#how that felt so validating
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something about finding the people who sit through your info dumps with joy on their face and enthusiasm for your passions. something about finding the people who info dump right back at you because they know you love hearing about their passions. something about finding the people who manage to sum up your being in one niche, oddly specific sentence that lives in your mind rent free for the rest of time. something about finding the people who not only accept you for who you are but embrace you for who you are. who not only tolerate your quirks and differences but love and cherish them.
#iâm in my feels today if you couldnât tell#just thinking about one friend in particular who i donât get to see in person nearly enough but i text all the time#idk itâs the little things#the way we send each other videos of ourselves explaining whatever weâre learning about right now#the way we donât write it in a long message because the emotion and vibes donât translate properly#the way heâs told me that the way i dress is so gender nonconforming in his eyes#how even though iâm afab and i wear glittery makeup and crop tops and have pink hair#i still look so queer and so gnc and so Not Girl in his eyes#how that felt so validating#how i could feel the genuine love in his words#how he told me once that iâm ânot a person with lore but rather a person with a schtickâ#and how he explained to me what my schtick was and how accurate it was#how he told me he canât wait for me to get my degree(s) and be an openly queer person in stem#how he canât wait for me to defend my thesis sometime in the future and be wearing the brightest makeup and the biggest earrings#and the tallest boots#how he loves that i go to my chem lab every week with glitter on my eyes#how itâs cool that i donât care if i stick out like a sore thumb because iâm me#i remember how he dropped the she/her pronouns immediately upon ne saying i didnât really vibe with them#(even when they were still technically on my list of âok to use pronounsâ)#how his boyfriend who i donât know very well has always they/them-ed me because my friend does#and if my friend is doing it then it must be the right thing#idk i just love my friends#and this friend in particular is someone iâve gotten really close with over the past 6 months or so#and iâm so glad to have him in my life#platonic love#friendship#tell your friends you love them
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Calypso and the Pink Unicorn's pirate drag show !!!!!
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Wee john served so hard it should be illegal 16 dead countless injured, I am dead Calypso was so hot
Process (and my french rant on why I hate the choice of la vie en rose) below vvv
Final without the text
Rough colors
Sketch !
Sorry english people, but what follows is too french an opinion to voice in english (I'll sum it up for u in the end <3)
Ok alors je suis dÊsolÊ, Con o'Neill chante vraiment très bien ca n'a rien avoir avec sa performance, mais vraiment la vie en rose c pas possible. Le man est sur les champs ElysÊes a me vendre des tours Eiffel en plastique jpp- Franchement pipe et jambe de bois ca serai mieux passer. Ou les demons de minuit !!!!pourquoi pas les demon de minuit ?????? Chanson hyper connu française. Ok c moins cucu que la vie en rose, mais bonus point plus kinky (je pensais jamais decrire les demons de minuit comme etant kinky mais here we are-)
Ou juste n'importe quoi d'autre-
(And words of wisdom from my evil advisor @quijicroix : lÊgende vivante (de Lorenzo) ça va avec tout. Ou une chanson triste de jul (pas bande organisÊe, tu peux pas ken dessus). Après tout le monde dÊteste la police ou nik le front national c les chansons les plus romantiques que je connaisse. Y a santiago aussi, avec le gros mat la. Les trois mâts, pour le steddyhands.)
Tout sauf la fucking vie en rose pitier (meme si, encore une fois, Con o'Neill la chante vraiment bien)
Welcome back english people ! To sum it up : la vie en rose is a french song for tourists that set up a fight or flight reaction in every native speaker. I'm glad people enjoyed this, but I cannot describe the cringe and disappointment I felt when they decided to have him sing this song- (even tho he sings it beautifully (which is part of the disappointment))
They are SO MUCH love songs in french, why this one.
PS : at this point (ep7) I don't know why Stede is still bothering with Ed "I'm hitting the banks didn't tell him which one" teach, when Izzy hands is right there ????? Sir please open your eyes
#I've never felt so validated by a show in my life#eat shit izzy haters !!!!!! How does it feel to loose this hard ?? hehehe#If you saw me post this with a huge typo in the title#No u did not#our flag means death#ofmd#ofmd spoilers#ofmd season 2#ofmd s2#izzy hands#wee john feeney#wee john ofmd#izzy hands ofmd#drag show#drag queens#ofmd s2 ep6#pirates#digital painting#illustration#art#my art#digital art#fanart#ofmd fanart#israel hands#prints
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i was pregaming with the boys and my buddy tyler started going off on how cold it was gonna be that night, ribbing me for not bringing a jacket cause "man, you aways get cold!"
