#half assed ‘friendships’

[hayatheauthor]

"Why do you care so much about accidentally leaving people out?" Because I've had friend groups where they were the planets and I was their Pluto.

I've had friend groups where our dynamics revolved around a Sun, with everyone vying for their attention if only to bask in their light for a mere moment. Where our thinly strung bonds collapsed the second our Sun left.

I've had friend groups where they bonded as Saturn's rings, finding solace in their shared shortcomings while isolating those more talented than them.

But I've also had friend groups where we bond as Neptune and Uranus—so similar we could be known as twins. Friend groups like Venus and Earth: so awfully different, yet it was those differences that kept us together.

And I would rather create a social system like the latter than the former.

[gladosluver]

they should set their differences aside and work together. imagine the horrors they could create

[princerevelucide]

sure he has no practical need for one but collector still deserves his own little palisman friend

[cyb3rgummib34r]

PINKIE WANTS A CUPCAKE !!!

Pls don't mind if it's messy i used ms paint ;-;. I was doodling instead of doing classes now my brain has no brain juice to do my schoolwork and I blame me for always staying up until 5 am

(Kill meeee I need to fix my sleep schedule)

[kazu-naito]

at this point i should just replace ramesses on my bio cause i am certainly not being very faithful to him 😭

[andreal831]

Your opinion on Bamon?

I'm just knocking all of these out.

Like most of Damon friendships/romances, it's just not my cup of tea.

I do think Bonnie is one of the few people Damon truly cared for and was the only person he actually changed for.

That being said, he was still terrible to her.

Damon is one of those men that can be a good friend but once you put him into a romantic relationship, he's terrible. And saying Damon is ever a good friend is a stretch. We never once see Damon be a good romantic partner. He is possessive and controlling, yet always putting himself and his desires first. He is even that way with Bonnie in their friendship.

Damon has a bunch of his own issues so he throws himself completely into love to the point of it being scary and dangerous. He loves so fully that he no longer leaves space for the person he loves because he is so desperate for someone to love him. He no longer cares to respect their wishes or autonomy because he feels he knows better and that he is the only person that could possibly keep them safe. This is narcissism and abusive. Not love.

Their Season 6 friendship was good, but it was only possible because Damon was isolated from everyone else. Damon is only able to be a decent person in small doses or in a vacuum. But when things get complicated, he can't maintain it. We see this pattern play out in various scenarios.

We finally got to see some growth with Damon when he saves Bonnie multiple times when I saw sure he wouldn't. I actually thought they were going to improve his character. Bonnie is probably the only person that Damon actually works to save. Like put in actual work. Even with Stefan, he was quick to give up if there wasn't a simple solution. Their reunion after the prison world was sweet.

But then he forces her to see Kai after she nearly killed herself because of Kai, while he was one of the few people to truly know what Kai did to her. But again, we see some growth when he actually apologizes (I don't think he's ever done that) and when she tells him to leave, he actually listens (another first, also the fact that he didn't go on a murder rampage is an improvement). Then Bonnie just magically gets better and Damon is able to forget about it. Damon falls back into the same old habits of only communicating with Bonnie when he needs something. The prison world was the exception, not the rule.

I like that there are moments Damon actively chooses to save Bonnie, knowing it will prevent him from seeing Elena, but what is that worth when he leaves Bonnie with a note knowing that he would never see her again all because he missed Elena. Bonnie was devastated that she wasn't even worth a goodbye. But Damon was never good at the difficult emotions. Even with as much as he cared for Bonnie, he was not capable of being a good friend, let a lone a good romantic partner. If they could have lived in a prison world where nothing difficult happened, sure they could work. But Damon, in reality, would always take the easy way out and end up hurting Bonnie over and over again.

Damon didn't need to be in a relationship. He needed to learn to be on his own and value the other relationships in his life just as much as he valued his romantic relationships.

And no, this isn't a "Bonnie deserves better than toxic men" post. I mean she does. But even if Damon was just toxic to everyone else, I could get behind it. But Damon is also awful to her. Just less so than he is to everyone else. Bonnie had to constantly worry that Damon would betray her or choose Stefan or Elena over her. She never felt secured in their friendship because Damon was never able to value her over or even equal to Stefan and Elena. He was obsessed with them. Just as he had been obsessed with Katherine for nearly 200 years.

Thanks for the ask!

[cameleonvermillon]

While I do think the setup and payoff of Koujaku's route is a successful and good use of subversion (big supporting character throughout the common route, then just gone for most of his own route so, you, the player can experience the strain on his and Aoba's relationship in real-time, mmm, delicious) it does still make me laugh that when you get to Platinum Jail with him he just fucks off immediately.

In hindsight and with all the information after you finish playing it, yes, it makes more sense, but at the time???

BRO?? we have an evil corporation to stop?? BRO?? WHERE ARE YOU GOING?? HELLO??

[fuckyeahaplatonics]

Aplatonic culture is feeling kind of smug about the fact that you won't face the struggles people have in friendships because you're nonfriending

[cashmere-caveman]

My Country: The New Age, first and last episodes & Hanif Abdurraqib, For The Dogs Who Barked At Me On The Sidewalks in Connecticut (text/audio) image descriptions in alt

[sheila--e]

Guido Mista found shot twelve times in the chest in a parking lot, while eating a burger with no honey mustard. Local little blonde teenager caught in a nearby car explosion reports that "they were self inflicted upon trying to open the wrapper".

[knightdykes]

first day of classes has been survived. there was a guy who tried to strike up a conversation with me but I kind of gave him the autism creature face because I. don't really remember how to make casual conversation with acquaintances. so much of what makes me Me must be hidden because it's so personal and would open me up to potential harassment. I can't talk about myself at all, I don't know how. I haven't had to be around other people regularly for the last 4 years- really, the last 10 years. I'm a hermit and it has rendered me completely detached from current pop culture and trends and society and social structures and expectations. I prefer my metaphorical little cave high in the mountains that cannot be reached on foot if you don't know exactly where you're going.

[sakuratruther]

it’s so sad that sakura and sasuke relationship is so overlooked by the fandom. i’m not talking specifically about romantic relationship, before everything they were friends; sasuke thinks of both her & naruto when he thinks of bonds, but for some antis (that are mostly sns shippers, sorry to say) it’s canon that sasuke doesn’t give a shit about sakura when?? it’s not true?? and because of association problems of The Brain i can’t stand sns anymore. i think both sns and ss incapsulate naruto’s themes. and even though i love sasusaku so much i think that they all should be together, in a weird toxic polyclue because they are each other’s family. and y’all leaving sakura out of it makes me wonder if you even read the thing throughly

[gulava]

You don’t come to the story about love and act like there being romantic love in it makes it less. There are literally an endless supply of platonic relationships in KH. You are not losing out by there being three to four couples within the main cast- two of which are M/M. They are ALSO friends with deep bonds. That’s kind of the point.

[vilelittlecritter]

Me: "I don't like people, I prefer being on my own and not talking"

People: "oh okay we'll leave you be then"

Me: "wait no PLEASE COME BACK I WANT LOVE-"

[that-bat]

This is the family dynamic

(Tho to be fair for as much as Miranda pretends to care about Matt and Nate, she isn’t too fond of them either)

[baggy-holmes]

i’m annoyed. i’m annoyed. i’m annoyed. i’m annoyed.