#avoiding your problems

[solarsavoy]

May I ask 10 and 23? :)

Of course! Ask thing.

10. What's something you're excited for?

The Masquerade event in Twisted Wonderland! I've already started my Stag pic and super proud of how it's coming along! ^^ I was so excited I even started working on the pic instead of the next episode of Frenz or the next chapter of Zodiac Killers or the next fic for Karmagisa week. ^^;;; And yeah, it's kinda something like this.

23. Favorite piece of clothing?

I have a few ways to answer this one. So, in terms of piece of clothing I wear most frequently of everything I have are these comfy home pants I wear that are black and I've had them for years. I don't know clothing very well, so I don't know what this kind of clothing is called? I want to say it's mostly cotton with a bit of spandex in it for flexibility, so whatever that is.

In terms of what I wear most frequently outside of the house, I have these pants that are more of capris with super wide legs and despite them being capris (which I interpret as not pants but not shorts, somewhere in between, I hope that's correct 😅). It's easy to move in and decently stretchy. They're my work pants and it's made from that fabric that's somewhere between cotton and jeans and maybe it's cargo pants material? It doesn't have all the pockets cargos usually have but it's a similar feel in fabric, which could just be cotton. (I know I'm being way over analytical in this question, but also I'm coming to accept that that's just me and how I am and it's not so bad, so super long winded explanation it is!)

And lastly, in terms of what I like the most but don't necessarily wear it as often as either of my preferred pants. I went to a Three Days Grace concert last year and on top of loving the band and their music, their T-shirt is just super comfy. It's a mix of cotton and spandex and I wear it every chance I get, inside and outside of the home. I try not to wear it multiple days in a row because I want it to last and it's already got a hole in it. :/ I think I bought it that way and just didn't notice though tbh...

Thanks for the ask! ^^ Now time to continue ignoring all my problems and hoping they'll figure themselves out at the last minute! (AKA, this seems like a future me problem and I'm okay with that. Future me is okay with it too. I speak for her. 😉)

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

putting my prediction on record now that the coming decade is going to see the rise of viral-marketed fancy at-home water filtration systems, driving and driven by a drastic reduction in the quality of U.S. tap water (given that we are in a 'replacement era' where our current infrastructure is reaching the end of its lifespan--but isn't being replaced). also guessing that by the 2030s access to drinkable tap water will be a mainstream class issue, with low-income & unstably housed people increasingly forced to rely on expensive bottled water when they can't afford the up-front cost of at-home filtration--and with this being portrayed in media as a "moral failing" and short-sighted "choice," rather than a basic failure of our political & economic systems. really hope i'm just being alarmist, but plenty of this already happens in other countries, and the U.S. is in a state of decline, so. here's praying this post ages into irrelevance. timestamped April 2023

[hoofpeet]

Cleanup <3

[3liza]

the experience of aging has mostly been going "wait a minute....that argument my dad got into 30 years ago that was such a big deal at the time...he was right. he was right before anyone knew" and then watching it happen to me over and over. when i was a kid he and I got diagnosed simultaneously with ADHD (ADD, at the time) and he did a bunch of reading of the current research. and then he told me "we have the Cassandra curse. we're usually right about stuff but we dont understand how to tell people in a way they'll accept. this is why we're always unhappy". he was right about that too, BUT the other main benefit of aging is realizing all the times your parents were either wrong at the time, or have been proven wrong in the interim, and you get a huge bonus to your general ability to think about stuff once you have an example of someone fucking something up. and i guess you can hope to avoid as many fuckups. its all about iteration baby

[brainrot-jikan]

im not the biggest alhaitham/kaveh shipper (because im a rare pair ho) but it seems to me that in alhaitham/kaveh getting-together fics tend to be... unequal.

the beautiful thing about alhaitham and kaveh is that they're both equally right and equally wrong and equally dicks about it. but the writers for alhaitham/kaveh much more frequently seem to give alhaitham the burden change (the burden of the character flaw) instead of kaveh.

