#how can i change that mindset

[fyodorsushankaaa]

Why Gifted Kids Are Actually Special Needs

why am i crying over a video.

[inkskinned]

you were raised in comparison.

it wasn't always obvious (well. except for the times that it was), but you internalized it young. you had to eat what you didn't like, other people are going hungry, and you should be grateful. you had to suck it up and walk on the twisted ankle, it wasn't broken, you were just being a baby. you were never actually suffering, people obviously had it worse than you did.

you had a roof over your head - imagine! with the way you behaved, with how you talked back to your parents? you're lucky they didn't kick you out on your ass. they had friends who had to deal with that. hell, you have friends who had to deal with that. and how dare you imply your father isn't there for you - just because he doesn't ever actually talk to you and just because he's completely emotionally checked out of your life doesn't mean you're not fucking lucky. think about your cousins, who don't even get to speak to their dad. so what if yours has a mean streak; is aggressive and rude. at least you have a father to be rude to you.

you really think you're hurting? you were raised in a home! you had access to clean water! you never so much as came close to experiencing a real problem. sure, okay. you have this "mental illness" thing, but teenagers are always depressed, right. it's a phase, you'll move on with your life.

what do you mean you feel burnt out at work. what do you mean you mean you never "formed healthy coping mechanisms?" we raised you better than that. you were supposed to just shoulder through things. to hold yourself to high expectations. "burning out" is for people with real jobs and real stress. burnout is for people who have sick kids and people who have high-paying jobs and people who are actually experiencing something difficult. recently you almost cried because you couldn't find your fucking car keys. you just have lost your sense of gratitude, and honestly, we're kind of hurt. we tell you we love you, isn't that enough? if you want us to stick around, you need to be better about proving it. you need to shut up about how your mental health is ruined.

it could be worse! what if you were actually experiencing executive dysfunction. if you were really actually sick, would you even be able to look at things on the internet about it? you just spend too much time on webMD. you just like to freak yourself out and feel like you belong to something. you just like playing the victim. this is always how you have been - you've always been so fucking dramatic. you have no idea how good you have it - you're too fucking sensitive.

you were like, maybe too good of a kid. unwilling to make a real fuss. and the whole time - the little points, the little validations - they went unnoticed. it isn't that you were looking for love, specifically - more like you'd just wanted any one person to actually listen. that was all you'd really need. you just needed to be witnessed. it wasn't that you couldn't withstand the burden, but you did want to know that anyone was watching. these days, you are so accustomed to the idea of comparison - you don't even think you belong in your own communities. someone always fits better than you do. you're always the outlier. they made these places safe, and then you go in, and you are just not... quite the same way that would actually-fit.

you watch the little white ocean of your numbness lap at your ankles. the tide has been coming in for a while, you need to do something about it. what you want to do is take a nap. what you want to do is develop some kind of time machine - it's not like you want your life to stop, not completely, but it would really nice if you could just get everything to freeze, just for a little while, just until you're finished resting. but at least you're not the worst you've been. at least you have anything. you're so fucking lucky. do you have any concept of the amount of global suffering?

a little ant dies at the side of your kitchen sink. you look at its strange chitinous body and think - if you could just somehow convince yourself it is enough, it will finally be enough and you can be happy. no changes will have to be made. you just need to remember what you could lose. what is still precious to you.

you can't stop staring at the ant. you could be an ant instead of a person, that is how lucky you are. it's just - you didn't know the name of the ant, did you. it's just - ants spend their whole life working, and never complain. never pull the car over to weep.

it's just - when it died, it curled up into a tight little ball.

something kind of uncomfortable: you do that when you sleep.

[s0fter-sin]

did we ever figure out if mic not having visible nostrils was a stylistic choice or if he anatomically does not have nostrils bc if he doesn’t that’s dumb as hell

as a worldbuilding girlie, mic's anatomy is a source of unending interest to me. it gets into the whole discussion of how much does a non mutation quirk change the body to suit it and also how far can those changes go before it’s classified as a mutation quirk altogether

his body should be geared towards getting oxygen to his lungs and also storing as much oxygen as physically possible. i love his lungs being abnormally large for a human body, his diaphragm thinner and stretchier to allow for more inflation, his ribcage wider and deeper maybe even made entirely of cartilage instead of bone (which would make his decision to either physically fight or remain a long range fighter even more interesting bc he’s more likely to be critically injured if he’s hit centre mass (but he still has a named super move that is a punch so he chooses to physically fight anyway (which hello interesting characterisation what could be the motive behind that 👀))

his entire internal system could look completely different to accommodate for his enlarged lungs; he’d probably have to have a bigger heart and veins to pump a higher than normal blood volume in order to support them, he’d probably get dehydrated at the drop of a hat so would need more water than average which would affect the bladder and maybe the kidneys

