#call it what it actually is: abuse
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currently thinking of how abusive some hockey coaches are and how players are supposed to act like that sort of stuff is normal
#tw abuse#hockey#hockey culture#the ken klee situation in particular is what has me thinking about it#it has me think of babcock who is already known to be a horrid piece of shit#i think of katey stone who emotionally abused her players in harvard#i think of daryl sutter who went as far as to hit a player#i think of donnie harkins - pkane's honeybaked coach who constantly broke kaner's gear and yelled at him and made him cry#...kane was 14 at the time by the fucking way#john tortorella is also a pretty questionable coach at times too#and yet the players (and fans) are supposed to treat this as “normal”#and im tired of the media also glorifying it too#and im tired of it being shrugged off as “being hard on players”#call it what it actually is: abuse#its not normal. it does nothing except fuck up the players mentally#and in kane's case im genuinely convinced harkins' treatment of him had a pretty ugly mental impact on him#which would probably explain why he kept getting into so much off-ice trouble when he was in his 20s#(but im not a psychologist so...)#sports and abuse
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#asoiaf#a song of ice and fire#valyrianscrolls#i feel like i see people bring up this line all tje time to criticize theon and call him awful but its like.#the most blatant obvious line where he looks in the camera and says Haha My Dad Would Beat Me and Call Me Names. Fathers Do That!#and its like. oh my fucking god i knowww . I KNOW people think hes annoying or a piece of shit and he is atrocious dont get me wrong but#hes literally the most blatant metaphor of how abuse can affect a person into who they are#like no shit sherlock he desperately wants the starks to accept him. his actual dad would fucking beat him and he got taken outta that home#and placed in a new one where like one guy liked him as a friend but everyone else was kinda cold#<- WOAH! a metaphor about the foster care system and the way it affects a person.#like fucking obviously he bends over backward to try to get the approval of his peers or have fatherly approval#What else did you expect. Why do you think he makes all those choices ramsay suggests to him about trying to#get the respect of all of his men. he doesnt want to lose the respect. like.#Okay. Done now thank you#grace post
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ive been watching the dog motif show... why is no one talking about this guy. isaac lahey come home from france,,,, sweet boy,,,, we miss you,,,
#teen wolf#fanart#isaac lahey#x#there is actually so much to his character that it makes me wanna gnaw my fingers off#what do you mean he dug his own grave and accepted the bite with the assurance that it would save him from his abuse#but in reality he just traded one angry man for another#and he never escapes this cycle#and there is no other ending to this story#because he gets written off the show but he doesn't even get a tragic death bc the actor wanted to keep all his options open#daniel sharman when i fucking catch you#ugh#also i think this post is very on brand for me#sorry falsettos fans another niche no-demand fandom inside a fandom was calling my name#god i love bad television#punica granatum
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This may just be me, but I think if you ship a canonically very abusive, manipulative and toxic relationship, you don't get to judge or call anyone degenerates for their own fucked up ships, actually.
#gravity falls#billford#stancest#yeah it's about those two specifically#but this could apply to shipping in general#i just saw an artist i generally like saying “it's so disappointing seeing artists i liked ship stancest and be proud pls be ashamed!”#saying it's disgusting and gross and the people in their comments were all in consesus that these people are weird and sickos yada yada#and i don't think they realise that it's the exact same logic people use to hate on billford shippers. like down-to-the-letter the same.#it's weird seeing people be like if you ship incest you're gross and disgusting but if it's abuse it's totes ok and doesn't reflect you irl#not only does that reasoning insinuate that incest is not another form of abuse which is YIKES#but it reads as tho abuse is not “severe enough” to stop people from shipping it while incest is even tho both are very bad which is worse#you either believe that what you ship reflects you irl and no one should ship anything immoral or you don't. it's just that simple.#you don't get to pull that “rules for thee but not for me” bullshit#your rationalisation does more to normalise and water down these crimes than someone shipping them while acknowledging it's wrong ever will#i don't even ship stancest or have any feelings on it whatsoever btw i'm just enough of a loudmouth to call out hypocrisy when i see it#unrelated but i need to stop making my tags longer than the actual freaking post 💀#momento rambles
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So umm… this exists? I was gonna dunk on it as usual but as it turns out… there’s barely any info on it online???
