#easily triggered

[talesfromtheunknowable]

In witchcraft in more 'manifest-y' type of content, sometimes I find there being differences in 'masculine and feminine' energies... just because of personal experiences and verbiage, I find this triggering. And since I do not have a good way of working with my own energies (hence witchcraft) and I often burry these (which has caused issues on all levels) feelings and I'd rather... not see these terms and 'purposes' thrown around.

SO! If you also find the whole 'masculine and feminine' thing to be a bout of nonsense, I find the idea of 'nurturing and protective' energies to be nice to me. It does not matter your gender/ or lack of gender, and you can have levels of both as an individual, a community, etc. etc. And an entity needs both to be considered a 'caretaker'.

That being said, I'm still very much a beginner, and if anyone more informed has better alternatives to the 'masculine and feminine' thing, please let me know!

[the-moonjay-forest-system]

Sometimes it goes the other way round, they'll say you're emotionally manipulating them and then do that very thing to you. And in a place of vulnerability It can be hard to realise that's what's happening and call it out, Especially if you're like me.

(I have selective mutism btw so In situations like these I'm usually unable to argue back or really say anything at all, I just cry silently)

They can make up my side of the argument and run with it, I can't do anything about it. they can go on about how I'm doing it all on purpose, for attention or for sympathy or to get what I want. And how hard it is to be around me, how I make them feel like they're a bad person and how I'm worsening their mental health. They can go even further too and all I can do is sit there now convinced I'm a terrible person.

I know it probably very hard to have someone shut down crying everytime you raise your voice at them or something but just give them a second to calm down. I understand it's frustrating for somebody you're upset with to stop talking but I cannot argue back if I'm mute so it's no longer an argument it's just you yelling at me while I can't do anything.

Everyone is so weird about people who cry easily. Fellas, is it evil and manipulative to *checks notes* have an involuntary stress response?

[mynnthia]

was talking with a friend about how some of dunmeshi fаndom misunderstands kabru's initial feelings towards laios.

to sum up kabru's situation via a self-contained modernized metaphor:

kabru is like a guy who lost his entire family in a highly traumatic car accident. years later he joins a discord server and takes note of laios, another server member who seems interesting, so they start chatting. then laios reveals his special interest and favorite movie of all time is David Cronenberg's Crash (1996), and invites kabru to go watch a demolition derby with him

[phoenixxxrizing]

[fauzhee10069]

Reading this thread, you’ll never know how sensitive some of your favorite authors could be.

Lesson learned; don’t comment anything if there’s nothing you really want to say to them.

Asking or encouraging them to write more? If you worded it wrong, it could rub them wrong and discouraging them instead.

Thinking again, I think we have this kind of paradox between writer-reader:

Authors’ writing fic, needs comment for encouragement to write more -> 

Readers comment to encourage -> 

Authors get offended by some of the comments, thinking they’re rude/pushy/demanding -> 

Said readers stop comment, worry that their favorite authors might dislike their comments again -> 

Authors’ wondering why readers rarely comment their fics, starting to lose motivation to write more -> 

repeat cycle 1.

Tbh, point 1!-Authors and point 3!-Authors could be different persons, but as a reader, how do we know which?

Easily offended point 3!-Authors don’t actually ask our motivation either.

Thus, the safest way (I think) is not to comment to their work if there’s really nothing you want to say and you just comment it for the sake of “telling them that we’re here”.

Or perhaps just drop this cheap emoticon 🙂👍 to tell them “we’re here, good, keep going.” (which regretfully why I didn't figure it out long ago).

Tbh, as a reader, I do love to have my favorite fics keep updating until the story is completed. Thus, the desire to motivate them arises.

Regarding the choice of words; sometimes we don't really think about it because we are busy (yes, this busyness is also the reason why we don't write our own fic).

Apart from that, another factor is that some of your readers (us) are not native English! Their words might not be rude in their language, but translated it in English… you might get what you considered rude.

I remembered an author who complained on twitter that a reader commented in Spanish on her English fic.

Have you ever thought that maybe the Spanish commenter once wrote their comment in English and was considered 'rude' by an author so s/he decided to use their own language to be safer?

As a writer myself (yes, I'm writing now); I don’t mind with how you worded an encouragement to me as long as the intention is positive. I don’t even mind with lack of comment as “I write because I love and want to do it.”

We may mutually agree that comments ‘like these’ are what should make us offended and demotivated.

Unpopular opinion, but I kinda wish AO3 has kudos feature per chapter (not just per story) and retractable kudos.

So I don't have to comment if they are the type of writer who demand recurring encouragement whenever they update.

TL;DR

The safest way is to assume that an author doesn't thirst your comments.

My mistake is assuming that authors who update for a long time is because they need motivation. Well, it could be because they're just busy.

Comment if you really have something to say that you like the story.

It doesn't have to be in every chapter, if there's nothing you want to talk about in that chapter, just be a silent reader or drop a positive smiley.

Random muse:

The first time I found AO3, I felt I found a more mature medium than FF.net.

Mature in quality and so on.

But speaking of sensitivity this time, I wonder if those Easily offended point 3!-Authors have ever been on FF.net before?

