#feminism is like. choice.

[towertea]

op is a terf

“reclaiming femininity” SHUT UP SHUT UP you can’t reclaim something that is expected of you and that you are actively punished for not engaging in shut up shut up shut up pink capitalism has won im going to chew glass a

[butchlifeguard]

we need to destroy the idea that girls should wear makeup. normalize bare faces on prom queens and flower girls and cheerleaders. no products at all instead of '7 product simple makeup routine.' no more 10 step skincare and regular facials and dermablading and gua sha just to be comfortable with yr natural face. i want to see eye bags on the funny librarian and acne on the swim coach and wrinkles on all our adult role models. i want to see a 16 year old girl that has never tried putting on eyeshadow. i want to see a 7 year old girl who doesn't have to go out and buy powder for her dance recital. i want to see trans women and girls everywhere to never have to wear makeup, regardless of how well they 'pass.' no more 'contouring to look masc' either. a post-beauty industry world is possible

reblogs are on but if you bring up the stage makeup point that i have addressed three times yr blocked on sight ☹️

[ohno-myfeefees]

Lmaooo. LOL even.

HoW aM I sUpPoSEd to LeArN fRoM mY miSTaKesssss

School clearly did nothing for you anyway.

[tiredyke]

tumblr doesn’t even have baby feminism it’s all “men deserve rights too” and “feminism means letting women wear makeup and shave and date men”

[todorkihoe]

seeing the collective psychosis that white women are going through on tiktok about this “ballerina farm” woman is so insane and infuriating because these people will claim to be feminists but it’s radio silence when there’s thousands of missing native american women and black women getting murdered by cops in their own homes everyday.

people saw this white woman who CHOSE not to go to julliard and instead chose to get married, have 8 children, and live a mormon lifestyle and lost their minds. you never hear them speak about any other social justice issues but as soon as this stay at home mom does an interview about the life she CHOSE to have it’s uproar and we all need to save her.

it’s commonplace in other countries for women to be literally forced into marriage and forced to bear that many children and you don’t hear ANYTHING about it. but this woman says that she wanted to be a ballerina and instead is now a stay at home mom married to a billionaire and i’m seeing thousands of videos about how “heartbreaking” her situation is.

and i’ve heard so much about how “you can care about two things at once” and yeah, that’s true but the thing is the people saying that could not give a shit less about the systemic oppression of women of color literally right in front of their faces.

[champagnemoon]

The 4b movement starts being discussed in the west and is immediately watered down to the most tepid version possible …very predictable

[hadesoftheladies]

sometimes i think about how women are forced to live with their natural predator, groomed and conditioned to starve their bodies and make themselves weak, wear clothes or heels that are inconvenient when it comes to fighting or running away . . . and how they can kill their rapist or their domestic abuser and still go to jail for it

i also think about how demonized women are for desperately wanting to opt out of the violence of pregnancy, a good number of which men inflict on them as a form of violence, how children, girls, can be sexually brutalized and then arrested for dealing with that consequence

sometimes i connect these two thoughts

[viktoriakomova]

I’m not saying it’s surprising or inherently wrong [on the athletes’ part] or whatever but. the way NIL has shaken out so far with the value of male athletes and their “brands” being determined primarily by their athletic prowess and merits, and female athletes being overwhelmingly valued on their sex appeal above all other attributes, is just so fucking deflating I mean oh my GOD.

[yu-huuuu]

"Your body, my choice"

"Your microdick, my knife🥰🔪"

[giantkillerjack]

I saw a post complaining about people acting like Betty is some kind of poor little girl taken advantage of by her situation. And while I haven't seen this happening myself, it does make me laugh to think about because like,

Ma'am, that woman nearly killed everyone in the world *TWICE* trying to save her husband, INCLUDING TRYING TO MURDER ICE KING.

That woman has a body count that nobody asked her to make! She is just! So good! At crimes!! And we love that for her!!!

#girlboss #golbboss #God-Forbid-Women-Do-Anything

[cognitiveleague]

An open message to the jackasses who’ve really been out there saying “your body, my choice” these last few days, as unlikely as it is that many of them are on Tumblr (since I’m not on Xitter and still don’t ever plan to be):

I literally can’t imagine you see yourselves as anything better than petty, sniveling little creeps deep down if you feel like that’s a fun thing to crow about in public and threaten people with, so I won’t bother appealing to the reason or decency you clearly take pride in lacking.

I won’t ask how you sleep at night.

Instead, I’ll offer a friendly suggestion for how you should sleep at night:

With one eye open, you pathetic little shits.