The author rarely advertises this on her Instagram and the book isn’t even on her website or on Amazon, hell it doesn’t even have a blurb on Goodreads. This book is supposed to be out for over a year yet there’s almost nothing on it.
Apparently the author supposedly made a romance book with Zeus and I’m just more confused bc am I crazy or do the blurbs not make a lick of sense???



Like I don’t know shit about the plot, the setting, the characters names or literally anything about it, does the author just not know shit about how to advertise a book??? This is why ppl get mad when booktokers advert tropes and nothing else, how the fuck are you supposed to actually bring in new readers when we don’t even know what the book is about??? Like I don’t even fucking know if this is a mafia romance or dark academia or both, this is so amateur it actually hurts me.
#‘calls her his little goddess’ I know what you are#if Zeus called Hera ‘little goddess’ she’d summon the titans for realsies#‘human trafficking’ as a trope is giving that one coho book with 💕domestic abuse 💕 as a trope lol#idk why I’m so mad about this#idk ig it’s bc I actually want to KNOW what I’m dunking on?#like a high school bully who bullies their victims but uses their preferred pronouns#first person blurbs… my old nemesis#greek mythology#ancient greek mythology#zeus#Hephaestus#Aglaia#greek myth retellings#greek mythology retelling#anti booktok#anti bookstagram#booktok critical#booktok cringe
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Okay okay but thinking about one of the things that finally gets everyone to realize they messed up in that Relativity Falls AU being when Stan points out that for all they say Stan never visited them, they never visited him either. And maybe if they had they would have noticed something was wrong.
Selfish Shellfish AU - Masterpost
YES!!! That's about what I had in mind.
I've been thinking about Ford, Mabel and Dipper going to New Jersey to find Stan and investigate what really happened.
Stan wouldn't just kill Filbrick and then disappear right? There must be a different explanation.
But as it turns out no one in the neighborhood is actually surprised at that turn of events.
Filbrick pulled Stan out of school and has been working him to the bone, forcing Stan to not only work at the pawn shop but also other part time jobs. No one is sure when Stan actually slept.
And the way Stan was always bruised up and injured even though he quit boxing a long time ago.
At least the bullies stopped bothering with Stan when it became clear that he wouldn't react to anything they did and just take it.
Interviewing the neighbors be like: “Oh that poor sweet boy. He would always help me carry my groceries upstairs. Good riddance that Filbrick died! He had it coming. I’ve tried to call the police on him but they just came out shaking that bastard's hands instead. Pigs, all of them. I hope he made him suffer!”
#Selfish Shellfish AU#relativity falls#ask#tw child abuse#gravity falls#stanley pines#i'm so glad you asked#i ran out of tags on the original post but refuse to put any of it into the actual post#so now i get to ramble more#they probably justified Ford not visiting with Filbrick putting too much pressure on Ford to suceed and with all the bullies in new jersey#fod has lots of bad memories there and he still is self concious about his hands even though no ome cared in gf#theyve been working hard on making ford feel better about himself! visiting new jersey would be a major setback!#[which honestly..fair XD im.no blaming anyone for thinking of ford..this whole thinh is just a tragedy]#it's gonna be horrifyinh to realise just how easy it wouldve been to figure out what was going on#hell they shouldve figured it out durinh the phone calls#but they assumed stans just being childish when he refuses to talk much etc#Alternative happy? end: during their investigatiom they find stan half dead in the basement with his supplies having run out a few days ago#and then we get the comfort :D
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ya know for a fandom that is screaming from the rooftops that the books are ‘dark fantasy’ they sure do complain about people taking those darker elements at face value or even god-forbid exploring them
#idk I was just thinking about how I could make acotar worse because my own life is feeling like hell rn lmao#and it just kinda reminded me that….. literally everyone I’ve ever seen praise this series has called it a dark romance where the villain#gets the girl. but then……when we correctly point out that to be a villain rhys specifically has to do bad things and not be remorseful#suddenly we’re reading too much into it and that’s not what the author intended and we’re just being haters or even abuse apologists#idk idk it just feels like they (the fandom at large ig) claim that they like a certain thing- in this dark romance- but when they’re#confronted with the reality of that thing/trope they want the moral superiority/clear conscious of not actually having that thing/trope#or even having to actually engage with it#and this is coming from someone that hates dark romance!!!#I can’t fucking stand it and I hate the prevalence and normalization of it from tiktok/instagram#but if you’re saying you’re reading a book because it had this specific trope then stand on business!#you can’t have it both ways eventually you gotta pick one#either you do actually like dark romances and villain love interests#or you want the mmc to always be in the right and good to the fmc at all times and morally pure#anti rhysand#anti sjm#sjm critical#anti cassian#anti feysand#anti nessian#acotar critical#anti acotar fandom#fandom critical#gold talks.tag
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can i be fr for a minute?? sending abuse to people online for holding different views than you is not activism and in fact actively hurts your cause. most people are not extreme in their viewpoints, you can give them a new perspective if you're willing to spend some time explaining shit. if someone is saying something you disagree with and you rush in there to condescend to them and call them disgusting and subhuman and dont even TRY to explain calmly why their views are harmful, they're going to shut you out instantly and double down on their views.
