#detransitioned

[positivelyqueer]

I love you detransitioners and retransitioners. I love you FtMtF’s and MtFtM’s. I love you binary to nonbinary and nonbinary to binary. I love you lifelong genderfluids with long periods of each. I love you systems and plurals with complicated relationships to gender and transitioning. You’re all wonderful and I hope you have fantastic days.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Detrans Woman Pride Flag

Detrans woman (or reidentified woman): someone who detransitioned to womanhood.

It could overlap with FtMtF, however not every detrans woman feel represented by that acronym, some may detransition from being non-binary, for example (i.e. FtNtF).

[fox-steward]

wrote this a while back on twitter and it’s still pertinent

[daddyd0nt]

I wish "detransition kinksters" would fuck off to their own kink tag and stop clogging the Detrans/detransition/ftmtf tags which up until literally a few weeks ago was one of the only places on the internet where detransitioned people could openly talk about our experience and find community and feel less alone and relate to each other and now it is now a patriarchal sewer of coomer gooner brainrot because AFAB people literally cannot exist in any state without gross AMAB people turning our existence into a fetish

[unapologetically-i-resurrected]

Hey guys.

Most of you will hate the news, but it is what it is. You have to understand, I already hate my life a lot more than any of you can make me feel bad about it. Anyway, I only came online to say this one thing and will probably deactivate/delete the account.

After months and months of hopelessly trying to ignore reality, I've now completely detransitioned. It is something I absolutely loathe, it was not because of personal choice and I barely hold on to a meaningless existence every time I wake up in the morning.

I might leave the account here, for sentimental reasons. If that happens, I will not be posting anymore, or replying to messages, asks, mentions, etc.

I now look nothing like my photos 🙃 and although my urges and desires never changed at all, most people (if not all) now treat me as a cis dude.

It's disgusting.

But I can't blame them. I can't blame anyone other than life being incredibly unfair.

I hope you all have a much more beautiful and satisfying life. Every day.

Some of you, you know I loved you. I'm taking back nothing. I'm currently considering starting another account. But I don't think anyone of you would want to follow another hairy bearded fatty who still feels like this beautiful "innocent" girl inside.

What a life.

Anyway, take care my loves. Stay safe and happy 💜

[ahalfway]

woah its been 3 years since i last posted here. 2021. i can't believe how much has changed. i never could have predicated where i would be in 2024 back then. i never could have predicted having a loving wife and a loving partner and living somewhere totally different. i could never have predicted id own a house and have a dog and a friendship circle the size that it is. i could never have predicated being (more) comfortable with who i am as a person.

my last post, the last one i actually made for myself, talked about how i was terrified i was that nobody would ever see me for what i thought i was. but fuck me i was so so wrong.

turns out i just needed a friendship circle full of people who are gay, who are lesbian, who are bisexual, who are comfortable in who they are, who look at me when i say im a dyke-- with my ugly mustache and sometimes stubble beard, with my weird deep voice, with my surgery-flat chest and hairy back and hairy legs and the gut that testosterone gave me-- and go "yes, you are". who look at me and see me for me and respect my choices and my opinions. who let me call myself a he/she. who let me crawl in beside them and don't complain when my dykey little carabiner digs into their hips.

me three years ago could never have imagined. could never have even dreamed.

if you're detrans, if you want to pursue detransition, if your one month or one year or one decade into your transition and you look at yourself in a mirror and think it was all a mistake. it will be fine. it will be. it has to be. so surround yourself with love. surround yourself with dykes and fags and fruits and crossdressers. surround yourself with people that will look at you and say "yes, you are."

[incognitoradicale]

okay so how do I go off testosterone the smartest way? Just going at once probably isn't that good.

and I am not really wanting to tell the clinic because I fear they're gonna freak out LOL.

[she-is-ovarit]

Case Overview

The Dhillon Law Group and LiMandri & Jonna LLP, in conjunction with the Center for American Liberty, sent a letter of intent to sue to the Permanente Medical Group, Kaiser Foundation Health Plan & Kaiser Foundation Hospitals who performed, supervised, and/or advised transgender hormone therapy and surgical intervention for Chloe Cole when she was between 13-17 years old.

“My teenage life has been the culmination of excruciating pain, regret, and most importantly injustice,” Cole said. “I have been emotionally and physically damaged and stunted by so-called medical professionals in my most important developmental period. I was butchered by an institution that we trust more than anything else in our lives. What is worse is that I am not alone in my pain. I will see to the fact that the blood and tears of detransitioners like myself will not lay waste. It is impossible for me to recoup what I have lost, but I will insure no children will be harmed at the hands of these liars and mutilators.”

“The medical system shouldn’t dictate the future of young children’s lives. Through this legal action, the ‘professionals’ involved will be held accountable for their despicable plot to mutilate children and financially benefit from it,” said Center for American Liberty’s CEO, Harmeet Dhillon (@pnjaban). “We will break the cycle of them breaking our children before it’s too late.”

Background: Chloe is a biological female who suffered from a perceived psychological issue “gender dysphoria” beginning at 9-years-old. Under Defendants’ advice and supervision, between 13-17 years-old, Chole underwent harmful transgender treatment, specifically, off-label puberty blockers, cross-sex hormone treatment, and a double mastectomy.

