#detrans questioning

[incognitoradicale]

okay so how do I go off testosterone the smartest way? Just going at once probably isn't that good.

and I am not really wanting to tell the clinic because I fear they're gonna freak out LOL.

[soup-mother]

noooo u gotta be so nice to ppl who cling onto the "detransitioner" label despite it's very blatant political connotations or they might become a terf.... for reasons totally unrelated to the afformentioned political detransitioner label......

[nelkenundveilchen]

I think we should overthink generally how to approach transitional medicine to get the best care for all dysphoric people.

First up, away with affirmation-only. Do not feel threatened by "I need my hormones or I'll kill myself". Compassionate but firm therapists who help explore those feelings and unravel the web of how social dysphoria often functions (by internalised misogyny) and also give alternatives to medical transition.

Second, there needs to be a lot of better research for the effects of cross-sex hormones on bodies, of surgeries and their effects etc pp. Detransitioning people also need more appreciation, more guidance, not just "ok so you've made a mistake"

Generally said, we need more compassion and exploration. We could all benefit from this.

[mygenderisstillblurry]

I pretty solidly do not identify with gender anymore. I keep trying to come up with some sort of transitory label for my half-detransitioned self to appease people, and not a single thing feels right or worth calling myself. Nonbinary, genderfluid, genderqueer, none of those accurately describe my experience. My experience doesn't have a gender label. I'm just someone who was born female, who lives as a man in most social circles, who is identified as a female by strangers, and has no internal sense of gender. I guess that makes me a woman who feels stuck.

[dreamyintersexouppy]

feels like the reason detrans is more popular among transmascs is just the same reason forcemasc is unintelligible as a kink, forcing someone into manhood doesn't affect power dynamics the way forcing someone into womanhood does under patriarchy, since well... the power being exerted no matter who is being forced into what role is male power under patriarchy, it's like pretending oppressors are the victims and saying that's a good joke

[titsnotbrains]

Tell me what made you think you were a boy and how you realised you were a girl after all

i mean i was always kinda tomboyish when i was yonger and i think i just... liked men? and i like learned about being trans and desided that cuz i liked men that meant i wanted to be a man? i know that sounds weird but like i think thats honestly the best explanation. also like my memory is realy realy bad tbh. like i can barely remember what i did half the time much less what i was thinking when i did it lol, so there migt have ben other reasons im forgeting.

what made me realise i was a girl was cuz i started looking at like porn and stuff on tumblr, and i was always like picturing myself in the female role yknow? (fun fact the kink that made me like sign up and start folowing blogs was hucow) so i just kinda lurked for a realy long time and slowly went down more rabit holes and by the time i found the detrans kink stuff i alredy had all these other kinks that like fed into it? so at first it was just a kink for me and i was like 'ill never actualy interact with anyone and ill definitly never actualy detrans in any way.' then slowly i just started geting more active, rebloging stuff started talking to men on here and a few of them realy helped me realise how much i actualy loved being a girl! so it was like a realy gradual proces but now iv been off t for almost a year and im wearing girly cloths and posting pictures of my body on tumblr and having sex with straight men and im honestly so much hapier!

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Detrans Non-Binary Pride Flag

Detrans nonbinary (or reidentified nby): someone who detransitioned to non-binary.

For example, someone have started self-identifying solely as binary (aptobinary), but then self-identified back with a non-binary identity (e.g. neutrois or maverique) again (regardless of one's birth assignment/natal AGAB or ASAB).

Some may see this as a fluid gender experience, but some may see this as a personal self-discovery as a result of questioning.

[ftm-fox-prince]

CW // t4t detrans/misgendering kink. I’m starting to explore this but know it can be triggering so I’ll tag it and put content warnings

I’ll take you to pride. We’ll have a wonderful time. I’ll convince you that it’s okay, you can take your top off. Everyone respects you as a trans guy, so you can show your pre-op chest.

Don’t worry if I grope you in front of them all, as they stare at your big tits. And if I reach down into your pants and feel how wet your pussy is.

It’s okay if I whisper “good girl” into your ear as your squirm, and its perfectly natural that all the lesbians around us are rubbing their own cunts at you being groped.

Just relax and let a real trans guy show you what your girly body is really meant for.