most people are simply genuinely ignorant to the issues they're talking about - they just pick their views up from the news and the world around them and express opinions because that's what every person does. if you run in there and tell them they're scum for it, what then? if someone does that to you, are you going to think "maybe i should do some research" or are you going to think "this person is an asshole, im blocking them." a lot of you think you're activists and then refuse to do any kind of actual WORK to support your cause.
#this is not about the isr*el thing even tho thats obviously a huge issue rn#its just a pattern ive observed online#im not saying you have to be kind to people who oppress you dont twist my words#but if youre trying to support any cause and you think calling people names is going to help#youre a fucking idiot lol#people call themelves activists and pro-X cause because they called their opposition dirty c*nts online#how the hell is that meant to help anyone? theyre just going to retreat into their propaganda chambers because you proved what the leaders#of those spaces have been telling them#you can obvs block people if you dont want to deal w them but thats a neutral action. sending abuse harms ur cause.#text#like educating ignorant people is hard work! yeah! its also the entire fucking point of activisim#and if you think its too much effort then just stop pretending you give a shit tbh#like my parents managed to change our neighbour's very xenophobic stance on migrants with a calm conversation#some people will listen and some wont and shes not exactly going out to protests for migrants rights but shes not hostile anymore#and a lot of yall think that isnt good enough but let me tell you it IS good because these things take time!#unlearning things is MUCH harder than learning them in the first place and a lot of people grew up in environments that taught them#very discriminatory and conservative views and its actually not their fault. and its hard to educate yourself differently on something you#have no idea is not true. where do you start w that?
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consistently I'm a little annoyed about the rift between c!Tommy and c!Dream fans in this fandom. like I like your guy too! I think he's great! actually, I think our guys have a lot in common! I'd love to see your take on this really messy, complicated relationship!
oh wait you think c!Dream is a pure evil, completely heartless villain that exists to do nothing but torment c!Tommy, who is of course a sweet innocent uwu baby who did absolutely nothing wrong, and therefore deserves to be murdered twice, imprisoned, isolated, starved, and tortured with no control over his own autonomy (but prison was actually way better than exile, which was the worst thing that ever happened to anyone on the dsmp. obviously. because c!Tommy tried to kill himself. yeah. don't think about c!Dream walking into a wall of lava and burning himself to death multiple times because he was so incredibly desperate for human connection. that was to escape, right? c!Dream couldn't possibly feel real emotions -- that would mean he's a person that -- oh no -- deserves compassion despite the terrible things he did. oh no -- that would make him -- gasp -- a lot like c!Tommy!) and actually he deserved more than that. he was never actually punished. c!Dream always won (citation needed).
also, c!Tommy was a child. do I have to say that again. well, I will anyway. c!Tommy was a child. c!Tommy was a child. c!Tommy was a child.
great.
#discourse#dreblr#c!discduo#to clarify I don't think c!Tommy deserved exile#obviously#no one deserves to be manipulated and abused and bullied#I don't think anyone actually thinks that exile was a good thing#to be fair#it's a really annoying strawman but people keep bringing it up#c!Tommy went through some pretty horrific shit!#but so did c!Dream#there is no law on the dsmp#if you're mad at c!Dream because he blew up L'Manberg -- good for you#in the nicest way possible I do not care#doomsday was not a crime#no one even died#DOOMSDAY WAS NOTHING MORE THAN PROPERTY DAMAGE#what would you call c!Tommy griefing c!George's house again?#sorry for ranting#I'm just tired of not being able to follow like any c!tommy apologist blogs because they have inevitably posted#super rancid takes about c! and cc!dream#why is c!discduo discourse such a mess#why can't we be friends#I don't want to argue with any post directly because I think that's rude#but I wish we could have lore discussions in good faith and actually learn about each others' favorite characters#without accusing each other of being abuse apologists or whatever#I know I came off as kinda mean here#I'm sorry#no one's going to read this anyway#I'm just sensitive and this is frustrating
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Read here in some post about creating, even if it's not perfect. So here goes nothing, a short poem if you will.(It's kind of shitty tho...)
