#basically twin flames have an intense and challenging relationship

[cskeppymybeloved]

everyone talks about skeppy and bad being soulmates but i give you something better: them being twin flames

[king-maven-calore]

Do you think Mare and Maven could love each other enough, to have a long lasting relationship, like getting married and getting old together kind of relationship? Even though, you mentioned that they are twin flames not soulmates.

I checked my inbox and I'm legally bound to reply to this first bc of priorities: YES, YES, AND YES. I'm so sorry for doing this to your ask anon but...Welcome to Annie over-analyzing YA episode 100 🤡 First we need to understand the difference with Soulmates. A soulmate is meant to support and help the person grow (Can't get more supportive than "I'll protect you for as long as I can" Cal Calore). A Twin Flame is supposed to bring the person closer to their divine mission and their soul's true purpose. A mirror of the soul where an instant connection is inevitable. The problem with this type of connection comes from the fact that the mirroring also applies to the person's insecurities and worst traits (the soulmate balances these out by being the opposite). And you know, where sparks fly, there's a fire hazard 😬. The concept on itself has the warning that the intensity of this bond is more often than not super unhealthy and ends in separation, but still: the purpose of the mirror has been achieved. To look at oneself reflected in another and learn (or be destroyed, whatever happens first).

I've been looking for the quote but I can't freaking find it 😭, where Mare says that when looking at the monster that Maven is, she sees what she could become.

Basically, the Twin Flames journey goes: Yearning, Glimpsing, Falling, Challenging, Crisis, Chasing, Surrender, Oneness. Here's a link explaining all the stages and a bit more but I'll focus on the stages where Mareven could have been saved 😔✌

After falling in love, when Mare thought she had found her equal and companion, comes the crisis: In the mirroring phase, twin flames begin to see the ‘other’’ side of their partner, the less pretty, less dreamy and less acceptable side, and it is in this phase where perfect love shows its dark side. Since this is fiction, experiences are heightened, and so is Mare's disillusion and horror when presented with the "darkness" in Maven.

We reach then the pivotal point: Runner and Chaser Phase. Pretty self-explanatory since Maven literally chases Mare for the rest of the RQ series🥴, hello Glass Sword my beloved. In this stage we have the opposing forces of change and permanence putting the relationship through the trial of fire. Maven wants the context to remain the same, but to force Mare to be with him. Mare wants the context to change but not only she isn't going to change her mind, she also has a confirmation bias toward Maven's humanity: She is convinced he can't be changed and everything he does only confirms this. This isn't a bad thing in context though! because it protects her from falling into the tricky waters of trying to be his savior, thus betraying herself and her cause.

And here's the only thing that keeps them apart (feel free to argue but I can pull receipts for days) not his lies, not his cruelty, not the fact that she straight up murders Elara: the oppression of Reds. Because as Mare says, it's bigger than her. They get stuck in the Separation stage because Maven's obsessive grip on the crown just as it is (a weak grip honestly) and it's not even something he wants it's that bitch Elara's sjkfnjd damn her.

If the freaking crown issue could have been solved, or Reds liberated sooner, before Maven kept damaging her in his attempt to keep her, they would have reached the Surrender stage; when the twin flames finally accept the negative aspects within themselves, work on them, learn self-love and in turn are ready to love the partner completely. Leading to the Oneness, "creating a healthy, love-based entity – a relationship that serves both individuals equally." Mare soul wouldn't end up as fractured as it ends up in canon, and Maven's soul would still be around the living 🙃. Their ending would have been infinitely softer together, but that's not their story. Because Mareven is not our romance.

Disclaimer: I'm only using the concept of Twin Flames from a literary standpoint. Don't let weird irl cults and gurus lie to you kiddos ❗

[iamnightduchess]

ReinerxMikasa (ReiKasa) Extremely Kinky A to Z Ask Game (R20+) Headcanon #19

*Update: 24 March 2021

A continuation of this ask & inspired by this original post. Dedicated to @xrocketmanx for their amazing 💖 on my ko-fi page!

(A/N: ‼️WARNING‼️Graphic description of very explicit smut with potentially provocative images ⛔ Please don't click Keep Reading if you're below 20 🙅‍♀️ Sorry kiddos! To my more adult readers, please absorb this post's content with appropriate discretion & maturity)

(In complete Alphabetical Order)

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

People expect Reiner to be the one who would jump off the bed immediately soon after when they’re done but on the contrary, he just loves lying there and holding Mikasa in his arms post-coitus. Although, they do sleep with Mikasa lying on his chest most nights. Mikasa wasn’t used to be held intimately in the first few months of their relationship, so the first time they made love, Reiner gave her the space that she needed before, during and after. It was Mikasa who finally initiated their first cuddle post-coitus after the next several weeks.

B = Body part (Their favourite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Reiner: Very confident of his physical appearance and in his skin. He really loves everything on and about Mikasa. He loves her body type the way she is - to him, hers is just perfect. But, his most favorite body part of hers he'd like to touch first every time he could is her hands. He just like holding her hands when he wakes up, winding down for the night & even when he's asleep.

Mikasa: This woman, despite having a bombshell athletic figure, still secretly feels insecure of the way she looks. She loves Reiner's biceps the most - at home, she'll sneak a quick peck or a nibble on his biceps when he's doing the dishes or making dinner. She also likes to snuggle up to him on the couch with his arm draped around her shoulders, sometimes until she falls asleep.

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… lol)

She...swallows? 🙈 (holy shizz i'm not so sure of this one. Can't think of a suitable answer without being cringey 🤣)

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

Reiner & Mikasa once had a quickie inside the changing booth during a beach trip with their friends. Reiner had also went down on Mikasa after dinner at his mum's place, right in Karina's laundry room because he 'accidentally' spilt some wine on her dress & wanted to get her dress cleaned up. He ended up having her as dessert on top of the moving dryer & she left her underwear there by accident.

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

They were both not each other’s first lovers but when they first got together, the experience is like being with no other. They discovered new parts & points of not only their significant other’s physical & spiritual strengths but also their own respective preferences as well. Reiner’s quite a ladies’ man during his early years in the military but after a while, he got bored of the game. Meeting Mikasa, he realised he wants to play the game again but this time to win it for good. Mikasa has only been with one boyfriend since college & being with Reiner opened her eyes up to vast possibilities.

F = Favourite Position (This goes without saying. Will probably include a visual)

No, Reiner doesn't do the Military Style despite being a military man 🤣 Missionary & Cow Girl are their standard starting positions. Despite Mikasa being very flexible, which gave them more advantage in attempting the more physically-challenging positions, but the following are their more favorite experimental ones:

Oasis

Basket

Watering Can

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

A little bit of both, no doubt. Reiner has a dorky sense of humor & Mikasa's odd humor makes for a good tension-breaking combination. Their foreplays always begin with a good laugh - with Reiner ghosting his teasing touches on her love handles. Gets her in the mood for some serious sexing every time.

H = Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

For both, the carpets matched the drapes. Mikasa tried Brazillian wax once and uhh...Reiner abstained for a week & a half because he prefers her au naturalé 🙈 He said it felt odd from what he's used to haha

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

There are days they’ll just have a quickie if they get in the mood while just chilling, watching TV together after dinner. Before the children came, they would always have slow, intense eye-gazing, tantric, unrushed lovemaking. After the twins came into the picture, they’ll be lucky if they can even have cuddle time together >D Mikasa doesn’t say “I love you” out-loud but showed it in the way she touches & kisses Reiner’s arm when he’s in the kitchen making dinner or when he’s giving the twins a bath.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)

Oooh...Reiner rarely does this after he dated Mikasa & married her. But he loves getting her to touch herself in the showers. While he watches.

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Did i tell you about their muscle kink & how much they love each other’s muscles?? Roleplay :) They like to pretend they’re strangers meeting in a cafe or a hotel bar and later have a ‘pretend one-night stand’ with each other haha It keeps the flame burning! (i posted a oneshot on this.)

L = Location (Favourite places to do the do)

Home: bedroom, kitchen and in his home office. In the showers too!

They're not one to do it in public but they did have several outdoor trysts on the back of his 4WD while having a romantic night under the stars.

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going) haha can't help not including this gif

When Mikasa rubs one of Reiner's thighs, rest assured that his gears will be running. Meanwhile when Reiner nuzzles her neck and started caressing her abs, oh it's an on for her alright.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

⛔ Backdoors are a big N.O ⛔

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

They're both amazing givers... You know what it means: 34 + 35 🤫 Reiner would sometimes initiates when Mikasa's already asleep. Remember that Zoom Conference & online gaming session? Mikasa likes to get back at Reiner when he least expects it.

P = Pace (Are they fast and rough? Slow and sensual? etc.)

Both depending on their moods...quickies are usually fast pounding yet not too rough, Reiner respects Mikasa too much to ever be at risk of hurting her. Usually their lovemaking would be sensual & soul-bonding at the same time.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

Mikasa prefers to wear pants when they ever go for outings, movie trips, hiking trips. But, she wears skirts when they're visiting their families for a reason: smoother access for quickies. The moment she walks down the stairs in a beautiful dress before they head to his mum's or her aunts', Reiner already knows it. They be getting freaky with a quickie later 🙈

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

Reiner & Mikasa are very experimental in the bedroom. Sure, they don’t have frequent lovemaking but when they’re in the mood, fireworks are a guarantee throughout with different new positions ;) Risk-taker? Let’s just say Reiner’s virility and Mikasa’s flexibility provided a lot of perks in their love lives together (and some pregnancy scares too! before they were ready to conceive) Mikasa once gave Reiner head while they're stuck in traffic heading into a road block. He'd finished just before the the car in front of them pass the inspection 🙈

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

Ooh boy, all night haha Rounds: 2 max at one time. Duration: At least 1.5hours X) They both are super fit, athletic people so one can expect their staminas to be nothing less than subpar. *cough* In Canon AU: Max 4 times or 1/3 of the night *winks* because supernatural & acker powers!

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

No, they don't 🙈

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Goes without saying: a lot. Mikasa likes to wear Reiner's tshirts/ dress shirts at home to tease him. While Reiner likes to wear his reading glasses a lot at home because that is one of her biggest turn ons from him.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

Mikasa's the quiet one between the two and the loudest she'd ever been was just a deep, heavy whimper. Reiner's the louder one that sometimes Mikasa would have to smother him when they're having a quickie 🤣

W = Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

Even after more than 20 years together, Reiner and Mikasa still make out like they're teenagers - pretending to sneak around and grinding in hidden, cramped spaces away from their kids.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

Mikasa : Dynamite & powerful grip - thighs and you-know-what (even after 3 kids!)

Reiner : Thicc - ass & this man is packing. He has girth!

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive?)

On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest: 15 🤣 There's something about getting Mikasa to relax and laugh during their chill time, that just instantaneously revved up their engines at the same time. Reiner is a very tender, romantic person & Mikasa cannot resist it when he starts to tell her how much he loves her & appreciates her. He likes to kiss her hand when they're just hanging out even with friends. Everything Reiner does is genuine & that warms her heart everytime.

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Reiner would be the first to go out like a light & Mikasa just likes to rest her head on his chest and hear his beating heart & relaxed breathing. Mikasa thinks Reiner's little snores are adorable. But when they're just cuddling on the couch, Mikasa would fall asleep first & Reiner would carry her to the bed.

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A/N: I had a lot of fun with this & I hope you'll enjoy it too! Thank you so much for the support & love 💖 xoxo More asks to come!

[lostberryqueen]

OITNB Season 7  (Warning: Contains Spoilers)

So, there were a lot of strong parts of season 7. I cried more than I think I did with any other season. The writers were able to make pretty much every character someone the audience cares deeply about--and that’s oitnb at its strongest. However, when I got to the end of the season, and the final orange image showed, I personally, was very pissed off. 

Alex and Piper have pretty much been a done deal since season 5. While it is understandable to scare viewers throughout the middle of the season, the last episode was designed to make viewers think Piper and Alex were going to split, right until the ending where they give you a 2 second scene telling you this is not the case. I think the viewer is supposed to feel overjoyed that Alex and Piper ended up together. Obviously Alex and Piper ending up together is a good thing, and there were some really strong moments this season where they learned how to overcome the difficulties in their relationship--but a 2 second scene of them together is all we get?? I mean, we were basically unofficially-officially promised an epilogue where we would see them living together and happy. Even if the writers didn’t want to do that--couldn’t they at least have given us a 5 or 4 or even 3 minute scene with them a the end? Piper and Alex are the biggest romantic arc on the show, Piper is the main character, we’re never going to see these characters again, and all they give us for an ending is a 2 second scene?

Larry fucking Bloom got a super long scene where he got to tell Piper who he thought she was. It was like closure for Larry was more important than closure for (arguably) the most important relationship on the show. If there’s time for Larry (and an incredibly unrealistic Luschek redemption) why isn’t there more time for the two leading ladies?

