#empath patrick

[bixels]

I'm not explaining why re-imagining characters as POC is not the same as white-washing, here of all places should fucking understand.

[bl00dyhoneybee]

sub patrick bateman. patrick bateman getting pegged. patrick bateman being manhandled by a woman. patrick bateman getting pegged while on all fours. patrick bateman getting pegged and being stuck in missionary position with you. degrading patrick bateman until he cries and then praise him with the most feminine compliments ever. pulling patrick bateman by his hair. giving patrick bateman an old, good slap. tied patrick bateman. sitting on patrick bateman's face and squirting bc it would obvi grossed him out and turned him on even more. biting patrick bateman. make patrick bateman choke. patrick bateman--

[andoutofharm]

choosing to believe the fob Who Can Make Patrick Laugh More competition from the earlier leg of tourdust has transformed into a Hide All The Scissors Ever So Patrick Can’t Cut His Hair group effort and i am so here for it

[filthyslashertoad]

The Slashers & Miscellaneous Reacting to You Breaking Your Leg

Patrick Bateman(You already know)

Asks you if you want sparkling water, not painkillers, or comfort, just sparkling water.

If you're in a "relationship" with him, he may bring you his signed record from Huey Lewis and The News so you have something to occupy yourself with.

Michael Myers

Tries to avoid you at all costs because he feels like he might accidentally hurt you.

Even when you're sleeping, he'll sleep somewhere else during that time because he doesn't want to move suddenly and risk you injuring yourself more. (Sympathetic Mikey)

Pyramid Head

Just quietly watches you.

Brings you things that he thinks may help you or that you'll enjoy.

Leon Kennedy

Doesn't really know how to empathize with you properly because he doesn't want to come off as an asshole.

He resorts to sending you little Post-it notes and cards that have horse jokes on them. (Don't ask why they're horses specifically)

(Btw, Chris and Carlos suggested the idea)

Carlos Oliveira

Refuses to leave your side .

Tries his hardest not to cling to you.

He's a super sympathetic boy, so he somewhat blames himself for your injury and feels liable for it. (Pls reassure him)

Poly!Ghostface

Stu brings markers to sign your cast and while he's doing that, Billy is in the corner stressing and overthinking.

Stu draws dinosaurs and little skulls all over your cast, if you're lucky he may even draw one of your favorite horror movie characters, though it has to be labeled because nobody knows who it is.

Heisenberg

Tries to glamorize your cast by making a metal one that has spikes and different decals all over it.

It ends up being a nuisance and he almost stabs himself in the leg when he hugs you.

Hellboy

Keeps a close eye on you for the duration of your injury.

Develops a bit of an attitude when people try to bother you when you're resting or in pain.

Danny Johnson

Sends you dumb articles that loosely or have nothing to do with the fact that you broke your leg and when you ask him why tf he sent it, he just says, "I wanted to make your day better😊"

When he thinks that you're upset with him he shows up with a cast of his own and shouts "TWINS!!! NOW WE CAN GET BETTER TOGETHER."(No he didn't actually break his leg, and yes he will be using it as an excuse to be lazy)

Hannibal Lecter

Becomes your own professional nurse.

Nurse Hannibal is now at your service. Prescribes you any and all medication you need and gives you advice on how to heal as fast as possible.

Takes time off of work to take care of you. (It's not often that he gets to pamper people this way and he enjoys doing it for you)

[dallas-stars-in-my-eyes]

okay so i'm loving all the posts about how Nolan Patrick came out of the woods to do a public tknp reunion because he's (not so) secretly a dramatic bitch and he didn't like his heartbreaking trade narrative being overshadowed...

BUT hear me out with this alternate explanation:

Jamie Drysdale shows up to Philly absolutely REELING from being traded away from his (hockey) soulmate and he's not hiding it well and as we all know, one person in his new locker room is acutely familiar with that feeling. so TK recognizes that look on Jamie's face, takes him under his wing a little, maybe invites him over after practice to hang.

Jamie is NOT doing well, and TK is kinda empathizing/comforting, but then Jamie starts talking about how not only is he not with Trevor anymore, but he's gotta figure out a whole new life and a whole new team and TK realizes it's not actually him who Jamie needs to talk to.

So TK texts Patty and begs him to talk to "the kid" and help him out and since the flyers are about to be in winnipeg anyway, NP agrees to come say hello ("but you can't force me to talk about feelings Travis. I won't do it"). And then despite everything he says, Patty sits down with Jamie and has a heart to heart with him and reassures him that some hockey (b)romances can actually survive a trade.

[deepest-nightmare-expert]

WHOLESOME HEADCANONS FOR EMH BOYS AND A DASH OF PATRICK FROM MLANDERSEN0.

[ Tw /CW mentions of health issues, just general chronic illnesses ECT. and anything that you'd generally expect, from a slenderverse series. Mentions of NSFW self harm emotional distress crying. ]

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Patrick Andersen .

When your having a flare up and need comfort.

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He's seen a couple things, and his own vessel/host body goes through a lot of pain as well so as soon as he sees you struggling to do daily tasks or get up out of bed he knows without a doubt .

↑ you can't hide shit from this man. !

He doesn't say a word watching like a hawk until you come to him, but the second he sees you are in over your head he is right there.

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Need your hair washed but your limbs feel strained ? He knows and will pop up and do it for you if your ok with it.

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Need a reminder to brush you teeth ? Help cleaning your room or doing house chores ? He's right there.

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Will pick you up into his arms when it's all too much, and just sit down on the bed or on the couch just gently holding you and humming a soft tune pulling your hair out of your face and or sitting in silence until your ready to speak.

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He will brush your hair if you need or want him to, and if your having a rough time with getting dressed if your getting too dizzy or are in too much pain to bend over or pull your shirt on or off he is right there without a doubt.

Saying things like "honey it's okay let me help me, please?"

Or "it's okay to ask for help, let me get that for you alright ?"

