#grounding method

[hollyida]

Shame

I write this blog because it helps me sort out my feelings, my thoughts about my life, and to share my experiences with some folks who either can relate or those who care about me. I do not ask for anything but a few minutes of your time if you are so inclined. But my last post brought gifts from some of you. You read my piece and felt for me and my family’s current situation. Your generosity and…

[poke-poke-poke]

Thinking about pkmn social media-- he's giving tips on how best to take care of pkmn that aren't too keen on water (goomy's there for enrichment)

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his hoodie got soaked,,

[afurtivecake]

Neil really isn't a reliable judge of cowardice because:

1)His standard of bravery is his mother, a woman who escaped with her son from her murderer mob boss husband because he was going to sell him to the mob but also decided she deserved alimony so she stole millions from her husband and his boss, and then evaded capture with her 10-year child in tow for 8 years across numerous countries. That's a hell of a bias to working with.

(Sorry Kevin, you were never going to beat Neil's mother in his rankings of "Bravest People I Know.")

2)Calling people cowards, or insinuating they're being cowards is like Neil's go-to insult. He just throws it out there all the time at everyone. And he does because it works.

Neil calls people cowardly for several purposes:

-He's trying to piss them off on purpose (Neil insults Riko during the interview by saying he's scared of facing Kevin.)

-He's trying to get them to do something and using it in a "don't be a fucking coward. just do it." sort of way (When he's trying to get Aaron to work things out with Andrew, he accuses Aaron of being too scared to face up to his mother's death so that he'd actually realize that's what he needs to work out with his brother. At the same time, he persuades Katelyn by telling her that she needs to stop being "collateral damage" and fight for herself. And somehow it works.)

-He's fishing for a reaction (After the Columbia incident, he insinuates that Andrew was too scared to point fingers at Drake and failed to protect the other kids all because he wanted Andrew to express his actual emotions.)

Whether or not he actually believes them to be cowards is almost besides the point. The fact is that by suggesting that they are cowards, Neil manages to make a lot of people dance to his tune.

Is it the best way to get people do things? Probably not. But it's a tactic that works for Neil.

All this to say, I don't think Neil calls Kevin a coward to express his disgust in him, I think he's doing it because, to him, "You're a coward", means "Hold strong and fight back."

[francesderwent]

thinking about snarky cultural/theological commentary and. the thing about snark is this: it’s easy, and it’s instant gratification. it’s easy because you’re playing to a likeminded audience. you get the way they think, you know the sort of things they find ridiculous, and so you know what’s going to play well with them. it’s not that hard to come up with a zinger that’s going to earn you applause from your own side. it’s also pretty easy to make another human being who’s not on your side look stupid, because we’re stupid creatures and we all have plenty of exploitable weak spots. it’s preaching to the choir, and it’s preaching meanly to the choir. and then, your snark bears all its fruit right away. you get the glowing feeling of having scored points against the enemy while being patted on the back by your friends for being so brave. if you succeeded in being snarky, you get the rewards of snark that very instant.

on the other hand, seeking to share the truth you possess in a mode in which it could actually be received—that is, says St Thomas, according to the mode of the recipient—that’s hard, and it’s so far from being instantly gratifying that you may never see the fruits of it in this life. not only are you not thinking about your likeminded audience, you’re not even going to trot out the truth simply in the way you understand it and call it your best effort. rather, you have to try to get inside your interlocutor’s frame of mind and understand how the truth you know is going to fulfill their own priorities and longings. you have to understand them so well that you see the truth of their position, even if that truth is buried very very deep, and then see how that truth connects them to the truth you see. you have to be insightful, and compassionate, and so, so patient. you don’t get to score any points, with anybody. your interlocutor might still get annoyed with you and turn around and make you look stupid. but you can’t just say “I’m going to speak the truth and I don’t care who hears and how they take it”—you have to care how they take it, because the truth is relational, it’s given and received, not just spouted into a void. and frankly you have to care how they take it because you have to care about their salvation.

don’t get me wrong, there are times in every person’s life when they will be called to stand up and be counted, to put fumbling words to what they hold most dear even if they can’t make everyone understand. but I don’t know that it’s a virtue to be always focused on being seen saying the truth, with no consideration given to who hears you and what they’ll hear in it—and it’s certainly not a virtue to be always focused on being seen saying the truth in a mean and funny way. “instruct the ignorant” is a spiritual work of mercy. but instruct the ignorant does not mean “instruct the ignorant while making the knowledgeable laugh and/or high five.”

[thejournallo]

Affirmation: Everything I write becomes my reality.

My words hold the power to shape my life.

Whatever I write down effortlessly manifests.

My pen is a tool for creating my dreams.

Writing is my superpower for manifestation.

Every word I write is infused with magic and certainty.

The universe responds instantly to what I write.

My written intentions are unstoppable.

I trust in my ability to manifest through writing.

Everything I write aligns perfectly with my desires.

My writing creates positive outcomes with ease.

The act of writing activates my manifestations.

Writing down my dreams guarantees their success.

My written words are commands to the universe.

What I write flows into my life effortlessly.

My journal is a portal to my dream reality.

Writing down my desires ensures they come true.

My words are powerful tools of creation.

I manifest my ideal life through writing.

Writing turns my visions into reality.

I effortlessly manifest abundance by writing it down.

Every letter I write is a step closer to my desires.

My writing holds the energy of fulfillment.

The universe always honors what I write.

My words shape the reality I experience.

Writing is the bridge between my dreams and reality.

I write my desires, and the universe delivers.

My words carry the energy of manifestation.

Every time I write, I bring my goals to life.

My writing makes my dreams inevitable.

BOOSTER:

My results always come to me instantly.

My subconscious instantly accepts affirmations.

I already have my full results.

I easily gain results with no effort.

