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Someone girl on TikTok made an edit of Meg march to Labour by Paris Paloma and then deleted my comment about how the song didnāt really fit as the whole point is that Meg choose that lifestyle, she wanted a husband and kids and thatās the whole point of the bit between her and Jo. Neither of them are wrong for wanting different things and to make it out like wanting a family automatically means that youāve been subjected to something is so wrong.
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"kill all men" is a disgusting message that doesn't actually contribute to feminism. Yes, all men benefit from the patriarchy, but NO, not all men should be killed or jailed just because most rapists and criminals are men. You cannot say "But if it's not all men then it's their friends" as if all men intentionally work together to hurt women. That's just not true. And you don't know everything your friends do, so don't expect the same from men (although yes, men should be taught to shut down sexist jokes and behaviors when they see it in their friend groups). Stop trying to justify it, even if it's a joke, it reduces men to their gender and supports violence on that basis. Any message that generalizes people for things they cannot control, and uses that generalization to justify violence will NEVER actually promote equality. I want to end the system; not the people. Free the oppressed; not eliminate the privileged.
It's not "kill all whites" it's black lives matter.
It's not "straights are sinful" it's love is love.
"Kill all men" doesn't focus on women, so why is it so prevalent in feminist spaces. Is kill all men the world you want to move towards? I cannot speak for all feminists, but I want a world where women get treated with respect they deserve as humans, simply because as humans, that is the default. I want a world where equality knows no gender. I want a world where empowered women get to empower the world. I want KAM as an idea to die out and I want "my body is my choice" to become as obvious a statement as "the sky is blue". I want "my place is wherever I go" to be so normal that it's redundant to say it. I want a world where "no" has no rebuttals, and that is simply a fact of life. I want a world where safe spaces are unnecessary because everywhere is safe. But until we get there, I want my message to tell the world exactly what I want. "Kill all men" isn't doing anything helpful, it's just helping feed the demonization of feminist movements. We should be focusing our energy on uplifting women and making sure abusive men are held accountable for their abusive actions.
And side-note in case terfs find this: I've lived most of my life with society assuming I'm a woman and treating me accordingly. I've been affected by misogyny (and misogynoir) for most of my life, and I've read books and taken classes on the oppression of women both in the past and present. I have researched the history of feminist movements in multiple parts of the world. I lived it, I've learned it, and I will not let anyone invalidate my knowledge or experiences.
#feminism#my body my choice#no means no#my place is wherever I go#equality knows no gender#empoweredwomen#womens rights#no more kam#uplift female voices#women supporting women#listen to her#girls just want to have funds#end femicide
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like all good points however who is calling sabrina doing all that āfeminismā??? like girlie is just having fun doing pop star things like her whole act lately is abt sex which is ok like whatever and as a straight woman bjs are usually part of the equation? like again these are all great points and a good conversation to have but who is thinking sabrina is a feminist for her live performances and as far as i know sabrina is calling herself one for that
#then some replies were like bjs are inherently degrading to women likeā¦ā¦..#Yes they have been used as a way to degrade and use violence on women but that doesnāt mean they r inherently degrading#itās like men thinking sex is smth they Do to women rather than smth men and women do and enjoy#some others were like yeah they are bc they donāt bring any pleasure to women#like ?????#sex is not all about oneās pleasure#and like a lot of women and anyone who gives bjs actually enjoy giving pleasure to someone else#and again this is just for the replies the op made great points#like viewing bjs and sex in general as something inherently degrading to women is also a problem methinks#like viewing all parts of sex as something both parties can enjoy doesnāt mean ur ignoring the violence that has been inflicted on women#through (heterosexual) sex#also this is not in a choice/liberal feminism kinda way
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Feminists who make sensible, reasoned arguments in favour of autonomy and have calm debates with the anti-abortion crowd are amazing and I admire them and of course we need them to continue educating and informing, for the sake of the women and girls on the fringes of the discussion especially.
But ffs I do not CARE if the foetus is alive, or a person, or a baby, or anything else. If something is in my body and I do not want it there, it is not staying inside me. I am not a vessel. I am not obligated to grow a new human with my own body and its resources.
"Consent to heterosexual sex is consent to pregnancy but also if you're raped don't blame the ickle baby and abort." Sure. Hence abortion. Hence contraceptives. Solutions are invented when there are problems to be solved. Whether those problems are natural or created or even self-inflicted is irrelevant.