i offered to run down the street to my place to grab one, and he just stared at me like an idiot. "why do that when you can just borrow one of mine?"
i thought he'd just toss me one of his hoodies, but he ushered me back to his room and had me try on his leather jackets, watching me like a hawk and critiquing their fit more to himself than to me. "Nah, that one makes your arms look small," "this one falls on your hips weird", "you're swimming in that one, lol".
when he found one he approved of, he pointed me to a mirror in the living room where the rest of the guys were waiting. in my reflection was just some guy. just some guy, standing around with just some other guys, drinking beers and laughing at youtube videos. no too round shoulders or too wide hips or too long sleeves to give him away.
i locked eyes with our buddy jason through the mirror as drove his knuckles into my scalp and smiled, "That's our fucking boy!"
#forcemasc#actual shit that happened tho#ftm#cis bro validation#i love my fuckin boys so damn much#non-sexual post#just cant gush about how good this felt irl
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the gorgug-porter conversation is interesting to me because like. yea for the overwhelming majority of the conversation porterâs being shitty & trying to fit gorgug into a box that gorgug just does not fit into by trying to make gorgugâs relationship with his rage more focused on the aggression aspect of it. but then thereâs also this specific thing that brennan brought up again in the ap, which is that gorgugâs relationship with his rage is wholly âthis is a tool i use to protect my friends.â which isnât a bad thing! but thatâs his Whole relationship with it, & gorgug seems to place next to no value on his rage in relationship to himself. which is problematic, because itâs first & foremost his rage.
being raised in a household with a sort of toxic positivity largely meant that, whether or not it was his parentsâ intention, gorgug internalized the message that more traditionally ânegativeâ emotions such as anger are the wrong response to something. part of the reason he prioritizes his artificing is probably because itâs âfixingâ things. in comparison to being a barbarian, which gorgug associates with âbreakingâ things. good vs. bad behavior, in his eyes.
itâs a totally unacceptable bar to measure a 16 y/o by, but i do think part of porterâs reasoning for not letting gorgug multiclass is him recognizing that gorgug generally does not value anger as a valid emotional response to something, at the very least for himself. & that directly conflicts with what being a barbarian is, because whether you like it or not, that rage is what fuels you. but again, barring a kid from pursuing something they deeply care about in part (not entirely, porter has a lot of more bullshit reasons) because of their fundamental values & world outlook is crazy.
so yes, 98% of porterâs reasoning is pretty shitty, immature, rife with a toxic view that thereâs only one proper way to access rage, & generally not a good thing to do as a teacher, but also within that reasoning is the 2% of âthere is a fundamental part of yourself that you only value if you can use it to take care of other people & you need to accept that as something that can take care of you, too.â but thatâs something to discuss with a therapist or a guidance counselor, not something that should hugely impact gorgugâs academic future.
#gorgug thistlespring#fantasy high#dimension 20#fhjy#fhjy spoilers#btw these r just my personal opinions u r 100% free to disagree#gorgug & his rage interest me so deeply because of how deeply that rage existing seems to be against gorgugâs own will#like mechanically classes are choices & you can switch stuff around any time. but gorgug as a barbarian always felt like an unwilling choice#like that 14 y/o kid did not want to have rage. & that really interests me.#iâve seen people before be like âwhat if gorgug dropped barbarian & went full srtificerâ but i feel like that simply canât happen??#mechanically yea sure but it always felt like a core part of gorgug that the rage will always be there & itâs a matter of how you channel it#idk. dnd classes narratively being treated as âyou can not lose this part of youâ even though you technically can#gorgug could be lvl 19 artificer & heâd still have 1 level of barbarian. because that is part of who he is.#btw i donât think porter truly cares about gorgug valuing his rage only as a way to be a human shield#i think porter just sees that as âwrongâ but like. not as in âyou need to take care of yourselfâ & more âyou arenât conformingâ#he thinks itâs wrong for the wrong reasons. the nastier ���this is how you should beâ reasons#ppl being like âwe r being too hard on porter. itâs an 150% courseload gorgug will be overwhelmedâ i think r missing the point bc like.#that is 100% a valid reason to not approve gorgug for multiclassing! but thatâs also 100% not the reason porter rejected him.#that whole interaction was basically porter shoving his percieved version of conformity down gorgugâs throat. was v neurodivergent kid coded#no hate to anyone saying that last point btw these r all just opinions#thinking about last ep wilma & digby being like âyouâre a great barbarian. youâre so great at it. but look at what you made!!!â like.#they would never mean it like that. but when you only understand half of your son he is going to prioritize the half you do.
