he did this to me i would kill myself out of sorrow. I absolutely hate myself and am disgusted at myself i was distracted for a little while with my exams but now they are over and now im crying all the time again just thinking about what i did to the boy i love the most. At the time i didnt think much of it and at first i would just talk w people but slowly i started sharing nudes and i did this a couple of times until i realized a few months back how wrong it is. I have no idea how i didnt realise how wrong this is?Up until this i was a really good person i dont think ive ever hurt anybody and i am very nice also but now idk i just hate myself and everything about me .Every day whenever i think aboyt this i cant help but cry and think there really isnt anything else i can do. Of course i have changed and wouldnt think of doing such a thing again but still the fact that i did it in the first place makes me want to die.

Ik its so selfish but i cant keeo thinking that he will do sm like this to me also and that ill get my karma. Does karma really even exist and how do i get myself to atop thinking this now i always suspect him of cheating and talking to other girls. Hes done sm similar to cheating to me but nothing on this level. What he did is nothing ckmpared to what i did.

And in the context of manifesting, should i manifest that none of this ever happened and for me to be a really nice person or shoukd i manifest that this completely gets erased from my memory or what?? This also messes up my manifestion so much i cant helo hut tell myself that i dont deserve good things as im a bad person . Please help. If youre not comfortable answering this then im sorry for wasting ur time

in the future as a boundary I'd prefer to only answer manifestation questions without trauma dumping, so I'll be ignoring any from now on, but it's totally okay as you didn't know ❤️

as for manifestation you can revise, or shift if you'd like! both are easy. revision is changing the past, and all you need to do is say the new story of what happened in your past and the 3d will conform.

as for shifting there's lots of methods you could use, but I'm not an expert so I'd seek advice elsewhere.

and finally telling yourself you're a bad person can't mess up your manifestations, nothing can if you say so. I'd work on your self concept outside of manifestation just to help you feel better about yourself, mistakes are a normal human experience.

personally I don't believe in karma, I'm sure you won't be affected. you can use protection subliminals or spells if it's giving you stress.

good luck!

[mikichko]

Right, so I have a question with everything that fucking went down

At what point do we draw the line between "I do not think this fits the character/I do not like how the character has been constructed" vs "I hate this character because they're black, or a poc, or a minority"?

Because I've SEEN people in the screenshot post comment that if you do not include gaz, then there's racism in there. But if I do not see the text blurb, or prompt or whatever fit any given character, then is that racism? And if I have to include the character if the opposite is racism, then wouldn't that be more inappropriate? Since I'd be including them out of obligation than a genuine interest/adoration/appropriateness of the character?

Because I'm not really concerned about all this drama that went down. Except maybe for myka being alive. But this has constantly been on my mind. So far I've believed that as long as I remain fair with what I like or dislike in a character, WITHOUT basing it on colour, then that's alright, like that's been my logic, and it made sense for me? But from what a few people have commented, it seems like whenever I do not include gaz (leave apart excluding him from t141 stuff, that's clear cut racism for me, because why include everyone else except a core member of the team when it says tf141) then it becomes racist?

Help me understand this, or atleast let me know who I can send an ask to that explains this.

Hi cariño! Firstly, I want to say thank you for being patient as I got back to you and cooked up this answer!

I also want to say thank you for sending this ask, because it helps me breach a topic I've been unsure on how to approach: nuance.

This'll get long, by my standards, but TLDR is: you have to learn to make that distinction yourself especially if you're a white individual or from a country where these issues aren't prevalent. Because, most likely, it wasn't a learned skill like it was for the rest of us POC.

First, the people commenting that anyone leaving Gaz out is racism by default are wrong. It simply doesn’t work like that. I love Gaz! He’s objectively one of my favorite video game characters and I love his character development in the last two games (we dont talk about MW3 here). But even I don’t include him in every single prompt because my personal characterization of him doesn’t match that. I want to remind you that just because those folks are loud doesn’t mean they’re right.

There is plenty of frustration, rightfully so, with the treatment of Gaz in the fandom. We’ve seen him constantly removed or replaced with other white characters. Black writers have even gotten anons who say they don’t write for Gaz because they “don’t know how to write for your people” (y’all need therapy and to touch grass). We’ve seen plenty of unsavory behavior. What differentiates this behavior and leaving Gaz out, or any character for that matter, based on vibes is nuance.

Let me give you a little context.

The thing about racism nowadays is that it's evolved. It's no longer the loud, brash, in-your-face racism that our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents experienced. It's a lot quieter or subdued nowadays. It's my coworker saying he prefers light eyes to dark eyes because he finds them "more interesting." It's my friends and I being told that our hair pattern is "distracting" and that we should be presenting ourselves in a more "professional light.” Or my coworker making comments about how English is difficult after he learned that English was not my native language, despite me speaking it for eighteen years.

When you grow up in these circumstances it's really easy, for me at least, to tell when someone is being racist or someone just decided to not include a character based on vibes. There's also an existing hypersensitivity to this fandom because of the racism against Gaz, which is why I can understand why this situation started in the first place. But ultimately being privvy to these micro aggressions and being able to spot them is how you’re able to tell the difference between someone not liking a character at face value and racism.

I saw Myka's (codslut) post a day before I saw Madi's (soapskneebrace) post. Did I think it was racism? Not really. I was surprised to see '09 Soap and Ghost on there but aside from that I didn't think much of it. Kept going about my day. I will admit, I'm someone who takes things at face value on the first go around. I just trust my gut and instincts which have been refined through my experiences. My gut was telling me there was no malicious intent behind the post, just a post centered around more dominant personalities. I moved on.

