#i dont even hold grudges i like forgiving

[halcome]

Oh gods I didn't even realize it was Saturday, new Wild Life ep let's go!!! Wooo!!!

(reacting as I watch below)

Gonna do my heart a favor and just edit this post as I watch, seems to be a calm session but with the speed mechanics its only a matter of time before I see someone run off a cliff. Still recovering from the snails, small morsels of content are a must.

Grian's Wild Life Ep. 4

Grian and Mumbo doing their best to help Skizz murder is a delight as always, but I feel like their plans always seem to benefit them in the end and not Skizz.

Already terrified of the minecart cannon Grian made and I dont think theyre fast enough yet to launch it far.

Made some breakfast, some scrambled eggs with peppers and a side of, OMG SCAR

I probs should've guessed he'd immediately put a tnt minecart down to test it but everyone was so close by, gave me a lil scare. Also does Mumbo not have self preservation instincts? Cause everyone backed up but he kept staring at it, barely inching away. Guessing his redstone and curiosity instincts were stronger than his need to stay yellow.

Grian: Mumbo, is the moon fast?

Omg he said the line!

If I remember correctly speed + tnt minecart = more power, Grian holding up a shield was a good effort but dear lord that was quite the death.

Genuinely, what on earth just happened?

Mumbo died the most Looney Toon death I've ever seen, running for water and turned to ash. Scar was an absolute menace too, shooting Grian off that ledge was a very Hot Guy move. I wonder if he'll make it to the very end? I know Grian's targeting Scar now but something tells me he's gonna survive by sheer dumb luck.

SmallishBeans' Wild Life Ep. 4

Cool guys don't look at explosions! Something, something, TNT takes 4 seconds to explode. Timings are demolished.

8:00 Joel on his ballerina arc.

Took a break to finish homework, came back to Jimmy trying to take a chunk out of Joel's "somewhere" ??? Usual shenanigans it seems.

Seen Skizz frolicking in the sunflowers twice now from 2 different viewpoints, he's really enjoying his time on a death game server, proud of em.

Absolutely loving how proud everyone is of Mumbo getting a kill, always nice to see the little reminders that even though this is a death game of bloodshed and betrayal they're still friends in the end. Though I have seen clips of Bdubs holding grudges, so while everyone is friend shaped, they are not forgive and forget shaped.

[schizononagesimus]

i was never one of those "succeed because they wanna see u fail" ppl bc it didnt feel like anyone wanted me to fail... everyone was just indifferent to my success (which was weird in its own way). but strangely, ive just realized that right now im actually facing a group of people who... do? want to see me fail? and that's actually bizarre. like why do you want me to not get this phd so bad. everybody keeps acting like and actually TELLING me that i need to fail, like that's gonna teach me something? and they keep telling me that im gonna have to learn eventually that i cant get everything i want? actually, fuck you guys, i think i totally can get what i want. NOW im gonna do this shit out of spite, and actually i wonder if i'll end up holding some weird grudge against the people who actively told me i need to learn some sort of lesson :)

[ender1821]

im a child of divorce

[wickedwitchofthesouth]

Crying over the way Cas was making an apology care package for Dean with all his favourite things complete with burgers, his favourite toilet paper and even that busty Asians magazine that he can't get enough of

He even almost beat up a cashier for deans favourite pie ALL BECAUSE HE WANTED TO APOLOGISE

He walked into that store with no knowledge of human material possessions but the things he's seen around Dean. He may not be the best at talking but he's observant and he knows exactly what makes Dean tick , what he likes and what he loves.

The acts of service, the gift giving ALL THAT TO SAY SORRY

I'm done I AM DONE NO ONE SPEAK TO ME

[sentimentalslut]

So I've hit a bit of a dead end in my life where I have no idea what to do or what I want to do. Do you have any advice on how to try and figure it all out?

