#detrans questioning

[incognitoradicale]

okay so how do I go off testosterone the smartest way? Just going at once probably isn't that good.

and I am not really wanting to tell the clinic because I fear they're gonna freak out LOL.

[soup-mother]

noooo u gotta be so nice to ppl who cling onto the "detransitioner" label despite it's very blatant political connotations or they might become a terf.... for reasons totally unrelated to the afformentioned political detransitioner label......

[nelkenundveilchen]

I think we should overthink generally how to approach transitional medicine to get the best care for all dysphoric people.

First up, away with affirmation-only. Do not feel threatened by "I need my hormones or I'll kill myself". Compassionate but firm therapists who help explore those feelings and unravel the web of how social dysphoria often functions (by internalised misogyny) and also give alternatives to medical transition.

Second, there needs to be a lot of better research for the effects of cross-sex hormones on bodies, of surgeries and their effects etc pp. Detransitioning people also need more appreciation, more guidance, not just "ok so you've made a mistake"

Generally said, we need more compassion and exploration. We could all benefit from this.

[mygenderisstillblurry]

I pretty solidly do not identify with gender anymore. I keep trying to come up with some sort of transitory label for my half-detransitioned self to appease people, and not a single thing feels right or worth calling myself. Nonbinary, genderfluid, genderqueer, none of those accurately describe my experience. My experience doesn't have a gender label. I'm just someone who was born female, who lives as a man in most social circles, who is identified as a female by strangers, and has no internal sense of gender. I guess that makes me a woman who feels stuck.

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

Genuine question is there a difference between amab/coffee bean transmasc and MtM other than just "I use one label over the other bc I'm more comfortable with it"? (Which in itself is a completely valid reason but I digress.)

If you don't know what these are about here's links to the wikis about them:

Maybe amab/coffee bean transmasc is a bit more of a loose and all encompassing term, while male to male is strictly a binary male transiting to binary male? That's my guess but I'm not sure.

If you don't know the answer that's fine! Just tossing ideas around and talking abt it if you have anything to say is just as chill. This just seemed interesting so I thought I'd ask around :3

[puppyudderly-dreamy]

feels like the reason detrans is more popular among transmascs is just the same reason forcemasc is unintelligible as a kink, forcing someone into manhood doesn't affect power dynamics the way forcing someone into womanhood does under patriarchy, since well... the power being exerted no matter who is being forced into what role is male power under patriarchy, it's like pretending oppressors are the victims and saying that's a good joke

[our-queer-experience]

Yesterday I saw something that has stuck with me, I saw a couple folks discuss how they transitioned (other transmen) and then one day…they just decided to detransition (which is a completely valid choice to make). One after 7 years…and I guess it’s made me doubt myself and but also reaffirm my belief that nothing is guaranteed.

I’ve been on T for 2 years now, my consult for top surgery is in April…but what if I regret it? I don’t think there’s any way to predict that.

Lately, while my physical dysphoria is still an issue- being misgendered hasn’t bothered me much anymore (I do know pronouns don’t always equal gender ofc)? I feel confident enough that it’s just kinda…annoying but whatever. Which makes me doubt even more if I’m making the right decision.

sorry it took me so long to get to you! im not sure what i should say, just know that detransition is ok and it doesnt mean your less than or damaged. just take this one day at a time.

[titsnotbrains]

Tell me what made you think you were a boy and how you realised you were a girl after all

i mean i was always kinda tomboyish when i was yonger and i think i just... liked men? and i like learned about being trans and desided that cuz i liked men that meant i wanted to be a man? i know that sounds weird but like i think thats honestly the best explanation. also like my memory is realy realy bad tbh. like i can barely remember what i did half the time much less what i was thinking when i did it lol, so there migt have ben other reasons im forgeting.

what made me realise i was a girl was cuz i started looking at like porn and stuff on tumblr, and i was always like picturing myself in the female role yknow? (fun fact the kink that made me like sign up and start folowing blogs was hucow) so i just kinda lurked for a realy long time and slowly went down more rabit holes and by the time i found the detrans kink stuff i alredy had all these other kinks that like fed into it? so at first it was just a kink for me and i was like 'ill never actualy interact with anyone and ill definitly never actualy detrans in any way.' then slowly i just started geting more active, rebloging stuff started talking to men on here and a few of them realy helped me realise how much i actualy loved being a girl! so it was like a realy gradual proces but now iv been off t for almost a year and im wearing girly cloths and posting pictures of my body on tumblr and having sex with straight men and im honestly so much hapier!

