#gender affirming haircut

[ashnotashe]

I havnt ever had a gender affirming haircut and I've let my hair grow for 3 years. Both of that changes fucking today.

My local LGBT center was having free haircuts and I decided fuck it. If I want to start to lean butch then I better fucking do it now, life won't wait for me to do it.

I'm so fucking happy these pictures don't show it I nearly cried when I got to my car <3

[our-trans-youth-experience]

trans youth is getting annoyed when your parents remind you of your AGAB when you get a new hairstyle

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's fustrating when that happens.

[clowningcrows]

i got my hair cut short yesterday and today i put on my binder and clothes that make me feel comfortable gender wise and im ngl i started sobbing when i looked at myself in the mirror. for the first time in my entire life, i felt like it was actually me that i was seeing in the mirror. i never even knew what i was missing before. i didn’t know it was supposed to feel like this.

[starving-marauder-lover]

Giving yourself a haircut>>>getting an actual one

(I probably should not have done this the night before I got my school ID)

[quanyixhen]

July 31st 2024

This was about a week ago luckily TT my hairs grown out a bit now and doesn’t look as horrendous 💀

[slayful-malewife]

Someone just told me I look like Anakin Skywalker, "the gay one from star wars." It was probably meant to be an insult, but never have I felt a bigger surge of gender affirmation in my life

[transenbyconfessions]

https://www.tumblr.com/transenbyconfessions/712573690273005568/i-had-a-phase-where-i-would-obsessively-look-at

update: i finally got my hair cut! dad kept pestering me to cut it short but i know if mom comes with me i'll just get stuck with another girly bob :/ so when i finally had a chance to get it done alone i got an undercut so my hair can stay long but with half of my head shaved :)

i loved the new barber shop i went to, all the salons in the mall were full because everyone was on holiday but not this one. it was empty, no music was playing, there wasnt any gossiping happening in the corner like there usually was when i go and get my hair cut. the barber was friendly, and the barber next to him kept ribbing him about accidentally shaving all my hair off, which is funny to me because if it were up to me that's what i'd go for :D

the buzz of the clippers was very therapeutic and i felt the way down to my toes, the euphoria of having my hair finally the way i wanted it to look without the hairdresser trying to fawn over my long, thick hair and lamenting over me cutting it too short oh no it's gonna look too masculine!!! 🙄 not having to fight tooth and nail just to get my hair done is great, actually. i definitely teared up a little while the barber carefully shaved my head.

then he washed my hair and gave me a scalp massage and blowdried my hair, and i felt great! i left the shop looking like i just got out of the shower with a few inches hacked off and i've never felt so refreshed afterwards before. i couldn't believe i was missing out on the real objective of a haircut while i was busy being mad at previous hairdressers that focused on layers and flyaways and trimming split ends when all i really wanted was a straightforward shave that they wouldn't give me. i wanted short. i wanted to look like the me i envisioned and hopefully this is a step towards that.

i should invest in some clippers, theres something about the ability to shave my head in the middle of the night if i wanted to thats very appealing... and now i love tying my hair up when i usually just leave it down and uncombed because i couldn't care less about it, now it feels like something that's mine and mine alone <3

Submitted April 22, 2023

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[i-dont-know-what-im-doing-2024]

Haircut Pt. 2

So anyways the first part of this post I talked about my experience with getting my hair cut and how I found a gender affirming barber. This part I want to talk more about how the short haircut has made me feel.

It’s definitely been complicated and I was fully panicking beforehand but honestly once they started cutting my hair I calmed down a lot. I think a lot of the fear was around waiting and worrying I would back out so it was a bit relieving when it was out of my hands. There were still stressful elements but it was an overwhelmingly positive experience.

And I am so happy with the results, walking back to my car I think I finally understood gender euphoria, it was incredible and still is though that initial rush has worn off a bit.

So here’s time for the weird truth, I think it’s made my dysphoria worse in some ways. It’s like this whole process of trying to figure myself out has made me more aware of some of the things that have bothered me in the past that I ignored and I just generally feel that disconnect a lot more pressingly now that I know how much better everything can feel.

The only explanation I can think of for this is that since I wasn’t trying to look masculine before it wasn’t a big deal getting misgendered but now that I’m trying to explore that side of myself it is. I sometimes feel like the haircut still looks feminine and generally don’t have the gender affirming clothes I need yet or even a binder. Which, because I have a bigger chest, is my only chance of any masc clothes fitting right.

But overall I’m incredibly happy I did it even if it made my dysphoria worse because that’s part of figuring myself out right? I’d rather know how much better this feels than the not but it’s still hard right now.

[thecouncilofidiots]

I love our new hair style/cut.

It is very gender affirming, and versatile enough to be gender affirming for the others.

Feminine? Feminine+Masculine? Gender Neutral? Masculine?

Works for all of us.

-Baz

[loseallcontrol]

/cries in transmasc joy

[our-trans-youth-experience]

it honestly feels kind of like my whole life is on pause while i’m waiting to be able to transition medically. like i’m kind of just… waiting. for my life to start again until i’ve finally transitioned. is that a common trans thing??

Yeah, I get that. It can suck having to wait a few years to be happy in your body and to feel like yourself, but it will come.

In the meantime, try to express yourself as much as you can by socially transitioning, for example getting new clothes or a gender affirming haircut. Stay safe out there, you'll be able to medically transition soon I promise! <3

[deadwhiterosesstuff]

So, I got my first "proper" (meaning i didn't do it myself ) gender affirming haircut, and I wanted to share it here

[starving-marauder-lover]

Microfic with small amounts of Jegulus but mainly black brother bonding (I kinda forgot about this, it's been sitting in my drafts lol)

word count: 768

As Regulus raised the scissors to his jet-black hair, he heard the bathroom door creak behind him. He prayed that it wasn't his parents; maybe it was the wind, but he got lucky. Unlike his usual lopsided grin, his older brother came in with a soft expression. 

"Reggie?" he asked, using the nickname he already had come up with for his chosen name. "Do you want some help?" Feeling the burden of trying to cut his hair being lifted off his shoulders, Regulus muttered a meek, 

"yes" as he handed the scissors over to his older brother. As Sirius crept over with a gleam in his eye Regulus looked over into the sink basin, already covered in long strands of hair. He reached in, daring to touch it, it was as if his old memories were being chopped off along with his hair, the memories of his parents yelling at him for "not being enough" washing down the drain until they were gone. 

He didn't know how long Sirius could be trusted with scissors next to a vital part of his body, so he tried to keep the haircut short, paying extra attention to what direction the scissors were facing. As he heard the last snip, he felt the presence of Sirius stepping back to admire his handiwork. Sirius had his trademark grin, running his hands through his choppy haircut, a nervous habit he had picked up over the years. 

"So, what do you think?" Sirius asked as Regulus pulled at his hair, trying to resist the smile tugging at the corner of his lips. He couldn’t believe how light short hair could feel, it felt as if his hair was in a permanent ponytail. 

“It’s…great,” he finally said, turning to look at his brother. “Thank you,” he said curtly, trying not to show his happiness. He turned his eyes back to the mirror, trying to get a good look at the back of his head, praying that Sirius had made it somewhat even. When Sirius saw his struggle, he wordlessly handed him his small pocket mirror with a moon engraved. Regulus flipped it open and angled in so he could see the waves in the back of his head. Content with the hairstyle, he turned back to Sirius as if to see what he would say next.

“Well, should we get going now? James should be arriving any minute.” Sirius reminded him, gesturing to their bags in the corner. Regulus nodded, trying to keep a neutral expression on his face. He and Sirius would be leaving as soon as it was midnight so he could legally not live with his parents anymore. After Sirius had abandoned him, he had sent him a letter telling him that he would be back once he was of age. Relieved that the time had finally come, Regulus quietly made his way over to the small suitcase he had packed, not wanting to have that many memories of his parents' house. Once picking it up, he looked to Sirius who seemed to have a pained expression on his face. “Reggie,” he started, “I’m still sorry for leaving you,” he said quietly, avoiding Regulus’ eyes. 

“Listen, I’ve already gotten over it. The important thing is that you’re here now, so are you going to try and fix your mistake, or will you keep focusing on the past? The best you can do now is get over yourself, alright?” Regulus said sternly, locking his eyes with Sirus. Sirius kept quiet, but nodded determinedly, taking a deep breath before grabbing Regulus’ small suitcase. Following suit, Regulus shrugged on his knapsack, scanning over the rooms for anything he might want. The two raven-haired brothered steadily walked to the looming door of the manor, steadily opening it so as to not awaken the portraits. 

Once outside Regulus saw a maron-colored convertible with none other than James Potter sitting in it; he sighed and hopped in the back, clutching his luggage close to him once Sirus placed it next to him. James whipped around with his usual grin on his face, which usually meant he was up to something. “So,” Regulus started, “When the hell did you learn to drive?”

“Reggie, Reggie, Reggie, what makes you think I learned how to? I just hopped in and started fiddling with the pedals or whatever!” James exclaimed, almost as if he wanted Regulus to be proud of him? Regulus sighed, not wanting to deal with him after an especially tiring night. All he could do at the moment was sigh and give a short nod, signaling for him to drive.

[reverent-rooster]

Got playing with old pics and my collage app so I made a timeline of sorts! Special mentions below the cut!

1. Baby Fin getting dropped off at summer camp. (Age 12/13) (I'd brought my hairdresser a printout of Hikaru from Ouran Highschool Host Club and this was the cut I ended up with)

2. Post Mermaid Swim Fin (Age 20) (I think I may have been binding on this one?)

3. First photo I'd noticeably gained weight back in after being Super sick (Age 22)

4. Calling this one "Guess What's in my Bucket" (Age 23)

5. 4 days on T (Age 25)

[a-linearis]

the urge to shave my head/go and get a fade is growing day by day

[dunno what to do about it though because i've never been to the barber's before and they prob won't give me a masc haircut :/]

[i-dont-know-what-im-doing-2024]

Trans Resources

I wanted to make a little post with some of the resources I’ve found that have helped me so far in getting some of the things I need. These might apply more to transmasc situations but some should work for everyone!

1. https://www.thetrevorproject.org

I haven’t used this one yet but I am planning to, they have counselors available that you can talk to or text which sounds really great. If anyone has used them feel free to reblog so people can hear about your experience, if not I’ll update when I’ve used it.

2. https://strandsfortrans.org

This is a website where local businesses that are LGBTQ+ friendly can register so you can look through trans affirming salons and barbers in your area. I was surprised that there were a few options near me and it made it less scary to try and book an appointment.

I didn’t want to wait for my usual hair stylist to have an opening and a trans creator I like made a good point that if someone has always cut your hair and doesn’t know you’re trans or nonbinary they might naturally make the style more feminine (in my case) which is why I wanted someone new. At the same time walking into a traditional barbershop when I still have long hair and don’t even have a binder yet would’ve been way too anxiety inducing so this definitely has helped me.

3. https://www.pointofpride.org/binding

This page from point of pride has a lot of helpful resources about binding including how to do it safely and different brands where you can purchase a binder. I’ve also heard good things from some online creators about Spectrum Outfitters and UNTAG for people with larger chests. I don’t own a binder yet so I don’t have a personal opinion but hopefully this gives people a starting point with a few brands they can look into.

This website also has a free binder program as do many others but unfortunately the waiting times are usually months to years. I still applied just to be on the list and I’m hoping to find another way to get a binder in the meantime.

4. https://pflag.org

This is just the National PFLAG home page but I recommend looking at local branches if there are any near you as they offer support groups, scholarships, and might be able to point you towards services that help in your area.

5. Local Resources

I’m not putting a link for the ones I’ve used because I don’t want people to know where I live but I can say some of the services near me I had no idea about but seem like they’ll be really helpful. Now I had the advantage of already knowing a few organizations in my area to look up but generally a lot of the LGBTQ+ organizations also have resource pages pointing to other local and national organizations that might be helpful.

Personally I found a mini grant for $100 where the organization has you fill out a survey and put links for 1-3 items up to $100 of gender affirming products. I put down a binder and a masc shirt and jacket off Amazon. I don’t know what the waiting list is for this but I was excited it included clothes since almost everything I own is excessively feminine. Local organizations might have shorter waiting lists if they serve a smaller population though they also have less funding so it could be a toss up.

Another local service that I would say is probably the most helpful for me so far (although I haven’t had my appointment yet, just booked it) was a clothing exchange. This place provides totally free gender affirming clothes to queer people which is incredible because I’m an unemployed college student and have been feeling uncomfortable with my wardrobe for a while but can’t afford anything else. They didn’t require me to donate anything either so if you still like your old clothes or need them for safety reasons you can still get help. I was also able to book the appointment with the name and pronouns I’m considering which is cool because I might be able to actually get a feel for them? I can definitely say that getting the confirmation email to Conor for the first time gave me big feelings.

Anyway that’s all my advice/resources for now, although I’ll probably make a second post or add to this one if I find more things that help. I’m definitely someone who processes through serial researching so there could be more coming your way in the future. Also please reblog with anything else that has helped you or your experiences with the above services for other people to find ☺️