Also I love ur duncney fics you should be an author <3

listen, anon. i'm 26. as much as i am flattered that you think i have it figured out, i do not. i'm willing to bet i wont have it figured out in ten years or twenty or forty-five. the thing is, i'm fine with that.

so here's my advice:

honestly, just keep living. put one foot in front of the other. find things you enjoy for no other purpose than enjoyment.

you don't have to 'do' anything -- living is about experiences. not every one of them have to have a purpose.

most of being human is drifting around and wondering why youre here. none of us really have the answer. that's okay. that's normal. maybe you'll never figure out what you're meant to 'do'. and that's fine!

the thing that keeps me anchored in the sea of Being Alive All the Time, and the thing that keeps most people anchored, is passion.

step one of discovering your passion, whatever it is, is to allow yourself to discover it. pick up pointless new hobbies and let yourself put them down if you dont enjoy them. read new books. read wikipedia articles for things youve never heard of. go on long walks in new parts of your neighborhood. listen to a new podcast. watch a video essay about something stupid youve always been curious about.

make bad art. paint shitty pictures, draw shitty portraits, write shitty stories. let yourself be bad at things. let yourself be purposeless.

accept the fact that you are human and unsure about your place in the universe -- because those two things go hand in hand. this is the curse of sentience. embrace it.

[robotpussy]

love it when people say "well i think even if you were racist i think its a win that you were racist only for a while and we should all give people like this grace regardless of the trauma and hurt and pain they may have caused during that "phase" even though most people do not have phases where they are violent racists and the groups these people affect during these "phases" have to forgive them because at least they aren't racist anymore!"

"#idk i think everyone should be allowed to have room to grow

#if it was just a phase i'd say that's a win

#you cant always control your environment or how you were grown up

#but if you've changed i'd say thats a slay"

um.................

[ghashtly]

coming to terms with the fact that i am not a forgiving person ❤️

[danibeanie]

Cancer mars post 🤍

(Also moon-mars aspects!)

-I really feel like this placement resonates the most with me when it comes to my natal chart. The funny thing is that it makes NO aspects with any other planets.

-I’ve heard somewhere that a planet that doesn’t make any aspects with other planets is important because it’s just itself with no other influences.

-wherever you have this placement with definitely influence that house x10. I feel like planets in their fall or detriment just impact your whole chart in general.

Positives 🩵

-your intuition is literally amped 100 by this placement. someone can be talking to me in a different tone than usual and I can just sense there’s something wrong and they’re like HOW DID U KNOW??😭

-emotions are strong and it’s because it’s influence links with the moon. we know that the moon is who we are deep within, our hidden feelings. anything I do makes me want to work even HARDER because it’s all sooo personal to me 🥲

-strong empathy with this placement you naturally put yourself into others people shoes, want to take care of others and it just comes by instinct.

-people many call you super nice and your just talking LMAO. I have this placement in my 3rd house which is ruled by communication so it’s just natural for me to embody the placement when I’m talk.

-ex you can have this in the 7th house and your just super giving into any relationships kinda intense lol, 10th house people at work may see you as mother😋 (kidding) a nurturing person.

-a lot of passion, many people forget that cancer mars is a CARDINAL sign which means it’s easy for these people to fall into a leader position. we are go getters and can be a bit competitive.

Negatives🩶

-any conflict that we have is literally the end of the world. It’s feels like impending doom when I’m mad at someone because the only way I can control this is by crying 😭

- we hold grudges *sigh* , no but really it will take me so long to forgive someone and it’s hard to let go of that bitterness. Its just that we are so considerate so when someone does something we would never do it’s hard to let go of that situation.

-mood swings are there and other people can easily get affected by this as well. we can be fine and dandy then we think about something that hurt us from 5 months ago and then we get passive.

^im very self aware of this and I try not to let it happen and when it does I isolate myself

-most of our anger is directed towards family???😭 idk if it’s just me but my family tends to see the ugly side of this placement. no one’s ever seen me SUPER-mad except for my parents.

-does anyone else get HORRIBLE,UNBEARABLE periods?!? I feel like no one talks about this.

-AVOID CONFRONTATION like no other and then we wonder why we hold grudges cause WE DONT TALK IT OUT LMAO.

