#i do not relate to like. 80% of the adhd experience

[casual-eumetazoa]

i feel like my brain was made for surviving a zombie apocalypse, not for existing in the current world (even with all the bullshit constantly going on)

every two months or so i learn the exact same lesson, which is that if something doesn’t have a deadline, it will not get done, ever. and this applies to things i want to do purely for myself, because i enjoy them. if i won’t set a deadline, i will never ‘feel like it’

on the other hand, setting a deadline gives me immense anxiety that makes me feel like i am running away from a wolf 24/7. it is a tremendous (and only effective) motivator to get shit done, but it also pumps metric tonnes of adrenaline and cortisol into my blood that i can only get off by working frantically in a hyperfocus or going on a 10km walk. 

so the only two states i exist in are sluggish apathy and frenzied activity. no inbetween. which is not at all how i want to live my life. i want something other than spending a whole day bored and unsettled and only being able to play video games or scroll my phone - or physically shaking over a to-do list that i crammed to the brim on purpose in hopes i will get at least something done

in conclusion, i want a return on this brain. it’s a much higher difficulty setting than i was promised

[moss-ridden-owl-creature]

Introduction Post :DD

I don’t know exactly how to do this but I’m doing it anyways!

‼️BEFORE THE INTRO: please do not ask me for donations. I am a minor and cannot donate, and I will not put your posts on my blog. I do feel sympathy but I simply can not donate. Do not send donation asks as hospitals and severe injuries often shown are VERY triggering for me and can send me into panic attacks.‼️

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Name: Call me N, Mike, Percy, Owl or Halskë :) (generally don’t care)

Age: 15+ (I’m a minor)

Gender: Non-binary (pronouns: any except for neos)

Orientation: biromantic & Demisexual :)

Religion: Hellenistic & Nordic pagan (Greek & Norse deities. Probably won’t post often about this stuff but I do reblog things relating to it) (No, I am not interested in converting, don’t try it. Believe me, the Mormons at my school have tried.)

I’ll post my art once in while! Nothing on my blog in terms of interests is set in stone, but you will often see art from fandoms I’m in, or of my ocs/fursonas!

theriotype: Tundra wolf! (Spiritual) hearttype: border collie! (Spiritual)

kintypes: Cryptidkin, dragonkin, crowkin! (These are either spiritual or/and emotional.)

Serial Designation N (MD) & Micheal Afton (FNaF) fictionkin! :D

‼️‼️IMPORTANT‼️‼️ I am overall chill with SD-N doubles! But please know, Micheal doubles (especially if you mention it in a kind of trying to be friends/moots with me sort of way), I AM WARY. I generally don’t wish to interact with Mike doubles as it makes me mildly uncomfortable. I will not engage in DMs, questions, ETC. with you. I’m sorry! (This is specifically for Micheal Afton doubles.)

Some form of relation/connection to the FNaF franchise besides a kintype. Potential hearthome or idk maybe I’m just sad about my family lmao (damn. There’s a sentence I never thought I’d say in regards to the Aftons.)

THIS IS NOT A ROLEPLAY BLOG. THIS IS PURELY MY THOUGHTS AND DUMB SHIT. THAT WILL INCLUDE MY FICTIONKIN EXPERIENCES.

Fandoms: Grishaverse, Riordanverse, The MCU, Good Omens, The Folk of The Air, Murder Drones, FNaF, The Dream SMP (yes, I know some of the CCs are bad people, I supported very few of them. Tommy, Ranboo, Tubbo, Phil, and Techno were the only ones I actively watched outside of lore streams. This was a hyperfixation of mine and I am still very willing to talk about it because suddenly it’s been revived on Tumblr and now my page is full of C!Clingy duo. Please talk to be about it, I loved it and still do.) The Lunar Chronicles, The Hunger Games, The Song of Achilles, EPIC: The Musical, Aru Shah, Hamilton (technically), Warriors, Avatar: TLA, Iron Widow, The Furry fandom, and many others! (These are in no specific order)

I’m a batshit insane Kaz Brekker simp lol :)

Other things: I’m a furry (my fursona is named Halskë! I will post about these things.) I am diagnosed with ADHD, Slytherin, Cabin 7 (Apollo), I’m a fan of bones and taxidermy :) I also bow hunt large game such as antelope, deer, elk and big horned sheep :)

C!Technoblade (DSMP) kinnie! (Not a kintype!Just relate to the character:) )

Milo Rossi (Miniminuteman) fan :)

I am a diehard FNaF fan. I will talk about it for HOURS. I love FNaF. Mention it and I will vibrate at a frequency strong enough to shatter glass. So yes, please talk to me about it :)

DNI: Basic haters, trans-homo-or otherwise LGBT-phobic people, pro-Nazis, zoos, racists, or fans of The Human Centipede (Gives me PTSD-like triggers.) Those who are “Nordic Myth” kins of any type. (Marvel kins are not included. Y’all are fine.) & NSFW blogs specifically, I don’t care if you interact with me, but do not bring anything NSFW into my asks, I’m a minor and on the asexual spectrum and it makes me uncomfortable, thanks! :)

also please note, even if you are not in my DNI list, I do block freely, I do not stand for people who are constantly pessimistic. I don’t care if you’re pessimistic in general, myself am a realist, but what I mean by that is if you are more than 80% of the time just a negative being, I will most likely not interact with you. I am endo neutral. Don’t bring discourse to me.

another thing! My content is considerably 13+ (I will not respond to asks if you under 12 years old, as it makes me uncomfortable because tweens scare me.) and if you are older than 25, do not interact with me (EX: asks. The exception for this would be like if I follow you and send you an ask.), as you are between 10-5 years older than me. (The under 12 rule does not apply to those who are regressors, and regressors ARE allowed to interact with my content, but be warned, not all of my content is suitable for littles, be safe!)

I accept people of all gender, sexual, and/or identity. Don’t come on to my profile with your phobic bullshit.

online friends! :D @kirshimadenkisero @the-bineapple @writingnotes520 @popatochsp @im-just-another-pony (These goobs are also my mutuals!)

my tags!