Remember that ‘reviews’ (yes, not ‘comments’) during FF.net era were on average harsher?

Complaints that your characters are OOC, your writing sucks, etc often happened there.

Worse, authors cannot reply to their insults (no ‘reply’ feature... back then).

We even had the term 'flame' for such reviews, and 'flamer' for those who write them.

Something that seems to be no longer used in the AO3 era. Even comments regarding OOC are rare todays (though I got one lol).

Yet, in every update from the authors, their A/N always included ‘R&R’, which means ‘Read & Review’, full of enthusiasm.

They don't bother with the flames they receive and keep doing what they love.

Your point? Not really there anyway, I'm just being nostalgic and contemplating the changing times.

[fridayiminlovemp3]

the fact that this is real is beyond horrifying

[jazzy-flowerr]

Y'know if I had a nickel for everytime I really liked a horror game where the main character is a small child with a talking toy as a companion and the game is also really relatable to me due to its depictions of alcoholic and/or verbally [sometimes even physically] abusive parents,

I'd have two nickels.

Which isn't a lot, but it's weird that it happened twice, right?

[dragonpyre]

I'm a chronic migraine Jason Todd truther. Except he doesn't know they're migraines. Poor guy will be layed up on his couch for days wondering what wizard he pissed off cuz light hurts, sounds hurt, he thinks he's gonna throw up, his vision doesn't work right, and also there's an invisible rail spike driving itself into his skull. Then his thinks it's a Pit side affect or some other weird thing.

But no. It's just migraines

[vyeoh]

I'm being 100% serious one of the worst things stan culture has done is making suicide jokes commonplace again

[linsdrblog]

the weapon meister thing i saw all over tiktok driven me crazy now i have to draw ishimondo version

bonus stupid comic i made...

[rottentricks]

Can we give your Jax candy in exchange of chin scratches? 👀

Jax in general doesn't mind sweet-related goodies, however he rather not get tooth ache so chin scratches are always acceptable! (if feeling down, he'll allow but it's rare)

[eerna]

Rereading FMA is like yay!! Yippie!! I love these characters so much!! I love this magic system so much!! I love this worldbuilding so much!!! This is all so funny and interesting and foreshadows the themes and plotlines we will encounter later in the story so well!! Then you see the words "The Alchemist's Suffering" and cold ice washes over your spine

[woaheyeradioboy]

I genuinely don't fucking care what you like in fiction. I don't care how disgusting, heinous, or "illegal" (not actually) it is, as long as you aren't agreeing with it or acting out things you read in a non-roleplay/fiction setting.

TW: Rape, Child Abuse, Pedophilia, Age gaps, Abuse, Bestiality, Grooming, Incest, and similar content

You can read about someone being raped. You can read about a child being raped. You can read about incest. You can read about pedophilic incest. You can read about someone fucking a dog. You can read about someone being raped by an animal. You can read about someone grooming someone else. You can read about horrible power imbalances. You can read about Victim x Abuser. You can read about gang rape. You can read all of that and more, whether the content is "romanticizing" or "sexualizing" it or putting it in a "positive light", because I do believe if you're reading these things you are capable enough to not have your morals and "respect" of laws immediately broken because you didn't get told 100 different times during the story how bad the content was.

You can read WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT, however you want, forever and ever. Don't act out the fiction in real life unless roleplaying with another consent adult (or teenager within your age range if you're not 18+) and it DOESN'T MATTER.

Fiction can affect reality, but usually only if you're allowing it to. Children oftentimes shouldn't be online but even if they are, it is never an authors fault or the people who enjoy the fiction the author writes that the child ends up exposed to bad things. If someone who is mentally unwell and cannot separate fiction and reality due to this is online and is affected by these things, it is not the authors fault or the fault of the people who enjoy the authors fiction.

If something that someone else wrote affects someone else in a bad way, it is not the authors fault.

Censorship of fiction is bad no matter what, and if you want to censor any form of fiction you are automatically already getting closer to people like transphobes and racists and ableists, because being pro-censorship ALWAYS leads down the same exact rabbit hole of puritan beliefs and controlling others.

[fishareglorious]

some time ago i made a post wondering why kakania looks to be pretty proficient with a gun, and @/please-let-this-work-oh-my-god in there said that she probably learned how to for self-defense but also brought up the question of how exactly is isolde good (at the very least, knew how to use one) with firearms too.

and im here to bring my idea to the table. what if kakania was the one who taught her how to use a gun, because much like her own reasons for learning how to, she also wanted isolde to learn out of self-defense.

little did she really know, isolde would use that knowledge in killing theophil, mr. karl, and hofmann.

in the grand scheme of things, this is just one of the footsteps in their joint path of "the road to hell is paved with good intentions".

[mossymenagerieart]

was thinking about unicorns again per usual just now and accidentally got a cameo phantom shift just by thinking about them too hard. This fucks immensely

[howlsofbloodhounds]

when people say they hate killer I nod in complete understanding and bite my tongue to keep from asking their exact reasons because I know I’ll immediately start defending his shitty behavior