#cis bullshit

[pastelvillaines11]

May we all one day have the same confidence as average cis men with faceless mid shirtless pics 😔 🙏

[thetranstexasgal]

Showing my coworker some family photos and she pointed out that I look just like my dad with his strong jaw line and masculine features & none of my mom’s feminine ones. She pointed out how my jaw is square and brow is broad and how my dad looks like I’m looking in a mirror.

I’m out to her as a trans woman btw. She has argued that I don’t need FFS or any surgeries on multiple occasions and now she’s let her true opinion show. Now I know she’s just uncomfortable with the surgeries, as much as she denies it.

Im so so so tired of cis “allies” and their bullshit. I know I’m not the most feminine person ever, I know my interests and fashion are generally very masc. I’m VERY well aware I look like a dude in a dress despite being on HRT for almost 4 years. Fuck.

Gonna spend the morning in my dysphoria hoodie. researching FFS, and drinking if y’all need me🙃🙃🙃

[hismercytomyjustice]

I s2g the fucking uphill battle it is to get all my work shit under my “preferred name” instead of my “legal name” is going to drive me insane…

It’s like playing wack-a-mole with my deadname…

Every time I think I’ve gotten them all, something gets reset or something new is added or I don’t have the permissions to just put my “preferred name”…

The SSN office already stole my middle name when I changed my last name to my married name… The thought of having to go through all that shit again gives me fucking hives.

You’d think this shit would be easier, seeing as 79% of people change their last names upon marriage, BUT IT’S NOT. Most of my married coworkers have just given up trying to because it’s not worth the hassle and there’s no easy way to do it.

Also, I s2g if I have to put my “preferred name” or my “preferred pronouns” down on one more form only to never have them used, I’m gonna bite someone.

This rant has been brought to you by a work voicemail I received where the person referred to me by my deadname!

Turns out work updated our voicemail recordings to a robot voice saying our legal names! Yay!

Nothing like a cisnormative jump-scare on an otherwise lovely Friday afternoon…

(ง •̀_•́)ง FIGHT ME YOU COWARDS

[autumnhesperax]

No, a deadname is not a “true name” and only a cis normative idiot would think the very first ephemeral name given at birth is a “true name”.

Our True Names are the names our heart sings to for ourselves. And sometimes the music changes over time. Sometimes it doesn’t.

No, I don’t care that the source post claims to be an appreciation post — if it regurgitates transphobic bullshit, it’s 🗑️🗑️ trash 🗑️🗑️

This is why I detest the Sandman and it’s AU — it’s full of cis sexist assumptions of what is ✨ tRuE ✨ and it’s dated AF.

It should fade into irrelevance, not routinely be cited as “inspiring.” Especially given the original Gaiman authored works have the oh-so-inspiring story (“A story of You”)… of a trans woman dying in an utterly preventable manner but don’t worry, it’s oh so okay because Heaven, I mean, 👻 the Dreaming 😴 💤 will make it better. Isn’t that great?

Sure if you’re trans you get to die (and apparently be deadnamed by pivotal characters because idk 🤓🤓 cis people think that the first name you get mUSt bE yOUr tRuE nAmE!!! /s) 🤓🤓

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Oh the cis normative assumptions how things must really work for us poor transes

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To hell with that cis normative sexist bullshit.

And damnatio memorae for Puck

[puffitale]

Weird question: but does anyone feel inadequate due to how ‘unseen’ they feel?

Like, I'm in my mid-30s. I feel like I’m old and fat. I can count on my fingers all the times I’ve ‘caught’ a guy looking me over in *that* way.

I dress for myself - for comfort. I don’t wear make up. I try to look presentable, but I know that I fall short in a lot of ways.

I try to make my self worth be about me, and how I feel about me, and what I love about my personality/values etc, but I feel like a complete bush pig that’s not worthy of love and knowing that I can see men that I find attractive, but also feeling completely invisible except to be a waste of space.

