#bc unfortunately i am like this with Everyone

[creatingblackcharacters]

no yeah i am not trying to like say anything against you or justify people not capitalizing Black, that was not my intent at all, i just know a lot of people are both ignorant And do not actually read pinned posts and do genuinely just go straight to someone's ask box, and i figured this way people would have no excuse to Not capitalize it bc in the ask title it would be right in their face while theyre sending the ask, and in your description it would be visible everywhere on your blog on every page and not just if you're on the first page of your blog to see the pinned post, bc if someone does go straight to your ask box from one of your posts they wont see your pinned. not saying that they should be going straight to your ask without reading your pinned and such first but people are like that unfortunately

Naw, I understand you. Like I said, it wasn't directed at you. I think it's just my line in the sand, at least right now. It's frustrating, to have to ask people to consider your identity as an identity. It'd be different if everyone knew, bc then I'd be like "okay internet rules, we all know we're just being casual". But they're doing it because they DON'T know, they DON'T know why Black should be capitalized because they've never had to consider it.

I'll think about it though, it wasn't bad advice.

[whilomm]

desiring honesty and straightforwardness from others and really wishing people would just Tell Me Things but also being completely unable to just be straightforward and honest with people bc ive been taught that im Not Allowed To just come out and say things and i have to always dance around the subject and hint at things like. you would think realizig the hypocrisy there would make it easier to get out of these thought patterns but no my brain is still yelling at other people "WHY ARENT YOU JUST BEING HONEST AND DIRECT WITH ME" while im sitting here for an hour trying to figure out how to phrase st in an Acceptable Way and the most efficient way to hint at people.

[snowangeldotmp3]

btw i feel like this shouldn't have to be said but the reason that agatha hates rio is because agatha didn't get to say goodbye to nicky. rio couldn't offer her any more time. and, in rio's mind, nicky going peacefully in his sleep (and even telling him to turn around and kiss agatha goodbye!!) is the one grace rio feels she can give agatha. nicky doesn't suffer. he doesn't fight. he just...goes. he goes on a walk with his mother and kisses his mama goodbye. but agatha doesn't get to say goodbye!!! she doesn't get those final moments with him!! she wakes up and he's already gone.

[chiquilines]

Lord forgive me for not posting lesbianism but they are very special to me

[vacantgodling]

✨preferences should not be standards for writing advice✨

[riacte]

so hey guys i finished dungeon meshi yesterday and i'm still thinking about it

[novathesheltie]

[yantao-enthusiast]

i’ve come to the conclusion after watching heartbreak high, that personally i will forgive and defend characters for being unhinged and insane (rowan) or even just cunts if they have redeemable qualities (probably most of the cast but particularly amerie and harper and yes spider too now) but i will NOT stand characters that are fucking annoying (sasha ,,, srsly my girl quinni did NOT deserve that!!!!)

[keshetchai]

As someone who enjoys religion blogging/discussions, I've come to realize that it's a good practice to be aware of the general signs/symptoms of religious-OCD thinking (aka scrupulosity), because if the conversation is taking on all the hallmarks of scrupulosity, it's actually a definitive sign that we cannot meaningfully and compassionately engage in a conversation about religion in a healthy way. I've actually had this play out a significant number of times online, and when I realized what it was, I also began to realize that the intrusive thoughts/obsessive and compulsive thinking are only ever fed by continuing the discussion with that person.

[[ Important edit to clarify why I am saying it's not healthy — made after I went back to look for more concrete facts about OCD or anxiety (I have GAD, not OCD, but many resources overlap since they're both anxiety disorders):

When Reassurance is Harmful — this explains how/why reassurance-seeking specifically about an OCD fear is a compulsive behavior, and engaging with reassurance-seeking interferes with recovery/management/treatment.

This table from the Anxiety Disorders Center lists key differences between Information Seeking and Reassurance Seeking.