we all make gag reflex jokes but what if the structure of his throat is completely different? what if his airway is wider, stealing room from his oesophagus so it grew smaller than average and it’s forced him to adapt the way he eats, even cutting out certain stiffer/thicker foods altogether? (think foods that don’t chew down) what if he has to have a near liquid diet or all food has to be cut up super small or with some kind of sauce to help him swallow? disabilities present in so many different ways, we already give him sight and hearing impairments but if he has digestion issues too? that is so interesting to explore and would also give him a unique relationship with all might, since all might had to adapt to his sudden restrictions whereas mic would’ve dealt with it all his life and could give him unique, actually helpful tips and coping mechanisms

when he uses his loud voice special move against the doctor, his chest comically distends and that could easily just be typical anime body exaggeration but what if it isn’t? if he has stretch marks all over his chest and torso from his skin rapidly stretching and splitting? what would his workout routine look like since he’d need greater upper body mass to support his muscles, which also need to be able to handle flexing to an insane degree to allow for the distension?

all this to say

taking away his nostrils - a main way of getting oxygen into the body - makes no sense

[skunkes]

Nooooo that sad little smunkler has broken my heart! Wtf Talon stop being so mean to him for no reason!!! >:[

its okay, he just has bad days sometimes

[catwouthats]

Why are people mad that others occasionally call the Wolverine “Logan Howlett”??? Like ik his actual name is “James Howlett”, but Logan is the name he chose isn’t it? And I think adding the Howlett at the end honors his past while the Logan at the front shows he’s changed and is not the same person.

Hence, Logan Howlett…

I’m still gonna occasionally call him James Howlett if it fits the context more, but can someone genuinely explain why they hate the “Logan Howlett” combo?

[sirlancenotalot]

the fact that people still use the "no one would talk to a friend that way" "no one would grieve for someone like that if it was just platonic" etc arguments to prove a ship is canon is so annoying to me. yes i get it, we got queerbaited hard but where does it say that romance has to be higher than a friendship or no one said friends couldn't also be lovers or vice versa....? i normally say "popular media tropes that usually are for romance" when i talk about fiction but pulling a blanket statement like "NO ONE talks to a friend that way" is so invalidating to so much of our queer experiences. the beauty of queer friendship literally lies in the emotional fulfilment we get from our friends in a way that i don't normally see in cishet friendships for whatever reasons. so idk it's just been bothering me to see these kinds of posts every now and then. "you wouldn't do [x] for your friends" i would actually. i would sell my soul for them. i would kill for them and kill myself for them. i would do anything for my friends that i would do for a partner. the "proof" for a ship doesn't have to be by invalidating their friendship. also like aren't most of the ships so powerful when they're also each other's closest friends? do y'all not think of your partners as your best friends?

[muirmarie]

Me: I joke about writing the same McCoy centric story over and over again in different ways

Me: and like. I love doing it and imma keep doing it because it makes me happy.

Me: but also. I do sometimes wonder if it's like. A little Much.

Me: like maybe I should branch out or something

Me: [reads another fundamental and extremely insulting misread of McCoy's character by someone who is clearly making a Choice to cast McCoy as the villain, because they have to get him out of the way of spirk, because they're too???? idk immature??? to realize that even when you're in a relationship with one person, other ppl can and SHOULD still be important to you]

Me: lmao I hope I AM too much actually!!!! I hope it is 100% obnoxious how much I love that doctor!!!!! Time to write more versions of the same story of McCoy being forced to realize that he is loved and cared for!!!!!!

Me: I KNOW MY NICHE AND IMMA DIE IN THAT NICHE, THANKS

[bucephaly]

Amazing take on the dash tonight. 'I think most people actually don't want or value or need romantic affection or attachment and that most people are aro' uhhhhhhhhhhhh????

Also like. I'm p sure what constitutes the difference between romantic and platonic and sexual affection and attraction is purely cultural and different to everyone. I wish people would stop focusing so hard on the idea that these labels are like actual objectively true things about people. Like, would some people probably be happier without feeling forced to pursue relationships by society? Sure. But saying that most people are Actually Aromantic and that 'very few' people actually want or value romantic attachment ???? I'm honestly kinda tired of these like 'most people are Actually bi lol' 'most people are at least a Little ace!!' Etc etc type takes. 'No one is Actually cis' like can you shut upppppp these words are just WORDS for extremely abstract cultural concepts that mean different things to everyone yall do not need to take them this seriously. And im just so tired of people being like 'man knowing about this identity helped me, im sure Everyone feels like this and Everyone actually secretly hates this common thing' like uhhhh no. They don't. Lol.

[austin-friars]

Watching Becoming Elizabeth, and remembering in Mirror and the Light one of Gardiner's gripes was that some teachings allowed women power, which is so ironic because he becomes the Lord Chancellor to the first Queen of England in her own right, and ironically ends up despising her husband, the king.