"Your okay, let me hold you up I got you hon. "

He will just let you cry and gingerly wipe your tears with a bottle of pain meds and water within arms reach .

He's a good caretaker for both you and himself when need be.

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EVAN MYERS.

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He doesn't experience chronic illnesses that have heavy pain, like this so its hard for him to empathize up until he saw you struggling to sit up in bed one day then just laid down and gave up Infront of him from the pain in your spine ...and his heart broke.

He's literally at your beckon call wether you like it or not, always looking up the foods your body needs for nutrients to do with your specific condition.

Helping you with at home physical therapy, making sure you don't over do it.

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Keeps you hydrated and a heating pad on stand by with some pain medicine.

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Always has a warm bath ready when your joints are bothering you with some Epsom salt, and a warm soft fuzzy robe and towel.

Keeps your favorite pillow within arms reach, and makes sure you wear clothes that don't Hinder your physical performances and mobility that they're easy to get on and take off.

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Also gently throws you over his shoulder if he sees you ignoring your bodys need to rest and gently carries you to the couch or bed to lay you down and looks at you like a misbehaving cat with nothing but concern affection and empathy .

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"alright times up, your under arrest. " (Get it??)

Or " cmon cutie, your being laid out. "

Things also such as " nope your comin with me bossy pants. "

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He loves you very much and will often lay down beside you and be a living heating pad for you massaging your achy joints or just holding you swaddled up into his arms resting your head on his chest.

He's protective service dog boy boyfriend .

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VINNY EVERYMAN.

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He didn't get it at first but one day you were doing dishes and got out of breathe, limping to the couch looking guant leaving the water running.

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And then it hit him, you are sick very very sick and after that ? He was always right there within arms reach half the time.

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Always texting check ins and making sure you have eaten and are resting , if he sees you doing a task he asks if you need or want assistance anytime he feels you may need the indication of a offering hand.

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Big soft man cuddles , will hoist you up into his arms and pet your head very gently sitting down on the couch with you and putting on a silly comedy movie you enjoy and getting you some comfort snacks.

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He will not verbally communicate with you, paying attention to your body language and using his own like little hand signals to ask if your ok or a raise of a brow.

This man always makes sure he checks your breathing and movements in case you need more help than he'd first thought or he assumed on first glance.

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When you cry from pain though his body freezes up and his stomach drops but the second he processes your tears he gingerly and quietly walks up to you and holds you gently swaying with you back and forth holding the back of your head in one hand while the other wipes away your tears .

"oh...babe..please let me hold you...I hate when you cry like this.."

"i didn't know it was this bad...why didn't you tell me?"

"here come here let me hold you for a few seconds .."

"come sit down with me okay baby ..? I have you now don't worry your head.."

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He is very supportive he's a silent watcher but verbal when he needs to be the second you need assistance wether it's emotional or physical he is right there.

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JEFF KOVAL

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He works at a hospital so he knows all the right procedures, right there to support you.

Very understanding and accommodating , always makes sure he checks your body up for anything that will need extra assistances .

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Gets accessibility items for you that you need .

Need a walking stick ? He's got you.

Shower chair ? Don't worry bout it it's already there.

Wheelchair ? Boom right here don't have to lift a finger.

Shower step or matt ? You don't even have to ask.

Walker ? Don't even stress he's got you.

Also he has so much access to pain meds or chronic illness aids that he is practically your own personal pharmacist.

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He always is your main support system.

Will also help with physical therapy and find you good referrals to clinics that specialize in your specific needs and conditions.

Will cuddle you and let you touch his fluffy hair for comfort , keep you hydrated and take you on drives or play your favorite music or white noise . Get you your favorite blanket and snuggle up with you no matter what mood he's in he will be right there for you.

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HABIT

He can sniff it out. Will hunt you down and check on you grabbing you into his hands gently and checking over your body anything out of the ordinary he takes you out of order and lays you down in a nest he made for you with your comfort things.

Favorite plushie ? It's in the nest.

Comfort pillow/s ? In the nest.

Security blanket /s ? In the nest.

The hoodies he wears that you always steal ? Right there in the nest fresh clean and soft.

Your favorite socks ? In the nest.

Right beside the nest ? Water your favorite foods , foods for your specific condition your comfort drinks .

On the TV ? You bet your ass he is playing your favorite fuckin comfort show no matter how dumb or good he thinks it is.

Inside the nest ? Heating pad with cat attachments and a habit holding you there with or without your will and petting your hair gently keeping a sharp ass eye on you.

He will not take no as a answer for when your not taking care of yourself and need help.

He will wash your hair wash your body while silently grumbling but be very soft with you sensitive to your emotions just as much as your body.

Similar to Evan he will just yoink you up into his arms wether you like it or not and take you to the comfort nest.

The second you cry he internally panicked he is not used to being a source of comfort but the minute he looks in your eyes and sees what your going through it is his DUTY to take the pain away he's right there at every moment watching waiting and holding you wiping your tears away gently shushing you and whispering very very soft comforting nothing's to you.

Absolutely in arms at the universe for putting this on you but the softest you've ever seen him with you.

He will purr at a attempt to soothe you and say words of affirmation.

"you will be okay ...rabbit , it's not gonna be so bad after long "

"you won't die...i won't let anything get you, its a little pain but your not bleedin yet but the second you do I'll be there alright ?"

"shhh shh your gonna be fine don't worry I gotchta"

"don't waste your tears little rabbit, you'll kick this in no time I know you will your a tough little bastard. "

"It's gonna be okay bunny I know it hurts ..."

He is black cat comfort energy.