And…it, like…hurts. A lot. It hurts a lot to want to be beautiful and sexy and to be constantly barraged with the message that if you’re not hot and fuckable to men you’re nothing, and knowing that you fall on the latter scale more than the former. It hurts to see girls that look like me or better matched up. It hurts to see girls who seem have easily slotted into universal beauty standards call themselves fat and ugly and not good enough because they’re wearing track pants to target or they ate a big meal. It hurts to see someone announce a pregnancy or an engagement and just feel so…nothing. Like you’ll never be good enough for love or anything…really.

And the thing is…I know I’ve been programmed to feel this way. So I buy thousands of dollars of bullshit like expensive clothes that I feel uncomfortable in or bullshit beauty treatments. That I should get someone to suck all my fat out and mould them into an amazing set of tits and ass, that I should dye my hair and wear high heels and false eyelashes and have a tiny waist and dick sucking lips etc. And that I’ll feel lonely enough to settle for some piece of shit who sits on my couch all day and plays GOW or something and demands chicken wings on a 4 hourly basis only to flop into bed for incredibly unsatisfying sex on my end whilst he snores and I scrub the kitchen with a toothbrush to work through my self disgust at the fact that I was completely fine alone but I’ve chosen Barney Rubble and his garlic mayo farts over working on my self enough to die alone.

I feel like a dipshit. An incredibly alone and depressed dipshit.

I want the fairytale, the nice wedding and babies. I want to feel seen and wanted and love. But I also know it’s a trap and that either if I pursue that I’ll be worse off or it will never make me happy. I want to be able to work on myself enough to be happy as I am, but it’s just not there. Or there’s too much shit to deal with first (childhood trauma, cPTSD that bullshit).

I feel like a puzzle piece that’s been burned that expected to find its match but also be enlightened enough to just be as is but I have a giant whole that’s been burned out of me and I don’t know how to mend it and everything I’ve been taught from a young child has been that I need someone else to fix or fill it and nothing will be able to do that because I’ve been fucking burnt and have a giant burn mark in my centre, so I’m unfixable - only transformable but I don’t know how to do that, only fix, not transform, only fix…

[knarfire]

How the fuck are you coming onto a trans woman all fucking night and then when she turns you down you misgender her??

[rawstrap]

I've seen people say terf rhetoric is any hatred of men and I've seen people say terf rhetoric is anything transphobic said by anyone. the refusal to actually engage with the reality that terfism is primarily focused on oppressing trans women is in itself a form of transmisogyny. yes they hate all trans people, but it is quite easy to see who they primarily target with their words, actions and policies, you just don't want to care about trans women. claiming someone is a man hater doesn't mean you get to call them a terf or a radfem, thats an obvious, willfull dilution and denial of what terfs are.

[lycandrophile]

it’s so funny to me that people used to try to warn me “if you go on t it won’t make you androgynous it’ll just make you look like a man” because 1) i do want to look like a man, that is famously a major part of being a trans man but also 2) t literally has made me androgynous?? like they were wrong on both counts. i got most of the looking-like-a-man changes that i wanted (deep voice, broader body, hair all over my body including my face) and i also give every single cis person in a five mile radius a stroke every time they try to figure out my gender. the assumption that trans men wouldn’t actually want to look like men and the assumption that cis people are good at correctly gendering us once we’re on t are both weird as hell.

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

[biboomerangboi]

Think Xie Lian should have had a extremely horny don’t know how to process Lan Wangji moment and just bit Hua Cheng at some point and the only reason it didn’t happen was because Hua Cheng would lose all plausible deniability when he came on the spot.

[disgracefulthings]

If Shang Qinghua also wrote TGCF

Hua Cheng: So if you made this world and everyone in it...

Hua Cheng: That means you made dianxia into the most perfect and ideal being

Shang Qinghua: Actually, that's Mobei-Jun

Hua Cheng: Incorrect

Shang Qinghua: You can't correct me, I'm literally your go-

Hua Cheng: Absolutely incorrect!

