#gender fluidity

[gor3sigil]

People: Transmascs and trans men just transition to become misogynistic evil males >:(

Me in my head when I interact with a cis woman: Don't spread your legs, don't sit too closely, but not too far, be approachable, look her in the eyes but not for too long, don't be a creep, fuck, pitch your voice higher, watch your tone, think about how you say shit, FUCK, no stop looking at her, don't stare at your feet, smile, smile more, don't speak too much with your hands, what if I scare her away ? What if she thinks I'm a creep ?

Me in my head when I interact with a cis man: Does he think I'm a man ? Is he hitting on me ? Does he see as a woman ? A gay man ? A weird shit ? I have to use my lower voice. I have to look at him in the eyes of he'll think I'm weak. Is he looking at my chest ? But I don't have boobs anymore ! Why is he staring like that ? Should I use my pronouns more clearly ? What if he thinks I'm a girl but he'll beat me up if I tell him he's wrong ? Should I try to please him just to be safe or stand up for myself ? How do men interact naturally with one another ? I don't want to show toxic masculinity but I don't want to be bullied either. HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO ACT ????? HELP

[enbycrip]

"I feel better when I wear a dress".

Sticker found in Ramallah, Palestine

[daughterofapollo-official]

Alex Fierro Headcanons!!!

Yayyyy! My first set of headcannons out side of Greek/Romen mythology!

Starting my Norse mythology stufff!

I have read all three books lmao.

All of these a pre-death.

To be honest….

I do have much on Alex, becuase he is such a mystery. And that’s 100% intentional. Alex was hurt to much in his young life to be vulnerable and readable for everyone. Fuck you. He’ll tell you shit if he fucking wants too. Stop being a nosy bitch.

She has diffidently done drugs. (Please that is not not an encouragement to do drugs. I personally am very anti-drug use unless it’s for medical reasons, however this is not me but how I picture these characters after dissecting them.) she has access to her father’s money, money he won’t miss. The man did not love her enough to pay enough attention. And she grew up in a verbally abusive household. Plus she had to be cool in freshman year.

His whole mysterious vibe, and being very good looking and rich. He was invited to parties. And he did eventually try a few substances. He never really got too into it, but it was fun once or twice on weekends.

Alex may have died at 15 but she did a lot of adult stuff before then. Including kissing her virginity. Alex used to sneak out and had a lot of liberty due to the neglectful relationship with her father she was able to do things like this very often.

That being said, Alex didn’t give away his virginity so easily. This is because of his gender identity. Alex doesn’t have really strong dysmorphia, he forces himself to not think that way and always tries to be confident and positive about his body. There’s no point in getting upset over his genitalia or lack of breast.

Because if she ever got top or bottom surgery she would have the opposite problem.

Alex isn’t transgender he is gender fluid. So preeminently changing his sex is counter intuitive.

The reason her gender identity held her back from having sex originally. Was because of her relationship with her homophobic father and probable past with bullies.

We saw in the second book that when he was firstly introduced he was very defensive about his gender identity very quickly even without it being attacked.

So I think she held back because she was very nervous and scared that her partner would tell people that she was biologically male, and said gossip would undermine his indignity.

Eventually he trusted the person enough and no, it did not become gossip.

Alex will leave a hang out or date abruptly if she knows she is going to be late for pottery class.

Alex will absolutely love dressing you up like his doll. Doing your make up.

If you guys are a similar size she will dress you up in her clothes. And Will somehow always convince you to go to parties matching outfits.

Matching party dresses, make up, ect.

Once he trust you, which takes awhile he will act like there are no boundaries between you two.

She will go though your closet and judge your style, insist that you should let them dress you, becuase ‘you look like shit when you try on your own’

He will put on your lipstick without asking. And go though your underwear drawer.

(if you’re a girl) If she is feeling feminine she might try on your lingerie without asking and look at his figure in the mirror, sorry you’re figure.

He will wear bras despite not having boobs because it makes him feel ‘Bonita’. But not bras with cup because… well, there’s no breast tissue. But he loves cup-less bras, especially the lace ones.

She will even wear women’s sports bra to the gym because ‘a lady never shows her tits to anyone but her besties’

He is the type to kiss his girl best friends for fun.

[squaloropera]

Ykw I usually praise franchises for the fact that a trans character will be trans and nobody will make a big deal about it, but I’m actually quite married to the fact that tgcf doesn’t hesitate to show that being trans actually does suck through Shi Qingxuan (and yes, sqx is trans, eat my ass). It wasn’t some individual scene that tries to hammer down intense and violent trans suffering as hard-hittingly as humanly possible, to the point of triggering trauma, just to never bring it up again like most shows- it’s more subtle than that. Shi Qingxuan is frequently subtly mocked for switching between genders. Their brother scolds them publicly for being in their female form and demands they switch back. People frequently make fun of them for being ‘shameless’ and imply that they’re just a cross dresser. They’re never bothered by it, and never bring it up. They’re perfectly content with their existence, if a little intimidated by their brother. That’s such a nice portrayal of things like this. Sometimes transphobia isn’t violence or slurs, sometimes it’s subtle snideness and the bare minimum of respect. Mxtx doesn’t shy away from these topics, but doesn’t exaggerate them cruelly either (mind you, I’m not sure how deliberate this representation is on their part). They’re portrayed in a realistically subtle way.

[spectatorglitch]

I took a gender quiz for fun today.

The first question was what gender were you assigned at birth, I picked female. I took the whole quiz all the way through… I got cis man…

excuse me??? Cis man??? My answer we’re all like I have to explain my identity to others and that i dress differently to feel better and I wish I looked different and I got CIS MAN???????????