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[saintzweig]

🎾 here to say I totally empathize with u being stressed as fuck with school bc I’m in the same boat 😭 this is why I stand by nerdy patrick being canon bc I just know he’d simultaneously be the best and worst study partner- like I feel like that man learned about the pomodoro system and now uses that when studying with you— you guys study for like an hour and then he fucks you for like 20 minutes and it repeats, there are some occasional 5 minute breaks in there where yall just. share space and mindlessly scroll on your phones and patrick doesn’t wanna say he helped you pass all your midterms using his strategy but he def did

i think he'd definitely be the type to really focus so he can get it over with immediately, he gets quiet when the two of you study together in your dorm. his eyebrows furrowed as his eyes scan his textbooks. sometimes it motivates you because you don't wanna feel like you're falling behind, sometimes it doesn't because you'd rather be doing something else. you get distracted quite easily and everytime you whine to try and get his attention off the textbook, he only warns you with a stern voice. which doesn't help, it only makes you squirm as your pussy aches at his slightly condescending tone. seeing this effect on you, he proposes an idea. the pomodoro method. but instead of the usual 25 minutes of studying, 5 minutes break, he proposes 1 hour of studying, and 20 minutes of shoving his cock in your tight cunt. every 2 hours, a 20 minutes cuddle break. you've passed all exams since then, and you thank him. all he does is give you a kiss on the forehead and say that it was all you.

[almighty-letu]

Eddsworld as Wings of fire dragons

Edd is a RainWing named Guarana (in brazil it's a rival soda to cola made from the fruit with the same name) and Ringo would be his pet sloth

Matt is a SandWing named Sunstroke

Tom is a NightWing/SeaWing hybrid animus dragon named Oddity

Tord is a SkyWing named Red

Paul is a MudWing named Caiman

Patrick is a SeaWing named Starfish

Eduardo is a LeafWing named Pine Needle

Mark is an IceWing named Sub Zero

Jon is a SilkWing named Papillon

And Reagan is a HiveWing named Parasite

Bonus round:

Ella is a SilkWing named Jade

Dante is a NightWing named Empath

and Vlamis is a IceWing named Ghost

[shiorimakibawrites]

From the Idea Folder {1/15/25}

New additions to my Ideas Folder. All summaries are subject to change.

But let me know what you think.

Daredevil

Synthesia: You are an empath, experiencing the feelings of others as colors, sounds, and tastes. Every time you walk by St. Agnes Orphanage, there has been the blackest, bitterest lamentation you have ever experienced. You have never been good at ignoring someone else’s pain. One day, you investigate the source and find a battered blind man claiming to be the Devil. {Matt Murdock x Reader}

Devil Spider: After being blinded in an accident, Matt Murdock was bitten by a radioactive spider. Murdock men have the Devil inside them and having spider powers doesn’t change that. He became protector of Hell’s Kitchen, the one and only Devil Spider. {Pairing TBA}

The Punisher

Untitled: You are a vigilante. You battles criminals and alien invasions but easily your biggest problem is Frank Castle aka The Punisher. Technically more of an ally than a enemy but you don't approve of killing people. Not even bad people. The irritation appears to be entirely mutual. {Frank Castle x Reader}

Kin

Practical Magic: You are a witch who owns a little witchy tea shop in Dublin called Practical Magic. One rainy day, a man walks into your shop. The man is lost, wounded to the soul, and very, very handsome. Which makes him dangerous. Your cousins says the Owens curse has been broken but you doesn’t trust it. Not after losing your beloved Patrick. {Michael Kinsella x Reader}

Song of the Sea: Michael Kinsella has been dreaming of the sea. It called to him. He tried to resist but gave in and almost drowned. His life was only spared when a mysterious woman rescued him from the sea. It is not the last time he would encounter her in this little seaside town in County Galway. Saoirse Murphy is just as intriguing to him as the sea. {Michael Kinsella x Reader}

Spider-Man

Tangled Webs: On a school trip, two teenagers are bitten by a radioactive spider and gain super powers. One is Peter Parker, the genius nerd from Queens living with his aunt and uncle. The other is you, a blind shy girl living at St. Agnes Orphanage in Hell’s Kitchen. {Peter Parker x Reader}

Crossovers

Ohana: One night, Master Splinter comes across a teenager named Matt Murdock - blind, grieving, and half-trained as ninja - and cannot ignore it. {Daredevil + TMNT}

My Brother's Keeper: Matt and Mike are identical twins with very different lives. {Daredevil + Kin, Alternate Universe}

Correspondence: Prison gives you a lot time to think. He hadn’t tried to reach out to his twin brother since learning of his existence years ago. It was better and safer. But prison gives you a lot time to think. And it was lonely. Out of that loneliness, he reached out. He fully expected his letter to be ignored. But to his surprise, he got a reply. Through letters, he gets to know his brother - blind law student Matt Murdock. {Daredevil + Kin}

The Jedi of Hell's Kitchen: Matt Murdock is many things. Blind, a lawyer, Mandalorian (kinda), and a Jedi (sort of). But what he really wants to protect his little slice of Coruscant and its people. There is a lot of crime and corruption but also good people just trying to live.

[makeyoumine69]

Unravel Desire

— PAIRING: Alpha!CatBoy!Patrick Bateman x Innocent!Omega!Reader

— SUMMARY: Being an Omega is hella hard, especially an undercover one like you, who has always hated the idea of belonging to someone just because of their biology. You have managed to keep your true nature a secret for a long time, but your mask of disguise begins to crack when the ever-cunning Patrick Bateman lays his eyes on you.

— CONTAINS: A/B/O dynamics, flirting & seduction, manipulative behavior, Patrick being a violent douchebag (not to the reader) and abusing his power.

— WORDS: 1.7k

— A/N: My new smutty miniseries is here! Tomorrow I'm going to make a full Masterlist for this story. I'm very nervous about this one, and I really hope you like it!

— LINKS: [MASTERLIST] [buy me a coffee]💓

Being an Omega was hella hard, especially an undercover one like you. You decided to hide your true nature because you wanted to be free and not belong to someone like an Alpha, who was so arrogant and brash just because of their biology. Even though you were an Omega, you managed to get a job at one of the best law firms in New York, and your boss was the only person who knew your secret. Why did you trust him? Well, because his daughter was an Omega as well, so he kind of empathized with you and that helped you to settle down in your life. And for a while you had even forgotten about all the shit you had to go through and how many times you were so close to the point of no return when some random Alphas almost kidnapped you.