TBH toward the end of his life, he doesn't just become more tolerant but kinder in general. One thing that always stuck out to me is how he indirectly protected people who were condemned of heresy in Winchester and saved them from torture/execution. I can only imagine their fear when he died.

[doodlejoltik]

my favourite writing device is having an un-Rei-liable narrator

[lyssasdrafts]

acotar tiktok fandom when they realize that you can be siblings and have different childhoods despite being related 😨😨😨😨

[shorlinesorrows]

sometimes I run into discourse about The Odyssey vs. EPIC: The Musical and I get tired

this is why I think we need to start taking a more oral tradition approach to stories like the Odyssey tbh, and I'd argue stories in general

The original and the adaptation being different, or the characters being different, doesn't make one or the other Wrong.

EPIC isn't claiming to be a direct retelling of the Odyssey, and the Odyssey doesn't need to be put under a moral microscope just to prove that "Odysseus was a Bad Guy Actually i can't believe you like EPIC" or "The Actual moral of everything is This."

Analysis is good, but we don't have to do it to spite other people's enjoyment of a piece of art!

One of the most beautiful things about many oral traditions is that the story changes over time. It grows to fit the ideas and needs of the people it's being told to and the place it's being told in. Each storyteller remembers different details more vividly, or adds a little flair, or forgets a few words, or adds a few words, and it grows.

EPIC doesn't have to be the Odyssey, and the Odyssey doesn't have to be EPIC. Enjoy them both. Adaptations and spins off of stories aren't a bad thing in themselves, even if they're different.

Heck, the Odyssey was almost Definitely an adaptation, conglomeration, or re-telling of other stories that were told orally before it was written down. And I'd bet that it continued to evolve and change even after it was put to paper. I highly doubt The Odyssey the only version of this story there was, long before our time.

It's fine if you dislike one or the other in any adaptation! Hell knows I've absolutely despised some adaptations of media i enjoyed in the past. That's not a bad thing. But one story isn't objectively morally better or worse compared to another in adaptations.

Basically, my whole point is that both the Odyssey and EPIC are Great to me personally, but they aren't completely the same thing and that's what makes them great.

And I think people maybe need to be ok with that!

[telesodalite]

I need to be weirder about the scavengers and cannibalism...

[onemillionfurries]

my biggest pet peeve with web 2.0 dying is that people really think that the cryptobro web 3.0 is the inevitable next step. like it's written in stone that the internet will take the form of NFTs and cryptocurrency and the "metaverse" in the future.

like. come on. when was the last time you've actually seen anything NFT related in the year of our lord 2023? has ANYONE other than the cryptobros and their bots on twitter been talking about it?? what about the "metaverse"??? im pretty sure Meta itself even dropped their vr "metaverse" crap.

also even if the "mainstream" internet DOES go in that direction, that doesn't mean we need to follow? Despite the total takeover of web 2.0 and social media, personal sites and forums DO still exist. there are still IRC chats and MUCKs and MUDs. We will still have websites and web browsers in a web 3.0-dominated internet. even if those become niche.

plus, i think the whole reason web 2.0 and social media took off in the first place was because it was convenient. rather than building your own website from scratch, you instead had your own profile that you can easily upload photos to and set your mood and make small posts. people saw it as a way to easily keep up with friends, so they flocked to it.

what the fuck does web 3.0 offer to the average person? needing to put on a clunky, expensive set of goggles to virtually attend a work meeting? artificial scarcity assigned to shitty monkey jpegs?? other than techbros and billionares creating artificial hype around this shit to get people flocking there, what actually has people staying?

[taegularities]

some men are textbook villains fr

[maximura]

We celebrate NI-KI Sundays but today is the 9th of December, a NI-KI Monday, and his birthday. He's not just another bias. He's Thee Bias.

If any of you have been following me for a long time you’re probably wondering where this guy came from. I don’t know. One day I was a normal person who only remembers him as the punk from Drunk-Dazed and then it was July 28th 2024 and he became my new kpop bias.

It was the Fatal Trouble performance at KCON, he had me before that song even finished and it's only 2 minutes 58 seconds. The Fatal Trouble dance practice video superglued my coffin shut so no other man would ever get my attention like this again. I changed my URL. I changed my profile photo. I've been a black and white editer for 9 years and only now am I learning how to colour edit for him (!!!). I’m basically a new woman. I still don't know how the fuck he did that in under 3 months.

Real talk though, I was ready to leave KPOP behind. It’s been a tough year for me and I didn't feel any joy left in the music. But I stayed for him and I’m glad I did. He’s so ridiculous but it makes me smile and it keeps me creative and at the end of the day, that’s the best type of bias to have. He sparks so much Joy and those people are so special actually. Anyways, I hope everyone has a nice day in his honour.