#but i am quite actively physically disabled
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okay. here's a thing that confuses me about healthcare differences. sometimes i see people say things like "ask your gynecologist" or "ask your dermatologist" or whatever about specific problems. and this suggests that some people specifically have a gynecologist or a dermatologist or some other specialist that they see regularly, or at least were previously seeing before whatever this issue was arose, even if they did not have previous problems in this area
and that is strange to me. i do not know anyone who regularly sees specialists who does not already have a known chronic condition that requires them to see that specialist and even then they're usually struggling to get regular appts. i would understand more if it was like "ask your GP to refer you to a dermatologist" or even "ask A dermatologist" in general. but your dermatologist? i don't have a dermatologist. i don't have a gynecologist either. i get my smear tests with a nurse at the GP surgery like everyone else i know and have so far not had cause to do anything else in that regard so maybe it just hasn't come up but i am not sure most people i know have a gynecologist specifically
so. this perplexes me. it is clearly a cultural difference. but it is usually americans who say it and i do not, generally, get the impression that multiple forms of specialist healthcare are something one can really have on demand when you are paying lots of money for it. what does it all mean
#i do have a physiotherapist#but i am quite actively physically disabled#and i still had to wait ages for a referral and longer for an appointment
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i do love my family very dearly but the internalized ableism the men in here struggle with is. so much
#marzi speaks#it’s worse with my brother but he’s doing more to actively work on improving that#my dad however has very subtle internalized ableism that i don’t think he recognizes is there#which is. fun#like earlier. either last night or this morning i don’t remember#i was talking to him about how while ideologically i have nothing against accepting needing help and things like that#in practice it’s very challenging to adjust to being disabled even temporarily. and that if i do end up with a diagnosis that’s gonna be#a lot to handle. both mentally and just with the lifestyle changes i’ll have to make#and he makes a bit of a face and goes ‘i wouldn’t quite call you disabled. i’d just say ‘ill’’#and i just sort of look at him. and i blink. and i go ‘i am physically Un-Able to do things i am normally able to do’#‘i can’t walk long distances at all. i can’t sit in chairs for too long without causing pain’#‘i’ve spent the last 24 hours staring longingly at my computer because i want to draw but am currently Not Able To’#he didn’t argue with me but i can tell he was still unnerved by the idea of picturing his daughter as disabled#also like . illness and disability are not mutually exclusive? several disabilities are or involve chronic illness#i shouldn’t be surprised though. i mentioned considering starting lexapro#and he went on his ‘you’re an adult and it’s your choice in the end but i wouldn’t recommend it’ spiel#(he’s anti-psychiatry bc he doesn’t like the idea of breaking the brain down into smth so purely physical)#(and also doesn’t like the idea of someone being dependent on pills their whole life)#(which i’m giving him some slack on rn bc he is a just-got-clean recovering opoid addict. so)#(btw before any of you say SHIT abt my dad he took his pills legally prescribed for chronic pain and did not abuse them)#(and even if he DID that would give nobody a right to make a moral judgement on him. ok cool)#i then reminded him that my mom takes anti-anxiety meds and they really really helped her#and he just goes ‘true.’ and moves on#king u got some shit to unpack#it’s fine if u didn’t want to start antidepressants when it was recommended to you meds aren’t for everyone#but like come on now. u don’t gotta be so fundamentally against it when literally ur own wife who you adore takes psych meds#anywho my mom handled me making the disability comment much better. she was basically just like ‘ur fear is totally understandable’#‘u have a good support system we’ll help you through it’#which. thanks mom 👍 that was very kind of her to say
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Idk about you but "my poor autistic brain doesn't deserve to go through the struggle of deconstruct my own harmful biases" sounds more ableist and lazy than actually helpful to other autistic people?
Maybe it's just me, but if someone were to tell me that I'm too autistic to learn to respect others I would be quite offended. How is that an excuse for being racist?
idgaf how autistic you are stop being racist😭😭
#I grew up with quite a few racist sexist and homophobic ideas#I had to do active work on my thought process to rewrite those ideas#i am autistic#Some things were easy to change because I trust the scientific method and if you prove me that I'm wrong then I'm wrong#Time go change perspective#Others were difficult and insidious and I had to physically repeat myself that it was wrong and harmful#Being autistic or mentally ill or disabled in any way doesn't give you a free pass to harm others
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I am unwell and in my yearning era so here's a cute JayVik winter date idea.
Jayce is generally good at sports. He's always been physically active. Though he hates the cold due to his childhood trauma, there is one winter-time entertainment he can't say "no" to - ice skating. Jayce is a skilled skater, swift despite his height. And so when he discovers the huge ring set up for the winter in the city centre, he can't skip a visit. Naturally, he wants Viktor to accompany him.
Viktor can't skate due to his disability. Or at least he never tried - it puts a great strain on the muscles, and the falls on the hard ice make it impossible for him to participate. And so at first he just watches Jayce from the bench. Jayce puts up a show for him, doing all the tricks and flashy manoeuvres he knows (while driving other skaters mad and ruining at least two other dates.)
But at some point he slides up to Viktor and encourages him to join in. Naturally, Viktor refuses, giving quite valid arguments. But Jayce has his own ideas - he gently helps Viktor onto the ice and gives him his fluffy coat as an additional fall protection. He holds him close at all times, serving as an additional support when Viktor's right leg is too tired. Every time they lose balance, Jayce makes sure to be on the bottom so Viktor doesn't hurt himself. They are slow and clumsy, sticking to the railing of the outer ring. At first Viktor is scared and angry, but as time passes he begins to enjoy the ride. He never thought it was even possible - if not for Jayce, he wouldn't even think of skating.
