#emails them back ok so this is what that is

[fenmere]

OK, so.

One day, at an old job that's long gone now, the general manage asked us to help her with her computer, because it wasn't doing what she expected it to do. So we came over and sat down to see what she was having trouble with.

And we asked her to demonstrate the problem.

At which point she moved the mouse around randomly in rapid circles and figure eights, clicking repeated, causing a slew of menus and dialog boxes to appear and cascade.

To which, she then said, "See? I can't get it to open my email."

This was a woman who had been running this business and had been using a computer to do so for a full decade before this moment. We were bewildered.

And when we tried to give her instructions on how to find what she needed, she continued the random mouse movements and clicking.

So, anyway, we took control of the mouse to demonstrate how to navigate the menus and open the program. And we did it slowly and carefully so that she could see how we handled it and watch exactly what we did.

She was grateful for that.

Then, when we handed the computer back to her, the random mouse movements and rapid repeated clicking resumed. And we mean, it was like watching a kite in a hurricane.

We have no idea what was going on. It might have been a panic attack or a manic episode with erratic motor control brought on by work stress. She certainly didn't seem to be aware of what she was doing, since she couldn't watch our movements and replicate them but blamed the computer. It's hard to imagine that she's always used a computer in that way, but it sure felt like she did when we were sitting there watching her.

That whole interaction has always struck us as the epitome of the above statement.

[gaynaturalistghost]

Finding out you’re a coauthor on a paper you haven’t even read because you got emailed blurry microscope pictures and ID’d some pollen and bug feet

[serendipitous-mage]

HEY DIDU GET A LOT OF VOTING MAIL?

this is what the ACTUAL absentee ballot envelope looks like if you've been waiting for it and aren't sure if it's in the pile of other shit they send out!!!

it will have this logo on it and also specify that it is "official absentee balloting material"

every 'official' looking piece of mail i got for weeks i thought would be it and wasn't, my ballot was returned to the city clerk office so i went in and picked up a new one in person

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YOU CAN DO THIS TOO!! i am holding your hand, i am prepping a blanket fort for you to crawl into and hide once you get back, it's ok, we can do this<3

IF YOU'RE MISSING YOUR BALLOT, check vote dot org, or, just google your city/town and 'election office' or 'municipal clerk', you can go in and let them know you don't have your ballot yet and would like to cancel what they sent out and pick up a new one in person, you may even be able to just fill it out there and hand it back to them all in one trip!

i'll rebagel with some links i can get a better pic also if anyone needs sorry i was just sending it to the gc but then decided to also post ;w;'

[britneyshakespeare]

i can't believe how much this company apparently does not want my money

[carcarrot]

well that was a shortlived good feeling about my job

[rosicheeks]

😓🤬

[greaseonmymouth]

my brain has been offline since I woke up. apologies to my work inbox but the only thing I’m capable of today is hugging my hot water bottle and scrolling tumblr

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[elegyofthemoon]

gotta love my schools not-actually-optional optional classes :^)

[pepprs]

idk how to reconcile my new self with my old self. also i fucking hate waiting. GRAGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[actualnymph]

I talked to my store manager about an employer reference letter and he said “I’ve never in my years written a reference letter 🤨 let me know what to write and I’ll write it…” like I’m sure he thought that was helpful and nice but I’m like ☹️ about it maybe I should start emailing teachers I had in high school

[lonesomedotmp3]

oh I love feeling somewhat hopeful and excited about academia again :( I just have to get through this hellish year and then next year should be so much better. KNOCK ON WOOD.

[serendipitous-mage]

......... who's gonna tell him ... .. ill do it @markiplier

[onepiexe]

couldnt sleept i am. so. yeah.

[thepeacefulgarden]

And remember, they don't have to hit you in order to qualify as an abuser. Do they...

Say mean and/or creepy things and then try to walk it back as "just a joke?"

Tell you that you're "too sensitive" when you call out their words or behavior?

Use the Bible, the Quran, the Torah, the Vedas, or any other religious text to justify mistreating you?

Treat you badly, apologize, promise never to do it again, and proceed to do it again?

Try to control where you go, how you dress, who you see and talk to, what and how much you eat, etc.?

Snoop through your phone, emails, belongings, or other private stuff without your OK? Or manipulate you into "letting" them do so?

Track your menstrual cycle (if you have one) without your OK? Or manipulate you into "letting" them do so?

Try to make you keep a pregnancy you don't want (or terminate one you do)? Or try to dictate what (if any) birth control you use?

Threaten to hurt themselves or other people if you leave, or "step out of line?"

Break or throw things when they're upset?

Punch holes in walls, doors, etc.?

Make you (or try to make you) engage in sexual acts you don't enjoy, don't feel ready for, don't feel comfortable with, or just plain aren't in the mood for?

Try to make you feel like a bad person for saying "no" to sex?

Try to distance you from your friends and family?

Actively try to turn your friends and family against you? Or you against them?

Get mad when you say no or try to set a boundary?

Call you degrading names?

Use your insecurities against you?

"Neg" or "should" you into conforming to their preferences?

Try to get you to quit your job, or get you fired?

Use drugs, alcohol, a bad day at work, or whatever their deal is as an excuse for their behavior? If so, you need to get out. Now. Make a plan. I promise, it doesn't get better as long as you are in this relationship. You cannot love the red flags out of people. Even if they don't hit you now, there's a good chance they'll start sooner or later; abuse has a nasty tendency to escalate.

[audiovisualrecall]

So much for sleeping early