Original posts: #Cryptid whispers, #Dragon Growls, #The Wolf Bites #N Rambles

art: #The Moss Owl Creature Has Taken To Scribbling, #Owl Draws Will add more as the list grows!

reblogs: #Dragon Rumbles

That’s all! Have a good day/evening :D

(Made by @uzihell here on Tumblr!) (FNaF plushie divider made by @sister-lucifer here on tumblr!)

[abundantsnow]

oghhhgg kay first post on the kny blog

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hallo, if you dont know me, my name is Zenith Petrichor! you can just call me zen. :) my pronouns are zey/zem/zeirs (or he/it) and i am aroacespec (cupio/aegoromantic and aegosexual). i am on the autism spectrum and have adhd and ocd-c, all diagnosed. its nice to meet you if youre new, please send me asks about anything kny or related to my oc, i love answering questions!!!!1!1 /gen/pos

i need to put my oc out somewhere cause i dont want him to just spin in my brain 24/7, i need people to look at him in all his glory 💔

tumblr is the perfect place to release my "way too heavily projected on oc for it to not be a self insert" oc

kny wont leave me alone even tho the pacing and character dynamics are ass and i needed to make an oc and rewrite the entirety of kny with him and with better pacing and character dynamics

So anyway yeah thus is totally a self insert, meet Hisato Nagafuchi!!!!!!!!!!!1!1!1!1!1! please read more lkke pleade please please i love him so much please read about him im ljke so- *gets shot*

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Hisato's reference sheet

永渕氷聖 "Hisato Nagafuchi"

Hisato - 氷聖 “ice” “saint”

Nagafuchi - 永渕 “eternity” “quiet”

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Name: Hisato Nagafuchi

Race: Half-Demon

Gender: Male, He/Him

Age: 23

Height: 168 cm (5'6") (6'0" with his geta) ((the teeth are 5 inches but the base itself is a whole nother inch))

Weight: 80 kg (176 lbs)

Birthday: January 12th

Hair Color: White to Lavender

Eye Color: Indigo

Affiliation: Demon Slayer Corps

Occupation: Demon Slayer, Ice Hashira

Combat Style: Ice Breathing, Blood Demon Art: Purifying Ice

Partner(s): Giyuu Tomioka, Mitsuri Kanroji, Muichiro Tokito, Tengen Uzui

Relative(s): Unnamed Demon Father, Unnamed Human Mother (deceased), Sakonji Urokodaki (adoptive father)

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Hisato's sprite & parasol

I'll draw his actual official promo art at some point. This is like the sprite that would show up on the wiki lol

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About the Hashiras!

About the Water Hashira: “He’s kind, I like him a lot. He's very aloof and masks his emotions; which people don't seem to understand. They think he's arrogant, and he's not. He’s self-conscious, and I can tell something’s bothering him deeply. We were also taught under the same Former Hashira, even if I developed my breathing techniques differently.”

About the Love Hashira: “She’s a sweetheart. She was friendly to me from the start and trusted me, even though I am a half-demon. We bonded over our love for food.”

About the Mist Hashira: “Ah, I see him as a little brother of sorts. He’s a brilliant boy, even if emotionally stunted due to his amnesia. I’ve made the effort to try and communicate with him, and he has noticed this. I like to spar with him, and this is how we communicate.”

About the Wind Hashira: “He’s hot headed and loud. Very loud. He was the most outspoken about me being a half-demon during my crowning and even tried to tempt me with his marechi blood. It smelled nice, like a gourmet dinner, but I could easily resist the temptation. I haven’t really liked him since.”

About the Insect Hashira: “She didn’t seem to like me at first. I had offered her my blood to use as a substitute for an experiment and she accepted. Whatever the results were had her interested in me. She now comes to me to ask me questions occasionally, and seems to hold no animosity towards me anymore. Although there is something simmering under her surface, I’m sure it’s something to do with Kanae’s death.”

About the Flame Hashira: “He’s also loud, like Lord Shinazugawa, but he’s very passionate and kind. I look up to him, even though I am older. He was wary of me at the very beginning, but was one of the few that accepted me pretty quickly. He even gave me pointers during a spar.”

About the Stone Hashira: “He was adamant on not accepting me at first. He believed anyone with Muzan’s blood, however diluted, did not belong in the Corps and should be slain. It took a long time to earn his acceptance and it almost seemed futile. As embarrassing as it is... it was learning that I can purr like a cat that... got him to like me. Both him and Lady Kanroji love cats, apparently. He likes to pat my head whenever he gets the chance."

About the Serpent Hashira: “He also doesn’t like me. At first, it was because I was a half-demon. He accepted that after a while and even sparred with me, claiming that I was fun to spar with. Now, he hates me because he thinks I’m too close to Lady Kanroji. I think he has a crush on her…”

About the Sound Hashira: “He’s very loud, too. He was mean at first, but it turns out it was just a form of tough love. We’re the same age and he even gifted me a haori that matches my breathing style! I wear it all the time and I love it, it makes me miss dad- I mean Mr. Urokodaki's haori that I outgrew. He said my Blood Demon Art was very flashy; he calls numerous things flashy, actually. It’s quite funny. I also think he’s really pretty, but he has… three wives…”

About the Flower Hashira: “I only knew her briefly, seeing as she died shortly after I became a Hashira. But she was also kind to me. She was hesitant to trust me, but she still did anyway. I really wish she was still around. After learning it was one of the Twelve Kizuki that killed her, I swore to Lady Kocho that I would help her find and kill Doma, the Kizuki in question.”

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Taishō Era Secrets!:

(with Tanjiro)

"Mr. Nagafuchi can't stand anything spicy! He prefers all of his food cold, even things that aren't supposed to be cold! He also loves sweet foods."

