#gaslighting yourself works

[halinski]

me: *cries for a reason*

self @ me: "get a hold of yourself!!"

*later*

me, completely delusional: "i cried for no reason today looool"

[gomzdrawfr]

[putridpride]

happy (not that stoked) Labor Day to all the mfs that work today. especially if y'all aren't getting time & a half or double time. Thank you for working because it's what u have to do to survive. Labor Day is only a blue collar worker/office job kinda holiday, so bless you all that are working like it's any other day, I promise we see ya and appreciate y'all <3

[thefabelmans2022]

well that's just not true at all is it.

[a-dash-in-the-middle]

wanting to visit the archives without looking like a fanatic bc nobody likes posting government documents online apparently

[iwatcheditbegin]

I can never fully explain the trauma of being brown and growing up with racist family members.

[widevibratobitch]

bruh i cant. i just never fucking know what to say.

[adhbabey]

You should always be wary of people who swear off therapy and then minimize, attack and step over your own feelings and experiences, because they think they're above having therapy, or they've tried it for one day, or one week and didn't seek another professional's advice.

Because genuinely, my heart goes out to everyone whose tried therapy and it hasn't worked for them because of problems outside of their control. But for people who fight you on the fact that therapy never works, not for anyone, and that they're better off just reading psychology and theory, those are the people that you should criticize the most.

It is obvious to anyone in the disabled or neurodivergent or mentally ill community that plenty of professionals are fucking stupid or ignorant because they haven't researched enough or learned past a certain point in their lives and stopped helping their patients beyond what they took tests for. And those are the people who let down people the most when it comes to helping people. Those are the people you shouldn't trust with your time or money.

So what makes you think that reading a couple psychology books, probably the same old, traditional bullshit, that they taught to all those terrible doctors, will actually help with yours or anyone else's mental health issues. Everyone whose met an annoying psychology major knows. It's clear that trying to be intellectually superior than a literal patient in therapy, or someone actually living with the disabilities described in those books, isn't the brightest idea.

As someone whose tried and failed to DIY their own mental health journey, it is not easy nor recommended to go through this shit alone. You probably shouldn't, because its damn well easy to make your mental health worse, because it's so easy to fuck something up. Like accidentally or purposely triggering yourself, in order to get to the bottom to why you're feeling something. It's not fun.

So please, if you're having trouble finding therapy, there are community resources out there to help you deal with shit on your own, but don't go spouting stuff you don't actually understand. Don't go trusting strangers who say they have the answers to self help, and then twist around actual clinical terms to bring their point home, don't listen to those people. Don't listen to people who spitefully swear off therapy because they think they can handle it all by themselves. Just don't trust people who don't actually have a degree, and still criticize the ones that do. If some advice to you, seems off, or overblown or diminished, you should be questioning that advice. You should be getting a second opinion.

I make mental health and disabled content all the time on here because I want people to be informed, and to find community and resources to get the help that you need. But you can't pull therapy words out of your ass and expect people not to question you. Talk to the community and don't just go informing random strangers, if you don't know what you're talking about.

If you abuse your platform to misinform other ignorant people, you deserve to have your platform taken away. So treat the chance to educate people as a privilege, don't use it to spout bullshit that you don't understand. Therapy isn't a last resort, so don't listen to anyone that treats it that way.

[bitegore]

if you are going to say "gaslight yourself" i think you should consider instead saying "lie to yourself" because a) it is true and b) it is a phrase that sounds less buzzwordy so people will actually take you fucking seriously. i dont trust a motherfucker who can't put the Most Popular Internet Words down and you shouldn't either. say the thing the way it is

[whimsycore]

one things I've noticed is once you've been mobbed or group bullied before you see signs ahead of time and try to get ahead of the curb just to be let down again

I just started a new job, I started in person suddenly I was seen as "antisocial, loud, unqualified" and every sterotypical attribute to black people including being repeatedly called "prioritized" by people who have offices while i'm in a cubicle

I could tell by today (I told my boss I was getting my ID) they were purposefully trying to be frustrating and gaslit me about it

the girl who usually lets me in was no where to be seen and someone WAVED at me and kept walking, I was eventually let in and told how I was a priority and they weren't when they got their ID.

Along with people coming up to my cubicle to peek at me and leave

Along with that my landlord called me greedy after forcing me to go to the store with her like....theyre wild in this City.

[dreamboyf]

working alone is bad for me bc it allows my brain to just go all the way off about how i should kill myself im a terrible inherently worthless person yadda yadda but working WITH people is worse . because of the people.

[hearts4liaa]

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~ love, @princessliaa1 *ੈ✩‧₊˚

[w-i-t-c-h-b-ii-t-c-h]

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge

The Primal Wound by Nancy Newton Verrier

Coming Home To Self by Nancy Newton Verrier

Self Love Work Book For Women by Megan Logan

Inner Child Recovery Workbook by Linda Hill

Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency And Complex PTSD by Linda Hill

It's giving ... "I was raised in the 90's" vibe.

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It's crazy the amount of work I've done with my current therapist in the short time I've been seeing her.

It's crazy that before her I saw someone else for 10 years.

It's crazy how I thought I did the work for 10 years.

It's crazy how much has been locked away.

It's crazy how much I have been dissociated.

It's crazy the amount of anger I have.

It's crazy that I was gaslit by children's books about my adoption.

It's crazy that I brought those books to show and tell.

It's crazy that I'm using different books to undo the damage of previous books.

It's crazy the amount of disdain I have for my birth mother.

It's crazy how much I crave her attention.

It's crazy that it took me this long to really see.

It's crazy how little I really knew.

It's crazy how little I know.

It's.....crazy.

[amey-winehouse]

[rulerofdumbassery]

My joints start aching: that's fine. Haven't had a chiropractor appointment in a bit cause scheduling problems. It is what it is.

Joints get worse: it's just a flare-up and I wanna bite people's head off cause I'm in pain. A lot but still.

I get tired: makes sense, chronic pain and fatigue be like that sometimes

Gets a runny nose: allergies, makes sense the weather has been a bit screwy

Gets a fever, can't breathe through my nose at all, hot flashes, cold flashes, brain fog, lack of appetite: oh.....OH SHIT WHERES A TEST!?

[boredymcbored]

Fuck. Like... fuckkkkk.

every time you assume that others are thinking negatively of you or judging you behind your back, you are bullying yourself through them. at the end of the day, you don't know what thoughts are running through their heads unless they verbally express them to you. until then, every one of 'their' opinions about you is nothing more than your fear, and whatever assumption is born from your fear is yours to let go - not theirs to disprove.