#authentic masculinity

[adhdtimelord]

"There is no universe where Andrew Tate is useful to anybody except Andrew Taste's mental illness. That's the only person who wants more Andrew Tate is Andrew Tate's psychosis.

"The only reason we are sold Andrew Tate is Andrew Tate is the only version of masculinity you can buy. You can buy a gym membership, you can buy a fancy haircut, you can buy oil to smoosh all over your abs, ... but you have to earn the Tim Walz.

"You have to be there, you have to show up for people, you have to care genuinely, you have to have something to say, and Andrew Tate will never have that."

— Eli Bosnick on "Dear Old Dads" episode 151 "We Love Some BDE – Big Dad Energy"

[unhypnotist]

Breaking Free: Why Integrity is the Foundation of True Masculinity

In this video, we explore why living with integrity is essential for men who want to break free from societal conditioning and live authentically. Integrity isn’t just about honesty—it’s about aligning your actions with your values, building trust with others, and creating meaningful connections.

We’ll discuss:

How negative mental trances keep men trapped in cycles of self-deception.

Why integrity attracts authentic relationships and repels dishonesty.

The importance of setting boundaries and disengaging from those who break trust.

If you’re ready to stop living in trances, reclaim your masculinity, and lead with truth, this video is for you. Subscribe now for more content on personal growth, breaking mental trances, and living intentionally.

[uncanny-tranny]

Begging, begging, begging people to stop associating aging and femininity in men/masculine people as Wrong and Predatory. Femininity has no age limit.

To any feminine man, masculine person, or really, anybody who needs to hear this: Your femininity deserves to be recognized and celebrated. Aging is a natural and unique part of life, and you don't have to sacrifice your femininity for fear of being "too old" to be accepted or seen as charming. You are already charming.

There is no limit to being who you are. No matter what you're told, you still deserve to completely claim yourself.

[fiscal-pat]

The Essence of True Masculinity: Meat and Independence

In a world full of noise, true masculinity stands apart. It's not about conforming to the alpha-beta dichotomy but about forging your own path with strength and independence. A sigma male understands this intimately.

Meat, in its raw, unadulterated form, symbolizes the primal power within us. It’s a testament to our ability to hunt, to survive, and to thrive without relying on societal approval. Cooking a steak to perfection, savoring the natural flavors, is a ritual that connects us to our roots and reminds us of our self-sufficiency.

True masculinity isn’t about dominance over others; it’s about mastery over oneself. It’s about knowing who you are, what you stand for, and not needing validation from anyone. It’s in the quiet moments, the disciplined routines, and yes, the enjoyment of a hearty, well-earned meal.

To all my fellow sigma males out there: embrace your independence, relish in your self-reliance, and never let society dictate what it means to be a man. Stand strong, live authentically, and always remember—the essence of true masculinity is within you.

[pisshandkerchief]

the obvious double standard with which we as a society treat amab nonbinary people and trans women who don't fit the level of feminity that they're expected to is actually disgusting.

[frothy-commissions]

I really love the idea of transmasculine Bede just waking up before the gym challenge and deciding that this is it. Lile what better way to introduce himself to the world than to become champion and as male. So he starts becoming more aggressive and arrogant, especially to someone like Hop who comfortable in their own body (maybe not with themselves, but with their gender at least) and presenting as a man would in his eyes. He starts rejecting that he still likes pink and feminine things, and tries so hard to disassociate from it...

Until Opal take him in and suddenly he is confronted for the fact that he's still pink, and he still likes pink. Confronted with the fact that faries, pink, and softer things don't negate his identity as a man. He doesn't have to be aggressive to affirm his masculinity; he is still him. And it's almost freeing for Bede to be the fairy gym leader, to be dressed in pink, to show the power of pink, but as Bede. He finally gets to fully be himself.

[aiscapades]

this isn't touchstarved related i just wanna say something into a void that cares

getting ready for a concert tomorrow && i was having such horrible body image issues with my skirt x corset combo. just wasn't feeling it. so i thought i'd go a more masc western route to fit the vibe of the artist && wow i love 🩷 masc fits 🩷 i love working WITH not AGAINST my broad shoulders and Thick arms and hiding my boobs away and wow. i love gender nonconformity i love gender expression i love being free. finally free

[jennycalendar]

your tags on that fandom post got me thinking of how... defensive fandom is of the status quo kinda? like I'm white so this might come off like I'm absolving myself which I'm not, but so often I see "fandom is a queer run space that fixes canon! buuuut we're going to focus on the white men because they're the only ones with depth :) and we're going to make actually good female characters cookie cutter. and we're going to ignore black men and especially black women. but queer run safe space!!"

the minute i got this ask i knew i had to wait until i was at home with my laptop because my fingers cannot fly as fast on my phone as they can on the computer keys. this is literally so much of what is happening in the buffy fandom. the whole thing is built on intrinsic systemic racism n misogyny that's reinforced within the show and that many in the fandom do not critically engage with in the slightest. it is absolutely objectively insane to me that i can make a post going, for example, "hey, isn't it fucked up as hell that the show treats the romani people as evil for wanting angel to suffer?" and then people will come into my inbox or land in my reblogs and go "well, actually, the show treats the romani people as shortsighted and bad at long-term planning, and i choose to read them that way too :)" and fully not see that there is a hell of a problem with THAT statement as well (real thing that happened). OR that kennedy hate is still hugely in vogue because she's mean and bratty and terrible and doesn't know her place!!! OR kendra's death & how easily she is forgotten by the fandom!!!!! OR the entire trend of handing buffy to a person's favorite character like a little trophy they've earned for being tortured and sad, reducing her to a facet of a romantic relationship & implying that this is what she needs to feel and be complete!