I always receive this result.

I easily gain results with no effort.

I always get a full result, no matter what

I already have my full result.

I manifest quickly and easily.

[hrokkall]

Death spiral

[variksel]

matthew arnold has mastered the game of tumblr ship teasing and He Knows It

[hamletthedane]

dealing with a code-red RSD-meltdown anxiety attack by laying on your bedroom floor reciting all the Shakespeare you’ve ever memorized to yourself for nearly three hours straight is something that can be so personal, actually-

[shadystranger]

the switch from worry for sam to appealing.. oh he knows how to fuck him up so perfectly tailored for him

[conceptofjoy]

so fascinating that the strider kids modeled themselves after their bros and their brand of masculinity.

[vren-diagram]

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[yourmoonie]

DO INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS Manifest?

Q: Can intrusive thoughts become an assumption? Any tips on how to stop them or stop being afraid of them?

A🌙: Let's break this into a few sections

1st of all, let's remember that you aren't your thoughts

Assumption = a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.

Intrusive thought = An intrusive thought is an unwelcome, involuntary thought, image, or unpleasant idea that may become an obsession, is upsetting or distressing, and can feel difficult to manage or eliminate.

'Intrusive thoughts can also be managed by addressing the underlying problem, such as anxiety, stress, or a personal history of trauma.'

Thoughts are always gonna be there and most of the time they are irrelevant

An intrusive thought is called an intrusive thought for a reason (but tbh you don't even have to put a label on these thoughts)

So how to go on about this:

1. Don't be afraid of them, they can't hurt you and they can't have power over you without your consent

2. Don't fight with them, instead ground yourself and focus on your senses

3. Don't judge yourself and think that those thoughts are your identity.

Shift your awareness on the things that benefit you, so dont put your focus so much on "what if my intrusive thoughts become assumptions" no they will not

You have got this

GOOD LUCK

[prettyhopemachine]

executive function strategies / focus-enhancing techniques

pls feel free to reblog or comment ur own!

Pomodoro Method 🍅

25 minute interval of focusing + 5 minute break x2

followed by a 25 minute interval of focusing + 15 minute break

repeat!

you only have to focus for a set amount of time!

& it gamifies your work

I use Pomofocus but there are other sites and apps as well !

Note: You can lower these time intervals to something more accessible at first! If 2 or 5 minutes feels more achievable, start there.

Body Doubling 💑

I usually get a friend who also needs to work on call

This can also be in the form of having a study with me stream on, working in a café, or being around someone in person.

The accountability and parallel play is very effective for me, even if we are not actively collaborating or speaking!

Break Down Tasks 🔨

This is very important to neurodivergent folks.

I think about it like a computer program. When you explicitly list each step of a process, in its simplest steps, it does a significant amount of work for your brain before you've even started.

So make a list of steps for your individual tasks, breaking them down.

Rituals 🕯️

This can be whatever you want it to be!

Light candles, play a specific order of songs, chewing gum.

Doing these before each work session can make connections in your brain that improves focus and memory.

Note: This is a great gateway to Habit Stacking as well. This is a method outlined in Atomic Habits in which you link new habits to existing ones. For example, after making a cup of coffee, as you already may do every morning, you sit down to plan or review tasks.

Productive Procrastinating 🫣

This is admittedly not always a good idea...but it works!

Basically, it's having a list of things I need to do, and choosing to do something less urgent instead of the biggest or most important project first.

This can help relieve some of the pressure in starting a work sesh and create momentum!

For example, instead of immediately starting that 5 page essay due tonight...I might exercise or clean for 10 minutes first.

May or may not be what I'm doing right now.

[gingermintpepper]

Absolutely the funniest thing about my current corner of tumblr is that pretty much everyone I've recently followed for Apollo-Appreciating Purposes are either genuinely Hellenist or just rather very into Rick Riordan's Trials of Apollo series which is wild because I know a net zero about both of those things.

[bugmangaka]

I've drawn a lot of little comics and doodles in my journal I haven't shared that I think I'll start uploading every once in a while. This one was from probably 2 or 3 months ago.

I like to think that Tweek cries fairly often, because he's anxious all the time and he's neurodivergent- and because he's a child. When things are super frustrating your emotions can feel too big for your body, I'm an adult and I even feel like that and I remember that as a child it was so much harder to deal with. I think his parents kind of try their best but they're really not great at it. I also think that after a meltdown he might have a day where he's fairly nonverbal.

[vv-ispy]

Im 👀 at your Mondstadt having an underground area and I just want to bring up this idea in a fanfic I read (Windwheel Aster: Adored by the wind) where Mondstadt has secret underground passageway between them and Liyue for emergency use. Now im combining those ideas in my head of underground passageways beneath Old Mondstadt. Like some sort of dark souls crypt for those who perished (since its Really Hard to do a burial in the snow). You know how the wind brings Mondstadter's souldls home? Yeah what if thats not just a Venti thing but also existed during the time of Decarabian. (I can tie this into Istaroth but thats a whole nother paragraph)

DON't MIND ME HAVING SpeNT most of hte day reading that fic ahem

Crypts under Mondstadt...oh I love that idea it fits in mood-wise with the Actual Dead Guy under the statue, giving Mondstadt and ameno all the more ties to death and souls and imprisonment + yeah how do you deal with bodies when the ground is frozen hard and the city is micromanaged by the god. Why, if the bodies are getting in the way, why not remove them, help the souls pass on, and place the bodies neat and orderly filed away. Away from the people so they can focus on life instead of death, but each passed person can still be easily found in case they're needed. Besides, crypts are often under a church and Mondstadt is the nation most known for having a church....maybe not under Mondstadt's currentday church, but the people did use to 'bow' around the tall tower which houses a god....

But also........those Istaroth ties? 👀👀👀