Now, on to what Orange, did well. Definitely Taystee, Cindy, and Suzanne’s plotlines. I mean, I was sobbing so hard after Pennsatucky died--but I realized it wasn’t for her (at least--mostly not for her), it was for what Taystee was going through. I felt really bad for being relieved that Tiffany died and not Taystee--because I do actually like and care about both characters. Those scenes where it seemed like Taystee was going to kill herself were so intense--and the fact that she didn’t is really empowering. That was the kind of plot twist that worked. And Taystee telling Cindy’s daughter the truth as revenge was a good plotline as well, because Cindy’s daughter needed to know the truth. Even though it wrecked things at first, I think it was a really important step in healing.

The immigration court scenes were super powerful. The pigeon was the perfect metaphor for racism--doves and pigeons are the same thing, it’s just that pigeons have more colorful feathers and a lot of people treat them like shit. 

Orange didn’t shy away from shit and pain and controversial topics. Where Orange is usually strong it was strongest this season, and where Orange is usually weak, it was fairly weak this season. 

Here’s how I would rate it:

Deep plotlines other than Alex and Piper: 10/10

The Cry Meter: 11/10

Doesn’t Have Too Much Larry: 3/10

Doesn’t Focus Unnecessarily on Male Redemption Instead of Focusing on More Important Female Character Arcs: 5/10

Alex and Piper flashback scenes: 1/10

Alex Vause flashback scenes: 8/10 (I’m a little conflicted about this rating because I did feel like the flashbacks showed her relationship struggles in a way that revealed new information about her character--she actually did try to help “fix” her girlfriend Sylvie, but her motivation for fixing her was probably mostly control. Alex substitutes control for intimacy. I also really liked knowing that Alex and Sylvie were sort of on a break when Alex met Piper, so she wasn’t entirely cheating on her. It also shows how Piper was different from her other girlfriends. She loved Piper, wanted to be with her--and it was about more than just control, or “fixing” someone. It’s like Alex said herself: “Piper was different.” The reason why I am conflicted about this rating though is because I feel like the show never really gave us enough of Alex’s backstory, and so to focus on scenes where some of them almost overlap with scenes we’ve already seen--it really just felt like they could have added something new as well.)

Amount of Piper screen time: 10/10 (I suspect a lot of people will disagree with this rating. Piper is my favorite character, and she’s also the main character. While I do really like hearing other storylines, I really hated how previous seasons reduced her time so much that she was barely present.)

Alex and Piper relationship development: 10/10 (This entire season every time Alex or Piper were with another person (romantically or sexually) it was just so so wrong. I’m not someone against polyamory or anything, but with Alex and Piper, seeing them with other people just showed me even more how much they are just completely meant to be together. They’re not meant to be with someone else. They’re twin flames--not soul mates. They’re not part of the same soul family, they are two halves of one soul. 

Alex and Piper concluding scene: 3/10 (It needed to be longer!!)

Some closing thoughts:

I’m pretty conflicted about the Red plotline. On the one hand, it showed vividly the devastating effect that solitary confinement has on the mind. It gave a backstory to all of those older women in Florida--because it makes the viewer think about how all of them were vibrant and sharp one day, and now they have faded. On the other hand, Red is a powerful middle-aged female character that was just stripped of her power--stripped of her mind and thrown away. Her storyline was super emotional, but I can’t help but wish they had given it to Frieda instead, and allowed Red and Nicky to have a happier ending to their story. 

I also have conflicting feelings about the Tiffany and Morello storylines. Both of these characters are neurodivergent, and both of them had empowering storylines that ended in tragedy. I think it would have been better if Tiffany had seemed dead but had not actually been dead--Taystee and her could have then had a deep conversation afterwards, and it would have had a similar effect on Taystee’s storyline. Morello’s storyline was about a mentally challenged woman who overcame her obsession and found love. The plot twist that she had been stalking Christopher was very powerful--I just wish they hadn’t added anything to her backstory this season. The baby dying and her reaction to the baby dying was realistic--but I do wish they had found a pathway to better health for her. The flashback scenes, in my opinion were farfetched. Morello being responsible for the death of those two people? It just didn’t feel realistic to me. 

I want to feel more positively about the Alex and Piper scenes--because it was a truly powerful relationship that the show let us watch. I just can’t help but feel that for the entire series, actually, the show has been using them to lead the viewers on. We never get enough of them. They always cut us off before we get what we want out of it. While that is a good strategy for getting people to continue watching the show, it is completely unnecessary to do in the last season of the show!

The only comforting thought I can come up with is that maybe they will make a movie about Alex and Piper sometime. Then Piper can write her memoir, and we can learn what career Alex got. 

If all else fails, there’s always fanfiction. 

[gffa]

Every time I try to sum up why I love STAR WARS fandom and the fic so much, I’m just sort of at a loss and can only flail wildly in the direction of about three dozen different fics to encompass everything that is just so good. Sometimes I want happy fic, sometimes I want fic that will break my heart further, sometimes I want to focus on the characters that don’t get enough story (LEIA ORGANA AND PADME AMIDALA BOTH DESERVE MORE STORY, ALSO PLEASE TELL ME MORE ABOUT APHRA AND BREHA AND MORE) or I want to roll around in shippy feelings, sometimes I want to read time travel fix it fic, sometimes I want a completely different universe! And Star Wars fic really provides so, so many different things, that there should hopefully be at least something for almost everyone, no matter what you’re here for! I have a lot of love for this fandom and I just want to share it with everyone! So, here, please read a bunch of fic and cry from feelings with me. STAR WARS FIC RECS: PREQUELS RECS: ✦ The Uses of a Sandwich by Laura Kaye (laurakaye), obi-wan & qui-gon & oc & cast, 17.6k    A few months after being taken as a Padawan, Obi-Wan Kenobi faces a challenge: meeting his Master’s first apprentice. ✦ Ghosts of the Present by randomlyimagine, plo & aayla & jedi & cast, 5k wip    Every single Jedi killed during Order 66 becomes a Force ghost, often before their bodies even hit the floor. ✦ Soaked by CJinn, obi-wan & cast, 1.8k    Little Obi-Wan Kenobi is left behind in the garden during a rainshower. Oneshot. ✦ Night Shift at the Temple by ReneeoftheStars, oc jedi & cast, 1.8k    A Jedi Temple Guard sees all, speaks to few, and has attachments to no one. One must be prepared for any threats that may arise, especially at night, while most of the Temple sleeps. ✦ Problems with the Neighbors by spaceyquill, obi-wan & ahsoka, 1.1k    Ahsoka visits Obi-Wan for the first time on Tatooine and gets wrapped up in a sudden scheme against the local Jawas. ✦ Frayed At The Edges by zed_pm, obi-wan & anakin, 1.5k    Anakin counts Obi-Wan’s wounds. ✦ Jedi of Light by Sannah, obi-wan/anakin/padme & mace & yoda & plo & even & jocasta & cast, 7k wip    Out of irritation with the war and with permission from the Council, several talk show hosts create a show that airs weekly about the Jedi. They name the show *Jedi of Light,* and go around following Jedi and asking them questions. ✦ Every Moment Points Toward the Aftermath by HiNerdsItsCat (HiLarpItsCat), obi-wan & anakin/padme & palpatine & mace & cast, 5.9k    In a strange sort of way, this is the story of how, in the final days of the Clone Wars, Mace Windu saved the galaxy by taking a nap. ✦ untitled by elfpen, obi-wan & qui-gon, 3.1k    Anonymous asked: if you’re still accepting prompts: smol padawan obi-wan letting slip his law abiding exterior and letting loose the terrifying intensity beneath it. preferably in defense of qui-gon or something. ✦ Shadows of Dathomir by Artemis1000, asajj/padme, 3.5k    Hunted by the Emperor, Padmé Amidala needs a sanctuary for herself and her newborn twins. Asajj Ventress is an unlikely protector and Dathomir an even more unlikely sanctuary, but beggars can’t be choosers. It’s a sensible arrangement. Padmé certainly hadn’t expected that she would ever care so much. ✦ Falling Upwards by Pandora151, obi-wan & anakin & ahsoka & cast, 1.8k    He didn’t exactly remember how he ended up here. He remembered returning to the apartment after a long Council meeting. He remembered thinking about making himself some tea because of the headache that pounded in his skull. ✦ Sith of Old by esama, obi-wan & anakin & asajj & ahsoka & rex & asssassin’s creed characters, crossover, 22.6k wip    In which generals Skywalker and Kenobi investigate an Ancient Sith Temple and Desmond Miles isn’t really a Sith, promise. ✦ still burning by skatzaa, ahsoka/kaeden, 2.9k    “Sith spit,” she hisses, reaching out and jabbing at the far wall of the ‘fresher with her free hand until the water turns off entirely. The skin on her arm and shoulder is tender and inflamed when she steps out into the rest of the room, dripping water on the durasteel floor. ✦ untitled by stonefreeak, yoda & ellé & cast, 1.2k    Worried, Yoda is. Brought up a terrible thought, his conversation with young Skywalker and Tano did. ✦ yoda would vape send tweet by destiny919, yoda & mace, ~1k    A few years before even the Battle of Naboo, Master Yoda agrees to retire as Grand Master of the Order. ✦ To Live and Die and Live Again by AriesOnMars, ahsoka/barriss, 12.9k    Ahsoka has escaped from the Sith Temple with the knowledge of who Darth Vader truly is and she begins to seek help to understand what it was that could change him so completely. Intel leads her to believe Barriss is still alive and Ahsoka goes to find her, thinking that by undestanding her former friend’s fall from grace she can better understand her Master’s. ✦ The will of the Force by Lysore, obi-wan & yoda & qui-gon, 2.7k    Obi-Wan piqued Yoda’s interest early on, except the Grand Master of the Order had known for just as long that the Initiate was destined to be Qui-Gon Jinn’s Padawan. OBI-WAN/ANAKIN RECS: ✦ Alcohol and demonic rituals don’t mix by anecdotalist, obi-wan/anakin, supernatural au, modern au, 1.4k    Written for the prompt: “Do you guys hear the demonic frat-chanting outside too?” ✦ Bedroom Hymns by JediMistress, obi-wan/anakin, NSFW, spanking, bondage, bdsm, d/s, 16k wip    Anakin Skywalker is a young student with some kinky interests, and his search for a Dom leads him to Obi-Wan, a former professional. Obi-Wan has retired, but their purely professional kinky relationship changes the lives of both men. How long can they keep it professional? And what happens when they start falling for each other? ✦ One touch and I ignite by Paper_cut, obi-wan/anakin & ahsoka & padme & cast, nsfw, 59k    Anakin makes a bit different choices, and learns better communication. So does Obi-Wan. Eventually. ✦ Passionate Reunion by bluebell26, obi-wan/anakin, NSFW, 2.4k    Obi-Wan comes back to the Jedi Temple after a dangerous mission. In the privacy of their shared apartment, he meets with Anakin, with whom he shares a secret relationship, and passion ensues. ✦ Upfall by bell (belldreams), obi-wan/anakin & anakin/padme & obi-wan/satine & ahsoka & cast, NSFW, 27.2k wip    Anakin is doing just about everything he can to hold himself together; it won’t last. ✦ Across the Darkness by xpityx, obi-wan/anakin & anakin/padme & clones & cast, 12.4k wip    Obi-Wan knew they had hit the temple’s inner security measures when Anakin went from calm to clutching both Obi-Wan and his lightsaber between one step and the next. ✦ Drums in the deep by liv_k, obi-wan/anakin & cast, 6.5k    On the inside, Anakin was devoured by his own inner fire. A moth to the flame, Obi-Wan knew that sooner or later he would be caught in the firestorm too. ✦ Maintenance by orphan_account, obi-wan/anakin, NSFW, spanking, ~1k    Written for the FFA 1000 Prompt and Fill Fest. Obi-Wan ends up with Anakin over his lap and learns a new trick. ✦ Stability by SingManyFaces, obi-wan/anakin, NSFW, mild d/s, mild bondage implied, ~1k    Anakin loves it when Obi-Wan quiets the noise in his head, Obi-Wan loves taking care of him after. ✦ You Don’t Know the Hair of the Dark Side by SmileAndASong, obi-wan/anakin & luke & leia, modern au, 3.5k    Obi-Wan comes home one night and discovers that Luke decided to give Anakin an impromptu haircut. Why? To defeat the dark side, of course. ✦ Penciling in sleep by anecdotalist, obi-wan/anakin, 2.6k    It’s two years after the Battle of Geonosis. Obi-Wan Kenobi is the Jedi War General and leads the GAR. Anakin Skywalker had just been Knighted 6 months ago after completing supplemental healer training under Master Che and is now the Commander of the Relief and Support Forces. He’s just returned from a trip and learned that Obi-Wan has not been taking care of himself so he takes matters into his own hands. ✦ untitled by subskywalker, obi-wan/anakin, NSFW, 1k    Obi-Wan kissed his shoulders as he settled behind him. “Oh, dear one, you’re so very beautiful like this. You’re such a good boy for me Anakin.” ✦ Rumpled Collar by Corde_And_Dorme, obi-wan/padme (/anakin?) & cast, white collar fusion, 3.4k    The White Collar! AU that absolutely NOBODY asked for except one Discord channel like… months ago. ORIGINAL TRILOGY RECS: ✦ cinched by spookykingdomstarlight, aphra & padme, 4.7k    The woman leaned forward and folded her hands over her knees. “What would it take? For you to tell me about him?” ✦ Coming Home by Ljparis, bail/breha & leia, 1.4k    Wherein Bail returns home to Alderaan from Coruscant and brings with him surprises for both his wife and daughter. ✦ Endings and Beginnings by AngelQueen, bail/brehan & leia & cast, 2k    Leia is four hours old the first time Bail holds her. ✦ The Forking Path by McBangle, obi-wan & leia & cast, 1.6k    Leia Skywalker had long known there was more to Ben Kenobi than her Uncle Owen had told her. Once she realized that her aunt and uncle didn’t want her to ask about the strange hermit, she was too stubborn not to track him down. ✦ The Joy of Cooking by victoria_p (musesfool), obi-wan & anakin & leia & kanan & finn, 1.5k    “Cooking is like flying. 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Your guide to planetary energies for April 29 to May 5, 2019