CIS PEOPLE DNI WITH THIS POST

THIS IS A T4T KINK POST

[coffeebean-transmasc-experience]

Genuine question is there a difference between amab/coffee bean transmasc and MtM other than just "I use one label over the other bc I'm more comfortable with it"? (Which in itself is a completely valid reason but I digress.)

If you don't know what these are about here's links to the wikis about them:

Maybe amab/coffee bean transmasc is a bit more of a loose and all encompassing term, while male to male is strictly a binary male transiting to binary male? That's my guess but I'm not sure.

If you don't know the answer that's fine! Just tossing ideas around and talking abt it if you have anything to say is just as chill. This just seemed interesting so I thought I'd ask around :3

[incognitoradicale]

personal opinion:

I think gatekeeping through thorough examination and therapy and evaluations to access transitioning measures is important/needed. Informed consent the way I see it in the US is failing, one meetup with a doctor is not enough. I do understand how debilitating dysphoria can be but it is important to not just take what's seemingly best and be as quick as possible, but to sit with those feelings for some time and maybe explore other root causes before going through medical treatment that will inevitably change you irreversibly. I think medical transition should be seen less as a fun side activity but for what it is: medical treatment. And it should be taken seriously as such.

An unnecessary way transition is gatekept through financial stuff,the cost of hormones and surgeries (even in countries with socialised medicine,hailing from Germany here),making it near impossible for poor people to access any care, but this is the only issue I have with "gatekeeping transition".

[transmonstera]

what's retrans I've never heard abt that

short for retransition! usually refers to those who may have detransitioned for a variety of reasons such as safety, changes in feelings, etc but do at another point come out again and "restart" their transition! even some who initially came out, say for instance, as a trans man but later comes out again as nonbinary may refer to themselves as retransitioning as their transness has not reverted or ceased, simply taken a different turn!

[sapphos-darlings]

as a gnc detrans woman who is very confused over whether she's a lesbian or bisexual I find great comfort in this blog. Thank you

It's always wonderful to hear from people like you. This whole blog started because we mods felt like we have nowhere to go, so we decided to create our own space.

You're not alone. There are so many women who have been through similar things, and so many who feel just like you do. Whatever you end up discovering about yourself, know that right now you are welcomed and accepted here.

-Lavender

[nelkenundveilchen]

I don't have to be a certain way to be a woman, I simply am by being born female.

[mygenderisstillblurry]

One of the reasons I transitioned was due to my discomfort with presenting feminine. It felt wrong to me, and being perceived as female/feminine made me very uncomfortable. Especially when my breasts were part of that perception. I'm now thinking that what I was feeling wasn't dysphoria about being seen as a woman, but shame about being seen as feminine. Even if I wasn't aware of it at the time, society has ingrained ideas about what feminine women with large breasts are like, and it was probably affecting me to some degree without ever realizing it. I think what I wanted was not to be seen as a man, but to be seen as a respectable person.

[coolgal78]

This one's for the void (and you, I guess)

I think I want to detransition medically, Im genderfluid I think and Im so confused and pissed off.

Theres very little sources of good detrans rep, its all either a kink or terfs and the actual_detrans subreddit feels too binary, like you HAVE to go back to your agab (assigned gender at birth)

And not just that, im questioning my sexuality too. I just wish I had a job so I could avoid thinking about it all the time and then go out and buy some new clothes so I can play with this a little bit instead of just having to let it happen.

Im scared of telling people in my life and I want to get a therapist to talk it through but then Im telling people in my life

And Im not a woman but im not not a woman and I wouldnt give up my time on testosterone for anything (maybe I want to be able to turn on and off some of my results sometimes, but whatever)

I wish there was more good detransition rep out there and if I do go down the route of going off T and suddenly become a rad fem or a terf then please just take me out back and shoot me

[correctional-transition]

Sorry for the inactivity

Sorry I've been gone so long guys. Everything has just been hectic and busy with work. I'm going on a trip over to the States for a few days. But once I'm back I'm gonna try to be more active again. Please submit asks of what you'd love to see more of! Or perhaps give me updates on how you have all been doing in my asks (perhaps you can help to inspire other confused boys and girls).