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Detrans Non-Binary Pride Flag

Detrans nonbinary (or reidentified nby): someone who detransitioned to non-binary.

For example, someone have started self-identifying solely as binary (aptobinary), but then self-identified back with a non-binary identity (e.g. neutrois or maverique) again (regardless of one's birth assignment/natal AGAB or ASAB).

Some may see this as a fluid gender experience, but some may see this as a personal self-discovery as a result of questioning.

[ftm-fox-prince]

CW // t4t detrans/misgendering kink. I’m starting to explore this but know it can be triggering so I’ll tag it and put content warnings

I’ll take you to pride. We’ll have a wonderful time. I’ll convince you that it’s okay, you can take your top off. Everyone respects you as a trans guy, so you can show your pre-op chest.

Don’t worry if I grope you in front of them all, as they stare at your big tits. And if I reach down into your pants and feel how wet your pussy is.

It’s okay if I whisper “good girl” into your ear as your squirm, and its perfectly natural that all the lesbians around us are rubbing their own cunts at you being groped.

Just relax and let a real trans guy show you what your girly body is really meant for.

CIS PEOPLE DNI WITH THIS POST

THIS IS A T4T KINK POST

[incognitoradicale]

personal opinion:

I think gatekeeping through thorough examination and therapy and evaluations to access transitioning measures is important/needed. Informed consent the way I see it in the US is failing, one meetup with a doctor is not enough. I do understand how debilitating dysphoria can be but it is important to not just take what's seemingly best and be as quick as possible, but to sit with those feelings for some time and maybe explore other root causes before going through medical treatment that will inevitably change you irreversibly. I think medical transition should be seen less as a fun side activity but for what it is: medical treatment. And it should be taken seriously as such.

An unnecessary way transition is gatekept through financial stuff,the cost of hormones and surgeries (even in countries with socialised medicine,hailing from Germany here),making it near impossible for poor people to access any care, but this is the only issue I have with "gatekeeping transition".

[fakeboyfinder]

vagueing abt a blog, don't mind me

sooo irritating for a fakeboy to post a huge "detrans new years resolution notes game! no time limit, posting proof for every step~!" post, only to delete her blog a few days later

like if you get scared and have to leave it behind for a while, you need to leave it up, accumulating more and more notes. just becoming a giant ball of Consequence when you come back and find that Actually! Now you have to change your name for real, and tell everyone you were silly and confused, and [everything else], rather than just deleting.

(post is in context of detransition and trans male pregnancy or breeding as kink; please engage with kink in a risk-aware consensual context)

[transmonstera]

what's retrans I've never heard abt that

short for retransition! usually refers to those who may have detransitioned for a variety of reasons such as safety, changes in feelings, etc but do at another point come out again and "restart" their transition! even some who initially came out, say for instance, as a trans man but later comes out again as nonbinary may refer to themselves as retransitioning as their transness has not reverted or ceased, simply taken a different turn!

[nelkenundveilchen]

I don't have to be a certain way to be a woman, I simply am by being born female.

[mygenderisstillblurry]

The upcoming Trump presidency would be the perfect excuse to detransition. I could simply say I was "going back in the closet for my safety", reidentify as a woman, and then just...stay that way. So why does that still feel terrifying and wrong? Why can't I bring myself to do it?

[sapphos-darlings]

as a gnc detrans woman who is very confused over whether she's a lesbian or bisexual I find great comfort in this blog. Thank you

It's always wonderful to hear from people like you. This whole blog started because we mods felt like we have nowhere to go, so we decided to create our own space.

You're not alone. There are so many women who have been through similar things, and so many who feel just like you do. Whatever you end up discovering about yourself, know that right now you are welcomed and accepted here.

-Lavender