#half assed ‘friendships’

[hayatheauthor]

"Why do you care so much about accidentally leaving people out?" Because I've had friend groups where they were the planets and I was their Pluto.

I've had friend groups where our dynamics revolved around a Sun, with everyone vying for their attention if only to bask in their light for a mere moment. Where our thinly strung bonds collapsed the second our Sun left.

I've had friend groups where they bonded as Saturn's rings, finding solace in their shared shortcomings while isolating those more talented than them.

But I've also had friend groups where we bond as Neptune and Uranus—so similar we could be known as twins. Friend groups like Venus and Earth: so awfully different, yet it was those differences that kept us together.

And I would rather create a social system like the latter than the former.

[dealerlover]

they should set their differences aside and work together. imagine the horrors they could create

[wryoth]

GUYS I NEED MORE ZAM AND KABOODLE FICS I'M GENUINELY ABOUT TO CRASH OUT RN PLS PLS PLS PLS

Like idk, somethin about two characters being two sides of the same coin, they both care but it's not enough for them to burn the entire world for each other because deep inside they've already accepted that maybe the other will always be a better person than them. One thinks they can prevent history from repeating itself because they were "already" a bad person from the start but they feel like the other isn't so they try their best to help them. But the other continues to fall down that path because if the person who reflects them can get better, then how will they understand? It's like two people with mutual understanding, yet never being able to TRUST each other again while also being able mending each other's pain and it's like UGHHHHHHHHH THEY WERE DOOMED FROM THE START BRO

LIKE UGHHHH THEY PARALLEL EACH OTHER SO BAD IDK. KAB IS LOYAL TO THOSE SHE CARES ABOUT AND IS WILLING TO RECONSIDER HER PRIORITIES FOR THEM. WHILE ZAM IS LOYAL TO HIS BELIEFS AND IS WILLING TO BREAK PEOPLE HE LOVES FOR IT. BETRAYAL MEETS BETRAYAL AAAAAAAA

[kazu-naito]

at this point i should just replace ramesses on my bio cause i am certainly not being very faithful to him 😭

[cancerian-woman]

Bonnie fans are so misunderstood I wish more people “got” us.

No one understands us like each other and other fans who are capable of critical-thinking skills to see we aren’t being harmful in our thoughts. We don’t ask for anything but respect and to be left alone. We never will be respected by people who don’t want to respect us. It’s sad, but sometimes you have to persevere! Don’t try to make them understand you and just be great. I promise there’s more rewards in remaining yourself than to lessen your presence in fandom! Some people want you to lessen your engagements to make them comfortable and you should never do that!

There’s two posts on here I’ll use as examples for being misunderstood and what you should do! One more recent than the other I’ll describe. Not tagging each as OP’s don’t deserve hate. Just gonna describe them if you get it you get it. One criticized fans labeling them “scary” and acted like we were villains for explaining why that was rude. The other the OP just shared their disdain for Bonnie’s ships while praising Bonenzo and furthering discussions with someone in their replies just not understanding any of us really. It’s a huge issue if Bonnie is paired with toxicity but never a problem for their favorite characters or ships. Completely ignoring that Bonenzo only happened to give Enzo a plotline, and the fact that it was to prove that Bonnie doesn’t deserve a leading male as Bamon was baited! Kat herself didn’t know they were happening back then.

Enzo wasn’t even a fully developed character, there was no discussion on how he too abused Bonnie and if Bonnie is willing to date someone who abused her like Enzo then what was the issue with Nora, Damon, Klaus, Kai, and Kol? There was none they just don’t see Bonnie as deserving. She’s too good for everyone thus limiting her desirability and even sexuality. All of these women were too good but that didn’t stop further relationships! Some had multiple seasons mind you, and that users favorite ship has many years of content with arguably one of the most abusive characters lol.

I simply can’t take criticisms from users seriously who do nothing for Bonnie beyond criticizing her fanbase on how they choose to engage. I don’t think you should either! In fact, grow from the bullshit! Create the content! Write the meta. Write the fic! Have fun! You are just as valid as anyone else here!

