#but honestly i have no idea how you even initiate idk something romantic????

[hanaaria]

😶😶😶😶 there is a really pretty and cute girl at my college. that I don't know how to idk become friends with? bc dm'ing her out of nowhere seems kinda weird and i've only like spoken to her. once or twice.

[jolynesmom]

aging yourself up or down in your dr (+ dating)

I actually refrained from talking on this topic on my tiktok since I knew I was going to get chased off the app and didn’t see a point in talking about it on tumblr since everybody here seems to be more open minded and mind their own business, until I saw multiple posts a few days ago here, where the op were shaming people for changing their age or changing the ages of people in their dr

those people definitely came from tiktok and I honestly hope this post reaches them as I didn’t want to directly interact with them

I think one of the posts was about how adults age ‘minors’ in their dr to date them is problematic, which made me laugh, because how is it problematic if they’re both the same age in their dr?

and the sad thing about that post is that the op said that they’re aware how shifting works and all that, but still finds it problematic and hopes people that do that never shift which is just… girly I hope YOU never shift because you don’t deserve it for shaming people trying to live their lives

I’m not going to go into details about the og posts, but they still have the outdated idea that if you shift for a character that is much younger than you here it’s ‘problematic’. once again: how is it problematic if you’re the same age in your dr?

and then they hit you with another outdated take ‘it’s problematic because you find them attractive here’ which is ridiculous because of so many reasons

1.many characters (especially anime characters) don’t act or look their age. if your perceived a character as an adult initially then found out they’re a minor, I simply don’t care. ages in fiction never matter, if your mind perceived x as a certain age then they’re that age idc; 99.99% people are attracted to a character for who they are, not their age

2.many people had crushes on characters when they were younger or the same age with that character and still like them. let’s boo them that their crush on the character didn’t die and their fav character didn’t age, acting like you’re not going to be in their place in a few years

‘not true I’ll stop liking my favorite character when I’m of age 😡’

okay sweetie keep telling yourself that, because I keep seeing people on tiktok that had this mentality: they liked an underage character when they were minors and wanted to shift for them, now they’re adults, haven’t shifted yet but STILL like that character and regret having said they’re gonna stop liking that character when they’re adults because it didn’t happen lol

3.people don’t always script that an underage person here will be their s/o, it just might happen. I’m actually going to use myself as an example for this: so here I’m an adult and I’m also aroace which I dislike because I always dreamed of a fantasy novel like romantic relationship, so I’m straight or bi in most of my drs so I can date. in my jujutsu kaisen dr, all the people in jujutsu tech are adults because I don’t like teens or kids and don’t wanna hangout with them. in my 30+ drs I only have 3 scripted s/os which are all adults here. I didn’t script an s/o for my jjk dr, because I want to focus more on friendships and training there (but secretly hoped choso would pick me, a girl can dream ok); a few weeks ago I channeled multiple people from my dr (yuuji, megumi, nobara, gojo, nanami and geto) and I received normal messages from all of them. I expected all of their answers, except yuuji’s answers which had romantic aspects to them. that made me realize that he might have a crush on me and maybe we’ll even date in my dr or something? who knows, I didn’t think too much about it so idk

so now if a character that’s underage here likes me in my dr, am I supposed to refuse them or shift out? lmao you’re delusional if you think I’m doing that

4.people that have never experienced adolescence love here. a lot of people dreamed of having that sweet experience of teenage romance that disney and an insane amount of shows and movies love to push, but instead their teen years were filled with abuse and hate. why shouldn’t they shift to experience what was taken from them here?

ALSO let’s switch this around: why is okay for minors to date adults in their dr, but not the other way around?

‘it’s not as bad 🤓☝🏻’

imma be the devil’s advocate and say it’s just as bad

do you genuinely think it’s okay to be a minor here and date an adult in your dr? like do you really think your s/o would feel comfortable being sexualized by a minor and dating a person that’s a minor in another reality? you lowkey forced your partner to become a pedo if you think about it 🙁 /jk

and also if you shift to a reality where you’re a minor and become of age there, you’re officially an adult and shouldn’t date minors anymore, even in your ‘original reality’ where you’re still a minor. please keep the same standards for yourself

[xxsabitoxx]

NSFW Kyojuro Rengoku HeadCanons

Kyojuro x Fem! Reader

Warnings: as the title suggests, this is full of smut

A/N: the last time I did a NSFW HC post focused on one character it was for Sanemi shortly after I made this blog… that’s kinda fucked. Why haven’t I revisited this idea? Idk but thank you for suggesting it @sharkwhore 😩🫶

Also it’s past 3am, my alarm is set to go off at 7am, of course this ain’t proof read lmfao so ignore any errors

Kyojuro is such a gentleman that you’re almost shocked the first time he tries to initiate something more intimate with you.

You’re actually pretty surprised that he seems to know exactly what he’s doing… even though he claimed you were his first partner

He’d later tell you that he went to Tengen for advice. Having three wives naturally meant the man had more than enough time to learn a thing or two

Kyojuro starts off slow with you, wandering hands and lingering kisses. He works you up subtly, until he can tell that you are aching for him to take things further

“Sit on my lap.” Kyojuro smiled at you, tapping his muscular thigh innocently. He’d been toying with you all night, his hand lingering on your waist longer than it needed to. The soft kisses on the back of your neck while you had cooked dinner. His compliments, the way his eyes seemingly devoured you. You were dying for him to move things further. “Someone’s feeling extra romantic tonight… I’m not forgetting a special occasion am I?” You sat down, trying to suppress a shiver as his arms came to wrap around you. He was warm, as always, thigh tensing and relaxing below you as he got used to your weight on him. “No, no special occasion… I just missed you.”

Kyojuro loves foreplay for a multitude of reasons

For one, he loves when you tell him what you want him to do. He loves when you guide him, tell him exactly what you like and dislike. He loves watching your eyes grow hazy when he does something just right

He’s all about you, I mean really he won’t even think of fucking you until you’ve cum at least 2-3 times on his mouth or fingers.

Speaking of mouth… Kyojuro loves when you sit on his face. Well he loves when you sit anywhere on him but sitting on his face is his personal favorite

He encourages you when you’re shy about it, he’ll even use his own hands to push you down a little further, assuring you that you won’t suffocate him

“C’mon… a little lower.” His hands are gripping your thighs as they cage his head. Your face is warm, hands holding your breasts as you tried to lower yourself without fully sitting on him. “You’re holding back…” he commented softly, your cunt just inches from his face. “…’m not…” a lame attempt, especially since you knew he could feel your thighs trembling with the effort. “I’m asking you to sit on my face. I mean that, you know. I want you to fully sit on my face.” It was blunt, maybe that’s why you couldn’t stop the squeal of shock that left your lips. “I’ll suffocate you if I put my full weight on you, Kyo.” He only gripped your thighs harder, dragging you down closer. “You won’t suffocate me… now please… sit.”

Kyojuro is the type to prefer overstimulating you than edging you. He doesn’t see a point in restricting your pleasure when he can just give you more of it.

This man is a sucker for cowgirl. He loves watching you ride him… in any position really. He loves when you climb onto his lap while sitting on the couch, he loves when you climb on top of him in bed.

In an odd way, he almost uses it as patience training. He likes to see how long he can put up with you struggling to fuck yourself on him before he gives in and takes over.

He’s more of a sexual person that you gave him credit for. Honestly with his personality you’d never guess he had such a high sex drive. Every night you spend together, so long as you are in the mood too, you’ll do something.

“You’re cute.” Kyojuro watched you, smile present and hands on your waist as you struggled to lift yourself up and down. Hell you figured the couch would make things easier for yourself. “Shut up.” Was all you could manage, head falling forward out of embarrassment as he laughed. “Cute and feisty.” He corrected himself, deciding to make things easier by thrusting his hips shallowly to meet you. You couldn’t stop the noises that slipped out of you. This angle, albeit rather annoying and a lot of work, allowed Kyojuro to slip further into you than any other position did. Plus, you knew he loved it. So of course, you always made the effort to get into this position at least once. Even if you did break a sweat because of it.

Quick X-Ray vision :D

Length is about five and a half inches, girth is average. He has veins running along his shaft that are prominent when he’s horny. Slight curve and nearly trimmed hair. Why does this feel so awkward lmao

When it comes to riskiness, Kyojuro is the type to keep it within your property but never out in public. Public ≠ outside. He’d absolutely fuck you on the training grounds in his back yard.

He’s rough when he’s frustrated or overwhelmed from work. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t make you feel loved during and after. He takes aftercare super seriously especially after he’s been rough with you

Kyojuro is unintentionally really good at dirty talk. In the heat of the moment he’s whispering in your ear until you’re squealing and yelling his name.

“You like that, don’t you? I can feel you squirming.” You swallowed, nails digging into his shoulders as he hovered over you. Sweat was dripping down his temple, bright eyes narrowed as he fucked into you. “C’mon don’t be shy. Look me in the eye when you cum.” Your name left his lips in a tone as smooth as silk, back arching as he dragged across that one particular spot. “Oh? There it is.” He chuckled, the noise vibrating his chest as he drew his hips back and thrusted forward again the same way he had a moment prior. Again, you cried out as white hot pleasure racked your body. “Atta girl, keep going, I wanna hear how good I’m doing.”

Kink wise Kyojuro is fairly tame. Depends on what you think is tame though.