They stay on the ring for as long as Viktor can, then go for a warm dinner and Glühwein. Jayce is in a bit worse condition than he wants to admit - cold and quite hurt. But no physical pain can counter the delight of seeing Viktor finally express enthusiasm over a physical activity he thought was out of his reach.
Since then, they go there every year, spending hours laughing at each other while locked in a warm embrace.
#sorry i got carried away#i never write stuff like that but jaybe someone will enjoy it#jayvik#arcane#jayce talis#viktor arcane#jayce x viktor
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heya, this might be too much for a single post, but i would delight in a ramble about the overlap between dwarfism and disability (whether or not you/the community as a whole generally consider it a capital-D Disability or if theres more nuance like with the autism or HOH/Deaf communities where it just Is and folks feel the the struggles with outgroup folks are like, culture clashes, or perhaps a secret third thing?)
similarly, id love for a ramble on the overlap between dwarfism and queerness, especially The Genders. i have ehlers-danlos syndrome and theres a huge number of us who are trans or nonbinary, to the point where masculinizing hrt is (anecdotally) understood to be a bit of a treatment for some symptoms. i know theres a lot of overlap between queerness and disability as a whole, but so far the couple of artists with dwarfism ive found and followed are all some flavor of trans or nonbinary, so id love to know if thats as common of a thing in your community as it is in mine
dwarfism is for sure underrepresented in discussion about both disability and queerness, and as a disabled queer person they are so intertwined in my head, and im forever curious about other folks experiences so your thoughts are appreciated!
Hello!! I love these questions!!
Firstly, yes, I do identify as being both a little person and disabled, but that isn't the case for everyone with dwarfism. Though dwarfism falls under the classification of a physical disability, not all little people find it physically debilitating. For me, my Achondroplasia dwarfism has resulted in sleep apnea, arthritis, chronic pain, hearing loss, limited mobility and dexterity. I cannot walk long distances and I use multiple moblility aids (wheelchair for long distance, rollator most of the time, and cane for short distances or around the house). My disability is dynamic, meaning that my ability changes day to day depending on pain levels, spoons (unit of measure for disabled energy), and activity.
Being that I am both a little person AND noticeably disabled, I have experienced ableism within both the abled community and the LP community, which is something I don't often talk about. I've been in situations where I feel alienated from my own community - additionally for my queerness. When you exist at the intersection of as many things as I do, you experience many flavours of ignorance and discrimination from the very people who should accept you.
That being said, I have also had the privilege of meeting other little people who are trans, queer, and nonbinary like I am. Our community is incredibly diverse, but spread along the globe. It is easy to feel a profound isolation, but the internet has provided me with a means of connection which I greatly appreciate.
Disability and queerness is something I discuss in depth in my public speaking roles, as I deeply value intersectionality in education and activism (I hope to share some of my talks as I record them in the future!).
I am forever painful aware that ableism is alive and will within the queer community - even when "all are welcome", we are still an after thought. I really urge my fellow queers to think beyond our own community to bipoc and disabled folks, otherwise you're really just dipping your toes into radicalism. Read more books by black disabled trans women of colour, and expand your thinking. (Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk lol)
I can't really speak to hate from the other direction, as all of the disabled folks I know on a personal level are also queer. Though I will say that I certainly receive queer-phobia from older (white) disabled folks - in my experience, when white folks become disabled with age and have not faced any other injustice in their life, they can be very hateful.
This has been quite a post, so I hope I've answered your questions in full! I would be happy to discuss it more if not/answer other related questions! Thank you so much!
Elliot (they/them)
#asks#intersectionality#queerness and disability#disability and queerness#queerphobia#ableism#disability awareness
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I would like to take a moment to acknowledge myself and say that I am elated and proud to have manifested some of my major goals since 2018-2019. Basically before then, 2014-16 I struggled with depression and suicidal ideation quite frequently due to not having steady income, as jobs in retail seemed the only available and “safe” options, but long shifts standing at a registers or posts were damagingly hard on my body. In 2017 I got a desk job that set me on the path of financial stability and reduced physical load, which did absolute wonders for my mental health but it was an absolute blight to my existence over time due to terrible management and the usual corporate garbage. I knew that staying there was fine for a time but not sustainable in the long run, so change must come eventually.
also around then, I continued to explore self portraiture and personal style but I really wanted to perform/create Burlesque acts and book them, and invest in and actually have choreography/technique and beautiful costume pieces that looked like the visions refining themselves in my head through research. I was also perpetually struggling in the dating sphere with the deficit of romantic fulfillment that I deeply wanted. and while they weren’t hostile, things were definitely weird with my family (dysfunctional, literal small town energy, upset that I didn’t want to be around them more in the suburbs but lots of interpersonal toxicity and lack of emotional growth).
I knew that in the coming years I wanted to…
quit my soul sucking job and set out to be a full-time or at least professional level burlesque performer, creating the qualitative and classic show girl acts I dream to see on stage
work on the floor at a boutique or mom-and-pop type shop that sells goods or services that are interesting to me, especially aesthetically, such as an antique shop or a jewelry boutique etc., but a place where I could sit intermittently as needed for my physical disability. Also, ideally it would be a position where I could express myself through style at my choosing and it would be received well, and also my hours would not be very early or very late.
find a loving and supporting partner who I could lavish equal amounts of love and support on to, live with and hopefully marry
Achieve/maintain financial stability enough that I have a reduced risk for homelessness and sometimes treat myself to things that I enjoy.
Figure out why the relationship with my family was such a struggle and do things within my power and desire to fix it.
In a world that isn’t a corporate machine devoid of empathy, none of that seems like a tall order to ask… but I live in America so… It took some time, but I’m starting to see the fruits and returns. Honestly sometimes things feel like a blur and I’m not exactly sure I could say there was a huge system to what I did overtime to make it work, but I know the work was there.
