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Minority groups have to walk on eggshells because one bad take, or one bad person is enough for the entire community to be labelled as bad.
If you call yourself a progressive or a feminist, but still generalize like this for ANY group- not just people of colour, not just gay people, not just people with disabilities, but also trans people- you're doing exactly what conservatives are doing.
A majority of trans people don't think that 'pink=girl' and 'blue=boy', if that were the case then a majority of trans people would also be like Calvin Garrah or Blair White ( people who are considered to be "good trans" by some conservatives and TERFs, btw ), who used to constantly police people's gender based purely on their appearance, used to target GNC trans people and called them "transtrenders" for not confirming to gender roles.
But a majority of trans people aren't like that, are they? Because trans people aren't a fucking monolith, stop treating them like they are.
And I also remember, in 2018 and such, it's probably still prevailing today, transphobes used to ask GNC trans people what was even the point of them trying to transition if they weren't going to even try to pass. [ "A trans woman who dresses masculine is just a regular straight man", "A trans guy who doesn't even try to hide his tits is just a regular girl", etc. ] There has been a lot of pressure for trans people to confirm to social norms, especially because of transphobia. And when trans people force themselves into boxes of masculinity and femininity so that they can be respected- they're called sexists.
Another thing I'd like to add- a lot of transphobes, TERFs especially, like to point towards trans women who are just beginning to get happy and settled in their bodies and often times perform feminity as proof that trans people want to uphold gender stereotypes.
What they don't understand is, many of these trans women grew up without access to make up or "feminine" clothes- so when they are finally free to do whatever they want, they quickly cling to these things because they consider these things to be extremely important, think that they need these things in order to be women.
This is similar to how cis girls often perform feminity as attempts to connect with their girlhood- because this is what they're told by media defines their worth as women.
But as you get later into your transition, and just *live* and *exist* in your own skin, you realise that these things are extremely unnecessary. Many trans women I've seen, once they're in a place of comfort, don't really give a shit about dressing feminine, having long hair, wearing make up, etc. etc. because they literally have better things to do- because they're at a point where they are fully comfortable in their own bodies.
What I'm trying to express is that claiming all trans people transition in order to fit gender stereotypes is a dishonest and false notion- it's made by people who don't interact with trans people outside of social media, who aren't deeply involved with trans people and have meaningful relationships with them.
When you actually get to know a trans person, when you get to know MULTIPLE trans people in your daily life you realise how little each person has in similar when it comes to their self expression or even how they see their transness.
You can't claim that "trans ideology is" this that and so on when there isn't even a thing such as "trans ideology". There are trans people, and that is all.
This entire debate on transness is rooted in the fact that transphobes do not see trans people as humans, do not consider them to be individuals with their own lived experiences. The anti-trans movement hinges on this. It's a movement based in dehumanisation, baseline.
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The hardest lesson you will learn if you are interested in learning about Nazi Germany: so may people posting content about it are actual Nazis
No seriously if anyone is starting to get into WWII/Third Reich history, it is so easy to be indoctrinated because the main message a lot of Nazis spit now is that Hitler was bad and the SS were bad, but everyone else was chill.
And itâs hard to realize the narrative theyâre spitting is wrong unless you know a lot going into it.
I have been watching a dude called âTIKhistoryâ the last few days on youtube and something felt off about his takes, but a lot of them had at least some plausible deniability and enough factual information that I thought it was still worthwhile.
I just start watching another video from this dude with the title âThe REAL Reason why Hitler HAD to start WW2��� which is an insane title and caught my attention. And then my answer was given by the first five mins of his video when I realized this dude was, at the least, a wehraboo, and at most, an actual Nazi.
Pretty much any non-Nazi historian agrees that Hitler started WWII because 1) he wanted to conquer Europe 2) he wanted âLebensraum,â aka living space for âAryans.â Where German people, with no Jewish or Roma people present, can have ample space to live.
You know why most non-Nazi historians agree on this? Because Hitler fucking said this. In his literal book. That everyone read.
WWII was declared by the Allies when Germany invaded Poland for LeBeNsRaUm. Yes, Germany never wanted to fight Britain. You know why? 1) they were white enough 2) a fucking ocean kept them apart. They wanted all of Europe + Soviet Union. That is why WWII started.
See how quick it was to get to that point? Fucking TIKhistoryâs video is forty five minutes long. Thatâll happen when your point is horeshit and also not true.