Father there's blood on your hands
The child is screaming
His little hands raised
In an effort to protect himself
His lips are trembling,
Your hits are endless
His cries and begging have no effect on you
He's the forsaken child of the world
And you hate outcasts
He's the opposite of everything you ever were
And you're killing him
His frail chest rises one last time
A broken plea
Father are you happy now?
#a shitty try at idk what this is called#cause it sure as hell aint a poem#inspired by someone#though I can't compare to his writing#the ending is kinda off though#i don't usually write poems#i suck at it actually#anyways#trying to overcome my fear ig?#desiblr#desi#desi teen#poetry#small poem#tw child abuse
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imagine if they had taken a different route with 'evil jay.' imagine jay participating in training with ras and being beat so badly that ras kicks a wolf mask to him, and with a bloodied, beat hand he inches towards it, even though it's repulsive to him, disgusting even - but he has to if he wants to live. The mask shatters his soul and the power heals him. He needs to live, but he doesn't want to shatter his soul - but it's the only option presented to him, and he has to take it. eventually he forgets he never wanted to.
anon i love you this is Exactly What I Needed
and yes yes yes
(i kind of went off, all fic like so umm have this i guess??)
i imagine walker would avoid anything that directly tied him to the wolves. after everything that admin put him through he couldn't take another faction taking any more pieces of what little identity he had left - even if it did make him stronger. i imagine he stayed with ras not just because of his lies - the story of how great of a warrior hes been sounded just a tad too good to be true, more like an example from a manipulation textbook rather than anyones actual life, not in this century. but he did stay, because he wanted to destroy the administration - whether from revenge or to free everyone in there, he didnt know.
i imagine when ras found him he quite literally saved his life - after gods know how long walker had to survive on his own in the realm of madness and wylderness he found his way to where ras was. ras brought him in, patched his wounds, gave him food and shelter.
even weeks after being saved by ras walker was still in fight or flight response. he was scared. still somewhat of his power, but the pain was unbearable. remember post merge hes probably never actually been in a fight except when he struggled for survival after admin.
but his power remembered how to ease the pain. make it more bearable. take more of it. until walker cannot stand up back again, and everyone smells death coming.
for a moment no one moves. not jordana, not cinder who was meant to be next, even nokt who was his opponent steps back. no one expected walker to take that much damage. no one expected him to not get up. all these weeks, no matter the punches and the slashes, walker always got back up in the end. all the terrible scars, the eye patch too, proved this wasnt a new development. it was ingrained into walker as much as his lightning.
it takes ten ragged, difficult, wheezy breaths for anyone to move.
ras stands up slowly. no one speaks as the boss kicks the wolf mask towards walker.
at first, the only response is a twitch of fingers and brow.
until a strike of lightning runs across walkers arm and, struggling, he grabs the mask. he doesnt properly put it on just kind of throws his arm, trusting proportions of it to land it vaguely on his face.
whatever anyone says, ras did not run to strike the gong, almost forgetting his own hammer. to say so would be to assume he cared about the master of lightning. which would be ridiculous. he was just a simple tool for others to use. of course there was no fondness, and absolutely, not at all, walker never managed to make any of them smile. that never happened, of course.
and as no one cared for walkers wellbeing, there wasn't a collective sigh of relief and a chuckle of joy as the wounds on walkers body started closing, red energy of shattering weaving his organs back together. of course no one was relieved. not at all.
nokt smirked as ras helped walker to sit up, laying the wolf mask on his lap.
"not bad, brat."
walker gasped in a shaky breath, elemental energy trying to cope with the shattering.
he looked up at nokt.
"so, warm up's over, i take it?"
and at that there was chuckling, with nokt bursting with laughter.
