#getting help

[thecaringcounsellor]

If you're experiencing this, please see your local GP/doctor/therapist/trusted family member or friend. You deserve to feel heard 💙

[write-4-sore-eyes]

I’ll get the help I need

You said I needed help, I completely agree,

I need help to get you far away from me;

it’s kinda sad it took me so long to realize,

why you hate my therapist and, me, you despise.

She is wise and can clearly see all that I cannot,

understanding all the pain and hurt that you brought;

my actions are my own, for my behavior I’m not proud,

but in my world of sunshine, you were the storming cloud.

You said I needed help, and you couldn’t be more right,

I’m “crazy” wanting to fix things, but you just want to fight;

it will never be my fault that you’re incapable of love,

grateful I can’t be cruel like you, I can rise above.

I acknowledge and say sorry, when I am pain’s source,

turns out normal people are capable of remorse;

it says far more about you and your lack of ability,

to hurt the one you loved most, with total apathy.

You said I needed help, you’re right, without a doubt,

please don’t let the door hit ya, bub, on the way out;

can’t say it’s sad to see you go, there’s not much left to miss,

deep down I knew in your soul, something was always amiss.

No amount of feigned empathy or things you could do,

could make me believe there’s a heart left inside of you;

cunning and deceitful, you mimicked my kind soul,

but no amount of adoration will ever make you whole.

You said I needed help, and I seek maturity,

turns out it’s you who’s filled with insecurity;

heartbroken for the girls you continue to lead on,

can’t feed your own self-worth, their admiration you feast on.

I’ll get the help I need, do whatever that entails,

ridding myself of your memory, every text and voicemail;

deleted every photo, it’s like you don’t exist,

forgotten with all the other abusive narcissists.

[jarsarahere]

!! I'M OFFICIALLY 1 YEAR CLEAN !!

[greyaugustuspoetry]

Therapy

The room is cold

It makes me shiver 

The walls are dull

Like a prison center

The furniture matches

But it feels out of place 

Bookshelves line the walls

How does anyone read these things?

The only sound 

Comes from this ticking clock 

It’s too loud

I can’t hear my thoughts

I sit on the couch 

And stare at my hands 

I start to get anxious

It’s hard to breathe again.

How much longer 

do I have to wait 

I’m getting tired

of this place

There is a plaque on the wall

that says PHD

I don’t trust just words

I’ll just have to see

I was about to leave 

When she walked in

Asking me how I am 

All while shaking my hand

We sat down 

Facing one another

She asked me too many questions 

So now I feel bothered 

As I left 

I made a deal 

That i’ll keep coming back 

Until I stop feeling weird.

[katimorton]

There are many reasons therapy may not be working for you. But why is that therapy doesn't work or why doesn't therapy or counseling work for you? Are you doing therapy wrong or do you have the wrong therapist or counselor? Or perhaps you're in the wrong kind of psychotherapy or counseling and the psychotherapy you're doing doesn't help. Or maybe you're just someone who therapy will never work for. Or maybe you're just not equipped to be psychotherapy. Or what if you're just too bad to ever heal? Well it's unlikely any of these latter reasons are true. There are just reasons why therapy isn't working for you or doesn't help. So let's dive into the 11 reasons therapy isn't working for you.

Related videos: A therapist's perspective on therapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-47TA1N6i3s&t=178s 4 things NOT to say to your therapist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H714wnQn2uw 6 things NOT to expect from therapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRINXMPB3oU&t=11s

[kindnessisstillhere]

Reaching Out

We can't know everything,

Or remember and connect it all;

Can't manage everything always

And switch from tiny task to another

Without finding ourselves strained.

So we help each other,

Ask questions, reach out,

And smile at the people reaching back,

Trying to help and remind us,

Explaining and prompting us

With information new and known.

I've come to trust in that,

The presence of a hand reaching back

So I can always reach out to others.

It makes it easier for them as well,

So I can be the one reaching back.

I'm glad of that.

