#gender*

[star-critter]

I JUST GOT RICKROLLED BY WIKIPEDIA 💀

Your gender is now the first randomized wikipedia article you get. No rerolls.

[incognitopolls]

We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

[hellyeahscarleteen]

"If your friend or partner has changed their name or pronouns (or are in the process of trying a potential change on) to feel affirmed in their gender, use that name and use those pronouns! It can be hard to speak about someone in a new way, especially when you’re using singular pronouns you might not be used to saying or hearing, like “they/them/theirs.” The best way to learn any new skill is to practice. Speak out⁠ loud about your friend or partner when you’re with other pals (or even when you’re by yourself) until you get the hang of it. And if you mess up in front of your friend or partner, that’s okay! Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. When that happens, briefly apologize, correct yourself, and move on with the conversation.

You might be inspired to correct other people when they don’t use the right name or pronouns. Before you become the Pronoun Patrol, ask your friend or partner if they’d like you to correct others or if they prefer to handle corrections on their own.

It’s also a good idea to ask if there are certain contexts in which you should not be using your friend or partner’s new name or pronouns. Some people don’t disclose their new name, pronouns, or gender identity to their family, their school, or their workplace because they don’t feel safe sharing that part of their identity⁠ in those contexts. Others just aren’t ready to share that information with everyone all at once, so make sure you’re clear on what your loved one wants."

Ro White, How to Support A Friend or Partner Who’s Dealing With Gender Dysphoria

[lowcountry-gothic]

In Nazi Germany, women were outlawed from working outside the home and homosexuality was not only a death sentence, but places where the wide spectrum of human sexuality was being studied and researched were demolished early on in the Nazi regime. Men and women were forced into narrow gender roles in childhood and were pushed into heteronormative relationships designed to bear the most number of ‘superior’ Aryan children. Fears of the decline of the white German family were stoked by political and religious leaders, and the solutions to this problem were obvious: focus on creating families that mirror the practices of fascism, and with enough time you will have a constituency that has learned to equate abusive control with parental love. 

D.L. Mayfield, STRONGWILLED, “Chapter 11: Focus on the Fascist Family”

[romanianradfemmefatale]

I have asked many trans masculine and non binary afab people why they identify as such,and I have so too in the past,and the answers have been very consistent.

They feel like they never fit into either gender frame or speciffically into being feminine.

They feel like just humans,not girls.

They feel uncomfortable being percieved as female and by extension having the body parts that signify their gender to other people.

If any trans identified female is reading this I want you to know that this is normal and it is not a sign that you are non binary or a man.

Gender is a social construct,and most importantly it is not a spectrum or a binary, it's a hierarchy. The reason you feel uncomfortable with femininity is because it is uncomfortable,it is opressive. I understand that the option of distancing yourself from the label altogether is tempting,but it is not a solution. You probably already know that sexism doesn't vanish if you go by different pronouns,and even if you transition you might still not find happiness or escape from womanhood.

I know you are scared of interacting with terf content,first of all because you would be shunned from your community for even liking a post made by a radfem,and for this I want you to start questioning gender ideology. We have a bunch of resources and books about what gender really is and why we should abolish it instead of clinging to it and adding to the system. Nobody has to know that you are doing this,and you don't have to agree with us,but a community that forbids you from accessing a different perspective is not healthy,in fact I would go as for as to say it is culty.

I used to be just like you,scared to even consider gender critical thought,when you find yourself afraid of asking questions it is most crucial that you do just that.

But you will find a lot more freeing because you will realise you don't need to alter your body in any way to fit a certain box,you are a human female,and that is awsome,you are a human female and you don't need to dress a certain way or act a certain way to be so. Abandon gender forever,we are sort of "agender" as well,despite what people have told you,we are not trad wives and bio essentialists. We just acknowledge the material reality that shapes oir lives,which is sexism and sex based opression.

[wildersys]

light that shines through

Adding gifs as examples

explain your gender in 10 words or less without using boring words like “male”, “female”, “nonbinary”, “masculine”, “feminine” or “androgynous”.

go!

[reiningsoral]

reminder that it is 10000000% a-okay to check in on your gender from time to time and just go "yup. everything here checks out, all good"

it's okay to be cis and explore your gender

it's okay to be trans and explore your gender

it's okay to exist and explore your gender

it's okay to not have a gender

it's okay to explore your gender and gender concepts and come out of it with 0 new information. everything currently is as it already was, nothing new, perfectly content with current state of being.

identity exploration is not something that is only for trans ppl. it's very good to do it, actually! healthy, even. learning about yourself (even if it is just learning you're happy as is) is a good thing.

[kbh792-9]

I exist out of spite

[daybreakthing]

Cheatcodec ⚓

a gender connected to one’s gender being a cheat code!

for anon!

symbol from here (link)!

etymology; cheat code, “ec” meaning from/deriving from!

tagging @radiomogai!

[typhlonectes]

[jerrycummblr]

It's really simple. If you're born with a vagina and you naturally have elevated testosterone levels, you're a man. If you have a vagina and you take testosterone, you're a woman. But also if you have a vagina, you'll never be a man. But also if you have higher testosterone then you were never a woman. Woman never yes man a vagina testosterone no was an elevated. Vagina man.

[wynsvre]

hi this is a comic about me please be nice

[quinn-host-arc]

the statements "clothes don't have gender" and "clothes can and do invoke gender dysphoria and euphoria for many people" can and should coexist.

[chapscher]

Also came here to talk about The Will To Change

If someone grows up in an environment where they are told by parents, teachers, friends, community leaders, and neighbors that they are not supposed to express their emotions (save for anger) it fucks them up. bell hooks' thesis is that this is traumatic and limits the ways in which someone is able to understand and react to their own emotions. While other marginalized groups experience this to some extent, this kind of abuse is often experienced by men and is patriarchal in the sense that it is meant to reinforce gender separation, which leads to a gendered hierarchy, which benefits the patriarchy.

Anyone can reinforce this line of thinking. "Man up, boys don't cry," "Stop being such a girl. You bitch about everything," and "Don't like what I said? Well you're a man, so deal with it" are all patriarchal sentiments. This line of thinking, if internalized, leads to a lot of men not seeking help for illness, addiction, abusive relationships, and can lead to isolationism. Anyone who is isolated becomes vulnerable to those peddling cult-like thinking because those peddlers are also offering a sense of community.

So what do we do about this? Even those who try to raise their sons without gendered expectations still find their son shamed into repression by those outside the family. One of the ways to address the prolonged trauma that leads to isolation is to make sure that men have a space to talk about their emotions. When feminists encourage this it's not them saying "We must coddle the most misogynistic of men" it's them saying "There are men who want to escape repressive rhetoric and we should offer a space for them to do that." And it is feminist to acknowledge that those who reinforce a gendered separation (e.g. talking about men as if they are monolith/hive mind that must be severely punished for the patriarchy) are actively making things worse.

When it comes to an individual's trauma, other people don't get to decide when or how that person acknowledges it or heals from it. That traumatized person needs to acknowledge that they have been hurt and decide what they are going to do about it, if they will continue ignoring it or if they will try to heal. Those who try to heal should be given the space to do so, and creating this space is both a feminist and humanist endeavor.

Nooo mutual don’t put that “men fall down the alt-right pipeline bc women/feminists are too mean” post on my dash nooo mutual don’t try to say women need to be nicer when dealing with misogynistic men nooo mutual nooo

[mangedog]

this is a way better model... you'll still get transphobic & intersexist drs of course but i prefer this to male / female or even having separate questions for gender & sex.

[we can't see the full form, but i'd suggest having a "something else" option and dominant hormone question too.]