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[moroser]

aus are my favorite thing because you can think about your favorites in situations that they normally wouldn't be in. you get to think about their character and really dig into how they'd react and act in totally different environments or with other characters. aus does not always equal ooc. like it means a lot to me to keep lilith (and hunter and the others) as in character as I can while exploring and expanding on them how id like. and it's apart of the fun of writing/drawing them. aus offer the chance to expand on characters where canon has ended or fell short. they can be a good outlet for creators and readers/viewers for certain topics. it leaves interpretation up to you. aus are fun and aus rule.

[sincerely-sofie]

Maybe it's just my lack of spatial awareness and poor geographic comprehension but the fact that so many of you guys exist in time zones with a single hour difference from mine, let alone live on the opposite side of the world from me, just doesn't feel real.

You all are supposed to be only a few minutes down the road from my house. We're living in the same neighborhood. If I go outside to take out the trash I'll see one of you walking your dog and call out a hello and some comment on a post circulating around the fandom, and you'll call back a good morning and an absolutely insane take on the post before you continue on your walk and I sit down to relax in the shade of the tree outside my house. What do you mean none of you grew up with me going to the same school, playing at the same parks, nicknaming the same stray cats? No way. We all were in the same English class together and I know I signed your yearbooks.

[klainelynch]

I've realized that one reason why I've let my AO3 inbox pile up in the past is because every time I refresh the page and see the 0, I feel a type of way about it

[deermouth]

autism moment but im actually gonna lose it thinking about the pitchfork review for shearwater's the golden archipelago where they're like "it's good! it's pretty! it's a concept album about islands!" and not once do they mention it being about the bikini atoll nuclear devestation like you are PAIIIIDDDD to WRITE THISSSSSSS.

Send back the uniforms send back the generous reich send us back to our lives on the waving blue wild and remove every mark down to the waterline

yes this was in 2010 i know sorry

[e77y]

Glad I’m starting therapy so soon after moving out ☝️ I am already feeling the helplessness and loneliness

[moraxsthrone]

wanna support your local nsfw content creator??

PUT YOUR FUCKING AGE ON YOUR BLOG

[seventh-district]

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[sixstringpansy]

The best part of being a member of this fandom is that there's always something to celebrate- on the big days, and on the small days.

From "happy shrine day" to "happy birthday" to "happy 4 year anniversary of this christmas song gerard released" to "happy album release day" to "happy 20th anniversary scorpion tattoo" to "happy anniversary of this picture of mikey holding a bag of tostitos.” there is always, ALWAYS, something to celebrate. And I think that’s the most amazing thing.

[eddis-not-eeddis]

One of my favorite singers was the lead singer in a band five years ago, but they are no longer active and now he only sings backup vocals for more popular singers and no I don't wanna listen to you lemme hear the backup singer gosh darn it!

:(

[polaroidcats]

If you had to only eat one food/type of food for the rest of your life, what would you choose?

❤️🍀

definitely POTATOES!!! I mean, if I had to ONLY eat potatoes for the rest of my life, that wouldn't be a very nutritionally balanced diet but it would be a very very tasty diet so I'm okay with that. Potatoes are so versatile, there are 100000 different ways you can prepare them and they're all delicious!!!

send me asks if you want!

[nickcutler]

everyone wants to take the heat off aziraphale but i'm gonna have to insist we keep the heat on aziraphale a little bit longer

[lenjaminmacbuttons]

does anyone have any woman's relationship with her mother leads her to descend into madness movie recs

[the-golden-mango-of-discord]

Hi! I hope you are doing well (⁠◕⁠ᴗ⁠◕⁠✿⁠)

For the violence ask game: 12,18 & 22 about tgcf.

12. the unpopular character that you actually like and why more people should like them

i feel like there's not too many characters that would be considered unpopular?? i guess i'll say mu qing bc there's a fair amount of mu qing haters but he is my guyyy my boyy my problematic proletarian fave <333 i understand him on a fundamental level if i had to live among rich people i'd be a cunt too ok. he has so many complexes and he has not gotten over a single one after 800 years what's not to love!!

18. it's absolutely criminal that the fandom has been sleeping on…

LANG YING (the original one)!!!!!!!!!!! nobody brings him up in any of the discourse or the meta or the fics or the angsty book 2 fanart and it makes me want to commit atrocities!!!!!!! he is the moment he is THE xie lian foil and everyone has collectively forgotten he exists

22. your favorite part of canon that everyone else ignores

maybe just bc i'm rereading this part but during the mt tonglu arc when xie lian is slowly going insane thinking he's the actual reincarnated prince of wuyong is sooo insane i will never get tired of watching xie lian spiral in any context <3333

[notjanine]

Bookstore is coming over tonight bc it’s cold and rainy and a holiday weekend, so i don’t want to go out but i do want to hang out. i already told them i’m not gonna have sex with them (this time) and i want to keep my word, i want to get to know them a little better first but…. i also wanna Know.