Hitler started WWII. All of the generals and higher ups at least knew of the Holocaust and most perpetrated their own massacres for shits and giggles. The Nazi army wasnât really that great, they just knew how to play the cards in the circumstances they were in (they used horses a fuck ton. You donât see it because a lot of documentaries use footage from Nazi propaganda in which they werenât recorded). These are all basic facts for non-Nazis. So warning that if anyone you meet challenges those three facts, they probably are a Nazi
#I know no one cares but I was just gobsmacked when I watched the video#thereâs a substantial amount of dislikes but a lot more likes#and itâs because those who arenât familiar with Nazi history#which I know I got a lot of my own education from higher education#and to those who know only basic facts about WWII#a white balding guy speaking confidently in a polo seems quite trustworthy#nazism nowadays is less obvious than it used to be#lying or downplaying nazi history is such a big red flag#a lot of western education#specifically american#has been tainted because the USA hired a lot of Nazis after WWII to help fight the Soviets so a lot of#white lies#to put it lightly#were made up#thatâs where popular beliefs like that it was just Hitlerâs fault they lost or that generals were just following orders come from#so claims like that are more justifiable as itâs usually the education system that taught them wrong#but to claim that Hitler and his comrades started WWII for anything other than hatred and a need to kill Jews and Roma especially and also#disabled people gay trans people and so on#and modern Nazis justify this because it sounds bad#which you know#it is#so they need to justify it to themselves#all Nazis are liars itâs in the description#thatâs the nicest word I can use to describe them btw#I feel like this shouldnât be new news but fuck off if youâre a Nazi or a Nazi apologist#raeâs rambles#tw Nazism
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if you're a white person taking pleasure in the idea that Trump voters of colour are experiencing racist violence from white trumpers because "they got what's coming to them" I don't think you're anti-racist at all, I think you were just waiting for an acceptable target, and you're also fucking weird.
Bad Person Deserves Punishment For Their Sins give me a fucking break and get yourself out of the fucking catholic church. you're all prison abolitionists until you see someone you don't like.
#assholes still do not deserve to be victims of bigotry#people will crow this up and down until they find someone they think is a big enough asshole to really deserve it#watch your cognitive dissonance kids#i really am only speaking to white people here. as a white person.#POC can feel however they feel.#though i still don't think it's an appropriate sentiment to turn into Political Praxis there is of course a need to vent#like idk i don't find any marginalised suffering under fascism funny. i think it's fucking sad.#i think it is sad when right wing gay people experience homophobia and i think it is sad when right wing trans people experience transphobia#and when right wing disabled people experience ableism and when right wing women experience misogyny#leopards eating faces is funny when it's about like. rich people or misogynists or whatever it's.#do you understand that this is punching down?#why are we wasting our energy hoping for the victimisation of specific marginalised people#this would be a great time to do some outreach but instead everyone is just fucking MOCKING THEM#you're so fucking stupid you don't care about The Cause you care about Winning#this shit makes me furious.#have some compassion#the system speaks#USpol#Trump#racism#politics
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Regarding the whole "Fandom Is An Escape, so why should I have to care this much about misogyny/racism/ableism/transphobia/etc." thing. Idk about the rest of you, but it gets kind of hard for me to "escape" when I keep seeing people say the same vile things about characters who share aspects of my identity that I hear all the time in real life.
#gotta say: it doesn't make me feel any better getting ignored/disparaged on account of my gender irl and then seeing every fictional woman#also get ignored/disparaged when there is no material difference between her and popular male characters other than her gender#how do I escape from irl misogyny if y'all keep willfully ignoring and flinging gendered insults at 99% (<-lowball estimate) of#female characters? how do I put aside the ableism I face in real life when y'all discuss disabled/mentally ill characters in the most#absolutely out-of-pocket way? how do I forget about biphobia when the 'arguments' you make 'for fun' about bisexual characters#in fiction sound EXACTLY the same as the things people say about my bisexuality outside of the internet/fan culture?#and then obviously this gets compounded if you are trying to even simply EXIST in fandom as a poc or a trans person or an intersection of#any or all these varying identities/life experiences#like yes caring about fictional characters is not the same as caring about real people OBVIOUSLY I can't BELIEVE I have to keep clarifying#that. and at the same time!! because multiple things can be true at the same time!!!! engaging in behavior that enforces pre-ingrained#societal biases and prejudices!!!!!!!! does not help dismantle those biases and prejudices!!!!!!!!!!!!!! in a real-world way that DOES#involve caring about actual people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#it's also. interesting. when people go on & on about how some newest show about thin cis white (male) gays is So Important & Revolutionary#So We Must Do Everything To Keep It Relevant And Visible and then act this way about women/poc/trans people/disabled people/fat people#in media. so like. you DO agree that seeing a variety of life experiences represented in fiction is beneficial. you DO believe in the#value of depicting marginalized people. interesting that that only seems to apply to a VERY narrow and specific category of marginalization#(ugh remember when I talked about this and someone called me a straight person good times)
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You're making a lot of flaws in this argument that doesn't reflect reality while painting broad strokes to vilify transmasc peopleâ oh, sorry, "maladaptive tmasc spaces," conveniently tagging #transandrophobia so you really mean transmasculine folk who talk about how transphobia affects them. Because acknowledging the oppression they face is "maladaptive."