As of today, September 9, 2023:
I am a respected professional burlesque performer with costumes I figuratively gag over and acts that come closer and closer to hitting the aesthetic nail on the head for what I want to embody. (I quit that shitty desk job at the beginning of 2019 and haven’t looked back since. Sent a whole ass company wide message with a long and detailed “fuck you” too.😂🙈)
i’ve managed through burlesque, social media work, donations and savings, and —since the global pandemic—,odd jobs and grants/minimal loans, to continuously pay rent and ward off homelessness 
I live with the love of my life, to whom I am engaged and actively planning our wedding (we looked at a venue yesterday!)
I’ve helped my mom on the growth of her emotional intelligence and commitment to learning more about values under the race, gender, and sexuality umbrella, as well pushed her to examine the enabling and entitlement dynamics with her adult children that take advantage of her. While my relationship with my brother and sister is not great, my relationship with my mom has been steadily getting better since the pandemic. we had a breakthrough at the beginning of this year where she acknowledged and apologized for guilt tripping me for not being around the family more, when I was (she quoted) “actually protecting myself like she should have been.”
and litcherally within the past week I was offered the job at a local boutique I interviewed with a year ago and didn’t get, and I signed an offer letter to begin work within the month. 
To say I’m happy with the way things look right now is an understatement. The world still terrifies me, but I have no choice but to carve out a sliver of its beautiful experiences for myself, and I am doing just that. It may not be perfection, but it’s pretty damn good and I’m going to do everything in my power to keep it that way and make it even better. I am living my ancestors' wildest dreams!!
for anyone reading who might be struggling right now to make things work, I hope you hold on to hope that it can get better. A beautiful life is possible even on this hell scape, even for the marginalized.
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Greetings!
I am Dr. Stanford Pines, you may call me 'Ford' or simply 'Doctor'. I suppose it is about time I explore the World Wide Web, or the 'Internet'. There is much I still have to learn and figure out since returning to this dimension.
It seems I have fallen quite out of touch for the most part during the thirty years I was gone. It's frankly very impressive and jarring to see how so much has changed so I might take some time for me to properly adjust but I digress.
I travel through plenty of dimensions with my brother Stanley quite often to further my research. Nothing we can't handle now that Cipher is out of the picture so I will continue adventuring and learning.
I am glad to be of acquaintance to you all!
Ad astra per aspera
- Dr. Stanford Pines
OOC: HAHA- Here's a Ford blog because I genuinely couldn't help myself. My main blog is @matrixbearer2024! This Stanford Pines is very similar to the timelords from the Doctor Who franchise but other than that he's still pretty much the same. I'll mostly have him set post-weirdmageddon but I'm open to shifting whichever point in time for questions or RPs, have fun everyone!
P.S. Down below are insights to his character and inventory for anyone interested or planning to interact with him!
Doc's inventory:
Modified Sonic Screwdriver
Rift Manipulation: Creates and stabilizes interdimensional rifts using doors as conduits.
Wood Manipulation: Can interact with wooden objects, allowing for unlocking, modifying, or opening them.
Lock Picking: Can unlock doors and secure mechanisms electronically.
Repair Capabilities: Repairs mechanical devices, machinery, and certain types of technology.
Environmental Scanning: Gathers environmental data, hazards, such as toxins, radiation, or other dangers, detecting anomalies, and analyzing energy signatures.
Data Analysis: Capable of analyzing data from various sources and providing real-time feedback, which can be especially useful in scientific or technical situations.
Communication Device: Interfaces with various technologies for sending and receiving signals.
Universal Translator: Translates languages in real time, enabling communication across the multiverse.
Communications Device: Functions as a communicator to contact other beings or devices across dimensions.
Energy Emission and Manipulation: Emits energy pulses to create barriers, distract enemies, or manipulate technology as well as manipulating energy sources, allowing it to overload systems or temporarily disable them.
Holographic Projection: Can create holographic displays for visualization of data, theories, or environments.
Lock Picking: Bypasses and unlocks physical and digital security systems.
Thermal Regulation: Measures and adjusts temperature in different environments.
Frequency Manipulation: Disrupts or enhances certain technologies by emitting sounds at specific frequencies.
Medical Functions: Provides advanced diagnostics and medical support, which is due to Doc’s preparedness(paranoia) for unforeseen events. (e.g. scanning for vital signs, diseases, and medical conditions; performing rudimentary medical diagnostics and suggest treatments; minor surgical procedures, such as suturing wounds; administering certain medications or injections in emergencies)
Forcefield Manipulation: Can activate and control protective barriers or shields, adding a layer of defense in dangerous situations.
Data Storage & Retrieval: Stores information and interacts with databases, making it a powerful tool for research.
Manipulation of Atoms: Using the power of the infinity die, Doc’s sonic screwdriver can manipulate the energy within atoms of entities that have a tangible, alterable form. This ability allows him to rearrange or shift the physical properties of objects or beings.
Weaponized Function: Can shoot energy blasts, though this function was originally designed as a laser for electronic tinkering.
Time Manipulation: Has limited abilities to manipulate time within a localized area, such as slowing down or speeding up the perception of time for specific objects or people.
Emergency Beacon: Can emit distress signals to call for help or alert allies in emergencies.
Multi-Purpose Tool: Serves as a general tool for tinkering, adjusting mechanisms, and solving puzzles, which aligns with Doc's analytical nature and creativity.
Repair Box
Immortality: A set of nanobots that constantly repairs and heals injuries, rendering Doc functionally immortal. While he cannot die from age or illness, fatal wounds can still kill him.