-it’s easy to get drained of tasks that your not emotionally invested in or see no future in. I can make a whole rant on how this affects my school life but that’s too much.*sigh*

Influential musicians 🩵

chester bennington(lead singer of linkin park) also had a cancer mars.(may he rest in peace🤍) A lot of rock and heavy metal musicians have cancer mars which is ironic because they put all that passion and emotion into their lyrics and singing.

-lana del rey is a cancer mars and I feel like she embodies this placement fully. even by her lyrics and just the way she talks.

IN CONCLUSION 🩵

-being a cancer mars has its ups and down and so many people pertain to its negatives. I believe that people with the fallen/detriment placements all naturally have their positives as well. it’s definitely a placement you have to live and learn by. I love this placement because it humbles me, gives me empathy and kindness ,but don’t cross us cause then we’ll reciprocate that rudeness 10x harder.

[lifeonmarz-blog]

Jupiter through the houses Pt. 2

Jupiter in the 7th- Slow Downnnn. Ya might be extreme in your behavior and very hardheaded. These people love bragging and that attracts alot of people that want to take from them but even if they not bragging the way they carry themselves makes people jealous. You could have no more than the next person but for some reason people think you do. They can have alot of secret enemies. Hella self centered lol. Very territorial, kinda reminds me of a taurus stubborn forsure but will defend their loved ones to the death. Only they can bully the people they love, dont let you try it. They may also feel like they have a point to prove or have to put in extra work to be treated the same.

Jupiter in the 8th- They want a big family and want to do it differently then how they were raised. They hold grudges really bad and need to learn how to forgive people and move on. These type of people can be completely different from their parents. Learning from their mistakes and choosing to do better for their own kids. This definitely isn't a easy one but the patience and perseverance that is learned here is truly admirable.

Jupiter in the 9th- These people know how to blend in where they need to. When it comes to making difficult decisions they procrastinate real bad. Their more cerebral and not as conscious to how their actions effect other people. Practicing being more in your body and not in your head so much would really do them well. They ignore their own feelings alot. Super prone to burnout its like they punish themselves with stress.

Jupiter in the 10th- Public figures vibes foresureee. i bet you wanna be famous. Yall love the spotlight and survive off adoration. You hate feeling misunderstood and will clarify something in a heartbeat. Money hungry forsure and might have a hard time being grateful because you feel such a responsibility on your shoulders like you never have enough. You either put people in position to receive more materially or someone has put you in position to receive more but its probably both. Be cautious not to use people for what they can offer you. A lot of times you feel like you receive no real benefit from the hard work you do.

Jupiter in the 11th- With this placement its like people want you to prove yourself all the time. They wanna see you work hard before they'll help you but once people feel like you've ''proved'' yourself you waste no time and have your foot in every door. You gotta learn how to chill out and not be so defensive you dont have to be so impulsive and defend everything you say or feel. At times you can feel like you have no control over your life and and everything bad happens to you.

Jupiter in the 12th- You may have felt like you had overbearing or very demanding parents. Like a part of childhood was taken away from you. You give yourself unrealistic expectations then beat yourself up if you dont accomplish them. Things could be going downhill for a while before something extreme has to happen for you to acknowledge it. Im not gonna lie this placement is a lil sad because of how critical you are of yourself. You dont have to deal with everything on your own. Talk to people, reach out when you need help.

-luv of marz

[nafohcnis]

omg yeah YEAH you’re so right sometimes i REALLY think about how jd didn’t even remember the perfect family harmony EXISTED at first. until FLOYD reminded him

and then he fell into old habits of perfectionism bc well. they had to be Perfect . Floyd’s Fuckin Life Was On The Line . holding a grudge for 20+ years is a lil wild from bruce & clay LMAO i like the interpretations where they’ve slowly started to forgive him over the years but the shock of his arrival/immediately talking abt the perfect family harmony made all the hurt feelings come rushing back

the family fight scene where jd sarcastically asked if branch thought they were going to be a happy family is sooo. like he’s seen how his brothers are reacting to him and pretty much thinks. huh they dont want me around okay fine….. ill save floyd and then repress any feelings i have about this for another 20 years.. but manages to stumble straight into branch’s insecurities and cause him to get angry back

i thinks about him a lot yeah.