my theory about this which is very constrained by my personal aka white experience is that one of the things that happens to u as a white baby girl and then as a young white womanâŚ
Here's the major problem: you're coming from a white POV presuming everyone you're talking about is white. They're not. For instance, I'm a Black trans man. Many of the people this website has vilified, who founded and contributed to transandrophobia theory, are Black, Asian, Latine, indigenous, or Jewish transmascs and nonbinary folks speaking from their own experiences or the experiences of others. The harassment campaign against them relies on whitewashing these users to make their arguments and perspectives seem much more shallow than they actually are, as if they're not founded on these folks' racialized experiences within a racist patriarchal system.
And even if the majority of these people were white, that doesn't automatically invalidate their ideas. A lot of founding tenets of disability theory were made by white scholars. Does that void every concept within critical disability theory, whether disabled people of color contributed to them or not (which they have btw)? Absolutely not.
Also, stop sticking "white" in front of a group of people you're bigoted against to make it seem okay. "White women," "white gays," "white aces," "white trans men," "white theyfabs" â majority of time I've seen these phrases, it's not to call out racism but to appropriate antiracist rhetoric to be to misogynistic, homophobic, aphobia, and, dare I say, transandrophobic.
**Not to say there isn't anything to criticize about white women and white gay people, but I've seen many go on the say some horrendously sexist and homophobic stuff by tacking "white" in front then go on to be sexist to Black women and homophobic to Black gay people, because they're not really talking about white people.
if ur going to be aware of ur own misery and oppression under patriarchy u have to like develop these repetitive cycles of validation of your own oppression and internal experience as Real and Valid. because everything is very invested in making you forget. and then this cycle can continue when u transition: the overwhelming majority of bad reactions to transmasc people are based upon that previous reaction to girlness which is to infantilize u and dismiss you and treat u like u arent real. and so as a continued reaction to this many tmasc people become singlemindedly focused upon Realness and Validity. Realness becomes the Only Real Problem, the one Great Wound to be healed.
Fun fact: transphobes see us as girls, so they infantilize and dismiss us. Which is what you're doing here by trying to intellectualize and assume what our thought processes are to make our actions seem frivolous.
You're using a presumed proximity to "girlness" to repudiate transmasculine people â that we act like girls, react to oppression like girls, are "maladaptive" like girls with "extreme disproportionate reactions."
First off, girls and women don't all act the same. That's basic feminism 101. Some similarities exist, but the entire group doesn't share those traits.
Secondly, you're assuming all transmascs maintain their "socialized female" behaviors. Again, many don't. Some do, but it's unlikely that everyone in this whole group of trans men and nonbinary folk you're referring to. There's also many who knew they were transgender young, transitioned young, and had a boyhood, not a girlhood. For those who realized they were trans later, they may not pick up "girl" thought patterns and behaviors, so they didn't even have a typical girlhood, especially not a "white girlhood." I certainly didn't.
You keep using the word âobsessionâ as to dismiss anyone who talks about transandrophobia as a concept or reflects on it upon themself â they're not serious, they're like obsessed girls. You keep using the word "validity" as if to argue this is only what transandrophobia is about to make it seem as a "terminally online" thing â they don't care about real problems, they just want to be validated at the adults table.
It's a sign you're not really paying attention what many in the #transandrophobia tag are talking about or even transmascs outside of tumblr. Reproductive justice, accessing gynecological care and domestic violence resources, corrective rape, misinformation about bottom surgery, police brutality, and ableism used to strip away bodily autonomy are all serious issues falling under transandrophobia that many transmascs are vocal about and actively counteracting.
I'm not gonna deny that many are discussing the validity of transandrophobia, mostly because many are on the defensive from folk attacking the validity of their experiences, their identities, and their ideas. It is reasonable to fight back with counterarguments and affirmations against this offensive.
then they lash out with an extreme disproportionate reaction with the specific aim of invalidating or appropriating the other party's experience of oppression
You can't "appropriate" oppression you yourself experience. I can't "appropriate" my medical abuse. I can't "appropriate" the rape threats I received. I can't "appropriate" my dad kicking me out the house for being transgender. I can't "appropriate" the restrictions around my testosterone.
