#elven marriage

[itsapmseymour]

It’s been a fun year 🎙️

Let’s do it again sometime

[felassan]

"felassan's super 9000 rune" soo the Ghost of Solas Past, my dead magical girl boyfriend has gifted me some magic beans

[valar-did-me-wrong]

Part: 89/?

[corsairspade]

Halenthir scenario where they get married for tax benefits (in a platonic good friends sort of way) and fall in love long distance via sending each other letters with ideas on how to best leverage their marriage for tax evasion.

[lizzybeeee]

Tevinter is the kind of place that would hold Toddlers and Tiaras pageants

[silvantransthranduiltrash]

I know that elves only marrying once is a thing in lotr,

But i would have really liked to see them, as a result of being immortal, grapple with the idea that “just because a marriage ends, doesn’t mean it’s a failed marriage”.

Like, ok, yeah, a couple that was together for hundreds or thousands of years divorced, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care for each other, or regret their marriage. It just means they got what they wanted out of their marriage, and now it’s time to take separate paths and move on.

Like them still being grateful for their shared experience as partners for years upon years, and also acknowledging that over the course of centuries, people change and sometimes you just grow apart as a result.

[lgbtpopcult]

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[arifromchaosland]

I'm in my solavellan era. again. thx veilguard It's makes me to remember one nice gift. I forgot about it. Absolutely. I don't know HOW. After wedding my husband have gifted me tablet for my studies and work and what important! THIS! This on the tablet back side! He is realy not good at all elven stuff and dragon age lore but he wanted to make me happy and maybe to make me laugh. Well done. And even more. It have made me more open to share to him something important to me if even it's my emotions and feeling about romances in the game.

[the-unconquered-queen]

Currently thinking about how amatonormativity probably isn't a big thing for elves in the Blades universe. See, they value two things in interpersonal relationships: emotional compatibility and sexual attraction. Romance is completely excluded from sexual attraction, which is why it's not the person you're sexually compatible with that you marry, and sharing both bonds is taboo.

But then romance would fall under emotional compatibility, and as we saw with Tyril and Kaya, it's canon that a deep friendship also falls under this umbrella just as much, to the point that Tyril states that he and Kaya would have made a great marriage pair despite Kaya being a lesbian and him not being aromantic, so then despite both of them experiencing romantic attraction for other people, they possibly would have ended up in a QPR anyway.

I just think it's Neat that the Blades elves don't seem to make a hierarchy of romance and friendship when distinguishing deep bonds.

(They also could've chosen to lump romantic compatibility in with sexual attraction instead of with platonic compatibility, so instead of Kilvali being platonic OR romantic intimacy, it would only be the former and then Dinvali would've been romantic OR sexual intimacy, but I'm glad they decided that romance is more an emotional bond than a physical one.)

Though then I wonder if allonormativity does exist among elves, because they don't place a particular importance on romance but they DO place a particular importance on sexual attraction through Dinvali (even if they put emotional compatibility above sexual attraction) and there's a culture of having multiple sexual partners, so I have to wonder if not sharing Dinvali ever and not taking sexual partners is about as taboo as being monogamous. Ik the monogamy thing is because it was blasphemous to try to have both with someone they way the gods did, but if you share Kilvali with someone and then Dinvali with no one you're technically monogamous. Maybe it's not as frowned upon since it's not that they're sharing both -valis, so then could a controversial couple that does share both escape public criticism by pretending they're both ace and therefore they're monogamous but in a gods-honoring way?

Also interesting on the note that if you marry someone over Kilvali because you're romantically compatible you're not supposed to have sex with them??? Because, again, sharing both is taboo. Are (sex-favorable) ace4ace elven couples the only ones who could uncontroversially have sex with their partners? Because Dinvali is described as sexual ATTRACTION in the lore tablet. and if the attraction is not there, it's not Dinvali, so it's not both and the gods (and conservative elves) don't get pissy.

Either way, just. Shoutout to Blades!elves. They girlbossed so hard in normalizing the split attraction model that they denormalized having sex w the person you're in love with and that's kind of hilarious.

[asterdeer]

really been struggling with finding good mindless queer audiobooks to distract myself with lately. today i started not one but two different poorly written fantasy romances where the main characters bone within 24 hours of meeting each other (one of them was literally 5 minutes after meeting). allos are wild

[seedsofmordor]

getting back into writing and finding a program that hides the word count is working wonders ngl

[lenbryant]

The half-elven.

[allbycharles]

So is it really canon elves get married by lovemaking?

Aaand...its canon they can get drunk? (see Hobbit and Thranduil's elves)

Soooooo....

How many elves accidentaly got married due to drunk sex?

[invinciblerodent]

I know it's not really a popular interpretation that's gonna win me a bunch of brownie points (from what I've seen many seem to like him more as a tortured romantic or a "crouching grouch, hidden softie"), but I personally am growing to really like characterizing Astarion as a... a weird, selfish, jealous little chaos gremlin that, while he of course has his reasons, is just kind of a crappy person, even when he's in love.

Like I can fully see him as someone who, as time passes between the first proposition and the commitment scene (and you're still not throwing yourself at his feet, blubbering and sobbing about how much you love him????? the audacity??????), starts to get annoyed at you every time you talk to someone a bit too long for his liking. Like I have a veritable plethora of shots of the amazing stankfaces and unimpressed scowls he makes over my girl's shoulder (I know it's probably because he's the second in the party lineup, but in-fiction it's still funny), and some of the stills I grabbed from his comment on fixing -and hugging- Karlach are... actually kind of incredible.