Healing Factor: Non-fatal wounds heal rapidly, which allow the Doctor to recover quickly from injuries that would otherwise incapacitate others.
Phantom Pain: He experiences phantom pain from time to time, a side effect of the repair box, which sometimes immobilizes him during particularly bad days.
Journal & Pen
Eidetic Memory: While Doc has a photographic memory, he carries a journal where he records his travels, discoveries, and reflections. This is partly an emotional release and partly a way to process the things he can never forget.
Personal Reflections: His journal also contains musings, sketches, and insights into his more philosophical thoughts, which he tends to keep private.
Zygon Force Field Device
Personal Shield: A portable device that creates a personal force field around the doctor which protects him from the worst injuries in moments of danger.
Camouflage: For a temporary time, the advanced zygon technology refracts and manipulates light to turn Doc invisible to the naked eye. This can be activated and disabled manually.
Limited Durability: Though powerful, the forcefield can only take so much damage at a time before it needs to recharge.
Advanced Medical Kit
Comprehensive: This kit contains emergency medical supplies, medications, and advanced tools for situations where the repair box might not immediately be enough. The doctor’s paranoia drives him to always be prepared.
Multiverse Map
Hand-drawn: A rough sketch and collection of dimensions he’s visited or studied, filled with notes about potential dangers and anomalies.
OOC: Does Doc carry a phone with him? Nope! Thinks it's something redundant because of his sonic being able to act as a communicator at a rudimentary level. Granted, you're not going to get stellar audio or video quality from something like that, but it works throughout the multiverse so Doc doesn't bother. If you plan on having an OC or other character meet him through this route, it could be as a transmission to his sonic!
Doc's Appearance:
Since the time he received the repair box, Doc has been biologically frozen in a state where his physical body remains in its 40s.
Doc is standing tall at 6'2", no different from most iterations of his canon counterparts.
His coat the the same as the one he already uses in post-canon gravity falls, that hasn't changed aesthetically.
The doctor sports a suit because if he's going to kick butt might as well do it in style, he also switches between neck-ties and bow-ties because bow-ties are cool.
He wears sneakers instead of his boots since those had worn down and broken sometime during his travels and sneakers are just generally easier to replace.
Underneath all his dress-up though he's covered in scars from past battles and his old tattoos that he'd never had the time to get rid of.
His glasses still have a crack in them, mostly because he couldn't be bothered to get a new pair of bifocals anyway.
Always clean shaven, yes he still shaves his face with fire that has never changed.
Key Quotes About Doc:
"You don't need to look like a monster to be one."
"HAHAHAHA- I just SNOGGED Madame de Pompadour!"
"ALLONS-Y!"
"This apple sucks I hate apples-"
"Laptop. Gimme!"
"Who da man?! ..... Oh, well I'm never saying that again."
"Immortality isn't living forever that's not what it feels like. Immortality is everybody else dying because you can't."
"Goodness is not goodness that seeks advantage. Good is good in the deepest pit without hope, without witness, without reward. Virtue is only virtue in extremis."
"Sometimes the only choices you have are bad ones, but you still have to choose."
"The day you lose someone isn't the worst. At least you've got something to do. It's all the days they stay dead."
"Pain is a gift. Without the capacity for pain we can't feel the hurt we inflict."
"There's a lot of things you need to get across this universe. Warp drive, wormhole refractors. You know the thing you need most of all? You need a hand to hold."
"Love is not an emotion. It's a promise."
"The universe is big. It’s vast and complicated and ridiculous. And sometimes, very rarely, impossible things just happen and we call them miracles."
"Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. It’s not the time that matters, it’s the person."
"I’m the doctor, and I save people."
"First thing’s first, but not necessarily in that order."
"You want weapons? We're in a library! Books! Best weapons in the world!"
"People assume that time is a strict progression of cause to effect, but actually from a non-linear, non-subjective viewpoint— it’s more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly… time-y wimey… stuff."
"I’m about to do something very clever and a tiny bit against the rules of the multiverse. It’s important that I’m properly dressed."
"Arrogance can trip you up.”
"Do what I do: Hold tight and pretend it’s a plan!"
"You’ll find that it’s a very small universe when I’m angry with you."
See the bowtie? I wear it and I don’t care. That’s why it’s cool."
"Big flashy things have my name written all over them. Well… not yet. Give me time and a crayon."
"Never cruel or cowardly. Never give up, never give in.”
"Rest is for the weary, sleep is for the dead.”
"You don’t want to take over the universe. You wouldn’t know what to do with it beyond shout at it."
"Never be certain of anything. It’s a sign of weakness."
"Courage isn’t just a matter of not being frightened, you know. It’s being afraid and doing what you have to do anyway."
“Why do humans never do as they’re told? Someone should replace you all with robots. No, on second thought, they shouldn’t, bad idea.”
"You know, the very powerful and the very stupid have one thing in common: they don’t alter their views to fit the facts; they alter the facts to fit their views.”
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❤️🩹 my take on a PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder) flag 🧠
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i had been waiting from months to a year to see someone design a flag for PMDD since i'm not very confident in my own ability, so i decided to go ahead and bite the bullet with an attempt. this is currently planned to just be a draft and may be subject to change with new updated versions in the future.