Throughout Chloe’s medical experience in California, the facilities and institutions actively promoted, encouraged, and advertised the availability of these treatments. Chloe and her parents were not informed of the option for psychiatric treatment or an approach that attempted to treat the underlying psychological conditions to bring about a mental state congruent with Chloe’s biological sex.

Defendants also falsely informed Chloe and her parents that Chloe was at a high risk for suicide, unless she socially and medically transitioned to appear more like a male. Chloe has been informed by her parents that Defendants even gave them the ultimatum: “would you rather have a dead daughter or a live son?”

Chloe will be seeking punitive damages based on the evidence of malice, oppression and fraud.

The website is asking people to reach out to them to fill out a form if you've had similar experiences.

[bioluminesced]

so about those teasers

[probablyasocialecologist]

The study itself is titled, “Long-Term Regret and Satisfaction With Decision Following Gender-Affirming Mastectomy,” and sought to study the rate of regret and satisfaction after 2 years or more following gender affirming top surgery. The study’s results were stunning - in 139 surgery patients, the median regret score was 0/100 and the median satisfaction score was 5/5 with similar means as well. In other words… regret was virtually nonexistent in the study among post-op transgender people. In fact, the regret was so low that many statistical techniques would not even work due to the uniformity of the numbers: In this cross-sectional survey study of participants who underwent gender-affirming mastectomy 2.0 to 23.6 years ago, respondents had a high level of satisfaction with their decision and low rates of decisional regret. The median Satisfaction With Decision score was 5 on a 5-point scale, and the median decisional regret score was 0 on a 100-point scale. This extremely low level of regret and dissatisfaction and lack of variance in scores impeded the ability to determine meaningful associations among these results, clinical outcomes, and demographic information. The numbers are in line with many other studies on satisfaction among transgender people. Detransition rates, for instance, have been pegged at somewhere between 1-3%, with transgender youth seeing very low detransition rates. Surgery regret is in line with at least 27 other studies that show a pooled regret rate of around 1% - compare this to regret rates from things like knee surgery, which can be as high as 30%. Gender affirming care appears to be extremely well tolerated with very low instances of regret when compared to other medically necessary care.

[...]

The intense conservative backlash, to the point of disputing reputable scientific journals, likely stems from the fact that reduced regret rates weaken a central narrative these figures have championed in legal and legislative spaces. Over the past three years, anti-trans entities have showcased political detransitioners, reminiscent of the ex-gay campaigns from the 1990s and 2000s, to argue that regrets over gender transition and detransition are widespread. Some have even asserted detransition rates of up to 80%, a claim that has been broadly debunked. Yet, research consistently struggles to find substantial evidence supporting this narrative. The rarity of detransition and regret is underscored by Florida's inability to enlist a single resident to bear witness against a lawsuit challenging the state's ban on gender-affirming care.

[genderqueerdykes]

my heart goes out to people who have been talked out of transitioning and people who have been talked out of detransitioning. having someone else convince you to avoid doing what is in your best interest and increase your comfort and quality of life is always heart breaking and exhausting- no matter what your choice, to transition, or to detransition, that is your choice, and it does not impact other people. you are not a bad person for wanting to do either of these things.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Detrans Man Pride Flag

Detrans man (or reidentified man): someone who detransitioned to manhood.

Not essentially the same as MtFtM, it could be MtNtM, for example.

[daddyd0nt]

gender dysphoria is a painful and debilitating mental illness and very real and deserves to be studied and given more thought and treatment than just bandaging it with cosmetic transition.

[writerinterest]

Transition Regret

I am writing a dissertation for a Ph.D. in Development Psychology and my topic is gender transition in children and adolescents.  I wish to publish stories of young people who have transitioned and regret the decision or who changed their minds before proceeding to sex-reassignment surgery.  Poor health outcomes and other sustained physical complications regarding puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones are important.  I believe the difficulties associated with transitioning at a young age should be made public.  Trans activists insist all transitioners are happy and have improved their existence by proceeding to the medical experiments known as affirmative care instead of psychotherapy or counseling.  

Anyone who wishes to expose their experiences.  Please post on this blog.  Do not use your real name and do not reveal any personal information that can identify you. 

I would also like to hear from parents who regret allowing their child to transition.

Thank you.

[michaelmilkers]

in 2004 george w bush won the presidential election and promised in his acceptance speech to codify a federal ban on gay marriage. 30 states passed bans on gay marriage in the wake of his re-election. and then they fell. one by one by one. it has to get worse before it gets better.

queers. trans people especially. our attitude for the next decade has to be “we’re not fucking scared of you”. do you understand? this has always been at the core of who we are and what we do. we fucking move. we take up space or carve out our own with our bare hands. we take care of us.

do you know the other queers in your neighborhood? do you know who you can call at a bad time? do you know whose house you can crash at? do you know where you can go for a free meal? do you know where you can bring meals to the hungry? do you know the LGBT resources available in your area? do you know the informed consent clinics in your area?

do you know how DIY HRT works? do you know and have friends who don’t? do you know our history? have you read the works of james baldwin and leslie feinberg? are you equipped with knowledge about the forces that work against us? do you understand dialectical materialism? do you know what to say if stopped by the police? do you know what good opsec is? are your legal documents in order? do you know how to get them in order?

scream, cry, rot in your bed, do whatever you need to do to process this, then find something to do. do not fall into despair. in the face of extermination say “fuck you.”