#being a goddamn adult

[bisonomy]

I feel like something that people forget when it comes to cheap tat holidays- holidays that have been infected by low taste and workplace acceptable crappy decorations and objects of holiday significance- that there are other ways to enjoy them, and that if they so choose, they can make it theirs in ways that are beautiful that don't automatically mean they're capitulating to the Mars company and Big Plastic.

Holidays are supposed to be fun, or for making time for deep meaning and connection- to others, to your past, to your plans for the future, to the numinous that makes your soul ring deep and low in the center of your being. So instead of sneering at Valentines, or letting it make you fell bad, how about one of these?

Dance (or fuck) your brains out

make a ceremony over remembered loves past, either to cherish the good, or give thanks for the escape

take a leaf out of Miley Cyrus' book and create a perfect date that is peculiar and perfect for you and no one else

blow the money on the vibrator or sex toy you've been coveting but think is too expensive

take the 6 hours to make that Fantcy dessert

colorbound your wardrobe for the week by wearing all the pink and red and purple you can feasibly fit into your outfits

ROM COM MOVIE FEST

Write the most deranged PWP 500 words about your OTP you can think of

Send silly Valentines cards to 20 friends like you are in 3rd grade, bonus points for the worst puns you can think of

Write postcards to the couples in your life that are doing it right, letting them know what you admire specifically about their relationship

Be like OP and savor the silly gimcrack of it all, take a second and appreciate the shininess of the red plastic, as if you are a magpie

Disliking how Others do it is fine, but giving up a chance at a holiday, at making a fuss and occasion for yourself on your terms, that is poverty indeed. Adulthood can suck on many levels, see being the animal and the zookeeper at the same time, but taking time to make meaning for yourself, through the lens of a semi traditional holiday, that can be so fun, or so special, or so satisfying, that it ceases to matter how others play the game. What do you do at your house? Because making it just another day, in FEBRUARY no less, the worst and longest of the months, strikes me as worse than putting up whatever weird decorations Target had in their little deal grotto.

dont understand people who "don't like" valentines day... I personally dgaf that its "made up" and "commercialist"... i love heart shaped things and i love everyone in my life. Its really simple

[that-butch-archivist]

Making a birthday cake for a friend tonight (something I haven't done for a while), and I forgot how much I love baking & cake decorating. I'll post pics when I'm done, I'm very excited. 🥰

[dukeofthomas]

Jason Todd's the aroace guy who doesn't realize he's aroace but is also not oblivious to how big a driving force sexual attraction is for other people. He's the type to dislike and judge men for thinking with their dicks so much and kind of think himself better than them because of the fact that he doesn't

[intotheelliwoods]

I would just like to let you know how much I appreciate you not making f!Leo not an asshole to his younger self, that is all

Hes an asshole when he wants to be <3

[thedreadvampy]

vaguing a post that's on my dash that I don't want to engage with (as usual) but actually no CPTSD isn't a diagnosis for 'when things were a tiny bit bad a lot' or 'if you experienced relationships that were toxic but not abusive' it's a diagnosis describing the impacts of CONTINUOUS TRAUMA. not less significant but more frequent trauma; trauma which is ongoing/continuous/recurring in developmental years.

like I'm not trying to gatekeep here and I recognise the value of saying 'it doesn't have to be a Single Big Obvious Trauma' because one key thing about CPTSD is that generally it makes traumatic incidents Your Normal so you don't necessarily view them as unusual or concerning. but I often see people talk about CPTSD as if it implies smaller individual incidents than PTSD and that just is not the case.

most experiences I have seen people be diagnosed with CPTSD for (myself included) are not 'a little bit toxic'. they are things which, each incident taken separately, an outsider would still recognise as traumatic - medical emergencies, rape and sexual abuse, significant physical violence, emotional abuse and coercive control, homelessness, severe poverty, war, torture, etc - and the thing that makes the PTSD C is not the relative level of the trauma, but the fact that it's enough of a repeated and consistent pattern, at an early enough stage, and sufficiently embedded in everyday life, that it becomes a person's baseline for 'normal'.