"Mothers have an obligation to their children." And yet, those who seek abortions should be prepared to choose adoption as a satisfactory alternative. So which is it, are we dutiful mothers from the moment of conception or are we supposed to be happy performing unwanted reproductive labour for adoptive parents? Are we cattle or are we dogs?
"You're killing your baby." I don't care if it's an endangered Amur leopard cub tbh, it's not staying there. I am not a mother and I do not want to reproduce. I have seen motherhood. I think mothers are incredible, as a group and often as individuals. I also think unwanted motherhood is the cruelest fate imaginable, for both woman and child.
Bottom line is, there is no scenario where it is more ethical to force a woman or girl through pregnancy and birth than it is to safely terminate said unwanted pregnancy. No amount of guilt-tripping or moralising or misinformation or provocative rhetoric can outweigh my right to choose not to be pregnant.
(Also personally I would terminate myself if I couldn't access termination for an unwanted pregnancy. So I guess the foetus would still technically end up aborted lol. You ain't growing from me, sunshine.)
#abortion#pro choice#radblr#radfem safe#radical feminism#i recognise as a lesbian i have a slightly skewed view on abortion since#consensual pregnancy would mean quite the process#but i seriously have no patience for anyone who is anti abortion#whether right wing left wing centrist proclaiming to be feminist etc#i don't care#fuck off#*not a skewed view on abortion - a skewed view on pregnancy full stop
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oh, so close, buddy, so close. why, yes, it is sexist of grrm to use sansa this way while writing the starkling bonds involving brothers as all but conflictfree! (we only get that one flashback of robb hurting jon by screaming about his bastardy and it's revealed pretty late in the game, near the end of asos, after robb's death. and clearly happened when they were quite young, an isolated incident, without which robb would have been pretty much a perfect brother to jon.) but it's especially bad when sansa/arya aren't just the only stark sisters in present timeline, they're also only one of two developed sisterly relathionships in the entire series, the other being their mother and her sister. that relationship had cracks in it years before catelyn was aware of them, and ended with a death threat from lysa leaving cat bitter towards her. is kinslaying or near-kinslaying the resolution y'all want for arya and her sister or just never meeting again period? what a great sisterly track record that would be for grrm! not to mention a great ending for arya, ignoring her own desire to see all her siblings again and finally have a good relationship with sansa! it's true that you can really tell that agot sansa was created just as a foil to arya and it's clear which sister the writer favored back then, who we're meant to side with. but to think that grrm has done nothing better with sansa since then, has never developed her beyond the token unstark and a "camera pov" for more plot important characters, that she has never once expressed any care for her sister, and that there is never any hope for sisters with a bad childhood relationship to grow and get along better once they're older, that they can never have a good relationship and should never even try, well, i'd say that makes you more sexist than grrm ever was as a writer and also kind of insulting toward his later work. congratulations on that!
#asoiaf#sansa stark#fandom w@nkery#ftr one does not need to be a sansa stan loving above all other starks and other chars to be bothered by sexism#idt feminism equates to uplifting feminine women but it is an interesting choice of grrm's#that he could only introduce conflict for the starks thru more trad girly chars the mean stepmother and prissy princess sister#with the lady of wf defined by her motherhood yet only having scenes with robb (and jon)#while ned interacted with all the starklings bar rickon#and it never occurred to grrm to show conflict w robbjon a rship which should be tinged with jealousy and unintentional enforcement of such#until the 3rd book when robb was already martyred#asoiaf meta#(c)lsb
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this just in: uplifting people just by virtue of their assigned gender at birth in the name of feminism found to be transphobic so now we're just gonna shit on those who CHOOSE to be male presenting bc it's a CHOICE right so we can tell them they're inherently inferior right guys??!!
bioessentialism found to be transphobic so we're jumping straight into gender essentialism which is totally cool as long as it's pretending to be feminism!!!!
#IM SORRY im sorry#i genuinely really enjoyed the trans rep in the first half 9/10#then they just HAD to tue rose being trans into the plot and then do some weird steven moffat ass feminism thing#no he would not have got it if he was still a woman!!#he's the same fucking person she's standing right in front of youuu i want to scream#doctor who spoilers#rtd trued and i massively appreciate him trying and not shying away from rose's identity#but he overshot like massively#and ngl it was really bloody hurtful#mine#sorry this is probably too much im not mad they're uplifting women and very definitively including trans women in that#but they can do it without shitting on other people#negativity#vent tw#doctor who#also is rose meant to be a trans woman or nonbinary transfem?#i mean she can totally be both go girl but there seemed kinda mixed messaging#a lot of girl and woman and then at the end randomly throwing in nonbinary and neither#but again she can totally be both just seemed a bold choice for first trans character to not definitely be one or the other#but go off rose#hnngh im sorry but this just feels like the david not wesring jodies costume thing x1000#one slap in the face after another
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You know after finding radical feminism, and engaging with the theory seriously, I understand now what it means to be empowered. In the genuine, legitimate way. I feel like an actual human being, an actual animal, with actual thoughts and feelings that are HEARD. And UNDERSTOOD. By so many women of whom I was taught to dismiss and scorn.