"His ears are incredibly sensitive, and he has a good sense of sight, smell, and hearing! It's not as good as mine or Zenitsu's, but he's still able to pick up a lot of things that normal human senses can't!"

"His voice doesn't match his appearance, but it's still considered a beautiful voice. He loves to sing and hum melodies, but he's become very embarrassed by this particular skill."

Tanjiro: "I hope one day I can hear you sing, Mr. Nagafuchi!"

Hisato: "I'd only sing for Nezuko, sorry Tanjiro."

Tanjiro: "That's okay! I'm sure Nezuko would love it!"

"He also doesn't talk to anyone because of this! Only the Hashira, me, Zenitsu, Insosuke, and everyone at the Butterfly Mansion have heard his voice."

"He's able to sneak up on anyone without making a sound! Despite wearing noisy clothes and having chimes on his parasol, he can move without alerting anyone! It's almost like he can choose if he makes noise when moving..."

Hisato: "I can, actually. When making my presence known, I tend to allow my footsteps and parasol to make noise for a more elegant appearance."

Tanjiro: "Is there a switch you can flip or something? How are you able to do that?"

Hisato: "That... shall remain a secret."

"Apparently he was taken in and raised by Mr. Urokodaki since he was a baby, and even calls him dad!"

Hisato: "Th-That's embarrassing, Tanjiro... You didn't have to say that..."

Tanjiro: "I think it's adorable! I also saw him as a father figure if it makes you feel better!"

Hisato: "..."

"Mr. Nagafuchi can purr! Like a cat! When Mr. Himejima and Ms. Kanroji learned about this, they were over the moon since they both love cats!! They find any chance possible to pet Mr. Nagafuchi, so cute!!!"

Hisato: "I... I do not purr... That is nonsense...!"

Tanjiro "Can I pet you, then?"

Hisato: "No, of course not, Tanjiro! You cannot pet me! And Lord Himejima and Lady Kanroji do not pet me!"

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Hisato's haori and parasol design

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That's all for the first post!! I have a lot more already, but I'll schedule those posts for later since its 1am and like. yeah.

[alexafaie-asd]

ADHD and/or Autistic People, how do you find that you respond to alcohol?

For the purpose of fitting the options into the poll character limit of 80 characters, take AuDHD to mean ADHD & Autistic. I don't really like that shorthand, but its needed here.

Sorry for no "see results" button, if you're allistic & don't have ADHD then I'm afraid you will have to wait a week for the results. I needed the 4 options for each condition.

If you aren't diagnosed but heavily suspect that you're one or the other (or both) then feel free to answer as if you were diagnosed and if comfortable doing so you may add that you're not yet diagnosed in the comments just for further data points. But you don't have to!

I don't usually ask people to reblog my posts, but I would love as many responses as possible simply because the NT people I have asked have IRL all responded one way and so I'm wondering if this is a me specific thing, or possibly related to neurodivergence in some way, like how stimulants actually calm ADHD minds down, the opposite of what non ADHD people experience.

[copperbadge]

Sam, you are NOT a “weirdo.” The neurology of the human mind exists on a spectrum; ALL humans are *biologically* “neurodiverse” and have extremely variable interior experiences. One of the most difficult concepts for ANY writer to grasp is that of “other minds, other perspectives”, and on that you already WELL ahead of the curve. 😊😎

Yikes, my response to this turned into a whole-ass essay so first, two things:

1. Thank you for the compliment, a number of people reached out to tell me that I write very well for people who see images when they read. That is extremely reassuring so I very much appreciate it.

2. I’m about to say a lot of shit that is only vaguely, tangentially related to what you’re saying here so my usual disclaimer applies: I appreciate what you said and I am not yelling AT you, I am yelling NEAR you. :D 

So. On the one hand, yes, humanity is diverse and we can only be ourselves, or a version of ourselves that is tolerable to live with. On the other hand, culture also sets down rules that say this is usual, this is unusual, this is acceptable, this is unacceptable. We don't live in a spectacular culture for "this is acceptable" but most of us are aware that what we think of as "normal" is narrow and fucked-up. But it’s tough to go beyond that to discuss how we relate to “normal”. 

It's something I'm grappling with and it's not something that it's easy to grapple with visibly because of that -- because the minute you call yourself weird or a freak or anything that denotes "not normal", or even when you just talk about “normal” as a concept, people reassure you that normal is an illusion, it's a construct. Which is true! And it’s good to model self-acceptance for people who are still struggling with that. 

The problem is that it limits how much you can discuss feeling outside of normal. And I do feel that way, because of the ADHD diagnosis and other stuff too. I feel that way a lot, these days. Like, a painful amount. Like, a questioning who I am on some very basic levels amount. So...there have to be ways to talk about the reality of normal. 

While normal is a construct, it’s still there -- as a culture we have a concept of normal that matters, regardless of whether it ought. We don’t have great pathways to say “Hey, I’m struggling with feeling like I’m not normal” because people want to assure you that you don’t have to feel normal...but sometimes you want to, because normal is what is culturally approved and it’s hard to be an outlier. Worse, if you’re visibly outside of normal, we tend to very violently police you for it. 

I’m lucky in that I’m pretty ordinary-looking, so I don’t get policed very often, but I‘m very aware of the policing of invisible disability because I have siblings with learning disabilities, and my whole family has some degree of mental illness. Lately I have watched my mother struggle because she needs aids to walk and feels like people are staring at her and saying she’s old and of no worth, a drain on society. The world reinforces that by doing things like making her get to the airport FOUR HOURS EARLY in order to get wheelchair service (and then “losing” her name so she still almost misses her flight). 

You don’t have to be normal, but if you aren’t, you still have to put up with the dickheads who think you should be, who will punish you for deviance. There's a disparity between "healthy ways for you to feel about this" and "how society will feel about this". 

To circle back to my mother, who internalized the ableism and misogyny of the 1950s and 60s and barely escaped being labeled a Fridge Mommy in the 80s because of my brother’s autism....I was raised in a family where there was a very strong value placed on being normal. It was particularly strong for me, because I was the normal one. My parents could not handle the idea that all of their kids had special needs. They needed me to be normal, not least because if I was normal I could help raise my siblings, which I did. And that's been my identity my whole life: the normal one.