Everything seemed to be fine until one day you met a mysterious yuppie — Patrick Bateman — in your office, his brown eyes caught you off guard the moment he spotted you, and not to mention that it was obvious he was an Alpha even before you got close to him because his pheromones were very strong. Probably if you didn't use any suppressors you would start soaking right away, but thank God you never forgot to use them.

Patrick was standing right next to the door to your boss's office and for a moment you even thought about turning around and coming back later, after Bateman leaves, but as soon as you turned to walk away you heard his velvety voice that sounded like a purr:

"I'm sorry, Miss. Maybe you can help me?" 

Damn!

With a sharp inhale, you spun around to face him — his gaze was so fucking captivating that you even forgot, for a moment, who you were and what you were doing here.

"Miss? Are you okay?" He chuckled, and that helped you come back down to earth.

"Oh yeah… sorry! I've had a busy day," you smiled, and only now did you notice his furry ears that matched his dark hair perfectly. "How can I help you?"

Patrick smirked back and walked over to you, offering you a handshake. "Pat Bateman."

Confused by his sudden gesture, you looked down at his palm, which was so large, and slowly slid yours into it. The moment you touched, you felt a strange tingling in your gut, but you managed to act naturally.

"I know who you are." You explained, taking your hand away and trying to ignore his strong scent, which definitely had an intoxicating effect on you. It was so strange, that had never happened to you before.

"Really?"

"My boss told me, and speaking of him, I was supposed to bring him some documents, so I don't really have much time," the more you stared at him, the more embarrassed you became, and that was actually annoying. "Sorry, I didn't mean to sound rude."

"Ohh, I doubt a pretty lady like you could offend anyone," he crooned, looking around at the door behind him. "Well, your boss seemed like a very busy person."

"We live in a busy city."

Grinning, Bateman cocked his head to the side and glanced down at the exposed part of your legs, the parts that were not hidden under your skirt. He did it very quickly and casually, but you noticed it and your heart did a flip-flop in your chest.

"That's right," he moved even closer, his tall frame hovering over you like a mountain. "I would really appreciate it if you would help me make an appointment with your boss as soon as possible."

You couldn't help but swallow hard. "How soon?"

"Mmm, how about… right now?"

Patrick took another step and now you were standing face to face.

"R-right now? I mean… I..." you stammered, literally afraid to raise your eyes to meet his dark ones. "I don't think he'll be mad if you come with me."

"Good," he murmured almost into your ear, his fluffy tail caressing your hip in an almost sensual way, but it was enough to make you flinch, which made him laugh. "Sorry, I just couldn't stop myself from trying to calm you down. You look so adorable when you're... scared."

A nervous giggle escaped your dry lips. "I'm sorry, what?"

Bateman didn't answer and that really freaked you out — for a second you thought he could see right through you.

"So what about the appointment?"  His sudden change of mood was both irritating and fascinating, as you didn't even realize you'd been looking straight at him for more than 30 seconds.

Coughing a little, you got serious and fixed your skirt twice — the way his hazel eyes glided over your body made you feel completely naked. 

"Let's do it, but quickly!" 

After you said that, you walked past him and knocked on the door several times. Patrick took out his cigar and put one hand in his pocket. The longer your boss didn't answer, the more anxious you got, because you could feel the artery on your neck beating so fast that the area around it literally burned. When the door finally opened, you rushed in faster than the speed of light, causing your boss to jerk to the side. 

Please, could this day just be a bad dream?

Almost half an hour later, Bateman was sitting across the wooden table from your boss, puffing on his cigar and watching the golden liquid splash in his glass.

"I'm sorry, Mr. Bateman! If I only knew you were coming, I would invite you inside as soon as possible!" Your boss grumbled, nervously tugging at his tie.

"Forget it," Bateman hissed, throwing one leg over the other. "I want to ask you something. That girl — she's special, right?"

Your boss hiccuped and nervously downed his whiskey in one gulp. "What girl?"

With a loud thump, Patrick slammed his glass down on the table, causing a poor old man to jump in his seat. "Stop playing dumb! You know exactly what I mean!"

"I... I really don't," he raised his hands defensively. "Mr. Bateman, I..."

"Shut the fuck up and listen," Patrick got up from the chair and started to walk back and forth, puffing on his cigar from time to time, and when he got closer to your boss, he blew rings of smoke right in his face. "That girl who just left your office, she is special. I could tell from the moment I met her. And you," he suddenly grabbed the old man by the throat and squeezed hard. "Fucking idiot, are you trying to convince me that I'm wrong?! You think you're immortal?"

Bateman gritted his teeth around the cigar, revealing his white, sharp fangs. 

"I'm s-so sorry! I really know nothing about her!"

Patrick was like a wild beast on the hunt, his eyes narrowed and his tail waving from side to side as if he was about to pounce on your boss.

"Have you forgotten that hiding Omegas is a fucking crime?" Bateman's voice lowered. "But luckily you're a fucking lawyer. Maybe that would help you, otherwise you would be in a fucking cell until your last day!"

Harshly, Patrick let go of him and the old man fell back into his seat.

Breathing heavily, your boss rubbed the red marks from Patrick's grip and whimpered. "Wha... w-what do you want me to do?"

A loud chuckle of satisfaction erupted from Bateman's broad chest when he heard those words. "That's what you should have said ever since the beginning, you old, stupid idiot," Patrick tapped his cigar, causing the ash to fall on your boss's suit. "My terms are pretty simple - you just give me the girl and I won't tell anyone about your 'little secret' so you can keep your puckered ass untouched… if you get my drift."

Bateman winked shamelessly at the old man and smiled wickedly as he saw his face getting duller by the second.