Like I stopped shaving a few weeks ago. I feel empowered to do that, having been given the tools to stand up against the glares and the snide comments.
I stopped wearing makeup a few months ago. I felt empowered to do that, realising that my actual human face is worth something more than a decoration.
I started eating well and working out. I felt empowered to do that, having come to the realisation that I'm a human being with thoughts and desires and what the fuck was I doing with my life if I wasn't becoming the buff, athletic, energetic woman I dreamed about becoming as a child.
All of these things are not offered by liberal feminism. All of these things are sidelined as a choice that some women...."you know the type"..... did when they were scared and angry and stupidly lashing out at the poor men and their 'simple expectations for women's hygiene'. BULLSHIT.
I'm working on grounding myself in my own pov, one that isn't an invisible male audience. I'm arming myself with the knowledge to fight back against anti-feminist movements, and how to identify them. I'm working on centring women, and thinking critically about my own actions in relation to ALL of this.
How the fuck have I missed all of this for the majority of my life. I am a HUMAN BEING???????!? NOT A DECORATION????!?!?!???? Literally mind blowing, and
I never noticed it until now????????.
Every woman in my life is traditionally feminine. I believe they will shun me for being an extremist if I express my anger at the patriarchy. Idk but if this is extreme what the fuck is normal. Who made this up. When can I kill him ļæ½ļæ½
#a rant today followers#spurred on by the violent urge to shave#and me impulsively buying a razor after i threw mine out#its HARSH#i havent shaven but its such a compulsion and i just feel so sorry for the women who think its a choice#theyve never tried to stop and it shows#i had to make a decision that felt like i was literally pushing against the coding walls in Detroit become human#random ref but whatever#i have a long way to go and im not confident that i wont buckle sooner or later#but im breaking it down#nothing has empowered me more than the things people have FOUGHT for women not to understand#seeing men as second class citizens (as mean as it is)(even just ideologically) has leveled the playing field#and explained so many of my male peers actions in ways that i couldnt articulate before#its literally even now. how is this a fate worthy of death in liberal circles#anyways here's to a long a prosperous ugly feminist phase š„#theres nothing more beautiful to me#feminism#radical feminism#radblr#radical feminist#radical feminist safe#radical feminists do interact#radical feminists do touch#radical feminist community#radfem#radfems do touch
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Makeup is power people when you tell them you genuinely donāt care about ur acne or dark circles or being fat
#Iām using makeup is power as shorthand for a specific kind of person donāt get mad at me RELAAAX#I have mixed opinions on makeup none of which are backed by anything substantial#so just know if u think makeup is powerful this is not necessarily about you#TO REITERATE#BC PISS ON THE POOR WEBSITE#IM TALKING ABOUT A SPECIFIC EXPERIENCE I HAD WITH A SPECIFIC PERSON#Iām talking about choice feminism from someone who hasnāt deconstructed misogyny and what it means in her life#and thinks assimilation but with a girlboss filter is the epitome of feminism whilst being surprised I donāt want a fucking tropical patch#THATS ITTT
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Man sometimes you see something on your dash and you're like 'ah okay there will be a response somewhere' but no. No they actually think this is a good take and now you have to unfollow about it.