[interstate35south]

listen. i like a good “hualian adopts wwx” au as much as the next guy. but do y’all ever think abt the fact that appearance wise. xie lian and hua cheng are supposedly like. 17-19

i forget about it until i’m consciously reminded of it but there’s comedic potential in there somewhere

like i imagine they could probably get away with it when wwx was a young child but it’s all fun and games until visibly 34 year old wei wuxian is still calling apparently 17 year old xie lian dad

[boyvibrator]

T4T detrans kink not from transphobic trauma but from the longing of feeling desirable when you used to be a girl, when cis guys would want you. when you had long hair and hardly any body hair and straight boys flirted with you.

but you were trans. you felt awkward in that mold of girl and boy. you were probably gay too, and you liked these boys. but not in the same way they liked you, not the same way other girls around you liked boys. and you missed out on a lot of fun experiences growing up because of this

and now you’re on T. and that’s amazing. and maybe cis gay guys are even into you, and that’s cool. but they just… don’t really get you. and you don’t really get them. sometimes you kinda wish you could be that young girl again, and have the guys you’re interested in wanting your attention and putting in the work to have you as their girlfriend. you used to have that, but you missed out on those opportunities

and let’s say you try to hook up with straight guys. the problem is. not that many are gonna be into you, you’re too hairy, too many, voice too deep, and even if they are okay with that they just wanna fetishize your trans body. they’re not seeing you how you want to be seen. you want to be GIRL. you want to be feminine again and wanted

but with a trans guy? happily seeing you as a girl? seeing right through you, loving those curves and your soft skin and recognizing the girl underneath your transition? he understands and he gets it. and you see HIM how he needs to be seen. as the young man going after girls like he never got to when he was young before his transition. because cis girls just don’t get it. but you get it.

[screechingfromthevoid]

I think Dorian knows Orym is in love with him. I don't think it is a great unknown. He's not biting his nails wondering if Orym feels the same way as him.

I think the problem is that Dorian doesn't know how to approach it at all. For so many reasons. There are so many reasons why Dorian has been keeping all of this close to his chest.

First and foremost I think he wants to be respectful of Will and the place he holds in Orym's heart. Dorian in no way would blame Orym for never moving on. He'd be sad and disappointed but he'd understand. And he understands that he's still mourning Will. So he doesn't want to initiate something Orym isn't ready for.

Second, they're in the middle of a war. There isn't time for this. There isn't time for dead brothers and profound crushes. How could he distract Orym from the world ending? He's their little tank. He's their tactician. He's can get his hard and throw it back just as easily. They need his head clear. And I don't think Dorian would ever forgive himself if something were to happen because Orym was too preoccupied.

Third, is speculative, with the context Robbie has given us, marrying a man would not go over well in the royal family. Not because they're particularly homophobic. But, assuming they're both cis, (headcanons aside, I don't think critical role is there yet), the blood line would end. And royal families are big on lines of succession. Hence Zeru begging Dorian to come back. So I'm not sure adopting is in the realm of possibilities. How could Dorian let Orym love him? How could he give into his feelings? How could they live happily ever after when Dorian needs to go back home? Sit on a throne? Produce an heir and a spare? He couldn't possibly start something with him only for it to end in tragedy. He couldn't do that to Oym.

There are probably more reasons for all this but these are the ones that swim in my head the most. And idk I think Dorian wants to love Orym loudly and proudly but... The world is ending, ya know?

[snortoborto]

I'm so over the victimhood complex of feminine cis women.

Gender diversity isn't a threat. Diversity in gender presentation isn't a threat.

Femininity is not equivalent to purity and innocence.

Femininity can still be harmful when enforced on people who don't want it. Women and feminine people can still do harm. Femininity can still be weaponized, especially white femininity.

[peaceandlove26]

do you still consider yourself trans or not? sorry if this question is weird ive always been interested in how people view their gender :3

no its okay! i don’t consider myself trans anymore because i am not really changing anything about myself or wanting to be perceived in any way other than female. i don’t necessarily consider myself a woman, it’s silly but honestly “lesbian” is my gender haha

but i make the active decision to present as feminine even if whatever intrinsic homosexuality is in my body+mind causes me to constantly be perceived as trans by those who don’t know me LOL