YESS YESS YOU GET IT… MAN!!!’ ugh the last thing.. ITS SO MESSED UP IM GONNA PUNCH A WALL!! man u really cover eveyrthing in this im gonna explode for reals. ESspecially with how ENTHUSIASTIC he greets everyone and then they completely disregard him like 'FUCK you john dory' so he's like umm ok bye then </3 and it backfires AGAIN ugh i dont wanna just repeat what u already said but.. UGH!!!

rush drawing cuz man i i need them dead.

[froglover7789]

You. You get it. I've seen so many fics where Boba and Luke are always at each others throats for some reason even though Luke isn't the type to hold on to a grudge when he knows that Boba was just doing his job. Boba hates Jedi on principle but he'd genuinely like Luke as a person once he gets to know him. I think Boba can be petty but he's matured enough after that sarlacc incident to actually get along with Luke despite his hatred for the Jedi.

I like to think that Boba would ask Luke for advice on how to be a better daimyou since Luke has lived on Tatooine for most of his life and Luke would happily help Boba to better the lives of the people. Luke's a great judge of character and very forgiving despite whatever wrong was done to him.

thankyou anon🙏🙏🙏

ive also seen those fics and they make me booty scratch... like. luke forgave vader (committed genocide multiple times) but yall dont think he could forgive boba fett???? all bro did was his job! like!!! lets be real with ourselves here.

also the daimyo thing is something i hadnt thought about... that could be so cool... and also probs give boba more street cred bc "holy shit hes friends with Last Jedi and Savior of the Galaxy Luke Skywalker" and that would also make the new republic trust him enough to let him do his thing on tatooine... hmmm.... much to think about.....

[cutely-inserts-my-opinion]

Everytime I see posts on Nexus(defending him) I wonder how tf old moon is never once held accountable for shit??? Bro was so abusive and terrible, did so much questionable shit and somehow no one bats an eye. Nexus aside, how is old moon let off the hook in general even without taking nexus' arc into account? I never understood it either as much as we like old moon he's a piece of shit no matter what angle you look at him from. He just comes back all willy nilly "Oh hey guys I promise to not be abusive. Oh sun sorry for emotionally abusing you for the entire run of the show before I died you can make passive aggressive comments at me and I get if you don't wanna forgive me😊" Him and OG eclipse had way too many abusive parallels

listen listen, the show has villainzed Nexus and babygirled Old Moon so much im pretty sure some people don't care. There's a lot of people that just take this show surface level and don't care to delve deeper into the characters motivations and actions-

But you a very right. Personally, I dont think old moon can be a good brother till he lets go of all the hate he has and just- chills the fuck out. I know he's supposed to be the protective brother but I dont give a shit. He can't be good till he lets go of all he hate he has to Eclispe eccpecially, and stops being biased. Behehshsbd he needs to learn to just- care a bit more. Not exactly be empathetic, just- even if its a logical sort of care, still care, yknow? Idk sorry im yapping. Tho this is my blog thats kind of the point of it

Chat, Nexus deserves to have a redemption arc and so does Old Moon (despite the fact I say hedoesn't, he does, i just hold a grudge) and they need to be brothers and besties and work through trauma idc /silly

Anyway, yeah, totally agree anon

[howlonomy]

As much as they hate Alphys

She DID try to help

I mean, to be her advocate

The DT Experiment did work for a moment (still risky tho, not denying that)

But the instant regret of making the Amalgams was too much to handle

I mean, if you were in her situation, what WOULD you say to the ones who donated? What COULD you say?