And much of the "invalidating" coming from this side is criticism against terms that divide the queer community. "TME/TMA" has been repeatedly called out for exorsexism and intersexism inherent in the dynamic as well as how the terms are largely used to vilify trans men, not discuss transmisogyny. "Misdirected trans/misogyny" is literally only used to tell trans men they don't have unique experiences under transphobic marginalization. âTheyfabâ is literally a slur.
they start literally viewing transmisogyny as a privilege
No one is doing this.
an over-focusing on Validity can create situations where people can become incapable of actually recognizing the severity of other people's non-validity-related experiences of pain and suffering.
Again, this isn't happening. Talking about oneself in one's own circles or when invited to in other circles does not mean one dismisses or minimizes the experiences of others. Just because you don't have the mic for a minute doesn't mean the person with it doesn't give a shit about you. In fact, many of the trans men who discuss transandrophobia also discuss transmisogyny, exorsexism, and intersexism. They frequently invite trans women, nonbinary people, and intersex folk to contribute to the conversation with their own experiences and how that manifests as transphobia at large.
Do they mostly talk about transandrophobia though? Yes, because they're transmasculine. They talk about their experiences in being transmasculine and that's as fine as folk who talk about their experiences in being transfeminine or genderqueer or intersex. They know the limits of their own experiences and don't talk over others.
What does piss me off are people who aren't transmasc who demand to be in a of conversation that isn't about them, assert themselves as all-knowing about the transmasc experience, and demand transmascs shut up.
you DO have privilege over trans women
We donât. It sucks to be trans whether youâre a trans woman, trans man, nonbinary, or genderqueer because of transphobia. Gender privilege doesnât exist when youâre transgender. Stealth trans people don't have privilege because upon coming out or being outed, they lose all supposed "benefits" of being presumed cisgender. If your privilege relies on being in the closet, that is not privilege.
The concept of gender privilege relies heavily upon cis feminism, which does not adequately capture the trans experience. It's shortsighted to presume it does.
Fact of the matter is you're apply a lot of assumptions that don't line up with reality to demonize transmascs and perpetuate the discourse that makes this website hostile to them.
my theory about this which is very constrained by my personal aka white experience is that one of the things that happens to u as a white baby girl and then as a young white woman is that bad things are happening to you, and everybody needs to convince you they arent happening (to make sure u are subjugated but still content enough to further the project of white supremacy). and also nothing you think or feel or want can be real or meaningful bc ur just a girl.
and so if ur going to be aware of ur own misery and oppression under patriarchy u have to like develop these repetitive cycles of validation of your own oppression and internal experience as Real and Valid. because everything is very invested in making you forget.
and then this cycle can continue when u transition: the overwhelming majority of bad reactions to transmasc people are based upon that previous reaction to girlness which is to infantilize u and dismiss you and treat u like u arent real. and so as a continued reaction to this many tmasc people become singlemindedly focused upon Realness and Validity. Realness becomes the Only Real Problem, the one Great Wound to be healed.
which to my tfem friends can explain a lot abt the weird way tmasc heavy spaces talk about gender: its a lot of reassuring yourself and others that you're Valid. that youre Real and Valid. youre So Valid. which for most of the tfem people in my life has been kind of bewildering because the truth is if ur tma nobody needs to tell you what youre doing is real because immediately people start doing transmisogyny at you.
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thank you all sm for the sweet comments and tags on mny art im so happy to see the salarry fandom is healing with me!! đĽşmaybe someday i'll post my salarry fankids and family stuff lol
#sallarry#salarry#larrisher#sally face#its so great that people love my fat sal too#i project on him entirely so like me he's fat trans gay autistic and disabled
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I don't go here but the more I hear about how it works the more I am tempted to write some that outlines how it's basically an alien parasite that functions kind of on top of normal human sexual variance. Like there's some level of symbiosis but like also largely it's aliens finding compatible human hosts for their mating and the various combinations of their sexual variance overlapping with ours. Betas are just incompatible or weren't infected at the right age. I feel like there's something to work with there.
Like the alpha is their "male" and the omega is their "female". It explains away the evolution of it. It explains away the changes to anatomy and addresses the birth thing... If you are a beta you don't KNOW if it's because you are uninfected or if it's because your alien is dormant, or immature, or waiting for -your- hormones to shift.