"All right, all right! What should I do?" 

"You don't have to do anything," Patrick said before finishing his drink. "Just let her fall into my hands. Everything would flow naturally, because you know... nature is unstoppable," he put the glass back on the table, his eyes darkening at the thought of you. "Even if she doesn't know it yet, she won't have a choice."

With that, Bateman turned on his heels and walked towards the door.

"Oh, I forgot to tell you," he turned back to your boss. "If you decide to play dirty, I'll make sure your little company ceases to exist."

And with that, Patrick finally left. Your boss closed his eyes from the searing pain in his chest, he thought he was going to have a heart attack.

This night was full of strange things, starting with the fact that you couldn't sleep and ending with the damn fever you had. At first you thought it was just a cold, but then you realized it was something kind of a heat, you remember a long time ago one of your friends, who just disappeared one day, told you about that strange feeling when your body was literally on fire and you wanted nothing more than to feel those big palms on your breasts...

Wait, what?

Panting, you sit on your bed and try to calm your heavy breathing, feeling little drops of sweat running down your forehead. Every time you closed your eyes — you had the images of him, his broad shoulders and dark, mesmerizing eyes in which you could drown.

Damn it, how did this happen?

You fidgeted on the sheets, rubbing your wrist — the place where he touched you. Slowly, and a little frightened, you brought your hand to your face, inhaling his masculine scent that made you gasp with… need? A sudden doorbell made you almost fall off the bed, but you managed to keep your balance at the last moment. Terrified, you got up and put on your silk robe before carefully stepping into your hallway. Trembling slightly, you decided to wait a moment in case someone could make it by mistake, but when the bell rang again, you pressed a hand to your chest and felt your heart beating so damn fast.

Who the hell could it be at this hour?

P.S. Thank you for reading until the end! Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I don’t have a taglist. You can follow my side blog @makeyoumineagain and turn on notifications to know when I update!

[hockstetters-overbite]

Tw for discussions of fictional COCSA and personal life experiences of the same topic

I lowkey kinda get a bit heartbroken when people refuse to acknowledge the fact that in the book Henry is a victim of COCSA. I don’t know if it’s because he’s a boy or because people like the henpat ship because of the 2017 movie but the fact that it’s rarely acknowledged (from what I see in the fandom) is very unfortunate.

I think I feel so bad for Henry and feel so strongly about this because I had to go through something similar as a kid. Being groomed and eventually molested by a kid my age that I thought was my friend for around two years, much like Henry was. I was around the ages of 10-12 so the similarities are there so I really empathize with Henry in that particular scene in the novel.

Anyways, that was just my tangent for the day

Again, I don’t hate henpat shippers, it’s fine if you like the 2017 version, i just don’t like how some people glorify what happened to Henry in the book or say that he liked it or was ashamed. He was a child who didn’t know what was going on and he quite literally just shutdown in the scene and didn’t do anything about literally being assaulted until he punched Patrick. That is not something to glorify.

[csuitebitches]

Book Review: Book 2: The Art of Everyday Assertiveness (a 9-part series by Patrick King, “Be Confident and Fearless.”)

Book one review here.

I found this book had 20% of the content from the first book so I’ve avoided putting the same things again and again in this review.

Forward identifies these overwhelming feelings as the three underlying components in emotional blackmail: fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG).

The four types of blackmail:

1. The punisher’s threat occurs when the victim receives this message from the perpetrator: “Do what I want, or you will suffer negative consequences.”

2. The self-punisher’s threat takes advantage of the victim’s sense of guilt by sending the message, “Do what I want, or I will make myself suffer negative consequences.” Often this scenario includes high drama.

3. Closely related to the self-punisher’s threat is the sufferer’s threat. Rather than the threat of self-harm, the manipulator in this situation says, “Do what I want, or I will suffer negative consequences from the outside.” Consequences are external and not self-inflicted.

4. The final form of emotional blackmail is identified as the tantalizer’s threat. Rather than threatening a negative consequence, the perpetrator sends the message, “Do what I want, and you might enjoy positive consequences.”

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The key to avoiding victimization is by taking time and learning to recognize feelings of fear, obligation, and guilt. This can be achieved by asking a few very simple questions:

“Am I not asserting myself by my own free will? Is this truly what I want, or is there a reason related to fear, obligation, or guilt?”

“Am I acting out of anxiety or excitement?”

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Asking for help:

1. Ask and then stop talking.

Don’t follow up your ask with things like “only if you want”, “its up to you” etc.

2. Create a win win.

When asking for something from the other person, ask yourself:

- Are their needs being considered?

- How can this request benefit them?

- Is this a good time to make such a request?

- If the tables were turned, how would I view this request?

3. Make it easy.

Do not expect people to go out of their way in order for you to request a favor. Instead of your natural inclination to hedge with “Can we meet? Only if you have time,” you can substitute it with “Can we meet? Lunch is on me at your favorite sandwich place.” The key here is to make your ask smaller than it needs to be so it will be better received, and easier to squeeze out.

4. Offer clear cut options

if you are asking for someone to watch your dog, offer to take him to their place or let them stay at your place and use your building’s gym facilities while you are out of town. Also, make sure they have a way to say no without feeling guilty in case they cannot or do not want to do what you have asked.

5. Be direct.

Don’t have any ulterior moves. Express the ask as it is in your mind.

6. Be specific

Don’t ask vague, open ended questions. Inform them where they can exactly help you.

7. If someone says no, don’t be disheartened.

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Types of assertion:

1. Empathic: acknowledge their feelings, appreciate them but be firm with your stance.

2. Consequence: a last resort if someone has made you reach the end of your tolerance. State what they did; how it made you feel; and the consequence of them not apologising/ taking responsibility.

3. Negative feelings: describe their (unwanted/ unjust) behaviour objectively, directly and specifically. Tell them how it impacted your describe your feelings as exactly as you can. State your preferred behaviour. “When you didn’t show up at the date we had planned, I had to cancel our reservations and felt embarrassed and hurt. In the future, could you just call me if you can’t make it?”

