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crabs-with-sticks · 2 months ago

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Forever going to be annoyed at our society's obsession with the pushup as a marker of strength. Like, um yeah, I find a full pushup hard because I'm bench pressing like 55kg. Fuck you I'm not going to feel bad about going onto my knees or doing an even easier version

#I looked it up and a pushup is around 60-70% of your body weight #and thats not even getting started on excersising your whole body #this mini rant brought to you by my positive experiences at a queer gym #the instructor is lovely they always go through like three different variants #and theres never any shame #like lots of 'if you're just not feeling it today take a break or do an easier variant'#which I really appreciate #none of that 'girl pushups' rhetoric here :D #jay rambles

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hybbat · 4 months ago

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I do think a good chunk of the 'cringey atheist' stereotype did come from the fact that, especially americans, regardless of their actual religious status are just casually christian and refer to things through a religious filter and that isn't seen for how overwhelming/obnoxious/frustrating it is. Its absense, such as when writing a story and things like "oh god" or other casual references are remove or replaced, is seen as notable the same way people find the cast being all women or queer being 'abnormal'.

And I think more people, especially here on tumblr, should take a moment from ragging on some kid being "cringey" saying god doesn't exist or making atheist jump around like dancing monkeys to establish they're one of the good respectful ones before they ever even begin to talk about their own thoughts, and examine why so much content just inserts god into a conversation that had nothing to do with religion like it's the expected norm, the same way they examine the invasiveness of casual heteronormativity.

#this is just cause an ex christian youtuber i otherwise like refers to any extreme emotional experience as a 'religious experience'#as if everyone can agree on it being so #and theres more than a few posts on here that make me wonder why #so many people are incapable of making something 'poetic' or 'great' without invoking religious imagery #even where it had no relevance #atheism #anyways #ive seen uncomfortably similar treatment that aces in particular have received for pointing out amatonormativity in a post #its rare these days though because atheists have long since been thuroughly shamed in american society as being edgy #which like wooow a christian nation that shames every other religion in some way found a way to shame nonreligious too? shocking #actually i get kinda annoyed when i think about it its one of those propaganda that people casually buy into #without examining it at all #youll see atheists acting like dancing monkeys trying to establish theyre not cringe guys its okay #just to talk about how they feel and think #i remember being a young adult and when someone started talking to me with the assumption of god being in the picture #and id get an eye roll like i was being childish not going along with it nevermind they inserted god into the convo in the first place #without question or comment #and i know it wasnt forceful the same way some ex religious folks can get a bit zealous the same way they were about religion #which theres something to eb said for that zealousness being acceptable when christian but not when atheist or another religion #but ive never gone through such a phase my family has been atheist for several generations now and we were taught to respect beliefs #anyways sorry idk why this is on my brain this afternoon i think i saw a post or smth and it reminded me of that youtuber

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minkufu · 8 months ago

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Anyway if youre like me and have trouble visualizing poses you have in mind, 3D models are a godsend.

The structure and proportions of the models arnt perfect even if you resize them, so I end up adjusting a LOT. I just need the general shape of the poses.

one of the best examples I have of 3D models in clip studio making it possible for me to actually complete a draw I otherwise would have scrapped lol

#mika speaks #of course i dont use this for all my draws #usually just for more angled poses or pics including more than one character doing more than just standing by eahc other lol #im not good at starting things from 0 #I need a visual of some kind to work off of usually otherwise my brain will be as blank as the canvas #shame theres nothing that helps with writing in the same way tho #anyway i just like to share this sort of stuff #cause theres a lot of people that act like using any form of reference like this is a crime #even tho the models are free and you pose them yourself #theres a lot of pieces i would have never finished without them #it just helps to remember not to try to perfectly trace the model #just use it as a guide #tracing them makes it too stiff

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softshuji · 11 months ago

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eldest daughter syndrome really do be kicking my ass tbh