TW FOR MEDICAL TRAUMA/ABUSE: although this topic is not very widely discussed, or at least doesn't seem to be commonly present, online among the disabled community, my personal experiences with PMDD have made acknowledging its existence as well as its consequences quite necessary to me. as of the time of writing this, i am 19 years old, and when i was 15 exactly this time of year (as well as the first similar incident a couple months prior), i had an intense hyper-emotional episode the week before my period that was so bad i ended up getting institutionalized at a psych ward against my will and have never been the same since. for years now, i've been on a birth control pill that suppresses my cyclical hormones and prevents my period from occurring most of the time.
before getting into the stripes' meanings, there are two factors to explain behind my thought process:
dark teal is considered to be the awareness color for this disorder, although i went with a light aqua color because i think it looks better with the pink, and it's in the same family so i believe it still works.
pink is meant not to represent femininity necessarily since uterus-owners can come in many different gender expressions, but rather fit with the vibe of internal organs, especially since pink is closely related to red which is how warm blood appears (and is a key element of uterine cycles).
as for the stripe meanings, here is my proposal for each single word:
awareness ─ suffering from premenstrual dysphoric disorder is a very real thing that happens to müllerian individuals everywhere. according to the cleaveland clinic, which i am an active visiting patient of, about 10% of people with our reproductive body types who are at least of minimum pubescent age may be affected by it. although it does not tend to be a risk toward physical health, it is often a deadly threat to our mental state and well-being, which can lead to suicidal ideation.
strength ─ i consider this to be an invisible disability, with most of the symptoms taking place within our internal worlds and fighting a constant battle with negative thoughts + emotions. in addition to this, physical symptoms also arise and can cause severe discomfort before menstruation even begins. all of this happens within the confines of our own homes, and we tend to suffer through it alone. people who do not have PMDD probably fail to realize how strong we have to be in order to get through this difficult time repeatedly & endlessly, despite their well-intended efforts.
diversity ─ this is intended to have multiple meanings, and to include anything i may not have come up with so far. for one thing, there are plenty of different experiences to be had with this disorder, such as varying levels of cramping + sickness or depression + anxiety. on another note, not only do our bodies each work differently (some may also have endometriosis and/or PCOS, which are also intersex conditions, as a double-whammy), but many of us do not conform to societal ideas of gender despite all having these parts in common. there are infinite possibilities to mix & match with presentation & identity, which is not limited by biology.
flesh ─ although many factors are involved in this process, including hormones, PMDD centers around the uterus, which is an internal organ. the flesh represents the physical aspects of this experience, and how we must take great care of our bodies in order to ease how we feel.
pain ─ there is so much physical + mental pain that builds around this disorder, which deserves to be recognized, sympathized with, and treated. the deep pink (to me) somewhat resembles what ibuprofen & benadryl pills look like; painkillers & antihistamines respectively (i'm not sure if anyone else needs the latter, but my skin's condition gets really reactive when i go through my cycle).
anyone is free to reblog/use accordingly, although you may have to be mindful of permission/credit with the uterus imagery from the source!
tagging for reach (it may not fit your gimmick exactly, so feel free to ignore if you're uninterested, or reblog somewhere else!): @idwl @satyrradio @spaghettimakesflags @obnebulant-mogai @caeliangel @intervex @arco-pluris @beyond-mogai-pride-flags @radiomogai @themogaidragon @neopronouns @mad-pride @disabilitypride
#disability#actual disability#disabled#actually disabled#pmdd#pmdd awareness#premenstrual dysphoric disorder#reproductive disability#invisible disability#mullerian#müllerian#intersex#pcos#polycystic ovarian syndrome#endometriosis#cleveland clinic#medical mistreatment#anti psych#medipunk
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A quick message to Goodtimeswithscar fanartists!
If you tend to draw/portray Scar in fanart with zero mobility/disability aides (wheelchair, cane, cannula, etc), or with them but in a way that pretty much disregards their existence (keeping the cane on his back at all times, making the cane purely aesthetic and not functional, treating the wheelchair like it's as light as a feather and can go anywhere, drawing cannulas but no oxygen tank, etc), I just want you to take a second and ask yourself why you portray it that way.
Scar has stated that he is ok being drawn with or without being visibly disabled, but he sees the wheelchair as a big part of himself ([LINK]). I'm not here to force anybody to do anything. But I just want you to seriously consider why you minimize or completely erase his disability. Is it just because he's a minecrafter and therefore he's not disabled in-game (debatable because when making fanart, the medium and therefore many universal constants are 100% malleable, not to mention how his disability does indeed affect his content such as when he is forced to take breaks, falls out of his chair, etc)? Or could it be that you are uncomfortable with the fact that he's disabled, or at least uncomfortable portraying/acknowledging that in your art? Could it be that you're afraid to get it wrong, don't know how, or simply don't feel like it? Please don't take this as an attack, but a small ask to consider the reasoning behind this design choice.
I do not use mobility aides as my physical disabilities would not be benefitted from them, but I am quite active in the online disabled community, and please believe me when I tell you that physical disabilities are erased enough. They are ignored and minimized enough. If you look in the comments of Scar's videos, if you look at the donations that were read during the charity event a couple of months ago, you will see so many people using mobility/disability aides (or not because they can't get them for many reasons, but need them very much) who are so encouraged by Scar doing what he does, by seeing a representation of their experience and community that they very, very rarely see (and even when they do it's in a pitying, infantilizing, or degrading way). When you draw fanart of Scar, please consider this. Please consider why you are erasing or minimizing his disability, and if you find it in your heart, please consider a design change.
There are aesthetically pleasing ways to include mobility aides. Some great ones I have seen are linked below if you want design inspiration. And plus, if nothing else, it will help you become a better artist by diversifying your experience:
[LINK] - An example animatic with a cane. While it is sometimes on his back, it's usually when he's flying (how would he use it? It makes sense for it to be put away). While he's walking it is being used properly. We don't see him walking around much since it's an animatic, but if I animated it more thoroughly, I would show that he had a clear limp, fatigue, or other difficulty walking, to avoid the "cane solely for aesthetic" interpretation.