This IOCDF page on Scrupulosity info for Faith Leaders identifies "symptom accommodation" as enabling. Two of the examples of doing this by participating in the OCD behavior are: "Engage in excessive conversation focused on if-then scenarios (e.g., "If I did this, then would X or Y happen? And what if Z was involved? How about W?")" And, "Repeatedly answering questions about ‘correct’ religious or faith practices."

That page also goes on to outline more info about reassurance seeking. "Although providing answers to (often simple!) questions may seem harmless, providing reassurance serves to maintain the anxiety disorder cycle." (This BMC psychiatry article cites a lot of related studies establishing this.)

The IOCDF page on What is OCD and Scrupulosity? ]]

Imo, the responsible thing to do is to recognize that (even if the other person hasn't outright stated it/isn't diagnosed)* the conversation is not about religion, it is about needing mental health support from professionals and experts. Talking to me, the layperson who enjoys chatting theology and my religion — is not only not helping, but is actively harmful. I'm not just talking about the person who I replied to today, either. Like I've said, I've seen this happen dozens of times in various online forums.

*[while I am against diagnosing strangers on the internet, it's important to realize A) lots of people don't know what Scrupulosity is, so it's possible they've never considered this is a mental health concern that could be treated, and that B) for the purposes of my concern, it doesn't matter if they actually have diagnosed OCD. The only thing that matters is that their thought-process causes them genuine distress/fear, and every response given to them seems to only incite new/additional distressing questions/thoughts, or further entrenches the original distress.]

Ultimately, any discussion aside from "you might want to speak to a mental health professional about scrupulosity OCD" seemingly puts me in the position of feeling as if I am being used for their self-harm. I hate that feeling. I do not want to be leverage for fear and pain. I have GAD, I despise the idea that I am making things worse.

No matter how much I love religious discussion, the answer in these cases is always "please reach out to an OCD specialist/mental health professional. I am not qualified to discuss this." And then to stop there. I have never once seen anyone stuck in this compulsive thought spiral be reassured or feel any better by hearing from someone else's approach to theology handled with things like empathy, compassion, logic, or even atheism. It doesn't matter what we say, how we say it, or how we relate to our own religion. The urge to engage in this kind of conversation in order to chat about religion is a sign that we are not equipped to help.

You can't have a conversation here, because intentionally or not, ten times out of ten, you are adding fuel to the fire. Just like people can't simply tell me something that would erase/talk me out of my ADHD/depression/anxiety disorder, you also cannot simply argue/reassure/persuade people out of scrupulosity. We should not try. We have a responsibility to consider that it's outright harmful to do so, and to disengage.

[faunandfloraas]

hihi jess can i request a moodboard if ur willing 🛸🐞🌙🐾🌸 <if these make no sense ill always take a jess' vibecheck 🩷🩷 all the ones you have made till now are so pretty!!!

🛸🐞🌙🐾🌸moodboard for Juni (this is accidentally just ksm as fox mulder moodboard)

[front-facing-pokemon]

[averlym]

4 on the angst list with Araleyn please I need them to suffer

4 : "but it's my fault, right?" (prompt list here)

[zymstarz]

yeah sure that's how i'll [re]come out

[sweetnnaivete]

my toxic trait is always needing to feel enriched by the things i consume. i hate when films or books don't have a message bc then what was the point? it may be entertaining but what were you hoping to achieve? it's sooo unsatisfying and honestly just adds to modern brainrot

[sob-dylan]

i still haven’t seen longlegs. i haven’t seen i saw the tv glow. i haven’t seen in a violent nature. i haven’t done my creep/creep 2 double feature rewatch. i haven’t watched house of wax or saw or texas chainsaw massacre or ginger snaps or tusk or any of the other horror/thrillers i told myself i’d finally make time for in the past month (save for maxxxine, which was a bit of a let down). but i do have tickets to go see strange darling the day after it opens.

[hawkinslibrary]

reminder that this is still a stranger things blog and i do still love the show and plan to post about s5. i doubt i'll post/reblog anything from this new bts video bc i am no longer posting cast/bts content, but when there is official new content (teaser, trailer, the show itself, etc), i use a general 'spoilers' tag, as well as 's5', and 'st5 spoilers'