#I HOPE ITS OBVIOUS THAT THE NO ONE CARES ABOUT WALKER PARAGRAPHS ARE SARCASTIC#THEY DO CARE BECAUSE JAY IS ADDICTIVE AND EVERYONE LOVES HIM TRUST#jay walker#jay ninjago#evil jay walker#wolf gang ninjago#*ask#anon#I AM FORCIBLY FOUND FAMILYING THE WOLVES IDGAF#i think nokt actually likes walker and just despises cinder for no reason#also yes jay is deffo rass favourite even if he hates to admit it#i imagine it very much like silco+jinx#was silco manipulative and enabling the worst in jinx and what one may call abusive?? of course#did he love jinx with all he had?? also yes#*#*wips#cus i just might turn this into a full one shot someday who knows#I Completely Freestyled This Shit
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unpopular opinion but no damian shouldn't have multiple degrees and a full medical license by the age of 8
#hey quick question do you know what academic abuse is#probably more accurate to call it academic trauma actually#but like.#this is the one skill I will absolutely put my foot down on#and it has nothing to do with realism but rather literal time#and it's never oh hes an EMT hes a first responder he's a field medic#no. surgeon.#so that's fine but Bruce giving his sidekicks kevlar and criticism is abusive??? pick. a struggle.#untagged on purpose
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just saw a post by goobiestar where tigerclaw has been put on babysitting duty and they doodled him surrounded by tiny babies thinking "i cant believe bluestar is making me babysit a bunch of drooling pathetic whiny pieces of--" and with bonefall tigerstar being a genuinely good dad (at least when his babies were tiny) i have this image in my head of firepaw imagining this is what's happening and then it cuts to tigerclaw calmly playing teeterstrike with the babies
I'm telling a super different story from the other guys in my orbit LMAO, I've noticed that also. A lot of my.... fellow satellites? Companion Comets. Peripheral Planets. Lean into the comedy angle of Tigerclaw being a nasty little boy
I especially love that one comic (I think it's Blimbo?) Where he sees his younger sibs and just starts kitty-smacking them like a real cat lmao. Top tier. If the punchline is "KITTY SMACK" you'll kill me every time.
But yah BB!Tigerclaw is really important to understand as like... a guy. Just a shitty guy, has some good things about him, but ultimately the darkness within him is run-of-the-mill. He isn't special. Firestar comes to understand that any one of the dozens of assholes in his life could have become Tigerstar-- and that's TERRIFYING.
Evil is mundane and common. Goodness is complicated and unique.
So your image is spot on lmao. Young Fireheart watching him from across camp like, "ill PROVE his evil to bluestar. Look at him now. What is he doing with swiftkit. Something horrible im sure. He probably hates kittens"
And Tigerclaw is pressing his mouth to Swiftkit's baby belly and going PTHHHBBBBB.
#Though I do think it's important that Firepaw respected Tiger at first#And it's an easily forgotten detail#But like... we should remember it more imo#Firepaw realized that Tigerclaw was evil not because of immediate suspicion#But because the respected and beloved senior warrior was a XENOPHOBE#Of COURSE Firepaw realized it before the other members of the clan#They were blind to it because the entire Clan is BIGOTED#They did not see the warning signs as important because his first open targets where the powerless#Gray and Raven and Fire#People you're allowed to bully and threaten.#But Firepaw. Who is NEW to the Clan. With a FRESH perspective. Can see it immediately that Ravenpaw is being abused#And that Tiger often uses his status to bully those below him including himself#RE: The thesis of BB!TPB being ultimately that SCOURGE IS RIGHT#And that the Clans need to change.#Bone babble#Also I only hesitate to call anyone mutuals because I actually follow veeerrrry few ppl on tumblr#I read tmblr like a newspaper. When I wanna see what some guy is up to I check their blog lmao#And read back. Then close it out#Heavy dashboard scary. Elder Bones needs quiet time#I read other blogs like newspaper
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The Demolitions Lovers from My Chemical Romance both have NPD! ( headcanon )
( the male has overt NPD and the female has covert NPD )
#roll call#ur fav has npd#npd headcanons#npd safe#actually npd#narcissistic personality disorder#actually narcissistic#narc abuse believers dni#my chemical romance#mcr#demolition lovers#erm if these two have names#could someone lmk what they are….
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