"So I brought back your loved ones but they melted together"

(Still stupid of her to hide it but still, when you got high expectations, you can fall far and hard when you fail)

So uhh

Sorry for the rant but

Will they EVER forgive Alphys?

she did try to help but also… her cowardice and inability to own up to her own mistakes resulted in family members being separated and in the dark, and monsters wandering an old dark lab area for years and forever changing their psyche…. she tried but she hurt so many people in the end that can never be reversed

all she had to do was be like “i may have celebrated too early, heres exactly what happened to your family, you can still come see them if you want” bc like… their family still would’ve loved them probably and they deserved to know no matter what happened. doctors send premature hopeful messages to patient’s families all the time, alphys just wasnt strong enough to own up to that

in terms of the uty cast, i dont think ceroba will ever forgive her; ceroba is already EXTREMELY tentative with letting her look at kanako and clover under intense supervision, but like. she is Not letting her kids be with alphys again, even if she knows alphys wont do anything again. she also just tends to hold grudges in general LMAO. kanako just hates what alphys did to her, and as a kid i think she hates her, but i think as she grows up she realizes that. alphys did the best she could and tried to give kanako a good life in the labs. still bitter and resentful bc there was no need to keep her there, but accepting that alphys did try her best to take care of them and had good intentions going in. she wasnt expecting anything that happened TO happen. i thunk kanako would forgive, but never forget the torment she was put through due to alphys

[rippedpatches]

general headcanons for your favorite teen and adult ship . ASAP

i don’t have any favorite adult ships ONLY because the main person in half of these ships has kicked the bucket.. I do have many favorite teen ships thought but i’m only going to write for 2 because 1 i’m lazy and 2 erm i’m lazy.

I DID START THIS AT 4AM SO FORGIVE IF SOMETHINGS ARE MESSY OR JUST GENERALLY DONT MAKE SENSE IM NOT PROOFREADING.

LOTTIESHAUNA HCS

precrash

- friends to lovers asf

- shauna knowing lottie’s emotions like the back of her hand

- they definitely have annual movie nights when shauna isn’t following jackie around like a lost puppy. lottie has to go over the top, getting shauna’s favorite snacks getting her her own blanket (that happens to be plaid like her flannels) and ofc picking movies she knows shauna liked and or wants to see.

- i feel like shauna would steal out of lottie’s locker borrowing a notebook or something and then returning it with scribbles all over it from her nervous ass in class not paying attention. lottie doesn’t mind it it’s normal.

- lottie offers to buy shauna simple things like a new flannel she sees or maybe even something for her room to (brighten it up) ending in shauna ALWAYS declines saying she can pay for it herself. in the end lottie gets it anyways

- lottie wearing shauna’s varsity jacket. dare i say more.

postcrash

- despite jackie being the first one to comfort shauna, lottie was one of the firsts running to her aid to make sure she was okay checking for wounds etc. (she’s also the same precrash but will obviously laugh at first seeing shauna trip over her own feet)

- after the first few nights shauna would be there for lottie knowing somethings up trying to comfort her to the best of her abilities.

- this is canon at this point, lottie is the father that stepped up. lottie would be there constantly for shauna making sure she’s okay making sure the baby is okay. shauna is a little skeptical at first knowing everyone and their mom is crazy as fuck but TRIES to trusts lottie after knowing she defended her for the whole jackie fiasco.

- after they got rescued shauna would stay by lottie’s side knowing how skeptical and vulnerable she is.

JACKIENAT HCS

precrash

- enemies/friends/lovers

- annoyance at first glance duh

- jackie so laughed at nat on the field, seeing her fuck off in the corner trying to skip practice. she so so so probably accidentally started a rumor on accident about nat and felt so genuinely bad about it. jackie eventually tells nat after they become friends and nat holds a grudge for a week before jackie bring her a pack of cigarettes and she’s happy again.

- knowing both smoke they probably shared a cigarette and or a blunt at least once. jackie is more of a nonchalant smoker and we all know nat is a stoner. (ahem cue red wine supernova)

- as they were becoming friends slowly laughing at the same jokes and or talking shit they so started to like each others company. jackie can be mean but she has such a genuine personality and kind heart like nat feels safe around her.