#i just find it like so unfair yknow #im the only one who works in myhouse and full time #but i come home and the house isnt clean and i tidy up and sort everything out and tidy the kitchen anf living room after dinner and put #my sister to bed and yk if there was no one else to do these things id understand but #i have 5 brothers all of whom are adults and they dont lift a finger #its not as if any of them work bec they dont and neither does my dad #and im so so so exhausted yk? bec not everything is my job or responsibility #and i keep blaming other things for me getting sick but yknow what maybe i just dont rest enough #and the other day i was upset bec i'd had a tough day at work and i felt unwell and i cleaned up everything after dinner and my brother #said i didnt have a right to be upset bec i “chose” this. like as if i chose to work full time nd do all the chores for a family of 9 #and it just really upsets me bec no one sees an issue with it and im so mad at my mom at rhe same time #constant therapy sessions w her bec shes mad at my dad and wants someone to vent at and then he does the same abt her and my brothers #and im so tired yknow just sososos tired bec she'll complain abt how they dont do anything but then she wont ensure they do either #its just empty complaints whereas she thrust responsibility on me when i was 9 and yet my brothers are 18+ - all but one that is and they #cant even do their own laundry bec she just..... did everything for them all the time but now is mad that they cant do anything.#like yes i know my dad is a failure of a husband and a father i expected that i'll never be a good enough daughter for him and that the onl #thing he has to say about me is that im bringing shame on our family despite everything ive done but come on #im just tired and upset #its hard not to see yourself as a robot or machine when theres little room to be anything else.#and even on a day like today when i dont feel well it never stops and i just keep doing #im sad i want a hug from my gangster bf #oh god i am sorry pls do not perceive me for this #and yk what #thats why i cant stand when people are nice to me bec all i can think of is #i havent done anything to deserve this? i should have to give something in return #or if not #theres something this person must want because why else would they be nice to me when i havent done anything for them #i cannot fathom the concept that someone just wants me because its me #its literally just not possible why would anyone fo that for me

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koko2unite · 5 months ago

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#wendell #fortnite #so i just found out that my mom cooked smth delicious at home #and only now she decides to cook one #she didnt cook anything while i was staying there when this stupid house that i dont even own is being fixed #she specifically wait for me until this house is “done” aka has a bed even though theres still no clean water or fixed fences #and once im gone she goes back to cooking good food again #and she expects to be normal about this? to not get mad??? after all of my emergency money used up to fix someone else's house?????#i cant believe she expect me to respect or love any of them with this kind of treatment #i wanna cut off them so bad too bad im traumatized and my whole life ive only been striving for their attention and praises #and if i lose it my mental is gonna go down the drain #i hate this so much #how dare she says that she treat all of her children equal #when she only sing praises to my sibling for being able to achieve the assigned goal they made for him #and for my other sibling who now has 2 grand children #they think they didnt know they never talk about me to other people because im the shame of the family #while keep asking me money and making me pay for my brothers family needs #even though they all make the same or even more than me #i hate it #is it because im gay? or what?#like im still your son goddammit that is not ok #fuckkkkk

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wooahaes · 1 year ago

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also lowkey kinda wanna write a fic at some point thats like. implied to be an older reader (like 95z/96z liner since it'd be svt specifically) whos never had a lot of experiences ppl mark down as 'normal teen experiences' (first kiss n whatnot) for whatever reason. and its not like a 'ohh im so nervous ive never been kissed' but reader just kinda being like 'yeah im doing shit on my own time. i dont wanna rush it, but can we take stuff slow as we figure this out together?' and its just reader and whichever 95z/96z guy figuring out this relationship together. maybe reader mentioning they've had relationships once or twice before but it didnt Feel right and they didnt wanna just kiss someone for the sake of saying they've kissed someone, etc.

#wooahaes.txt #like idk i think it bothers me a lot when some ppl like... try to spin shit like 'if you havent done (x) by (any age) then ur hopeless'#like who cares babe! i used to be like... severely insecure abt the fact ive never been on a date or kissed anyone #and now ive just kinda hit 23 and im getting into a mindset of 'ill do it when IM ready. not when someone else expects me to be'#and theres honestly nothing wrong with that?#like. for anyone who needs to hear it regardless of age: anyone who shames u for the experiences u have or have not had is Not worth keepin #around in ur life!! the right ppl (platonic or romantic) will accept u as u are <3 theres nothing wrong with wanting to be ready

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doomzday-zone · 25 days ago

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i think about 'i would do it all over again' every day of my life.

#idk i just........ smth about it #i just think its so fascinating. does william afton..... believe he could meaningfully change?#does he have any hope that he could? like completely unrelated to wheather or not he Wants to.#does he believe he could be redeemed?#even when faced with like. eternal torment...... what does he think of it?#does he find it fitting?#and nawt to mention au shit r whatever BUTT !!#liek the thought of one of yhe souls(Cassidy r that other kid probably lol)#like recounting events....... and he just . cant will himself to feel shame about it ...#its not that he doesnt care i think tho. cause he can still.... Remember. even smaller details that they may not remember fully #'the dead do forget' but not him..... never him...... despite everything theres still a little piece of him that clings to life. to humanity #or something lol. sum good for thought

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spaciebabie · 9 months ago

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I saw Springtrap submitted to a mosterfucker confessions blog and I immediately thought of you, even though I know it's not likely it was you who sent it dsafd The ask in question mentioned how there was a thrill to the one on one cat and mouse game he played in fnaf 3

true. true. although im less of an enjoyer of that since i dont find him that scary (some art does a really good job! but even in those instances my reaction is quite...uhhh carnal XD). also . he would be nicies 2 me :3