[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I've let this ask sit in my inbox for a while, but I think it's time I answered it, though the answer will most certainly not be to your satisfaction, anon, I'm afraid.

First off, I'm a bisexual man, and so I definitely don't have any first hand experience of experiencing attraction to only one gender. And in these things, first hand experience is all that matters.

Secondly, as for other species, I have insufficient information about zoological studies in this field, but I don't think it's as simple as you make it sound (this isn't intended to be hostile, I'm just wondering)?

As for the last part, I certainly don't presume to define sexualities as fitting strictly into one of the boxes of culture, identity or inborn orientation. I'm sure that there are more perspectives on this than I can imagine, and I'm equally sure that the experiences of these queer people are valid.

Mainly, the reason I decided to answer this despite it being a non-answer, as you said, is because I do have something to say.

I'm not in the habit of forming opinions of subjects that I have insufficient information about. I know that being seen as neutral is often vilified. I've been in that position, being angry about people's neutrality regarding topics that to me seem obvious. I no longer agree with past-me on that stance.

I would rather not, in my ignorance, cause damage. I think that people with very strong uneducated opinions cause a good deal more harm than those who stay silent in a conflict they know nothing about. Of course this won't be true in all cases.

But personally, I prefer handing the mic over, as it were, to people with more experience, knowledge, sensitivity and perspective about the issue than I.

So, yes, I'll have to go with a very unambiguous lack of an answer here. I simply do not know enough about this, anon. Non-answers, I'm afraid, are going to be inevitable in deeply personal discussions such as these. These non-answers are invariably better than the divisive discourse, invalidation and gatekeeping that occurs a lot.

Let's all be a bit more okay with saying I don't know. I'm trying to be more okay with it every day. I cannot educate myself perfectly about every single relevant topic. I think that's alright. I hope it is.

[victusinveritas]

Sometimes you mix things up for a reason and other times just for kicks.

[sailoreuterpe]

I love my cousin.

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The GENDERFLUID and OMNISEXUAL flags color-picked from TWILIGHT SPARKLE [MLP]

[gor3sigil]

To trans men and transmascs who have what could be seen as "girly" hobbies and passions, I tell tou, from the bottom of my heart: do NOT give up on them to pass or not be seen weirdly.

I talked here already about the absolutely terrible people I was surrounded with when I came out as a trans man for the first time, and that was another thing that was thrown in my face to me and other transmascs and men I knew at the time, that if you were to be masc and/or a man, you had to have Masc Hobbies (whatever that meant, and these hobbies were mocked anyways), and most importantly stop engaging in "girly" ones.

For example, I'm a big anime and video game nerd, and love the game Doki Doki Literature Club. I bought a bunch of the Omocat t-shirt collection, and I loved the t-shirts. After my coming out, my at-the-time girlfriend started to give me crap telling me that I shouldn't keep wearing these shirts, that "a man who wears shirts with anime girls are creeps". So I started to wear them inside only, still got shit, until I finally gave in and gave her the t-shirts. I only kept one simple black and white because it was "bland" enough and a sweatshirt that is one of my comfort sweatshirt I wear often.

I grew up glued to my Nintendo DS and I LOVE franchises like Cooking Mama, Animal Crossing, I grew up with it and, same here, it was "weird" and "cringe" for a dude. Listening to Vocaloid that I was a fan of since I was 12 ? Same. Playing rythm games ? Same.

And my then girlfriend has the support of all her friends who told me she was right, that if I kept these hobbies and passions and transition I'd be seen as a "gross, creepy, cringe dude".

After we broke up it took me so much time to take back all the things I liked and I still have the voice in the back of my head, sometimes, that tells me "imagine if people saw a grown ass man playing Kirby ewww".

So yeah, please, don't listen to anyone making fun of you or trying to make you stop liking shit because you have to act like a Man. Fuck that. Life is short and shitty so keep enjoying things you enjoy. Keep playing your silly video games, keep watching cute slice of life animes, keep listening to upbeat jpop, keep wearing colourful clothes and jewerly.

It sucks that I listened to them at the time (and fuck I miss so many clothes I gave her because she persuaded me that it'd be gross to keep wearing them), don't do the same mistake I did.

Enjoy things. It isn't gendered. 💙

[matcha-milo]

I so badly want to be that mysterious and elusive college student at the local bookstore with a dark academia style and who no one can really tell the gender of, since I constantly interchange between presenting masc, fem, and andro.

[bizarreaizen]

i'm wondering, how do transphobes try to misgender someone who is genderfluid to all genders, people who are pangender, and uses all / any pronouns or mirror pronouns.. like how do they try to misgender those people ? TwT /gen

[cillianmurphysdimples]

My son, 5, (ASD, probably ADHD) just said he wishes he was born a girl because being a girl would make him happy. 🥺

I'm not sure if this is a "take me seriously" moment or just an 'ism and something he's saying. He does have a trans aunt (born dad's brother). He's never met her, sadly as she lives further away now.

I didn't pressure or ask questions other than why does he feel like that (that's when he said because it would make him happy). Might be something I have to watch and listen to him over if the feelings don't change. I am inclined to believe it's just something he is saying, BUT he has always been quite feminine in many ways and has always preferred girl characters, traditionally feminine toys and clothes, and female company over male company.

Not that that means anything.

I do believe fluidity with gender identity is common with neurodivergent individuals, yes?

Should I be asking him questions, or did I handle this okay?

[gremlin-pattie]

will wood was so real when he said “I am quantum physics— my witness brings me into existence” in reference to gender. that’s literally It. he gets it

[wtfjd95]

Today's Gender: Proud of the girls in green (Rep. Ireland Women's National Football team) for their first ever World Cup Game.

Today's Mental State: this photo of Katie McCabe