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anyway to end the series on ganondorf tp's writing, my take (which isn't canon but arguable as a valid "death of the author" read imo) is that he is at his most iredeemable AND that's because he has zero things left to lose and no community left and his goal doesn't even make sense anymore he is parasitic and a ghost and pathologically obsessed by his own godlike legitimacy because that is the only thing he still has and it has prolonged his life in a horrible diminished state in a nightmare dimension so SURELY it must mean something right right RIGHT
#thoughts#twilight princess#tp#tp ganondorf#ganondorf#sorry I am quite frustrated by the Discourse#there is a middle ground between evil bad evil bad and uwu baby!!!!!!! and it's the most interesting reading!!!! aaaaaa#even him not mentioning the gerudos being immediately taken as him not caring about them is veeeery frustrating to me#like#imo the three arguable arguments about what happened to the gerudos are#1) they left hyrule because fuck that shit (real and valid) and he would have felt betrayed#2) they collaborated with hyrule to subdue him (??? that seems weird to me but sure why not) and he would have felt BETRAYED#3) they were genocided because they stood by him#and of course we could assume he doesn't care (even if he drapes his execution sword in gerudo patternings which)#(not gonna lie is probably artists not really paying attention to motives but it's still interesting and noticeable)#but wouldn't that be like. deeply traumatic either way.#would you talk about your people to the enemies you hate. would you remind them of what they took from you#in ww they are children and he is old and had time to reflect#in tp he suffered nonstop and then rejected all connection and all community and is feverishly obsessed by what almost was#and they are not children there is no generational thing happening they are all royalties (and link!!! hi link!!) the beef is genuine#and EVEN IF he doesn't care that would at least be a massive wound to his ego#he had an ego collapse followed by a massive ego surge that's literally his canon character arc#so of course he would be weird about the gerudos!! how could he not be weird about the gerudos!!#again we are always assuming lack of interiority by default for ganondorf and that annoys meeeeeee#especially when there could be unbelievably interesting and tragic interpretations from what we get
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shoutout to media with only one female character thatâs just a vessel for a sexual assault and/or pregnancy plot line with very little or no characterization beyond that
#inspired by#mouthwashing#thereâs other media this relates to#Iâm just thinking a lot about this game right now#idk I love the game and its art direction and the story is still amazing#it just sucks that anya wasnât as developed as the other characters#and felt like more of a tool to make jimmy more of an unsympathetic asshole#almost everything about her revolved around jimmy#I guess you could make an argument that since jimmy is an unreliable narrator that anyaâs lack of character is how he views her#sheâs nothing to him#but even the sections playing as curly she falls kinda flat and still involves jimmy#idk maybe Iâm being too critical#Iâm just kinda tired of plot lines like these#where women are reduced down to their trauma and thatâs all they are#not saying they shouldnât exist!! they are still valid stories#I just wish they had more tact#I understand though that this is an indie title with only so much time and resources to put into such a big project#and I understand that more time was probably put into the art direction and gameplay and coding than just some extra lines of dialogue
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I just. What do you think was going through his mind when his car exploded into pieces in front of him and the piece that landed next to him was a hand crank? Like the world was ending around him, he'd just gone through the rollercoaster of losing and then finding his angel again, and from the burning bones of the Bentley fate offers him an echo of the same object he'd once been given divinely. What did it feel like to reach for a souvenir and find that object given to him in this new context? What did it feel like to use that again in this moment of once again offering the fate of humanity up to the choice of one it's own? To be able to hold this thing, born again from a human made object, and say this time I am going to use it to give them the opportunity to choose their own fate?
#good omens#crowley#I keep thinking about this and how he leaves that airfield wondering if this was all God's plan from the start#I wonder if it felt like finding equilibrium or maybe a sort of reclamation#Like acknowledging that even if you are not who you once were you can and often do still carry parts of them with you#And validation that carrying those parts do not mean you are still that person#That same act starting the universe in motion again has such a different meaning being used to give Adam a choice#Despite the fact it is clearly meant to be an echo of starting the universe for the sake of being created to do so#Hi yes I'm still thinking about the damn hand crank
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'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasnât actually trans.
I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.
