#gold stars for everyone

[dysco-lymonade]

⭐️ have a gold star for being a class A enabler and plot consultant for @thatonewherelexasachef

Somebody’s got to feed her insanity (affectionate).

⭐️ now, YOU have a good star for being awesome!

[sometimesanalice]

*aggressively loves and supports you*

[le-souriant]

Listen to it and much more on the #MusicMonday playlist.

@osornios

[wigglybunfish]

Designs for the funky humans of PreservationAux, Perihelion, + one very tired SecUnit and a monstrous Research Transport AI.

[teaboot]

what's a 'golstar gay'? my friend said she was one, and when i mentioned this to my other friend they got upset. why??? is that a slur????

The idea behind a "Gold Star Gay" or "Gold Star Lesbian" is that the person in question has never had sex with someone of the opposite gender.

A "Gold Star" lesbian, for example, would be a woman who has never had sex with a man.

A lot of people don't like the term because it sorta takes a page from virginity-purity culture and assigns social value to sex- if never boning down with a dude means a woman is a better, purer lesbian, then how is someone who has supposed to feel about themselves? That they're a lesser gay? That they're fake? Or 'Tainted'?

It's one of those things that inches a little towards TERF rhetoric- that people of different genders are Intrinsically, fundamentally different from the ground up, and that there are intangible traits that can rub off and infect you like cooties

(which has no basis in reality, but encourages their belief that trans women are predatory and trans men are victims- cause 'nature designed us like this' or whatever)

And then that kinda slips into the rabbit hole of "divine female energy" and "toxic male auras" that all just kinda oroboros-es right on back around into "women soft gentle mommy, man strong stoic hunter" type crap

So like. Your first friend probably meant it in a kind of innocuous way, or like a statement about themselves, and your other friend may have. Seen where the roots go, as it were

If I had to guess, I mean

[sunderwight]

Thinking about this post about "preschool mode" and just imagining a version of a Shen Yuan who had been a preschool teacher before he transmigrated, and keeps habitually approaching all of his disciples and some of his fellow peak lords like that.

[honey-bird10]

GET THESE BITCHES A ROOM

[mobius-m-mobius]

#too soon NASA... too soon 😅🎄

[very-poorly-drawn-tgcf]

Episode 1: Back to Heaven now, by accident

Bonus under the cut! (Warning tgcf spoilers but then again Why Are You Here If You Haven't Finished TGCF Yet Off With Ye)

[galaxywarp]

been seeing some good posts going around talking about alcohol addiction and it’s dangers and warning signs and societal norms and pressure etc which is all good!! But I always see a lot of people responding like “yeah that’s why I think alcohol is EVIL and it should be illegal!”

That’s. Not the solution at all. Making drugs illegal only serves to force addicts into even more dangerous and desperate situations. Alcohol shouldn’t be illegal. I don’t even think heroin and meth should be illegal. I firmly believe in harm reduction approaches and I know so many people who might still be alive if they didn’t have to resort to the things they did just to get relief from their withdrawal symptoms.

Also. You’re not morally superior for not drinking. And that’s a reallyyyyyyy annoying attitude to have and it undermines the whole spirit of wanting addiction to be taken seriously as a real health issue.

[faaun]

what draws you back to your country what draws you back to your land when i was a kid i told myself if i ever left iran i'd never go back 2 years into living in the UK i started looking at news on iran again 10 years in and i visited it for the first time again and today i heard an iranian mother talk in farsi to her child on the train to london the way my mother used to and i wanted to cry i wanted to ask her whether they're still cutting the mountaintops whether the lakes are still drying today i showed the person i was with pictures of waterfalls and palaces and forests and snow-white north something odd pulls me back with increasing force i can't ignore it ever again

[tiny-tk]

it’s kind of annoying how culturally usa-centric so much of the agere community is. like, a lot of the “nostalgic” imagery used is relatable mostly just to kiddos who grew up in middle class suburban america. it’s great visuals but i always feel like i’m kinda playing catch-up with some of it since i grew up away from my home :(

anyway, here’s some neat childhood imagery from late 2000s & early 2010s germany where i grew up, hopefully some of u recognize it !! i rly encourage other regressors to share stuff from their own cultures too, we gotta work together to make this space as inclusive as we can !! :D not everyone had the same experience, and that can be a good thing ^^

[anghraine]

jenndoesnotcare replied to this post:

Every time LDS kids come to my neighborhood I am so so nice to them. I hope they remember the blue haired lady who was kind, when people try to convince them the outside world is bad and scary. (Also they are always so young! I want to feed them cookies and give them Diana Wynne Jones books or something)

Thank you! Honestly, this sort of kindness can go a really long way, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.

LDS children and missionaries (and the majority of the latter are barely of age) are often the people who interact the most with non-Mormons on a daily basis, and thus are kind of the "face" of the Church to non-Mormons a lot of the time. As a result, they're frequently the ones who actually experience the brunt of antagonism towards the Church, which only reinforces the distrust they've already been taught to feel towards the rest of the world.

It's not that the Church doesn't deserve this antagonism, but a lot of people seem to take this enormous pride in showing up Mormon teenagers who have spent most of their lives under intense social pressure, instruction, expectation, and close observation from both their peers and from older authorities in the Church (it largely operates on seniority, so young unmarried people in particular tend to have very little power within its hierarchies). Being "owned" for clout by non-Mormons doesn't prove anything to most of them except that their leaders and parents are right and they can't trust people outside the Church.

The fact that the Church usually does provide a tightly-knit community, a distinct and familiar culture, and a well-developed infrastructure for supporting its members' needs as long as they do [xyz] means that there can be very concrete benefits to staying in the Church, staying closeted, whatever. So if, additionally, a Mormon kid has every reason to think that nobody outside the Church is going to extend compassion or kindness towards them, that the rest of the world really is as hostile and dangerous as they've been told, the stakes for leaving are all the higher, despite the costs of staying.

So people from "outside" who disrupt this narrative of a hostile, threatening world that cannot conceivably understand their experiences or perspectives can be really important. It's important for them to know that there are communities and reliable support systems outside the Church, that leaving the Church does not have to mean being a pariah in every context, that there are concrete resources outside the Church, that compassion and decency in ordinary day-to-day life is not the province of any particular religion or sect and can be found anywhere. This kind of information can be really important evidence for people to have when they are deciding how much they're willing to risk losing.

So yeah, all of this is to say that you're doing a good thing that may well provide a lifeline for very vulnerable people, even if you don't personally see results at the time.

[qrcane]

Most common slimecicle minecraft experience

[visenyaism]

visenya had a husband and a kid meaning she clearly had sex eith him she’s bi

i do not know how to tell you this but long ago like especially in the feudalism times (where the entire paradigm revolved around using women and their potential future children as social currency between families) but even still today women have not always had control over who they married and who they had sex with and whether or not they had kids. if you’re coerced into marriage with someone because it’s your “duty” and then you have their child out of political necessity does that 100% determine who you are forever. come on now

[annakwashere]

I think we, as a community, need to talk about the official comics more.

(These are just some parts, everything taken from the official BS Instagram page)