Heavy praise kink, overstimulation, creampies, marking, restraining (with his hands not rope or ties etc), semi-public, I mean he just likes fucking you outside.

Kyojuro likes to keep your sex life private but also gets excited by the idea of getting caught… though he knows he’ll be mortified after the fact

He adores when you leave your mark on him. Nail scratches up his back, your bite mark on his shoulder, bruises on his neck, all of it.

He likes doing the same to you, but it gives him a sense of pride when you’re the one doing it to him.

Making sure everyone knows who he belongs to

“Are you sure it’s okay?” You blinked at him, face feeling warm as you looked over the scratches you left along his back. “Of course it is.” You didn’t catch the smirk on his face, he truly adored the feeling and the look. “Kyo, it’s warm today and you’re training with the other men…” the other male Hashira would likely see it, you knew that’s what he wanted. “Hmm? You’re worried about me taking off my shirt?” He teased softly, tightening the tie in his hair before turning to face you. “I mean, yeah.” You couldn’t get over the angry red marks you’d managed to mark him with. “There is nothing to be worried about. If anything, they’ll be jealous.” You sighed in defeat, “I’ll never understand the mind of a man.” You couldn’t help but laugh as his arms found your waist.

[restinslices]

I don’t know if I requested this already but how do you think the Lin Kuei bros would react when each of them got their first gf?

It’s 5am but I’m avoiding sleep cause sleep paralysis been kicking my ass recently so here we are. I didn’t know if you were imagining a certain age or how detailed you wanted it so they’re all at different ages

Bi-Han

Bi-Han doesn't have that much experience when it comes to dating even if he's the oldest brother 

Growing up he was taught to mainly focus on his clan since he'd be the next Grandmaster so naturally dating is something that was at the back of his mind 

When he got his first girlfriend he'd probably be older. So he's mature when it comes to handling himself but he's not mature when it comes to romantic relationships 

I think the first week would be the hardest because he's both nonchalant but also worried if that makes sense

Nonchalant because he doesn't physically show any emotion besides disdain but also worry because whenever he hears about new relationships, people are always so giddy. They're glowing. They're jumping up and down and are cuddled next to their partner all the time. 

Bi-Han though? He doesn't do any of that. He's not sure what he should do and since he doesn't know, it makes him worry that maybe he made the wrong choice. Maybe he took the bit of affection you gave him and ran with it and it went outta hand 

After that first week though, he still wants to be with and around you so he starts to relax and realize he just reacts differently to things 

Some things he would struggle with since this is his first relationship. He'd struggle with the idea of being around his partner so often. Does he enjoy your presence? Yeah. But he also wants a lot of alone time 

Idk how long his first relationship would last. He gives me both “we're in this forever” and “forever isn't realistic” vibes. 

I honestly don't think he'd change much, which probably has a lot to do with the fact that he's a grown man. He's past all the intense teenage emotions. 

I don't even think his partner would notice a difference tbh. He trails behind you more but besides that, he still acts like your friend Bi-Han which isn't necessarily a bad thing 

Because it's his first relationship, I don't see him initiating things like physical touch that much. I think his partner would have to either ask or hint at it 

Cutsey things just don't come naturally to him. 

Is he happy about his first relationship? Absolutely. He just doesn't see the big deal with certain things like hand holding or other romantic expectations. Honestly I can see that being the cause of his first relationship ending depending on who it is but if it's someone that's on the same wavelength or understands lack of affection doesn't mean lack of love then I could see it lasting forever. 

Kuai Liang 

Kuai Liang was probably the first to start dating 

Does he have responsibilities? Yes. But that wouldn't stop him from experiencing certain things, even if he had to do it sneakily. 

He was a young teenager when he finally got his first girlfriend. She was apart of a nearby clan and although he was told many times not to focus on women, he couldn't help it. 

It was a simple friendship but it turned into something more. A secret relationship no one could know about

I think Kuai Liang would be happy to finally have a girlfriend. It's something else in his life that gives him happiness besides his family. 

Also this is a teenager so he's geeked as fuck. He tries to appear all calm and cool but it wouldn't really work 

Would always try to sneak away to see her. He wants to spend as much time with her as he can. Half of it is because he's a teenager, half of it is because he genuinely likes her. 

I also think he likes exchanging gifts. It gave them both something to remember the other bye

As a young boy, he wants to tell everyone but because of circumstances, he can’t. Besides that though I just honestly think he’s happy waking up everyday knowing he’ll see her even if it’s only for a few minutes.

She was a break for him. He's always the mediator between Bi-Han and Tomas. He always had to train hard so he could assist Bi-Han when he became grandmaster. When he was with her he was relaxed. 

Enjoys the company that comes with having a partner, even if a lot of the times he's too busy to see her 

He knows he doesn’t know much about relationships, but that’s ok. Life’s a journey and he’s willing to learn and communicate for this girl

Considering it says “first relationship”, that means it doesn't last 

I think the reason would be they eventually get caught. His dad has a tighter leash on him and she's sent to a different area her clan occupies 

He wouldn't take this well but there's really nothing he can do

Takes him awhile to get over even if it was some silly teenage romance according to others. 

Tomas Vrbada

Tomas gets into his first relationship in his late teens to early twenties

I can see him telling Kuai Liang immediately and asking for advice 

I can see it being a friends to lovers kind of thing. She's an earthrealmer in the know about all the realms and stuff and knows Madam Bo. Tomas is easy to like so they become friends then he asks her out on accident 

Tomas, like Kuai Liang, would be happy to have a significant other. He'd like having a girlfriend because this is his person. He became a Lin Kuei because the grandmaster felt shame about his clan murdering Tomas’ family. To Tomas, that's not him actually wanting him. It's guilt 

Having a girlfriend though means she's with him because she loves him. She actually likes him and chose him.

Very proud boyfriend. He’s surprised he has someone to call his and thinks she’s everything 

He's younger so he's not really confident which I think would show. He constantly wants to be around her out of insecurity. He's worried that she'd leave and find someone else 

He thinks he’s not good enough for anything

Can we blame him? He has Bi-Han constantly making him feel shitty. Sure he’s not the only reason Tomas is insecure but he’s not helping

He's also paranoid about anyone else he loves being hurt. People get hurt, he understands that but he cannot say goodbye to someone else prematurely. Especially someone that makes him so happy

Since it's his first relationship, he doesn't know how to properly communicate these feelings 

He genuinely likes this person and wants to be something serious. The problem is all this hovering and worry could cause problems in the relationship and lead to it ending. 

His solution would be trying to change himself 

Letting go is not something he wants to do. This person makes him happy so why should he? He could definitely change and do better. 

And since this is his first relationship, he’s nervous something like this won’t happen again. 

Unfortunately for him you can’t get rid of insecurities easily and you have to love yourself before loving anyone else

You'd expect him to have the longest lasting relationship but he probably wouldn't. The relationship wouldn't end with harsh feelings but he'd still be upset by it and it'd encourage him to work on himself 

I promise you Kuai Liang is my favorite brother. Idk how Bi-Han got around 440 words and him and Tomas got around 380- I also plan on writing angst after I eventually go to sleep so tune in

[scaredycatqlt]

HII idk if your requests are still open but PLEASE can you do bojack/ mr peanutbutter dating head canons or any of your choice, the fandom needs more fanfics 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

awwWWW YEAH BABYYY. You already KNOW it’s gonna be toxic.

WARNING: Potentially triggering content. Nothing graphic, but talk of toxic/unhealthy relationships, questionable shit, BoJack being BoJack. SUPER MEGA FUCKING ANGST WARNING!!!

BoJack X Reader! Headcanons [ROMANTIC💔]

woah boy.

where do I even start with this guy?

okay, so, first things first; bad idea. What the absolute fuck were you thinking.

You probably have a fix-it mentality don’t you?

You’re probably the first person to talk to him. He either doesn’t care about you at first, or absolutely despises you.

chances are you are/were a fan of the show. (Eughhh,,,,)

If you weren’t he’s like ‘>:0’

It’s not really explicitly labeled as a romantic relationship. You guys probably hooked up before you even knew each other.

So being in this (more so situation-ship than anything) is toxic, to say the least.

He’s got a whole bunch of problems and he doesn’t want to ruin you to. But he ends up doing just that anyways.

He guilt trips you. I don’t even need to say that.

He rants to you about silly things that don’t even matter. It’s kind of endearing (if he weren’t a total piece of shit.)

He’s actually really good at making conversation. You two always have something to talk about.

He can’t believe someone as ‘not-him’ as you would ever waste your time with him. He explicitly tells you this at one point.

The red flags are BLARING GIRL.

In your defense, you really didn’t know how awful he was. You just thought he was a deeply flawed man. And he is, but he’s also just an ass.

*a horse

The relationship doesn’t last. It never does with him. Either you decide to cut it off because it’s too toxic, or he cuts it off. Probably in some drunken stupor.

typical BoJack.

Mr. Peanut butter X Reader! [ROMANTIC]

I’d like to start off by saying it would be much less toxic than a relationship with BoJack.

But still problematic…

Mr. Peanut butter and you knew eachother before you were dating, probably friends for a little while.

You two end up dating and the beginning of the relationship is idealistic and perfect!

But problems quickly arise.

like for example, Mr. Peanut butter is kind and friendly but he isn’t exactly considerate or caring. He may care about you, but he ignores your needs sometimes. More often by accident.

For example, if you don’t like people-you’re still not getting left out of parties. Mr PB is more sympathetic and much less empathetic.