Normal is a construct but unfortunately it’s the construct on which my entire identity has hung for forty years.

And my attitude -- not that this was conscious -- was that if you have to be forced into that role, if you must fulfill the exhausting demands of being normal, then you should also get the rewards. The more normal you are, the more power you have. That’s incredibly unhealthy but it’s even more harmful not to admit it happened. And so I have been shoving myself into this identity of “Oh no, that’s not me. I’m not disabled, I’m not queer, I’m not special, I’m a mediocre white dude” because to admit otherwise is to relinquish the protection of normal. 

So...I wish we had a word like “normal” but with an extra connotation of “Look, I know normal is just a privileged idea of what everyone should be but it’s also heavily enforced in our society so we need to acknowledge it still exists”. 

I’m not normal. I am a weirdo. I’m more a weirdo now than I’ve ever been. There has to be a space to say that, to say “Normal exists and I’m not it and I feel fucked up about it” because how else do you rebuild an identity? 

I think it is important to reassure people that normal is an idea, not a law of nature, and I appreciate everyone who chimed in with that. But I think it’s also important to acknowledge that it’s really hard to suddenly find yourself outside of normal, and start thinking about ways in which we can support that struggle when we see someone stuck in it. Maybe disability activists have something to say about this and I’m covering old ground; I’m not well-read beyond the basics. I don’t know what the answer is myself, I’m still really stuck in the middle of this, but I think there must be more options open to us than the reassurance that normal isn’t real. 

[joshithekitsune]

Hehehe... he's so cute. :3c

Also, these are my close besties: @itsavee4117 @bankobuzzy @ilovedimentio @doodmannboi (Her Tumblr doesn't work properly but if you want to know her go find her Instagram, it's Doodmannboi1). ^^

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I'll be posting mainly about;

- Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door

- Super Paper Mario

- Paper Mario⁶⁴

- Ren & Stimpy

- Kirby Right Back At Ya!

- Rayman

- Other Disney related stuff

I'm sort of a multifandom blog. :/

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Before you go off wondering this blog is 13+ to 16+ depending on the content. It's either suggestive/violent or crude humor. (Perhaps artistic nudity). Some of my art may not be suitable for younger audiences.

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My Discord name is @Joshithefuckedupbitch

My Instagram name @ Joshithekitsune

One thing you should know about me is I am a moderate. You don't have to like me, that's valid!👍🏻

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Before you interact with me, I'm on the spectrum, ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). Please be careful to what you say to me. I don't always know what I did or say. I'm doing my best to not be an asshole. And I can be easily paranoid. My sense of humor and swearing may come off as crass and blunt. Be warned.

My other disorders (not fake, already been diagnosed): depression, ADD (another form of ADHD), dysgraphia, dyscalcula

If you want to better understand autistic women and girls like me, go check it out yourself! 👇🏻

https://opendoorstherapy.com/unraveling-the-unique-experiences-of-women-on-the-autism-spectrum/#:~:text=In%20order%20to%20%E2%80%9Cfit%20in,to%20effectively%20communicate%20their%20needs.

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My headcanons, AUs, and opinions maybe different from yours. If you don't have anything positive to say about it, just scroll away. If you decide to leave a hate comment, I'm more likely to ignore you and delete it.

I do mild critiques on Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel, so uh, yeah.

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I do free art requests, (mostly Mario related things but other media is fine, too).

Will draw: fanart, anthro art, simple mechanics, semi realism, surrealism, abstract, traditional art, suggestive stuff.

Will not draw: straight up NSFW (I will when I'm 18, I promise) fetishes/kinks, hyper realism, complicated mechanics, hate art.

Even if the art request is sanitary, I have every right to reject that art request.

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DNI PROSHIPPERS, PEDOPHILES, NECROPHILES, ZOOPHILES, MISOGYNISTS, PRO AI (ART), RADICAL LGBTQAI2s+ DISCOURSE AND OTHER BASIC CRITERIA. this doesn't mean I dislike LGBT people, I just don't like people who're extremists. will pull out my rifle if you don't scram-a-lam. (To put it lightly the block/report button). Most of all do be civil.

This is a welcoming place for LGBT people but don't call me "transphobic" "TERF," or any type of "phobic" for having a different opinion. Calling me a transphobe is NOT going to help your claims, to me, it is a compliment for having common sense. Don't put your panties in a knot just because I disagree with you. Yep, I'm an old fart! Sorry not sorry! 💨

Also, don't send me any death threats into my inbox. Or you'll be permanently blocked. Sorry folks you can't be anonymous, obviously.

This is VERY important: Gaza and Palestine blogs, DON'T FOLLOW ME OR ASK ME. I refuse to participate in this political movement/trend. Especially the propaganda that has been going on for a while. I'm very neutral about it. This doesn't make me a bad person. It's a very tricky subject for me to get into.

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Most importantly, enjoy my bullshit! :P

[fqirycollective]

The Link Between ADHD and DID - A Theory!

Disclaimer

This is a personal theory that I created. This is based off my personal research and thoughts, and shouldn’t be treated as 100% fact. I’m not a professional, and these are just my own conclusions being drawn to make an overall observation. This being said, I have the theory that it’s a similar principle with autism as it is with ADHD and why so many systems are/have one or both, but I don’t have enough proper research on autism to say for sure. Please keep all of this in mind while reading!

First, how do systems form?

