#dm approval

[tireddungeonmaster]

This is your sign to write your own flaws sometimes instead of just using the PHB ones

[spacedlexi]

started a dnd campaign with some friends!! playing a silly little druid wood elf that seeks guidance from the stars because she’ll live longer than anything else

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

@dollsuguru pspspspps……….. the teeniest tiniest sneak peek just for u ………………..

[new-austin]

happy to announce I've set my crustify ray on another Curse of Strahd man

Mr. Rahadin

He has no lipssss. How will he get a kiss kiss?

[utilitycaster]

I think the two saddest phenomena specific to experiencing something in the context of a fandom rather than just generally are 1. finding yourself unable to enjoy something to its fullest unless the fandom agrees with you that it's the best and 2. hating things you'd otherwise like because someone you dislike likes them. Unfortunately, poor media literacy, weird projections onto the narrative, and just failing to get it exist whether or not you're in fandom, but I think finding yourself unable to like something you'd otherwise enjoy simply because of the opinions of other people is just deeply tragic and something I strive to avoid.

[keferon]

i was actually working on a big fic about him! i could crack my little knuckles with it again, and DM you some one shots I made if you'd like!!

also may i plz use your doodles of swindle as inspo for my doodles of him on my ask blog with him/nf

Yes yes omg absolutely yes for both of these questions:D I’m a huge fanfiction appreciator and I would love to read them. Can’t promise I’ll be able to do it right away though. Right now I’m going through a bunch of other stuff people recommended to me

[sluttybibuck]

i hate all yall oliver turned off his dms now how am i supposed to message him cheesy pick up lines every time im tipsy 😭😭

[shakespeare-official-account]

yeah sorry bestie i didn’t see your dm because tumblr didn’t give me a notification not because i don’t want to talk to you :(

[insipid-drivel]

Friendship and relationships are hard, I'm lonely and can't be loved by anyone, so here's some hard realities and wisdom from someone who's going to die sad and alone inevitably:

Many of you have got to try to put some effort in nurturing your relationships with your friends, or at least more clearly negotiate what your friends can and can't expect from you in the long-term.

Seriously, this whole 0-contact-aside-from-reacting-through-each-other's notes and proclaiming you're ride-or-die about someone for it? Is literally killing me. I've actually been dealing with suicidality because of how impossible it is to stay in touch with, or even on good terms with, people I thought were my friends but ghosted me, and then acted bewildered when I was angry with them for it or didn't acknowledge them as my friend anymore. "You can't be mad at me for not answering your DMs for 7 years! We're friends! I still reblog your reblogs!"

I am absolutely allowed to be angry, and I absolutely can demote you in my mind from "person I thought was a friend" to "mutual that ignores me until they need a dopamine fix or an answer to a specific question".

Months or years of unprompted, unbroken silence is not friendship - acquaintenceship, sure, but not friendship. It's a bad friend that expects love and loyalty by default no matter how long they've been ghosting their friends.

Love and loyalty are like a garden: they require cultivating and a commitment to nurture and grow, or else it gradually withers, and eventually dies. Earning the love and loyalty of a friend and then abandoning the garden of that relationship is how you find yourself locked out of your former friend's garden, or find them lonely, miserable, and exhausted from trying to keep the garden thriving when they themselves have slowly been dying inside because you haven't come back to the garden in years.

You have to learn to reach out and nurture your relationships. If you're autistic or otherwise have problems socializing, there are still some skills that you need to learn to avoid being isolated and friendless at the end of the day. Being autistic with trouble socializing is not an excuse to treat people you call your friends or that you claim to love like hobbies you can leave and come back to whenever you feel like - I learned this the hard way as an autistic person with shit social skills.

You have to negotiate what a friend can expect from you if you're an Outside Cat Friend that only drops in when you have specific reasons to reach out. It can be heartbreaking being the friend left waiting for a reply or a text without knowing the friend you're waiting for is an Outside Cat Friend.

Unless you have already agreed with your friend(s) that it's okay to ghost each other for extensive periods, spontaneously dropping out of contact with someone you've convinced is a good friend to you is really shitty and makes you a shitty friend.

"But I don't have the energy to reach out." Tell them.

"I have a lot going on and don't have time to talk." FUCKING TELL THEM.

"I haven't had anything to talk about." THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR.

"I've been too anxious to reach out." SAY THAT. JUST SAY THAT.

"I need a break from social contact for a while, so I don't wanna talk at all really." SAY THAT BEFORE YOU JUST DROP OFF THE END OF THE EARTH.

I've been the Reaching-Out Friend for most of my life, and in the past 5-10 years especially, I haven't been finding a whole lot of strength left to keep tending abandoned gardens that are thriving in name only. I've gotten fed up with self-professed friends that say they love me or view me as a sibling, but ultimately prove themselves to be bystanders when it's my turn to need someone to lean on and help me look after the garden.

Yes, there are absolutely friends you can have that can go years without hearing from you and still pick up where you left off when you do meet up again. They're awesome and worth keeping just as much as any other friends are.

There are also those friends that silently grieve your absence, that reach out to no avail, and wind up leaving the garden to die entirely after salting the soil with their own tears. Those are the friends that you've taken too much from without giving enough of yourself in return, and you've used them up and thrown them away without realizing you've treated someone that cared about you like a tool.

"I'm not the kind of friend that reaches out first."

That's your choice. No matter how you dress it up, when you decide it's time to neglect a friend, you're choosing to neglect them if they aren't prepared for what to expect from a friendship with you. You have the right to do that whenever you want to, but you cannot expect a warm reception with every person you do it to every time you do it. You cannot anticipate full amnesty in advance without full disclosure in advance.

If you're currently thinking of someone you've left sitting on read for a long time right now? It might be time to break your pattern and reach out for once.

Fall together, not apart.

[rainbowspinch]

Ref sheets for these little homestuck dnd freaks

[polarisdelphi]

New headcanon unlocked: Vergil practices while listening to Depeche Mode. My mind can't be changed.

I'm on a huge Depeche Mode mood currently, so I decided to sketch something while listening to their new album. Lo and behold, coatless Vergil.

I didn't like the one with the background tho 🙃

[boo-moved]

Dragonborn have cloacae, and they lay eggs, which makes it impossible for them to breed with elves or humans, or any other humanoid warm-blooded races, btw. It is not possible biologically nor does such a thing exist in lore. Not even with magic can such things occur, so natural offspring is impossible.

Ik, but magic shit is fun 🫶 🫃

[unopenablebox]

May I tell you something. Every time I imagine the unopenable box after which you have named your url, I imagine it is a little plastic lunchbox.

an unopenable little plastic lunchbox sounds both charming and infuriating. which delights me

[kuroosdarling]

happy tuesday friendz !! ^_^ i hope everyone has a great day today !