#childfree women

[crazycatsiren]

Happy International Childfree Day to all the childfree cat ladies. We are sexy and we know it. 🐱

[chichimodele]

When we talk IT GIRL, Tracee Ellis-Ross is who we’re talking about 💋

- Childfree

- Marriage free

- Cosmopolitan lady

- Rich auntie

[avibeinpisces]

Misogynistic language in the childfree community

This post was deleted from the childfree reddit, they said I was lecturing and that people should be able to rant without judgement in their community. So they are perfectly fine with them using this kind of language becase they don't think it hurts their community or care if it hurts anyone outside of their community.

I am a 36-year-old, brown, liberal, feminist, childfree woman partially raised in the foster care system in the Midwest. I understand prejudice and intersectionality on a personal level. Everyone has different reasons for being child-free. I chose not to have children and got my tubes sniped for so many different reasons.

Those reasons are social, economic, political, physical and mental health-related, disdain for prevalent social expectations around children, and co-parenting. Heck, one reason is that I cannot stand to be in the same room as a person under the age of 25 for more than 2 hours at a time and, quite frankly, I don't want responsibility for anyone other than my cat. My point is, we all have different reasons for not wanting children and honestly, I think ANY reason that someone chooses to be childfree is valid. If you don't want to be a parent, then don't.

I joined this community because I wanted community and to interact with people with a similar lifestyle. However, I find that a lot of language here and in so many other child-free spaces to be problematic. For example, I commented on a post earlier today and took issue with 1 line in her rant where she mentioned that childbirth "destroys" a woman's body and I got dogpiled on (feel free to check my comment history and downvote me as well).

You know what? I stand ten toes down on what I said. Saying that childbirth or any other biological change, or medical event that our body goes through "destroys, or ruins" someone's body is misogynistic language and devalues the person. Yes, I understand there are health risks and even risks to life when giving birth (which she didn't mention or infer when she said that it destroys a woman's body). I get it, I am a black woman in the USA, and black women have a disproportionately high maternal mortality rate where in the USA. I still take issue with this language and don't think saying birth ruins or destroys a woman's body is appropriate language, and I am seeing this language more on and offline. This language is often used by misogynistic people to devalue women, especially single mothers, women with a "high body count," and sex workers and even used to pressure women into not leaving bad relationships because "she is used up, no one will want/love her, and she will die alone." They believe that women lose their "value" after giving birth, aging, and having sex "damaged goods, ruined, and/or their body destroyed." Heck, they even say it about childfree women, that we "have no purpose if we don't have children!"

I will take it a step further by saying I also take issue with calling people "breeders", or using dehumanizing language towards children "calling them crotch goblins or little monsters" or saying children and their parents shouldn't be allowed to share any public spaces with other people (although I agree that I would love to see more childfree spaces).

I think a lot of this language is internalized misogyny, prejudice, or even an over-correction to our language once we choose to do something against societal norms like become childfree. I am sick of seeing it though.

[iturmom]

childfree women

also trans people who are not women but get mostly perceived as women, please participate as well.

my partner is childfree as well, and he had never even heard of someone being asked "why do you hate children?" and didn't really understand how common it was so

if you are not childfree please share so your childfree followers can participate bc i wanna know how common this is

[sijctghen]

I'm getting my tubes removed✂️the 19th!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😁🥳🙌💃🎉

[headphonesthoughts]

[oatsandeggs]

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[stylewisewebsite]

Childfree Life?Why Couples Dont Want Kids Anymore? Is It Worth Having Kids?

Deciding whether to have kids is one of the most personal and life-changing decisions ever. While some people dream of starting a family, others are perfectly happy without children and living a childfree life. Whatever your situation, it’s important to weigh the pros and cons, reflect on your values, and make the right choice for you. This guide explores the reasons why some women choose not…

[ankarin]

this this this THIS

[blackgirlslivingwell]

Confessions of Childfree Black Women

While the decision to have children is a personal one, women who voluntarily decide not to have children still face a lot of questioning and judgment from society. There's this assumption that all women want to be mothers, that a woman's life isn't complete unless she has kids. In today's video, we're going to take a look at a few confessions from childfree Black women that are from various social media sources.

[feministfang]

I heard somewhere that south korean grandmothers who were not given access to education in their times are now being enrolled in educational institutions because the declining birth rate is causing a shortage in students for the korean education system. Idk if this true or not but another reason for us to stay childfree. Way to go Korean feminists! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[flora-tea]

Shoutout to Women ˗ˏˋ ✮ ˎˊ˗

To women of color To disabled women To neurodivergent women To childfree women To sexworker women To non-monogamous women To intersex women To trans women To gender-nonconforming women To enby women , bigender women, and folks who are only women sometimes To aromantic women To asexual women To bi/pan women To lesbian women To questioning women To women of all shapes and sizes To women of all traits and identities To women society tries to erase cus they fear the power of your existence

[painted-doe]

Women who may be considering sterilization after the election results, may I direct you to the r/childfree subreddit’s list of doctors who are supportive of this choice and will help you? It’s an amazing resource, organized by location/state.

I got sterilized earlier this year with a bilateral salpingectomy and I’m happy to share any info about the process (although I live in Canada so can’t tell you about American costs or insurance). It was a very quick, easy, safe surgery, and I’m deeply grateful every single day that I was able to make that choice for myself. Feel free to DM, send me an ask, or reblog if you want more info. Happy to help however I can.

[headphonesthoughts]

[oatsandeggs]

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[floatingbook]

Old maids, cat ladies, spinsters, … It’s often scornful, the worst thing that could happen to a woman, but who is driving that image? Who is selling this to you as a negative thing? Because up to the last say fifty years, if you were a woman adamant not to have children, you only path was celibacy. There’s so few women’s voices put forward, but despite what the men would have you think, most of those old maids weren’t unable to get themselves a man; they merely chose not to have children, to live a life chained to domestic labour for an ungrateful man.