About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: âWell, of course I feel sexy putting on womenâs clothing and having a womanâs body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, wonât that probably mean itâll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?â'
-Casey Plett, Consciousness
#this quote always moves me almost to tears when i remember it#i'm not a trans woman and i don't share the author's specific experiences with transition#but it really moves me that she frame transition as joyfully giving yourself permission to approach your body#not as something that has to be disciplined and deprived and made small in all these various ways#but as a means for experiencing pleasure and joy and delight and for insisting that our feelings and desires are worth#valuing and exploring and treasuring#i always used to think of prioritizing those things for myself as selfish and irresponsible#but who does it harm to want to experience pleasure in your own body?#it's such a beautifully simple and powerful switch to have flip in your head#and equally why are we forced to deny our own pleasure in transition and anything else related to our bodies in the name of moral rectitude#this is why i get so confused and pissed off when other trans people are fatphobic for example#like why are you so invested in politics of shame and disgust that never had any purpose other than#violently disciplining people as if they've violated moral codes by existing in a body#to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities#like again this system of violence is foundational to homophobia and transphobia#so why are you acting like it has nothing to do with you#even if you are unmoved by the urgency of other people's suffering which btw you should be moved by#what do you hope to gain by acting a collaborator and handmaiden to those systems#Casey Plett#she really is one of my favorite authors i wish more non-canadians read her#this quote is from a series of columns she did ont transition and every single one is a banger#i love when she talks about the people-pleasing elements of dysphoria and transition denial#she's so sharp about noting how many of us deny our own dysphoria on the grounds that others like and validate our bodies#that's how i always felt during my cis conventionally feminine era#it pleased other people so much and also that reception felt so hollow and joyless to me because i hated it#i get less of that positive feedback but that feels so unimportant next to the joy and pleasure i get to experience#said with the understanding that i'm very privileged in being able to prioritize those things without fear. but it was a switch flip#personal nonsense
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Unfortunately for you all, the more crankiness I see about S2, the more I am obligated to love it. Gonna love those gay pirates, both active and retired, so hard. đ
#to be clear#are there things I would have liked to have seen done differently?#absolutely!#are there valid critiques?#sure thing!#are there things that didnât work for me personally?#yes indeed#but it was a beautiful season of television and I am so grateful#I love the story and the characters so much#I love that Ed and Stede are finally free#I love that the crew grew into their own#and I love how it ended in a way that felt both resolved and that there were still many stories ahead#ofmd#emynn.op
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I think my Crane's deepest secret is that he broke down and cried his eyes out for an entire hour after killing Great Granny Keeny because despite the horrific abuse she put him through as a child, there was still a small part of him that desperately craved affection from his mother figure and he knew he'd never be able to receive it now.
#sometimes a person can have shitty parents that they deeply resent but still desperately want for things to be different!#always been fascinated by how year one crane felt like he was seeking some sort of validation from his parents#so yoinking that for mine!#shiversverse#jonathan crane#child abuse tw
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quick sketch of Malam + Faroe
(Malam design was inspired by @physical-manifestation-of-spite )
#i felt so validated when i saw everyone drawing Malam similarly to how i was imagining him lol#my art#malevolent#malevolent podcast#malam malevolent#faroe malevolent
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man rodeoh hasnt added my not so good review and now im starting to wonder if theres some suspicious reason they dont have any reviews under 4 stars
#its an underwear brand i tried out awhile ago#they felt really cheap and thin and unstretchy when they arrived and within a year completely fell apart at the seams#like i ripped the waistband right off from just putting them on.#the croctches wore right out to nothing and im not even active! i hardly do anything!#and like maybe a year is too much to ask for clothing nowadays but idk i feel like they should last longer than that#i cant afford to replace all my underwear every year#also for tboy oriented underwear i was sorely disappointed that they didnt have pad functionality#idk man#rodeoh#maybe they just arent made for big fat guys idk#the inseam was awkwardly proportioned so it crumpled a lot under my belly but wasnt long enough to go over it#i tried to record a video of how easy it was to pull em apart but it just made me look really strong and also like the start of an OF#i need some validation that im not the only one that experienced this iim dying squirtle
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don't really vent here much these days but man. me/cfs has really affected what things i can enjoy now
not only am i fighting for my life against depression to get into things and Stay invested i also need to factor in fatigue and brain fog so reading and actually understanding a book can take forever now
and going outside? i have to figure out how far i can go/what's my halfway point (alone my range is very small basically just walks around my area that are nowhere near the distance i used to be able to cover, and I rarely get to go places these days because no one's really got the time/energy to come with me or take me and I really can't handle public transport these days. and I suppose it's hard to go somewhere sorta far alone now. I want/need someone with me.)