[lucemxnox]

today's class just reaffirmed that some people REALLY should never be teachers, especially in k-12 education. dude fully was just incredibly disrespectful, rude, and argumentative during a roundtable discussion, cut people off multiple times, and directed his anger at me and another classmate strongly that it made the class all uncomfortable. if you can't handle a simple discussion without blowing up in anger, how the hell can you teach students whose identities you don't support? how will you handle any POC kids in your class if you blow up in a GRAD SCHOOL CLASS including at THE PROFESSOR stating his beliefs that historic racism strongly contributes to issues today in politics? and you wanna teach history????? to KIDS??? just freaking wild dude.

[vegaseatsass]

Just wanted to say that when you said you consider yourself "autism-adjacent" I felt kind of understood. I think I'm always between calling myself allistic or autistic or maybe just ND or something else. I don't know to which extent I mask or to which extent I am just faking autistic experiences, and while I love being in the autistic communities online (and having autistic friends to whom i will never ever breathe a word of my own doubts about my self dx), I do feel like an intruder so I never want to share my experiences or talk above someone else.

Oh anon, I'm so glad to hear that resonated for you even a little bit! This is a post that really helped me: https://vegaseatsass.tumblr.com/post/706935614630772736/tamlin-the-thing-is-you-dont-have-to-have-a so maybe it will help you too.

Like, there are huge issues when people with a mild version of an experience (whether that's like, an experience of oppression, a disability, anything else), or the most "relatable"/palatable-to-the-power-structure version of an identity (like autism), become the spokesperson for the entire group; I firmly believe it's worth staying mindful of that and actively working to center and amplify the most vulnerable and/or norms-challenging members of ANY community one is a part of.

But I think it starts to get really complex beyond that! I don't think sharing experiences is automatically talking above anyone else or taking up space or resources. If there are behaviors or traits, or strategies or accommodations, that fit an autism diagnosis, which it really helps you to identify with or apply to your own life, it is not imo hurting anybody else to incorporate those into your identity and approach to the world.

But I still feel so weird about doing it myself!!! I've been diagnosed with 7 or so different labels over the past 20 years, which leads to me feeling like I'm faking at all of them. My current dx (Non-Verbal Learning Disorder) has helped me the most in terms of strategies and accommodations, but I still feel like a faker because I don't fit all the different criteria, and the parts I do fit mostly feel mild (except for the executive dysfunction, which was so debilitating to me it's taken me decades to get to a place where I can feed myself or work - but this is hardly the only dx w/ executive dysfunction as a symptom!!!). Then even with NLD, there's like debate on if it's even a real??? learning disorder??? or if it's just a non-stigmatized name for a particular kind of autism??? or what, and it's just all incredibly confusing to me LOL.

What I've found the most useful is 1) identifying symptoms, and not worrying about connecting them to an umbrella term. Just focusing on managing the symptoms that are obstacles to the life I want to live, and on embracing/reframing the ones that are authentic/benign parts of who I am that don't need to be managed beyond pressure to seem "normal" 2) letting myself relate to anyone describing experiences that resonate for me, quietly and internally. Not running up to anyone sharing something personal I relate to and acting like we're the same, but just letting my own "I feel that too! I see myself in what you're saying!" response be a way I connect to the world while staying quiet/private about a lot of my own experiences, outside of therapy and a few really close, really safe friendships. Friendships where I know it will be validating to hear that I see myself in what's being described (and/or where we can communicate about the times when it's not) instead of risking invalidating or minimizing somebody else's experience.

I know there has to be a better way for people like you and I to express our authentic experiences without this level of second-guessing, and a way to create spaces where it doesn't feel like getting ourselves "wrong" comes with any risk for a community we care about, but I'm at least not there yet so it's easier for me to like, do more listening than talking for now, and also get really wrapped up in fiction where I can relate to whoever I want to however deeply I want to. Khun Sam 😍

I also strongly feel that the beauty of terms like neurodivergent is that, like "queer", you don't have to be able to lay out every detail about who you are for anyone else. You can have questions or some internal suspicions about who you are and how you work that connect you to a community/a sort of general scope of collective experiences, and figure out the specifics with time and care, including if/as those specifics change.

I HOPE THAT MADE SENSE, I am not the most clearheaded today at all but I really wanted to respond. Thanks for sending me this message and I so hope you start to feel like more of a beloved member of the communities you're in instead of an intruder.