Someone else made an incorrect assumption about the post, this is normal we all interpret things differently, and it spiraled out of control. I have my own opinions on how the situation should have been handled but ultimately I don't think this situation should leave you scared about not including a character based on vibes. If anything it’s a learning moment for you to come to understand that no matter how you word, phrase, or present things it will never land perfectly with everyone.

You said it yourself love, you operate under logic that is sound to you and it's also sound to me! You are taking the characters at face value, forming an opinion, a characterization, and moving forward based on that. I think it’s safe to say that you’re having objective opinions about this character. However, not everyone will see it that way, which again, is not a bad thing. We cannot control how people digest the information we give them. We can just try our best to make our intents known but after that it’s not on us anymore.

Nuance when it comes to situations like these is incredibly helpful. Because of my experience and learning to identify micro aggressions and dog whistles on posts, I’m able to deduce if something really is racism or not. I can see the subtleties within posts that let me know when someone is actually being hateful. It’s a learned skill that makes you a much better ally in the long run. If we take for example, the people you mentioned who said that Gaz not being included is automatically racism we can see that there is a gap and in turn they become a blind ally.

I don’t think that forcing characters is the right move forward. I also think a lot of people would agree with me. But it is the added context and subtleties of some of the posts and comments creators make on Gaz that really bring to light their hateful feelings towards him. Not because of his character at face value but simply because he is a black character.

I really hope this answered your question. If it didn’t please let me know! I’m more than happy to talk about this some more.

[blackjackkent]

im so inspired and in lovvveee w u (as a fan!! no parasocial shenanigans here I swear 🫶)

When they said they weren't doing any more DLC for the game, I wasn't sad, actually. I noticed there's a big divide of peeps who like the game right? I realized this when I saw there were people who *always* play Durge and think it 100% hands down better than Tav, and seeing in the forum why people actually *liked* playing Tav over Durge, And it's like because Tav can be anyone with any story. Durge is really just a customizable pre-existing character (That's why they're under origin character, right?)

So that's what I realized the divide of people. There's always going to be certain people who prefer to play Something with a pre-existing story, people who don't enjoy the extra work of making your own character. But for people who do, the lack of DLC is disappointing but not a big deal. Because ask someone who has always enjoyed making her own characters, The end of a story is never really the end for me. And all that jibber jabber to say I see it in YOU too, and I looooooovvvve it! You're such a good writer and it's fabulous 🫶

though, as someone previously non-experienced with D&D, I do admit that makes imagining the future a little bit harder, despite, What really is probably one of the most Fanfiction-Friendly properties 😂

I did want to ask for advice on that if you have any to spare! Like, for example, I'd love to write about my own Tav and Karlach rolling around in Avernus, but I have no idea where to start even looking 😭

:O This was a fun message to receive! c: I appreciate so much that you like my writing and reached out. <3

You def make an interesting point about the Durge vs Tav experience. I think there's a lot of room for character headcanon even when you're playing Durge tbh (certainly I'm enjoying giving Rakha her own sense of personality and such), but you're right that it adds a bit more of a "built-in" framework for people who prefer that kind of experience and not having to think too much about the character details.

(It also, without giving too much away, is very representative of the character experience in BG1/2 - which was more of a Tav/Durge mix, really.)

But yeah, I also feel okay about the lack of DLC because there is lots of room to come up with the story I want outside of the events of the game. :)

As far as advice - I think you're asking specifically for advice on writing within the Forgotten Realms world and D&D sphere in general? Tbh I am not the hugest expert on the subject myself; there is a lot more FR lore than just what comes up in this series and I am by no means familiar with most of it.

My practical advice would be to point you towards the Forgotten Realms wiki, which is where I get most of my info that I can't get from the game's own dialogue. (Sadly it's a fandom.com wiki - if anyone else has other resources that particularly like for FR lore I would love your comments also!) There's lots of info in there that I've drawn from when needed for my fics.

On a more general level though - honestly I think my best advice is to get comfortable with the idea of getting lore wrong. We love to play in this sandbox but we're allowed to bring our own toys too. :D So if something feels like it'd make a better story by being a certain way, then fuckin go for it. :) Any reader who wants to make a stink about details being off isn't actually there to appreciate your story anyway. And the vast majority of readers are there in good faith to see what you're going to come up with and enjoy it. :)

(I've been thinking about this a lot in the context of writing "Open Your Eyes", because they're off to Calimport now and I have realized I know nothing about Calimport. XD So I've been studying the wiki a lot but I've also made an executive decision to not stress myself overly about it and focus on making the setting work for the story and not the other way around. I dont really mind if someone ends up letting me know (politely) that I missed the mark on something, but I'm not going to lose sleep over it if I'm pleased with the story regardless. :D )

I hope this is the sort of answer you were looking for! Sending very supportive vibes for your writing adventures also. c:

[artwithoutblood]

Nsfw alphabet for either Aeron or Erebus? Mayhaps if those aren’t done yet.

i havent done one for either of them. my problem is the joke among friends is "aeron is sexless, and erebus's pussy is dust if you opened his legs."

nevertheless, i'll try. because they don't...need to, their answers are harder..? this is where i let y'all take the reigns and feel them out how you want. don't rely on me. i have the sexual knowledge of a worm from serbia who just watched arch duke franz ferdinand get assasisnated

aeron's first!

A = Aftercare (what they’re like after sex)

quiet. observing you, looking down at you and moving your hair out of your face. in their own daze, will forget to take care of you unless you ask, just because they're scattered. but they'll cook for you and sit in otherwise silence for a few hours afterwards, just wanting to hear you.

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

they like their eyes and their tattoos. their favorite spot on a partner is the collarbone and crook of the neck.