Your guide to planetary energies for April 29 to May 5, 2019

By Pam Younghans

AS WE TRAVEL THE ROAD that takes us from April to May, three compelling planetary events provide the backdrop for our journey, while a handful of other aspects reveal either smooth stretches or the challenges of uneven pavement.   Two of the more significant events are linked together: Saturn goes retrograde on Monday, and then exactly aligns with the South Node on Tuesday.   WHEN A PLANET comes to a standstill, whether to go retrograde or direct, its influence becomes heightened in our experience. We usually feel this for a week or more on either side of the exact date, since the planet is virtually motionless throughout that time.   Last week, on April 24, Pluto made its station, and this week — on April 29, just five days later — it’s Saturn’s turn to change direction. This overlap of their concentrated energies is making this a very pivotal time. Pluto is the great Transformer, lord of the underworld, and rules over major life transitions, including the passage into the afterlife. Saturn is Father Time, lord of karma, and tests our strength and discipline.   Both planets are in Capricorn, which rules over the structures that we rely on to be solid and strong. Pluto is revealing where certain systems are faulty, while at the same time, Saturn is testing their strength. As a result, we are seeing breakdowns in areas we perhaps had thought were dependable.   In our personal lives, this effect is concentrated in the area of life represented by the house that contains 20 to 23 degrees of Capricorn. If we have planets or points in our birth charts at those degrees, we will most likely be feeling this impact on a very personal level.   THE LONG-TERM IMPLICATION of all of this activity is increased because the South Node is also currently moving through those same degrees of Capricorn. And, in fact, Saturn exactly aligns with the South Node on Tuesday of this week.   The South Node represents our pull into patterns of the past that no longer serve us. While this node is in Capricorn — and especially while it aligns with Saturn — we observe tendencies to fall into the negative qualities that can be associated with both Saturn and Capricorn: fear, control, melancholy, pessimism, resentment, rigidity, selfishness, the suppression of feelings, and a lack of empathy. In essence, the South Node is telling us that the old methods we used to use to survive — basically, putting blinders on to our feelings and perhaps to the emotional needs of those around us — are no longer viable.   THE NORTH NODE, always exactly opposite the South Node, reveals the positive qualities we must develop in order to evolve. With the North Node in Cancer, we are called to become more caring, not less. We are called to choose trust over fear and control, inspiration over pessimism, and understanding over resentment. We are also encouraged to express our feelings instead of suppressing them, and to become more creative and intuitive in our approach to life.   Saturn will align with the South Node one more time this year, on September 27. But, Saturn and the South Node will be joined at the hip throughout August and September, never separated by more than two degrees. This makes that entire two-month period very significant for our collective evolution. At that point, we should be able to look back at late April/early May and see connections between the two time frames, further clarifying the lessons of this alignment.   AS IF our table wasn’t already full enough, our planetary waitstaff deliver another course this coming week. On Wednesday, we have the final (of five) exact semisquares between Uranus and Neptune. This is a very long-term influence, one that we’ve been working with since the middle of 2017. This week represents the culminating experiences related to this aspect, wrapping up its lessons.   While a semisquare is often thought of as being a “minor” aspect, any relationship between two slower-moving planets can be significant. In this case, especially, since Uranus and Neptune are both transpersonal planets, we are considering some deeper questions related to our ongoing process of awakening.   URANUS AND NEPTUNE traveled side-by-side in Capricorn throughout the early 1990s, and were exactly conjunct three times in 1993. Although both of these planets can have substantial impact on our mundane experience, they also help us to transcend the limitations of the physical plane — Uranus working on the level of the mind, and Neptune working on the level of the heart.    In the early ’90s, many of us experienced a sudden and perhaps shocking change (Uranus). Events that occurred may have at first evoked disbelief and disillusionment (Neptune), but over time, they eventually opened the door to new growth in consciousness. Those events woke us up in some way, burning away areas of fog that had been limiting our self-awareness.    THIS SEMISQUARE is the first challenging aspect between Uranus and Neptune since their alignment in 1993. In essence, we are sitting for our first major exam covering everything that we’ve learned spiritually over the past 26 years. We are being required to take another growth step in consciousness, to dissolve another layer of the veil that has separated us from one another and from our divine selves.   Uranus and Neptune are compelling us to expand our capacity for higher-level thought and sensitivity. Our yearning to attain this evolutionary growth deepens every time we experience the lower-vibrational manifestations of the two planets — the erratic and destructive behaviors associated with Uranus, and the deception and disillusionment linked to Neptune.   I feel it’s safe to say we’ve been experiencing a lot of that frequency in the past two years, since this semisquare began to work with us. And, it would be easy to fall into a pit of apathy, based on a sometimes overwhelming feeling of futility. And yet, we want to ask ourselves — what has been (and is) the higher purpose of all of this? This type of question connects us with the higher frequencies of Uranus and Neptune, and opens the door to that next expansion of consciousness which so many of us long to walk through.   A NEW LUNAR CYCLE begins on Saturday, May 4, at 3:45 p.m. PDT, when the Sun and Moon align at 14°10′ Taurus. Significant components of the New Moon chart include a Mercury-Pluto square (exact on Thursday), a Mars-Jupiter opposition (exact on Sunday), a Venus-Saturn square (exact on May 7), and a Sun-Neptune sextile (exact on May 8).   We generally think of peaceful, methodical progress when we consider Taurus. And, certainly, we can use the New Moon in this sign to set our intentions for creating more beauty and serenity in our lives. However, the other aspects tell us that we have a few hurdles to overcome along the way.   MERCURY’S SQUARE to Pluto perfects on Thursday, so we’ll be aware of some differences of opinion and some frustrations toward the end of the week. Anger is easily triggered, especially if we feel we’re not being heard by someone in authority. The verbal push-pull increases over the weekend, magnified by Mars in verbose Gemini opposing Jupiter in dogmatic Sagittarius. The fall-out might affect personal relationships and business alliances by the time of the Venus-Saturn square next week.   Our saving grace appears in a couple of ways: the Sun-Neptune sextile is a subtle influence, but it provides the opportunity for us to tap into the higher qualities of compassion, understanding, and surrender as we deal with practical concerns. This aspect also enables us to provide grounded spiritual support to others. And, next Monday, Mercury leaves impatient Aries and enters stable Taurus, helping slow down our responses and giving us time to think before we act.   IF YOUR BIRTHDAY IS THIS WEEK: This coming year asks you to realign with what you truly value. You are also remembering what it means to take care of yourself — both your emotional well-being and your personal health — even if others expect you to self-sacrifice. This is your opportunity to base your self-esteem on who you are, rather than on what you do, and to know your worth as an individual, not dependent on another’s validation. (Solar Return Sun quincunx Ceres)

In gratitude and light,

Pam

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Rian Johnson on the evolution of the Force in 'Star Wars: The Last Jedi' and more spoilers

Who is Snoke, anyway? Has Kylo Ren ever kissed a girl? Rian Johnson answers the burning ‘Star Wars: The Last Jedi’ questions. — LA Times | Dec 18, 2017

As Obi-Wan Kenobi once told young Luke Skywalker, “The Force is what gives a Jedi his power. It’s an energy field created by all living things — it surrounds us, and penetrates us; it binds the galaxy together.”

Ever since Tatooine’s favorite farm boy learned about the Force, “Star Wars” fans have devoured every bit of the universe that’s come alive in the galaxy far, far away over the course of eight movies and counting.

But in Disney’s weekend box-office smash “Star Wars: The Last Jedi,” writer-director Rian Johnson (“Brick,” “Looper”) takes bold leaps and shakes up the “Star Wars” universe, sending “Force Awakens” heroes Rey (Daisy Ridley), Finn (John Boyega), and Poe Dameron (Oscar Isaac) further into the fight between light and dark with one surprise after another.

How much does “The Last Jedi” redefine the rules of Force physics as we know it — and what do these tantalizing new possibilities mean for the future of “Star Wars?” Who is Snoke, anyway? What exactly can Force ghosts do from beyond the astral plane? Has Kylo Ren ever kissed a girl?

Back in Los Angeles between globe-trotting appearances, a week after his star-studded premiere, Johnson answered all these burning “Star Wars” questions and more. Heavy spoiler warning: Best to read after watching “Star Wars: The Last Jedi.”

“The Last Jedi” takes much of what we all thought we knew about this 40-year-old franchise and how the rules of the Force work, and expands them in some wild new ways. Knowing the doors you were going to open, what were your consultations like with Lucasfilm’s in-house protectors of the canon while writing the script?

There is a man named Pablo Hidalgo who is the sweetest dude in the universe, and he’s one of several keepers of the flame at Lucasfilm. It would always be a conversation, and if the story required it and if it felt like it stretches into new territory but doesn’t break the idea of what the Force can do, Pablo was down — I got the blessing.

The evolution of Rey’s relationship with Kylo Ren takes an intense and pivotal turn in “The Last Jedi.” We learn that Supreme Leader Snoke has linked them through the Force, as if he were connecting a call at a switchboard — an idea thematically mirrored in Poe’s “bad connection” scene with Hux earlier in the film. Where did that idea originate?

It was always through the demands of the story. With the Force connections between Rey and Kylo I thought, “OK, I need to get these two talking. But if I put them face to face they’re going to either fight, or one of them has to be tied up” —

Well, they could also make out …

They could also make out! I’m going to give you a spinoff movie …

Even if they make out, then they can’t be talking. So I knew I wanted them to talk, and to talk enough to where we could go from “I hate you,” to her being forced to actually engage with him. That’s where the idea of these “Force connections” came from, which is kind of a new thing. It’s a little bit of a riff on what happens with Vader and Luke at the end of “The Empire Strikes Back,” but it’s entirely new in some regards.

I’ve got a catchy name for Rey and Kylo’s sexy “Force connection” sessions for you: “ForceTime.”

[Laughs] I’ve heard “Force Skyping,” but that’s good! I’ve got to talk to Apple. There’s a real big co-branding opportunity here.

Some of these revelatory new Force possibilities might be challenging for fans to accept. Are they such a stretch within “Star Wars” science and the greater franchise?

The truth is, because “Star Wars” until “The Force Awakens” has been set in amber and we hadn’t had a new “Star Wars” movie in 10 years, you forget that they were introducing new Force stuff with each movie, based on the requirements of the story. Force-grabbing didn’t come around until “Empire,” it wasn’t in “A New Hope.” Same with Force ghosts. They’d introduce new ideas of what could happen with the Force each time.

After the climactic battle on the salt planet Crait we learn Luke was projecting himself from his island the whole time. How does that scene rewrite the rules of the Force? Could a Force user projecting themselves physically influence the world around them, not just the minds of others?

That’s a question. When Luke shows up he’s projecting, it’s like a hardcore variation of what Kylo and Rey have been doing the whole time and that’s why it takes so much out of him. In the version that we play, no. We tried to play really, really fair. In terms of his footsteps – we removed all of his foley — there are no footstep sounds. They never touch. And if you look, the salt flakes that are falling are sparking off of Kylo’s saber and not off of Luke’s.

What about Force ghosts and the suggestion that Jedi masters wield even more previously unknown powers from beyond the grave? Can powerful Force users create physical, tangible manifestations?

The one point where we do introduce a bit of a twist in terms of Force ghosts is where Yoda calls down the lightning onto the tree. That, I think, is a tantalizing hint of the potential of someone who is a Force ghost interacting with the real world.

