#gender affirming haircut

[ashnotashe]

I havnt ever had a gender affirming haircut and I've let my hair grow for 3 years. Both of that changes fucking today.

My local LGBT center was having free haircuts and I decided fuck it. If I want to start to lean butch then I better fucking do it now, life won't wait for me to do it.

I'm so fucking happy these pictures don't show it I nearly cried when I got to my car <3

[tmefantasyy]

Him running his hand through the short hair on the back of my head while making out.

That's what I call gender-affirming kissing.

[ilovespidermansomuch]

sorry I just need to rant ab hair rn

I need to get my hair cut cause it's growinh out, and the cut I want to get is quite masculine, so I went in to ask ab it in a barber

and they told me that bc I'm a woman (I don't pass but I'm ftm) I need to go get it done at a hairdressers, where the price is at least DOUBLE the barbers.

I'm just confused because why should I have to pay an extreme amount to get like ab inch off of my hair just bc I'm afab????

below the cut is a reference to what I said I wanted to get done (and the reference is of an amab person)

[our-trans-youth-experience]

trans youth is getting annoyed when your parents remind you of your AGAB when you get a new hairstyle

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's fustrating when that happens.

[clowningcrows]

i got my hair cut short yesterday and today i put on my binder and clothes that make me feel comfortable gender wise and im ngl i started sobbing when i looked at myself in the mirror. for the first time in my entire life, i felt like it was actually me that i was seeing in the mirror. i never even knew what i was missing before. i didn’t know it was supposed to feel like this.

[starving-marauder-lover]

Giving yourself a haircut>>>getting an actual one

(I probably should not have done this the night before I got my school ID)

[quanyixhen]

July 31st 2024

This was about a week ago luckily TT my hairs grown out a bit now and doesn’t look as horrendous 💀

[slayful-malewife]

Someone just told me I look like Anakin Skywalker, "the gay one from star wars." It was probably meant to be an insult, but never have I felt a bigger surge of gender affirmation in my life

[transenbyconfessions]

https://www.tumblr.com/transenbyconfessions/712573690273005568/i-had-a-phase-where-i-would-obsessively-look-at

update: i finally got my hair cut! dad kept pestering me to cut it short but i know if mom comes with me i'll just get stuck with another girly bob :/ so when i finally had a chance to get it done alone i got an undercut so my hair can stay long but with half of my head shaved :)

i loved the new barber shop i went to, all the salons in the mall were full because everyone was on holiday but not this one. it was empty, no music was playing, there wasnt any gossiping happening in the corner like there usually was when i go and get my hair cut. the barber was friendly, and the barber next to him kept ribbing him about accidentally shaving all my hair off, which is funny to me because if it were up to me that's what i'd go for :D

the buzz of the clippers was very therapeutic and i felt the way down to my toes, the euphoria of having my hair finally the way i wanted it to look without the hairdresser trying to fawn over my long, thick hair and lamenting over me cutting it too short oh no it's gonna look too masculine!!! 🙄 not having to fight tooth and nail just to get my hair done is great, actually. i definitely teared up a little while the barber carefully shaved my head.

then he washed my hair and gave me a scalp massage and blowdried my hair, and i felt great! i left the shop looking like i just got out of the shower with a few inches hacked off and i've never felt so refreshed afterwards before. i couldn't believe i was missing out on the real objective of a haircut while i was busy being mad at previous hairdressers that focused on layers and flyaways and trimming split ends when all i really wanted was a straightforward shave that they wouldn't give me. i wanted short. i wanted to look like the me i envisioned and hopefully this is a step towards that.

i should invest in some clippers, theres something about the ability to shave my head in the middle of the night if i wanted to thats very appealing... and now i love tying my hair up when i usually just leave it down and uncombed because i couldn't care less about it, now it feels like something that's mine and mine alone <3

Submitted April 22, 2023

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[i-dont-know-what-im-doing-2024]

Haircut Pt. 2

So anyways the first part of this post I talked about my experience with getting my hair cut and how I found a gender affirming barber. This part I want to talk more about how the short haircut has made me feel.

It’s definitely been complicated and I was fully panicking beforehand but honestly once they started cutting my hair I calmed down a lot. I think a lot of the fear was around waiting and worrying I would back out so it was a bit relieving when it was out of my hands. There were still stressful elements but it was an overwhelmingly positive experience.

And I am so happy with the results, walking back to my car I think I finally understood gender euphoria, it was incredible and still is though that initial rush has worn off a bit.

So here’s time for the weird truth, I think it’s made my dysphoria worse in some ways. It’s like this whole process of trying to figure myself out has made me more aware of some of the things that have bothered me in the past that I ignored and I just generally feel that disconnect a lot more pressingly now that I know how much better everything can feel.

The only explanation I can think of for this is that since I wasn’t trying to look masculine before it wasn’t a big deal getting misgendered but now that I’m trying to explore that side of myself it is. I sometimes feel like the haircut still looks feminine and generally don’t have the gender affirming clothes I need yet or even a binder. Which, because I have a bigger chest, is my only chance of any masc clothes fitting right.

But overall I’m incredibly happy I did it even if it made my dysphoria worse because that’s part of figuring myself out right? I’d rather know how much better this feels than the not but it’s still hard right now.

[loseallcontrol]

/cries in transmasc joy

[fauxfox1]

So, I got my first "proper" (meaning i didn't do it myself ) gender affirming haircut, and I wanted to share it here

[reverent-rooster]

Got playing with old pics and my collage app so I made a timeline of sorts! Special mentions below the cut!

1. Baby Fin getting dropped off at summer camp. (Age 12/13) (I'd brought my hairdresser a printout of Hikaru from Ouran Highschool Host Club and this was the cut I ended up with)

2. Post Mermaid Swim Fin (Age 20) (I think I may have been binding on this one?)

3. First photo I'd noticeably gained weight back in after being Super sick (Age 22)

4. Calling this one "Guess What's in my Bucket" (Age 23)

5. 4 days on T (Age 25)

[a-linearis]

the urge to shave my head/go and get a fade is growing day by day

[dunno what to do about it though because i've never been to the barber's before and they prob won't give me a masc haircut :/]

[our-trans-youth-experience]

it honestly feels kind of like my whole life is on pause while i’m waiting to be able to transition medically. like i’m kind of just… waiting. for my life to start again until i’ve finally transitioned. is that a common trans thing??

Yeah, I get that. It can suck having to wait a few years to be happy in your body and to feel like yourself, but it will come.

In the meantime, try to express yourself as much as you can by socially transitioning, for example getting new clothes or a gender affirming haircut. Stay safe out there, you'll be able to medically transition soon I promise! <3

[nando161mando]

Huge win for Queerfolk in Florida. The restrictions on providing gender affirming care to trans youth and adults have been found unconstitutional and are now permanently enjoined. Thanks to Simone Chriss and the Southern Legal Counsel.

The full documented decision here: https://storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.uscourts.flnd.460963/gov.uscourts.flnd.460963.223.0.pdf