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

it's not what you think it is. but this doesn't matter to them. it's more like a delusion honey, if that makes sense.

D = Dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

they can see anyone and through their eyes if they're within 50 meters of aeron. take that how you will.

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)

experienced enough. they're sort of...dazey during most of it? they know what they're doing, but they don't really take any pride in it.

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

again...i don't know positions really! they like it when you're facing away, though. i guess. I DON'T KNOW!!

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

they smile a lot. just want to make sure you're okay.

H = Hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

i am going to be real with you i dont even know what parts they have down there. i really dont. i do not picture this guy having sex. they're a clean person if that helps

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

very romantic! probably their favorite part! they can talk quite a bit. like eye contact, are more into the build up than the actual act. just like to kiss you and sit against you for hours.

J = Jack off (masturbation headcanon)

they...do not! but they're more inclined to watch you do it!

K = Kink (one or more of their kinks)

i think the important thing for aeron is love as violence, love as knives and pain that gets kissed away, love as blood and wounds that get kissed better, that are left as marks for your bond. it's not about the action but rather what it means in the greater context. that isn't for everyone, though, so otherwise, vocalization, light bondage, etc also work.

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

in privacy. where you're comfortable. they've done it over a church altar once. that was a favorite.

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

you asking! though just you existing is enough! they love you.

N = No (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

the typical gross ones and off-limits ones (ageplay, dubcon, etc). they also don't really like bottoming because of personal reasons. if you are close enough, perhaps.

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

prefers to give but doesn't really like oral

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

they're slow, taking their time. they'll forget they're doing it halfway and stop to ponder something else. you just have to ask them and snap back into it.

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

will probably talk your ear off about something, and by the time you get ready, you're not in the mood anymore.

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

they don't really care.

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

can only go once or twice before not...getting tired, but rather getting hooked on something else

T = Toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

don't own toys, but they aren't opposed! they'd prefer that they stay away from their body, though

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

their teasing isn't meant to be sexual, but if it is, they just smile and shrug it off!

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

it's less about being loud and more that they're...chatty? whether it's talking about how pretty you are or something else.

W = Wild card (a random headcanon for the character)

some of the tattoos are sensitive! just DO NOT TAKE A KNIFE TO THE MIDDLE ONE.

X = X-ray (let’s see what’s going on under those clothes)

weird. it seems like the tattoos blink at you. they feel warm to the touch, at least, warmer than the rest of their body.

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

not at all! they're a romantic yearner.

Z = Zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

they don't sleep very much. but sometimes the spacing out is an equivalent. it can be quickly, then.

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erebus time. [my smile cracks]

A = Aftercare (what they’re like after sex)

reads you a book and puts on music. sits next to you until you fall asleep.

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

he hates his body. maybe his face is the only thing. he likes eyes that are not his own.

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

liquidy. a strange color.

D = Dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

romance is the genre he's written the most for.

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)

DOESN'T FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

missionary. he cannot do anything else. he will be nervous.

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

very serious but very awkward at the same time. doesn't let his guard down, but he's not funny in the slightest.

H = Hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

hair doesn't grow past his head, so he's all clean.

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

not really intimate, seems a bit distant. i think this is the most he smiles, though. has you take the lead.

J = Jack off (masturbation headcanon)

i cannot picture my ocs masturbating, i'm sorry. feel this how u want.

K = Kink (one or more of their kinks)

i do not know. i feel like deep down this guy has a breeding kink but if i think about it my head starts turning into soup.

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

on stage. not with anyone watching, of course.

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

direct confrontation. bringing up his romance novels or asking questions about how things are done.

N = No (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

besides the usuals, please don't restrain him in any way.

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

prefers to receive because the thought of getting between someone's legs embarrasses him. it's kinda gay to be between legs, bro.

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

fast and rough, and not really in a fun way. he just feels like otherwise, he's not trying hard enough.

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

if you got him in the rhythm, a little something under his desk while he's working is welcome.

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

you have to promise him that everything is going to be okay and talk about it beforehand.

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

just one. please let this old man rest.

T = Toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

again, never thought about it. this is a wild card.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

he doesn't. he needs things to get straight to the point.

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

for such an angry librarian, he's loud. desperate, maybe.

W = Wild card (a random headcanon for the character)

erebus doesn't know what an actual orgasm feels like because he has sex to fulfill a quota.

X = X-ray (let’s see what’s going on under those clothes)

his entire body is covered in black splotches of scales that look like they're covered in oil. they have the sheen.

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

this is a librarian. what the fuck do you think? NONE. ZIP ZAP!!!

Z = Zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

within 5 minutes, to be honest. that's more energy that he exerts in the act than he does in a week.

[red-dyed-sarumane]

thought dumping without looking at my sources here BUT

i just dont get it right like the line in shoushitsu so VERY directly says "as long as you're a person the old world's legacy will continue in the toroidal direction" mea!ning! (based off other context in both shoushitsu & other songs like maximizer) so long as the characters continue to follow their paths of their own will & desire & don't think of it as only something they need to do or as the only relevant trait about themselves, then they still have their selves/egos and still are full people. and in that case that they're full people they're guaranteed to follow the path of the world into its next iteration, in other words, they get to keep living, or if u want to stick with the terms in shoushitsu they're "reborn" in the new world so to speak.