[LINK] - An example animatic with a wheelchair, which is coincidentally the same scene. There was a fantastic one where his wheelchair transforms into a flying machine but I searched for 30 minutes and can't find it, so if someone knows the one please link it!
[LINK] [LINK] [LINK] [LINK] [LINK] - Great example drawings with wheelchairs.
[LINK] [LINK] - Drawings with canes.
P.S. all of this goes for writing and other non-visual forms of fanart too!! I see him written disabled even less often than I see him drawn disabled.
Thank you for reading all of this. I hope it helps somebody.
#goodtimeswithscar#gtws#gtwscar#gtws fanart#hermitcraft#hermitcraft fanart#life series fanart#life series#traffic smp#trafficblr#traffic series#disability#mobility aid#fanart#If someone who uses mobility/disability aides sees this please feel free to reblog and weigh in!#schipperke's posts
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Wicked...an allegory for something?...shocking: A Wicked Review
Just watched Wicked with my family and found it pleasant. cute and child-friendly. While watching all I could think of was the film and Elphie as an allegory for ableism, racism and fascistic governments. The fascism allegory is quite clear. Suppression of opposing voices, the maligning of certain groups, use of secret police on the public. But I want to talk about racism and ableism respectively.
The first instance of racism I noticed was the images the villagers hung. It represented the caricaturizing of marginalized folks to inspire fear. It is yellow peril—the caricaturing of Asian men as dangers to the American public and industries. It exists to inspire an unjustified fear of the unknown.
Even the burning reminded me of lynchings. They kill her then celebrate as white families were known to do. Proclaiming "no one mourns the wicked" is reminiscent of attempts to dehumanize and at times "adultify" the often innocent black children/adults whom were lynched.
Then of ableism: Elphaba's birth was similar to plenty disabled people—including myself—who was born semi from parents' irresponsibility ( her mom drinking while pregnant) or — like Nessa Rose— is disabled from an early birth.
You see the effects of ableism on disabled children with ableist parents as Elphaba believes she is at fault for her parents' problems. I used to believe I was a burden on my family for my disability; partially because they infantilized me. Or believed my problem needed fixing. Elphaba experiences the same with Glinda; my non-disabled siblings were unable to recognize it.
Hence, they disliked Elphaba because she refused to sit and let them pity her. Every word out of her mouth lower the sympathy they had for her as a disabled person because she did not fit that black and white understanding. It's why I dislike Fiyero reprimanding her for explaining her disability before he asked questions. I have had to prep myself before entering rooms or participating in activities to answer questions like why I am not participating or can't physically do some activities.
But when I answer, I am met with the "sympathy" I resent. cute movie <3
#wicked#wicked movie#elphaba thropp#cynthia erivo#ariana grande#rant post#tw racsim#ableism#movie review#movies#films#popular posts#wicked 2024#wicked glinda#boohoo#moodboard
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A lot of people in the fandom really have the media literacy of a wooden door. This is quite annoying as someone who wants to engage with fiction in a complex way, we have beautiful tridimensional characters for us to enjoy, just... Enjoy them, without making them one dimensional.
Example: Curly is definitely a victim of emotional abuse, you guys act like it's normal for a friend to humiliate you for something you can't control in front of other people, putting those people against you (the birthday scene). Or that it's normal to have hallucinations before talking to someone who was supposed to be a friend. This is more of a headcannon, but I am sure Jimmy was used to hurting Curly physically before the crash, because he didn't even think before starting to beat the shit out of Curly when he was injured and vulnerable. Just a headcannon, I could also see it being Jimmy using the opportunity to take out his frustration on Curly, without Curly being able to escape.
Curly didn't do his best, that's obvious, but he was clearly not in a good mental state, considering he also slept less than 5 hours a night. Curly seems to be not a very active person, he seems quite passive and people pleasing, I think Anya is definitely way more active in protecting herself in comparison to Curly, who doesn't have the mental strength to stop Jimmy at all.
That's what I am talking about tridimensional characters, Curly can be a victim and he can also be flawed, because they wrote him as a person. Victims aren't perfect, we are people.
I could talk about the flaws of the other characters as well, but the really horrible takes like "Curly deserved what happened to him, what a poetic irony" makes me so mad. I know he isn't real, but Jesus Christ, how can I know if those people aren't viewing disability in the same way in real life?? It just grosses me out so much.
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#curly mw#curly mouthwashing#captain curly#mouthwashing#mw#anonymous#anonymous confessions#mouthwashingconfessionsblog
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AITA for not telling my friend I don't want to play DND with her?
I (17M) am a player in a Dungeons and Dragons campaign (NOTE: it is not actually DND, I am just saying it for simplicity's sake. If anything sounds off, that's why. Either way, it's TTRPG, and both games have the same system, although they aren't anywhere near similar to DND gameplay-wise. It's very roleplay focused.) with a few of my friends (all 17-20F: Viola, Korrina, Valerie, and Olympia). Viola is our DM, and I have so much fun every time we play, with no intents on quitting because of this.
Olympia just like... fucking sucks though, to be honest? Like, I just hate playing with this chick. She's always asking for extra bonuses on rolls because she's just such a good player (no one else does it, Viola allows it though), she actively started PVP with me, she physically disabled my character in said PVP and I had to do chaos control (I did not want to have my character be disabled, if I did I would have a disabled character, but I failed a roll against her in this fight so I had to have my character go on a side-quest to fix it: I would be more fine with it if it was Viola, but another player? Really?), and she's just not really funny when she talks about the campaign outside of the sessions (I know, it's a little personal). She gets really upset when we mention this one thing we all like to the point of taking inspiration from it for characters and NPCs because she doesn't get it but she refuses to try the thing so we just have to not talk about it with her, and overall she just... isn't enjoyable to be around.