just... sigh. the boredom and loneliness are probably the worst thing about this. the worst is the isolation though
#a podcast i love just know i wont be able to keep up with right now and it's a shame#i've fallen off mmos too so i've not really felt the urge to play swtor and that was part of my life for like... a sth like a whole decade?#and thats how i've made so many of my friends today! like the vast majority of them#well. more fandomwise but ygm#so many hobbies are becoming harder/more exhausting to do -- god i miss being able to cook routinely#i will say it's been really helpful and validating to find spaces to talk with other pwME though
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"fandom discourse isnt that serious" yeah duh but i feel like i should be allowed to talk about things like people being misogynistic or justifying abuse without being told im complaining too much or something, when these are such extremely prevalent issues in fandom đ
#also idk about you guys but complaining is fun to me#like. being super negative and focusing solely on that isnt fun but that isnt me#maybe thats how some people might see it but thats not how it is from my perspective#i like to enjoy lots of fandom content and then when i see something that rubs me the wrong way i like to get my feelings out#so i block then post about it and then move on#its really not as deep as people make it seem#you dont have to follow me and can even block me if my page is too negative for you <3#other things i complain about are usually me talking about not having good experiences in the fandom#like being told my characterization of saiki is wrong by people who literally didnt understand a word of saiki k#which i feel is valid of me to complain about lol#ok whatever the point is. literally just leave me alone LMAO#this is kind of a vent i guess#someone irl said this to me and i felt inclined to talk about it here because people have said this on here too#also im autistic so a lot of it truly just is that serious to me LMAOODODNDKEKD#meows post
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the dead boy detective agency main four are a polycule on various points of the aromantic/asexual spectrum (in addition to their various sexualities), with the various side characters playing the roles of parental figures or talking stages. thank you for coming to my ted talk
#itâs like scooby doo but they donât have a dog#this is of course just my opinion#but: gay ace demiaro edwin / bi demiaro charles / pan greyaroace crystal / lesbian aroace niko are v real to me#the older characters work as parental figures ofc#then thereâs characters like Monty and Thomas who are chatting up edwin but arenât officially in the polycule#that being said: achillean greyace monty / pan aroflexible thomas are also real to me#this isnât even getting into the gender fuckery I am putting these characters in#but I felt like sharing#esp since I keep seeing ppl fight over catwin and palaland or whatever that ship name is#I donât think catwin works not bc of some perceived age thing but bc the cat king is v sex forward and edwin is Not Into That#doesnât mean tck is ruled out from a place on the chart itâs just not how he wanted#same for monty who came on v romantically and edwin was not having it#all valid and fair !!!#plus the main four needed to get their shit together but this is my fantasy world so shhh#oh and for crystal x charles I think theyâre the most allo of th main four so it tracks they had the closest to a traditional relationship#but then everyone gets their shit together and that doesnât happen as frequently lol#esp as time goes on#like the polycule is more of a series of qprs with some sugar/spice on occasion#there isnât really a point to this post but this blog is me talking to myself most of the time anyway#dead boy detectives#dbda#edwin payne#charles rowland#crystal palace#niko sasaki#monty the crow#the cat king
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I HATE how much people do to defend noah on here and on twitter like why are you all forgetting heâs a zionist?
#Iâm tired of the excuse that he is young and that heâll grown and learn because heâs already grown and should know whatâs right and wrong#what he said and what he did was NOT a mistake#calling zionism sexy is not something heâll be forgiven for EVER#there are people his age that know better#maybe he could have changed after what he posted on instagram#but he really proved he doesnât gaf after that video of him calling zionism sexy leaked#and i do not feel sorry for him because he put himself in that position knowing the amount of criticism he was gonna get#but he doesnât gaf and i can guarantee you that apology on TikTok was just so people wouldnât boycott season 5 đ#which also yeah reminder to not watch the season on netflix when it comes out and pirate it instead#if people donât like noah thereâs a valid reason and itâs because of what he did back in october 2023#you guys also need to remind yourselves that noah and the show most likely had lots of palestinian/muslim fans#and i can not imagine how hurt and upset they must have felt when they saw what noah did#so please stop shaming others for disliking noah because we have every right to#and this is coming from someone who was a huge fan of his and i even defended him from haters#but i can not defend him from this because what he did was just beyond wrong#stranger things#will byers#byler
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