4. Discrepancy: when something happens due to a misunderstanding, lack of follow ups or unclear inventions. “I thought we were meeting for coffee at noon. Was I mistaken?”

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In a 2010 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers analyzed people’s reactions to selfish versus generous actions in a game about rewards. They found that instead of appreciating the generous players, these were actually as equally disliked as the selfish ones. You may have tried taking on the dirty jobs nobody else wants or paying a bar tab at a work party in the hope it would endear you to a group. This is actually likely to have the opposite effect; your extreme generosity makes people just as uncomfortable as the selfish people who make life more difficult or refuse to contribute.

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University of Notre Dame Researchers in 2011 found that disagreeable employees earned more than their agreeable counterparts. Disagreeable men earned 18% more than agreeable men. Agreeableness is a more socially expected norm in women, but disagreeable women still earned 5% more than the agreeable women, and these agreeable women lagged far behind the disagreeable men.

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Communication styles: figure out your pattern in order to break it:

1. Passive

- low self esteem

- Dont express opinions or desires

- Avoidant

- Anger can build up quietly over time and then erupt

- Weak eye contact

- Bad posture

- Dont understand their own needs

2. Aggressive

- verbal, physical violence

- Put their own needs before others

- Overbearing

- Intense eye contact

- Poor listeners

- Impulsive

- Criticises 24/7

3. Passive aggressive

- appear to be “fine” but are not fine inside

- Sarcastic often

- Alienate themselves

- Sabotage

4. Assertive

- speaking up for themselves

- Clear

- Direct

- Good listeners

- High self esteem

- Open, relaxed body language

- Can navigate any situation without resentment, anger or loss of control

The passive communicator says, “People walk all over me,” and “No one cares how I feel about this.”

The aggressive communicator says, “I always get what I want—whatever it takes,” and “You’re worthless; you owe me.”

The passive-aggressive communicator says, “That’s fine . . . (That’s what you think),” and “They’ll see what happens to people who cross me.”

The assertive communicator says, “We’re both entitled to respectfully express our opinion,” and “I’m responsible for myself and no one owes me anything.”

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Before you start to apologize, stop and ask yourself two questions:

“Did I actually do something wrong?”

And if not, “Did I really want to communicate that I think I did?”

If you over apologise, ask yourself:

1. What’s the first reaction you have when someone tells you no?

2. Was advocating on your own behalf off-limits in your family? Was it encouraged?

3. When you were younger, was it acceptable to speak up and share your opinion?

4. What other major experiences shaped your outlook regarding asserting yourself and respecting authority, particularly at the workplace?

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Confronting a dominant personality doesn’t have to be combative. Simply ask, “Are you open for feedback on this?” If they say yes, which most people will, you can start by saying, “I tend to think of these things from a different perspective.” It keeps the conversation neutral. You’re not attacking their point of view. Instead, you’re just sharing yours.

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Dr. Beth Polin, an assistant professor of management at Eastern Kentucky University and coauthor of The Art of the Apology, defines an apology as a statement that includes one or more of six components:

1. An expression of regret: This is the actual “I’m sorry” statement.

2. An explanation: This is a clarification of what happened, not a justification.

3. An acknowledgment of responsibility: In other words, owning up to your mistakes.

4. A declaration of repentance: For example, “I truly regret what I did.”

5. An offer of repair: “Maybe I can turn this around.”

6. A request for forgiveness: “I know I messed up, but I’m truly sorry and I’m asking your forgiveness.”

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Assertiveness action plan:

1. Write down the times in your life where you have not felt assertive (been laughed at, walked all over, taken advantage of, etc)

2. Write down how you reacted (can be good/ bad/ neutral)

3. Write down the healthy response you would’ve given in that situation

4. Write a list of what you should avoid using from your internal dialogue or with other people. Also write a list of phrases that you feel more comfortable with that are also assertive.

- the author has a full schedule/ plan for 26 days on the assertiveness action plan with exercises. I didnt include everything, but i included things that I feel I can do.

[artdcnaldson]

i think liking tashi is easy once you realize the one thing everyone told her she would achieve was taken away from her in an instant. i genuinely think anyone who is ambitious or even holds one certain goal can empathize with how derailing it would be if something happened that just prevented the goal from happening. you’re just left with that ambition and how else can you process it.

i know people hyper focus on how she talks about tennis too to make her seem cold and only in love with tennis, but tennis is really just her love language. it’s what she knows and by talking about tennis she is able to express her love for others.

anyone this is just a rant. tashi duncan best girl 4 evaaaaa

real like!!! The DAMAGE “patrick loves art, art loves tashi, tashi loves tennis” did to this movie is fucking crazy. Patrick loves them both. Art loves them both. Tashi loves them BOTH.

they ALL love tennis but are in different phases of that love and how it affects their life. Tashi loves art and she wants him to succeed in something she knows he loves, something she loves too, even if the love he holds for the sport has changed. She never says she loves patrick, but she wants him to succeed too when he’s first on tour and floundering (and he gets defensive rightfully so, but he’s also the one staring longingly at a poster of Tashi on campus and clearly feeling jealous of her success in the NCAA). It is SO reductive to watch the movie and act like Tashi only loves the sport. Like look how sick she looked after the fight at Stanford with Patrick, how sick and sad she looked after she told Art she would leave him if he lost (which she IMMEDIATELY followed up with asking Patrick to throw the match so Art would win. She did NOT want to leave Art!!)

Anyways…

[bunnylouisegrimes]

My Fictional Others and My Neurodivergence: Headcanons and Overview

One might think that my F/Os wouldn't accept me or love me because I'm neurodivergent, and given that they're both admittedly very arrogant and judgemental of others, it makes sense why one would think that at first glance. It doesn't help that growing up, I imagine they would bully others they thought were less than them (although they were also probably bullied as well and got into fights with other kids over shit that was said about them, and thanks to all their money, they got away with it each time).