[thatcatinthewindow]

I never knew how bad trying to get healthy while in an abusive relationship could be. I never thought me getting diagnosed and treated for my ADHD and being in therapy would be such a problem when part of the reason he spent years treating me like total shit was because of my executive dysfunction. I swear it began to get worse the day I had my first evaluation appointment. He fought with me all day until maybe 2 hours before the appointment. I was exhausted before my appointment even started. Ever since it's gotten worse and worse. He stopped taking his meds and hasn't been medicated since July and it has been mental torture. He literally won't stop and then blames me for not wanting to be loving towards him. He's blamed me for treating me so bad because we haven't had sex yet when I tell him you need to treat me and my daughter better for me to want to have sex with you he continues to blame me. He said to me last weekend "I think part of the reason I have been so messed up lately is because I haven't jizzed" so I said "why don't you jerk off?" And got an "I don't know". He refuses to treat me better for more than like 15 hours and asks me to have sex with him still. I'm done giving in to that shit. He doesn't get to treat us like shit and still benefit. He keeps blaming me that I don't come to cuddle him before he goes to sleep at night or I don't hug him or kiss him before he leaves for work when he's not asking or trying to do the same either. I can't keep having to put all of the work in and still be treated like I'm the problem. He acts as if quitting drinking was all he needed to do to get better and like I should be licking his asshole because he's "changed so much" and "done so much work". He won't even lift a finger at home while watching me have breakdown after breakdown about how hard it is to have everything be on me. He thinks because he has a job that he doesn't have to do a thing. He disparages what I bring in monthly even though he wouldn't eat without my fucking fs's. When I tried to ignore the things he was doing to bring me down that's when he went full force and stopped his meds. It feels like he did that because if he's off his meds he can blame it on his mental illnesses. So now, I'm back to being the same depressed piece of shit that I was before I started my ADHD treatment journey. I can hardly function most of the time to be able to get our household in order and I'm neglecting so much. Things have been so stressful because of the end of summer, and getting my kiddo back in school and then having to transfer her last minute. Now I'm in charge of transportation to and from school which is two buses there and back. I can't sleep at night. Then when I try to take a nap in the morning because there is no way I'm making it through the day if I don't I end up sleeping too long even if I set alarm after alarm and move to the other room. I'm on the wrong dosage of medication because I had to call in my meds the week before my last appointment so that makes everything much more difficult because even before I was legally medicated I was taking two 5mgs a day so I've been on 10mg too long and I almost feel the same as if I was unmedicated. The only thing it helps is that awful weight, but this Saturday I didn't take my Adderall and I really didn't feel any different. So things have been extra hell. I slept better when I was medicated properly, but my body has grown too used to the dosage I think. So, on top of having so much dependant on me, having him actively trying to make every day harder, and being poorly medicated at the moment everything is too overwhelming. I don't think I would feel this way if he hadn't spent almost every day since June 14th making everything so painful I wouldn't be feeling as much this way. He has done a fantastic job at making me hate him.

[illbearoundalittlelonger]

Finally getting better and getting help, who knew the day would finally come

[honeycombhank]

1/4/24

We finally sent in my paperwork and everything for disability. I am crossing my fingers that this goes more smoothly than everyone says it’s going to.

This has been such a heart ache and gut wrenching experience and I need help financially so badly, I would never wish this upon anyone.

Sending love to anyone experiencing something where they desperately need help and are trying to be strong and get help. Sending love to everybody who has become disabled as an adult and also to those who have been their whole life, and really everything in between.

Just love to everyone and I hope you find what you need to live a happy healthy life and feel capable, safe and so loved. You deserve it!!

[ramyeonpng]

When we’re going through things, we sometimes hesitate to ask people for help because we assume that the help isn’t available. We do a lot of guesswork and decide that the people we would ask for help don’t have the space in their lives to come through for us. Sometimes, since we have trained ourselves not to ask for help, it can become challenging to accept help even when it is offered. When that happens, we need to remind ourselves that if someone asks if we need their help, that is an invitation to say yes.

Ask for Help - by Nedra Glover Tawwab - Nedra Nuggets

[creatively-ill]

Went to the hospital

Had a pain day so bad that my “cane” saw the outside of my room

And just stole an ankle brace from my mother

I got to survive till Friday

[neurodivergent-brain]

I’ve realised my new medication isn’t working and I can feel the depression coming back. I’m so scared. I can’t do that shit again…

[greyaugustuspoetry]

a promise to those around me

i'll make a promise

to everyone around.

that this is the last time

i let myself drown

and there will never be

a next time.

where you have to

pull me out of myself

[tinsikud]

Kud

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[the-healing-mindset]

“I only rely on me”

It's easy to develop this mindset. We get caught up in the thought pattern that no one is out there who can help us. That we can depend on no one because we must be strong and prove that we’re capable. In our past, we may not have been able to depend on anyone else for any reason whatsoever. Those around us back then may have been harmful or hurtful to us. That doesn’t mean that we have to continue on all alone though.

There are people out there for you to trust, however. Yes, there are some things that you will absolutely have to take care of on your own. But not everything. If you keep trying the same thing over and over again, yet keep getting the same result, then it may be time to get the opinion or the assistance of someone else. You’re not weak for that.