CPTSD is not a synonym for emotional microtraumas or cumulative trauma or 'death by a thousand cuts'. It's specifically defining the psychological differences in response to long term formative trauma as opposed to traumatic events which you process as an aberration (eg the difference between regular violence against you from trusted adults in childhood vs being physically abused for the first time in adulthood with existing experience of healthy relationships). Traumas causing CPTSD tend to be pretty similar in type, scale and severity to traumas causing standard PTSD - they are just more embedded and normalised earlier in life.

all this to say there's nothing wrong with acknowledging that cumulative microtraumas can affect us in traumatic ways. there's nothing wrong with pointing out that there's a broad range of types of trauma, and trauma can include stuff like growing up marginalised or ill as well as abuse, war, injury or immediate loss. there's nothing wrong, too, with acknowledging that a lot that is traumatic doesn't necessarily feel traumatic to you.

but like. no. CPTSD is not a diagnosis for people whose trauma wasn't 'big enough' for PTSD. CPTSD is not cumulative microtraumas. CPTSD is a response to formative macrotraumas or to a long term traumatic situation without hope of escape or change and if you want to talk about microtraumas then do that but it's not what CPTSD is!

[followerofmercy]

Watching She-Ra with family and oh my god the interpersonal relationships in this show

[mars-ipan]

some postgame doodles for pride month

[frnkiebby]

11 reasons why i shouldn’t be allowed in the mall unattended~🎃

3 pairs of 0g tunnels/plugs

1 pair of 2g plugs

black parade tee shirt

american idiot tee shirt

five fucking rolls of chocolate necco wafers

[fandomsnrambles]

Rewatching skybound, genuinely (and i mean this is in the kindest way possible) how is this for kids?

[cryptidcalling]

Arguments for why characters are """Minor coded""" are getting TRULY. RIDICULOUS. Just saw a TikTok comment arguing that Maru feels too young to romance in Stardew Valley because she 1: Wears overalls 2: Doesn't have a college degree 3: Lives with her parents 4: Her dad makes protective comments about her

These can all be very easily explained as normal ass adult shit for various reasons, but OVERALLS? We're claiming that a character wearing overalls makes them seem like a minor???

[medichamcham]

had to stop being moots with somebody because they're a lot younger than i thought and its like

[novelconcepts]

the truly problematic thing about having insanely vivid dreams just about every night--and i mean the kind of vivid where you remember details days or even weeks later, like it's just another normal-ass memory--is that you wind up losing track on an emotional level of what's real. like. i know that was a dream. obviously it was a dream. but some part of my brain misses it like it really happened. i am painfully, achingly nostalgic for people i've never met, places i've never been, shit that literally could not ever happen--but i feel as though i remember. which is just the most unhinged thing, right? like, i remember going on a run that took me over a fence into Disneyland, and i remember having to take a shortcut through a Chinese restaurant, but it was fine, because Erika Ishii was there, and they'd done this before, so no worries. right? no! obviously not! why do i remember this with such visceral clarity three weeks later?

oh, what's your favorite episode of this TV show? the one i dreamt. yeah, don't worry about it, it didn't make coherent sense, but it was in the feelings, right? my ship had the best fucking scene. no, of course i can't explain it to you, that's madness. it involved a rocking chair. don't worry about it. it's fine. it's super important i don't accidentally reference this in a fic someday, though.

this shit is deranged, dude. missing people who are quite literally my own brain's invention with an actor's face. missing places that are a meld of a movie i saw once, my childhood bedroom, the second floor of my high school, and inter-dimensional space. like. no! no, this shouldn't be a thing! is, though. the clarity of it. just fucking bananas. this has been happening to me my whole goddamn life.

[s-nnys]

only a Week until i get to rewatch over the garden wall again... i can't believe it's been 10 years already omg

i still remember birbsex like it was yesterday ... infinite eyerolls nation i will never leave u

on a different note. limiting myself to only watching otgw every halloween is so painful but it feels so right. i can't just visit the unknown whenever i'd like. it almost feels like i'm cheating by revisting it in the first place but it's easily one of my favorite pieces of media and will always be held so close to my heart i cannot imagine life without the halloween rewatch

[jazartz]

Just finished season 2 of sonic prime.

Sonadow fandom, how we doin

I am unstable.

Anyways I drew this, merry christmas

[iron-bullogna]

gen alpha they can never make me hate you please continue with your silly garys mod skibidi toilet bullshit don't let anyone stifle your creativity

[missmisnomer]

The experience of listening to "For Whom the Bell Tolls" is always infinitely improved when it comes paired with a video showcasing gorgeous shots that have been lovingly curated to provide maximum effect.

Yes, this post is about Blue Eye Samurai.