His love language is gift giving and words of affirmation. I think this is made very clear throughout the show.

PREPARE TO BE FUCKING SPOILED WITH GIFTS!!!

Whether you like it or not….

He’s very open with people about your two’s relationship and how he feels about you. He’s quick to praise you.

aside from some of the inconsiderate mess he is literally a golden retriever boyfriend <3

he is VERY quick to ask you to marry him. But I feel like if you told him you’d think about it or ‘no’ he’d understand. It’s a big decision HE might be ready for, but you’re not.

Scratch his ears.

I feel like you’d date him at a point in time where Diane isn’t a problem anymore. He learned after the first time…,,,

Sometimes he puts his needs infront of yours-without realizing it.

If you want to have a serious conversation-you’re going to have to initiate it. He HATES those, and prefers to pretend like it never happened.

I feel like there’s honestly a chance of a long term relationship with him! Or you two break up like, maybe a year or so into the relationship.

sorry I haven’t responded to requests in, like, over a month. I’ve been kinda busyyyyfhhjjjgjg 😭

[gunpowdercarousel]

Do you have any other Lae'zel ships that you like?

Lae'zel/Karlach (Lae'lach) is pretty cute. Lae'zel would obviously be mad horny for Karlach because of how impressive of a warrior she is, while Karlach would think Lae'zel is cute and pretty and small and all sorts of things nobody has ever accused Lae'zel of being. I also like the idea of Lae'zel having to grapple with a slight inferiority complex, being smaller and weaker and - in ways - possibly less mighty of a warrior than Karlach. And then Karlach of course just thinks she's great no matter what, and just wants to cuddle.

Weirdly I can kind of get behind Lae'zel/Gale, though idk if I'd actually want it to get properly romantic. Basically I like the idea of Lae'zel having something of a crush on Gale and being like "Oh, he's such a mighty wizard, the way he channels the Weave could make mountains crumble!" and then... well, it's Gale. He's just a giant nerd. This one is mostly inspired by some of Lae'zel's lines about him, notably:

"Gale is positively voracious" in reference to his consumption of magic items. I seriously think she sounds kind of aroused, and I think it's hilarious to imagine her getting turned on from watching him consume magical items. Like even she didn't realize she has a thing for that, but then she sees it and feels something stir deep inside.

Also she references his 'immense talents' after Mystra tells him to blow himself up. So it's obvious she thinks highly of him, and I like the idea of her kinda 'wanting' him, but him being too oblivious to realize it. Because let's be honest, they're pretty much exact fucking opposites.

Other than that, I've seen Tav pairings that were cute. I think there's definitely a lot to explore with Lae'zel clashing with different types of people she's not used to. I'd honestly enjoy a fic that was Lae'zel getting rizzed up by a Tav that was just SUPER into her. I like the idea of someone ELSE being the one to take the initiative and Lae'zel not even really being able to comprehend it. Like "I thought everyone on this realm found my people ugly af, why is this one flirting with me so much?"

To that degree, I can see Wyll x Lae'zel. That definitely has the potential to be very cute.

Honestly, Lae'zel x most people can work in my opinion xD just grab your dolls and mash them together.

[leffee]

Vinnil for the otp ask!

Ok, so, since the first person wanted ALL those questions answered with Vinnil, I'm putting all other Vinnil asks I got along with this one because, you know, they will be answered now anyway.

1. Who is the better cook?

Sunil, definitely. Vinnie's not into cooking at all aside from maybe baking sometimes but that's only because he craves cake and sweets, plus he's perfectly fine with buying already ready food from supermarkets or ordering fast food. He can cook a few things but not much. So, Sunil, he likes cooking for himself and has been doing it for a while, moreover he often does that as a way to keep in touch with his Indian roots so he cooks Indian dishes which he really likes. Vinnie's happy to help though.

2. Who gets up to cook at 2am?

I mean, kinda neither? If anyone it's Vinnie, but he doesn't cook, just gets a snack or something in the middle of the night. Unless they're both staying up for whatever reason then Sunil might propose cooking something quick if he gets hungry enough at that hour.

3. Are they into PDA? Who initiates most?

Like with Shahrukh x Sunil, Sunil is not so much while Vinnie is very much. Vinnie LOVES letting other people know that Sunil is HIS boyfriend (satisfies his possessive urges and all), even strangers who won't see them ever again. Sunil on the other hand prefers to be affectionate in private because that's more comfortable for him. It doesn't mean he's 100% against pda or anything, he's fine with holding hands or an occasional hug or kiss (especially knowing how touch-craving Vinnie is), but in private he's much more comfortable with being affectionate and is happy to indulge his boyfriend. So who initiates it more? Well, Sunil actually because Vinnie doesn't wanna make his bf uncomfortable as much as he craves affection, so when it comes to pda he lets Sunil initiate it so that he knows he's fine with it at the moment.

4. Their favorite show to watch together?

I honestly have no idea. I mean, how do I even answer that in a way that everyone will understand? I don't really know american shows and I doubt you all know any polish ones. I could say Shake-a-leg but nah, I don't think Sunil would watch it, or he would but occasionaly not because he likes it but because he wants to spend time with Vinnie. So yeah, idk, maybe they would sometimes like watching some of the quiz-like shows like Who wants to be a millionare, I think they could enjoy those and trying to guess the correct answer.

5. Who is the cheesier one of the two?

Vinnie because omg, he's so in love with Sunil (to an extreme degree yada yada). He practically looks like (,,♡ᵕ♡,,) when looking at Sunil so yeah, he's cheesy especially with his words, though that doesn't mean he can't be more original but stuff like nicknames or cheesy lines are his shit, especially bragging about Sunil to anyone and everyone who will listen, or even if they won't. He's not the cheesiest person ever mind you, but between those two he is the cheesy one because he is just this happy about being in a romantic relationship with Sunil.

6. Who is always, always running late?

As stated in the poly boys ask about that, neither. In short, Sunil doesn't because he's just this kind of person who doesn't like running late plus he's responsible and neither does Vinnie because he likes being with his boyfriend too much. If you wanna know more just read what I said about them in that poly boys reply, but that's the gist it.

7. Who's clumsier?

I mean, do I even need to say anything? Being clumsy is one of Vinnie's defining traits, so him of course. He trips, he falls, bonks his head on things etc. But hey, it's also pretty cute, so it's alright :3. Sunil, if he's close sometimes manages to catch or stabilize him before he can even fall or he falls directly onto Sunil and that's adorable. But I can't say it's all good, Sunil does genuinely get annoyed by this sometimes, because seriously, how on earth does Vinnie trip sometimes seemingly every other step? Plus, it can cause other things to be destroyed, and realistically it irritates him every now and then. But at the end of the day, it's (mostly) not Vinnie's fault and he knows it. He doesn't fall on purpose after all, he doesn't control it.

8. Who is a morning person? Who is a night owl?

Vinnie is a night owl, more often than not he stays up until at least 2 am no matter what. Sunil can stay up but would rather not, if he doesn't get enough sleep he has a terrible day and is so lost. If he does stay up it's when he doesn't have to get up early the next day because he still needs to sleep around 8 hours to feel good. But he's not a morning person either. He likes sleeping long, so unless he falls asleep very quickly (like 10 pm) he won't happily get up early. So, Sunil is neither.

9. Who travels lighter?

What the hall does "travel light" mean? Googles a few things. Ah. Yeah, that would be Vinnie because Sunil definitely thinks a lot about what to take and makes sure he does take it all, while Vinnie can just kinda throw a few closest things into his luggage and he's pretty much good to go. He can take a longer time to do it but he doesn't have to, he feels no need to. Plus, he's perfectly fine with wearing one outfit for a long time while Sunil is more picky, not wanting to wear the same, getting diritier with each day clothes for a longer time, plus he wants to be ready in case of emergencies. So Vinnie takes lighter load.

10. Who is always reminding the other not to forget important documents/general things before leaving out the door?

Sunil reminds Vinnie because he's more worried about such things and needs to make absolute sure they take all the necessary things such as documents. It's not that Vinnie forgets all that often, rather that Sunil really, reaaaally needs to ensure they definitely took all important things.

11. Who leaves notes in the other one's lunch? (Bonus: what do they say?)

Vinnie would be such a sucker for this, oh yes. Cause it has no flaws really, it's a way of showing Sunil support without risking overwhelming him and it's such a nice but simple gesture. He loves making Sunil lunch (even if he's not that into cooking but you know) he will do it if only for the sake of those notes, he always leaves at least one no matter what. It can be very simple, like "Have a nice day, I love you," or something more original and Sunil-specific like "Your eyes are the same as your personality - golden", oh the goof.

12. Who prefers calling to texting (& vice versa)? Bonus: Who is so bad at texting it made the other think they weren't interested when they first started hanging out? [This could be hypothetical as much as real].

Also been stated before in poly boys reply, Sunil texting, Vinnie calling. No one was bad at texting.

13. Stay home/go-out? What are their date nights like?

I think it'd be a mix-up of both. They're both completely fine with having home dates, Sunil is more comfortable like that plus Vinnie likes having everything at hand's reach like food and toilet etc plus he's more than happy not having to dress all fancy (honestly he probably wouldn't do that even if they were going out). When they do go out they often go to some sort of semi-private place like the park (well, it's not really private but not as public as a restuarant, you know what I mean?) but they also like going to a roller rink or an ice rink. Of course, Vinnie keeps tripping but eh, he's used to it and it's worth it to see Sunil having fun once he relaxes.

