#demi and ace

[yokyopeli]

Tällä viikolla on Jväskylä Pride 2024, joten tein nämä kyselyt sen kunniaksi :)

1. Tuukka Aleksanteri Lammi (Dodo/Khimaira/Kerberos) aseksuaali, polyamorinen

2. Nora (Kenties Tapa(a)n Sinut Vielä/ Kunnes Tapa(a)mme Taas), sukupuoleton aseksuaali, vampyyri 1880-luvulta

3. Meea Niemenmaa (Lukitut) demiseksuaali, polyamorinen, suomenkiinalainen

4. Leeni Koivunen (mähän tiesin ettei täällä ole mitään) aseksuaali, seurustelee muunsukupuolisen kanssa, muutti Lappeenrannalta Tampereelle (mie pronomini)

5. Reetta Rönkkö (Tytöt tytöt tytöt), mahdollisesti aseksuaali

6. Kai (Freestyle) aroace, tanssija

7. Jaro Elomaa (Kaapin Nurkista) aseksuaali ja aromanttinen (gray-/lith-/fray-)

8. Alina Linnanen (Kaapin Nurkista) aseksuaali, aromanttinen (quoiromantic)

9. Demitria aka Demi (Demi ja Ace kirjat/Demi and Ace webseries/ Demi & Ace books), demiseksuaali ja demiromanttinen kirjallisuuden opiskelija.

10. Alyssa aka Ace (Demi ja Ace kirjat/Demi and Ace webseries/ Demi & Ace books), aroace kemisti.

[demiandaceshow]

Have no valentine? Demi & Ace will help. Happy Valentine’s day from Demi & Ace, a new series on asexuality spectrum, pilot episode out now! Episode 1 airing on 26th of June.

[nocticola]

Reading 2024: Laura Eklund Nhaga Demi & Ace Audiobooks [English] (2022) Read by Laura Eklund Nhaga & Katri Swan

Episode 1 My Last Time (10.7.2024)

Episode 2 Call Me Foreigner (10.7.2024)

Episode 3 Show Your Work (28.7.2024)

Episode 4 When Harry Met Demi (28.7.2024)

Episode 5 Unit of One (28.7.2024)

Episode 6 Ai Querida (28.7.2024)

[blithe-and-bonnyy]

DEMI AND ACE EPISODE 5

"Even if you are aromantic, I'll always be there for you. And I'll always love you. Even though it's like in a platonic way, I hear that those can be pretty great too." "I love you too."

[genderdoe-sly]

Ep 6 of Demi & Ace hurt so fucking good. The split-second flip from kindness to bigotry to outright insults? The ally who is still learning how to ally? The loneliness of thinking that the one person who understands what you are going through has become "fixed" like all the people who hurt you said you would? (even if demi has the capacity to fall in love by definition, it still can get murky) AUHGHGHGHGHGHGHGFGJ

[gray-ace-space]

a while back i posted screenshots of a conversation with a demi friend who afaik is otherwise cishet and extremely not on tumblr. i guess he's just gonna be a recurring character on this blog.

here is me (badly) explaining the deal with unicorns and dragons to him, and a message he had for acespecs in response.

make armadillo ace a thing. do it for him.

[scretladyspider]

demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

[wbywebseriesreviews]

Demi being a mood

[the-delta-quadrant]

"once demi people are in relationships they're basically normal and their orientation is no longer important"

except for the fact that most of us have a fundamentally different relationship to sexuality and romance than allos do. except that we're still alienated from an amatonormative culture. except that we still constantly have to justify our identities. except that many of us still deal with feelings of brokenness. except that many of us approach relationships differently than allos.

except that being in a relationship doesn't suddenly make us allo.

we are not "ace/aro until we're in a relationship", we are always demi, always ace/aro. our deminess is woven through all of our life experience and isn't suddenly ripped out by a sexual or romantic partner.

[redbeardace]

It's Ace Week!

[desperatecheesecubes]

Growing up asexual is actually so funny because all of a sudden people all around are like ‘oh my god what if I don’t know how to kiss??? I have to practice!’ And start doing unhinged things and the whole time you’re like

[yokyopeli]

Speak Your Language Dayn kunniaksi tein suomenkielisen youtube videon.

Aiheena suomalaiset aseksuaali ja aromanttiset hahmot. Piti tehdä kaksi osaisena koska puhelin käski päivittää kesken kaiken, mitä en tietenkään tehnyt.

Tää on mun eka kunnollinen suomeks tehty video niin ois kiva että ihmiset tsekkais tän.

[greenbergsays]

You probably think the most outrageous/unbelievable con in Leverage is when they steal a Michelangelo with tinfoil and chewing gum or 'borrow' the Dept of Defense or that time they steal a whole country, but that is a common misconception

Leverage's most unbelievable con is trying to gaslight its audience into believing that Nathan Ford is considered sexy

[nocticola]

Reading 2024: Laura Eklund Nhaga Demi ja Ace Audiobooks [Finnish/suomi] (2022): 4.8.2024

Read by Laura Eklund Nhaga & Katri Swan Translation Riia Heikkilä & Laura Eklund Nhaga

Osa 1: Mun vika kerta

Osa 2: Rakkauselämää

Osa 3: Perustele väite

Osa 4: Kun Harry tapasi Demin

Osa 5: Yksineläjä

Osa 6: Ai querida [suomi]

[theautisticfroglord]

I genuinely hate when people invalidate demiromantic/demisexual/other labels in general by saying somethin like "OMG!!!! why do these labels exist that's how every relationship is!!!!! what has this generation come to?!!?,!?!!"

some people out here are dating someone they just met two days ago. while it literally took me two whole years of getting to know someone before having a crush on them. can y'all please not find excuses to invalidate aspec/arospec people. thanks

[improper-use-of-germx]

Aliens that don't feel "love" until they already know someone for a long time, but when their subconscious realizes what an ideal partner someone would be they're flooded with hormones. Suddenly your best alien buddy is locking themselves in their quarters every time you so much as make eye contact. They borderline refuse to even talk to you anymore, leaving the rest of the crew to suffer under the endless ramblings. "Do you think they'll be warm enough on this mission? Yesterday they slept eight hours, but tonight they only slept seven and a half, maybe I should alert the doctor. What is gifting etiquette for humans? Can I give them this human dessert I bought or must I pretend it was on sale first? Or is it inappropriate to give sweet foods to a coworker? Does chocolate hold some kind of double meaning I don't know about?? Maybe you should just give it to them—"

The entire crew begs you to just ask them what the hell is up. They do end up breaking (how could they say no to you?), and they try to explain it as medically as they can, as if you being in the same room as them didn't make their minds hazy with yearning. Don't tell them they were being rude before, they were just trying to spare you the embarrassment of all the flirtatious remarks and touches they were actively fighting themselves from saying.