#I may actually have to install the terf detection addon#radfems are fucking UNHINGED y'all#'birth control is evil and bad' I'm sorry is this now a FEMINIST TAKE? what the FUCK?#is this like the liberal hippy -> antivax -> conservative pipeline?#birth control is about - as the name implies - CONTROL#it's about BODILY AUTONOMY#like yes I agree that the versions men could take SHOULD have gone to market ages ago#but hormonal birth control helps with ACTUAL HEALTH ISSUES#and grants women control over their fertility rather than relying on someone ELSE for that#and the purity bullshit of 'I will never let artificial hormones touch My Cycle' is just deranged#feminism means it's your choice because choices mean you're allowed to be a fucking moron#but don't pretend you're better than other people for that jesus fuck and ESPECIALLY don't act like they're not allowed to choose too#I'm not even vagueblogging about this I feel strongly about it and anyone who disagrees can and should unfollow me
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I hate the word pickme because it's not very compassionate. Maybe a girl just needs to get Fortnite flossed on by a man before she sees the light. Maybe pickmeism is indicative of deep-rooted mental issues that can only be solved through therapy and realization, none of this can happen if we're just gonna demean the girl for having a lapse in judgment or what have you
#txt#I am also projecting! Because I let myself get abused and become an abuser because I wanted to play in shit#without the internet echo chamber rattling in the back of my head#it's rather liberating to reject what you've previously held#liberation not necessarily being good#because everything requires balance.#balance between restraint/discipline and total freedom and dismissal of morality#or values#does this mean psychic damage good and cute?#no#but i wanted to fuck around and find out because i am a big girl and also have autonomy#none of this should be promoted btw im just pro you doing you until you find a conclusion#i think the distinction between āchoice feminismā and this is that choice feminism frames it as āthis does not have detrimental condequences
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Hot (though maybe no more than lukewarm) take: liberal feminism is just as bad as the patriarchy, because it managed to re-brand misogynist concepts under the mantle of individualism as seemingly progressive. Women who subscribe to it are made to believe they're liberating themselves while the exact opposite is the case. It's gaslighting at its finest.
#feminism#we used to be able to call out sexism and misogyny#but these days it's always#oh but what if she chose to do that?#what if the niqab feels empowering to her?#maybe there is SOME abuse in the sex work industry#but my aunt's dog walker's niece quite enjoys it#what if I like spending 300 $ a month on beauty products#while men spend a fraction of that on personal grooming?#what if she just enjoys being pregnant and wants to help gay couples?#I mean sadly she couldn't get out of war-torn Ukraine#but at least her baby is going to have a nice life now#yeah fuck off#choice feminism without any critical examination#of patriarchal and misogynist structures#serves only men
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When I started my studies to become an accountant, I had no idea how political that career would turn out to be.
Post graduation, I was at a crossroad.
I could have gone Right. Chose to work for the accounting firm where I did my internship, one of the "Big Four". It would have meant having wealthy coworkers for who "renting" housing is a waste of money. It'd mean a successful and impressive career. It'd mean 60 hours weeks minimum, spent making the rich richer, through legal and illegal means. It'd mean working for a firm thats been convicted again and again and again. A firm thats been condamned to pay record fees of millions of dollars year after year, and can yet keep going normally like it's nothing.
But I went Left. Chose to work for an association. Took a pay cut. Be surrounded by coworkers that barely make ends meet. Be paid by government's money like I'm on "state handouts". But knowing my time is spent assisting and housing the poor and refugees.
#being a kid/teenager is thinking politics are just boring blabla and left and right are trivial choices like having a favorite colour#being an adult means knowing that politics decide your life/the choices available in your life.#and knowing that the right means being pro rich and the left means being pro poor#radical feminism#radfem please interact#radfem safe#radical feminist safe#rambling into the void#radical feminists do interact#thoughts#right vs left#politics#accounting
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this post is not gonna be well put together but i am having feelings
mean girls is trending right now because the musical movie just came out and i feel insane. idk why i do, it was stupid of me to think that most people Got It, no one ever gets it, it was always about the memes and the aesthetic.
the first mean girls movie was based on a nonfiction book called queen bees and wannabes. it interviewed and discussed the social hierarchy system in teen girl friendships. how they hold each other to these insane standards of heternormative femininity out of sheer terror that they won't meet those standards themselves. the way they leverage their relationships for some small degree of power in a world designed to strip them of it, even if it drags other girls down.
the "you can only wear your hair in a ponytail once a week and on wednesdays we wear pink" speech was not an original creation for the script. it's a QUOTE from a real teenage girl. those were REAL RULES.
then the musical came, and it was one step removed from the intended messaging of the film. OG mean girls was not perfect (and was extremely racist), but it said what needed said. the musical leaned on the comedy more, but still left a heartfelt undertone, and still critiqued the systems in place. of course no piece of media is going to be perfect, but it was about the conversation.
then this new movie comes out and it is washed over in the veneer of white hollywood feminism so thick you can't see anymore. the problematic aspects of the original movie are taken out to avoid "offending" when the offense was the point. it becomes toothless, it becomes some other thing entirely. they changed karen's line "i expect to run the world in shoes i cannot walk in" to "watch me as i run the world in shoes i cannot walk in." because choice feminism is in vogue, suddenly this character whose entire point is that she doesn't think deeply about WHY she does anything is suddenly hip to the fact that the world is against her.
