#break someone marriage

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

Sunk Cost Phallus-y:

The idea that because you have invested a lot of time, money, and effort into courting/dating/being married to a man means you have to continue to be involved with him even after he has made it clear that he will cause you more pain than joy in the long run

[hellyrossum]

the more i think about devon this season, the more i'm seeing parallels between her and mark.

with ricken's new partnership with lumon, devon is seeing this person she loves (loved?) betray all the principles he claimed to hold. he's not the person she thought he was. (like a body snatcher has taken his place.)

and we all want her to get the hell out of there, but she appears to be financially dependent on him, and, having given birth like a month ago. there's this other person in the equation now that she's responsible for. (in another show, mark quitting his severed job would have been the resolution of his arc, the proof that he's ready to face his grief. except, pre-reintegration, that choice isn't so simple. there's another person in the equation now, that he made, that he's responsible for.)

we've also seen how, despite devon's cynical edge and mark's asshole tendencies (often directed at her specifically), she's never given up on her brother. based on that, i think, for all she's frustrated with ricken right now, she probably still wants to believe in the version of him she fell in love with, to hold out in case he returns (to see if she can bring him back).

devon told mark to stay at lumon this season because the person he fell in love with was maybe still there, and if she is, they need to save her.

that past version of ricken (whether he was ever real or just an illusion), and eleanor. those are her gemma. what's keeping devon trapped.

[superloves4]

Something that compels me so much about Maglor/Luthien is that if you change Beren with Maglor, the quest for the silmaril becomes so much more juicy

Because, yeah, on one hand it's still a suicide quest designated to either make Maglor give up Luthien or die in the process of the quest, thus freeing Luthien.

But on the other hand, this is Maglor's family treasure he is asking as bride price (which also makes it an actually accurate as a bride price is supposed to be something the groom's family already has yk), Thingol is asking Maglor to give him the whole reason the Feanorians even left Aman in the first place, the thing Feanor died trying to re-take, the reason he has been fighting for years.

Not to mention that depending on how you decide to read the oath, Thingol is asking him to not only curse himself but his entire family for Luthien, asking him if a life with Luthien is worth eternal damnation.

[xxplastic-cubexx]

on the absolute highest of keys james mcavoy does pull off bald charles really well and i wish we got another movie with bald james mcavoy

[chaoticgoodit]

Posting this so I don’t mistakingly think I got THAT drunk about the firebirds or the SCF tomorrow.

[teabutmakeitazure]

ain't no way this random aunty (neighbour) started lecturing me to marry a guy of the same nationality as me because not doing so is "wrong"

[muppetsnoopy]

astonishing how casually many people seem to take marriage like yea sure it's a commitment of love or whatever but it's also a LEGALLY BINDING CONTRACT this is your PARTNER in LIFE what do you MEAN you gave an ultimatum to marry you or break up to this fuckass man you met in vegas 2 months ago, o random woman from unsolved mysteries ???

[flyinglowdown]

i have a dream. and that dream is cressida/eloise/lord debling

[milflewis]

quick question has anyone written The Core goes to Team Strengthening Sessions 🤝🫶that is NOT marriage counselling 😤 that is DIFFERENT ‼️ and sid WILL be getting an A PLUS in Team Strengthening which is a normal and sane thing to want all while not talking about his own feelings that do not exist about Anything At All. kris and geno’s feelings are not off limits in the same way and sid has So Many thoughts and opinions on those 📣🤨 (he brought notes. and a spreadsheet. there is a shittily drawn venn diagram.) krisgeno have been friendly exes for the past five years and not so friendly exes for the two years before that. there is a lot of yelling. there is even more silent treatment. 🚨 someone is kissed at some point 🚨 a whiteboard is broken out at the fifth meeting. geno is only allowed to pretend not to be able to speak english a maximum of four times per session. kris is BANNED 🫵 from tying up his hair because their therapist observes that it derails every bit of constructive communication in the room.

[stop-breaking-my-heart-dragonage]

Me, when Sebastian joins my party for the first time: Okay, this time I'm not going to forget about you, Sebastian. I'm going to make an effort to use you a lot this playthrough so I can better understand you.

Also me, immediately forgetting about Sebastian while finishing Act 2 and making it halfway through Act 3 before I finally notice his Faith quest: ......................Oh. Right. My bad.

[satoriberry]

complaining about radical feminism bc even though it has a lot of good points, a lot are also very bad part idk what!!!

what the fuck is up with radfems literally seething when they learn that a member of their ideology has a GASPPPPP boyfriend!!! even worse A HUSBAND???? and oh my god can you imagine!!! A CHILD!!!! like what the fuck?? and yes i knowwww its bc blah blah blah inspirations taken from the 4B thing that came out of china and south korea, where the fundamental principles of their feminism is not having any sort of relations with a man nor having any children with one because marriage is a patriarchal institution (when it's a hetero marriage), and giving birth will systematically subjugate a women as mothers ar every handicapped societally and aren't treated fairly.

see im not denying that straight marriage has some dicey elements and that moms get a LOTTTT of shit from society. but why is it that women are shamed for their heterosexuality when it's not something they can control?? like i'm sorry but if a lady wants to marry a dude and have children with him it's literally her choice and if she doesnt thats fine too?? like they start calling her "male-centered" and justify the criticism she's facing which is nuts bc what the fuck do you mean she's male-centered do you hear the words that come out of your mouth?? what the fuck do you mean straight women need to be critical of their attraction to men!!! my brother why are you creating comphet 2.0 but for straight women!!!! this idea that women will be defiled with patriarchy germs if they come into any sort of romantic/sexual contact with a man genuinely feels like the flipside of purity culture but for "feminist" reasons and also it's like the cousin of political lesbianism which is the antithesis of "sexual orientation is uncontrollable".