I say all of this as one of the few people who were stalked & harassed by a fan for nearly a year and a half. Be yourself and don’t limit anything! There’s someone that’s gonna enjoy what you have to say and understand you.

[cameleonvermillon]

While I do think the setup and payoff of Koujaku's route is a successful and good use of subversion (big supporting character throughout the common route, then just gone for most of his own route so, you, the player can experience the strain on his and Aoba's relationship in real-time, mmm, delicious) it does still make me laugh that when you get to Platinum Jail with him he just fucks off immediately.

In hindsight and with all the information after you finish playing it, yes, it makes more sense, but at the time???

BRO?? we have an evil corporation to stop?? BRO?? WHERE ARE YOU GOING?? HELLO??

[mainfaggot]

how do you cut someone off

[taehyunghobi]

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[sheila--e]

Guido Mista found shot twelve times in the chest in a parking lot, while eating a burger with no honey mustard. Local little blonde teenager caught in a nearby car explosion reports that "they were self inflicted upon trying to open the wrapper".

[sakuratruther]

it’s so sad that sakura and sasuke relationship is so overlooked by the fandom. i’m not talking specifically about romantic relationship, before everything they were friends; sasuke thinks of both her & naruto when he thinks of bonds, but for some antis (that are mostly sns shippers, sorry to say) it’s canon that sasuke doesn’t give a shit about sakura when?? it’s not true?? and because of association problems of The Brain i can’t stand sns anymore. i think both sns and ss incapsulate naruto’s themes. and even though i love sasusaku so much i think that they all should be together, in a weird toxic polyclue because they are each other’s family. and y’all leaving sakura out of it makes me wonder if you even read the thing throughly

[that-bat]

This is the family dynamic

(Tho to be fair for as much as Miranda pretends to care about Matt and Nate, she isn’t too fond of them either)

[baggy-holmes]

i’m annoyed. i’m annoyed. i’m annoyed. i’m annoyed.

[sea-sick-fish]

new ponysona :D

[neolithicastronaut]

We've passed the halfway mark and I am pleased to report no adverse affects on my least favourite tattoo so far. Will I like it more or less if it gets stretched all funky? Unsure.

Stay tuned for more "what the hell is my body doing? This shid is weird"

[cancerian-woman]

Was reading a Klaus/OC fic a few months ago (can’t remember the name) where the OC was Bonnie’s sister, but she was just a carbon copy of Bonnie. Same personality and character everything was the same. The author pretty much created another Bonnie just to put her with Klaus. Why not just make it a Klonnie fic? The lengths people will go to just to disrespect Bonnie is insane. Also saw one where they made Caroline black and of course it was Klaroline. I don’t understand these people.

I don’t get them either, lol.

Bonnie is already in the narrative. She has the matriarchal bloodline, she’s beautiful,loyal, very witty and goofy in smaller moments. This lovable cunning badass if you cross her and it’s best to stay on her good side. I love her for so many reasons. She’s not a hard character to love if you’re actually paying attention to her. Enough about me many don’t see Bonnie as “self-insertable” in a similar way JP saw Bonnie. Bonnie was so throughly sidelined, we know this and Kat has agreed to this plenty of times.

People who make OC Bonnie’s/black!Caroline or witch!Caroline’s period don’t care about Bonnie. They like the cool things to her storyline that can be mimicked or taken away. But, they don’t want to put effort into Bonnie as a character.

As a fic writer for Bonnie, you have to make Bonnie a little OOC to truly give her the emotional depth and personal development she deserved. This doesn’t mean she has to lose all her agency or personality. Never. Just that Bonnie had interests, she was very feminine and a young girl trying to survive all that mess. People don’t want to and don’t care to do the work that it takes to make her shine. Yeah, you have to decide what her career, future, home-life looks like with mini developments the series touched on but she still very worthy of a story! If you’re in the fandom spaces and engaging with fans Bonnie does deserve more than just saying she deserves better.

If you can do all those boxes for your OC/Black!Caroline etc why can’t you in return do it for Bonnie. I’ve seen people who said she’s too hard to write for. That’s just JP’s mentality.