The current theory is the Theory of Structural Dissociation. In a simplified version, this theory says that all children are born with multiple ego states. As we grow up, these ego states integrate into one identity and personality. However, if severe and repetitive trauma occurs before they integrate (it happens all throughout childhood but “finishes” at around 7-9), the brain may start to rely on dissociation and dissociative barriers between ego states. This happens so one of the ego states can continue life as normal, despite the trauma and another can hold the traumatic memories and responses to keep the other from needing to deal with them. Those ego states then develop into their own personalities and identities. Disorganized attachment also plays a role, where the child has conflicting feelings about their caregiver where they both love and are afraid of them due to inconsistent patterns. Not all systems form from abuse, but 90% of systems do because of the disorganized attachment and how a lot of forms of abuse are normalized to where the caregiver may not respond adequately to the child’s needs. It’s important to remember that dissociation is a last resort and traumatic experiences once or twice won’t cause a system.

Does this mean there was nothing else to cope with?

This is a debated topic, from what I’ve seen? Not 100% sure about that, but there seem to be two iffy sides. However, you can have friends, teachers you trust, hobbies, etc. and still be a system. Just because you have things that are able to be used as a coping mechanism, doesn’t necessarily mean that the child knew to use it as such, especially if trauma happened early enough that you picked them up after dissociation became the primary coping mechanism. As for the friends and adults the child trusts? That would almost always require telling them about the trauma, which would mean the child would have to accept that the trauma was happening on some level which goes against what the disorder is about. 

How does this relate to ADHD?

Rejection sensitivity dysphoria is the first thing that came to mind. Other disorders can experience rejection sensitivity, but the dysphoria part comes from there not really being a trigger to the intense emotions (which is why the term RSD is ADHD-specific and others should use rejection sensitivity or RS for short!) and it’s instead from the learned behavior of rejection from peers, even without interaction whereas in other disorders, there is usually some type of interaction. With RSD, it’s extremely difficult to identify and regulate the intense reactions to perceived rejection. Abuse and disorganized attachment is based on rejection by others, especially since systems are often taught that abuse can co-exist with love. Struggling to cope with those emotions can lead to an increased chance of dissociation. One study found that 80% of children with ADHD are in the bullied and rejected classifications.

My Conclusions

Essentially, I have the theory that such intense emotions may lead it to be more likely for a child to dissociate due to the inability to regulate and therefore are overwhelmed by emotions easier. Beyond this, the high levels of rejection among children with ADHD makes it harder for them to make friends. I have personally even been rejected by teachers and other adults without them causing any type of trauma. This, paired with the fact that the child would have to accept the trauma to tell anyone, and that it’s frequent that the trauma starts before the possibility to gain hobbies to cope with, could make it likelier that the child dissociates instead of using other coping mechanisms. My theory is that so many systems have ADHD because of the likelihood they probably have to rely on dissociation more than other coping mechanisms that may help in the face of trauma.

[unavailable-yarrow]

not related to comic content but, I think the wildest thing about internet discourse to me when people talk about Serious Issues, is the 8 or 80 mentality, example:

or "you can't talk about disabled people issues if you're not disabled" but "you may be disabled but you don't speak for ALL disabled people"

and it just boggles me because, if people outside this group can't talk about it, and people inside the group can't talk about it either, WHO is allowed to talk about it?

and don't get me wrong, I KNOW that one black person or one disabled person don't speak for the whole group, I am aware. But someone HAS to talk about it, you know?

and numbers add strength, but everytime I see someone (part of it or not) bring these things up, they get shut down, so how are more people gonna advocate for these issues if no one is allowed to talk about them?

mind you, I'm not including people from within the group or outside who share racist, ignorant, ableist or harmful "opinions" or comments about it, I'm talking about people who genuinely wanna advocate or talk about these issues with serious intentions

I'm epiletic, and I have ADHD and autism. But I've been shut down MANY times online for talking about my experiences and have even been called ignorant for sharing something personal about MY life as a neurodivergent person...so who are these mighty unknown people who are allowed to "correctly" talk about what it's like? about what needs to be done? do they actually exist?

[feldgeister]

just talking gender briefly into the void, and relating my own personal experiences with dysphoria, compartmentalizing, alla that.

when i was at my lowest point and super dissatisfied with myself, my body, my mental, all of it, i definitely suffered physical body dysphoria, highschool gym was such a fuuuucking drag because of that. i ended up needing depression meds, later on i was diagnosed adhd and meds for that have done way better. i have diagnosed social anxiety thats gotten progressively worse over the years, anxiety/depression in general, and genuinely i think i might fall somewhere on the tism spectrum, though i should really get a professional opinion on that for closure.

i don’t have physical dysphoria anymore, but i do have noticeable enough mental dysphoria with gender at times. something along the lines of thinking of myself in a more neutral/masculine way, but never outright masculine, just more towards that little line in the middle. technically like, demigirl, with it being a kind of 80/20 split towards fem. i absolutely am most comfortable with acting “traditionally” feminine, my personality just kind of gravitates to that, what i enjoy is being treated as such. but clothing is more the part where i want to express the other side of things, even in a weird bedroom environment, which is a weird thing im gonna have to explain to someone one day lmao.

all of this to say, really, i think its really really tough to figure yourself out, and everything that happens on your weird little gender journey can affect you one way, and another person in the opposite, ya dig? my best friend has never experienced dysphoria and is genderfluid, whereas i have experienced it and im still most comfortable as mostly cisgirl. lots of stripes of people out there, all of which should be respected, but never have your own views imposed upon them. respect for the journey is the most important part, not to sound preachy on my weird little pulpit.

its hard to explain my specific viewpoint with gender issues because the thing itself is very nebulous, it develops over time, i even would venture to guess it never /stops/ developing. i think the major attention on it these days is society bringing it to the major public eye, which i see as a net neutral. more eyes on it, good and bad.

my most sound advice is never let the public decide for you what you should be called or how you should feel with it, let the public educate you on things with cold hard facts and theory (don’t believe every sob story you hear on the web at face value, i think)- but ultimately, the best bet is just good ol’ introspection, finding where your own values lay with everything.

[meshaamem-li]

ok I wrote my experience in the tags and then I was like "this is enough for a reblog" so I'm making it a reblog.