"participating in male culture" and it's having a boyfriend BE FOR REAL!!! this is such a western concept to me as well bc in many eastern cultures young women have like little to no say when they're faced with the prospect of arranged marriage, and so the fact that you degenerates are complaining about VOLUNTARY marriage in modern societies whereas young girls in other countries don't have that kind of choice is!!! insane!!!! i have so much more to say about this but that's enough for today ig :333

[sharper-than-a-serpents-tooth]

The reason why yandere Ijekiel and Jennette don't work out together is because Ijekiel wants to lock up Athy in a cage like a songbird meanwhile Jennette wants to eat her heart and stuff her out like Rosalia's hunting trophies so she can play with her like a doll

[asterdust]

there's nothing heterosexual about this drama at all what do u mean i just went through doubing and lianhua's intense divorce arc and found out through li qiao that di feisheng was slightly mad at her after attempting to kill li xiangyi some decades ago.....

[blujayonthewing]

crossover shipping melliwyk and felix is funny because I can really easily picture them in a longterm happy and stable marriage but with really toxic conflict handling, a happy and stable marriage but someone did an intervention on them and now they can actually communicate in a healthy and constructive way as well, OR divorced

[trkstrnd]

in my humble opinion there is no reason to continue to complain about a plot that has been resolved poorly. it takes so much energy to sit there and be negative and talk about why it bothers you about the thing you’re supposed to enjoy. that’s the thing with this show. as a fandom, we collectively understand that the writers aren’t always going to write what we like, and we can give or take anything to or from the show that we like or dislike, so why are we spending so much time on the dislike? it’s fiction, at the end of the day, no matter how much the actors or writers are adamant that it’s real to them. they’re taking what they get and playing it in stride, and we are watching it. we have the power, as a human being, to take what we need and leave the rest, and yet every time i log in i see people continuing to complain about things that we should simply move past, because no matter how much we hate it, it will not change. canon is canon.

i recently did a project for my film and television analysis class about audience reception, and we talked a bit about how, many times, fandoms can see or create things that aren’t there, or latch onto things that they think they can do better (which, let’s be honest, we can, but we don’t have a job in the writers room and even if we did we would be getting abused by higher ups (im so proud of the writers guild okay)). We talked about how it can almost become an obsession within and obsession. we watched a documentary in fandom and how some people incorporate it into their lives in a healthy way, and some people, not so much, and i think, especially in this fandom (which i am keeping vague so other fandoms can use this post to convey their feelings if they like), the line is incredibly blurred.

in this class, we also watched Paris Is Burning, which is representative of queer movements in the twentieth century, and we talked about backlash the film got, because the representation wasn’t quite positive with everyone exhibited in the doc. We had a lengthy discussion about how oftentimes, queer theory in media isn’t necessarily pretty, and when queer filmmakers came out of the gate, they showed these ugly, messy, real stories so they could exhibit the humanity and progress that these stories made.

Sometimes people make mistakes; a lot of times, things and conversations happen offscreen, and if you’re going to latch on to one storyline and let it ruin your overall view of the season or piece of media as a whole (when you previously lived it), im not going to tell you what to do, but i will say to try looking at it through a less critical eye.

throughout the season, progress was made. it’s exhibited later in the season, which means there is still a lot we don’t see, to have such a shift like that.

that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. it means there’s a set amount of time in each episode and there are other storylines going on. we are privileged enough to get the ones we do get (even if they’re not great), so use your imagination! bridge the gap! understand that not everything is sunshine and roses all the time and when it is, it doesn’t necessarily make good prime time tv.

tl; dr: please stop using canon as ur only source of material because there is so much more that we didn’t see!!! tv embraces fandom creativity! and shitting on it all the time isn’t healthy! plus, it makes those of us who moved on and feel okay about it feel really fucking shitty <3

[the--days]

so it's like this.

you're young and you're scared and you're trapped in the feywild (happens to the best of us) with the love of your life. You're a half-elf and she's a fullblooded elf but you don't think about it very much because you're barely surviving day to day. And you get offered a deal to get yourself home again, and you take it. And the price of your freedom is that you leave her still trapped there, alone.

And then five years pass. And you age a century in that time, and you grow, and you change, and you find her again, and you're still in love, and you meet people, and you lose people, and you love them too, and you learn, and you start wanting a future again, and caring again, taking care of yourself, taking care of other people--

and after all of that, at the end of things, you find out the man responsible for all of the misery in your short, sad life has cast a spell which gives him complete control and ownership of you- mind, body, and soul (again. this happens to the best of us). And you are given the choice to stay under his thrall, and live a thousand years-- or to age and die, like humans do, and to be free of him.

And the love of your life is there, and you're married now, and she's still a full blooded elf, and you're still a half-elf, and you think about what that means a lot more than you used to.

And still, after everything you've learned-- you choose your freedom. You choose leaving her behind.