in any good character arc, the main character has a fatal flaw or misconception, and by the end of that arc they have addressed that flaw in some definitive way. scrooge was a scrooge and learned that being that way was detrimental; merlin from finding nemo was overprotective to a fault and had to learn that he couldn't (and shouldn't) control everything and to let go; the wolf from little red riding hood learns that you should stop while you're ahead.

stories centering around romance tend to lean heavily on character arcs, which makes sense. and since romance generally requires two individuals to be vulnerable and open and emotional with each other, it makes double sense that alhaitham/kaveh authors zoom straight into alhaitham's lack of emotional vulnerability.

this bothers me.

in society, individuals are expected to experience and present emotions in a specific way. if someone dies, you cry. if someone smiles at you, you smile back. if you're at a party, you're supposed to be having fun. if you don't do these things, you're seen as impolite at best and a inhuman freak at worst. when these behaviors are frequent it's often viewed as emotional immaturity, or a lack of ability to feel at all. the inability or lack of willingness to conform to societies emotional expectations of you is seen as a flaw and a reason for exclusion.

alhaitham is canonically disliked and avoided for being the way he is. he prefers it this way, but that doesn't mean the people perpetuating this avoidance are in the right. they are the societal pressure to conform that alhaitham blows off. alhaitham could be the way he is for a lot of reasons: avoidant attachment style, trauma, following someone else's example (eg. his grandmother), or just his base personality. it doesn't MATTER. he is the way he is. kaveh having to accept that should be part of the story.

putting the burden of the fatal flaw on alhaitham, making the way alhaitham treats kaveh and the people around him the problem, feels invalidating. it implies heavily that alhaitham's way of interfacing with the world, alhaitham's very SELF, is incorrect. my suggestion is to flip a larger portion of that burden onto kaveh. kaveh 👏 character 👏 arcs 👏

some examples/recommendations:

- make kaveh project his insecurities onto other people but especially onto alhaitham; he's overly reliant on other people for his own self worth, and he perceives alhaitham's lack of positive feedback as a direct reflection of how alhaitham feels about him. but learns along the way that alhaitham doesn't hate him, kaveh's actual struggle is with hating himself and being unable to his own self as worthy of love. maybe throw in how you are responsible for your own recovery, other people can help but you can't rely on them to carry you through self actualization.

- or, kaveh tries to make alhaitham behave more like a "normal" person, to be more pleasant and emotive and forthcoming, and then realizes he's in the wrong for trying to make alhaitham into something he's not, possibly for all the wrong reasons (not because he likes alhaitham better like that, but bc society says that's healthier and a better/more conforming way to be)

- or you could go ahead make alhaitham's issues the main problem but they're too complicated to overcome in a short period of time, so kaveh has to accept alhaitham is doing his best in his own way and not push for unrealistic and unhealthy changes. he could alter his own behavior to give alhaitham space and time and a safe place to land.

that got sappy so it's past time for me to dip out. go forth and ship things; but maybe consider letting alhaitham be a rude stone-faced bastard if he wants to be.

[evilminji]

Considering in star wars force users seem one bad mental break from becoming genocidal maniacs the jedi would invest into therapy alot, but clearly that isnt the case and it makes me wonder how the jedi (at least to my knowledge) came to be without any therapists on the payroll.

Same way as a LOT of countries? Heck, the military or airline pilots. Both of which give THEM access to considerable Devastating Power?

"Why do you need to see a therapist? Are you dangerous? Crazy?"

There's even odds the Sith didn't even HAVE to influence this one. It's simple Emotional Logic. Personal A went apeshit. Person A SHOULD have been or WAS in therapy. All other examples we can find of People Going Apeshit, are people who either were in therapy or SHOULD have been going to therapy...

Emotional Logic Conclusion?

PEOPLE IN (OR NEEDING TO GO TO) THERAPY WILL GO APESHIT. THEY ARE DANGEROUS.

So? OBVIOUSLY you? With your little bouts of "sometimes I feel sad" don't need THERAPY(!!!), Force no! You're not a THREAT! Not DANGEROUS! You just get sad sometimes. You manage it! How DARE someone suggest you would Go Apeshit on people!