i think of sokka losing his misogyny arc in the new atla. i think of the Heathers remake casting the bitchy, identical heathers as queer and hollywood-fat outcasts. as if the story, the meaning, the allegory is hidden in the sets and the jokes and the music. it's a whole new thing now, and it's a thing that means nothing in particular.
the plastics should not wear jeans. they should not have curves. their queerness should be suppressed, painful. their sexuality is not a slay, it's the only thing they think they have of value. the santa dance isn't sexy, it's shocking, it's mortifying - they are children.
they're not mean because "we are all mean." they are mean because they are girls in a world that brutalizes them and crushes them into a standardized shape. they are mean because the world is mean to them. they are mean because it gives them some power back. they are mean because it's the only weapon they have.
the landscape of femininity today has shifted to camera-ready makeup at the age of 10, stringent performative hygiene standards, and avoiding being caught on film while having a genuine emotion. the consumerism, the fatphobia, the racism, the classism, the homophobia remain. We could have had a conversation about that.
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thinking about akudrive and feminism which is a thinly-veiled way of saying im thikning about doctor
#what a fucking character i love her#like. the majority of the akudama are men. only two in the initial seven r women#but theyre WICKED IMPORTANT#there r some akudrive characters u could cut without losing too much as long as u worked around it (namely brawler hacker n cutthroat)#but swindler is obvi pulling main character duty and doctor is RLLY important#aside from the executioners she's the biggest antagonist and even just the way she causes conflict via questioning brother does a lot#like i feel like active vs passive choices are a big thing in akudrive and doctor is hella active#plus just her character more generally! shes weirdly mean shes full of herself she has a complex!#i'm 90% sure shes a canon trans woman in the manga yet she's constantly making weird anti-sjw remarks#(calling courier gay for not wanting to grope her; the whole feminism thing in ep 4; all her remarks abt brawler)#doctor ily girl. women are allowed to be mad scientists with god complexes its fine <3#like akudrive Does have more men than it does women (albeit not as bad a ratio as you see a lot of places its like. 5-8)#but the women r all focused on and good characters and the men r the ones more likely to be bit pieces!#like obvi 'good character' is subjective but like. the woman with the least focus is boss who is! still! interesting!#idk maybe im sheltered and 'the women are good characters and none are fridged and they are the focus' isnt like. revolutionary#but its just like. nice to see! like pupil and boss and doctor are all interesting and swindler + sister get to bond#and swindler in general is my utter beloved#so like. yeah. watch akudrive. it is fucking stupid as hell and u kinda just gotta let the worldbuilding glaze over you#because midway thru an episode theyll go 'btw the moons been blown to pieces and the thing in the sky is a projection'#and then theyll just move on#but its rlly good. watch itttt#(main tws are like. gore thats censored in most vers. attempted SA. biiig themes of police brutality. the black guy is written badly)#watch itt
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#its so easy to see that some of yall dont actually care about women you hust hate men#let women have bodily autonomy if i have to see that post again i will cry#i was saved by traditional femininity but if j say anything im the bad guy whos forcing everyone to be a woman in the kitchen or. something#i dont fucking know anymore dude. i dont#just leave women alone how about that#vent tw#sighs.#adding later:#OH i understand why this ideology is so upsetting#the wholeāchoice feminismā is bad or whatever#its because its terf ideology DUH!#yall falling for radfem bullshit once again. Yikes!#adding later 2:#āi dont mean to attack women i just mean that the choices youre making are badā cut back to two posts ago#āanyone who believes in choice feminism are fucking STUPID BITCHES who are being MANIPULATED by MEN and actually secretly you HATE YOURSELFā#like do you hear yourself. do you hear yourself???#adding later 3:#see and im aware im being hypocritical of my beliefs. somewhat. im being somewhat hypocritical#because im commenting on other womens choices on how the express themselves and how they experience the world#but if i have to see that terf rhetoric behind a gauzy sheet floating in the wind one more time i Might take my head clean off
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#those stay at home gfs are exactly because feminism is failing THEM#they absolutely have the right to dream of stereotypical feminine roles#if modern feminism wasnt obsessed with one upping men#they would feel secure in these identities and uplift the women in their life who love working#because these choices would be seen as not influenced by gender#would you fault a trans woman for wanting to keep a home instead of work#would you fault a man#wanting a different kind of life isnt a crime and these woman arent my enemy#they do however need to be informed and empowered about what this means about them as a person with gender removed from the equation
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