OR OH MY GOD THE ENTIRETY OF EVERYTHING SURROUNDING SPIKE. where do i even start with spike. completely serious, i am honestly endlessly impressed by the people who can still handle being fans of spike, because being a fan of spike means having to wade through 20 million fics where That Bitch Buffy must be narratively punished for abusing poor baby spike who only ever wanted to love her and was totally out of character every time he hurt her (and also drusilla is a vapid whore who didn't love spike, ever.) like i am not at this point in time always strong enough to engage with spike content simply because there is so much spike content that is SOAKED in violent misogyny repackaged as Deep, Torrid Romance. it's exhausting to try and find the good stuff when sometimes even the good stuff will throw you a curveball in chapter five or shy uncomfortably away from the racist realities of spike's character. the fact that robin wood has been hated for so long because he had the Nerve and the Audacity to want retribution for his mom, and that he is framed as in the wrong for wanting that, is in and of itself so fucking upsetting to me.

AN Y WAY. i agree with you. and i get what you're saying. i think an awareness of the pattern and a willingness to feel uncomfortable within your own mistakes is always a good place to start. i try so hard never to dig my heels in if i can avoid it.

[unhypnotist]

The Power of Controlled Strength: Why Every Man Must Be Capable of Violence, But Seek to Avoid It

In a world that often misrepresents masculinity, strength, and violence, it’s crucial to understand the nuanced role they play in a man’s life. Many confuse the capacity for violence with aggression or dominance, leading to either the glorification of unchecked power or the rejection of strength altogether. The truth lies somewhere in between: being capable of violence is a necessary skill for any man, but it should never be the end goal.

As a martial artist with over 40 years of experience, I’ve learned that the essence of training is not to fight but to avoid fighting at all costs. Breaking free from societal conditioning and negative mental trances involves understanding this balance. It means cultivating the ability to protect yourself and those you love, while embodying the discipline, restraint, and wisdom to use that ability only when absolutely necessary.

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The Role of Controlled Violence in Masculinity

Violence is an uncomfortable subject for many, but the reality is that the ability to act decisively in defense of yourself or others is an integral part of being a man. This doesn’t mean seeking conflict or proving your dominance. It means having the capacity to act when the situation demands it.

1. Strength as a Foundation

Strength is a core attribute of masculinity, not just physically but mentally and emotionally. The capacity for controlled violence stems from strength:

Physical Strength: The ability to protect yourself and others starts with physical capability. Without it, you’re vulnerable to threats beyond your control.

Mental Strength: The discipline to train, prepare, and remain calm under pressure is just as important as physical skill.

Emotional Strength: True strength includes the ability to control your emotions, ensuring you act rationally and with purpose.

2. The Necessity of Preparedness

The world is unpredictable. While most of us will never face life-threatening situations, the ability to respond effectively is invaluable. Whether it’s defending your family from harm or diffusing a tense situation, preparedness provides a sense of confidence and security that extends far beyond physical combat.

3. The Restraint to Avoid Conflict

Violence, when unchecked, leads to destruction. But the capacity for violence, combined with the wisdom and discipline to avoid it, creates a powerful dynamic. Men who are capable of violence but choose peace are not weak—they are masters of their own strength.

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Breaking the Negative Trances Around Violence and Masculinity

Many men fall into societal trances that distort their relationship with strength and violence. These trances either glamorize violence as a measure of masculinity or vilify it as inherently toxic. Breaking free from these narratives is essential for reclaiming authentic masculinity.

1. The Macho Trance

Some men equate violence with dominance, using physical strength as a way to assert power over others. This mindset often stems from insecurity, creating a cycle of aggression that ultimately leads to isolation and failure.

Breaking this trance means understanding that violence is not a measure of worth or manhood. True strength is quiet, controlled, and purposeful—not loud or destructive.

2. The Passive Trance

On the other hand, modern culture often portrays any expression of masculine strength as dangerous or undesirable. Men are encouraged to suppress their instincts to protect and provide, leading to passivity and disconnection from their natural roles.

Breaking this trance requires rejecting the notion that strength and violence are inherently bad. Masculinity is not the problem—misguided or unchecked use of power is.

3. The Fear-Based Trance

Many men avoid conflict altogether out of fear—fear of failure, fear of harm, or fear of standing up for what’s right. This trance keeps men trapped in inaction, unable to protect themselves or their loved ones when it matters most.