this isnt even speculation, this is shown to us in both the text in shoushitsu (the text thats like "she slowly closed her eyes, and i gently opened mine. a certain world had disappeared") and also the text in canon (about how she comes to in front of a fountain after it rained, implying the start of a new loop/world)

and even up to the end of oumen mokushiroku it's clearly tenshi still holds her own values, still has her wants & seems to be aware of herself. i dont know if the "'not me not me' those words didnt reach anyone" is referring to tenshi or apoptosis speaking, seeing as its implied apoptosis was the first to be chosen as a sacrifice until she pinned it on someone else (who happened to end up as tenshi). tenshi's hyper aware of time almost like how the laboratory character is, that hyper awareness that can only come with knowing an indisputable end is coming. she knows what's happening & can't find a way out of it. but that doesn't make sense to me. if she's still herself, if she stepped in to take apoptosis' place, that's her own judgement, protecting the other is her own goal in that case. i guess it's possible to only fall on tenshi if she's the one least likely to protest, but even of the event of being forced to be a sacrifice, even if she has to "accept" this fate, that's not real acceptance, that's not really throwing herself away in the sense that this series requires. i guess it can be stretched that far if needed since it seems like the only real option here, that she ended up giving up her own goals to fulfill a role the others demanded, thus became a "thing" rather than a "person" at the last minute. but even then that doesnt add up. shes crying over this. shes ACTUALLY crying over it. despite ALL the stress & psychological torment going on in the entire series, she's the ONLY one shown crying over it (yes several others are mentioned to cry. it only makes sense. they arent SHOWN that way however) & no one who's truly accepted a role, even this dire of a role, would really cry over it right? it's hard for her. her smile looks like it could break any second.

yet even for being an early song in the series, if she wasn't meant to be a "person" there's enough in the song to tie it to the series without it having the motif. the ou itself directly ties it to aru sekai shoushitsu & that's how a lot of people realize its related. the motif isnt really necessary to show its a series song. look at all the more recent songs that dont have it specifically to show the characters dead. so why is she singing hers. it feels like saying she's dying as herself truly, but then she should just wake up again like everyone else if that was the case. what makes it a sacrifice really and why is it different from how everyone else is dying?? the only other thing i can think of is that, if she's singing it, it's like a last wish of sorts. the sort of thing only meant for emotional impact. it's true that it's still the only song besides shoushitsu that has the motif sung instead of added to the instrumentals. i can't help but feel that has a meaning to it. maybe it is to say she's giving it up. i just don't know it doesn't make sense to me given the other details i feel like she should still get to live.

i mean both kyuuyaku and kannagi sing out the rute furute wo a line. touhikou doesn't but those two do. it doesnt seem to bind them to each other any more than it does touhikou.

so i just really don't know how i'm supposed to take the end of oumen. everything else, everything else seems to say she's dead. she's not coming back. the way she says she wishes they could meet again, the way she says everything goes dark. the way how in unplanned apoptosis, the song tied the closest to oumen, she falls apart even worse after the sacrifice is brought up. how in kanon shes deeply regretful over the fact a sacrifice ever occurred. everything else is saying tenshi's dead she's not coming back. except the fact the main motif to say a character lives is in the song. and the thing is, oumen and apoptosis seem to be all magu wants to give us regarding that particular incident. we might not get any more info on what happened there beyond those two. sure kanon's related too, but not as deeply, not enough to give any more clarity to this one situation. sure we get new unexpected info every new song, but coming back to these two feels so unlikely. it's like everything's here already, yet its still not enough to know everything.

[my-gf-is-kazuichi-soda]

The Kazuichi and Papyrus au I have is not just a wacky idea btw. It came to me when I realized that they are both autistic characters misrepresented by their fandoms for their autistic traits.

*btw if you're knew here, I headcanon Kazuichi as a trans girl and use she/her pronouns for the character. You'll have to get used to it.

*also, before it gets pointed out to me, Kazuichi is "canonically a 'stalker' " (in a loose sense of the word, she's a kid who has followed and spied on another kid she had a crush on during a school trip), but many other characters in Danganronpa are also stalkers and are more easily forgiven/forgotten by the fandom, including every Danganronpa protagonist. Autistic people, especially KIDS, can have trouble understanding boundaries, and nobody in the game actually approaches Kazuichi about this and tells her it's wrong, they just insult or make fun of her for being a weirdo. If an autistic person needs to be #cancelled for making neurotypicals uncomfortable, then...that cancels most autistic people, including myself. Autistic people deserve a chance to learn from their mistakes. And yes Kazuichi was also unfairly mean at times. Like I said she was on edge and scared all the time. It is not an excuse but it didnt warrant the harsh fandom treatment.

---

Kazuichi is an autistic person who's reaching her fucking limit. She has to perform hypermasculine behavior to keep herself safe, she tries to be a cool fun extroverted guy but her act is always falling apart, she has constant meltdowns, she is mean sometimes to get people to back off and stop hurting her, she is visibly frustrated that people dont appreciate her hard work and just see her as a weirdo. She publicly and vocally expresses how lonely she is and how much she wants people to like her. And thus she is villainized for her worst moments. And called an asshole. And an idiot. And a manchild. And pathetic for her loneliness and unrequited crush. And people assume malicious intent from everything she does. They call her a creep. They call her a freak. Have I mentioned that she's a kid? Because she is a kid! Parts of the fandom say they want to bully her. She gets fanart (that is NOT meant to be sympathetic) where she is openly excluded from her friendgroup, on the sidelines looking sad while they have fun without her, or her friends say the most horrible shit to her and gang up on her to kick her while she's on the floor crying. No this is not missing context, this fanart never has context of her doing *anything* to provoke this treatment, aside from sometimes asking her unrequited crush on a date, and yes it almost always is her asking her crush in a more innocent way than the games did, only to have their reaction be uncharacteristically cruel (I swear I could make a post about how Sonia gets mischaracterized and villainized this way while the fandom ironically thinks they are giving Sonia "girl power", barf).