It leaves open the possibility that the alien could change its sex under different hormone balances, which for some people can change over time or with who they're around. There's fun possibilities because of intersex and trans humans in combination with intersex or bisexed aliens. What if you were an alpha your whole life but being around the wrong guy or girl too much has you getting baby fever? What if you were a beta but being around this one guy is unexpectedly making you horny as hell? You thought "I want to get that man pregnant" was a joke online...
A symbiotic alien could be killed or stolen, a person could be infected with one, they could have theirs changed out on them. Can they body hop voluntarily? There are rumours. Is someone trying to control them or who has access to which ones? Some people have more or less control over what that alien is doing. Some aliens have more or less control over what theirself is doing. Some people are basically mentally one with theirs, others are less willing, others are just less integrated [like you would expect from a human system]. Some aliens are just kind of stupid and hormonal and some are really clever, maybe varies with the alien's age or experience with hosts letting it develop its own awareness. Some humans communicate with theirs in various ways [out loud or mentally]. There are certain physical marks you can get from being infected, as well as the extra anatomy but it's more individual. Maybe the aliens are only fertile at certain times or can control when they are [but are always horny because it's a sex thing... or not! Some human people don't have libidos either!].
An alpha might be compelled to try to infect other people around them with the symbiot or something, maybe only if they sense they are too alone, or have reached a new environment, which could have interesting implications. Maybe that's what some suppressant drugs are about. Some people are straight or gay, or bi or whatever, the same as now.
Maybe whether you were born that way or infected impacts how much control you have or whether you are mentally integrated with yours? Maybe it can only be spread person to person if the potential host is receptive/willing?
It could have some minor other physical impacts like being stronger or having better senses which might make people compelled to tolerate them in the human population or even make them drawn to specific fields or environments or ways of life. Maybe there's a cure so only people motivated to keep them do, because it's too complicated otherwise. Maybe they can save you from certain illnesses or disabilities. Maybe they let you see in the dark. Or breathe in weird environments. Maybe they are trying to take over or maybe we have diplomatic relations with them. It could have werewolf vibes responsible for people likening it to a/o/b from fiction which might even exist in the universe, or that make some people want to keep their parasite around. The aliens could be weirdly similar to how we conceptualize werewolves or vampires when they are combined with humans as a host species. Don't tell me this wouldn't appeal to a lot of people. Maybe the government is trying to keep it under control but no one is listening [we were here for corona yeah?].
It explains how human society could develop basically how it currently did and then suddenly there's all this omegaverse shit slapped on top. The ship/comet whatever got here. We got to the right part of space. No needing to explain how human constructs about sex and gender survived the way they currently are in a world with extra sexes. Character previously uninfected? Too bad!
The potential chaos of it. The potential business as usual and "get back to normal :(" we have seen humanity is capable of... The "don't keep having casual sex while this potentially deadly virus is spreading" we know that no one is capable of, apparently...
What about the period of adjustment when no one knows what the fuck is happening but some people are starting to act like sex-crazed zombies intent on infecting others? [especially if it's a bunch of newly spawned symbiots (I can't call them that if it isn't set in marvel though I don't think, workshopping that) instead of older ones]
Imagine your husband of 5 years starts pestering you about kids when he agreed to not have any when you got married because you don't want to be pregnant, but oh look, you woke up an alpha and he's suddenly questioning the children thing again because he feels decidedly like you could impregnate HIM now. What if shit anti-abortion laws just got passed? Does that apply to all the male pregnancies that are washing over the rich and powerful? What if suddenly people can trans their own gender with the right alien?
I think maybe I'm officially going to develop this alien variation on omegaverse. That sounds fun. I need fun. I don't know. Everything hurts.
I just need to figure out whether I want to do original fiction or set it in an existing universe with scifi elements... The hard part will be getting any feedback from my followers or audience about it that isn't asking for more of one specific good omens fic I don't really want to put the closing chapters on until season 3 is out. This could easily fit into Marvel. It could be at home in star trek. It writes itself in, in many such cases.
saw a tiktok where people are clowning on the concept of a female alphas in het omegaverse. âthe biology just doesnât make senseâ yeah okay and leaking donut smelling pheromones out your ass doesnât make sense either. none of you have the sauce i swear to god
#It has hurt to move my arms since July of not June but gods do I need to find something that gets me writing...#writing something I can publish online#There's also the âI don't like to write some things because they'll worm their way into my personality for periods of timeâ problem#This sounds like a bad idea#help me indulge a bad idea#just tell me what the people actually want me to write#I think the bigger problem is I need to find characters I actually like#who I also want to torture#Aren't half my followers werewolf fuckers? where are you on omegaverse stuff?