Hypothetically speaking, can dark Force users become Force ghosts?

I think that would be interesting. We haven’t seen them in the movies as far as I can remember. But that would be really interesting considering the dark side is about self-preservation, trying to find immortality, and the notion that the light side actually got to it through selflessness — what would the dark side version of that look like? There’s so much cool [stuff] to think about if you’re willing to open your head a little bit!

Another surprise in this film is seeing Leia use her latent Force powers after decades of being the Skywalker twin who doesn’t wield the Force. Why was that an important parting gift to give both Leia and Carrie Fisher?

That was something Kathy [Kennedy] was always asking: Why has this never manifested in Leia? She obviously made a choice, because in “Return of the Jedi” Luke tells her, “You have that power too.” I liked the idea that it’s not Luke concentrating, reaching for the lightsaber; it’s an instinctual survival thing, like when you hear stories of a parent whose toddler is caught under a car and they get superhuman strength, or a drowning person clawing their way to the surface. It’s basically just her not being done with the fight yet.

I wanted it to happen [for Carrie] and I knew it was going to be a stretch. It’s a big moment, and I’m sure it will land different ways for different people, but for me it felt like a really emotionally satisfying thing to see.

Han’s dice are a nice touch that resonates with Luke, Leia and Kylo, not to mention the fans, and a callback to how he got the Millennium Falcon in the first place.

When I wrote it, it was something that was in “The Force Awakens.” I think they shot it and didn’t end up using it: When Han comes onto the Falcon, he takes his dice out of his pocket and hangs them back up, like, “This is mine again.” When it got pulled out [of “The Force Awakens”] I thought, even if it’s not directly set up I think you’ll get it that these are Han’s dice. The notion that they get used different ways ending with Kylo, I liked.

Fans have been obsessed with Snoke’s origins since “The Force Awakens,” and while we get to know him much more in “The Last Jedi,” you don’t necessarily give that answer. Does it matter who he was?

Not in this story it doesn’t, which is not to say it wouldn’t be interesting — they might explore it in the next movie or elsewhere. I wrote this script before “The Force Awakens” came out, so when I wrote it, the “Who is Snoke?” mania hadn’t arisen with the fans yet. Even if it had, my perspective is it’s similar to how the Emperor was handled. The first three movies you know nothing about the Emperor because you don’t have to, because that’s not the story. You know exactly what you need to know. Whereas in the prequels, you know everything about him because that is the story.

In this movie, Rey doesn’t really care where he comes from, so if in any of their scenes he had stopped and done a 30-second monologue about how he is [Darth] Plagueis or whoever, Rey would have blinked and looked confused and the scene would have gone on … and we would have ended up cutting it in the editing room because it doesn’t matter to the story right now.

Why does it matter, then, who Rey’s parents are — the idea that she doesn’t come from a lineage of “special” Jedi kin?

It felt like the way to go because it’s the hardest thing that she could possibly hear. It would be the easy thing for her to be defined by, “yes, this is how you fit into this story — it’s because your parent is so and so!” In that moment, for Kylo to be able to use that [information] as a knife and twist it to try and get what he wants, felt like the most dramatically potent option.

Please explain the dramatic necessity of giving Kylo Ren a shirtless scene.

At the premiere I heard somebody in the balcony say, “Yesssss!” You can see Adam was training hardcore throughout the whole process. It’s fun but it also has a specific purpose, which is the increasing feeling of uncomfortable intimacy. That was sticking with the theme of trying to give Rey the hardest thing you could possibly give her, which would be unavoidable intimate conversation with this person that she wants to just hate. This was just one more way of upping that ante.

So … is this the first time Kylo has ever held hands with a girl?

I actually talked about that with Adam [Driver]. Adam was like, “So … have I actually kissed a girl before?” I would think maybe he has. Maybe after hours in the Jedi camp, there was a game of spin the bottle — “spin the lightsaber…”