14. Who falls asleep during a movie?

If anyone, it's Sunil but mostly during movie nights because as stated in one of the previous asks, he's less good with staying up. But at the same time if they did plan a movie night then he's most likely ready for it. Still, it can happen because when compared to Vinnie he's not as good at not sleeping at night. On occasions, Vinnie can fall asleep during a movie if he stayed up one time too much, but it's rare, so Sunil.

15. Who's the first to cry during movies that don't seem sad?

Sunil but only because he's more prone to crying. Vinnie cries rarely, especially around others, so even in he did feel like crying he wouldn't. But still, if the movie is not explicitly sad it's really rare that Sunil will cry.

16. Who hogs the covers?

Vinnie, unintentionally too. My boy is always cold so he already has more covers on his side anyway but it doesn't stop him from hogging Sunil's too. That is when he's really, really out of it like very sleepy or sometimes when drunk. Cause under normal circumstances he wouldn't hog Sunil's covers, he doesn't wanna do it to him plus he genuinely has enough covers already. Listen, Sunil understand the comfort and he likes having more covers sometimes too but man, the sheer number of covers Vinnie can sleep under and not feel too hot is just straight up weird.

17. Who is more competitive?

Mmm as in competitive with each other they're pretty even I think as in both are pretty low on that. Sunil is not that much of a competitive person anyway and Vinnie can be but with different people. In my version he's waaay too obsessed with whoever he's crushing on to want to win when competing with them so in this case with Sunil. Honestly, he'd probably lose anyway because he's poop at most stuff.

18. What are they like when they're drunk? How do they act together? & when 1 is drunk, while the other one's sober?

This one is a repeat again so once more this will be rather short. Vinnie - more impulsive, emotional and cuddly, Sunil - relaxes and becomes chill. So when they are both drunk they can talk for hours about random shit and Sunil simply observes or occasionaly joins in. When only Sunil is drunk Vinnie happily follows him with whatever he wants to do and when only Vinnie is drunk Sunil just kinda lets him run around and do whatever he desires while keeping an eye on him, sometimes. Though a lot of the time he will indulge him because drunk Vinnie is affectionate Vinnie.

19. What do they fight about most often? (Alternative: what was their biggest fight?)

Gaps! Vinnie would never fight with his beloved buuut realistically they mostly argue when the other is too stubborn about something. Mostly, if one says he's fine when he's clearly not "Vinnie, you're literally covered in blood (mm) let me help." "Sunil, really, I can do it myself, you look exhausted." So basically they resort to arguing when everything else fails.

20. Who randomly brings home a stray puppy/kitten to adopt?

Vinnie, but he doesn't bring puppies nor kittens rather he just brings random animals, like he will lead a fox to their house and the other day it will be a ladybug which will always fly away later anyway (he would bring other bugs but of course Sunil is afraid of them). A fox, ladybug, a hedgehog, as long as he's able to bring it home one way or another he will.

21. Any routines one has that the other had to get used to (ex. morning, nighttime, sleeping habits)?

Yeees but at the same time those two had spent so much time together they are already mostly used to each other's routines and know how to work around them - Vinnie's tendency to stay up late into the night and then sometimes sleeping until long houres into the day as well as his constant need for warmth, occasional food binges, contant want to drink energydrinks, there's a lot there. On Sunil's side there's his grumpiness if he doesn't get enough sleep, prefering spicy food, being really loud when asleep... but yeah, they're mostly used to it by the time they're in a romantic relationship.

22. Love languages? How do they get around differences, if any?

Vinnie's most prominent, main one is physical touch while Sunil's main one is a mix of words of affirmation and acts of service because those two are a mix of what someone would have to do to convince him that they truly do love him. And it honestly works pretty well. It might not be his love language but Sunil really likes being physically close with Vinnie anyway, though it's not all perfect because Vinnie craves SO much touch he sometimes needs to restrain himself. But hey, they had been friends before, he can restrain himself. And in Sunil's case acts of service especially are pretty much perfect because once he's in love with someone Vinnie gets so much happiness from it Sunil doesn't even have to say it, Vinnie will happily give up his time for Sunil's sake. Words of affirmation too, Vinnie just buries him under affirmations, though sometimes he gets so excited that he's pretty incoherent with his words, but you know, Sunil gets what he's trying to communicate.

23. Who initiates cuddling more?

Well, Vinnie of course. But at the same time he craves touch so much as you already know, he will often do it indirectly like getting closer and closer to Sunil or touching him in any other way - like putting his feet on Sunil's lap - it's often a sign that he wants cuddles, or well, that he craves physical affection in general.

24. Sleeping/cuddling positions? (Big spoon, little spoon, etc.)?

So many. Sure, Vinnie is a little spoon often because well, he is smaller, but he's also sort of a big spoon sometimes, though with Sunil being much taller it looks more like he's his backpack or something. But also Vinnie sleeping with his head on Sunil chest and/or laying on top of him. Heck, sometimes Vinnie will even lie the other way around, with his head on Sunil's legs and his own legs on Sunil's chest (since he's short enough that lying like that won't cause his legs to be on Sunil's face, yup, I'm very fond of reminding y'all of their height difference, it's my favourite part). Basically any position is possible with those two, like Sunil lying on his side, his arms wrapped around Vinnie one pushing his head to Sunil's chest so he kinda just cradles him. There's much more of those positions but this post is super long with 40 questions, so Imma end it here.

25. What do they like about each other?

Vinnie being his obsessive self likes basically everything about Sunil, the good the "bad" and the neutral. As I stated somewhere before, once Vinnie's in love with someone that someone becomes perfect in his eyes, it's not that Sunil's eye color is perfect because it's gold, no no, it's that gold is the best eye color because it's Sunil's, get it? As for what Sunil likes about Vinnie? Nothing, he's a loser. Naaah, I'm just kidding, I just like tormenting my boy. Sunil likes Vinnie's determination, once he really has a goal set he will never stop trying to achieve that goal. That, as well as having a pretty neutral approach to most things, like Vinnie will almost never assume someone is bad and so dislike the person at first sight, or he's neutral about let's say body types. He doesn't think one is better than the other, they just are there and they sure do exist. Also, he likes Vinnie's shortness, he thinks it's adorable though he won't say it around Vinnie too often because he knows Vinnie's insecure about it even if Sunil himself likes it.

26. Who is prone to road rage?

Vinnie but Sunil is not immune either. Vinnie is less patient in general so when something happens on the road he's irritated especially when that something is traffic, oh he can't stand it for a prolonged time. Other stuff too, like if someone drives too slowly or gets into his lane without a warning he gets pissed nevermind if it repeats. As I said, Sunil's not immune either but he's more prone if he had had already been irritated before going onto the road or if it happens one time too often during one trip.

27. Craziest place they had sex?

Skipping this one, sex-repulsed, blah blah plus in my headcanon they are all asexual (for my comfort mostly and just because).

28. Who always steals the other's food? How does their partner react to it?

Vinnie, but he doesn't so much steal Sunil's food because Sunil very often happily gives him his food on his own free will, that or Sunil has food that Vinnie wouldn't wanna eat anyway and then he doesn't "steal". In short: Vinnie's the more hungry of the two a lot of the time so if Sunil has something he doesn't want to eat he will just give it to Vinnie who will devour it.

29. First date? (Give as much or little detail)

I think their first date would be some sort of picnic date or something akin to that. The thing is, when they started dating they had already been best friends for years so their first date wouldn't need to be something exciting, they had already done many exciting things before. Instead, they would need a quieter moment to discuss their newfound romantic relationship, so yeah, a picnin or something like that in some private or at least semi-private spot.

30. Pet names? Yes or no?

Another repeat from earlier ask about boys poly but I honestly can't imagine them using pet names, they don't dislike them per se, but they don't really use them, not their style I suppose. They are more into name variations like Vin and Sunster, idk, I just can't imagine either of them casually calling the other sweetheart or my love. But Sunil does sometimes calls Vinnie "cutie".

31. How do they spend their anniversary?

If possible, they spend their anniversaries relaxing, forgetting for a while about the ever rushing life and just being with each other. They don't do anything "special", they just are together. They might cuddle, take a shower together long and hot, cook and bake without stressing, stuff like that. One thing they also do is give each other gifts, it's an unspoken rule, they never said they should buy/make each other gifts and it's not like they would get mad if the other didn't give them anything, but as for now they have never missed a gift, even if it's a small one.

32. Who's so affectionate they can't stop touching the other?

Oh boy, I mean they both are super into touching each other (I mean, they're like that in canon too) but Vinnie is sooo super into physical touch, he revels in it, both touching and being touched. While he doesn't do it as much as he'd like to (he still does it a LOT but he wants to do it all the time basically). He just clings to Sunil and craves Sunil touching him but tries not to be too desperate, because as into touch as his boyfriend is he's still not as touch-starved as Vinnie.

33. What is their wedding day like?

Hmm, I never thought about that since for some reason I don't like fictional wedding. But I think they'd do a small-ish wedding for only the people they really want there, they wouldn't for example invite Sunil's more distant relatives. Why small-ish? Well, because they'd rather have that money for the honeymoon. But they'd still have quite a lot of food and some attractions, but while they do care about their wedding day it is just one day in their entire life, and they don't need it to be grand to know that they love each other.