I know I'm gonna have people in the comments say "just tell her that you don't like her now! You sound awful, you should quit," etc etc, but hear me out. I am a player. Since the DM is Viola, and Olympia and Viola are having fun, I don't feel like I should say anything. It's the DM's story, and as a mere character in the story I can't have any say in the format, especially since I was the one that invited Olympia to the group (I made a casual offer to my whole friend group over a school group chat and both Olympia and Korrina responded, so I had to include both of them), and we've been playing this campaign since August.
One of our players had to cancel on us a week ago as of writing this, and so I decided to run a oneshot based off of a campaign I've been wanting to do (first time DMer, I wanted to try it out). The players were Viola, Korrina, and Olympia, and it was actually really fun! I wanted to wait for Viola's campaign to end before I actually started playing my campaign, but that wasn't going to happen in a while, so I had decided to run it then.
I don't want Olympia anywhere near my actual campaign, though. I'm planning on letting my friend (Drasna, 18F) join, as well as anyone else who shows interest, along with Viola, Korrina, and Valerie. But as you may know, Olympia is insufferable to me, and as DM I feel like I have the right to deny her from playing with me.
She still played in the oneshot though, and was... very excited for it. I am aware I am the only one with beef here. Olympia keeps on PMing me about her character, asking about the world, and she's really interested in the world and the format of it. Her character's nice even if a little similar to one of the main plot NPCs I have, but as I've mentioned, I really want to cut her out when the campaign gets rolling. The only reason I couldn't for the oneshot is because we are actively in the middle of a campaign and everyone would think I'm being weird and things would be tense for the rest of the campaign. I can't just tell Olympia to her face "hey, I hate playing with you actually. Go home, fuck off."
I feel like I treated Olympia fairly when we played (she didn't do anything drastic, at least), but I don't know how my negative feelings on her are going to impact the campaign. I don't want to have an inbalance in the characters and how they're treated.
AITA for leading her on to make sure things don't get awkward during Viola's campaign, even though I have no intent of changing my mind on not having her as a player?
What are these acronyms?
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I’ve spoken positively about National Novel Writing Month before and so I am sad to have to take it all back.
If you’re not aware, NaNoWriMo recently endorsed the use of generative AI in writing practices, and their statement even went as far as to say that anti-AI views are “classist” and and “ableist”.
There is no ethical use for generative AI, as we speak. Using AI, even for something as simple as rephrasing an email or generating a profile picture, means that you’re actively using thousands of stolen works, a lot of which are copyrighted and/or protected in some way. (That’s why most companies behind generative AI’s are currently facing multiple lawsuits from various artists and companies who’ve found their work was used to train the AI models without their consent and without promise of compensation)
I’m an artist. I’m a writer. I cannot in any way endorse generative AI as long as it’s built on stolen artwork by my fellow artists, and possibly even myself. There is no world in which using generative AI makes you an artist. Currently, it just makes you complacent in art theft at worst and lazy at best.
It’s not classist to say that, and it’s not ableist either. Lot’s of writers and artists have physical or mental disabilities and/or come from a middle-to-low-class background. Your financial standing, and whether or not you’re disabled, does not define your ability to create art, as so many incredible artists throughout history have proven by continuing to make art on their own terms. I used to say that there’s no wrong way to make art. I was wrong. Generative AI proved me wrong.
The statement specifically emphasized AI as a way to get proofreading and editing done without needing to pay for a professional editor. But beta-readers have always existed for this very reason; it’s just another human connection AI seeks to eliminate in the name of “efficiency”.
There are books on editing that can be found and read in libraries, if you don’t have money to buy them. There are articles and videos made by actual experts in their field that can be found for free. I trust them far more than whatever botched mosaic of words AI spits out, which might not even be remotely correct, as most AI models openly allow errors.
So, my point is: Don’t use NaNoWriMo.
There are other ways to track your progress. There are other places to find community and writing groups. There are far better ways of creating art that won’t compromise the ethics of being an artist and, most likely, the law.
It sucks that I have to say this. It sucks that NaNoWriMo apparently has had a nosedive in it’s quality and moral standings that was steep enough that nearly all their employees quit.
But that’s where we are now, apparently. And so that’s where I stand.
That’s all.
#getting pretty tired of hearing pro-ai people using ableism as a ‘clever’ comeback#as if disabled artists havent found ways to create art on their own for centuries#its so obvious that there is no good use for generative ai and they’re just grasping at any argument they can come up with#despite those arguments holding zero validity#so fuck nanowrimo#and as always fuck AI#not quite how I wanted to start off my day but the tomfoolery of companies never ceases ig
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Emotions anon once again, I sent the person I talked about in my last ask an email. It reads:
TW: Talk about Trump
'I would like to not be friends anymore. I just can't sit idly by as someone supports a man that is actively trying to strip away the right of:
Women (and AFAB people in general)
Queer + trans people
People of color
Immigrants
People with mental and physical disabilities
Anyone who isn't a cis, straight, Christian, conservative, white, neurotypical, rich, male
And many more
The man I am talking about doesn't care about climate change or the economy or even people he deems lesser than him.
I also do not want to be friends with people who use racial slurs.
I do not care why you support Trimp, and I do not care to listen to your thoughts on him because he has quite literally SA'd people and said he would date his daughter if she was not related to him. He is disgusting, and I hope you realize sooner or later.'
I had my mom read it over before I sent it because sometimes I can be really rude when talking about something I'm passionate about.
Hi!
I'm really proud of you for setting boundaries in a polite but firm way. It takes a lot to stand up to people, especially about this stuff, and you did a great job <3 If you ever need to talk more about it, or want to update me please continue to send me asks!