— LA Times

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Feeling all twinned-out? A Twin Flame stage nobody ever talks about because it’s just not all peace, love & light Let’s take a stole down the dark side of the Twin Flame journey So last week I got a donation from a Soul brother who reads my articles and told me he likes my brutally honest, no bullsh*t approach to the Twin Flame concept rather than sugarcoating all the hard work it really involves with self. If you have read my stuff, you know there are no magic pills and that I believe this journey is much more about becoming who you are meant to be than getting hooked up with your twin. I also believe that when you have become who you are meant to be, that the relationship with the twin and everybody else will be so MUCH better – because you have completely transformed yourself. We are all caterpillars coming into this journey, meant to become the most breathtaking beautiful butterflies…   My blog fan totally challenged me (in a good way) by saying that a lot of twin flame teachings are just romantic spiritual porn, but not mine. Which basically gives me a new level to live up to, because I want to be that person that debunks all those Twin Flame myths, broaches all the Twin Flame taboos and gets as many people as possible unstuck in their journeys. I want to get you from crawling over the ground to soaring through the sky!   Not because I am a rebel at heart, but because this is my soul mission to cut through the crap of all the BS that does not get you where you need to be on your amazing magic filled adventure with your beloved – aka your Twin Flame journey. In the end only ONE thing interests me and that is bringing up the truth, because it is the truth that sets us free. Romantic spiritual porn is awesome to drift off on in illusion, but drifting off in illusions only creates delays, more suffering and extended timelines – i.e. they are a f*cking waste of valuable time that you could otherwise be investing in creating Heaven on Earth because that is our joint mission as Twin Flames. So guys and gals get ready for another truth bomb. Because this week I am venturing on the dark side of the Twin Flame journey which is tricky to do because we are going to discuss all those low vibe energies that aren’t fun at all – but we are going to address them in an ultra high vibed way. So you can release them, instead of stay stuck in them or repressing them because you are afraid that allowing them to be felt is gonna jinx your life and your union. It’s really not just all peace, love & light We live in a world of contrasts, our 3rd dimensional physical experience is one of duality. It’s not the ultimate truth we know that, but it is part of the living here on planet Earth experience. Many people new to spirituality and the Law of Attraction fear lower vibrational energies because they think experiencing them will only attract more sh*t in there lives. It doesn’t work like that. When you suppress negative emotions (pretend they aren’t there by sweeping them under the rug) they don’t actually go anywhere. In fact they become much more dangerous than allowing yourself to experience them, would ever be. This is because they are now subconsciously doing the very thing you feared, attracting more of the same matching vibrational frequency crap into your physical life experience. Anything you resist, persists – that is just how this Universe works.   So if you resist feeling so called negative emotions, than you are in fact locking them into your physical experience in a much deeper way, than if you would have allowed yourself to feel the emotion and let it move out of your vibrational system. If you fear that feeling your negative emotions is going to bring you out of alignment to union with your Twin Flame, repressing your so called negative emotions (pretending they aren’t there) WILL actually derail your energies because repressed emotions get stuck in your energy field which structurally lowers your vibrational frequency. This does not happen when you allow yourself to feel them and allow them to move out of your system. Your frequency might drop temporarily, but it will climb quickly after that. Plus if the negative experience NOW is linked to any past experience (even previous lifetimes is possible) that you still carried repressed emotions around, you would actually be able to raise your frequency higher than before because you just allowed yourself to let go of some old emotional gunk and sludge that was weighing down your vibrational field. In my online program the Align to Your Divine Plan Twin Flame Mastery Program I teach that you should look at emotions like taking a dump. When you have taken a sh*t on the toilet, you don’t turn around and make up all kinds of stories about your bodily waste. You are glad it’s out and you flush it away. Yet when it comes to emotions, we DO want to create all these stories around them, hold on to them, nurture them and so on. When basically all you have to do is just have yourself and emotional crap and flush it out. Most people either vomit their negative emotions on the other, which is a big no-no because the other is not responsible for how you feel – you are responsible for your own feelings. If they don’t vomit their emotions outwards, they either fester in them or keep them fuming inside (yeah I mean all you twin bashers – well actually you fester and puke) or the third option they stuff them way deep down so one day it will all erupt. These are all unhealthy ways to deal with all these tough, hard to handle and uncomfortable emotions. The real spiritual approach to emotions is just to allow them to be felt and breathe through it.   Then instead of wiping your tooshie, you smudge yourself and your surroundings and put your feet in a warm Epsom salt foot bath to help you fully release all the vibrational residue of the experienced emotion…. and you are good to go. It is that easy. You don’t have to hold on to the emotion. You don’t need to rehash it. You especially don’t need to deny it. You don’t need to analyze it or understand it. Just allow yourself to let that sh*t go. So now that you have given yourself permission to have negative emotions, let’s look at how they can be triggered on your Twin Flame journey. Let’s be honest your Divine counterpart is being a total pain in the *ss sometimes Let’s just get real with each other here for a minute, some parts of this journey totally s*ck! This is the kind of crap you have to deal with: Ghosting – not responding Benching – keeping you warm for later Rejection – taking back their love etc Abandonment – pulling you close and then running away No commitment – I love you, I want to be with you but, da-da-da-da…. Wishy-washiness – first they are hot then they’re cold No integrity – actions and words don’t match New or existing girlfriends or wives (guys you can turn this around – gays make it work for you ) Not being able to move on, because you never got closure and the list goes on and on….. All this stuff hurts like hell. Let’s not kid ourselves here. It not only brings up grieve, it also brings up anger because anger is a natural part of any grieving process and feeling as if you have lost your Twin Flame is often more painful than losing a loved one to death. It rips your heart out, pulverizes it and spits out the pieces. It’s brutal, unlike any loss or pain you have ever felt before. Yes, separation is an illusion but the experience sure feels painfully real.   Let’s not pretend it’s not. Sure, in the end we need to suck it up – but it is in the feeling of the intense depth of our pain that we actually push through and get to the other side of the transformation. Adversity is the biggest catalyst of change How much we would like to think that we can learn as much from getting our way and the love & light bit, it actually doesn’t work like that. The biggest catalyst for change is adversity. It’s when things don’t go as we planned and we don’t get what we want that we get forced out of our comfort-zones and THAT is where not only the magic happens, but the inner transformation. Last week I was watching another loop movie with my youngest son. If you don’t know what a loop day is, it’s based on the movie Groundhog day with Bill Murray in which he is forced to relive the same day over and over again until he ‘get’s it right‘. The overall theme in loop movies is that, you can’t get out of the loop until you have transformed whatever the loop was set up to transform, without knowing the plan in advance – you have to figure it out by trial and error. The movie we watched was a modern version of this. A college student wakes up in a dorm room on the day of her birthday over and over again, to figure out who kills her that day. The girl starts out as a spoiled brat that is not very nice to anyone basically. As the story progresses and we have watched her loop in waking up, trying to find her killer and then getting slaughtered every night – we see that she is wearing this b*tchy mask in order not to feel the pain of her mother’s early death a couple of years before. As the movie unfolds and she comes closer and closer to unmasking her killer she in facts heals deeper and deeper inside which makes her want to become a much better person. She makes a 180 degree turnaround in character, when she allows herself to deal with the traumatic effects of losing her mother at a young age and stops trying to avoid the pain it caused her. Watching this movie made me realize we are all ego brats when we start out on this Twin Flame journey, no matter how much spiritual or healing work you have done before you met your twin – you have a WHOLE transformation process ahead of you still. Yet it is the above mentioned crappy behavior of your twin, that will be the catalyst of this inner transformation together with the looping effect of not being able to move on from this person. In the end the suffering is so great that YOU MAKE IT STOP and when walking away is not an option, you are left no choice but to find what DOES work. As Twin Flames we are in exactly such a looping experience, until we figure out how to break the loop. Just like any character in a loop movie, we try the easy way out first. Then we try our old ways. When that doesn’t work we get frustrated and that frustration opens us up to trying new ways or actually our old ways not working leaves us no choice, but to try something new and that is the point of transformation that the loop was setup to create. To move you out of your old ways (3D) into a new way of being (seeing/feeling/doing) – the new 5th dimensional vibrational frequency of creating Heaven on Earth.   You can’t get there without experiencing the frustration of the old ways not working anymore – it’s impossible because these frequencies are mutually exclusive. You are meant to manifest 5D in your 3D physical experience, but you can’t access 5D if you stay stuck in old paradigm 3D thinking which is fear based and views the world from the ego perception of separation from the whole and source. The Twin Flame loop is set up to make this specific transformation from 3D to 5D – as a PHYSICAL EXPERIENCE not just some spiritual notion somewhere up there. 5D is not up there, it is a dimensional frequency that needs to be anchored in your daily life. Spirit has only one way to get you there and that is to not leave you any other option – but to move out of the old and into the new. If you got the guy or girl of your dreams immediately, there would be no incentive to do anything any other way because doing things the way you have always done them, got you what you wanted. It is in NOT immediately getting what you want, that you get stretched from who you were to begin with and who you wanted to become in this lifetime. How to break the loop?! You might think that loving your twin unconditionally is ALWAYS feeling love and saying yes, but unconditional love is also loving someone enough to not put up with their sh*t. It’s being able to see them for who they really are – the good, the bad and the ugly and inspiring them to live up to the highest expression of themselves. Way too many Divine Feminines use unconditional love as an excuse to become their Twin Flames doormat when loving unconditionally should also be directed at the self. You cannot love yourself unconditionally and at the same time be your twin’s doormat, you can’t love yourself and abandon your own truth and desires to meet the needs and wants of someone else. Unconditional love has to go both to yourself and the twin, because otherwise it’s not unconditional it’s codependent love – meaning you bending over backwards to deserve/earn/keep the love of another. Read this blog here about the new love templates Twin Flames are bringing into the world. In the whole analogy of shifting from old to new ways, codependent love is certainly old ways and masking codependent love by thinking you are loving unconditionally only keeps you looping because you aren’t shifting. Not only that, your twin’s obnoxious behavior will continue because he (Divine masculine) can’t shift if you don’t. If you keep accepting bad behavior from your twin because you love them ‘unconditionally‘ you are doing yourself and them a disfavor. Say your twin is married and keeps coming around to you for sex, just because that person is your Twin Flame does not change the fact that you are having an affair with a married person. But above all this is not a way to get this person to commit to you, if this person really wants to be with you sex is not going to be the decisive factor. Yet making them feel what their life will be like without you in it, is sheer manipulation. Standing up for yourself has to be authentic, not a way to get what you want because in a loop scenario you can’t manipulate your way out of the loop effect.   The shift has to be real and genuine to break the loop. In the case of Twin Flames, what binds most twins in the looping effect is the fear that if they let their twin go – they will lose them forever. Fear of loss is at THE ROOT of codependency (read this powerful article on how codependency shows up in the Twin Flame connection) and it is this fear that makes way too many Divine Feminines shy away from speaking their truth, standing in their power and becoming who they are meant to be – because they subconsciously fear that choosing for themselves will cost them their connection with their twin. They don’t realize that this is the transformation the loop was set up to make. You becoming who YOU are meant to be, fully and unapologetically. If this person truly is your Twin Flame, he/she will revel in the sight of you expressing your highest version of yourself. If they split because of it, good riddens – you don’t need anyone in your life holding you down or small. Remember you aren’t meant to be a caterpillar you are meant to soar the skies. Key symptoms of feeling all twinned-out It’s when you realize that you can’t force yourself out of the loop. You can’t manipulate your way out of it and that you have exhausted yourself trying all the old ways that did not work, that you get to a point of desperation and despair and this happens at various times of the journey – when just before a massive shift you in fact feel all twinned-out. You just don’t care as much anymore. You don’t feel your twin as much anymore. Your telepathy disappeared maybe. You don’t think about your twin as much or any other shift in your connection that may make you wonder – Do I still love this person as much? Is this really my Twin Flame? Or everything feels lost and over, is this really the end? Of course if you get entangled and stuck in negative emotions then you have a problem. If this is the case for you now, write yourself an email as if it is directed to the Universe and ask your Divine guidance team to show you the truth of the situation you are angry about and what you need to know. This will open up the way to see what is happening in your physical experience from the highest perspective, which will help you to understand and forgive if necessary. There are many moments on this journey that doubt or negative feelings creep in, yet there also seems to be a taboo on expressing them because well then this person must not be your Twin Flame and sure this can apply to some cases. There are certainly people out there mistaking very toxic and abusive relationships for Twin Flame connections, but to think that this journey is all peace, love & light is an illusion. Anything that forces you out of your comfort zone is going to bring up a variety in emotions and not ALL of these emotions are going to be 100% positive – that is the reality of life.   It is actually a very positive sign if you are starting to feel all twinned-out because it means your are coming more into balance. It also means you are close to an important pivot point of either coming into physical union with your twin or finally being able to move on with your life. A prerequisite for it truly being twinned-out and not just sick and tired of (read impatient with) the journey, is that you have made the inner transformation, which I talk about here in this article on inner union. Many people freak out when they start to feel more neutral or maybe even somewhat negative toward the twin – afraid it means all is lost perhaps. I wrote this article to help you understand that there is nothing to fear if you are experiencing this, because as you can read in the descriptions below ALL of this is helping you come into a deeper alignment with your deepest heart’s desire. Here are some signs that you are starting to feel twinned-out: No. #1 You are done obsessing over your twin You don’t miss your twin, think about them 24/7 anymore or hope they will come back. This is because you have healed the voids in yourself that you were trying to fill externally. You are meeting your own needs now and therefor don’t NEED the other in the way you felt you needed them before. No. #2 You lost interest in the Twin Flame subject You don’t want to read anymore information about Twin Flames, watch YouTube reads or be part of Twin Flame groups. You just lost interest in the subject and are focused on other things in your life. You are no longer waiting for your twin to come back, instead you are creating the life you love and want to live. No. #3 You are ready to drop the Twin Flame label You stop identifying with the Twin Flame label, meaning seeing yourself as a Twin Flame or the other as a twin. Maybe the whole Twin Flame concept is bullsh*t anyway? Letting go of the Twin Flame label helps you open up to the truth of the connection. It’s a sign that you are ready to face the truth, you have overcome your fear of loss on all levels. Because if this person truly is your Twin Flame, the connection can’t ever be lost anyway. No. #4 You see your twin for who they really are – a mere mortal You see your twin for who they really are and for the first time dare to get honest about if this other person even fits into your life at the moment. Do you really want to be together with this person, as they are now? You may even think your twin is a total bleep-bleep and that’s okay. Most Twin Flames start off their journey thinking their Divine counterpart is a demigod, but no one can stay on such a high pedestal and you certainly can’t be together with someone you have placed high above yourself. Because by putting them on a pedestal, you have placed them out of your league. So seeing your twin for the imperfect human being they are is actually a massive step forward to getting into an actual physical relationship with them. It means that you can see the real person instead of the romantic fantasies you were projecting on them. No. #5 You are no longer over-focused on union You are not obsessing or focused on union. You are fine one way or the other. Actually the more neutral you become about being in a relationship with your twin, the more you become a vibrational match to it. Wanting something TOO much actually demagnetizes you. My favorite Florence Scovel Shinn quote is: Your ship come in over a “don’t care” sea. When you can be happy with or without your heart’s desire, it will suddenly appear.   Florence teaches that there is an occult law of indifference. “None of these things move me.” “None of these things disturb me” we might say in modern language. When you can no longer be disturbed, all disturbance will disappear from the external. No. #6 You may even feel disconnected from your twin When you don’t feel the immense pull or feel your twin period, this is not a bad thing. It may feel like you are fully disconnected energetically – the connection feels as dead as a door nail. Though it may feel alarming, the disconnect allows you both to fully focus on what is going on for YOU in this moment, which would not be possible if you still felt super close and connected to your twin. Remember on this journey the souls use both closeness and distance to facilitate the inner transformation it has come to create. No. #7 You have let go of fixed timelines You may have lost faith in all the signs and synchs you have gotten or you still acknowledge them but don’t take them to mean that physical union is going to happen tomorrow or super soon. You realize that the signs and synchs are confirmation from your Divine guidance team that you are on the right path and heading in the right direction and that physical union is not the goal of this journey, it’s a byproduct. Of course before you get to this point you first had to loose faith, which when you do makes you think all these signs and synch are only just f*cking with your head. This leads to feeling misled by the Divine, which of course feels very scary and sh*tty. Faith however doesn’t mean getting what you want, the way you wanted it. It means trusting despite outer experiences that the Universe always has your back and is helping you come into vibrational alignment with your deepest heart’s desire. It asks you to understand that the seemingly irritating delays, are in fact the very thing that are aligning you deeper and deeper to the very thing you have asked for. Provided you don’t give up, because you didn’t get YOUR WAY. No. #8 You stepped into your power and found your self worth You have developed healthy boundaries and self worth which makes you not put up with any of your twin’s crap anymore. When you have truly overcome your codependency and the underlying fear of loss, you have no issues standing up to your twin or anyone else. This again has to be authentic and not just a way to get the other back, your problems in your Twin Flame connection are vibrational in nature therefore you cannot fake it. If your so called healthy boundaries are coming from ego, they aren’t in fact healthy boundaries they are merely masked attempts to force the other person to give you what you want. When you truly step into your power you could care less about what the other person does or doesn’t do because you know they aren’t the source of love in your life, YOU are. As you are no longer seeking fulfillment outside of you or fearing to lose something outside of you that you falsely believe you need – you no longer need to wear masks or please others. Instead you give yourself permission to become the REAL you – not the you you think you need to be to others to get what you want or feel you need. No. #9 You realized you can’t screw up your union anyway  Many Divine Feminines fear screwing up their union one way or another and it’s all just fears in your heads ladies, figments of your imagination. Remember EVERYTHING your twin triggers inside of you is meant to help you purge old emotions and heal on the deepest level. Also the very negative feelings are part of this clean up. Since November 2017 my twin and I have worked through betrayal issues and deep core wounding that I didn’t even know was tucked away in the far depths of my subconscious. In this period I have been pissed as h*ll with him and I have made him well aware of it. He knows how angry I have been and has just endured and supported my rage being unleashed. Of course throughout this process I have remained respectful to him, but I have really spoken my truth. He knows what I am upset about and why. This is what has been going on on a 3D level. So I was just in Ibiza for my very first Gangsta Goddesses retreat and we went up to Es Vedra where I did a meditation to ground my light body on one of the most magnetic spots worldwide next to the North Pole and the Bermuda Triangle. My twin has showed up in my dreams off and on but for the rest our communication has consisted of me speaking my truth and him patiently reading it. On that rock in front of Es Vedra – I am doing this meditation and out of nowhere I feel my twin’s energy coming in full force into my heart and grounding the light body with me on that spot. I have no idea what it means, but what I do know is that our higher selves laugh at our 3D tiffs and troubles. They have their own agenda and are implementing that whether we cooperate or not. I mean I have been angry with him for months and I have either not spoken to him or when I opened my mouth gave him truth bombs that he is still trying to digest and he shows up energetically anyway. I have not been easy on him at all, yet his higher self is not bothered one bit by my 3D behavior. The same can be said for me, I have been pissed with him for some time and have certainly not been his most adoring fan like I have been in the past. There was no reason for me to think of him or to want to feel him grounding my/our light body together. I am perfectly capable of grounding my own, thanks. I certainly didn’t invite him to come and honestly I am not impressed with his current 3D behavior as well, so there was no longing inside of me to have him show up in this way energetically. It happened nonetheless and it made me realize once again, you can’t screw things up with your twin – provided they are really your Twin Flame. Since I have let go of the twin label for myself in my own process, the Universe has been staking up the confirmation in all different ways. I see it and acknowledge it, but stay in a state of indifference as much as possible. I’ll tell you why. Recently I went to Mother Meera where I also met up with the lovely Ana Souto from the Bloom From Within Project. I had been thinking about the guy (twin) while driving to the event. I had thought about everything that had happened in our lives since we met. Sometimes you have these thoughts that just come with ultra awareness and this happened to me as I walked in the door. I remembered how much I had wanted to marry this man and have his baby. A desire we had both strongly felt and I thought of how different things had unfolded for us and that he was even married to someone else now. At that moment I felt such gratitude and acceptance for where I am now and that what I had gotten from this journey has been so much more valuable, then being married to him and having his child would have been if I had gotten it at that time. I love babies and children, but the bliss of having a child with the man you love is nothing compared to the bliss of truly coming home to yourself. Not to mention the fact that cleaning up all the core wounding like I have is going to make any future relationship with him or someone else so much better because I am no longer coming to a relationship with a beggars cup, begging to be loved. I am coming with a cup flowing over with love for myself and the other. If this is where this journey has already brought me now, in a space of being – far beyond what I had envisioned for myself, then I am in awe of where I will be once my higher self has brought me where it wants me to be in this lifetime. This realization alone helped me to surrender even deeper to the Divine Plan my soul scripted for me, because it has proven to me without a shadow of a doubt that it’s plan for me is much more magical and majestic than anything I can come up with in the limited 3D version of myself. I pray this article serves you and helps you further along on your journey. Donations are very thankfully received. If you wish to make a donation of any amount, you can do so here. Wishing you magic and miracles on this amazing adventure with your beloved. If this article resonates with you please share it abundantly. 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Types Of Soul Mates & How To Recognize Them

At the point when two spirits meet up and draw out the completeness in one another and at last join with Soul, that association is a genuine marriage between perfect partners. Soul mates, being principally joined in Soul and love, discover the ever new delight of God as the breath of their existence. 

