#how to choose a therapist

[wisterianwoman]

How to Find the Right Therapist - From a Therapy Regular

Have you decided to go to therapy, but struggling to find the right therapist? Or maybe you're in therapy, and not sure if it's time to go your separate ways. This comprehensive guide was designed to help you wherever you are on your therapy journey.

Have you decided to go to therapy, but you’re struggling to find the right therapist? Or maybe you’re in therapy, and not sure if it’s time to go your separate ways. This comprehensive guide was designed to help you make the right choices for your mental health journey. Choosing the Right Therapist can be… tricky So you’ve finally decided it’s time to see a therapist. This is a great step…

[goldenpinof]

genuine question, what is the issue with betterhelp?

bad therapists who do more harm than good (literally), bad treatment of therapists by the company regarding payment, and betterhelp is a zionist company.

the most recent video (i advise watching it, it's not very long but it recaps a lot of old problems people forgot about and mentions new ones):

[badcountryofficial]

Me when im stuck in the past: no no I need an answer I need DRY HEAVE to find an answer I need to find a wY OUT I need...VOMITS it HURTS why did it happen why oh God let me change it please god—

Me when I get back to the present: WHEEEEEE LOG INTO MY HAPPY AND LEVEL UP MY LALA😀🌈🌼🍭🦋✨️💗🌞

[cabeswaterdrowned]

As a Kandreil enjoyer and known Kandrew lover, I think it’s weird and embarrassing as hell when Kandreil/Kevin stans who’s least favorite pairing in it is Andreil try to frame them prioritizing each other more and more as the series goes on as somehow insidious or toxic. Like, you can dislike the direction For Sure and wish it was written differently, but be honest that it’s because of Kevin being your favorite (perfectly valid, I also react disproportionately when my favorite character is hurt by something narratively vs when it’s other chars even if I like/love them) and has nothing to do with *problematic messages about romance* (BAH!) or whatever you are trying to frame it as being the concern instead. 

[gently-decaying-flowers]

i hate it here

[but-the-library-of-alexandria]

in 2024 I wanna stop hearing about betterhelp

[nicolegendary]

the fight between eddie and dean for most repressed tumblr boy has become vicious

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

Seeing your post about toxic doomed Yuri burgertron/spudmuffin changed my brainwaves. I read it and was like woahhh they ARE toxic doomed Yuri

there is a top 10 messiest breakups botvid and spud / burgertron are in the #1 spot and i will not be considering otherwise. they could have been THE power v-shaped polycule with ulf but fate aligned their destinies and it was not written in the stars . pouring one out for the combo meal of all time 😔✊

[rackartyg]

i will never get over the perfect agony that is astarion being an elf who reveries, rather than sleeping. every single night is a trauma nightmare on steroids.

[savage-rhi]

Late night magenta.

[professor-rye]

One of my biggest frustrations with brain fuckery and self awareness is that so often I will see people talking about problematic behavior that I am feeling, only to not really offer a solution for how to stop feeling it. Which, to be fair, is not really their responsibility. For many people, awareness is more than enough for them to start the process of restructuring their beliefs and stopping the problematic attachment. But I am already aware, and that apparently isn't enough to get my brain to let the fuck go.

Creators made a choice, which is their right, and for some reason, my brain decided that was a betrayal and now I am hurt beyond belief. This is unreasonable, and I know that.

Every other time something like this has happened before, I can just acknowledge that I didn't like that choice and move on. But for some reason, these creators and these choices are different, and I can't seem to get my brain to behave anymore.

And anytime I try to talk about it, either the listener has no advice they can give (I still appreciate you listening though, I promise) or they just tell me "But hey. That's parasocial and unreasonable."

[lapdogchase]

one thing i just do not fucking get is the difference between "regulating emotions" and "suppressing emotions" i cannot get my head around how those are different. like if im sad and then i go "well im not going to be sad anymore" that's "dissociating" and "suppressing healthy emotions" but if im sad and im like "well im going to cry until i actually pass out" that's "not healthy" and it's BAD to suppress emotions but it's ALSO BAD to get super upset so WHAT IS THE SECRET THIRD THING cuz i do not fucking get it. "feel your feelings But not that way that's not healthy feel your feelings but less than that" ???????

[thedreadvampy]

idk I had a very interesting therap today but I just

like it's all very well to recognise that I gotta have a fucking open-ended breakdown and jump face first into the Sadness Bog sometimes instead of sitting on all my feelings

but like

I still have to go to work, you know? it's like. ok yeah have a breakdown which like until you jump into it you don't know if it's going to last an hour or a year. yeah go ahead that's all grand. you do have to get up in the morning and go to work though. you're not allowed to not do that. or to not pay the rent or not shower or not eat.

like all my friends and loved ones are constantly like 'you know you're allowed to be sad right' and it's like. AM I??? because I STILL HAVE TO PAY RENT.

[punch-love]

20. Which other character is the ideal best friend for Wade, the amount of canon time they share doesn't matter?

17. What's a ship for Peter you don't hate but it's not your favorite that you're fine with?

26. If you were a therapist for them both individually: what homework would you give Wade and Peter (separately) to help them?

20. Which other character is the ideal best friend for Wade, the amount of canon time they share doesn't matter?

I really don't like most of his canonical friends because I think they are written to match him occupationally but not emotionally. It's like they're mean work friends more than actual, genuine friends who have anything in common with him outside of being pretty chill with murder and making money from said murder.

My favorite is probably Rogue because there's a commonality in "untouchability" and having a power you never really asked for/that you would have never chosen. I think Wade is the type to always fall in love and/or flirt with his friends because of his personality, but he doesn't really seek out people that play the same narrative role as him. I think he goes after people who are ideals more than people, or scumbags who don't make him feel bad about himself. Rogue is kind of an outlier as her existence is both something she didn't consent to, and irreversibly tragic. I think their conversations would carry an extra weight, and he'd be able to be emotionally understood in ways most of his other partners simply would never be able to relate to. Also, Rogue, is the person he trusts with big things. His daughter's protection and safety in particular. I don't think they'd actually realistically spend a lot of time together/hang out (and in my head, Spider-Man is still the perfect character to fit that role) but on an emotional level, I think Rogue would be my pick.

17. What's a ship for Peter you don't hate but it's not your favorite that you're fine with?

This question is worded so weirdly lol but SpideyTorch is my favorite secondary Peter ship. I think he should only fuck his homies (and when he doesn't, those relationships always crash and burn because you kind of have to be his friend to really know what you're getting into)

26. If you were a therapist for them both individually: what homework would you give Wade and Peter (separately) to help them?

I would hate this job so much. Oh my god. I'm recoiling. I don't really want to put myself in the headspace of anyone's therapist, much less them, but I guess if I was held at gunpoint then I would buy them both journals and print out some question/answer sheets for them to separately fill out inside their journals. I would give Wade sheets centered around shame, people pleasing, and guilt and I would give Peter ones around martyrdom, idenity, and interpersonal relationships. I don't know if it would fix them, but I think they both could stand to be more aware of their own patterns.

[perfectly-clear-from-here]

...WHY ARE FOLK SO MEAN WTF 😭😭

[chappellrroan]

guys someone really thinks they can fix me