34. How do they cheer the other one up during sad times?

Vinnie cheers Sunil up by being there for him and being ready to do something if needed, no matter what it is, if Sunil tells him that doing this or that will help him feel better Vinnie will do it. But he's mostly just there for him ready with reassuring words, though he can be a little over the top, doing something even if Sunil didn't ask him to just because he hates seeing Sunil sad so much. As for when Vinnie is sad? Sunil encourages him to express it because Vinnie will more often than not pretend that everything is fine/he can take it no matter what. He also hugs him and all that physical affection knowing how much Vinnie loves it and that it will help no matter what. Aside from that, Sunil brings him snacks because he knows Vinnie stress-eats as well as does the stuff Vinnie likes doing together with him xlike hot showers/baths.

35. What are their tastes in music?

Vinnie's taste in music is basically - he likes what he likes, there's no pattern here, he can like a rock song as much as a metal or pop one. Though he has a special spot for edm genres - like dubstep or techno. Sunil is not against any music genres either but he's a big fan of acoustic music especilly. Pretty contrasting one could say but no, not exactly since they are both fine with anything (partially also because I have no first clue about music genres actually).

36. Who is more protective?

Vinnie because he's more possesive, jealous and guard-dog coded (I said it so it's true). In other words, he will bite if needed, or sometimes even not needed, just don't hurt Sunil, don't even try and you'll be fine. Probably. Vinnie's a little paranoid over stuff like that.

37. Who wanted to see Oppenheimer; who Barbie? Did they switch opinions after?

I just don't think they cared about neither xd. Sorry, but I was not into the whole Barbenheimer at all, so I really do not care and so I think they didn't care either, it just flew past them.

38. If/when they have kids, what is their parenting style (or pets-who does what)?

They wouldn't have kids (because I hate the little feckers) but pets? Sure, why not, they can have a dog or something, never really thought about it, but if they had a dog or something Vinnie would go on walks with it more often while Sunil would keep an eye on dog's food and water, making sure it has enough. They both would play with it, but Vinnie probably more. I imagine if they needed to go to a humanarian vet they would both go. Stuff like that.

39. Do they get along with the other's family? If not, how do they deal with the other's family?

I wrote about Vinnie adoring Sunil's parents and them adoring him back many times so yeah, Vinnie is definitely getting along with Sunil's family, he's basically their second son, I mean aside from the fact that their son dating also their son sounds weird. But you know, he's their son not their actual son. As for Vinnie's mom, well, she's terrible, so of course Sunil doesn't get along with her but it's not like he gets to see her often and neither does Vinnie, fortunately for him. They just ignore her mostly.

40. Who is the skilled shopper for holidays? Who always waits 'til the last minute to get all of their gifts? (Which one gets stressed out easily)?

In general, Sunil is more skilled because he's more organized so he makes sure to buy everything and enough of it he doesn't wait till the last minute to buy gifts neither. But neither does Vinnie because he's excited to buy gifts, so he actually does that early or on time. Still, even if Sunil is more organized and does things on time he's the one more stressed out about holidays.

Here, all forty questions answered with Vinnil! Now to do that with Zoe x Pepper *dies*

[lover-of-mine]

thank you for answering my asks!! I'm glad you're doing better & they weren't too much & you enjoy these!

and yeah the more I think about it the less I want like jealous Eddie & more confused Eddie? Like he looks so happy every time Buck & Tommy are like getting along so I'd love for him to be happy about it but maybe feel a little off? Like about Buck/Tommy dating. Like he's happy for them bc his new friend & best friend are dating & they're both so great & he gets to keep hanging out with them individually but together he's like ??? But thinking about it I don't think he'd get jealous I think he'd double down on being supportive?? Like he's so happy for Buck exploring this new part of himself & with someone like Tommy who's cool & nice & someone Eddie trusts and Tommy is dating Buck who Eddie loves so much so it's like of course he's happy for him too? So he tries to make sure he's not getting in the way of it & being supportive with both of them.

But! Tommy seemed happy to also see Eddie in the promo so I'm hoping since he also was like "yeah we are good as friends & it's okay for him to have more than one" that Tommy will continue to initiate/hang out with him. I hope if Buck is weird about the date it's just like panicking bc he wasn't maybe ready to tell Eddie? (Bc it's scary & new & his Eddie feelings are tied up in it even if he isn't aware of that but also!!! Buck feeling guilty bc he was all weird about their friendship & now is dating Tommy & like idk I kinda want him to panic like "I'm not trying to steal your new friend! I know I was a dick about it but I really like kissing him & want to keep doing so!" or something? Idk lol bc now it's like "well how do I explain this to Eddie after doing all of that??" it's kinda embarrassing like he's gonna go to Maddie & say "yeah so remember when I was all mad about Tommy? Um well now we're dating actually" I want to have all the love & support but also they never stop teasing him over being an absolute disaster about it) (I love him so much)

So yeah. I'm hopeful that going forward we'll leave the jealousy tension with Tommy behind bc I think you're right it would be boring and honestly Eddie seems like he'd be so happy but also again feel Weird but when he sees like Buck being all adorable & flustered & happy when Tommy does something cute or romantic & he's not mad or upset, he's just like idk kinda how with Ana things felt Weird but it took him a bit to figure out why bc he liked her well enough & she was beautiful & Chris loved her so like he was like why am I not happier about this? Why do I get a weird flutter in my chest or tightness in my stomach when Buck looks at Tommy like that? and just responds by like being extra supportive (and eventually having to talk to someone like "why do I feel weird about this? am I a bad friend? am I homophobic?" and it's like no you're sad bc you want to be kissing Buck!!!) so idk maybe it's too close to the jealousy but yeah I don't want it to create tension in that way. Also I'd love him to be able to talk to Tommy about it? Like Tommy clocks it and is like "is this weird for you?" & Eddie's like no no I'm happy for you two really (bc he is but also???) and just idk if that makes sense but basically I want Buddie to talk & be like we will be more open with each other & there's no weird tension with Tommy bc they've moved past that & he's like gets to be something in both their lives while also a catalyst for them getting together (lmao what if he was in their wedding party?? "Eddie Chris is already your best man,at least let me have Tommy as a groomsmen?" "Tommy & I are really more friends than you two are tho" "what? We're close tho, I have literally been inside of him" ". . ." ". . .yeah okay, but I get Chim then.") (is it crack yes but it makes me laugh) and I am just repeating myself over and over but yesssss the end

Okay, I will talk about it all but the idea of buddie having Buck's ex in the wedding party made me cackle oasokasasokasokas we love to paint Eddie as possessive but this would be so funny lolololol

Okay, I think Eddie will be aggressively supportive, like, overcompensating levels of supportive, buying bi flags for Buck supportive, especially with the whole Buck feeling left out thing, I think he would go intense about it, and not even fully realize it seems like he's compensating for something. But the thing here really is how they'll deal with Tommy and Eddie with it all, because Eddie like Tommy, so I don't see him reacting all that extremely the way he did with Taylor for instance, but at the same time, I kinda want Eddie to do a double take every time he sees Buck and Tommy together. But you can't really play the jealousy angle while Buck and Tommy are still together, because the switch would be weird. So, really, I have no idea how to play this situation, buddie do need to talk about Tommy in the middle of them, but how does Tommy actually fit in the middle here?

[wintercloudburst]

What I’ve Done chapter fifteen thoughts, for those interested (but mainly for myself)

*SPOILERS*

wooowww what a chapter!!! this has been one of those chapters that i really really didn't want to write when i first outlined the story, mainly cause i felt like i wasn't very good at portraying dialogue and romantic tension when i outlined, but low and behold i think i've kinda improved through practice!

Alright lets begin breaking my thought process down.

The confession/the poem:

this was something i had kinda planned a while ago to include, I had written Adora's confession a few months ago, specifically the "i loved you since you were 13.." speech, my main motivation writing this confession was invoking gilbert x anne vibes or laurie's speech in little women, cause i feel like those are such staples in romantic confessions. I wanted it to feel so important, like Adora had been holding onto these huge feelings on her own for so long, and she finally was allowed to express them. Initially I had written this as dialogue, but i liked the thought of Adora writing a love poem and wanted to include it.. Point being: i had a lot of ways i wished Adora could confess through and decided on using them all in different ways.

When i begun writing i knew i wanted the poem to be a push for Catra but had actually no idea how the scene would play out, as i started writing i guess it makes a good juxtaposition between the beginning of their story and the end: she's been running away from adora all this time, but this time she runs towards her.

THe date was HEAVILY inspired by my first date with my girlfriend, i wanted them to have a cute date and all i could come up with were my own experiences so i used them to my benefit. Also I'm always rating our dates and the movies we watch so i thought what the hell might as well incorporate this cute little ritual as a way for them to break the ice.

I really wanted the chapter to be kinda divided evenly between their povs, and initially was going to write Adora's pov on the sex scene, but i like this version a lot better! I was also going to end this chapter on a cliff hanger but i decided against it! leaving the other scene for the last chapter, instead.

The title of the chapter is based on Humpty by Mitski, i wanted this self sabotaging feeling to come through for Catra's pov, of preparing for the end before things have even started, which is a feeling that I in my own personal life have dealt with. Starting a healthy relationship when Catra has grown so used to toxic situations is something that definitely would make her feel out of her depth. I hope i was able to translate that well!