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I think everyone got a little bit too comfortable after lady gaga sang about 'being born this way,' and now we're discarding agency in ways old school eugenicists would salivate at.
#queer#lgbt#psychology#psychoanalyst#ableism#transphobia#trans women#trans men#transgender#its definitely done some good for gay folks but seeing it cross applied to mental health disability and every other form of queerness it's#really starting to sound like 'there is something you can never ever change no matter how much you want to' and i simply do not think thats#real. like obviously some people wont change but some folks will and denying that capacity seems regressive#i just dont like the idea of only ever being one thing when we could be so much more
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Wrote out a big long phone call rant to have with my mother later because as much as I hate it she is my closest irl spiritual confidant đ hereâs hoping her response to âhey Iâve been spiritually depressed and disconnected for like 8 months and for some reason these last two weeks advocating for Palestine has me feeling alive and burning with divine passion and love in a way Iâve never felt before in my lifeâ isnât like. âTalk to your psyche abt your meds hunâ
#ra speaks#personal#religion#oh god these tags got out of hand. look away Iâm rambly today.#outing myself as deeply spiritual and devout on main oops#âarenât you gay and trans and -â listen Israel the person received that name after literally wrestling with gd in the desert#Iâm allowed to put my faith leaders in a spiritual headlock for past and present crimes while I live my joyful life#maybe a physical headlock too. Iâm down to body slam some wueerphobic racist pos who claim to be faithful while never exercising such faith#also lmao of the idea of a queer leftist being deeply spiritual makes you uncomfortableâŚbro everything about me makes ppl uncomfortable#Iâm bi gender I consider myself a trans gay man and a nonbinary dyke at the same time. Iâm disabled and ugly and autistic. im not palatable#accept the inherent apparent contradictory nature of the varied human experience and move on.#sorry thought about that post complaining abt observant jews being excluded from the conversations about queer jews like#you donât have to get it. you donât have to think itâs real! but itâs real to me! itâs important to me!#so are you gonna be my transphobic uncle and call me sick and deluded the same way he talks about trans people?#or are you gonna keep your mouth shut accept that you donât have to understand someone to respect them and move on with your life.#anyways uh. hereâs hoping I donât lose my voice or start crying like I did while typing the script up.#vocational woes
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am i thankful for racially competent and culturally aware schooling, of course! but do i wish it was less..........normie
like i wish there was more i guess, talking about disabled and chronically ill birthing people, actual inclusive language surrounding birth and postpartum, talks about gay and trans births. I just feel drained everyday that i have to read about "the mother and father" when Im nb with a wife
its also like i have been a CH (certified herbalist) for 2 years and traditional herbalist for 12 so the herbal remedies portion of our textbook worries me!!!!! Its not that any of the information is going to kill or harm a pregnant person its that its not accurate enough!!! All of dosing I do is custom to 1 person, their weight, metabolism, their cultural beliefs/practice and unique to their needs! I dont even feel comfortable sharing herbal information on my personal bc i know how so many people run with the first thing they hear and never look into it again. Like i ALMOST have given a lot of people advice esp on how not to get pregnant and induce youre period to be unpregnant bc i know people NEED that information and I feel seeing people needing abortions but i feel so wrong publishing it. While i know how to go about making herbal medicine, taking it at high doses for a length of time, but not everyone has my training and experiences. So I find it off putting that my teachers would include any herbalist anything without instructions for prepping the herbs, dosages, risks/warnings and just basic herbal education esp when we are talking about keeping a pregnancy. Maybe im just younger, more "new school" but i fully believe we can have traditional healing modalities with science and inclusiveness
#me#personal#vent#its like the information is good but im like where are the disabled ppl and the gay n trans peoples!?!?#and why are you telling other ppl to use these herbs without any real herbal training to back it up#that gives me anxiety#like if we had a week and not 2 days in the course to study fertility birth and postpartum herbalism then id be less concerned#but i already know this my classmates dont and i dont think even half of them saw my book rec so they can get some better solid info
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god i am trying so hard to be kind but the brain worms in this woman��s head are fucking endless.
