#autistic ace problems

[thecommunalfoolboy]

Say it with me now

DIAGNOSIS IS A PRIVILEGE

[theartisticcrow]

With my lack of sexual attraction also comes my lack of giving a fuck

[officeobject]

I know this isn't exclusive to being aro and/or ace (as modeled by this bisexual agreeing/relating), but I don't know what else to tag, and it's probably more common with aro and/or ace people (same goes for autism).

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[thearoacefromspace]

Idk if this is an aroace problem or a neurodivergent problem but whenever people ask me for my number part of me is just like “maybe they just want to be friends” 😭

[cosmicredcadet]

Some of you guys feel way too comfortable blaming asexuality's existence for all the problems other groups face and it's super obvious that y'all never actually got over the ace exclusionist era and still don't view asexuals with any amount of respect.

[chaosvanquished]

Again and again I have to hear the argument that "asexuals are actually not oppressed because in fact virginity and abstinence is expected" but these people seem to be forgetting that not everyone lives in a puritanical or at least puritan-shaped society.

I had close, good friends remark about another friend that she was abnormal for finding some guys cute but never approaching them or seeking a relationship when we were only 18.

When I was 19 I had to see a doctor and when I told her that I never had sex she reacted with "Really ? How ?! Did you never get the urge or just want to try it out ?!"

I was asked how one could get me, an autistic person, to develop a special interest in sex so I'd want to do it all the time and try out various positions/kinks/etc.

During my internship I managed to secure a position as an assistant and everyone openly assumed that I had slept with my boss. I was 19.

Personally, I'm not sex-negative but sex-repulsed. Non-graphic sex scenes or snippets alluding to sex (i.e. hands grabbing sheets) are not only part of the normal tv program but ads. I'll see sex scenes during day time for sex toys, condoms, health apps - even fucking bottled water. On channels with kids-friendly programs.

During high school I refused a date AND just sex with a friend. He didn't understand when I said "it's not you, I just generally don't", so he came back and told me in detail how he'd rape and murder me and more.

In my 20s I lived in shared housing. Several people could not accept that I wasn't interested in sleeping around. One was actually yelling at me in public that I should sleep with him because "it was obvious I wanted to". But clearly that's homophobia ? We actually had gay and lesbian housemates, they were fully accepted.

Another public scene. A guy yelled at me from a distance in the pedestrian zone how I had nice legs and he wanted to perform oral sex on me. I was mortified. My mother found it "funny and quite charming"...

When I was 16 and had no interest in dating or sex my best friend told me "when you eventually have sex you'll have to grid your teeth and act like you feel no pain and are experienced. No one wants to have sex with an 18+ virgin. Also if you're over 18 you can't expect a guy to go slow during your first time, you're too old."

And while I love the diversity in aspec-spaces, it can get annoying to hear "just because you're ace doesn't mean you can't have sex, right ? You do engage in sex, right ?!", because people read about sex-positive asexuality and jumped on it right away.

[ireallyliketrenchcoats]

i was in the middle of eating a bowl of cereal but then it tasted weird and i didn’t want it in my mouth anymore but i didn’t want to spit it out so i sat there and cried

how’s your morning going?

[chaosmushroomsushi]

am I sapiosexual/romantic because I'm autistic? is that what it is?

do I just go mmmm being infodumped to???

what the fuck autism?

[trees-to-meet-you]

Got to the end of TMA 106 y’all were right these girls were literally just calling out Martin for being a petty gay bitch

[thatautisticlesbian]

me I wonder why my blog is so small

Me at 3 am reblogging 57 posts

[nyaacatboy]

hey aros/aces of tumblr has anyone else figured out to express the sentiment "I hate it when people complain about being single to me" to allos without them launching into the perfectly valid ways in which they are unhappy with their singleness or conflating "complain about being single" with "talking about dating or being attracted to anyone."

[greetings-inferiors]

Just heard that apparently asexual/aromantic people have a stereotype of being cold or heartless which is so baffling to me as for almost every single aspec person I’ve ever interacted with the first word I’d use to describe them (me included) is “goofy”

[sprnklersplashes]

“you can’t headcanon that autistic coded character as aro/ace” you fool. you absolute heathen. I am the autistic coded aroace.

[lillianforest22]

Gillion makes such a good character to project on if you

Have religious trauma

Aspec or arospec

Autistic

He come from an entire differnt cukture but is still expected to act a certain way. His view of the world is built on how he was raised by the elders and as he explore above the sea he deconstructs all the lies and pain inflicted upon him in the name of religion. He also never had a chance to explor romance or sexuality while training. Above sea it’s a hole new expirence. So things tj him are new. Like what you mean kissing is seen as romantic.

Gillion is just the perfect chaeacte for me and I love him

[sirfrogsworth]

This is one of those things where the discourse is just completely broken. Both of these takes are shit and no one is concerned about the actual problem.

Republicans want to bring back incandescents because they just want to trigger the libs and have decided light bulbs are woke.

And the "LEDs are fine" crowd are throwing people with flicker sensitivities under the bus. And, no, you don't have to be "pretty far on the spectrum" to notice a difference. And even if you did... why in the world is this person so dismissive of the millions of autistic folks?

LEDs, for the most part, are superior to incandescent bulbs. Collectively they save people billions of dollars in energy costs and greatly reduce fossil fuel use. You have more options for color and brightness. You can control them with your phone. LEDs are fantastic.

Unfortunately there is a design flaw that makes LEDs hard to use for certain people. Due to AC power, most LEDs have a 60hz refresh rate. Meaning they turn off and on 60 times per second. With incandescents this didn't matter because the filament didn't have time to lose its glow between cycles.

Most people cannot see this flicker in LEDs. But there are millions of people who are sensitive to it and it can cause migraines and discomfort.

The solution is definitely not to go back to incandescents. There are flicker free LEDs and I think with some regulation we could make sure all LEDs are flicker free or at least make sure flicker free bulbs are easy to find and not priced at a premium.

Thankfully there is a group testing bulbs to find the ones that will most likely cause no discomfort. They call themselves the Flicker Alliance and their website has a pretty decent selection of tested and approved bulbs.

So if you feel like your LED bulbs might be causing you distress, that is a good resource to try. I think there is also something you can do to make sure the LED drivers are using DC power, but I haven't really looked into that.

[gayshitanddadjokes]

The problem isn't the character being aroace, it's when that's the only choice the creators give the character.

"this character is autistic coded so headcanoning them as aro/ace is wrong because you're reinforcing the idea that autistic people are incapable of having romantic or sexual relationships" DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW MANY ASPEC PEOPLE ARE ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM