#gender affirming haircut

[ashnotashe]

I havnt ever had a gender affirming haircut and I've let my hair grow for 3 years. Both of that changes fucking today.

My local LGBT center was having free haircuts and I decided fuck it. If I want to start to lean butch then I better fucking do it now, life won't wait for me to do it.

I'm so fucking happy these pictures don't show it I nearly cried when I got to my car <3

[our-trans-youth-experience]

trans youth is getting annoyed when your parents remind you of your AGAB when you get a new hairstyle

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's fustrating when that happens.

[quanyixhen]

July 31st 2024

This was about a week ago luckily TT my hairs grown out a bit now and doesn’t look as horrendous 💀

[slayful-malewife]

Someone just told me I look like Anakin Skywalker, "the gay one from star wars." It was probably meant to be an insult, but never have I felt a bigger surge of gender affirmation in my life

[transenbyconfessions]

https://www.tumblr.com/transenbyconfessions/712573690273005568/i-had-a-phase-where-i-would-obsessively-look-at

update: i finally got my hair cut! dad kept pestering me to cut it short but i know if mom comes with me i'll just get stuck with another girly bob :/ so when i finally had a chance to get it done alone i got an undercut so my hair can stay long but with half of my head shaved :)

i loved the new barber shop i went to, all the salons in the mall were full because everyone was on holiday but not this one. it was empty, no music was playing, there wasnt any gossiping happening in the corner like there usually was when i go and get my hair cut. the barber was friendly, and the barber next to him kept ribbing him about accidentally shaving all my hair off, which is funny to me because if it were up to me that's what i'd go for :D

the buzz of the clippers was very therapeutic and i felt the way down to my toes, the euphoria of having my hair finally the way i wanted it to look without the hairdresser trying to fawn over my long, thick hair and lamenting over me cutting it too short oh no it's gonna look too masculine!!! 🙄 not having to fight tooth and nail just to get my hair done is great, actually. i definitely teared up a little while the barber carefully shaved my head.

then he washed my hair and gave me a scalp massage and blowdried my hair, and i felt great! i left the shop looking like i just got out of the shower with a few inches hacked off and i've never felt so refreshed afterwards before. i couldn't believe i was missing out on the real objective of a haircut while i was busy being mad at previous hairdressers that focused on layers and flyaways and trimming split ends when all i really wanted was a straightforward shave that they wouldn't give me. i wanted short. i wanted to look like the me i envisioned and hopefully this is a step towards that.

i should invest in some clippers, theres something about the ability to shave my head in the middle of the night if i wanted to thats very appealing... and now i love tying my hair up when i usually just leave it down and uncombed because i couldn't care less about it, now it feels like something that's mine and mine alone <3

Submitted April 22, 2023

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[i-dont-know-what-im-doing-2024]

Haircut Pt. 2

So anyways the first part of this post I talked about my experience with getting my hair cut and how I found a gender affirming barber. This part I want to talk more about how the short haircut has made me feel.

It’s definitely been complicated and I was fully panicking beforehand but honestly once they started cutting my hair I calmed down a lot. I think a lot of the fear was around waiting and worrying I would back out so it was a bit relieving when it was out of my hands. There were still stressful elements but it was an overwhelmingly positive experience.

And I am so happy with the results, walking back to my car I think I finally understood gender euphoria, it was incredible and still is though that initial rush has worn off a bit.

So here’s time for the weird truth, I think it’s made my dysphoria worse in some ways. It’s like this whole process of trying to figure myself out has made me more aware of some of the things that have bothered me in the past that I ignored and I just generally feel that disconnect a lot more pressingly now that I know how much better everything can feel.

The only explanation I can think of for this is that since I wasn’t trying to look masculine before it wasn’t a big deal getting misgendered but now that I’m trying to explore that side of myself it is. I sometimes feel like the haircut still looks feminine and generally don’t have the gender affirming clothes I need yet or even a binder. Which, because I have a bigger chest, is my only chance of any masc clothes fitting right.

But overall I’m incredibly happy I did it even if it made my dysphoria worse because that’s part of figuring myself out right? I’d rather know how much better this feels than the not but it’s still hard right now.

[thecouncilofidiots]

I love our new hair style/cut.

It is very gender affirming, and versatile enough to be gender affirming for the others.

Feminine? Feminine+Masculine? Gender Neutral? Masculine?

Works for all of us.

-Baz

[loseallcontrol]

/cries in transmasc joy

[our-trans-youth-experience]

it honestly feels kind of like my whole life is on pause while i’m waiting to be able to transition medically. like i’m kind of just… waiting. for my life to start again until i’ve finally transitioned. is that a common trans thing??

Yeah, I get that. It can suck having to wait a few years to be happy in your body and to feel like yourself, but it will come.

In the meantime, try to express yourself as much as you can by socially transitioning, for example getting new clothes or a gender affirming haircut. Stay safe out there, you'll be able to medically transition soon I promise! <3

[deadwhiterosesstuff]

So, I got my first "proper" (meaning i didn't do it myself ) gender affirming haircut, and I wanted to share it here

[reverent-rooster]

Got playing with old pics and my collage app so I made a timeline of sorts! Special mentions below the cut!

1. Baby Fin getting dropped off at summer camp. (Age 12/13) (I'd brought my hairdresser a printout of Hikaru from Ouran Highschool Host Club and this was the cut I ended up with)

2. Post Mermaid Swim Fin (Age 20) (I think I may have been binding on this one?)

3. First photo I'd noticeably gained weight back in after being Super sick (Age 22)

4. Calling this one "Guess What's in my Bucket" (Age 23)

5. 4 days on T (Age 25)

[a-linearis]

the urge to shave my head/go and get a fade is growing day by day

[dunno what to do about it though because i've never been to the barber's before and they prob won't give me a masc haircut :/]

[i-dont-know-what-im-doing-2024]

Trans Resources

I wanted to make a little post with some of the resources I’ve found that have helped me so far in getting some of the things I need. These might apply more to transmasc situations but some should work for everyone!

1. https://www.thetrevorproject.org

I haven’t used this one yet but I am planning to, they have counselors available that you can talk to or text which sounds really great. If anyone has used them feel free to reblog so people can hear about your experience, if not I’ll update when I’ve used it.

2. https://strandsfortrans.org

This is a website where local businesses that are LGBTQ+ friendly can register so you can look through trans affirming salons and barbers in your area. I was surprised that there were a few options near me and it made it less scary to try and book an appointment.

I didn’t want to wait for my usual hair stylist to have an opening and a trans creator I like made a good point that if someone has always cut your hair and doesn’t know you’re trans or nonbinary they might naturally make the style more feminine (in my case) which is why I wanted someone new. At the same time walking into a traditional barbershop when I still have long hair and don’t even have a binder yet would’ve been way too anxiety inducing so this definitely has helped me.

3. https://www.pointofpride.org/binding

This page from point of pride has a lot of helpful resources about binding including how to do it safely and different brands where you can purchase a binder. I’ve also heard good things from some online creators about Spectrum Outfitters and UNTAG for people with larger chests. I don’t own a binder yet so I don’t have a personal opinion but hopefully this gives people a starting point with a few brands they can look into.

This website also has a free binder program as do many others but unfortunately the waiting times are usually months to years. I still applied just to be on the list and I’m hoping to find another way to get a binder in the meantime.

4. https://pflag.org

This is just the National PFLAG home page but I recommend looking at local branches if there are any near you as they offer support groups, scholarships, and might be able to point you towards services that help in your area.

5. Local Resources

I’m not putting a link for the ones I’ve used because I don’t want people to know where I live but I can say some of the services near me I had no idea about but seem like they’ll be really helpful. Now I had the advantage of already knowing a few organizations in my area to look up but generally a lot of the LGBTQ+ organizations also have resource pages pointing to other local and national organizations that might be helpful.

Personally I found a mini grant for $100 where the organization has you fill out a survey and put links for 1-3 items up to $100 of gender affirming products. I put down a binder and a masc shirt and jacket off Amazon. I don’t know what the waiting list is for this but I was excited it included clothes since almost everything I own is excessively feminine. Local organizations might have shorter waiting lists if they serve a smaller population though they also have less funding so it could be a toss up.

Another local service that I would say is probably the most helpful for me so far (although I haven’t had my appointment yet, just booked it) was a clothing exchange. This place provides totally free gender affirming clothes to queer people which is incredible because I’m an unemployed college student and have been feeling uncomfortable with my wardrobe for a while but can’t afford anything else. They didn’t require me to donate anything either so if you still like your old clothes or need them for safety reasons you can still get help. I was also able to book the appointment with the name and pronouns I’m considering which is cool because I might be able to actually get a feel for them? I can definitely say that getting the confirmation email to Conor for the first time gave me big feelings.

Anyway that’s all my advice/resources for now, although I’ll probably make a second post or add to this one if I find more things that help. I’m definitely someone who processes through serial researching so there could be more coming your way in the future. Also please reblog with anything else that has helped you or your experiences with the above services for other people to find ☺️

[nando161mando]

Huge win for Queerfolk in Florida. The restrictions on providing gender affirming care to trans youth and adults have been found unconstitutional and are now permanently enjoined. Thanks to Simone Chriss and the Southern Legal Counsel.

The full documented decision here: https://storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.uscourts.flnd.460963/gov.uscourts.flnd.460963.223.0.pdf

[doktorventure]

Have I posted my face here before? Anyway I cut off all my hair today.

[our-trans-youth-experience]

Getting my first masc haircut in two days (March 27). I'm excited but also a little scared. I hope it turns out well, I just want to look like a guy. Ten days ago I came out to my two closest friends. I haven't officially come out to anyone since then, but I put my preferred pronouns in my social media bios. Hopefully the haircut will give me the confidence to tell my parents.

Wow that's great! Good luck with your haircut, I'm sure it'll turn out great <3