#fag hag

[campgender]

Do you have a light?

The bigger one shifts her eyes like a grizzly bear guarding her young. She squeezes the other girl’s hand.

Do you know where you are, honey?

Yes. I’m at a dyke bar.

You here with friends?

Not tonight. Why?

The skinny one shakes her head and laughs.

It’s just—no offense, but you look like a fag hag. Like a straight girl who comes to these places with her gay guy friends, and expects the butches to just fall all over her. Or like a bisexual. Sorry. You don’t look like a real lesbian.

She wasn’t entirely wrong. My queer identity is, to an extent, based on my intimate friendships with gay men and my affinity for aspects of their specific culture. I went to my senior prom with an entourage of theater fags, and we styled my hair and makeup to look like some grotesque combination of Mae West and Joan Crawford, complete with fake lashes and lips painted in a huge red bow. I wiggled around in a lacy vintage dress that barely contained my curves. When I look at photos from that night, I realize that the campy display is one way I perform my gender. I’m a hag, and I’m a femme. Both of these names are important to me. Unfortunately, people seem to believe and understand only the first one.

from “Confessions of a Fag Hag Femme” by Sasha Elise Cohen

published in Visible: A Femmethology, Volume 2, ed. Jennifer Clare Burke (2009)

[acelessthan3]

in weab they don't say "fag hag", they say "fujoshi" and I think it's beautiful

[demonbismuth]

We're the

FAG HAGS

And we're gonna put a spell on youuuuuu

gonna put a spell on you

[stargirlshojo]

as a woman i’d do this for free because i’d have lots of friends and none of them would wanna bang me

😂😂😂

[basilwalsils]

I keep getting called a fag hag for my allyship but they dont know that im the fag im a hag for

[gaybaseball-fan]

[druidrevival]

Camila Cabello hanging out and being besties with Lil Nas X is sending me because…well we know 🫣💀💀

[drmonkeysetroscans]

The trap is set.

[tattooed-alchemist]

I was gifted a football helmet for my 4th birthday. My mom made me a Batman costume for Halloween. I played with Legos, and an erector set, and Capsela (remember those?!) and built forts. I had a dad who was a chemist and taught me scientific method, and I would make up experiments and write notes about them. I preferred guy movies. I stopped shaving my body, and cut off all my hair. And all of these things were peaceably viewed as phases that I would grow out of, or just a passing interest. I had a boyhood and it was ignored and denied right to my face as I was having it.

does anyone else feel they were robbed a boyhood? i wanted to play footboll with other boys, stay up super late and secretly talk about the girls we like at sleepovers, ride out bikes around during summer. Eating chips as we watch movies we're not supposed to. but i never got that. all i got was being a lonely fat girl who's too masculine and weird for either group

[puppypuppypuppypuppy]

i quite enjoy how both engie and spy have a sort of mentor like relationship with pauling... very cute i think theyre friends :)

[beadyeyes]

I really love how Doug Sneyd only drew this woman hitting on obvious homosexuals

[shankposting]

Transitioning would’ve saved him

[curioushetero]

I would love to have a fag hag! I think it's the only type of woman needed in my life... Is anybody here so lucky to have one?

Do you have a straight woman who encourages you? I do. She sends me occasional messages, asking me if I got fucked that morning. lol. My partner doesn't mind. We love that, don't we?

[gaybaseball-fan]

[variousqueerthings]

no but it's genuinely so funny how quickly dani becomes part of the lito/hernando dynamic, and it's not not organic, but it's absolutely deliberate on her side, like she came in, found out they were gay because hernando was sprawled out naked on their bed with just a drape of duvet covering his nether regions, told lito off for making her a beard without her consent only to try and fob her off when she discovered the truth, offers to be his ongoing beard provided she can crash, tells them how much she loves gay porn and then wanders around their house half naked and sleeps in their bed, and hernando is like "well she complimented my ceviche how can we say no?" smash cut to her getting off while they have sex on the balcony

[veronicalodgefaghag]

fag hag is the ideal companion role