Types of soul mates:

1. Soul partners

A soul partnership could be with anyone you know you your entire life, like a beloved brother or sister, or it can be with someone you barely know for a short span of time—like an excellent human being in your company who offers you a mega break in your career. Soul partners are generally destined to help support you in this life emotionally, mentally, professionally, or in any other way you require to accomplish and experience what your soul planned to do here on earth. 

2. Soul ties

When you sense a soul tie, it's simply the feel that some other soul is in your life for a reason. For instance, if your life is super duper busy yet you meet a new potential colleague or potential business partner, the sense that you have a soul tie to this individual could motivate you to make space in your life for the relationship.

3. Past-life soul mates

Many Eastern religions like the Greek orthodoxy, the Aramaic liturgy, Eastern orthodox, Coptic liturgy and philosophies discuss the concept of past lives. When two beautiful souls have shared a remarkable past life together (or perhaps several), if they meet again in this life they may be inexplicably drawn to each other—and the sensual chemistry can be dynamic.

4. Karmic soul mates

Karmic relationships may enter into our lives as change individuals who accelerate—through positive, negative, or neutral interactions opportunities or invitations to regenerate our karma (how we operate in our lives and the world) so we can grow and evolve. Keep always in mind that the soul craves new experiences, growth, and evolution.

5. Romantic soul mates

When we enter a significant romantic relationship or fall in love, there's a possibility we'll partner with this individual. What's not only possible but definite is that we are being given the time and space to heal, listen, learn, and grow because of the relationship.

6. Twin flames

This Most popular term defines an intense connection between the souls of two individuals, and some humans believe twin flames are actually one soul that was initially split into two halves. According to the theory of Twin flames , twin flames can Adore, challenge, preach, and regenerate each other in a unique and powerful way. Also, read “Unrequited Love”

7. Companion soul mates or soul mate friends.

Not all soul mates are romantic ones. Your companion soul mates or soul mate buddies—can be equally important in your life. If you think of worldly life as a temporary journey for the soul, as some religious people do, you'll want to have interesting, supportive companions for the journey, just like any individual in an incredible legend picks up companions or colleagues along the way. 

8. Soul families and soul groups.

Mega groups of souls can be connected in soul families. This can show up as real family members in this worldly lifetime, like a brother or sister who is not only part of your worldly family but also your soul family, or as individual working toward common goals who never ever meet with one another, like activists all over the world working for a single cause or spiritual seekers working to bring more love and compassion to the world. 

9. Kindred spirits

Kindred spirits are not always soul mates, but they can eventually be. Kindred spirits are basically individuals who really understand you. You may often feel a kindred spirit is someone who connects with the same spiritual beliefs you have or agrees with you about cultural and spiritual issues to the point you could finish each other's sentences. 

10. Soul contracts

Soul contracts are agreements you made on a soul level to do certain things in this lifetime. You might have a soul contract to mentor a certain child or write a certain article or book. These contracts can be renegotiated, so if you're in a toxic situation or toxic relationship, leave or change the dynamic to a much healthier one.

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Hello!

Greetings, dear Tumblr! I haven’t been active on here in a very long time. I wanted to write this post to explain where I’ve been, what I’m working on, and what’s going on with the future of this blog.

First things first, as I referenced late-last year, I moved back to Germany. (I say “back” because I’d spent my first tentative months here back in 2014.) This time, I came with the intention of staying long-term, so I had to apply for a work permit. That process took me nearly half a year, plus another 2 months before I got an official “tax number” (something freelancers are required to have), and in between all of the appointments, portfolio-building, etc., I have also spent a LOT of time looking for housing. Berlin’s housing market is tough, and since September of last year, I haven’t spent more than about 3 months in any given place. Constant moving/apartment searching is not my preferred way to spend vast stretches of my time when I could be living my life and pursuing my passions instead, but, alas, sometimes that stuff just needs to be done.

In the middle of this process — sometime back in November — I began having very odd problems with Tumblr. It was glitching to the point that I could do practically nothing with the site. I couldn’t even log out (without an interminable freeze) to try logging back in again! If I were tech-savvy, this might not have been an issue, but I’m not, so this went on until at least sometime in December, at which point I decided, “You know what? Maybe I’m just not meant to be blogging here right now.” I took that as a sign to focus my attentions elsewhere for the time being.

At this point, I am now officially a resident of Germany, with permission to work as a freelance “Editor, Writer, und Writing Consultant.” I had to spend a lot of time building up my editing business in order to make a solid case for myself with the immigration bureau, and I mostly put writing and card reading aside while I was getting on my feet and pulling my application portfolio together. I specialize as an academic copyeditor with a strong focus also on editing creative work (e.g., personal essays, websites). You can read more about the editing I do here. As for the “Writer” bit, I haven’t branched out yet into the world of writing original pieces for pay, but writing is my dream, so hopefully I’ll be moving in that direction soon. In the mean time, since I deliver tarot readings as written reports, I am still able to offer readings. (More on my tarot readings in a moment.) And the “Writing Consultant” bit on my work permit. . . well, that’s basically just an aspect of my editing work; I blend my teaching and editing experience with insights from creative writing study in order to help clients become stronger writers themselves. I love helping people become more confident and effective communicators, as well as — when we are working together on memoir-style narratives of theirs — helping them to find a deeper sense of meaning in and appreciation for their own life stories. So, these are some of the things I am allowed to do to support myself here on this visa. If you ever need editing help, if you want a coach for writing (or personal development through writing), if you’d like a tarot reading, or if you would like to hire me to write an article, please let me know!

Back to tarot: as mentioned, I spent a long time focusing almost exclusively on building my editing business. I sometimes find it difficult to switch between the analytical mindset of academic editing and the intuitive/creative mindset of tarot reading, and since the editing work makes an easier sell with immigration officials, I prioritized that. At the same time, my life circumstances, for a while now, haven’t been very conducive to the downtime, alone time, and/or grounding work I find to be an integral part of maintaining the clear mind and peaceful heart from which I prefer to offer guidance. As I focused so intensely on basic survival/immigration concerns (e.g., finding a series of apartments, taking on sometimes-excessive hours of editing work) and on managing the anxiety that many of these challenges triggered, I decided I preferred not to make myself available for readings. I feel clearer and more centered now — as well as thankful that I don’t have any immediately pressing immigration-related needs to address — so my Etsy shop will be going back “on.”

On that note, getting settled here and grounding more fully in my inner peace are somewhat ongoing efforts, so you may see my Etsy shop going in and out of vacation mode at times. But I’ve been reading cards since I was 16 (That’s more than half my life now, wow!), and it’s something I truly love to do, so I anticipate I will just keep coming back to it. Given that I now live in Europe, on the Euro, I’ve changed my prices to Euro. However, being from the U.S.A., I’m sympathetic to the fact that the exchange rate is not always kind. I try not to make a habit of running a bargaining-based business model because I believe in charging a fair price from the get-go, but if the exchange rate is ever particularly harsh for you, feel free to ask me about minor adjustments; I’d be glad to try to find a way to work with your needs.

As for my writing, I’ve toyed with the idea of starting a new blog; I took the Tumblr glitching last year as a sign as well, perhaps, that it was time for me to seek a new platform. When I have the new blog figured out, I will gladly share it with you. It will probably have a somewhat different focus than this one took on over the years; I began this blog as an outlet for the simple fact that I love to reflect on life and write about it. I find it helpful to “practice” writing about daily life, as that keeps me evolving as a memoirist. Life is beautiful, life is magical, the adventure of being here is an incredible gift, and taking the time to reflect on what we’re living and to mine it for meaning makes our journeys all the richer and more fulfilling. For me, writing about daily life is, in itself, a spiritual practice. (Many artists would say the same about their own art, I’d wager.) It is also a huge part of the way that I “learn” — and have any “spiritual” insights to share — in the first place. So you will likely see more memoir-style stuff on there, once it’s up and running. I still want to include reflective philosophical pieces though, too, so it will be a mix. I’m not sure how much of a Q&A format the new blog will take (like this blog has had in the past); that will depend largely on how much I can feasibly convert blogging into work that can sustain me. However, I’m open-minded about how it will evolve. :) In the mean time, again, I am happy to offer personalized guidance for you in the form of tarot card readings.

And finally: a (hopefully uplifting) word about twin flames. You might have noticed that, even before i disappeared from Tumblr, I stopped writing much about twin flames. This is simply because I don’t feel I have much more to say about them than what I have already said. I might, of course, come across more inspiration in the future — in which case I will very excitedly write new posts! — but I have always believed that, regardless of the labels you do or don’t apply to a person, the same fundamental guidelines UNIVERSALLY apply: mutual respect (including mutual respect for boundaries); speaking your heart in a loving way; remembering that healthy, unconditional love is non-attached; reminding yourself that unconditional love has no price (including the fact that you will NEVER need to “earn” unconditional love through suffering); checklists aren’t definitive; labels are unnecessary; no program or to-do list is necessary for what’s meant to be; and no personal growth program, to-do list, or service that comes from an ethical mindset and is worth your while will promise you any given outcome or another regarding someone else’s free will. In other words, finding peace with a twin flame situation is not about labels, “payment” in any form, chasing, manipulations, etc. I suspect that just about anything I have ever had to say about “twin flames” or any other kind of relationship will reflect these core beliefs. Of course, my beliefs are just that: my beliefs. This doesn’t mean that they are THE beliefs, much less beliefs that anyone else must share. But to explain where I come from when I reflect on matters of love, I don’t see my beliefs on love as particularly New Age; they don’t involve a reliance on spiritual “hierarchies,” on channeled messages from love “authorities,” on schedules of “DNA upgrades” (or any other claims masquerading as science). That isn’t to say that I think less of anyone for following other paths or entertaining other lines of thought: just that, aside from messages about PURE LOVE — no bells, whistles, celestial/extraterrestrial third parties, or “upgrades” required — just love, which is awe-inspiring in itself . . . I don’t feel I have much else, on the phenomenon, to offer. ;) So I don’t see myself writing much “new” content on twin flames in the coming months, though that isn’t to say I won’t return to or refine an idea I expressed previously. I truly hope you can continue to find comfort and guidance in what I’ve already written here on the subject over the years. And even more importantly, I hope that you can connect with the comfort and guidance your own beautiful heart has been waiting to share with you. ♡

If you’ve read this far, thank you very much! My “return” to Tumblr is going to be very sporadic for the time being, because I need to keep focusing the majority of my time and energy on holdin’ it down, payin’ the bills, settlin’ in (including learning Deutsch!), and all that jazz. In a dream world, I can eventually build up enough of an income through writing and guidance services that I can put the editing aside and devote more time to my online presence, interacting with readers. I’m not there juuuust yet, but I’m excited for the journey, and I am very appreciative for your interest in my writing along the way. Knowing that people look forward to and find something valuable in my words means a great deal to me and is an important part of what keeps me coming back to, and trying to find a way to live from, my passions. My hope for you is that you, too, can connect with and build a life around yours.

Wishing you all SO much peace and love! Blessings, Laura

[katlynoverwood]

Phan Twin Flame Theory

 Twin flames! It’s basically a lesser known version of soulmates. Not many people believe in them and I don’t expect the phandom to either, but seeing how many soulmates au’s there are, I guess you guys would make and exception for these two beans.

* I am not saying that they are or were in a romantic/physical relationship, twin flames could be lovers, best friends or even family members.

I’ve met my twin flame and done my studying on the subject, suddenly realising that my otp for the past two years fit mostly every sign of twin flame reunion. Let me enlighten you.

1. Unexpected meeting. Twin flames meet at the least expected time, they kinda just pop out of nowhere and change each other’s life.                                   - Dan and Phil met over the Internet, through a few early developed social media websites. No matter how big of nerds they were, I think neither of them thought they would meet someone who would change their life through the internet. 

2. Different and the same. Twins often have extremely similar and extremely different personalities and life aspirations.                                                               - Same interests, music tastes, different childhood and view on life. Dan and Phil like a lot of the same things(how else would they be friends) and are both creative. But personality wise, Dan is more anxious and careful. He seems more worrisome and he thinks too much, that’s probably why he has so many cringe attacks and existential crisis. While Phil is playful and silly, he is a sunshine, basically. Their differences make them complete each other.

3. The runner and the chaser. Usually, one twin flame possesses more masculine energy and the other possesses more feminine energy; one more spiritually enlightened and one more skeptical.                                                       -2012. The runner (usually the masculine one or the skeptical one) is terrified of how strongly they feel for the other person that they start to back away from them. The chaser (usually the feminine one or the spiritual one) becomes scared and confused with what’s happened to their wonderful relationship and tries to get the runner back.

In most twin flame situations, the twins would be apart for months or even years, but because Dan and Phil have a big, emotional audience, they couldn’t be apart. I just feel so bad for Dan because he couldn’t run as much as he wanted. If they weren’t Internet stars, they’d probably still be apart right now.