Because if people who get pregnant against their will are going to have to risk jail time for just exercising control over their own bodies… well, they might start thinking they may as well do something worth the jail time for if they’re going anyhow, you know?

[lightscamerabitchsmileee]

A hot take here: but can we all agree that it's not an artist or actor or athlete or any other celebrities' responsibility to be a political activist on every single goddamn issue?? Like for fuck sakes guys give it a rest...I'm sick of it

[gravedangerahead]

Maybe it's all very obvious and basic, but I think a lot about how there's no win state to being a woman. And I think we might be dropping the ball in getting people acquainted with feminism 101, so I'll write it out anyway.

Women are considered naturally inferior, so if someone deviates from their enforced womanly gender role they are considered unnatural and deviant and can be met with violence for not confirming, but if someone does conform then they are correctly filling their role as an inferior being. You can be a rebellious inferior being who must be subdued or a good little pet who does as you're told

The standards of womanhood of any given society are basically unachievable no matter how hard you try. You're always too much or too little, or you may be automatically excluded from eurocentric beauty standards or you're not supposed to be a woman at all. You can spend your whole life chasing after those standards, spend precious time and energy every single day trying to achieve it. And your reward when you do well in one aspect or another is often condescension and the absence of conformity enforcing violence. Are you gonna complain about getting a pat on the head instead of getting punched?

A lot of women get very defensive of the "girly" things they do, even when they're part of oppressive demands, as exemplified by how exhausting it is to try to criticize make up culture on this website. It's easy to roll your eyes at women who defend their choice to do something that's basically encouraged and required to do by all of society like they're doing something radical, because it's very frustrating. Women themselves are often the violent enforcers of patriarchal standards, so if you're more often on the other side of the conformity spectrum you understandably aren't very sympathetic.

But I think if you wanna make the effort to have that conversation anyway it's helpful to keep in mind that women often do what is expected and required of them AND they're degraded and looked down on for doing those things. And that the more marginalized a woman is the harsher the reaction to unconformity might be, compared to you. And if you're on the defensive side, take a breath and think about how there's a difference between the people who consider you vapid and stupid for caring about girly things and the people criticizing patriarchal demands on women

When I was a teenager and loved twilight I remember reading something, I think it was from the leaked chapters of Edwards perspective, about how Bella would lift her face to the rain with no problem because she wasn't wearing any make up. He then goes on to wax poetic about how she doesn't need it because her skin is perfect. And that's the thing right? You're supposed to have perfect skin, be thin, be pretty, without being so shallow as to care about those silly things, and without ever bothering anyone with how time-consuming and energy intensive it is to try to fit into those supposedly "natural" standards

[lala-blahblah]

I will never make this because it would be for an audience of one (me) but ever since reading "If we Were Villains" (story about serious drama kids in college who perform shakespeare and deal with a murder) I have been entertaining the thought of a crack fic crossover with High School Musical The Musical The Series where the staff decides they will no longer put on shakespeare after the tragic accident that happened at Thanksgiving, because Shakespeare plays would only increase the tension and drama. So they hire Ms. Jen who decides their spring play will actually be High School Musical (which exists in the 90s in this universe) and it ruins the vibe so much that everyone gives up on being dark and mysterious because they're universally pissed at Ms Jen for making them learn choreoraphed basketball dancing.

[seventeendeer]

just watched the barbie movie everyone was discoursing about last year and I can't help but feel like a lot of the problems in its execution could have been avoided if the kid character's arc had been about learning to embrace girly stuff as an act of rebellion against the adultification of teen girls while barbie went full butch transmasc

[hadesoftheladies]

let me be so fr y'all. i will NEVER shame a woman for having a man that treats her right. okay? that's always going to be a win, why would i complain about that? i just think that most of y'all that say you found him are fckn lying.

like i've watched women in dv situations lie through their teeth. they'll lie to their besties who know them freckle to freckle about their bruises. it doesn't even have to be abuse. i know how much women lie to keep up appearances with other women and i'm just saying i'm not buying it with most of y'all. that's my truth. and i start having issues when you start lying about that reality to younger women who will most likely just end up in the same shitty relationship bc of the false hope women in mid-to-shitty relationships with men espouse. and i can tell they're lying even MORE when they start trying to talk about how "women aren't necessarily better" whether that's about celibate or same-sex-partnered women. they'll drag their own female friends in order to convince everyone else that their man is truly the real deal as a status symbol. they'll shit on what their friends do for them in order to justify their veneration of this mid-ass moid. i've just seen it happen too many times, and that's why i think it's justified that radfems draw parallels between het-partnered feminists and liberal women who cling to femininity. y'all talk the exact same most of the time and even have the same arguments.

anyways.