#she was upset over how corporatized pride is / young people don't know gay history about aids etc.#but then she turned it around and blamed trans people for that ????#freedom trucker convoy ass people are literally so fucking afraid of their own shadow it's pathetic#i would have stopped talking to them entirely if they were not family and understood this is a psychological response#to years of raising a disabled child alone with extremely little support from the govt in a world actively hostile to autistic people
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Never get tired of blocking fascists but claiming that trans genocide is good because it stops gay genocide isn't the serve you think it is
#actual gay men will tell you that your transphobia influences their own transphobia#anyways. claiming that trans kids having dysphoria and attempting to get help for it is mutilation#and comparing doctors to nazis#is WILD#transphobia tw#genocide tw#nazi tw#idiot tw#like ik theyre only a pond in a ocean but seeing so many people agree is what influences hate#claiming that doctors are a regime bc they attempt to give kids help is leading you to the right and closer to the nazis you compare us to#and saying the left is a disease bc you dont like that adults And children is what gets us to where we are now#bc the radfems are leaning more right everyday and ik you hate the people youre claiming to care about by saying its for our own good#but trying to make it less obvious by claiming its 'for the disabled children' is obviously working or else their wouldnt be so many#in agreement#i worry for the state of the world if they think that kids killing themselves is better than them going on hormone blockers#just for the chance they might be cis#like. you and the anti trans doctors your supporting#are making it more and more obvious you never interracted with any of the groups your claiming to want to 'help'#and the fact they always have the 'im SUPER RELIGIOUS YOULL NEVER MEET SOMEONE CLOSER TO GOD THAN ME' in their bios. yeah.
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my dad gave me a journal for Xmas and i just opened it to use it for the first time and he left a lettter in it ;_; i obv wonât say all the details (very personal) but the part that got me most was he said âim proud of your strength to accept who you areâ like whoaaa oh my god
#people donât say it often but yeah it does take a lot of strength to be yourself unapologeticallyâŚ#the acknowledgement of it from my own dad thoughâŚ#sometimes i feel like he could never have a clue the pain i go through and have gone through being trans/gay/disabled#but this is proof he pays attention and#sees it not as me being sensitive when hateful people get to me but seeing me as strong for existing anyway#my dad has messed up a lot of things in my life but im so grateful that heâs getting better and i know he loves me#even if he wasnât a good dad for most of my childhood#what happens when kids have kids. Iâve moved on from being angry at him for the most part
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living in florida rn as a disabled lgbt person rlly has me muting notifications to my news app so i can microdose despair on my time
#florida#ron desantis#trans#gay#lgbt#chronic illness#chronic pain#send help#he cancelled the diversity initiatives in the disney district#if i want work that will accommodate for me existing#i will likely have to travel 40+ minutes on the interstate#if i cannot handle that stress#i can instead do a 1.5 hr commute 1 way to work#sounds great. doesnt it.#disrespectfully i hate it here#like im grateful for what i have but what i have isnt enough to live#what do we do from here#how do we as disabled people live in a place that is choosing to be hostile to us#because we cant just leave#we cant afford it for so many reasons from healthcare to the fact we cant get jobs that pay well#what are we even supposed to do
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Alright guys, sit down, I have to tell you all something very important. It's something you already know, but you NEED to hear this again.
You only get ONE life.
You only get one shot at this. You only get one lifetime to live it to your definition of the fullest, be that skydiving, entrepreneurship, or a quiet marriage. You only get one shot to tell people the things you need to tell them. You only get ONE shot to make yourself happy.
Yes, we have many, many, MANY years and many, MANY, MANY opportunities to start any of these! But... do you really want to do that on your deathbed? After you can look back and decide if you were happy with your life or not? When it's too late to change it?
I phrased this as doom and gloom on purpose, so allow me to elaborate and bring this back down a notch.
This post is about love. Straight-up. You only get ONE life, and I want you to take a moment right now and ask yourself if you're satisfied with how you view the world. Forget your living situation or your mental state for just a moment! How do you like your view of the world?
Is it a dark, disgusting thing, filled with smog, hatred, and fire? Is it a bright, beautiful thing filled with Good Vibes⢠and sunshine? Or is it somewhere in the middle? Don't take these words literally. If you were to tell me if you think Earth is a good place to live, what would your honest answer be?
Now, let's go smaller. What is your honest opinion of your own world. Not fictional, real. Your circle of friends. the news you see. You personally. Now, how do you view the world? Did your answer change?
Now, let's ask this: what can you do to improve your opinion of the world?
Your personal sphere is the more important example, here, but this does apply to overall as well. If you're not happy in your own sphere, then you NEED to make a change. Stop reading bad news. Take a breath and leave arguments. Go watch that show you've been putting off. Your Steam library needs dusting.
You only get to live one life. So why are you letting yourself be miserable?
Dogs are real. Cats are real. Music is real. Soft, huggable plushies are real. The sun, fluffy clouds, your friends, potential friends you've never met yet, and you. You are real.
Take a breath. Breathe it in. You are real.
You have the capability to make your own choices.
You have the capability to choose when to hold on or let go of a thing or person.