4. Union changes the world. Twin flames spend lifetimes trying to find each other, when they finally unite, their combined energy would change the world in some way.                                                                                                                -The phandom. I don’t think I need to say much about this one. I believe there are at least 800,000 people in the phandom and most of us have personal trouble in some way and sought haven in the two of them. Deep down, we both know they are relationship goals and live off their energy. (I, personally, found them a little bit after my depression started, they helped me through a tough time.) If you’re reading this, how can you not say that they’ve changed your life in some way? 

These are the only signs I can list out as an outsider. There are so many other signs that only the twins themselves can feel and can’t speak for them. But I’ll list some here.

You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”

You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.

You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time.

You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.

You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.

You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.

You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.

They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.

When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.

You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.

You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.

You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.

You twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds and repressions.

No matter how many times you avoid or leave your twin flame, you’re always magnetically attracted back to them. (Don’t confuse this with abusive relationship complexes.)

One of you is more soulfully mature than the other, and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.

You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy and open-mindedness by them and with them.

Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer and muse all at once.

Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at, and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).

You can be truthful with each other about anything.

Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.

These are taken from loner wolf : https://lonerwolf.com/20-twin-flame-signs/

[russellthornton]

Twin Flame or Soul Mate: 17 Twin Flame Signs to Spot the Difference

Twin flames are the mirror image of us. Often mistaken for our soul mate, here are 17 twin flame signs so you can recognize them.

Who out there wouldn’t love to believe that there is something called a soul mate? A soul mate is someone who exists to make our lives complete and absolutely perfect. Unlike a soul mate, a twin flame is a person who is the perfect mirror reflection of ourselves. And the typical twin flames signs are much different from soul mate ones, and sometimes can be much more problematic.

17 twin flame signs that are different from a soul mate

Soul mates are supposed to be a perfect match for us, as if a special force made one soul and split them apart to search for one another eternally. Once found, a soul mate is supposed to make us feel whole again. A twin mate, however, is a perfect mirror image of ourselves. They are someone who shows us who we are, inspires us, challenges us, and knows us like no one else ever has.

The problem?

Twin flames tend to be much more tumultuous, unpredictable, and provide us with a much less feeling of wholeness and a much more intense feeling of love and hate combined into one.

When you meet your twin flame, there are signs that are undeniable. Being our mirror image, there is an odd feeling like you have met before. Typically, that is because you have met every day of your life when looking at your own reflection.

Although opposites attract, there is something real and life-affirming about finding someone who thinks, acts, and loves, the same way that you do. But, that doesn’t make for a peaceful union. Sometimes twin flame relationships have a tendency to be very on or very off. When things are good, they are the best you’ve ever had. When they are bad, you almost wish that you hadn’t ever met.

The biggest mistake is when people make the mistake of thinking that their twin flame is their soul mate. A twin flame is sent to us to reveal things about ourselves we don’t already know by seeing it in someone else. [Read: What are twin souls? 16 signs to know if you’ve found yours]

Their job isn’t happily ever after, but rather to heal and mature those things that are broken within us. So, when our soul mate does appear, we are open and ready to love eternally as we were supposed to.

Here are some twin flame signs.

#1 You think they are the one you are supposed to be with. But you can’t seem to make it work. Your twin flame feels so right that you convince yourself that they most certainly have to be your soul mate.

Having basically everything in common and seeing things from the same perspective, you think you were made for one another. The problem is that the twin flame is sent to you so that you can see who you are inside.

A soul mate is your yin to their yang. A twin flame is a yang to your yang which rarely works. Your twin flame is supposed to define what it is that you need, not the one you need forever. It is just difficult to know when you are in a twin flame relationship that it isn’t right. Your heart is telling you one thing, but the fact that you can’t ever make it right is telling you another.

#2 You have begun to see things in a completely different light more than ever before. Never before have you been with someone who wholly believes in the same things as you. It is an affirmation that everything you believe, feel, and think is not only right, but shared.

Meeting your twin flame is like finally finding someone who validates everything you have always known and believed.

The problem is that just because someone agrees with you, that doesn’t make it right. What it does do is strengthen who you are and what you believe.

Being able to speak openly and honestly because you share the same ideals, compassion, and opinions, your twin flame is a healthy way to reaffirm those things that you presumed you knew. [Read: 10 things you do that’ll bring your soul mate to you]

#3 They bounce in and out of your life. Another one of the twin flame signs is that you are either on the way in or the way out. Despite the love you have for each other, there is one of you who seems never to be able to handle the relationship or the intensity that it elicits.

Being together is like standing too close to the sun, which makes one of you ditch out for periods of time. When they have forgotten how intense it was, they want back in, and so starts the whole cycle again. [Read: 23 secret signs of narcissism people overlook until it’s too late]

#4 When you meet it is like finding “home.” The twin flame is that person in your life who tends to come in and out when you need them. When you first meet, the familiarity makes you flock toward them like you have finally met the person who completes you.

Your connection is so intense it is like falling in love with you. The twin flame is someone who provides feelings of home that you haven’t ever experienced before. But, it is fleeting because the intensity drives you away from each other.

#5 They feel like your other half. One of the big twin flame signs is that they appear on the surface to be your other half. But, what appears at first to be the completeness that you haven’t had, is really just the failure of you to acknowledge the things about them that you possess yourself, but haven’t recognized. They aren’t your opposite.

In fact, they are your mirror. They have all the qualities that you hadn’t ever seen in yourself. Which is why once you get to know who you are, you realize that they aren’t your better half, they are just the complete you. [Read: 18 struggles of meeting the right person at the wrong time]

#6 They create change in your life. Your twin flame serves the purpose of pushing you to do the things that are right and hard in your life. Marked by intensity, they are the often the catalyst for change. Coming into and out of your life, there is typically a reason.

Whether it is to convince you to make a move or to get you out of a destructive relationship, they know you best and know what is best. Hence, why they typically are the ones to push you in the right direction for major changes that alter your overall plan.

#7 It is a whirlwind romance. Because you are already so connected and feel so familiar with each other, one of the twin flame signs is a quick-moving relationship. Since you feel like you have been waiting around for this person your whole life, you throw caution to the wind.

Not a whole lot of time needed to get to know each other, you jump in head first, which makes your relationship very serious, very quickly. It is love at first sight. [Read: Love vs. lust – 10 signs you’re not feeling love but lust]

#8 You both trust and distrust them immensely. Although you are filled with so much certainty that your relationship was meant to be, there is a voice in the back of your head that is equally saying something isn’t right. You find yourself constantly questioning your own feelings and asking if your love is real or not. But, you aren’t quite sure what is driving all the distrust.

#9 Your common sense flies out the window. You haven’t ever been the person who chases a guy, or the guy who sticks around to be yelled at. But suddenly, here you are in a relationship letting someone do things, or doing things yourself, that you never thought you were capable of.

One of the twin flame signs is the ability that the relationship has to override your sense of sensibilities and allow emotions to overrule what you believe yourself capable of. [Read: 16 clear signs you’re in a narcissistic relationship]

#10 Although meant to be, you are never actually meant to be. Although your love affair seems to be dreamy, it never comes at the right time in your life, or there is always something standing in the way of it working out.

The reason? One of the biggest twin flame signs is that you aren’t meant to be together, so fate will always be working against you not pushing you together.

#11 You are more than just a couple. Unlike the other couples you see around you or other relationships, there is much more to what you have. What you share goes beyond romance or sex. There is a deep emotional connection, and the teaching that goes on surpasses romantic feelings or sexual desires. In fact, so much so, that it seems to override sex.

#12 You have a very tumultuous relationship. Because you think it is your soul mate, but nothing ever seems to work out, and you know in your heart that something isn’t right. One of the twin flame signs is that you have a very emotional and tumultuous relationship.

Your twin flame is the one who you are chasing around the house demanding to be heard, because your feelings of love can be very intense and painful.

Because they are sent to us to heal what is broken within, you find yourself both pushing them away and pulling them in at the same time. Not wanting to acknowledge your brokenness, you are confused by what you are feeling, which can lead to a roller coaster ride. [Read: Tumultuous relationships and 15 ways to deal with a messy romance]

#13 One of you is more spiritual or mature than the other. Since one of the cornerstone twin flame signs is teaching one another, there is usually one in the relationship who is more spiritual, enlightened, or mature, and is around to help the other grow. That is part of the reasons you are meant to be together.

#14 They are always pulling you back. No matter where you are in life or who you are with, there is a continual pull that you have to want to be near and with them. That is very disheartening and can have you making poor decisions.

#15 You see something in their eyes. Eyes are the window to the soul. What lies in your twin flame’s eyes is the answer to the questions you have about yourself and who you are. That is why they are so comforting and engaging. It is like meeting yourself in another person, literally seeing you standing in front of you. [Read: When it’s true love – 18 ways to split casual dates from true love]

#16 You have things in common that are more than coincidence. Since your twin flame is someone who is in your soul family, you will have weird things about you that you share. Birthdays, physical characteristics, or even the types of majors you choose, are “coincidentally” mirrors.

#17 They bring out your biggest desires and your worst fears. Another one of the twin flame signs is the purpose is to teach you who you are inside and heal parts of you that you hadn’t known you needed to heal. They are sent to open you up to your soul mate.

That gives them the ability to reveal to you both your biggest desires and your worst fears. Part of the intensity is that they know things about you that you don’t. Introducing you to you, is one of the things that causes you the most distress.

Twin flames are souls that are sent to us that are exactly the mirror of who we are. At first, their familiarity makes us feel like we have finally found the one… our soul mate. Soon, we discover that they invoke a different type of feeling in us.

Take heart; a twin flame appears to reveal to us what we are ourselves, what we want, and to open our hearts to allow our soul mate to present themselves, and for us to recognize them without any distractions.

[Read: Real soul mates – 20 signs that you’ve met the love of your life]

Now that you know the twin flame signs, remember that this person allows us to know wholeheartedly who we are, what we want, and that we have finally found someone to complete us… yourself.

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[soulspeak3r-blog]

I met Him

Who is he? He’s the one that changed my understanding of love, he’s the love of my life, who prepared me for the most challenging lessons in my life. He’s my twin flame who revised my view of the world. He’s shaped and shifted my emotional well being while we were together and even more so after our time together. I’ve loved deeply before Him, however whatever forces that drew us together decided that the most profound lessons in love, I would have to learn with Him. These love lessons have been imbedded in my spirit and has jolted my soul. I’ve chronicled the love lessons through my relationship with Him, Ready for this emotional roller coaster? 

I, am that person who gives support and finds it very difficult to accept, I am that proud person who wears self sufficiency and independence like an Hermes bag and Louboutin heels.I had successfully built this indestructible fortress of armor around my heart that he has ever so patiently and triumphantly dismantled. Piece by piece, brick by brick and I didn’t even notice and when I finally did, it was too late, I was in too deep.There lay may bare heart, in need of shelter and protection and he provided it.   

Him was everything that I ever dreamed of: charming, handsome, athletic, educated, had a beautiful family, he was patient, he was romantic and he was mine. Where and how we met is a different story but, we had an instant attraction, In the beginning we talked about every and anything, our dark side our past mistakes the good, the bad and the ugly. It was serendipitous. We were connecting emotionally, physically and sexually and moving just as swiftly to keep up. My love for him grew faster than any other man I ever dated. He was an anchor for me at a time when I was drifting. He was exactly what I needed when we met and I knew it immediately upon staring into his beautiful eyes on our very first date at a popular restaurant in my neighborhood. 

While in a relationship with Him, a side of me emerged that I never knew existed. He managed to peel open my soul and what oozed out was delight, sensuality and a celebration of  adult love. Our chemistry was unamatched. This love that we created made me question all the love I thought I had ever felt before. This love was so primal and so pure that it had no choice but to find sanctuary in the one who awakened it. I needed him and I had never felt that way before, With Him, I was vulnerable but not weak...dependant, not needy and dangerously in love. After all, I had already declared he was the one for me.

The intensity in our lovemaking was surreal. My bond was sealed to and for Him. I remember Him questioning it’s authenticity, My passion for Him was undeniable, his touch excited me, when he kissed me and penetrated, ohhh, the energy that radiated through my chocolate body was sheer ecstasy. I gave Him everything, whenever and wherever we were intimate, It was a fairytale in my eyes, my happily ever after was coming.      

Him and I had it all, the house with the white picket fence, the cars, the boat, the dogs, the yearly summer vacations with family, followed by our subsequent caribbean vacation, Him had it covered when it came to material possessions...all I needed, all I ever really wanted from Him was his last name, I wanted to be his wife and the mother of his children.I wanted to be forever lost in this feeling that I designed in my head.I wanted Him to know that I would endure, to feel the safety in me that I felt in Him. Despite his admission to me that to get married I would have to ask him, something, I would never do, I held on to what I created in my head and believed that Him would step up and complete my dream.