Last point: the smut was a STRUGGLE I felt really out of my comfort zone writing it, but i wanted to challenge myself and im honestly pretty proud of it. Im a strong believer in the Catra service top supremacy, specially for This Catra, so... yea I loved the thought of both Adora and Catra having experiences where they weren't in their element during sex (adora taking a more dominant role and catra a more submissive one) and then somehow being completely opposite in their relationship and actually finding they like this new way much better? Idk! I wanted them to subvert one another's expectations.

Final thoughts: I loved writing this chapter and i hope you all enjoyed it too! If you read all of this... damn thank you!

[epiphainie]

how'd you rank buck's love interests sans tommy

Like how much I liked them as characters or as a couple? Or how much I enjoyed watching the story? Not really a rank but sure I'll tell my thoughts.

Abby - This relationship on paper was sooo interesting to me at the beginning, not because they were gonna make the greatest romance story of all time but I loved what they were building with the dynamic with the age gap and where they were individually in life. But as I was watching it develop, I thought it was a bit boring. Like they were so many things they could explore with it but didn't. I didn't really care about Abby that much but she was fine, also she was a main character who had her own issues and personality and all that which worked better imo. I think I enjoy their relationship more with the context of season 2. Buck still pining for her and waiting for months is the saddest thing and her return and them finally having some conclusion... like I cry each time lol. He really loved her so much, it makes me a bit sick when I think about it.

Taylor - Okay, her first appearance I out loud said "omg she's so unlikable" but their S2 fuckbuddies dynamic was soooo hot. S4 friends-who-don't-wanna-fuck-at-all dynamic was better, I was very entertained while watching that. As a couple they were a bit boring and lost the chemistry, mainly because I think they were set up to fail. The episodes where they tried to build some sort of backstory for Taylor feels so up in the air. They had potential imo but the production didn't commit to it. Also Buck cheating on her was bad but him not being able to deal with the guilt and telling her AFTER he basically trapped her in his place was the worst thing he's ever done in this show, like worse than the lawsuit imo. It makes sense in the context of his characterization and backstory obv but Taylor was too nice about it. Taylor's expose was mean as well but like not in a "this is fun to watch" way as their earlier dynamic, they just never were set up for success. Glad Buck learned to end a relationship when it's not working tho.

Lucy - I don't know if we're counting her but I was big on Lucy when she was introduced. I didn't even mind the cheating that much tbh (except for how it all went for BuckTaylor like i said). Like I can see an alternate reality where the show acknowledges that initial attraction with that ill-advised kissing scene, then like a season down the road after Taylor is gone and Buck and Lucy has built a working/friends relationship the romantic possibility is brought back. Again I don't know if this was something to do with the actress because S5 ends with that scene of the 118 including Lucy and Ravi so you'd think she'll have a permanent recurring role next season, then it's entirely dropped and her character goes through all these changes (she's presented as less experienced than Buck at one point? then she's transfering to become a captain?) Idk but I love Lucy, not as Buck's love interest at this point but I think she has so much potential as a character.

Ali - The only reason she's higher than Natalia is because I liked her energy in the earthquake episodes and genuinely thought they were gonna go somewhere at the end of Buck Actually. Like I had no idea she was gonna break up with him on her next appearance? Lol I dunno, was it like an actor availability thing again because they don't even have a proper break up. Also honestly thinking back, I think I liked her chemistry with Eddie more, she should have called him instead.

Natalia - Eh I don't have anything to say about this, it started too late and on weak legs (and with a very forced couch metaphor that pushed the writers into a corner) and ended too prematurely. Feel a bit bad about how it became recontextualized as a nothing of a relationship after S6 making Buck say all that about her. At the end of the day, they were two pretty people kissing on my screen tho which I always like.

[innitmarvellous]

I rarely talk about manga here because this blog is mostly about other things, but…I've been reading the first two volumes of this manga series and wanted to write down some very random thoughts and I've got no idea where else to put them. So, Tumblr it is, obviously. ^^ (Maybe someone even reads it on here, because my German anime/manga blog is pretty much dead)

Anyway, first off, this is the first manga about asexuality I have ever come across. That's why I became interested in it in the first place. And while there are some issues with it, it was also a pretty interesting read. In some regards I could relate to the main character - even though she's asexual (the Japanese use of the term apparently also includes being aromantic, so judging from the story I'd say she's both), she's also an avid fan of boys love manga and loves to ship her favourite pairings. And of course people don't understand how that's possible. Why does she care for the character's love lives, when she apparently can't feel romantic love herself? The manga gives a pretty nice explanation for it actually, showing how people can enjoy things for what they are even if they can't fully relate themselves - and that they might just want to see the beauty in human relationships etc. (I don't think it's that deep for me, I just…idk, sometimes think that two people might make a nice couple because of their chemistry etc and then I ship them? lol) But the biggest point in the story is that she enters into a pretend marriage with a gay man who can't get over his childhood crush (as a way of dealing with societal expectations)…and I sort of really liked the way their relationship was portrayed. After initial difficulties they become a pretty nice couple, even without romantic or sexual attraction for each other. And that's just something that's rarely seen in manga, so that was really nice to see.

Well, and all of this made me think…I usually don't really actively seek out romance stories and often enough I rather avoid them because they always feel sort of depressing to me, especially if I'm not in the right mindset when reading them. Romance stories usually make me feel like I'm lacking something, and that obviously doesn't really make me enjoy them. But oddly enough, no 'normal' love story has ever depressed me as much as this version of an asexual/platonic love story. Probably because I can't really relate to the other ones at all, but I could relate to this one…and honestly, it made me feel sort of envious. I also wouldn't mind having a relationship like that, but that's obviously pretty unrealistic. (But now I'm even more confused about why people would ever choose to watch/read a love story while they're single and craving a relationship with someone. That…can't be very fun, having to watch the very thing you want but can't seem to get? Where's the enjoyment in that? Or am I just being weird here?) Anyway, sorry for the lengthy rant - this is just my personal view and not the manga's fault. ^^

[pacifistcowboy]

You've been posting about how you're experiencing your first crush and are kinda freaking out about it and I just want to say that how you're reacting is understandable and reasonable. This is your first crush, you're experiencing something new alot later than expected and from the sounds of it, it isn't exactly a small one either so it's alot of new experiences at once so it can be overwhelming. Once the initial surprise wears off then you can start working out your feelings better.

(you’re not required to read all this btw dndjejf)

thank you 🥹🥹🥹 hilariously, i’ve actually been in a romantic relationship before, so this technically shouldn’t be my first crush, but that relationship was when i was twelve and we met n started dating completely online over text, and when we met up in person my feelings for them went away and we never acted couple-y irl shxhshfhefh.

then there was the guy who joined my class in secondary school and became my friend, then i think he accidentally became my special interest which was really unpleasant ‘cus i became obsessed with an actual guy i knew personally. i told him how i felt n he didn’t reciprocate but he was okay with remaining friends which was great! it was weird tho ‘cus i never wanted to like kiss him or anything, i just wanted to be around him all the time and like, be his best friend but a more official title? idk. he went back to america but the last time he visited i got to confirm my feelings for him were completely gone, now i just find him to b a good friend :]

but now there’s this fucker. and everything’s different.

i think the thing is that when we first interacted i got the vibe that he might’ve liked me even before i liked him so it wasn’t just wishful thinking, so i guess i felt like this wasn’t one-sided so i kinda let my feelings run wild?? but idk now. the first time we interacted he told me he doesn’t like touching people, but for some reason i was an exception, and for a while i was the only person he seemed to touch via like handshaking, grabbin’ my shoulder, puttin’ an arm around me, and the weirdest part was that i like it!! i typically don’t like being touched by ppl i barely know, but from the first day we met i didn’t mind him touching me, it’s bizarre. ANYWAY he touches our other friends too now n i feel less special n also worry that i totally misread the vibes from the first day enejfjehfh.

oh yeah my point was he was so touchy with me before i even got the crush on him, so i’m way more open to the thought of typical romantic-y physical affection with this guy than i have ever been with anyone. like. i wanna cuddle and hold hands and hmaybekiss??????? i’ve never felt like that with someone. i wanted to be near the guy from secondary school but i never wanted to ki s s someone before.

and i want to be his boyfriend. like for sure. with the last guy i didn’t know what i wanted with him, but i want to be this guy’s boyfriend. i want him to be my boyfriend. it’s nuts.

luckily this crush is causing me way less anxiety than the last one did tho! i’m kinda just always excited to see him n honestly feel like i could potentially get brave enough to tell him how i feel, even if it’s just so he can reject me and i can nip this in the bud lol. i just had no idea i was capable of feeling this way towards someone, i was pretty sure i was aromantic for a while! thank u for the reassurance, it’s a wild ride that hopefully calms down soon :]

[children-of-epiales]

Let's freaking go bois YEEEEEEE

♥️👙Á👠🍒👅☂️☜☞∀ for my beloved Lara and Sage and/or Reaper and Sens or Fury and Plague idk dealer's choice <3

For you my Beloved Bestie, I shall do all 3!

Death & Her Mercy (Rouen "Reaper" BlakexNéon “Sens” Ngoma Mutombo ||Rainbow Six Siege)

❤ : Where on their body is your muse most sensitive?

My gal is most sensitive along her bikini area, inner thighs, neck (more toward her collarbone) and hip dips. Anyone who wants to be handsy and touches her there will def get a reaction (fun fact: her thighs are very ticklish, which Sens would probably find out very quickly).

For Sens, I think they're the type to be sensitive on the neck and their ears. Reaper finds this out when she actually tries to whisper in Sens' ear about something normal and she startles them.