However, as they've become adults (and especially once their testosterone settled down from their teenage years), despite the fact they still judge others and think of themselves as better than everyone else, meeting my self insert has given them some perspective they were never able to see before, as well as some reflection and realization that they genuinely enjoy the presence of someone who is considered "weird."

I've seen some people say that Patrick is autistic, and I'm very much open to this possibility, especially if it's autism combined with Antisocial Personality Disorder. Not only does he have low empathy, but he masks a lot, comes across as awkward, obsesses over certain topics, etc. In fact, his loneliness is one of the main things that drives me to connect with him. Never have I seen more relatable loneliness in a movie better portrayed than in American Psycho. However, I headcanon he has ASPD only. Imho, it's not that he doesn't understand social cues. He understands socialization quite well and navigates it quite well. To me, the problem is more related to the environment that raised him and the environment that he would grow up in that ultimately creates his desire and need to fit in while simultaneously being the absolute best and standing out. This is why he can come across as awkward because he's trying to do multiple things at once. He is essentially trying to act like the ultimate byproduct of his society, but he can't be all these things at once, especially since those around him either aren't as aware as he is or don't care enough. They just shift with whatever the popular or cool opinion is and disregard him as directed by whatever their majority opinion is. He is left feeling empty as they are, but the difference is he is more aware than them, leaving him in an eternal Hell. Other than that, he has trouble with empathizing with others and feeling emotions, and when he does experience strong emotions, it drives him to freak out and do the evil shit he does.

When he meets my self insert, he is at first curious about her. He contemplates whether or not he should kill her. It would be so easy, he thinks. She's beneath me. She's weak and innocent. No one would even find her. She has no friends that would go looking for her. I can get away with this like it's nothing.

However, as time goes on and they interact more, he finds himself unable to bring himself to do the deed. He doesn't understand why. This isn't normally like him. But something else is going on inside of him, for once. He feels something, and it's strong enough compared to his other weaker emotions. He had thought that any shred of humanity and conscience was completely gone from him, nonexistent. But he was wrong. He was wrong because here my self insert was: even if he didn't have all of the same problems as she did that made her struggle, he finally realized that these societal issues that left him a forgettable speck of dust in the wind trickled down from his society to her more common one. We as humans have created this society, regardless of our class, and our system perpetuates it in an endless cycle. But here she was, someone who understood and saw his struggles. She had been through them and then some. What would he gain from killing her? He would lose this once-in-a-lifetime soul, leaving him forever alone and trapped in his Hell until the day he finally dies.

Instead of killing her, he protects her and keeps her alive. He feels emotions with her, for once. Although incapable of fully experiencing empathy and conscience, he finally feels human and has escaped his Hell, while simultaneously recieving a fitting "punishment" for his sins: humbling himself to be with someone "beneath him." Turns out, her weirdness fascinates him and he relates to it more than he would ever imagine before. He doesn't always understand her or how her mind works, but he finds himself more patient and (dare he even say) loving towards her. From then on out, he will only slaughter those to protect her, never to hurt her.

Now, the Polite Leader on the other hand? Undebatable he has Antisocial Personality Disorder. Although we don't have enough screentime with him to see how he is for the rest of the 364 days out of the year that isn't Purge night, it's probably easy to determine this Polite Stranger is just as polite for the rest of the year...but also probably just as cold blooded and strongly lacking of his own conscience. He's just a "high functioning" sociopath that just keeps it reigned in to release on Purge night.

With this being said, upon first meeting my self insert, he instantly knows she's a Have, but definitely not his brand or kind. He knows she's beneath him. But what is it about her that he finds...fascinating? Why, she isn't like the others he's come across in his time...it helps he finds her so pretty...and her innosence just tingles something inside of him that warms his cold heart...but her uniqueness, the fact that she thinks and feels and sees the world in such a different way he's never seen before...that is what makes him hesitate before acting on anything too rash.

He's so used to fellow rich women who aren't looking for anything deep, who aren't looking for anything long term, which leads to him simply following suit. They're empty and shallow, very similar to each other, and given that he's not that much different, it's an endless cycle that does leave some odd hole in his heart that cannot be filled, and he doesn't understand why. But meeting such a sweet girl with a unique mind, he is able to look past her class (for once) and see some kind of comfort with her, a piece of himself he hadn't really explored before: empathy and humanity. It isn't very strong like Patrick's and never can be, but it exists, and as he protects her and learns more about her, studies and learns her unique traits and behaviors, he feels something so tender and warm that he could never recreate, and is one of the most important pieces of her that makes her so, as he says, "exquisite."

[ambrossart]

random question but who's your fav character from IT :)

I don’t think I have a single favorite character.

As far as the Losers Club is concerned, I identify with Ben the most. I’ve been the new kid. I’ve been the fat kid. Growing up, I was often alone, but I never really considered myself lonely… so, yeah, I can empathize with him a lot, and I greatly enjoy reading his sections.

I also like Richie, mostly because of his relationship with his dad. Their banter over breakfast, when Richie’s trying to get money for the movie, is one of my favorite scenes in the entire book. I’ve read it way too many times.

That being said, I think it’s obvious that I prefer the Bowers Gang over the Losers Club. As a group, I find their dynamic a lot more interesting, which is why I choose to write about them. And I guess if I had to choose a favorite among them, it would be Henry. Patrick is absolutely fascinating, don’t get me wrong, but I feel like he’s lacking the same level of complexity that Henry has. Patrick was born without a conscience. Henry wasn’t. He’s a product of his environment, of his upbringing, of It’s influence. There’s so much to unpack there.

Even though Henry has done terrible, inexcusable things, I’m still invested in his character arc. His rapid decline over the summer is one of the most terrifying and tragic parts of the story. I just can’t bring myself to hate him.

[just-another-author-i-guess]

Judd's childhood headcanons?