I did a great job of ignoring our flaws. We both had them. We called them “demons.” You may know it better as red flags, the bright red ones.The part of the relationship that required work, we neglected. I, jokingly say I earned a Masters Degree in Ignoring Glaring Red Flags, from Love University also known as my five year relationship with Him. We may have had one argument about him picking up another woman at the airport, to be fair, her mother was our housekeeper, that argument was dismissed and never resolved because he picked her up despite my opposition and we never talked about it again.He boasted to anyone that listened how “we never argue,”  we didn’t , we just never talked about anything that made us uncomfortable.Rather than be bothered by the small things that later turned into the big things, we paralyzed our uncomfortable feelings and let our concerns simmer. Never a good idea.

Life with Him consisted of fun, I knew how to have it and he provided the means. Each day was a new more seducing experience, the more fun we had the less we worried about our “demons” each day my heart fell deeper and deeper into what I now call love oblivion. He is charming and well spoken, so in public we were the epitome of love and preserverance despite our diversity. Love conquers all right?  Love loves no boundaries they say, Love always preserveres especially when you are both fighting demons together....right? Love is supposed to win. But love is a two way street. I knew this, but I learned it with Him.

How do you ignore disrespect? Is it disrespectful when he omits details in the stories he tells me. It is disrespectful to entertain other women financially, and especially emotionally...late night chats with friends, where he gets out of bed in the middle of the night to log on and chat. How do you ignore the condoms in his suitcase when he returns home from business trips? At least he used condoms right?. How do you ignore the hotel room keys and receipts to places you’ve never been? I did, I did it all because I loved him more than any man I’ve ever been with, I ignored it because he was my best friend first, and I so wanted Him to be honest and allow me the opportunity to choose as opposed to having no choice. I ignored it because we had done adventurous things together outside of the bedroom, and accepted that I had some blame.The more I ignored, the more blatant it became. I resented Him and that perpetuated a vicious cycle. The seed had already been planted, my heart was bleeding, my insecurities raged louder and my spirit had been broken. I was suffocating. I began to question my love for him. Was it love or was it the life. I’ve never thought about it that way before.

I held on a little longer, I held on because we shared so much, I held on because I’ve already weathered the storm, I held on because I could not let go of my fantasy. He is eight years my senior and although our childhood upbringing was a stark contrast to one another our lives seemed to have many parallels, and these little intricasies made me further ignore the hairs that stood in the back of my head. Our nieces shared the same birthdays, my god daughter and Him share the same birthdays, he was the mathematical side, I was the creative, together we have an ebb and flow of energy that seemed mystical, there were a few other cutesy stuff which contributed to my fantasy of “we are meant to be.” We were both a work in progress and working on our demons together, but by ignoring what we didn’t want to talk about it not only didn’t work, it played with me mentally. We knew what each other's demons were, we just chose to ignore them when they came up. Despite all the secrets we shared with each other, we never addressed, dicussed or acknowledged how to live and deal with our demons.They existed, they were obvious but we both mastered the art of ignoring them because after all... I’ve always known Love to conquer all. But soon learned that this is not true either.

I never imagined my future without him. It was evident to me that he was planning a future without me. At this point, I had to do it, I had been sleeping in the spare room and he basically asked me when was I moving. That was enough for me to start looking for a place to live. During this time I suggested counseling, he declined, I suggested some time apart and his response was “there’s no coming back.” It was either continue to live the way we were, which showed no sign of change and any attempt at change was met with little support or leave as he had asked. The hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, was to walk away from the person that I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. He didn’t even bat an eye. That was the single most difficult thing for me to understand. Our love was truly a one way street. That totally crushed everything inside of me.

After moving into my own apartment, To help me get over Him I’ve deleted, blocked, thrown away, erased and avoided anything that had to do with Him. You can imagine the massive amount of energy that takes.Him and I spoke infrequently, and barely saw each other. I’ve made sure that I stayed busy with friends, family, travel, hobbies and service, so that I didn’t think about Him, but no matter what I did, the universe reminded me that I needed to grieve. I did what I do best...ignore. Life does not let you forget though. There seemed to be some cosmic force that had to remind me that he had a permanent space in my life and that I can’t just act like those 5 years did not happen.

Life again made an appearance and knocked me down, 2 people that meant the world to me have passed on since I left Him. Ironically one was my father, whom I did not have a relationship with, but has shaped the way I pick and chose my men. The first time I ever spoke to my father as an adult Him and I lived together, after getting off the phone with my father I began to cry, my father said some things I needed to hear, Him held me tight the entire time I cried. That day was the last time I spoke to my father. That memory is seared in my head.The other person a male who I met after Him, passed away suddenly. This male came into my life specifically to restore my wounded spirit, he reminded me of how beautiful I was and helped me emotionally, he was a confidante and mentor. Those 2 deaths rocked my foundation to the core.I have yet to recover fully. There is no second chance these men who made a tremendous impact in my life are both gone suddenly, with no goodbyes and no chance that I will see them again.  I am still learning how to deal with grief and loss learning to cherish my memories not erase and avoid them.

And now facebook  has a memories notification, despite me deleting pictures of me and Him, I didn’t delete posts or comments and wow, the time travel is chilling at times. There are days I feel it most and then a song plays on the radio like “Halo” by Beyonce (which was his ringtone on my cell),  I have purposely avoided doing things or going places that reminded me of Him, and the funny thing is no matter how much I try there is no avoiding it, it manifests in some way, form or fashion. I had blocked his number after his confirmation of marriage and after finding out our dog died, because I found I would still get butterflies and excited when I got texts from him as if we were still in that dangerous place, love oblivion. Blocked him from my phone but then I would get a notification from some other social platform where he has reached out. It’s fascinating,You can block, delete, avoid, or attempt to run from your past but the memories will always exist. Reconcile them before it’s too late.This is my reconciliation, 

The lessons in love that I delighted in, could only be taught by Him during those five years we spent together. Love University, the curricula was both good and bad. and highly emotional. I don’t think he will ever truly comprehend how he has impacted my life, if he even cares. I never told him how much I needed him, how despite all that he has done to hurt me, whether intentional or not that, I love him, that I never knew, the type of love that I had for Him, even existed, I hope to one day recreate it with someone who feels the same about me. I don’t think he knows that even though his apologies were always about how I felt and he was never sorry for what he had done, that I forgave him anyway. I had to for my sanity.

My male friends used to always say that when a man wants you, there is nothing that will stop him from getting you, That even if he wasn’t ready when he met you that he would get ready to have you.That if you are the one, he knows it immediately. I never understood them, because Him was the love of my life, I just knew that we would be together forever. And yes, Him was the one, because he taught me the most challenging lesson in my life. Because of Him, I revised my view of the world based on those five years with Him. We’re still connected somehow, even though we’ve both moved on,  and still despite it all yes, I still love Him. The love never went away. And although Him was the one for me, the grandest lesson I’ve learned and am living with is: I was not the one for Him.

Signed,

SoulSpeaking Sorcery

Before you can grow up, you must fall in love 3 times. Once you must fall in love with your best friend, ruining your friendship forever. This will teach you who your true friends are, and the fine line between friendship and more. Once you must fall in love with someone you believe to be perfect.You will learn that no one is perfect, and that you should never be treated as any less than you deserve. And once you must fall in love with someone that is exactly like you.This will teach you about who you are, and who you want to be. And when you are through with all that, you learn that the people who care about you the most are the ones that you hurt, and the ones that hurt you are the ones that you needed the most. But most of all, you learn that love is only a concept and is not something that can be defined; it is different to each person that experiences it. And you will learn to respect each and every person on this earth, knowing that everyone only wants to be loved. ~ Unknown

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Intuitive Astrology: Saturn Leaves Capricorn for Aquarius 2020

Intuitive Astrology: Saturn Leaves Capricorn for Aquarius 2020

By Tanaaz

Saturn has been traveling through Capricorn since December 20, 2017, and now on March 21, 2020, it is moving into Aquarius, just for a few short months to give us all a taste of what’s to come.

You see, after Saturn enters Aquarius, it will retrograde and travel back into Capricorn on July 1. It will then officially enter Aquarius on December 17, 2020, where it will remain until March 7, 2023.

Saturn traveling through Capricorn has been huge for me as it signaled my Saturn Return. You can read more about what a Saturn Return is here, but basically, if you were aged 27-30, 57-60 or even 87-90 during 2017-2020 you would have been having your Saturn Return too.

Now, if you fall between those age brackets between 2020-2023 you will be having your Saturn Return too as Saturn moves into Aquarius.

Saturn is the Lord of Karma.

Saturn is one of the more challenging planets in astrology. It is a planet that brings great growth and lessons. It is considered the planet of karma and guides us to take responsibility for our lives in a new way.

Whenever Saturn moves into a new sign, it creates a monumental shift that we all feel to varying degrees.

Because Saturn spends around 2.5 years in each sign, it’s energy is slow to build and usually, we cannot see the effects that Saturn has created in our lives till we are almost through with it.

While Saturn has been touring Capricorn, we have all been working through the lessons of our own karmic cycle.

Think back to what significant events were happening around 2017, does anything stand out?

Usually, Saturn brings a string of events that are almost repetitive in nature, or events that build up off one another, as this is how we begin unpacking our karmic bonds and working through the lessons so we can receive the gifts!

For me, 2017 was the start of my Saturn Return and also the year I lost my little sister, we were extremely close. She died very suddenly after being diagnosed with ovarian cancer.

For the last few years, I have been on an incredibly intense journey of grief and also in many ways, my own death process. I don’t want to sugarcoat it, it’s been extremely challenging and I know that Saturn moving into Aquarius isn’t suddenly going to make it all better, but this shift has encouraged me to start looking at the lessons I have learned.

You see, that’s what I like about astrology. It guides you to look at things in a way that you probably wouldn’t have before. Knowing that Saturn is all about hard lessons, it really makes me look at the hard lessons I have faced and try to understand them rather than just feeling angry or upset that I had to go through them.

I am still piecing together my own lessons, and perhaps you are too. But maybe like me, you are starting to see just what themes Saturn has guided you on and how that has lead to new discoveries about yourself and your life.

Saturn puts obstacles and gifts on your path.

Saturn is a heavy energy and it can sometimes make us feel held back and restricted in a certain area of our lives. It is also the planet of boundaries and blocks, so if you are struggling to know what your Saturn journey has been, perhaps see what areas of your life you have felt blocked or held back in.

Saturn builds walls as it wants us to figure out what we are willing to fight for and what direction we really want to head in.

We think we may know what direction we wish to go, but it’s not until Saturn puts some blocks on our path that we can really discover the truth of what we once believed.

By forcing us to stay in one place, we can also dig a little deeper and uncover some new truths about ourselves. These new truths can then help us propel forward when the time is right.

This right timing is now on the horizon, for as Saturn enters Aquarius on March 21, we are going to feel those blocks come down and a new freedom emerge.

With the walls down we are going to be able to see better and clearer. We are going to be able to see why we were held back and what pathways are now waiting for us.

It is going to take some time for us to get our head around this newfound freedom, but Saturn will give us until December to figure all of this out.

From March to December, we may also start to feel into the gifts that are now waiting for us. The hard work is over and we can start benefiting from all we have been doing.

When Saturn leaves a sign, it always leaves a little treasure, and this is something we are all going to receive as the year moves on.

Saturn ventures into Aquarius for the first time since 1991-1994.

Capricorn is Saturn’s ruling sign, so it was really at home in this zodiac and was able to shine its energy pure and bright. This pure and bright energy is set to continue as Saturn loves being in Aquarius too.

The ruling planet of Aquarius is Uranus, but before Uranus was discovered, Saturn was its ruling planet. This means that Saturn is considered the old ruler of Aquarius.

Moving back to its old home in the zodiac is going to feel nostalgic for Saturn, but this is not the time to get sentimental about the past.

Saturn in this placement is all about the future, where we are heading, and what changes we have to make in order to navigate this new and emerging world.

Saturn will build its walls and move to work on a new karmic lesson in our lives, but this is all to fuel radical new changes that will help lead us into this new paradigm and way of living.

Saturn being in Aquarius is also going to bring our attention to community, humanitarianism, technology, artificial intelligence, mental health, gender identity, alternative relationships and living situations, and working together for the greater good.

As an air sign, Aquarius rules over our thought processes and Saturn, as an earth sign, rules over the physical, tangible reality. This combination makes it easier for us to turn our thoughts into reality and to create whatever our imagination can dream up.

This is definitely a progressive, forward-thinking time where we can leave the past behind and head into the future that is waiting.

Once Saturn is done in Aquarius come March 7, 2023, it is likely we will be able to look back on this chapter and see radical shifts that have changed the way we live, the communities we live in, and how we treat others.

There is so much more to say on Saturn in Aquarius including the Grand Conjunction it makes with Jupiter, which is super rare and special and will shape a lot of 2021. More on this and what Saturn in Aquarius means for your sign coming soon!

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