#gender affirming haircut

[as-ter-oid]

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[ashnotashe]

I havnt ever had a gender affirming haircut and I've let my hair grow for 3 years. Both of that changes fucking today.

My local LGBT center was having free haircuts and I decided fuck it. If I want to start to lean butch then I better fucking do it now, life won't wait for me to do it.

I'm so fucking happy these pictures don't show it I nearly cried when I got to my car <3

[tmefantasyy]

Him running his hand through the short hair on the back of my head while making out.

That's what I call gender-affirming kissing.

[ilovespidermansomuch]

sorry I just need to rant ab hair rn

I need to get my hair cut cause it's growinh out, and the cut I want to get is quite masculine, so I went in to ask ab it in a barber

and they told me that bc I'm a woman (I don't pass but I'm ftm) I need to go get it done at a hairdressers, where the price is at least DOUBLE the barbers.

I'm just confused because why should I have to pay an extreme amount to get like ab inch off of my hair just bc I'm afab????

below the cut is a reference to what I said I wanted to get done (and the reference is of an amab person)

[quanyixhen]

July 31st 2024

This was about a week ago luckily TT my hairs grown out a bit now and doesn’t look as horrendous 💀

[our-trans-youth-experience]

trans youth is getting annoyed when your parents remind you of your AGAB when you get a new hairstyle

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's fustrating when that happens.

[clowningcrows]

i got my hair cut short yesterday and today i put on my binder and clothes that make me feel comfortable gender wise and im ngl i started sobbing when i looked at myself in the mirror. for the first time in my entire life, i felt like it was actually me that i was seeing in the mirror. i never even knew what i was missing before. i didn’t know it was supposed to feel like this.

[starving-marauder-lover]

Giving yourself a haircut>>>getting an actual one

(I probably should not have done this the night before I got my school ID)

[i-dont-know-what-im-doing-2024]

TRANSITION UPDATE

So I thought I’d post an update about what I’m thinking about transition and what I want to do.

Most of this is stuff I’m pretty sure about but still processing as it can feel really overwhelming but it’s also exciting to think about, especially when I don’t freak myself out fixating on the parts that are overwhelming.

While I’m not ready to get all these things done tomorrow they are things I want in the future.

- Top surgery, this is a big one (possibly the biggest for me) and I think I’ve even found a surgeon I would most likely want to go to. I’m going to try to save up to hopefully cover the 30% my insurance won’t cover. I think ideally I would want this in the next year but we’ll see how things turn out I guess.

- Hysterectomy, this is actually something I’ve thought about for a while before realizing I was trans and it’s not my biggest priority but it’s the least intimidating to me because I’ve already had a long time to process the idea. This is simple, I don’t want biological kids, pregnancy is deeply disturbing to me and my worst fear, having those organs hurts, my mom has endometriosis and I think I could too so might as well get rid of everything, no periods- everything about this is easy for me except deciding exactly what parts to remove.

- HRT, I know for a lot of people this is the first medical intervention they have but I still have mixed feelings personally. For me surgery is easier to process because it mainly affects one thing but HRT causes so many changes I feel like I need to work out how I feel about each potential one. I’ve thought a lot about T and starting at lower levels to ease my way into it or taking it temporarily for a couple years to get the changes I want. The best way I can describe my feelings is that I’m not totally sure yet but I’m feeling more sure that I’ll get to a place where I am comfortable with it.

- Bottom surgery, zero interest I prefer what I have and am way too scared to deal with such an intense procedure anyways. Although I am coming around to the idea of bottom growth being gender affirming and less terrifying- also packing is great.

- Name change, makes me sad to think of not using my birth name anymore as it was obviously a huge part of my life and identity and I will miss it but it also doesn’t feel like it fits anymore so I’ll stop going by it when I come out even if it’s a little bittersweet. Also I’m feeling pretty settled on Caden at the moment :)

- Clothes, I’ve been slowly collecting more masculine clothes and I have more options now that I don’t hate although there’s a lot of things that were from discount racks that aren’t a hundred percent my style and I still don’t have a lot I really like but it’s improving and it’s a work in progress.