You betcha 🤭

Tags: idk like mentions of violence and such, Judd being a pyromaniac from a very young age, dead bugs?

Author's note: if we don’t get a baby judd episode in the new season I will riot (,:

Judd childhood hc's

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Both of his parents were absolutely over the moon when he was born

Imagine being an only child in the Birch household, like ngl that sounds pretty sweet

He had their attention aaalll to himself, and he thoroughly enjoyed it 

He was quite an active child too, not like hyper but always doing something he was definitely not supposed to do, so he needed either one of his parents to watch him constantly anyways

I feel like he was a pretty “normal” child until Leah was born, sure he was a bit harder to watch than average 2-year-olds but it wasn’t to like a concerning degree or anything

That was until Leah was born

Suddenly having to deal with a new sister, unleashed little monster-gremlin Judd

Not even like five minutes after she was born, when he got to see her in the hospital, did he call her ugly and bald

He probably had an identity crisis when his dad told him he looked like that too

Anyways, Elliot was really empathic towards him, even though he was definitely becoming a bit of a spoiled brat

Like, he sat him down and was like “I know it’s hard for you to get a new sister, but think about how much she’s going to look up to you, blah blah..”

Judd did not listen

So for the next few years, his mission became causing as much trouble for everyone around him as possible and then finding a way to blame it on Leah

Obviously, no one believed that an infant thrashed the house and set fire to a bunch of ants in the backyard

(It was hard to believe toddler Judd even managed to do it lmfao)

That’s another thing, like he wouldn’t hurt big animals, like cats, dogs, raccoons, ect cause he likes those

But he’s definitely responsible for the bug population in town drastically decreasing lol

He would be that type of little kid who burns ants, crushes snails and squeezes bugs to death

I was reading IT right, and patrick apparently has a whole pencil case filled with dead flies AND WHY IS THAT SO JUDD

I could see him bringing that into kindergarten, and when it’s art time he pulls it out and shows the teacher’s kinda proudly and they’re all like 😧✋

This was how he ended in therapy, too

Diane getting a call like “Yeah, uh, your son has a pencil case full of dead bugs and he’s scaring everyone pls come pick him up”

She wasn’t even mad, bc if you’ve seen my other headcannons, yk it would just be even more confirmation that Judd definitely inherited a lot of things from her

He was definitely a very stab-happy kid too

I’m talking deliberately sharpening his pencils to a point and using them as weapons 

I can see him having a slingshot too, he would sit somewhere his dad couldn’t see and just shoot rocks at him

Poor Elliot, Judd’s abuse and gremlin behaviours definitely affected him the most

Diane could actually get angry so Judd didn’t dare mess too much with her, and Leah was just a baby so her reactions were usually pretty boring

She didn’t even care when Judd showed her the dead flies smh 🫤

So Elliot was the only good target 

Judd was very, very annoyed though, at how he never really got angry, like he’d always just praise Judd for his creativity 

If he’s too mean to his dad, Diane will also get mad at him lol

So it’s about finding a balance yk 

But back to the therapy thing

I don’t really think Judd got diagnosed with anything, besides being a creepy ass kid 

If being creepy is a mental illness, count me in too idc

But like, there’s nothing inherently wrong with him, he just really enjoys causing trouble

So the only thing the therapist recommended was stricter parenting

As both him and Leah got older, his plans of getting rid of her became more thought out as well

There’s that one scene where Nick is a newborn and Judd tries to set fire to Leah’s hair

That is definitely a recurring thing, like he realised if he truly wanted to get rid of Leah he’d have to try something,,, more effective than leaving her random places and trying to get his parents to hate her

So setting her hair on fire seemed like a good idea

I don’t think he grasped the idea that she could actually die, but like if her hair burned off she would be ugly and their parents wouldn’t like her anymore yk? Something like that

Where did a six year old get lighters?? I would like to fucking know 

This was also around the time he started to realise, that maybe murder and thrashing the house all the time was not a good idea

Diane probably had a talking to him, and was like “Now you’ve got a new brother, you can’t be trying to set his crib on fire or anything, you’re too old for that now”

That made him switch out his lighter for scissors and that was when is Chucky arc properly started

He cut a b i g chunk of Leah’s hair off while she slept, he cut up a lot of his dad’s clothes and tried to stab multiple of his teachers 

Like, one of his teachers would go on to have Leah and Nick later, and would always tell them the story of how much of a menace Judd was and show them their scissor scars

Judd was definitely very spoiled too, he used to act kinda like Nick when he was younger 

Little man’s thought he was king of the kindergarten fr 

Probably carried over into his first years at school too, like 1st to 5th grade Judd was not much different 

Omg,, he was a biter too

Like I can see Diane getting mad at him and hoisting him up by his shirt or something, to carry him to his room, but he would just try to bite her the whole time

The same with his teachers, you touch him, you get bitten

I can see him getting into a lot of fights with other boys at school too, either for making fun of him or his dad 

Elliot came to pick him up one day and was like singing a little goofy song or whatever, and the other kids wouldn’t stop making fun of him 

(Aw, that’s so cute, little Judd secretly defending his dad’s honour at school)

Bc he definitely wouldn’t tell his parents the real reason he got into a fight 

Also, if anyone was bullying Leah in the schoolyard, Judd would straight up just spawn

His spidey senses was tingling fr 

But he wouldn’t (And still won’t) hesitate to knock anyone who’s mean to his sister the fuck out 

I feel like he’d also secretly slip something delicious he got in his lunchbox into Leah’s

Like, if she had a bad day at school and Judd so happened to have a candy bar (probably stolen lets be honest) He would make it suddenly appear in Leah’s lunch box and act all oblivious about it

That’s another thing, Judd was straight up just born w/o a moral compass

Even as a kid, he didn’t really see stealing, violence, ect as wrong

Well it all depends who he’s stealing from or beating up or whatever 

But yk, Diane was (and is probably still) like that lol

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