- the first time they hung out outside of school nat felt so awkward about quickly shutting jackie down after jackie wanted to see her house making up an excuse while hiding underlying hints that her home life is shit. the end up at jackie’s house nat feeling so out of place.

- anytime someone comments on the rumors about nat jackie is quick to defend her.

- nat showing up at jackie’s house after a fight with her parents sneaking in through jackie’s window to just plop in her bed and drag on a LONG sigh.

- jackie isn’t pushy when it comes to nats emotions of course wanting to know how she feels but knows how nat feels about certain topics. she doesn’t want to dig at nats feelings she wants it to flow naturally.

- when nat finally opens up jackie is there a little overwhelmed but consoles nat none the less and then after nat is calmed down she’s like “that was.. a lot” and nat calls her a dick and then they laugh about it.

- nat definitely got jackie high before jackie being out of it high as FUCK and nat is trying to keep her from having a bad trip feeling terrible but also sneaking a laugh in.

- if jackie ended up having a bad trip nat stayed by her side reassuring her constantly that she wasn’t like going to die or anything.

- if it’s a good trip they end up laying on jackie’s bed buzzed tf out just chilling.

- THEM SHOTGUNNING A SMOKE OR SM DJC JEJDMEMSKWJDUBXHEJA sorry.

postcrash

- jackie would want to hunt with her so nat would help jackie with the gun, standing behind her so her little ass doesn’t fly backwards 💀

- they would leave travis behind to go hunting together

- idk i lost motivation

[henrenologist]

so because i rewatched s3/4 recently, when Hen is struggling with having to give Nia back to her mother, she says "we were supposed to have her for 2 months it's been a year" so i think it's not that they weren't told that Nia would go back to her biological mother, but they got attached to her (obviously 🥺) and maybe because she stayed with them for so long they assumed her mother wouldn't want her back or couldn't have her back? tbh it's still a bit.. that whole thing with Hen Refusing to give the child back. and picking a fight with Karen about it. always annoys me. it's the Angst and Drama show tho, so it's like of course there's gonna be Angst and Drama lmao

for one thing, yeah the bond she'd formed with nia made her irrational and angry when the time came to give her back, especially after she and karen had built themselves up with the expectation that they'd become a permanent placement for nia (although im not entirely sure where they got that idea from, beside the length of time they'd had her; the foster agency in 911verse is a nightmare at communication, evidently).

i think the extent of her frustrations can also be explained by hen's issues with loyalty. she's loyal to a fault. sorry im gonna use this ask as an excuse for meta posting:

eva. she didnt get closure when eva was arrested. so even after building a life with karen, hen still felt indebted to her ("i feel like i owe it to her," she says, ostensibly because eva "didn't fight us when we wanted to adopt denny" [ignoring the canon discrepancy regarding the circumstances of denny's adoption] but there's a deeper commitment there to eva). she wants to see the best in eva, and after having committed herself to helping eva for so long, i think that explains why she was still loyal to eva--one of the factors that contributed to her cheating.

chim. "You get to forgive and move on--I get to hold a grudge until I die." so we're all aware of how loyal hen is to chim, but it's important to note when that loyalty got in the way of their relationship. toward the end of s6, hen's frustration with maddie and doubts about chim's proposal was, imo, a little forced on the writers (in being shoehorned conflict) but not baseless. her loyalty is to chim first and foremost, and that loyalty twisted into an unfounded frustration with maddie for perceived "wrongs"--especially as hen was watching chim squirm over the issue of proposing himself.

s7 drunk driver. hen was angry with the rest of the team when they didn't lay down their unconditional trust in her judgement of the drunk driver. logically, hen might recognize that as professionals, it's right for them to have (1) a healthy amount of skepticism and (2) base their judgement on what they have seen for themselves. they hadn't seen and smelled what hen had, but understood that emotions were running high, and thus approached hen's situation with sympathy and measured trust in her assessment. but hen is upset regardless. she says, feeling that they dont have her back, "if the roles were reversed, I'd find a way to have your backs, and I wouldn't have to lie to do it." she's projecting her sense of loyalty onto the team, frustrated that they're not as apparently unconditionally devoted.