Breaking free involves confronting these fears and developing the confidence to act decisively when necessary.

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The Discipline of Avoidance

The ultimate goal of cultivating strength and the capacity for violence is to avoid its use. Martial arts, at its core, is a discipline of peace. It teaches that the highest form of mastery is not in fighting but in resolving conflict without violence.

1. Confidence Reduces Fear

When you know you’re capable of defending yourself, fear no longer drives your decisions. This confidence allows you to approach tense situations with calm and clarity, often diffusing them before they escalate.

2. Respect for Others

Training in controlled violence instills respect for its power and consequences. You learn to value life and the well-being of others, making you less likely to engage in unnecessary conflict.

3. Focus on Solutions

The ability to avoid violence stems from a problem-solving mindset. Instead of reacting emotionally or impulsively, you learn to think strategically, seeking solutions that preserve peace and protect everyone involved.

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How to Cultivate Controlled Strength

For men seeking to reclaim their masculinity and break free from negative trances, developing controlled strength is a crucial step. Here’s how to start:

1. Train Your Body

Physical training is the foundation of strength. Whether through martial arts, weightlifting, or endurance training, developing your body builds confidence and resilience.

2. Train Your Mind

Mental discipline is just as important as physical skill. Practice mindfulness, meditation, or focused breathing to cultivate calmness and clarity under pressure.

3. Learn Self-Defense

Enroll in martial arts or self-defense classes to develop the skills and confidence to protect yourself and others. Remember, the goal is not to fight but to be prepared if you must.

4. Embrace Responsibility

Understand that your strength is not for personal gain but for service. As a protector, your role is to safeguard those you love and contribute positively to your community.

5. Practice Restraint

Strength without control is dangerous. Practice restraint in all areas of life, from managing your emotions to avoiding unnecessary conflicts.

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The Outcome: A Man of Strength and Peace

When you cultivate the capacity for violence while choosing peace, you become a man of strength and integrity. You’re no longer reactive or driven by fear, but calm, confident, and prepared to act when necessary.

This balanced approach transforms not only your relationship with violence but your entire life. It deepens your relationships, enhances your leadership, and allows you to live with purpose and clarity.

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The Balance of Strength and Peace

Being capable of violence is not about seeking conflict or proving your worth—it’s about preparedness, confidence, and responsibility. When you break free from the trances that distort masculinity, you realize that true strength lies in the ability to protect without aggression, to lead without domination, and to resolve without violence.

As a man, your capacity for controlled strength is not just a skill—it’s a gift. Use it wisely, and you’ll not only protect those you love but inspire others to rise to their highest potential. Because a man who is both strong and peaceful is a man who cannot be stopped.

[alexenglish]

love a gender thesis as much as the next trans scholarTM but sometimes you get through a Post and realize the person writing it has soooo much genuine disdain for femininity it's like ohhhh my god. oh god. ohhh my guhd you have Got To Unpack That before i can take you seriously.

[carpethedamndiemdejavu]

"There is a crack, a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen

[ebonyseuphoriatarot]

[sendmyresignation]

deeper into major labels and while i disagree with a lot of it its become more of a fun intellectual exercise since now it's much clearer sanneh is in his own critical zone instead of just going total summation mode.

[feminiel]

Okay, but I think dark feminine energy work very closely with the light and divine side of masculine energy. Before learning the concept of dark feminine energy and being aware that she was pushing me to transform, do shadow work, or be my authentic self, I thought it was my masculine energy directing me to those goals. And surely it was because without it, I couldn’t have go that far with courage and determination. I think dark feminine energy and light masculine energy complete each other very well. The light side of the masculine helps the dark feminine to pursue her goals of transformation and helps her feel confident in her dark feminine energy by giving her power for feminine empowerment. To be able to get to the core of dark feminine energy I had to use my light and divine feminine energy to heal my wounded ego who in the time was very much in his dark masculine energy. In return, my healed light masculine energy was now supporting my dark feminine.

It’s a harmonic dance between the dark and the light for the purpose of alignment of the self and for becoming the best and authentic version of us.

The divine feminine heals the dark masculine to become balance and whole.

The light and divine masculine encourages confidence towards the dark feminine to realize and empower herself with using her most valuable inner qualities.

The dark feminine and dark masculine help the light feminine and light masculine to awaken to their best qualities by revealing their shadow sides; where clarity and healing are needed.

Personally, I remember working on healing my ego first, my dark masculine energy, with the help of my light and divine feminine qualities. As I heal my dark masculine energy, I was bringing more and more divine masculine and divine feminine energy to the surface, which was helping me get deeper access to my inner transformation and shadow self work, my dark feminine energy that is.

Each of these energies is aiming for divine union and harmony. Ultimately, all of these energies are working together for the same purposes: the actualization, empowerment of the love/true self and its mission, to become whole and balanced.

[mantabanter]

coping by making ocs who havent medically transitioned yet and unsure how to actually communicate exactly what it means to me without sounding like a freak

[funsetsunset]

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