Papyrus is an autistic person who puts on a similar, cool guy act, though is way better at it because he is not at his fucking limit. Even if he is depressed like everyone else from being underground, he is in a calm peaceful town where people mostly leave him alone and he is allowed to express his weird interests and be silly. He is not on guard all the time like Kazuichi. He feels comfortable and safe but still very lonely, but even when he vocalizes this loneliness he puts on an optimistic attitude, so it gets ignored or put in a superficial light. He makes himself and everyone else feel better with his optimism, but that optimism, combined with his weird behavior, makes some people think he is clueless. They call him silly. And an idiot. And a manchild. They think he cant take care of himself. They assume he is silly and dumb in everything he does. They ignore the moments that dont fit their narrow view of him as an always-happy, doesnt-know-what-sadness-is ignorant manchild. Parts of the fandom act like his overly-controlling parents. They dont let him swear or know what sex is or defend himself in a fight or do anything that an adult is capable of.

The way Kazuichi is treated is often how autistic people get treated when they are visibly frustrated, have meltdowns, make social blunders that hurt others, and make people uncomfortable. The way Papyrus is treated is often how autistic people get treated when they feel safer to be themselves, when they are fun for others to be around, when they make social blunders that make others laugh + dont hurt other people or make them uncomfortable, when they hide and downplay their loneliness and frustrations. And most autistic people have been both of them at some points in their life.

But the takeaway from this is that the treatment you deserve should not depend on how well you can hide your frustrations, how well you can handle social situations, mask your weirdness, how you appear to others, how you appease neurotypicals. Kazuichi deserves to be able to reach a safe feeling and be able to drop her guard and she deserves to be able to have her accomplishments recognized and be appreciated not just for how hard she works but for how sweet she is, because she is a really nice person when she's not spending her energy defending herself against bullies. She deserves to have friends and a partner or partners that love her back instead of being doomed by the narrative to chase people who dont understand or care about her. And she is NOT stupid, she is judged by the wrong standards. Papyrus deserves to be taken seriously and to get in the royal guard (or another respectable title for monsters if the royal guard is dismantled), he deserves to be taken seriously as an adult even when he's weird and silly, he deserves to reach a point where he doesnt have to act optimistic about the future because it's already gotten better. And he's not stupid either.

[bichopalo]

ok the situation is: i'm going to a film with my brother (rare event) which we chose bc we're both free that day and time, and i like the cinema it's showing at. the film we're seeing is a tribute to another film, which i haven't seen. the cinema's showing that film tomorrow, but i'm rlly tired lol and i can't really be bothered to go, but i'm afraid i won't understand the film-with-my-brother without it. do i force myself to get up tomorrow morning and see it?

extra context: my brother also hasn't seen the film, and he's not free tomorrow. the cinema's in the centre of town, which is about an hour away by bus (my prefered route -- cheaper and more seats) or 30-45 minutes by tube. another option is i just cancel the film-with-my-brother altogether and hope he's free another day, but it might be hard to find a time that works for him.

anyway. thank you for your time! i hope you're having a great day. don't feel like you have to answer this, i just know you like films so i feel like you'd have a good answer.

Hiii! I wish i knew what film youre referring to so i could have a more informed opinion but for now ill say this. Dont cancel the hangout with your brother!!!!!if its a rare occasion i think youll get something out of it even if the film is hard to understand, with that said if its a good movie you'll probably be fine without seeing the original. Also id consider going tomorrow just because its an opportunity for bonding with your bro explaining the references and personally i looove pointing out that type of stuff when seeing a movie with someone :) if you enjoy going to the movies alone it might also be a fun time and if not maybe you can invite someone else and that gives you an excuse to go! Hope you have fun either way 🥰🥰

[voidwritesstuff]

Fleeting Joys

Cw: mentions of war, alusion to ww2. Military themes and alusions to PTSD. Please let me know if theres anything else I should add to the list.

Summary: Lucas and Alphonso share some Fleeting moments of joy amidst their deployment.

Fandom: in sound mind

A/n: I always felt that Lucas had a father/son relationshipp with Alphonso, this "character study" is Centered around a platonic/familial Bond between two men, do not take it out of context.

->Reblogs and comments are appreciated.

--Lucas! -- alphonso yelled, snapping Lucas out of his trance making him look at the source. A smile appears on the face of the young Man as his older friend approaches-- we gotta move. the hell's takin' ya so long,kiddo?

--I uh,...can't manage to fix my collar in a way its not uncomfortable-- the flordian Man answered, flustered and mildly ashamed. "Way to go,Lucas" he thought.

--Ah I see-- Alphonso replied with a teasing yet lighthearted smirk, stepping a little closer to his friend and extending his hands towards his shirt's collar-- lemme see what I can do -- it takes a little bit of rustling the fabric but he manages to fix it-- there, all good kid.

--Thanks-- Lucas answered a little more cheery-- I think I'm good to go now

--Great!-- the older Man patted his companion's back-- c'mon we gotta go

Both make their way through camp, saying hi to some of his fellow teammates. The air smelled of humidity, dirt and mild B.O. Lucas has seen plenty of military camps, in movies at least, and the pictures his dad had shown him; it was different than what he imagined but..it was his home now, at least until he came back home.

