#disappointment will not destroy us

[ailelie]

When people join my church, one of the first things the pastor promises is to disappoint them. The church won't be perfect. He won't always get things right. We all try to be inclusive, but mistakes happen.

And that is still one of my favorite things about this church. Yes, the church is extremely queer friendly and welcoming (helps when the pastor is gay). Yes, the church focuses heavily on social justice and accessibility. But, it isn't the only church that does that. I've been to several across Chicago during my church hopping days.

But this is the first church I've gone to where the pastor just straight up, not only admitted to getting it wrong sometimes, but promised he'd do so.

And I think that is a sort of grace that we should extend to everyone, whether we know them personally or not. Hollywood celebrities, internet personalities, your neighbors, friends, family--they're going to disappoint you. That's basically a guarantee.

So the question is: how do you react?

Do you cross people off your list one-by-one as they fail to meet your standards?

Or, do you stay in the church? Continue the relationship, remain a fan, etc.

What is more important: punishing people for disappointing you or keeping those people, flawed as they are, in your life?

Personally, I prefer the latter.

[titfairy]

[langernameohnebedeutung]

Liv's mistake when dealing with Blaine is that she's usually reacting with anger or annoyance and that's the reaction he's after. I think if she shook her head real sad and told him "I'm just disappointed in you." and just..left - I think that could psychologically destroy him.

I think that would gnaw at him for days.

[k2ulhu]

hulu was doing live coverage of the election until 2:00am, at which point my power randomly went out and when I reopened the hulu app on my tv the election coverage was replaced with

[marvelous-spirit]

It’s just very interesting to me how wrong the people are who worked on Veilguard and I’m actually ignoring whatever shit they said in that AMA 🤷‍♀️

I huff copium for fun baybeeeeeee I’m making my own lore now.

[ajyetagain]

call me crazy but paywalling content whose fan base is 90% teens and young adults in the middle of a recession seems like a bad idea

[aquarian-queen]

Troy Otto in 8x07

[freddieandersen]

i was scrolling back through my posts recently (looking for an indication of when i had eaten a specific ice cream, don't think too much about it) and it was really something to see how much agony i used to hold, how little grace for my own humanity. I didn't think of myself as being self-hating, and I still don't think that's the best way to describe it, but i was very much living my life with the sense that i was in essence a contemptible person (not a belief I held about those around me) and any flaw I displayed would be the final straw that would make everyone I loved discard me. if you are a teenager and you think you need to be beyond reproach in order to be tolerable, please believe me when I say that's not the case. if you are any age please believe me when I say that's not the case. you are not irredeemable; you don't need to be redeemed. you're fine. everyone around you is also flawed. what you see as errors, no one else is even noticing. it's scary to lower your standards, i know it is, but you need to make your standards for yourself something normal. you're already normal; release yourself from the imposed requirement to be superhuman. sleep in late. forget to brush your teeth. procrastinate that thing you don't want to do. forgive yourself. all of those things are normal and fine. please please extend the same compassion and understanding to yourself that you extend to the other people you love.

[shybreadgarden]

I kind of wish my fencing coach was my dad in real life. If anyone tells him I’ll destroy the whole room with all of us in it tho.

[skitskatdacat63]

The double-edged sword of enjoying Chicago and knowing basically all the songs by heart, but also can't stop crying every time I watch/listen to any of them bcs I can't stop thinking about how covid robbed me of getting the experience of ever performing it :(

[empress-hancock]

I’m sure they’ll going to make changes in the live action but I do hope Sanji still gets to beat that dude almost to death for spilling soup, like that’s hilarious. He almost kills a guy over soup. Me too, man, me too

[goldensunset]

*skibby voice* i used to rule the world…

[franeridan]

nearly done with my op reread and for the longest time my theory was that the d marked the descendants of the people native of the island that eight hundred years ago fought the twenty nations, but rereading the part about lili I thought maybe it's more lax and it marks everyone who opposed the current government in general, not just those from the island - she was the queen of one of the twenty kingdoms after all, and imu didn't seem to know the nefertaris had a d in the name as well, but before the war there would have been no reason to hide it? so i think it's something they added to their names later, maybe to recognise each other as allies? or something? the kozuki were obviously allied too and don't have a d though, so I can't say this theory makes a hundred percent sense. also i find interesting how law is hiding the water part of his name too together with the d, i wonder if that has any further meaning? another interesting thing is that there seems to have been some form of prophecy or prediction about what's currently happening in the manga, since oden knew he had to wait twenty years and the sea monsters in the oden flashback on fishmen island were talking about it too... maybe a prediction about a war? since oden wanted to unleash pluton. I wonder what exactly they found out on laugh tale that made them all laugh when the events the wg is keeping secret seem to be this tragic... also, i think i never even noticed during my first readthrough of egghead but there's someone offshore with blackbeard's flag? a small boat, it seems, but I think atm we know all blackbeard pirates are either on the pirate island or fighting against the hearts (;;;) so I wonder who exactly that is? also, I didn't catch this either first time around but I feel like the germa might just be heading there as well right now lmao the thing with kuma returning to mariejois happening so soon after vp talked about the ancient robot attacking mariejois and no one knowing why is also suspicious to me, I wonder if vegpunk used data from that robot to turn kuma into a cyborg and that's tied to why he returned there for apparently no reason...?? anyway I thought rereading would help me clear up some questions but instead it left me with even more kkkk should have figured

[lith-myathar]

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[scatmaan]

my favorite part of bg3 is that it allows olav to collect kids and be the dad he was meant to be

[pyrosomatic-metamorphosis]

i think people should listen to She Used to be Mine from the Waitress musical and think about jaiden qsmp. I think it won't fix anyone i think it would make everyone worse but like why not get silly wit it