It's the mixing up of Treatment and Cause. Combined on TOP of Religious Doctrine. It takes a LOT of pressure for people to get past the shame of being unable to Let Go. Because they biologically CAN'T. Because their Crude Matter is somehow STRONGER then their Soul.

They feel like failures. Scared. Helpless. Angry.

All things Jedi pathologically AVOID. So? There is No War In Ba Sing Sei.

Have you tried meditation?

[pixlokita]

Dude I’m not sure if you’ve noticed but ur one Dogman comic where Lil’ Petey accidentally pulls out Dogman’s stitches is having an IMPACT on tiktok. I’ve seen so many TikToks talking about how angsty the Dogman fandom is and all of them are specifically using that comic as their example 😭

Yeah… funny thing is it was made solely to get back at my two friends who ironically kept sending dogman angst my way and revenge was sweet and calculated but boy am I bad at math xD it’s been funny to sit in the sidelines witnessing it tho :’>

[sukimas]

Probably the most interesting thing that I see left out when people are discussing morty is that she’s >50% a Sakiko introject and that explains a fair amount of her behavior.

[the-great-witch-shelby]

Ok so because of the weird fog thing, I’m going to stay inside and make flower crowns so…

Everyone, what are your favourite flowers?

@im-to-dye-for @princess-of-glimmergrove @totally-human-mayor @gemofdawn @lonelyinventor @fwhipunderthefloorboards @therealsheriff @not-a-bard

[c-kiddo]

realised i had somehow never listened to this song on the official cad playlist?? i know, you come and go, oh honey, i, used to believe in something, it comes and goes........ hm . ok . dies

its nice that both playlists have like . silly muppet song. and then just absolute day ruiner songs. for example:

[gideonisms]

THE number one most irritating thing about life is deciding when you're meant to speak or make eye contact and when you're not, and for how long and how many phrases you're meant to say at a time

[thankstothe]

[straightlightyagami]

my partner thinks alcohol is not a drug but caffeine and sugar are ?? two of those are drugs and he is wrong about which ones

[squeakadeeks]

The hair work and detailing on your oc dolls is so lovely! How did you do it?

thank you!!

My approach is to first sculpt as much the hair as i can out of super sculpty III. A problem with sculpty is that it needs heat to cure, and the vinyl heads of most dolls will melt in the oven. so I deliberately make anything made out of sculpty, usually the bangs/front of the hair, detachable for curing (and cure them on a tin foil ball base the same size as a doll's head since sculpty often warps in the oven if left to its own devices). Because I have to cure them separately, this is actually why I can only do certain parts out of sculpey. I would make the whole head sculpey if i could! But i cant do anything that wraps around their head.

The remaining hair parts have to be sculpted with apoxy sculpt. what's nice about apoxy sculpt is its an air dry clay so i dont run into the same melting problem. but whats bad about it is the epoxy builds up in your skin over time and can lead to a severe allergy, so you have to wear gloves when working with it. I hate working with gloves and can never get as smooth of shapes with apoxy sculpt, so i only use it where i absolutely have to (hence why i dont make the whole thing out of apoxy sculpt). On the doll above the beige parts are sculpty, and the grey parts are the apoxy sculpt.

For dolls with bigger hair like Seam, I also used lightweight air dry clay! (literally the goofy crayola stuff) mostly because apoxy sculpt is HEAVY and if i need big shapes, i have to go lightweight.

this method works well for short haired, stylized dolls, but the longer the hair, the more of a hassle you encounter. even on Rhea i was starting to struggle. I would like to find a way to scale up this method for long hair soon though.

[puppppppppy]

adhd comix

[flying-cat]

What is writing random bullshit on your ballot doing to save Palestinians. You are literally doing nothing except handing another vote to Trump who cannot be reasoned with. He is a selfish, senile fuck. You're fucking over all the women and minorities in your own country to do LITERALLY NOTHING for Palestine because what you're doing for them isn't worth the dry dogshit stuck to someone's shoe. You want to help Palestine? Keep donating, buying eSIMs and spreading awareness. Refusing to vote, voting third party knowing it won't work as a worthless form of protest, or incorrectly voting won't do anything except hurt the vulnerable people in your own country.