--Good thing I fixed yer collar, or Our c.o would have yer head on a pike-- Alphonso half joked playfully pushing his friend

--Oh most defenetly-- the younger Man answered, following along to his companion's joke-- I still dont know how the hell you managed to save my ass from night watch the other day

--Ah I just talked to 'im. I said that you're just still gettin' used to all this-- Alphonso vaguely gestured at the wide expanse of the camp-- You were just lissenin' to the radio, nothin' much. Hell,yer a radio Man so yer technically doing yer job

Lucas erupts in loud laughter, not noticing his companion's face soften at the joy of his friend, Alphonso knew that in war the moments of happiness were few and far between, and he just wanted to try and return the kid to his parents without that Many scratches on him. -- hell, I reckon I was doing my job-- The young Man replied with a big grin-- but also, they were playing a cover of "Hound Dog" by Big Mama Thorton, I had to hear it. It had drums and I.. I guess I just miss playin' 'em

--'m sure you'll have plenty 'o time to play 'em when you get back home kid. Hell, we could even start a band with the rest of the team-- Wheeler answered patting his back.

--I hope so, I miss makin' music. Not radio worth it but..it's therapeutic I guess? -- Lucas added-- I really like the sound of them drums

--I gotcha-- Alphonso reassured-- making music Is fun. Oh hey- we're almost there, hope you don't have a fear of heights

Lucas' eyes filled with excitement-- Don't tell me we're going to fly on a helicopter!

--Yep. It'll drop us close to the objective, but we're still gonna have to walk two days to reach it-- the older Man answered.

--I honestly don't give a crap about walking, It's a freaking helicopter!

Alphonso chuckled at his friend's excitement,he was like a kid in a candy store.-- Alright alright, eager beaver c'mon

After the exciting ride in the helicopter, Alphonso's unit is dropped off. They tredge through thick forests and muddy ground, it had rained the day prior so there was still a mild smell of humidity in the air too. Lucas held on to his rifle just in case, but there was an odd Beauty in the forest. Kinda reminded him of home.

When the night settles in, the unit camps out, they get a small Fire going and some dinner cooked on a stove. Lucas fiddles with his dogtags, unsure of what to help with exactly. His eyes lost in the fire and the dancing flames. Above him the stars shimmer and the moon brings some much needed light to the area, cold air bites at his hands and face, the rest of his body kept warm thanks to his uniform.

--You alright in there kid?-- Alphonso asked patting his back-- ya seem..lost

--What? Oh uhm...'m fine, It's just I dunno what to help with

--Well, maybe ya can just sit here with me n' chat-- Wheeler proposed, he remembers all the jokes he heard about him getting soft over Lucas. The young Man reminded him too much of himself in his golden years, he couldnt help it. But also, he knew the horrors of war and much to his dismay the military ensnared yet another young soul to fight. 

He hoped that if any of them were to make it out alive,it would be Lucas. The boy had his whole life ahead of him, and Wheeler would see it done that the kid would go back home alive.

--Ya sure the other's wont mind?

--It's my damn unit I do what I want-- Alphonso joked, gaining a scoff from his younger companion-- say, ya got anyone waitin' for ya back home?

--My family-- Lucas answered-- n' my dog

--Thats cute. Any girlfriends,boyfriends or partners I need to know about?

Lucas smirked with a blush across his face, he scratched the back of his neck-- not really, haven't had much time to get to know other people, I was the nerd kid in highschool and with boot camp I barely had time to myself, and my drums were my priority. -- then, he processed the rest of his Friend's question-- and what do you mean by "I need to know about"? You plannin somethin'?-- he asked playfully.

--Gotta make a good first impression, y'know? -- Alphonso shrugged with a mischiveous smirk-- plus I want kids to tell my stories to

Lucas almost chokes on his own spit,eyes wide and his blush getting deeper. He looks at his friend and says-- n' ya wonder why people say yer like my dad?

He shrugged-- Guilty, it comes with age I'm afraid -- Wheeler handed him a canteen with water and kept talking-- you'd like to have some mini Lucases runnin' 'round some day?

The younger Man thought for a moment, taking a much needed sip of water. He hands  the canteen back to his Friend and answers-- no clue, I don't personally see the appeal on children but..Maybe It'll change with time, dunno. But I do wanna settle down

-- Watcha thinkin' your ideal Pickett fence life would be like?

--A house, somewhere nice like a lake or a forest-- Lucas started-- a spouse N' a buncha dogs, Good Friends-- he Gently pushed Alphonso-- maybe have my own little band that I get to play with on weekends, and a calm job...Maybe a ranger of some sorts?

Alphonso smiled, making space for another of his teammates to sit with them on the Log. Then he hands lucas the first Plate of their dinner and adds-- ya have it all figured out huh?

The younger Man chuckled under his breath-- not really, but It's a nice thought

Some hours later the unit gets ready to tuck in for the night. Lucas makes himself comfortable on his sleeping bag, turning his back to the Fire,hearing the footsteps of the teammates that were assigned to night watch. He sighs under his breath,missing the comfort of his bed and the weight of his dog against his back, the warm tasty meals and the days spent running around the neighboorhood with his Friends are now Fleeting memories.

--Hey kid?--Alphonso called out taking a Seat beside him, rifle in hand-- everythin' alright?

--Just missin' home-- he whispered back,closing his eyes. The warmth of the Fire soothing his aching bones.

--It'll be alright kid,youll go back home-- he promised, patting his arm-- rest now

--What about you?-- Lucas asked.

--I'll stay up for a little while, don't worry 'bout me-- Alphonso would never admit he was worried like a mother hen. He wanted to make sure the area was safe before he even thought about laying down, he was the captain of this unit for a reason.

Wheeler sees Lucas slowly succumb to sleep and sighs under his breath. "You'll get to go back home kid. I promise" he thought before returning his eyes to the forest around him, in high alert. The only thing soothing him being the shallow breaths and the Rise and fall of his teammates' chests.

