#early experience

[evitachristine]

I’m for sure going to be labelled as a “baby hater” or sum ish for saying this, but…

When a little boy hurts a little girl for fun, it’s not just bullying, it’s an early form of misogyny. Often, it’s labelled “he’s just being a boy”. I for sure will get reactions “but they’re KIDS! You can’t call it misogyny!” Yeah, they’re kids. So, what you as an adult should do? Educate them.

Why am I saying this? The little girl can be upset if this is the first time it happens to her, but, she’s just that, a child. She can’t do much about the situation unless she’s really physically stronger than the boy. There are two ways this can go:

1) Tell her the typical bullshit like “he just likes you”, “that’s normal, boys are like that” while letting the boy misbehave while thinking that it’s cute instead of holding him accountable for his actions. This way, you’re making the girl grow up faster while letting the boy stay immature and uneducated. It’s her first encounter with misogyny - a boy having fun is more important than her discomfort.

2) You actually acknowledge her discomfort and validate it, understanding why she feels that way, WHILE putting the boy in his place. By putting him in his place, I don’t mean spanking him till he can’t sit down, if you plan to accuse me of that. It can range from something as simple as telling him that this is not how good people act, that this behaviour is unacceptable. If it doesn’t work, (which, btw, signifies that the kids don’t see you as an authority, and you should take care of that) then apply adequate punishment.

You can’t expect a grown male to understand respect when his entire growing up he was shown that it is okay to disrespect his female peers. Teach your sons that girls aren’t here to be “living toys” for him.

I’m not advocating for babying grown ass men. I’m advocating for making sure young girls and teens are able to grow up in a safe space.

If the bullying is sex-based and the girl has a harder time communicating her discomfort mostly due to the ignorance of adults who are supposed to be responsible, it is already misogyny. Age does not matter.

[rivetgoth]

It's honestly crazy that discussion around testosterone HRT skews so much towards the beginning stages of it (to the point that you have dozens of guys thinking their transition is "failed" if they don't pass by like a year in lol) and what the initial changes of the first couple of months to years look like, like the classic laundry list of those early basic changes like bottom growth, voice drop, etc, when IMO literally none of that compares remotely to the depth and intensity of the long term total masculinization you start to experience like 3-5+ years in.

[engravedlives]

misc green graphics stamps

[superemeralds]

racing intensifies

[triona-tribblescore]

Was doing warm-up huskerdust doodles a while ago and this pic of Cupid and Psyche (Amore e Psiche) had me in a chokehold <333

[scwm]

[chewyena]

i feel bad for not posting anything lately! hands ya'll a silly pressure oc,,

[canisalbus]

What if I told you that RoobrickMarine went and wrote an entire novella starring my 16th century dog couple? It's very canon-adjacent, well researched and thoughtfully put together, has inspired me a ton during these past months and it's now publicly available at AO3. I highly recommend it.

✦ Separation ✦

[adustoflove]

Hearing about the way other people interact so easily makes me feel like there is something deeply wrong with me embedded into my soul

[nohtora]

chúc mừng năm mới ! wishing you all good luck and good health for this lunar new year !!

in vietnamese culture, the zodiac animals are slightly different – instead of the rabbit, we celebrate the year of the cat ( aka my year hehe ) 😺 — art prints / stickers & posters !

[theresistanceneverquits]

There’s not enough people talking about how important Stephanie is to Damian’s growth pre-Flashpoint.

Bruce had seen Damian as a beast to be tamed, Tim sees him as a ticking time bomb, and Dick is far better with him but he’s still an authority figure for Damian to combat with. But then he meets Stephanie, a college-aged girl who nobody trusts and he bullies her relentlessly and becomes inseparable from her.

She doesn’t interact with him based on his past, but on what she can see. This 10 year old just threatened to kill her? Wow he doesn’t get outside much. He’s not old enough to have seen Gremlins. What do you MEAN you’ve never been inside a bouncy house before we are fixing that immediately.

They are like cousins to each other. They poke fun at each other for being lame and stupid and Dick has to tell them both to shut up. She doesn’t see him as a project to be molded and redeemed, he’s just a kid with a crappy childhood like her and if he’s nice to her for 5 seconds she’ll do something with him to let him feel like a kid. And he doesn’t look at her and see a liability or a failure or a lost cause, like everyone she’s ever interacted with does. When he’s awful to her, it’s because he’s an obnoxious preteen boy.

And then you get the “there’s room in our line of work for hope, too” scene. Because Damian has gotten to know Steph and he can’t fathom why she’s here. She obviously has had to deal with crap and is still working through being kept on a leash by Nightwing and Oracle, but she isn’t broken like the rest of them are. Damian is surrounded by people who were molded and shaped and torn down and broken to become the monoliths that they are, and then there’s this girl who seems so at peace with herself and is constantly making quips, and it’s so foreign to him.

And she tells him that she’s in his world because she believes people are worth fighting for.

[skecherss]

them......

(Original panel from Robin (1993) #25)

[witchrealms]

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[paperleef]

People need it. He needs it.

[magicpiano]

When Tim is 10 years old his parents force him to go to some boring party in Metropolis held by Lex Luther. This would have been relatively normal if he hadn't ended the night kidnapping rescuing a clone of superman he found when he was snooping in the basement.

The good news is Tim is literally the last person Lex would suspect of stealing his clone, so he doesn't come looking (at least for a while.) Also Tim's parents are barely home! So with Superboy's powers he can easily stay quiet and hide. The Drakes don't even notice someone else living in their home.

The bad news is Tim has no idea how to take care of a super powered clone with no life experience (or even a name) when he himself is still a child. But whatever, at ten he is old enough to raise himself, so surely he is old enough to raise his new friend too?

Something, something, hijinks ensue, Tim is adopted by the batfam early and Clark steps up to be a dad.

[gatoiberico]

it's montage time!!

(drawn on the xppen artist 16 2nd gen for a collab with xppen!)