I used to have a lot of trouble with remembering to take my pills, which was not good because 1 they were meant to treat a physical illness, and 2 they were fucking supplements because my parents hated doctors, so if I wanted them to do anything I'd have to take them constantly (they eventually worked really well tho, so don't worry)

I eventually came up with a solution to get myself to remember, and I'm gonna break down why I think it worked and how to replicate it without doing the exact same thing.

for the record: I'm not diagnosed with ADHD, I do relate to a lot of ADHD struggles but I don't know if I actually have it or not.

so, the way I got myself to remember to take take them is this: every day I drink one cup of coffee in the morning, this is a routine I had before I got the pills, and it was also special because it was the only time I was allowed to have sweets that aren't fruit. I put the pill bottles in the fridge above the milk bottle, and every morning when I made myself a cup of coffee, I'd take the pill bottles along with the milk, and take my pills with the coffee before getting to enjoy it.

now, when I wrote this, I was like, "isn't that pretty much the same as putting the pill bottle near the computer?" but no, there are several differences, and they are:

I only drink coffee in the morning except for rare occasions or if I'm outside the house, which makes this coffee making ritual is unique to mornings

I only use milk for coffee, I don't eat cereal or drink it by itself, taking the milk out of the fridge is a unique part of this ritual

I had a reason to remember to take coffee (me want sugar, coffee = only source of sugar) from before the pills, I had a reason to create the habit that isn't "I have to" but "I want to"

the act of taking the pills is integrated into the ritual, this isn't just my "morning coffee", this is my "pill taking coffee", I have to take the pills before I get to enjoy the sweet heaven of caffeine and sugar, in a way this makes the coffee experience more fun because it's like a reward for taking pills

when you put the pill near the computer, you might be trying to integrate it into the morning habit of sitting in front ot the computer in the morning, but you're actually integrating it into every time you sit in front of the computer, which is most likely a daily occurrence, you don't take a pill every time you open up your computer, only if it's morning, so your brain gets used to ignoring the bottle 99% of the time.

you need to find a unique ritual that includes a drink to integrate to your morning routine, and put the pill bottle next or in the way of the liquid. taking it with a coffee might not be a good idea for adhd pills because of the caffeine (it actually reduces the efficiency of my supplements too, but better to take them at 80% the efficiency than not at all, and if needed I can just take more supplements because they're not drugs), so you can try something else. a hot chocolate, a glass of milk, a non-caffianated tea, maybe put it next to your water bottle if you have a habit of filling it up every morning, put it next to your toothbrush and take it with sink water before you brush your teeth.

tldr: it just has to be an existing or easy to start ritual that is almost entirely unique to the time you're taking it and includes water/a drink. put the pills in the way of or right next to that water and make your brain associate that ritual with taking pills. tell yourself "this is my morning adhd juice" or something like that.

extremely fucked up that one of the symptoms of adhd is forgetfulness and difficulty sticking to habits and schedules and one of the best ways to alleviate those symptoms is by remembering to take a pill every morning at the same time

[kyoosoup]

reading through my old messages and vents is always a rollercoaster

some of my takeaways so far:

1. i can be proud on some counts cause in many cases i've grown or gotten better. some of my messages/vents were from very specific situations that i had either forgotten about or gotten closure to and it's weird to see?? these things that affected me daily are now just memories.

for instance the first time i got creeped on (not counting cat calls) was at work and we called the cops and stuff cause i was maybe 15?? and that really affected me and i mean i still think about it but i was a lot more paranoid back then and it was fresh yk. And im still wary now but it's not as present in my mind as it was.

another thing is how i would often be upset at myself for being lazy and having a hard time focusing and not being able to do schoolwork and burning out. and i would wonder what was wrong with me (poor little me). and now i know ! adhd! lol. my mom was confused about why i was happy to get my diagnosis when i did but for years i had been thinking that i just wasnt doing enough or trying hard enough when i didnt realize it was literally how my brain was wired. ( this was actually a very common theme in my vents thank you diagnosis)

2. sometimes i see replies from old friends and im like man. we used to be these daily presences in each others lives and really close and now we dont even speak or had falling outs. spooky???

3. i see how I myself used to type/speak too and it's weird . i am practically a different person now. the amount i feel like ive changed in the past few years alone is like . exponential compared to before. meeting new people, losing people, losing family, discovering new interests, discovering and accepting more about myself???? actually socializing lol.

4. also just some of my issues were CRAZY ??/ how did i forget that i was working 10 hour shifts back during covid. 6-4 . and then i had to go home and do school ( i couldnt focus at work). omg that was just awful how did i do that

5. whenever i look back at old stuff i am even more grateful for the friends i have now. i had friends at the time but a lot of them weren't very close as the friends i have now or the relationships weren't as healthy as they shouldve been. i often felt incredibly lonely and i can say for sure i have not felt like that in a while (at least not for long periods of time, ive probably had bad days like everyone). maybe some parts of my life now sorta suck but i haven't hated it as much because i have good people supporting me and a lot of close friends who make life well worth living. i could write about how much i love my friends for hours probably

6. omg i remember when some of my big problems were my crushes on boys . THEY WERE ONLINE CRUSHES TOO. you dont understand im actually so embarrassed for myself for like 80-90% of my past real crushes (i am not counting what i thought were crushes but i realize was just admiration or squishes/friend crushes) some people go for looks. some go for personality. somehow, 14-16 year old me chose neither. theres only one of those past crushes that i still keep in touch with and i will say he is chill and we are friends and i am not as embarrassed over that one since he wasnt a sucky person. but like i definitely liked this one guy who was not good for my mental health hahahahha woops. there were more recent embarrassing experiences for me but theyre too fresh i cant laugh at them yet without cringing

7. you know this isnt as related to the old stuff but im writing all this while once again basically forgetting i was kind of a mess earlier this year too. thank you bad memory but let me rewrite my mental history. i am only thinking about the good things this year .

Anyways i dont know why i even wrote this theres no target audience that this applies to i think i just got really bored

[silent-sentinels]

Plural Asking 100 Questions: Part 8!

