#fat dating

[artofkhaos404]

Can we take a moment to address the fact that fat people aren't allowed to have a type or taste unless it's other fat people?

If a person with an "acceptable" body type (thin, midsized or muscular) is typically most attracted to another one of these "acceptable" varieties of body that isn't their own... for example a thin person having a type for muscular people... it's normal.

It's just a preference, right?

If anyone with one of those "acceptable" body types listed above is attracted to fat people, it can either be seen as odd or cute. Toxic attitudes towards it range from:

"Aw, I love that you look for personality!" to "Seriously? Look at you! You could do so much better, don't settle for less!" to "Good for you, giving them a chance anyway!"

Even if some of that sounds positive, it's all horribly fatphobic. Not healthy. Not equal. Yet, for the most part, being attracted to fat people when you aren't fat yourself isn't seen as a huge issue or really discussed at all. People might just tell you that you're selling yourself short or have bad taste.

BUT.

If you're fat, all those rules change.

Into muscular builds? Skinny bodies? Midsized frames?

"That's not fair, how do you expect him to stay in shape and be sexy for you when you don't even try to take care of yourself? You would swallow him. He deserves someone who keeps themselves as trim as he is. You should be with someone more your size."

Just because I'm fat, that doesn't mean I suddenly lose all capacity for taste as to what I'd prefer my partner to look like. I'm not less worthy of having a partner I'm attracted to. I don't deserve less say or lose rights to my opinions because of my body type.

I'm attracted to skinny men. That's my type.

That doesn't mean I wouldn't go out with a fat guy or a muscular guy or a midsized guy. Doesn't mean I think fat guys are ugly or muscular men are gross. I'm generally not particularly inclined to other builds rather than thin ones, but if he was sweet to me and checked all my boxes, I would totally go out with him! Without hesitation! Despite his body type.

No one is ugly for their appearance. "Ugly" is something inside you. I don't think that shallow. Fatphobes? They're who's truly ugly.

And racists, sexists, punkphobes, etc.

But still... generally... I have a preference.

It was okay for you.

Why not for me?

[bobagirl-bbw]

The feedist urge to ask how much he weighs 🥵

[angeloftheodd]

My response to some dude’s response to me rejecting him… LMAO at the pathetic losers who go from flirting with us fat babes to insulting us once we reject them! 😹😹😹

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[queerfatlife]

I am so sick of dating and trying to find someone I like. Especially now that I am bigger I get a lot less likes from women anyway. Plus everyone here in the community is so far away and queer women in these spaces are so rare, let alone in Germany. I just wanna magically be in a relationship. Or someone to just show up one day and from there it happens. Without having to try so hard and all of disappointments.

[eggoatt]

happy pride month and also top surg-iversary to meee

[tanadrin]

I love how Fat Bear Week is like one of those ancient holidays where they have to determine when it falls by checking when the barley harvest ripens or something. Like the Katmai rangers have to go out into the wilderness and check on the chonkiness of the bears, and when it gets to be That Time they can officially declare The Best Holiday

(Oct 2-8 this year in case you observe)

[victorianachos]

[whaliiwatching]

a rendezvous beyond

and a halfway closeup just bc im rlly happy with how the bg turned out lol

[necrominn]

little levi warm up doodle to wish good luck for the back to school

[cowpokefuckingdied]

Instagram reels are on a level TikToks wish they had

[glazedabby]

Do you celebrate Big Belly Christmas with me? 🥰☃️

[pikachugordinho]

Jessica Simpson wearing a Pikachu sweater

[tbifoofficial]

Yippe kaye! Just made Deimos out of clay for 6-7 hours straight with no break instead of finishing up the W.I.P., but it's worth it. (Ignore my dirty ahh hand.)

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his time in purgatory (oven) /hj

[pumbaxxxsquad]

Hmmm looking bigger

[lylahammar]

I think the important thing about body neutrality and body positivity existing side by side is that body positivity is a big hurdle for people who are just starting to work on learning to love their bodies. When someone's at their lowest point, it's better to say "aim for just fine," and once they reach that level of neutrality where they can appreciate the functional ways their body is serving them, it's a lot more feasible to make the jump to seeing the visual beauty of it.