Like, if I presented to you with this screenshot:

and told you this is one of the faces he makes when he says "So, the untouchable Karlach is untouchable no more"? You'd probably assume that he's furious about it for some reason.

And there is a part of me kind of thinks he is, at least in a way, furious, because it takes him a few frames to compose himself, and put his pleasant smile back on:

-which is something I saw him do before. Making a very obviously blank/angry/sad face, taking a moment, and putting on a charming face right away. It's not new, really.

These three shots above were taken over the course of like 2 seconds, tops. It's a very subtle, "blink and you miss it" type of thing, but that's.... honestly all I need to think that Karlach suddenly being an actual option to you (in his weird, at this point in time very "physicality first" POV) is pissing him the fuck off. Like you doing that for her, collecting and lugging scrap metal around, and seeking out Dammon, means that you care for Karlach in some way. Which, then, makes her an opponent in his vying to be the sole recipient of your attention, and he won't suffer even an unknowing adversary. (And in my case, the object of his slowly blooming affections even hugged Karlach! Like right in front of his face!! What arrogance!!!!!! That's just rude, frankly!!!!!!)

I totally can imagine him being the type of person who, before starting a relationship, would use his lack of a need for rest to snoop through your belongings.

As someone who would casually violate your (and others') privacy in little ways, while holding his own sacred.

As someone who'd spy on your interactions with all the other companions from a crack in his tent's opening, and grip his bedroll in anger watching you dance with Wyll ("don't kiss him, don't kiss him, please don't kiss him, if you kiss him I'm fucked"), or steal your journal and get actually mad at you and be unreasonably acerbic to you the next day if it's in a language he doesn't understand.

This kind of also extends to me kind of imagining him as a boyfriend who, once he gets a bit more comfortable with physical affection, will just casually step up to you, and drape an arm around your waist or shoulders while you're talking to someone, to signal almost a sort of ownership. Someone who will make goading faces at anyone who dares look at you too long, or pull you against him in a brazen display if he catches someone checking you out. Like he'd piss on your leg to mark his territory if he could, but he'll settle for leaving a very obvious, crusted over bite mark on your neck if he must.

And yeah, that would get very annoying to any real person, but like I said about Gale before.... I think your character has got to be at least slightly not normal about them, just to match how profoundly not normal they are about you.

... Anyway, do carry on, I just like this edgy dumbass, I like him being both edgy and a dumbass, and him trying to slowly be better about this whole "~~relationship~~" thing is making my little heart happy

(yes, there's the Halsin thing. I have thoughts. But I won't kick the hornet's nest lol.)

[vaxyl]

Legolas, Vax'ildan and Aloth walk into a bar together.

...

Legolas was too busy looking at the trees to see it.

Vax failed his Dex save.

and Aloth had his face stuck in a book and wasn't paying attention to his surroundings.

...

They all get embarrassed about it and insist that the others don't tell their friends about it because they'd never be allowed to live it down.

[shivunin]

what is the arranged marriage au 👀

WELL

The arranged marriage au is one of my longer unfinished wips (at ~75k currently) and I started writing it around when I started writing Wander the Drifting Roads (so....almost a year ago? geez). Sorry, this is a bit involved, but I don't have a simpler way of explaining lol:

The basic premise is that the second Exalted March on the Dales never happened. So the elves primarily live in extant kingdoms where Dirthavaren and Halamshiral are in the games. The catch is that the reason the March never happened was intervention on the behalf of Elandrin and Adalene (Codex entry here, which you find if you complete the Din'an Hanin area in the Emerald Graves), who were an elf-human couple. Part of the agreement between the elven government and the Chantry is that the compact between them must be renewed roughly every fifty years and one part of the renewal is an arranged marriage between an elf and a human.

That's what the humans know. What the elves know is that Siona, Elandrin's sister (whose murder of Adalene kicks off the massacre of Red Crossing) is held personally responsible for some of those events. Because it is her fault that the elves have to give up one of their own every fifty years, if one of her descendants is eligible they are automatically the candidate even though it's been some six/seven hundred years. In this age, that candidate is Adahlena Lavellan.

So: it is the Dragon Age, and the time has come for the next renewal of the compact. The only thing is...Ferelden barely has a new king, the Chantry is in shambles, Orlais is embroiled in its civil war, and there is just general pandemonium all over Thedas. Why should the elves give up an advantage and let the Chantry have the last say? No, they're gonna make the humans work for it. So they have each faction send an assortment of candidates representing various interests (nobles from the Free Marches, Ferelden, etc. as well as various experts on things they think might appeal) and over the course of several months the elves get to choose which of them will be the other side of the arranged marriage. Cullen, fresh off becoming the Knight-Commander of the Gallows post-DA2, is chosen by Leliana specifically to represent the Chantry.

Basically: I read that codex entry and I immediately thought, okay but what if they weren't star-crossed lovers and they didn't die? and because my brain is the way it is I had to extrapolate: what would the elves be like now if they'd had several hundred years to research their own magic and develop their own science and culture? So I wanted to depict that, but I also like shenanigans. Hence, arranged marriage au with two reluctant participants who grow to respect and gradually care for each other. Also, I love the OC I made for it---a grumpy gardener who has Trauma relating to Tranquility---and I really really need to finish it for Adahlena's sake if nothing else.

It's one of those things that I really, really want to finish, have so many good ideas for...and when I sit down to write, poof! All gone.