#he would try and kill me at first and it would be awesome cuz hed lose so bad lmao #decrepit old thing.#i only really enjoy the cat and mouse thing under certain circumstances. if it starts 2 get too intense its not really enjoyable for me sdk #''ooh!! imma getcha!!'' done playfully or with the knowledge that he doesnt wanna hurt me is fine but #if i start ta feel like im actually in danger its a turn off skfjsdf #props ta those who do enjoy it though!! i just like being treated kindly more often #i think initially meeting him would be where that mostly happened and thats fun but after that no #like i dont mind initially being hunted b/c hes lost his mind or whatever and cant even comprehend reality #thats really hot ngl but only short term. or like briefly.#idk how 2 explain this lolllll my tastes are very specific #spacie splains #top 10 reasons why i never read any springtrap stuff on ao3 theres. so much violence and noncon and i #am very much not in2 it #again no shame ta ppl who enjoy it its just.....not for me

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mothslimes · 2 months ago

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hate having interests hate hate hate

#mik talks #hate how excited this fucking show makes me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#why am i so autistic #do people actually enjoy this... being this excited over something that your entire body vibrates and your heart beats really fast #and you feel like throwing up almost and cant sleep and dont care about anything else and cant make yourself care about anything else?#and its like okay any moment now im gonna open my mouth to my friends again and become super annoying.#contrary to popular belief i actually try to be normal #and theres this deep deep deep shame over it like oh... i am gross and creepy and wasting my life on shit no one cares about #i will never post about my interests on tumblr even if it got me more followers or more likeminded friends.#id rather just let them eat holes inside my organs forever i kinda dig the pain #its like my own private religion i worship #religion of fantasy faggotland sory i love that phrase a lot

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slipperyslideyday · 2 months ago

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I'm really realizing that my biggest ick in books is when man / woman / any gendered term is replaced with "male" and "female". Typically I see it used in romances with non human characters but like. Are you really dedicating yourself to "yes these angels/vampires/fairies/were-whatevers have a sexual binary that humans TOTALLY have but dont call them man or woman! bc they're not human!"

#the book i just read had all of these in story btw #they NEVER want to have any fun with it its just sexism #its very 'noooo theres no trans or intersex people here- yea theres gay people but NOT LIKE THAT'#vibes wise to me #completely Trying to sidestep gender and then slamming face first into the idea that sex is a binary #i tried mentally replacing male / female with 'normal' gendered terms and it did make the text feel less weird #which is such a shame for the book i was just reading - i think it had a solid story aside from that weirdness #yea the power of love and friendship is all powerful HOWEVER #im not shocked when other books do it bc its pretty explicitly straight to start with - but when authors are trying to shake stuff up -#-with gay characters it comes off as. lets say disingenuous at best #its shitty as a trans person bc theyre trying to dodge the gender convo but worse to see people hammer down on sex binaries #we have four chromosomes & intersex people are as common as redheads in the us #this isnt a hard concept for a novelist to wrap their head around imo #slipspeaks

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trans-xianxian · 3 months ago

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I showed my housemate a picture of all of the available babies together and he was like that's a lot of babies and I was like well I'm not getting All of them that would be too many and he was like "honestly if you were getting all of them I would tell you no" and I know he was probably mostly joking but I'm still like. excuse me

#it just felt so condescending? like girl I am an adult #its an enclosed animal that you never have to interact with or see any kind of consequences from #idk it felt so like 'I have the authority to make decisions for you' in a way that irritated me....#like he almost actually wasn't joking at all #idk I just don't take kindly to being patronized and never have #this particular housemate has Really been getting on my nerves lately in general tho #like he is 25 or 26 #and he manages to somehow both infantalize himself and act like he's the victim of every situation #and pretend like he's the only mature person on earth #its very annoying #I had to help this man do his taxes #and like theres no shame in that but I've had to help him figure out Multiple standard adult tasks #all while he complains that he's Just A Little Guy :(#and then goes around being patronizing #idk it just irritates me like.... you are an adult perfectly capable of doing all of these things pull yourself together #I don't mind complaining I LOVE complaining and hearing people complain #but he's WHINING #and that annoys me #anyway. I'm a fully capable adult human and if I wanted to make the bad decision of adopting 10 baby rats no one could stop me #ghost posts #text

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battleslippers · 4 months ago

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okay look. I have clear favoritism to outsiders ff to anime ff for several (albeit possibly nonsensical, purely sentimental) reasons, but I will say this one jjk fic absolutely captivated me and I think if I wanted to I could fill pages with notes and tears. head in my hands absolutely life changing. I didn't even forget the title after months

I feel like I'm gushing incredibly hard over this but I truly do feel it's a wonderful look into toji's and megumi's characters and the events preceding the former's death. It undeniably solidified him as my favorite character

in short I desperately needed fushiguro content a few months ago and immediately got my heart and mind torn to shreds by this and NEVER forgot. 10/10 highly recommend!