👙-Favorite outfit in the bedroom?

Reaper isn't actually into dressing up for specific occasions, but she would try; this being said, she tries to stay between keeping it "simple" and adding a lil bit more Spice when she's feeling bold. So she'll probably wear some nice lingerie (not the complex strappy stuff but different stuff) under either a nightie, a mesh dress, or a regular oversized shirt. She does own Nice nightgowns that she originally wears for herself when she's feeling Fancy, but ofc she gets even to show them off to Sens.

Idk if this counts as an "outfit", though Reaper does like to see Sens in those tanks they wear (example in the vector glare siege story). That and something like unbuttoned beach shirts (example like the Hawaiian vacation shirts), or anything that Sens can wear loosely.

Á : Is your muse loud in bed?

While I think they are on the same level when it comes to making noise, Reaper takes the cake as the loudest; when they first start having sex, Reaper tries desperately to Be Quiet and always ends up failing miserably since she moans and curses and gasps more than Sens does. Sens can make their fair share of noise too, but they save it for my gal's ears, and I think Sens is more heavy breathing, gasping, and some moaning in comparison.

👠-Do they watch pornography? If so, what kind?

Reaper doesn't watch porn bc she personally doesn't care for it and knows 99.9% of porn is meant for guys anyway. Sens actually just doesn't strike me as someone who would be into it either, maybe they would do it, with Reaper's permission or ask if they could watch something together, for new spicy ideas?

🍒-When and how did they lose their virginity, if they have?

Reaper would have no shame in revealing that she, in her late twenties, is still a virgin. She never really had the opportunity to have sex when she was younger, nor was she interested in doing so due to sex being something really personal for her.

Again, I'm not sure if Sens would have done the tango. They're very sweet and sociable, not that that has to mean they've had sex nor that they've had a romantic relationship. Honestly idk, I think if they did, maybe in their early-mid twenties? Comfort sex or a friends-with-benefits thing?

👅-Would they rather give or receive oral sex?

Reaper loves to receive, so she offers to give so much in exchange.

Sens feels like a giver, so I think there's some balance here.

☂ : How long does it take your muse to hit climax, usually?

Sooooo Reaper actually takes a lil minute before hits climax (it sounds weird to give an amount of time, but so I'm not vague about this, I'm taking 30 minutes minmum, even if she's initially in The Mood unless that's not a long time idk).

I think it depends for Sens, if they're in The Mood I think they climax pretty quickly (10-15 minutes), otherwise they don't take too long nor too soon.

☜ : Does your muse like to top?/☞ : Does your muse like to bottom?

Reaper is a Bottom, like she can try to top but it'll look just too cute.

Me thinks Sens could be a pro at switching.

∀ : Your muse’s favorite position?

Reaper: missionary, lotus, from behind (preferably standing and/or against a wall, also pinned), missionary with legs over the shoulders

Sens: cowgirl, spooning but facing each other, facing each other against the wall/on a counter, standing missionary

*****

A Game of Cat & Mouse (Lorelei "Plague" CapuletxLuna "Fury" Pajeot ||Rainbow Six Siege)

❤ : Where on their body is your muse most sensitive?

Fury's most sensitive spots are her inner thighs and behind her knees, and her navel and lower stomach.

Plague's spots are their shoulder blades, sides and lower back, and their scalp.

👙-Favorite outfit in the bedroom?

Fury's motto is "comfort is sexy" (jk), so wearing baggy clothes, pajamas, etc. actually gets her going (especially when it makes it easier for her to reach the Spots), and she is not afraid to admit she's a sucker for the fancy military uniforms in the bedroom.

Plague isn't really into the whole outfit thing, so they go with whatever Luna likes.

Á : Is your muse loud in bed?

Luna is not loud in bed; she's a heavy breather, soft moaner, and sometimes even giggles (that's just her).

Plague is not loud either actually. They curse, groan, and (thought they fruitlessly try not to) even whimper, but none of it gets past the room.

👠-Do they watch pornography? If so, what kind?

Luna does occasionally, strictly lesbian and/or masturbation, she'll offer Plague to watch it with her if they feel up to it.

Plague doesn't watch porn. They discovered it when they were younger and it was Not The Right time, of course that was awhile ago and they know Luna doesn't watch "extreme" stuff so it's fine.

🍒-When and how did they lose their virginity, if they have?

Luna masturbated when she was younger, which I'm not sure if that counts (some ppl says it does, I wouldn't so I'll count this as a fun fact). Otherwise, she has no experience before Plague.

Plague is not experienced in anything at all. They grew up in a very straight-laced family and when they got their freedom, sex was not one of the things on their mind.

👅-Would they rather give or receive oral sex?

Both Fury and Plague are givers, really. Between the two though, Luna leans more toward giving or receiving.

☂ : How long does it take your muse to hit climax, usually?

Luna usually climaxes first. It doesn't take her very long at all.

Plague definitely takes longer, especially when they have sex with Fury for the first time, and they become more comfortable over time.

☜ : Does your muse like to top?/☞ : Does your muse like to bottom?

Fury is the top, literally every time (which she has no complaints about), and Plague is the bottom.

∀ : Your muse’s favorite position?

Fury: really anything that doesn't require flexibility (bc my pilot is NOT flexible)

Plague: spooning, missionary, lotus, reverse cowgirl, etc (anything where they can be close to Fury)

*****

Falling Into Your Spells (Lara Darling-JóźwiakxSage O'Malley ||Fandomless)

❤ : Where on their body is your muse most sensitive?

Lara's sensitive spots are her inner wrists/forearms, hips, the small of her back & lower back, and her mouth.

Sage's are his neck (especially the nape), shoulders/shoulder blades, and stomach/lower stomach.

👙-Favorite outfit in the bedroom?

These two are the kind that have certain clothes that the other gets really turned on by, which they do take advantage of (they do try and wear clothing that pair well together, so it's not random or mismatched).

Á : Is your muse loud in bed?

They are both loud ones, except Lara's the one who's embarrassed about it. She lets out the high-pitched squeals and cries and can curse and ramble but Sage is the most talkative of the two.

👠-Do they watch pornography? If so, what kind?

Once in a blue moon they might watch a video or two to get things going. It's not really their thing.

🍒-When and how did they lose their virginity, if they have?

Lara experienced oral sex once and that was it. Otherwise, they both have no experience.

👅-Would they rather give or receive oral sex?

Lara really is both a giver and receiver, while Sage is a giver.

☂ : How long does it take your muse to hit climax, usually?

They both take awhile (20-30 minutes), though Lara usually finishes first.

☜ : Does your muse like to top?/ ☞ : Does your muse like to bottom?

Sage is a switch that prefers to top, and Lara is a bottom.

∀ : Your muse’s favorite position?

Lara: spooning, doggy style, doggy style with bottom up, cowgirl/reverse cowgirl, sitting (this one sounds weird ik)

Sage: missionary (modified), spooning (modified), reverse sitting, spooning, doggy style standing

[limeade-l3sbian]

Am I crazy or have men gotten… meaner? Like idk it feels so much worse to me.

I miss my innocence and I think there’s an increased loss of it in society in general.

I told this therapist I was sad I had not experienced romantic love. She dismissed me and said it could happen at any age which was frustrating because men are abusive.

My father would sexually abuse me and tell me “this is how guys are” and it traumatized me.

I was raised Mormon and confused by the fact I felt like if I dated someone who was also Mormon it would have to be in secret… which was confusing because I was taught by church and community that that my role as a woman was to get married. I was attracted to the idea I think of being “rescued”. He’d say “this is how guys are” but I dated someone in secret off and on/he wanted commitment I couldn’t give it /was scared I was being threatened.

Now I’m no contact in free and feel violated and disgusting I’m traumatized. I miss my innocence and I think it’s honestly triggering seeing how nasty men are because that’s how my father said they are and I miss the fantasy/hope of someone decent and I just feel numb by the gaslighting by how men are I’ve had therapists judge me for being single and suggest something I’d wrong with me.

I got dismissed. “It can happen at any age.” Men are terrifying they’re triggering to see online. Rating women /asking women to rate themselves; j make sure to,/have to take care of my mental health by not reading their comments. I often make my mental health worse when I engage. I do think they’re bad for mental health.

I feel frustrated that in therapy spaces they refuse to hold space for the trauma and suggest there’s “good men out there” I really think they’re more cruel now. I get negged more often. (I was constantly called beautiful growing up, the cruel comments as I’ve gotten older feel like a betrayal.)

I worry my sexuality can never heal. I know not to engage with men for my mental health. It never feels safe to grieve the betrayal because there’s a denial of male violence. Like “it can happen at any age” was what I was told, my therapist judged me as pitiful for being single. Frustrating.

I miss when I was Mormon, some folks really didn’t watch porn/ I didn’t realize I was being abused till I realized I didn’t believe sex before marriage was immoral, as long as it was loving; I realized what I was going home to was sexual abuse. I was not safe, so I pulled away after initiating. I feel traumatized. I never got to be an innocent child. Never had had someone hold space for me before and felt loved so initiated but there was like a mutuality in that and I feel anguish and rage and I’ve felt it ever since that day; I don’t trust anyone anymore. Not since I was 15.

My own father wanted to rape me my mother hated me.

