#from being gay and trans

[hillbillyoracle]

I think a lot about how Charismatic/Fundamentalist Christians think that trans and queer people are out here indoctrinating children because a lot of them think on some level that is just what you do with children. It's not the indoctrination that's wrong to them - like it is to most people I know - it's that it's the wrong indoctrination to them.

This isn't theory to me - I grew up in this mindset.

I was in 6th grade when I went to a church sermon that listed and described specific sex acts on a scale of how sinful they were to do before marriage.

I was in 7th grade when our small group read a book that was supposedly about waiting until marriage but was actually about how sinful women's bodies were and included weirdly lurid descriptions of an adult pastor having a sexual relationship with a high schooler (which was then blamed on that high schooler). This was also when my small group leader told us that a husband cheating (and even abuse) was never an excuse for divorce because "marriage isn't just between you and your husband, it's before God, and just because one person breaks their promise doesn't mean you get to".

In high school, I was taken to several sexual purity conferences where young "fallen" women would recount their sexual past, devolving into tears, while adult male pastors would press them for details on stage and use them as cautionary tales of what not to do.

We were encouraged to walk out of comprehensive sex ed if it was offered in our schools and they pushed for abstinence only education in the school I attended which was all shame tactics like the scotch tape metaphor and the cup demonstration - real fundie kids know what I'm talking about. I remember I approached the instructors afterwards to ask some questions because I felt like I was in a bad relationship and didn't know how to get out and they were like damn that sucks and this is why you shouldn't date.

There were entire sermons about how dating was morally abhorrent and the only godly way to find a husband was to commit to courting - which if you weren't raised in it - is where you're pretty much never left alone with the person and a lot of it is arranged by the parents of both parties. You're expected to get engaged very quickly - I'm talking like less than 6 months.

I managed to break away when I was about 16. But everyone I know who stayed with it wound up getting married at 18-19 and the vast majority were divorced (often with kids) by 23 - and thus largely ostracized from the church they grew up in. I've spoken with a few who've talk about how it basically ruined their life for a while. I feel for them deeply.

It is completely fucked to me that queer and trans people just living their lives - that's "grooming". But adult men asking horny questions to teenage girls on stage or recounting their affair with an underaged girl that other teenage girls are then forced to read somehow isn't...

[losver07]

walburga: no daughter of mine will date a potter!

regulus: yeah? well, i am not your daughter. mother, i am a boy.

sirius: *spits tea and laughs*

regulus: so, if i'm not your daughter does that mean i can go out with james?

walburga: *stares in shock*

sirius: can i come too? we're gonna have so much fun telling him this story

regulus: sure, you can do the voices

sirius: ohhh! i love doing the voices!

walburga: *eye twitches*

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

once again asking: can we PLEASE put chaser humor on the high shelf? im really tired of getting met with "based" "haha so?" "who cares" and shit every time i point out chaser shit. like you folk realize that chasing is a form of sexual violence right. these are people who look at vulnerable women being abused by basically every part of society, even ones that claim to be safe for them, and see an easy score before they see a real human being in need of love and support. you NEED to be able to distinguish between genuine interest and care and someone saying what they know you want to hear so they can get in your pants. and its hard! but its even harder when half the damn jokes on this site regarding trans women are straight up chaser tactics but "totally a joke i swear." im sick of it. so fucking tired. join the war on chasers

[managone16]

Sirius: You cunt. Regulus, sighing: What did you do? Sirius: You're a fucking bitch. Regulus: Regulus: You shagged Remus, didn't you? Sirius: WHY WOULD YOU TELL HIM I LIKED HIM- Regulus: Because you do?? Sirius: Sirius: I'm gonna kill you. Regulus: Mother won't be happy- Sirius: Mother can go fuck herself. Regulus: That's a terrible thing to think about- Sirius: NOT LIKE THAT!! UGH FUCK YOU! Regulus: Please don't. Go fuck Remus. Again.

[bamjammy]

My stupid half asleep ideas inspired by a bunch of various tumblr posts about them

[dandeleon]

it mcgucket monday (da WHOLE family here‼️)

[ezkel]

au where the house of black is blood purist but not homophobic or transphobic.

Regulus comes out as trans as a kid, they make him a transition plan.

He comes out as gay and they change their arranged marriage folder to pureblood men instead of women.

he tells them he's dating James Potter, the blood traitor, and that's where the problem is.

[forebound]

regulus “i will die your daughter” black.

[lettorescrivecose]

Regulus: Is having a penis fun?

Barty: It has its ups and downs.

Evan: Sometimes it’s a little hard.

Pandora: It’s a pain in the ass.

Dorcas: Oh, Jesus, fuck, guys, come on.

[outromoony]

HAPPY PRIDE 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[buckskittle]

James calls reg’s tits “chest balls” to try and help with dysphoria and it fucking works

[managone16]

Regulus: You wanker. Stop it. James: What did I do?! Regulus: You're doing it all wrong. You literally put gillyweed in the amortentia potion!! James:...Oh!! Hehe I totally didn't notice that. James: I-mean, why would I do it on purpose? Not like I just want to do it so I can be here with you- James: I swear it's not just cause of that. Regulus: Regulus, sighing: You're such a terrible liar. *makes another potion and puts all the ingredients* James: Did you do it?! Regulus: *smells it* Yeah, It's perfect. James: How are you so sure? REgulus: Cause it smells like y-nevermind. Can you smell it? James, nodding: Yeah it smells like— *James pauses, realising* James, wide-eyed: Fuck.

[here-am-i-sitting-in-a-tin-can]

Barty, high as a kite: Man, I just got the dick chills

Regulus: Can you not get the dick chills again?

[dagwmeno]

🏳️‍⚧️💞

[draayder]

it's so difficult to talk about the societal shift many transmascs face once they're read as male I'm white so I had a very gentle shift especially compared to many POC, but I still felt it. interactions with women that were previously simple now required additional care and effort. gestures that had previously read as friendly now seemed intimidating and predatory. it sucks to lose that solidarity that I didn't think twice about before. it sucks to have to consider if I'm going to make someone uncomfortable by acting the way I always have, because I'm still the same person and it doesn't seem fair that I have to change how I exist in the world in order to be a man

and I get it. believe me I get it. I was on the other side of those interactions before, I know how intimidating it is to have a man talking to you in a way where you can't quite be certain he isn't flirting. that he's not going to take things badly. you have to be closed off or else you're accused of leading him on. I'm not blaming any of the women for this. this is another problem brought about by the patriarchy

but for any trans men or transmascs out there in the thick of that change and feeling uncomfortable and weird about it, you're right. it isn't fair, it does suck, it shouldn't have to be this way. you're not whiny for feeling this. it gets better over time and you learn how to exist again, but it's rough for a while. hang in there

[zentriii]

i’m so obsessed w her i don’t think u understand