1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9

[we are putting this one under a read more.]

71. Are you Neurodivergent (and if yes, how?) ooh buddy we are adhd as FUCK!! and the depression hkjgh... probably other things that we're either forgetting or overlooking! [shrugs!!]

72. Do you have any physical disability? oh yes, our body is rapidly deteriorating <- that's being dramatic. our hips and lower back are the worst though. on really bad days we can't even stand, and sitting up hurts us. but most days it'll just be an annoying pain, but sharps usually dims it to the background. oh and the fucking chronic fatigue. low energy gang~!!

73. Do you have a dissociative disorder? we experience depersonalization a lot? just very lost and floaty and foggy. not recognizing ourselves when we see our reflection, questioning who we are, feeling numb, all that fun stuff. we should honestly be doing more research into things like this but that's a task for future us.

74. Do you have any other disorder? it's mostly the adhd babie, and the rsd that comes with that too. and possibly AvPD but we're [not talking about that.] oh, okay, cool. anyway, ADHD for sure.

75. Do symptoms vary in intensity depending on the fronter? we all tend to mix, but yes vaguely? deadsprint holds a lot of the hyperactivity of adhd, and memo tries to help with the memory issues. blender actually makes depersonalization worse hjkghg?? chamomile can and will put us to sleep if we let her hkjgh definitely other examples, but these are the ones off the top of our head!

76. Do you think your disability / disorder has an influence on your plurality? probably...? probably?????? probably.

77. Do you have amnesia of any kind? no, not really. just regular ol' adhd forgetfulness.

78. Are there Members who deal better with symptoms than others? yep! dear god, burden can push through a lot of pain, we found out when we went camping (though he was really burning out by the end of it). rationale and occasionally harlowe will talk us out of rsd spirals. ryan helps with the depression, and oath has always helped to remind us that we want to live. he's always been advocating for being nicer to ourselves too.

79. Do your disorders / disabilities influence communication or switching within your System in any way? hm. maybe the adhd and the constant, unrelenting train of conversational dialogue are related in some way! we cannot shut up ever! inner conversations have two modes and that's loud and LOUDER. maybe same goes for switching? god lmao who knows!! this is a lot of introspection for 2 am and harlowe isn't feeling it hkjgh

80. Does being plural help with your disorders in any way? (example: another Member switching in to take care of the body during difficult times, ...) i think so?? again, obligation usually pushes through executive dysfunction and depression things to take care of the body, though sharps and chamomile push back when the pain and fatigue are too much. generally, this is kinda how we've always been but now we know we exist hkjhg

[littlegirlwiththeblueribbon]

NAVIGATION: #wrenward for each original post, #special interest for SI posts, #audhd & #actually autistic for ND related posts, #crow hoard for sharing about personal belongings & collections, #wren games hard for screencaps & gameplay of my faves, #irene’s art for my art, #wren writes for my prose or poetry, #wren reads for my ongoing reading list, and of course #navigation for a post of all of my tags I’ll keep updated.

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Hello, a little bit (or a lotta bit) about me.

I’m Irene, AKA Wren. I’m 18, and I live in the state of California, and sometimes New Jersey.

I have Portuguese, Mexican, Tepehuán and French ancestry. English is my first language. I fluently speak Portuguese and Spanish, and am competent in French, Latin, Greek, and ASL. I can speak basic informal Basque, Nahuatl, and Irish due to exposure from relatives and friends.

My pronouns are she/they, I’m non-binary and genderfluid (specifically genderfae; my gender fluctuates on a female, feminine, non-binary, and agender spectrum). With my connection to femininity I consider myself a lunarian enby.

I’m aro-ace, sex–repulsed or “apothisexual” and rather the quoiromatic that rarely experiences romantic feelings aside for rare exceptions; and due to those exceptions, I’ve realized I’m a lesbian — & trixic, though I prefer the former. Therefore I tend to describe myself as a non-binary lesbian oriented aro-ace person and a non-binary ace lesbian to the public. It’s easier.

I’m autistic & have combined type ADHD. I’m also physically disabled. My diagnoses developed from different doctors over the years, but in all they are: Fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, POTS, hEDS, Endometriosis, abdominal migraines, and eventually, moderate Lupus. I’m also hard of hearing and was recently diagnosed with mild hearing loss in my right ear, which I haven’t told to anyone yet.

I’m an ambulatory wheelchair user, but also use a cane or a walker depending on the severity of my flares. My 80 year old grandpa says I’m doing worse than he is. I tell him at least I don’t have diabetes, and that he can keep his.

I have no siblings, only half siblings I never see. Unless I’m in NJ with my aunt and uncle, I live with my parents, two cats, and two dogs. One day I’d like to own a snake, rat, horse, fish, or even one of those peregrine falcons they train for hunting. I also want either a queerplatonic or romantic relationship one day, though I’m currently single and not looking for one.

I am open to making friends/mutuals and overall just chatting, but I don’t use any other socials, won’t give out my number or email, and might not be able to keep up with convos often.

My blog is basically me journaling my life and thoughts. I’ll write about my life happenings, AuDHD, chronic illness & disability occasionally, my special interests likely all the time, and perhaps the occasional art or writing post. I’m in some fandoms but don’t really follow them.

Please DNI if you are under 16. Thank you!

[queencvbra]

Random but it feels important to say but I just watched this tiktok and this guy said that someone empathizing with another person by telling them a story about how they experienced the same thing is a red flag and, I quote, “love how you’re making things about yourself”, and I just really need y’all to understand that there is a difference between someone deflecting from what you’re going through and trying to put attention on themselves and a neurodivergent person trying to prove to you that yes they can personally relate to you and empathize with what you’re going through because of a similar experience. That’s not trying to “make things about themselves”, that’s genuinely trying to make you feel seen and like you have someone who is there and understands at least to some degree besties.