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LMK Angst Fic Part 5
Author's note: I think there need to be more platonic and friendship cuddling in media and in the world, so here we are. (Definitely not touch starved nope not me!)
Part 4:
It was around three in the morning in the celestial realm. Nezha had become accustomed to sleeping beside Sun Wukong every night and had even begun to enjoy it despite the reason why they started doing it. He had always thought of Wukong as a good friend and companion, which he didn't have very many of thanks to his workaholic attitude. Him and Wukong had even become quite comfortable with each other.
Nezha was aroace and Wukong still considered himself spoken for since his previous marriage had ended in death and not divorce. So it was as platonic as could be. However, they were both touch-starved and emotionally neglected as children, so there's that.
Wukong and Nezha had grown used to falling asleep snuggled up next to each other, with limbs tangled in weird form around each other. But neither of them were exactly still while they slept, so Nezha wasn't immediately concerned when he couldn't feel Wukong next to him when he flopped his arm around beside him to try and find the monkey he'd grown so close to.
Until he heard the whimpering.
That can't be good.
Nezha bolted upright in the bed. He searched the dark room for his friend's ginger-colored fur. He found it at the edge of the bed.
After clambering over to Wukong's side he gently and quietly asked:
Nezha: Wukong, are you awake? What's the matter?
SWK: *sobbing* I-it's my head! It's hurting! It hurts so bad! Please-
Nezha: Shhhhh, Wukong. It's alright. I'm here, it's okay. You'll be okay.
Nezha had become accustomed to Wukong's post-circlet migraines and various other symptoms of Wukong's traumas. It seemed as though even after Wukong had learned to cope with the physical damage done to him, his body had not, and was therefore having it's own posttraumatic episodes.
Nezha had found ways to sooth him luckily.
Nezha laid Wukong in his original position on his side of their shared bed and put an ice pack on his forehead. He then lit some incense and lightly wafted the fumes in Wukong's direction so he could smell it. That was more to soothe the monkey's panic than anything.
After laying back down beside Wukong, Nezha wrapped an arm around his chest.
Nezha: Are you comfortable enough?
SWK: I think so.....*gasps*
Nezha: Wukong what-
SWK: Hot flash. Don't worry, it's already over. Gosh, that felt bad.
Nezha: It will be alright my friend. I am here.
SWK: Thank you. For everything.
Nezha: No problem, I quite enjoy your company. I just wish you weren't in pain as often as you are.
SWK: You and me both.
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They slept for a few more hours before getting up. Sun Wukong tended to be very weak during and after a migraine, as was the design of the circlet he once wore. Nezha helped him to the downstairs living room and set him up on the couch.
SWK: Ow.
Nezha: Sorry.
SWK: Nah, it's fine. I should be the one saying sorry to you.
Nezha: Whatever do you mean by that?
SWK: You're always having to help me out with stuff and getting me out of trouble.
Nezha: That is only half true. Besides, I do not mind taking care of you.
SWK: But don't you think of me as weak for needing help like this?
Nezha: No, not really. If I did, however, I'd be the world's biggest hypocrite.
SWK: What? How so?
Nezha went into the adjacent closet and pulled out a wheelchair, it was the active kind too, unlike the bulky ones you'd find in the hospital.
Nezha: I haven't told you this before, I probably should've by now but, I guess I share similar insecurities.
Nezha: I am disabled. I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user, meaning I can walk about easily at times, while others I cannot.
Nezha: That is also why I have my fire wheels, sash, and staff. They are mobility devices. Albeit they are a bit atypical.
SWK: Cool!
Nezha: Really? You think they're cool?
SWK: Well, yeah! I think that type of stuff is pretty interesting. I get why you wouldn't exactly want to show it off though.
Nezha: Thank you. Perhaps if you are ever needing some help after a migraine or other health complication, you can use one of my many wheelchairs! I hardly use most of them anymore, it's nice to have backups. Just in case.
SWK: Thanks for the offer. Maybe I'll give one a spin after I feel a little bit better. I still feel like my head will explode if I sit up.
Nezha: Alright then. I'll park this one next to you so you can have an easy transition when you are ready.
SWK: Thanks again.
Nezha: You are quite welcome.
Part 6:
Masterpost
#lmk#lego monkie kid#lmk nezha#lego monkie kid nezha#lmk swk#lmk sunwukong#lmk sun wukong#lmk fanfic#lmk fanfiction#flower of a poisonous seed#monkey king#monkie kid sun wukong#monkie kid#monkie kid nezha#nezha lmk
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Okay so the first day of the transition event was interesting. Like two of the student wellbeing staff remembered me from undergrad, another one from the neurodivergent group I used to go to near home, and also my former therapist was there accompanying her son! I am Known to people in the local mental health scene lol.
They took some of us in a group to finish registration and get our smartcards, which made it easier to cope with. I had a bit of a hard time afterwards because I was worrying if I'd scanned mine properly and then someone chatting to me asked about living in halls and the worry and homesickness combined to overwhelm me. But I sat in a quieter space for a while and then I felt better.
I ended up staying for some of the social activity part, which was a choice between pottery painting and a scavenger hunt around the city. Obviously I picked the painting, and I painted a pen pot with a picture of a black cat, like Podge because I miss her. I was worried about the social aspect of it before, but I ended up at the quiet table lol, like literally none of us spoke except when staff came round to chat. And focusing on the painting calmed me down a bit.
And even though I didn't really socialise, I feel a little less out of place now from spending time with the others. A lot of other people were visibly quite awkward and didn't initiate conversations, some people stimming, some people were also physically disabled and someone had a service dog. And I met someone who was coming back after having to leave, so I told them I had time off in undergrad too and that people are very welcoming when you come back. I hope it came across the right way.
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