I am so triggered by the misogyny, I know how men think because of how I was raised and in seeing politically and on social media (I was isolated I spent most my time on social media, since I was a teen, trying to reduce it in my early 30’s,) and I’m just feeling like it’s gotten so much worse. From TRA shit to the normalization of Bdsm and porn. I feel scared and unsafe most days.

The best thing that I can offer you in terms of your fears that things with men have gotten worse and that you have a feeling of unsafety is that you are not crazy or even, really, wrong. With the addition of your undeserved abuse suffered from your father, men have become significantly more aggressive in their attempts to control and "dominate" women.

This is done as a feeling of lack of control. Women have been gaining more and more, not just rights, but independence in thought, expression, and defiance. They know that as women, we are no longer beholden to their exception-filled contracts of marriage. You can fully be an independent woman who never needs the help of a man again, and that enrages them.

The "not all men" trope from therapists is a common one. It is their "job" to remain impartial and sit on the fence of such things. But just by feeling frustration from it, it's obvious you see how reductive this is.

That you have pulled off no contact and seek to heal is something that takes INSANE strength. Like, an insane amount of strength, anon. I hope you don't take all the steps you have already taken lightly. These are things that most people can only dream of pulling off, be that because they literally can't or they don't feel strong enough to.

It is okay to grieve the time you should have felt innocent. It was taken from you, no question, by a monster who used religious doctrine to insinuate that it was somehow a lesson on the real world. And if no one in your life has ever told you that they're sorry that these things happened to you or that you deserved better, I hope you hear me loud and clear. You did NOT deserve those horrors and I am so, so sorry that you were given the burden of such trauma. I am so sorry, anon.

So, what can you do?

These feelings of having not been cared for, having been loved, and not having someone hold space for you. These are often close associated with romantic relationships. I think that a way to continue your healing is to find groups of women to connect with. Whether that is through a sort of therapy circle of your past traumas, a group of women in which you share similar hobbies, etc..

I can't stress enough to you how connecting with women, face to face, healed a great deal of my own trauma. We spoke so freely with one another and there formed such a quick sisterhood. The feeling is unreal. I think this would be an amazing step for you. Social media picks and chooses what to show you to evoke shock, rage (rage-baiting has gotten so much worse), or laughter.

Even if it is also Tumblr, it would be best to step away from it. ESPECIALLY Tiktok and Twitter. I don't know if you use these, but they are cesspools of rage-baiting and causing stress. I took a break myself because the things the app was choosing to show me were meant to make me angry, and it did.

I've learned a lot about the ugly side of therapy from a lot of gyns on here, so I no longer feel right simply saying "and find a better therapist!" because that search might be traumatizing on its own. I understand the desire for love and to feel that special connection with someone. But it might be best, with you feeling so much internal turmoil, to focus on the wellness of your mind rather than the desires of the heart.

I wish I had more profound ideas and thoughts that could heal you as soon as you read this, but I'm just a silly little blogger woman trying to figure things out myself lol. But I wouldn't mind figuring all these things out with you and every other gyn here. <3

If you ever want to talk, I keep my DMs open at all times and if you just want to message through Ask, that's all good too. I wish you the absolute best of luck, anon.

[ifidiedinadream]

Oh but now I'm thinking about a Aleksi/Olli first time where maybe it's aleksi's first time ever or he just tries to bottom for the first time, and as first times sometimes go, it's just mostly kinda weird - actually yeah let's say aleksi's first time ever - and nothing works the way they imagined it (I'm sure aleksi has imagined quite a lot in his dirty little mind about how it'd be to have olli above and inside him, especially after he saw his dick for the first time), aleksi didn't quite figure out how to make the bj good for olli, and when they try to fuck, aleksi can't get himself to relax enough to let olli in and it's just uncomfortable and kinda hurts everytime olli tries. idk if they try a different position or to ease aleksi up with some rimming or sth or just postpone it to a different time, but i can see aleksi getting really frustrated and being torn between "fuck this hurts, let's stop" and "fuck that just push inside me quick, let's get the initial hurt over with" but olli would be so insistent that while first times can be a bit uncomfortable, sex is never supposed to hurt (unless yk you want that) and he's not going to just start fucking aleksi and they can wait or try something else or try another time, but he's not just going to fuck aleksi before he's ready to "get something over with". and maybe aleksi realises he's in fact not ready for penetrative sex yet or maybe he is but his body isn't that day and he agrees to try another time and asks olli if he can try blowing him again or they stop completely to just make out and cuddle again.

idk there's just something about aleksi being nervous about his first time (with a guy?) and it not going like he imagined it that I love. I mean I do think first times can be completely great and with no discomfort, but they also CAN be uncomfortable or even hurt and then it should be much more acceptable to just stop and try another time instead of going "that's just what first times are like, suck it up and it'll be better next time".

okay listen i read this this morning and i didn't really know how to feel about it 🤔

the idea is lovely! a story like this would entail that olli cares a lot for aleksi and i adore me some romantic smut with feelings 🥰 but i tend to identify a lot with the characters i love and i think i'd be the exact same as aleksi here. i'd be very frustrated like probably to the point of tears 😂 and i remember my first time being a very positive experience thankfully but HURTING like nothing ever hurt before. the fact that you're claiming first times can be painless is new to me, and i really wanna do some research about it because it could make my view shift on many things 🤔 but then again i have a vagina and i never had anal so maybe it's different? all i'm saying is i don't know if the first time you have vaginal sex can actually be painless FOR EVERY PERSON because maybe if i was "built" different or if i was a less anxious person or. idk. maybe it could've been painless but then again with the way i am anatomically/psychologically i just don't think there could've been a way for it to be painless honestly

then again vaginal sex and anal sex are different so i digress from your ask but i found it very interesting and now i wanna delve into this and read more about it 🤔🤔🤔

"that's just what first times are like, suck it up and it'll be better next time" is literally all ive ever thought about first times 😂

[fox-buried-in-maple-leaves]

soft oc asks 1-16 for eloi please !!

Is your OC a hugger or do they not like that sort of affection? Do they initiate a hug or get roped into them?

Not really a hugger, also hates being hit with surprise affection, activates his fight or flight response. To which, he typically fights. All around bad idea! But if asked he's very affectionate!! he's also quite affectionate in private :) loves loves hugs in private.

Does your OC have any endearing qualities?

His dependability? Very dependable, 10/10. He'll usually get the job done anyways, but for his friends the job is done to the actual best of his ability. And he tends to always show up for them. It's part of why Sabine sought to hire him.

How does your OC react to affectionate gestures?

Surprise affectionate gestures BAD. Otherwise he likes them. He's friends with some very eccentric people, after all. Whilst not being affectionate himself as I mentioned, he's able to take affectionate gestures relatively well in stride.

Forehead kisses or hand kisses?

Forehead kisses :)

Do they like oversized jumpers?

(looks at all of his sweaters)

(looks at you)

yeah<3

What calms they down most when they're anxious?

Painting. But that can also sometimes make him more anxious or agitated, depending on what's going on. So sometimes he'll just very aggressively make food...? why you choppin that onion like that??

What makes them blush?

Artisan is unfortunately really easy to fluster. He is also pale as a tit, as you put. Just say something even remotely nsfw and his face be lookin like a tomato.

What Disney/musical song do you most associate with them?

Nothing from The Asylum for Wayward Victorian Girls musical. Especially in regards to his relationship with his now deceased fiancee.

Animated Fancast?

the answer for this one will always be the same, I don't think abt this.

Your OC is surrounded by puppies/kittens/ducklings. What do they do?

Might tear up idk idk.. So soft.. so cute.. so innocent and unaware of the cruelty of the world... pet pet pet pet pet

Do they talk to their pets?

He doesn't trust himself to have one. But he's very good with Gabriel's dog, Olive. Talks to her a lot :)

What's a childhood memory they cherish most?

Teaching his little brother how to hold a paintbrush properly is one of his most cherished memories

Are they a romantic at heart?

Yes. A little too romantic, even..

What's the most touching gift they've ever received?

A person's love.

What's their favourite item of clothing?

His hair ribbons!! But his black one is most sentimental

What's their most treasured possessions?

Said black ribbon.

Do they have a comfort food? Who makes it best?

Not really, no. A really good cider? But that's usually bought.

How do they cheer up a friend when they're down?

Finger painting, babyyyyy! Or cooking together. Artisan likes to distract the person in question, yk?

What's a guilty pleasure of theirs?

Murder???

Is your character a bookworm?

He looks like it but he honestly only reads when he's bored in bed /sobs... deffo the kind of bitch who stays up way too late reading a 100k slowburn coffee shop au fanfic though.. he's so embarrassing.

Does your character have a particular sweet/candy they love?

Eiffel Apple Bon Bons

Who knows how they like their tea/coffee/(insert drink) best?

BLACK. everyone knows. they think he's pretentious (except for Brimstone, who also drinks black coffee)

Do they like to have a lie in or do rise early?

Artisan likes to get up earlier than he should and just lay there. So both!

Does your OC wrap themselves into a burrito to sleep or do they get tangled in the sheets?

He doesn't like to be restricted, so he doesn't burrito himself, but he only moves a bunch if he has nightmares. in which he wakes up on the floor anyways.

Does your OC like to cuddle their significant other when they sleep? If so, who is the little spoon? Would they admit it if asked?

fucking parasite. worse than venom fr. he doesn't care if he's the big or little spoon though. artisan isn't necessarily embarrassed to admit whether or not he's the little spoon, he j doesn't feel the need to admit to somebody outside of the relationship what he gets up to?? lmao