so. nia. hen developed an unconditional love for nia in that time that, naturally, translated to undying loyalty. but as demonstrated, her degree of loyalty can translate into misguided skepticism--and harm, at worst.

and hen's listening to nia "damn near crying her eyes out" over it all. nia's cries are haunting her. she's misguided trying to fight the source of nia's pain (and her own pain). she's seeing this whole situation as a threat to nia's well-being and identifying points of harm where there aren't necessarily any.

she's gravely concerned over what nia's mother did to lose custody in the first place, mistrustful of the positive judgement that deidra's giving them, mistrustful of the agency's assurances that nia will be cared for, and wanting to see the proof for herself that evangeline can care for nia.

it's only after seeing evangeline for herself, with assurances from karen on her capacity to care for nia, that hen can let go of her frustrations with evangeline, deidra, and karen. (just like how after talking to maddie she let go of her hesitancy around chim proposing. just like how seeing the team show up for her with the cruise ship disaster let her stop questioning their loyalty)

i'm not personally annoyed or frustrated with hen in the nia situation. i can't imagine never knowing the fate of your once-daughter and i'm not surprised hen wants to see the proof for herself. i think her desire to fight for nia was an expression of grief more than anything. her loyalty, maternity, and grief are all activated as opposed to the logic we usually see hen depend on.

it's like the call where hen continued cpr on a mother for 12 minutes. her devotion inhibits her from letting go. which was a lucky thing for that mother, but it's not always such a blessing for the people in hen's life.

[gale-gentlepenguin]

Gale Talks: Apologies and Forgiveness

I feel sorrow for what society has done with the concept of forgiveness. By basically removing it.

And I Despise what it has done to the concept of apologizing.

Look at social media, Apology videos are a genre of video at this point.

But the problem really comes down to two things.

1. People getting called out for old stuff that most people have already apologized for, jokes/ comments that were acceptable for the time, or just because someone had a differing opinion than the consensus. Nothing actually morally reprehensible.

2. People that DO/ have done awful stuff that should be called out dont appologize, do a fake/pseudo apology that is more “I’m sorry I got caught/ the mob is mad” instead of being genuine, OR the people in charge try to cover for the people that do because corruption.

What an apology is, it’s a person saying “Hey, I did something that was wrong, I realize I wronged you, I want you to know I acknowledge I wronged you, and I want your forgiveness in exchange for doing my best to never hurt you like that again.”

It’s an act of humility where you elevate the other person that you have wronged. When done right, it can help mend bridges. Now will those that genuinely apologize always be forgiven? Not always, it depends. Should people still apologize even if they aren’t forgiven? 100%. It is the bare minimum.

As for forgiveness, Forgiveness is something more people need to embrace. Holding a grudge, being continuously hung up on what someone did, holding that resentment. It does nothing for you but makes you miserable. Like drinking poison hoping the person you are angry at dies. This does not mean you aren’t allowed to be angry/hurt/ or sad. You need to address those feelings. You must first forgive yourself, and whether you tell the person that hurt you or not, you must forgive them.

Forgiveness is just as much for you as it is for those that wronged you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you let the people back into your life. That is reconciliation, that is something you decide to pursue mutually with another person.

Now to those reading this, that have gone through traumatic experiences. You ask, “How can I forgive X for what they have done?”

Maybe you can’t. But God can.

Forgiveness is Spiritual in nature. Even if our capacity for forgiveness is limited. The well of forgiveness God gives is infinite. It will not be easy, but to forgive it also takes humility just as apologizing does.

Now if you dont believe in God, then this aspect becomes a lot harder. I would even say impossible in some cases. But that is really a call you as a person have to make.

We’ve all messed up at some point, and we all need to address our mistakes and ask for forgiveness for those times, intentional or not. We need forgiveness to be better people. We need to let people who are genuinely sorry and want to be better feel they can try and do so. We need compassion, mercy, empathy and sympathy. We need a world where Forgiveness can be an option. We also need to forgive ourselves, Forgive yourself and then forgive others.