[pppixelgd]

How to not drop the level you’re grinding (and not lose motivation)

ok so I’ve been seeing this same process happen to most of the people I know

someone finds a demon they want to beat

they start grinding the demon

they have a bad experience with the demon

they drop the demon

repeat 20x

sooo

Here’s some stuff that helps me beat demons without dropping them

(please note that I have adhd so you might not relate to some of the stuff I describe)

Chapter 1. Physical stuff

1. Take short breaks

I know this might sound counterintuitive (I mean, if you play the level less you wont beat it as quickly, right??)

but, think about what usually happens if you play a level for too long

you play the level > get mad > you keep playing level > get more mad > you play worse because you’re mad > repeat until you drop the level due hating the level’s guts

and if you’re playing worse because you’re mad, you’re going to take longer with the level, and I’m assuming you don’t want that

I would suggest that as soon as you realize you’re playing worse due to anger, you should take a break until you aren’t angry and then continue grinding.

(and if you are still playing badly, that probably means you should probably stop playing for the day because you’re burning out)

2. Only grind levels you know you can beat

now, this may seem obvious, but I have seen almost all of my friends make this mistake

and that mistake is... *drumroll*

Trying to beat levels that aren’t their skillset and are too hard for them

I have seen SO MANY people think that they could jump to a top 10 from something cataclysm difficulty, hell, even I thought I could do it! But take it from someone who tried to jump to Sakupen Circles from cataclysm, jumping. sucks.

Why does jumping suck you ask?

it doesn’t have quick progress

now I know that sounds weird, but lets be real, you’re probably not gonna like a level if you’re only making progress once every 2 weeks

it’s missing that dopamine rush you get from making progress, and honestly, that completely throws me off tbh

3. list placements don’t matter

I’ve seen a lot people think that lower on the list = easier extreme = they can beat it

let me tell you this

List placements are based on the average opinion, and I am assuming your skillset isn’t perfectly average

if your skill set is wave and you’re bad at cube timings then you will think that sonic wave is easier than black blizzard, despite blbl being ~30 80 spots below sw, and vice versa

4. there are extremes other than list demons

not much more needs to be said about this

instead of looking at pointercrate to find extremes, just look through gd/youtube and play ones you find interesting, you’ll have a better chance at finding an extreme that you like if you do that

Chapter 2. Mental stuff

1. Don’t set your expectations too high

This.

I have seen almost all of my friends fall victim to this problem.

When you set your expectations too high, you wont be able to reach them, and if you don’t achieve your goals, it might lead to anger/sadness, and you might end up losing motivation with gd.

also, uhh, this too

1 ½ . Don’t set your expectations too low

If your expectations are too low, you will meet them too fast, and if you keep meeting them too fast, you will get used to achieving goals quickly, and then when you meet your first road block, and you don’t get it quickly like you’re used to, you will lose your temper wayy quicker than normal.

2. You wont become a pro overnight, don’t hope that you will

I know, I know, this is the most overused saying like.. ever, but its true!

you’re not going to become a pro instantly like spaceuk (unless you have savant syndrome or something), skill takes time to build!

and if you hope that you will just magically become a top player then you are just going to be disappointed

3. it’s ok to take a break

Please, never push yourself too far.

I have seen so many people try to keep grinding and grinding levels despite them being obviously burnt out. Hell, even I have done this on multiple occasions.

Yes, you are determined, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take a break every once in a while

remember, this isn’t a competition, you can stop whenever you like.

Extra stuff

Keep calm during grinds

brute force determination is what will get you through the level

only beat levels you want to beat

play on whatever fps you want, ignore what people say

don’t play gd for too long

ok bye cya later

[slugtranslation-hypmic]

Hello. I read your posts regarding schizophrenia awareness and I wanted to thank you for sharing your knowledge and being so open to discussion. You mentioned before that you experience difficulty with auditory processing (e.g. having trouble listening to/understanding the Hypmic drama tracks). Is that related to schizophrenia, or is it something different? If someone was having a conversation with you, is there anything they could do to make it easier for your to hear/understand them? Thanks! ♥

Thanks for asking about this!

Language issues are very common with people with schizophrenia, and one of the ways this can manifest is auditory processing disorder. Auditory processing disorder also commonly occurs with other items classified under the neurodivergency umbrella such as autism or ADHD.

It's less that I can't hear sounds well but rather that the sounds don't make sense to me as often or as quickly as they do for most people. You know how if you're in another room listening to someone talking, you may be able to physically hear everything they're saying but not understand it because it's muffled? It feels like that. Unless someone is articulating clearly, I usually can't make sense of everything they say and will probably take more time to understand it than someone with no auditory processing issues. I also found out - from trying to subtitle videos haha - that apparently I can't pick up emotions from voices as easily as others do. I had no idea it was an issue until the person reviewing the videos was like, "Why is this a completely different tone than what the speaker's saying?" and I went "?". Whack.

At any rate, that's why I generally don't listen to drama tracks or try to translate them. It's more effort for me than I generally find worth it, although, with practice, I am getting slightly better at it.

In conversations in English, I can understand on average about 80% of what people say, guess the other 15% from context clues, and then fudge the last 5%. It's helpful when people enunciate properly (which is rich, because I do not, no matter how hard I try) and be patient if it takes me a moment to understand. I may ask people to repeat things, and in those cases, repeating in a slightly slower voice helps. Getting louder or yelling does not help - I'm not hard of hearing. Patience and enunciation tend to be helpful for anyone with auditory processing disorders.

Incidentally, I really like Jakurai's stage play actor because he enunciates perfectly. Every syllable is crisp. Watching Track 2 always goes something like this:

Jakurai: Good afternoon, Jinpachi. How are you today? How is your baseball team doing? Onigawara guy: fdhshjajshhghjjhfdhjdshgsghhjhhshgchbnhgudiweouiewhwdhj Jakurai: My! How fascinating! Well, I have next Tuesday off, and I'd love to come join you. Onigawara guy: akqwioppoedlcjfiur0pi32jewwqjjznsi Jakurai: I couldn't have said it better myself.