You have the capability to say no to someone.
You have the capability to do the things you want to do, no matter how bleak your situation looks right now.
And doesn't that sound amazing?
Why do we hold on to hatred? Is hating someone really making you happy, or is it putting words in your mouth?
You don't have to like everyone. Far from it. If you don't like someone, we live in a day and age where avoiding them has never been easier. Block, report, drive away, walk. Anything works.
But you don't have to hate, either.
I'm almost done, I promise, but I want to tell you one more important thing. You probably already know this one, too, but you need to hear it anyway.
Hatred comes from love.
That seems really weird, right? Contradictory? Well, it is!
Hatred of a person could start because someone you love got hurt, or someone you love said bad things about someone else. Hatred could come from witnessing someone you love get hurt by an entire group, or one person. Or, it could come from watching a clip on the news. It could come from listening to your family talk about how much they hate a group, and then you'll hate that group, too, because you love your family.
That's all it is.
Any form of hatred can be broken down in this way. We hate because we feel that something or someone we love is violated, and we want to protect them. This can be from things like lions, tigers, plagues, and oceans, but it could also be from race, sexuality, bodily autonomy, countries, or your very own neighbors
But... is that hatred justifiable?
Can you really hate the entire ocean because your friend almost drowned there? Can you really hate a lion for needing to eat? Can you really hate someone who just wants to feel right in this world?
Cuz guess what?
You only have ONE SHOT at life.
But so do they.
Every creature needs to eat, no matter what your relationship with their prey is. The ocean isn't even alive, your fellow man was just unprepared to face it, and that's no one's fault. And that trans person wants to live their life to the fullest, too, whatever their definition of fullest is.
Now that I have the transphobes' attention, is hating this group making you happy?
I'd bet the majority of you say yes, right? But stop and think about this. Really, really think about this. What is something you've always wanted to do? Paint? Fly? Study? It can be anything.
Now, is hating a group of people in any way getting you closer to that dream?
...
No, right?
So why are you wasting the energy?
This goes about any group, too. Jewish people, people of color, gay people, muslims, disabled people, ect. Is hating this group of people who also only get ONE shot really making you happy? Helping you achieve your dreams?
No, right?
So why are you wasting the energy?
Now, if a group IS getting in the way (or trying to get in the way) of you trying to achieve those dreams? Great! I hate fascism, too! But now you know why.
You only get ONE shot at life. The choices you're making now are building up to a grander whole, a tapestry you will see as you lay on your death bed. Did you live a good life?
Yes, we struggle. There are times when it's fucking unfair. The world seems out to get us sometimes, but that's not your fault. Your responsibility then becomes what you choose to do with those struggles. Crumple under them, or push through? It's easy to fall apart, but so, so worth it in the end to get that 1st place ribbon you've always wanted.
So, how can you improve your worldview today?
#sorry this is so long i've been thinking about this a lot#call me an optimist all you want (and you're right) but things DO suck right now#hi hello i'm trans and gay and disabled#so i get it life fucking sucks#but we only get ONE.#i want to do the best with my time here. maybe impact a few lives.#living life to the fullest for me is much more down to earth than a lot of people's definition of that is#but i dont care#i want to make people happy and then go out with a bang#i dont want to hate people#unless they're actively hurting those around them (fascism) and doing it on purpose then we can arm ourselves here#fighting back against hatred- things like cops or jk rowling- doesnt happen with more hatred#it happens via community#it happens via a stronger love#love that brings people together for more reasons than hatred#because a love formed on hatred isn't love at all#it's just more hatred#anyway thank you for coming to my ted talk. i gotta eat something before work#dimond speaks#ask to tag
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goys need to start checking calenders đ whatâs wrong with yall
#bae. pesach starts may 5th i cant go to required rehearsals đsilly silly#it just really pisses me off bc this teacher in particular#uses she/they is a black woman w adhd and is just awesome and chill and great#she's inclusive for disability for neurdivergency for queer people for all poc#but time and time again she is not inclusive for jews. it's genuinely ridiculous how much of a constrast there is#in how she addresses issues like gay and trans and womans and poc rights.#and consistently skips over religious minorities#include jews and religious minorities in yur fucking activism my girlie. i love you forever but get your entire act together#and like i know she'll excuse me and it'll be fine bc omg she's so accomadating!!!!!!#maybe dont schedule it then in the first place#in a world where picture day count day and district-wide test dates fall on rosh hashanah#where ap tests are all saturday mornings#where i get marked tardy for yom kippur#it fucking sucks that i am expected to set aside the passover seder for fucking choir.#summer rambles#venting in tags
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