- Haircut, I’m happy not having long hair but still deliberating on a style, right now I have an undercut and the top is a bit longer, it’s not blended. Currently I’m debating between trying to grow it out a bit to have like messy surfer vibes hair that’s just on the back of my neck and shorter in the front or going shorter and more masculine. Will probably go shorter once I decide on a style, at least until I start T and look more masculine so I’ll feel more comfortable with longer hair.

That’s it for today, I would love to do an update more about my feelings at some point as well but it’s still a lot and this was easier to write.

[slayful-malewife]

Someone just told me I look like Anakin Skywalker, "the gay one from star wars." It was probably meant to be an insult, but never have I felt a bigger surge of gender affirmation in my life

[transenbyconfessions]

https://www.tumblr.com/transenbyconfessions/712573690273005568/i-had-a-phase-where-i-would-obsessively-look-at

update: i finally got my hair cut! dad kept pestering me to cut it short but i know if mom comes with me i'll just get stuck with another girly bob :/ so when i finally had a chance to get it done alone i got an undercut so my hair can stay long but with half of my head shaved :)

i loved the new barber shop i went to, all the salons in the mall were full because everyone was on holiday but not this one. it was empty, no music was playing, there wasnt any gossiping happening in the corner like there usually was when i go and get my hair cut. the barber was friendly, and the barber next to him kept ribbing him about accidentally shaving all my hair off, which is funny to me because if it were up to me that's what i'd go for :D

the buzz of the clippers was very therapeutic and i felt the way down to my toes, the euphoria of having my hair finally the way i wanted it to look without the hairdresser trying to fawn over my long, thick hair and lamenting over me cutting it too short oh no it's gonna look too masculine!!! 🙄 not having to fight tooth and nail just to get my hair done is great, actually. i definitely teared up a little while the barber carefully shaved my head.

then he washed my hair and gave me a scalp massage and blowdried my hair, and i felt great! i left the shop looking like i just got out of the shower with a few inches hacked off and i've never felt so refreshed afterwards before. i couldn't believe i was missing out on the real objective of a haircut while i was busy being mad at previous hairdressers that focused on layers and flyaways and trimming split ends when all i really wanted was a straightforward shave that they wouldn't give me. i wanted short. i wanted to look like the me i envisioned and hopefully this is a step towards that.

i should invest in some clippers, theres something about the ability to shave my head in the middle of the night if i wanted to thats very appealing... and now i love tying my hair up when i usually just leave it down and uncombed because i couldn't care less about it, now it feels like something that's mine and mine alone <3

Submitted April 22, 2023

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[loseallcontrol]

/cries in transmasc joy

[toastedb4gelwithcreamcheese]

So, I got my first "proper" (meaning i didn't do it myself ) gender affirming haircut, and I wanted to share it here

[reverent-rooster]

Got playing with old pics and my collage app so I made a timeline of sorts! Special mentions below the cut!

1. Baby Fin getting dropped off at summer camp. (Age 12/13) (I'd brought my hairdresser a printout of Hikaru from Ouran Highschool Host Club and this was the cut I ended up with)

2. Post Mermaid Swim Fin (Age 20) (I think I may have been binding on this one?)

3. First photo I'd noticeably gained weight back in after being Super sick (Age 22)

4. Calling this one "Guess What's in my Bucket" (Age 23)

5. 4 days on T (Age 25)

[a-linearis]

the urge to shave my head/go and get a fade is growing day by day

[dunno what to do about it though because i've never been to the barber's before and they prob won't give me a masc haircut :/]

[our-trans-youth-experience]

it honestly feels kind of like my whole life is on pause while i’m waiting to be able to transition medically. like i’m kind of just… waiting. for my life to start again until i’ve finally transitioned. is that a common trans thing??

Yeah, I get that. It can suck having to wait a few years to be happy in your body and to feel like yourself, but it will come.

In the meantime, try to express yourself as much as you can by socially transitioning, for example getting new clothes or a gender affirming haircut. Stay safe out there, you'll be able to medically transition soon I promise! <3