#aroace feels

[aroace-people-are-lgtbq]

being aroace is getting shoved in the closet constantly (vent ask).

Mood

-mod ama

[joaniam]

Like from that post imagine if it were the enemies were a boy and girl, and the hero was gay and people were STILL calling for enemies to lovers

Y'all realize that'd be homophobic

But if anyone says there's NO romantic tension, romantic tension is still assumed and assumed automatically

That's amatanormativity at best, and aphobia at worst

(and it happens in real life constantly and horribly)

[dumb-aro-dude]

i don’t know how to explain this well but as an aroace person, my aromantic identity and asexual identity feel very seperate.

yes they’re interconnected in some ways but they both come with individual experiences. my relationship with romance and sex individually are different, even if there’s crossover.

hopefully some people can relate??

also i find the aroace flag so ugly i’m sorry 😭 i want to like it but i don’t

[ksfoxwald]

Most of my friend group was meh about dating, preferring to focus on academics, extracurriculars, and friendships. Even those of us who did date didn't really have much drama about it.

Most of us also turned out to be various flavors of queer.

i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues

[kitsu-katsu]

A group of queers of all types is a pride

A group of aces is a deck

A group of aros is a quiver

A group of trans women is a code-camp

A group of enbies is a byte

A group of bi people is a tandem

A group of pan people is a panic

Thank you for coming to my wilderness documentary

[redysetdare]

Sometimes...characters being in a romantic relationship is worse.

[ksfoxwald]

oh, y'all love the asexuals now - as your little prop for "umm, stop talking about sex, think of the asexuals!!" Buddy even sex-repulsed aces can handle other people talking about sex, being asexual does not automatically make someone a child. You love asexuals when they're your little uwu soft baby sweet romance hero who just wants cuddles and kisses and thinks sex is icky the same way you neo-Puritans think sex is icky. You don't want aces who hate kissing but enjoy sex. You want aro-aces to be your funny little supporting guys but not have their own narratives and priorities. You don't want aros who enjoy sex, and you sure as fuck don't want kinky aces and aros.

Some days I miss when asexuality was "the invisible orientation," because I stopped identifying as asexual when other people started having opinions on what that meant.

(keeping the flag, though. It's the best flag.)

"we need weirder queers" you guys couldnt even handle asexual people in 2016 (and probably still cant handle them)

[nouverx]

Louise never heard about puppy love, cause they don't know that term in France 💔

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Lyrics are from Louise by TV Girl ! I was listening to it yesterday and that specific line on the second page screamed Alastor I just had to draw something about it

[dumb-aro-dude]

expanding on my last post, i tend to find myself more like sex favourable than romance favourable and i feel like part of that is bc i feel more surrounded by and pressured by romance??

[kalmiaclown]

I passed oyt and was blessed with a vision...

[ksfoxwald]

Genuine question for non-aces, at what age did you realize you were, for lack of a better word, sexual? Like, all little kids think kissing/marrying/dating is gross, right? And then at some point it switches to being interesting? When/how does that happen?

I've seen multiple kids books with asexual protagonists and I'm confused because I always assumed it was very normal for twelve /thirteen/fourteen year olds to not be interested in kissing or dating, but I don't think my experience is average.

(I'm currently id-ing as non-ace aro, so me at twelve was like "huh this sex thing seems like something I want to do in the future but also I definitely don't want to date anyone now," invented the word asexual all by myself and then promptly discarded it as something that could apply to me until I started exploring the internet at eighteen and still didn't even think it applied to me until years after that.)

TEENAGE YEARS ARE LIKE THAT AS MOST (not all) ACESPECS REALISE AROUND THAT TIME

[atlitudes]

ooooOooOoOoooooOOOOOoooo…. actually….. that character….. doesn’t need to be in a romantic relationship…. to be fulfilled or happy or “well rounded”……. ooooooOoOoOo…. and neither do PEOPLE……

[nanochittle]

Reblog if you're LGBTQIA+ (Yes Trans people and people on the ace/aro spectrum are also valid, shut up)

[pinkxcloudz]

isn't it fucked up that people describing their relationships get their language policed; even though it's their relationship? isn't it fucked up that most of those terms are coined by aspecs? i.e.

"my platonic polycule"

"you mean friendgroup?"

"my queerplatonic partner"

"you mean friend?"

"my sexual partner"

"you mean fuck buddy?"

"my squish-"

"your WHAT?"

it's tiring. trying to live in a world as an aspec person and seeing casual aphobia everywhere. you can't get a break. maybe ask if it affects you. are these terms offensive? are you in that relationship? is it your business? if no, shut your mouth

[sillylilneurodivergent]

Guys, it happened. I’m an

AAAAAA (aromantic, asexual, agender, with autism, adhd, & anxiety)

[weepingfireflies]

I'm actually not particularly fond of the romance/sex-favorable/neutral/repulsed division as, like, a permanent identity for me because somedays I'm frolicking in romance and smut & other days I want to explode the world if I see ppl even mention a ship at all. I think it's good for a lot of people, but it doesn't really work for me unless I'm feeling repulsed or neutral or favorable

Edit: Everyone who saw this that was wondering if there was a word for this: I've been informed about the term sex/romance-ambivalent. I suggest searching it up. Thank you to the people who mentioned it, but please stop trying to label me. Whether I decide to personally use it as a label is up to me.