[sightofsea]

Jumpscare anon! Its a random person asking for advice on a situation without a lot of context and also the situation is tense (hello its me u dont have to answer this I just like how u see people and community and would like some perspective)

Basically fucked love triangle with fucked dynamics because youre all friends like really good friends. Lets say person A is the common denominator that me and person B are into. You (I) love both these people though, and since you (I) dont distinguish between types of love you just kind of love them equally. But you and person A have an amount of chemistry (sexual chemistry btw) that is borderline destructive. Intoxicating. You spent 3 years in a relationship with someone else ignoring it which obviously only made it worse and now you're fresh out of a relationship and everytime you and person A accidently brush arms or whatever its like they are setting you on fire (this is mutual). Problem is person B really likes person A for romance reasons and theyre kinda together kinda not.

The answer is really simple. You know the chemistry is not going away (its been 5 years) and u know eventually youre going to break and even if u dont, its morally sketchy to spend time with someone just so u can sit in the same couch to smell each other or something, so you have to get some distance. But you live together for at least 6 more months. And also. Youve never felt this way with someone and need to know what kissing them would be like. But also. You cant be a dick to your friend B. But also You really really wanna do it.

Should I explode? Would that solve it?

Ok well. I wanna preface this by saying I've never been in a relationship for very long sooooo idk if I'm the person to talk to about this.

the way I see it, there's a few things I wanna discuss/go over here:

Let's talk about A's feelings for a second. The way you write they feel less like a person and more like an idea. You say you've got insane sexual chemistry--what is it that you want out of this? You wanna sleep with them, and that's it? Are they the type of person who sleeps with somebody and doesn't catch feelings? Do you want feelings? I'm all for sleeping with your friends, it's a lot of fun, but you gotta set some ground rules with the other person and consider what their whole deal is. And if it isn't compatible to your wants, then that's another thing to reckon with. Which brings me to my next point:

You say A and B are kinda together, kinda not. That sounds like they are together. And unless they're open/poly, that's going to be an issue here. If they are open/poly, then yeah I think maybe posing the question/sleeping with them is a good idea! Again, sleeping with friends is fun, relieving tension is good. But if they are in a monogamous relationship, or tend towards monogamy, and you feel like you're too turned on by this person to respect that boundary, then it might be good to just talk it out without the expectation of anything happening/grinning bearing and jacking your way through 6 months until you get some distance/find someone else you have chemistry with. They exist in a lot of places! Trust me, I've been in a similar situation to where you are now, and distance does wonders on helping you get over people.

the thing is that even though I've said everything up here, you do seem pretty set on telling them/fucking them. it's pretty obvious where you're leaning, but you feel about it. the thing is, I can't give you absolution over it. the other thing is, I don't actually know you or your friend group all that much. if you think confessing your attraction/fucking it out with this person is going to end up in a net positive, then yeah! go for it! if you're other friend hasn't made their move, then maybe it would be good to instigate something and it'll all work out! that would be amazing. to me, that doesn't sound to be the case, but again: I don't know you.

this is all to say: it looks like you need to talk out/clarify some things with your friends and what their relationship is before you make a move. boring answer, I know, maybe not the one you're looking for. don't explode, just talk it out.

[missbaphomet]

I think theres a big gap in understanding the definition of kink for a lot a people since I've seen wildly varying definitions thats led to a lot of confusion and of course, huge fights. To me, before I decided to look up the definition, kink was inherently sexual, and Im a kinky person, but also enjoy things that other people would consider a kink in a completely non-sexual way, and I would not define those things as a kink because they were non-sexual. I would say "Not in a kinky way" and would not include it in the context of kink. I defined kink as "sexual attraction to a particular act (or verb)" and fetish as "sexual attraction to a particular thing (or noun)" Now I've decided to research more into it because I was insanely confused by "kink isn't inherently sexual" and now I think I'm just extra confused? lol, theres so many different answers and definitions that I don't really know who to believe or what to think. I think this also has to do with things like cultural context, the way one was raised, the communities they are/were in. Like for example, I used to be pretty active in the agere community some time ago, but not so much anymore. I'm not into agere sexually in any way and I'll never be, it squicks me out to think about it in a sexual way, but I dont mind people who are into that way (or as I used to say, people into it as a kink), it's not really my business and I personally don't care, but as you may or may not know, a majority of the agere community did care. A LOT. there was a big separation between ddlg/abdl/ageplay (sexual) vs agere (non-sexual). I'm not sure how to best explain it but... if you were into something like that completely non-sexually, you wouldnt refer to it in the context of kink EVER. Like you wouldn't mention it if you were talking about or listing off your kinks, or you would say "in a non-kinky way", and there was a difference between "agere/petre kink" and "agere/petre" (or anything else you want to apply it to, like bondage and such) same with "ageplay/petplay" as "play" indicated it was sexual. I of course understand enjoying the non sexual aspects of kink and having non sexual feelings with kink but to me they were always tied to the sexual part (to me sexual doesn't necessarily mean having sex either, just sexual pleasure/gratification/feelings) and I just thought that was the norm? And for "kink" things I enjoyed non sexually (completely non sexually I mean, getting no sexual pleasure from it), I never defined those things as kink or being kinky, and I probably wont either (out of personal preference really). I think I can see like, enjoying aspects of kink separately from sexual stuff if you enjoy it sexually? I'm not entirely sure how to word it, like being into petplay but enjoying wearing a collar non sexually because it makes you feel safe (or you just like wearing it) even if sometimes you enjoy wearing it sexually?? If that makes sense?? Or that part being completely non sexual despite being attached to the kink part? Or how some people enjoy kink completely non sexually because coping/pain management/etc? But I would've defined those by their terms outside of the context of kink or without the word kink, or define it as what it is done for. I'm not sure, it's so different and there's so many definitions and stuff it's kind of making my head spin. I hope this is at least somewhat intelligible, I just wanted to explain what the definition was to me for the longest time and where I got that definition from, and maybe help understand where the confusion is coming from?

Oh boy I juuuuust woke up so do forgive me if I'm not perfectly coherent right now.

You're right. That is exactly the issue, and I think it's because people don't actually talk to kinksters to get their definition. I'm probably not putting this the best because I am mega sleepy-brained right now but the dictionary definition is devoid of context and nuance and lacks any sentiment of the deep emotions that lie at it's core. BDSM isn't beating someone up to cum, it's two consenting adults in a mutually agreed upon situation where one (the submissive) wants and receives the action of the scene and the other (the dominant) wants to provide and gives these sensations to their submissive. What these sensations are and if they're sexual or not can vary wildly from individual to individual. The dictionary doesn't care for that level of nuance. I have a redefinition somewhere on my blog that is more mindful but it would be an archeological dig to find it among 20,000+ posts.

I used to be on agere too and I was pretty controversial back then as well. I was most active between 2016-2017 but I didn't find myself fitting in with the community even then because I have always been an age player, not an age regressor, and age play isn't sexual for me. I say this to illustrate that there is a difference between an age player and an age regressor. I think the terms get erroneously used as synonyms but they're two different mental states. Same with pet play and pet regression. I can only explain my own mindset and experience but age regression is called this because it's a regression, the way you think actually literally changes. I was never able to get there, I always felt like I was just putting on a mask. Age play, however, doesn't imply true mental regression. I don't mentally age down, but I act in a way that would be considered younger. It's the difference between mind and body. Or at least that's how I see it. Other people may have different definitions but I can only speak for me rn.

You can be both a regressor and an age player, and that's perfectly fine, but that's why the distinction between regression and play matters so much as well as also being why the two are used as synonyms. Same for pet regression/play etc. Both are extremely therapeutic in many of the same ways but it's understandable why some people don't want sex during.

My primary point is that BDSM is different for every person in it. Some people are exclusively sexual, some people aren't sexual at all, and then you have most of the community where we have a mix of sexual and nonsexual kinks. Unfortunately I don't think the misleading definition is likely to change, not unless the same work is put into understanding kink in the same way that we are working to understand being LGBT. You can't wrap up kink in a nice little bow of "this is always only ever sexual" and call it a day.

I'm sure I'll touch on this a bit more tomorrow when I get a chance to write my thoughts on headspaces but I need to get back to bed.

[shit-talk-turner]

So basically, I've been reading this comments for a while and I can't really feel more sorry for you guys that actually take this amount of time for stalking everyone related to Alex in ig and then coming here to shit on them. All you say is just based on your own theories that are a much of a fantasy, and one of the things that amazes me the most is the fact that you hate almost every single one of Alex's loved ones, and by that I mean Louise, honestly after reading many of your posts about her, I have the conclusion that you are never satisfied, you basically hate her, yet take the time to see everything she posts and take it out of context just to have something bad to say about her and her relationship with Al, you claim that she is a bad person just because of some posts that she liked in the past that actually she apologised for, we all make mistakes and I think she probably changed her mindset (all of his friends like her so isn't that a good sign that they all get along?), you also claim that she has no personality and is always copying Alexa just for pleasing Alex, which is something stupid considering the fact that Alex has a type and ALL of the girls he's dated look alike, and in adittion the similarities in Alexa and Louise's style are because they are both into Jane Birkin and let me tell you that their styles have some diferences, she's french and she's said that Jane's songs remind her of her mom because the used to listen to her while she was growing up, and btw almost everyone in Alex's close people are into Jane and Serge Gainsbourg related stuff, so does this mean that they are also coying Alexa? And don't you think that after more than 11 years Alex has not gotten over Alexa and he's just looking for someone like her? I mean that is the most stupid thing someone has ever said. You say that Alex doesn't love her because there are not so much pictures of them together, but have you ever thought that it can be because Alex has learned about being more private in his relationships as a way to protect himself and his life? If she was a fan before dating him, then the reason why you hate her so much is just jealousy because she did something you haven't done, (I mean doesn't everyone in the fandom like Alex and at some point think about dating him?) That said, you're telling me that if you had been in her position wouldn't you do the same? I mean if you had the chance to flirt with Alex Turner you wouldn't do it? Come on. I also see that you think all she does is to brag about dating him but she doesn't really posts him, just recently she just shared two pictures with him and she doesn't seem to be hanging out with the people that were posting pictures of both of them back in 2018. We dont really know what happened between Taylor and Alex's relationship and everything we 'know' is just speculation, so we can't really tell if Louise really had something to do with their split, because when you really love someone and you care about your relationship you dont just cheat on them and leave them for someone else, which actually makes me think that there was something wrong with their relationship even before it ended. In conclusion, it's been almost five years and this is his longest relationship to date, if we were still in 2018 I would understand people talking shit about her, but at this point we should all get over it, you guys are just people hiding behind a screen, fake fans, thinking that you have the right to say what and who is good for Alex just like if you knew him, and always asuming that 'he's afraid of being lonely', when he is completely and adult and free to make his own decisions. So if all you're gonna be is a hater talking shit about people you don't know and don't know you, you should get a life and stop calling yourself a fan.

honestly, this was so long and winded that we couldn’t even read the whole thing without losing focus. We’re glad you feel so deeply about us that you had to write a novel, but we think you should spend less time here if you feel this way. Or maybe less time on the internet in general. Take a deep breath. It’s all going to be okay.