#and post their literal shit takes in there. literally started blocking every single person who liked that post

[kisakis-boyfriend]

I lowkey feel like a weirdo just reading and interacting with your posts without actually sending anything in the ask box LMAO

So here I am, to rant about pretty (not so) little twinks to my favorite writer

Everyone headcannons Hanma to be sadistic, and while I can definitely see that based on the way he acts and fights, I personally headcannon him to be a hardcore masochist who just tries to hide it by saying he's a sadist. Like this man doesn't dodge powerful punches and kicks from Mikey or Draken, no, no, he blocks them with his own body instead. His whole thing is always getting back up after tanking heavy hits like a monster. But he also very regularly eggs people on. He taunts and maims people to get them to fight him. He does this, every. Single. Fight.

So how does this translate into the bedroom? Well of course, his lanky ass wants nothing more than to get on your nerves. He wants to see how far he can push you, if he can make you genuinely mad. He wants to be the biggest little shit he possibly can until you have no choice but to punish him for it. And this boy can take a lot. Spanking? No problem. Choking? Yes please. Cbt? Why the hell not? Putting him into a borderline painful full nelson while relentless pounding into his prostate at mach jesus? He'd love every second, even if it renders him damn near bedridden for the next three days. Hell, we've seen how Hanma fights, you could probably beat the shit out of him or try to kill him and he'd pop a stiffy.

I feel like he might have a humiliation kink too. Like- shame this man for being so kinky and mock him for being pathetic. You could call him your little bitch and spit in his mouth and he'd just grin in response. And he's not really the type to break easily either. Even as you have him clutching the sheets, trembling, tears rolling down his cheeks, barely even able to stay conscious, he'd still talk shit and try to aggravate you. That carries into every day couple life too, just in a more minor way. He likes to play pranks on you, poke and prod you both literally and metaphorically. He's also almost definitely smart, I mean- Kisaki hates dumb people, and he hangs out with Hanma. That just means that Hanma will start the dumbest, prettiest arguments, and win purely by technicality. He's a total smartass. Of course, Hanma wouldn't say or do anything to actually hurt you, he's just be annoying and a nusience on purpose because he finds it entertaining to piss people off. It's alright, there's an easy fix. Just fuck hin so dumb he can't talk, so hard that he just passed out in your arms straight after.

Moral of the story, Hanma is a freaky little masochist, and the world's most annoying little asshole (affectionate)

~Neon

(Ajdksj no need to worry! I accept lurkers of all sorts — including lurkers who don't interact at all, and instead silently read my works <3

I do appreciate things like this too though, thank you! I love hearing y'all's thoughts and ideas!)

—

THIS is canon, as far as I'm concerned. He's such a painslut, it's not even funny. I definitely agree that Shuji will do his best to annoy you, that's just his favorite past time :P

I recently learned that getting punched in the gut (or just, in general) is a kink/fetish, so I think we can safely assume that Shuji would be into that too. I know that wrestling is also a sexual thing for some people. Just tossing that out there. Pin that tall boy in a painful position and hammer your cock into him, he'll love it!

Forget play fighting, he's the kind of guy who'd want to actually fight you until he's spitting up blood. Rasping a snarky remark even as his knuckles are busted, and his ribs ache from your heavy hits. Just normal couple things~

I also just thought about a "softer" moment: Cuddling with Shuji and pressing on the bruises you left on him. He winces as your thumb presses down on the large purple area on his arm, your other hand combing through his hair. This kind of pain is the kind that makes his whole body tremble, and he easily becomes addicted to it <3

[nkn0va]

Ok I'm going to...attempt to start posting regularly again. The job grind is going to put some holes in that plan (very evidently) so let's cross our fingers.

While we're at it, I'm staking my claim on a particular issue that's been happening to me more and more throughout the past month. I'll probably add this to my pinned post to later.

THESE FUCKING ACCOUNTS OF GAZANS TRYING TO LINK ME TO THEIR FUCKING FUNDRAISERS

I HAVE BEEN GETTING AT LEAST 2 MESSAGES FROM THESE ACCOUNTS FOR THE LAST MONTH NOW EVERY SINGLE DAY AND IT IS DRIVING ME WILD

You know the kind. If you have any semblance of a following on Tumblr, you know exactly what I'm talking about. People supposedly displaced by the Israeli-Palestinian conflict asking for help/money via gofundmes and mass tagging literal thousands of people.

I will start blocking these accounts from now on if they show up in my inbox, my comments, or god forbid they start trying to slide into my DMs. My patience is great, but it is not infinite. It has just about run it's course by now.

It's not that I'm a heartless monster who doesn't care about the suffering of innocents, however if I wanted to talk about/bring attention to real life issues, I would make a blog for that. That is not the aim of my blog here and that's not what people follow me for. Politics on Tumblr is a literal stain upon this Earth, even for the liberal-leaning majority on this site. As expected of terminally online people who do not go outside on all sides of the political spectrum. Of course, this is assuming that these accounts are even legit to begin with which I have a hard time believing, but that could be just me. I really do not care if the account is vetted.

So here's my message: if you're an actual Gazan looking for help, I feel for your plight but do not show up asking for donations or promotions, you come off as incredibly tone deaf to what other people's blogs are for. That might be seen as pretty harsh to say but that's my own personal take on the issue.

If you're a scammer taking advantage of a real world conflict where real lives are being lost to play on people's emotions for money, go fuck off and die, you morally bankrupt, low-life little shit stains.

[hiddenwashington]

** the yearly disclaimer that everything is fine this is just going to be so long because maig is a sap over hidden !!! **

hi friends !!!!! just ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!! cause like literally how am i here, seven years later, still being a damn sap over this place. i am genuinely in shock at how i am so fucking lucky to still be able to keep this place going for all of you, to have such a community to always turn to, and to share it with all of you so you have the same. i, once again, must spin the tale of how hidden came to be, which is in a spite fueled rage at 2 am where i vowed to make a group where people felt welcome no matter who they were, that they were valued and loved as dearly as they deserved to be, and when we hit the tags at 5 am that same morning, never once did i look at my group and think i would be sitting here seven years later, still enjoying and loving every single minute. i never thought that hidden would grow this big, to become bigger than me, than the team, than what we ever could have imagined hidden to be. it has grown into the home i always imagined, but never wanted to jinx, it is home, for so many of you, because of you!! i could never have made it here without all of you making this place your own, growing this community filled with love. it’s all because of you, guys. 

to our members ; those who have been here for a week, seven months, or all seven years, for those who have poured their hearts and souls out on the dash, bared everything out in the chats to grow together, those who have come and gone, the ones who take up characters because you just have such a deep love for them, or those who take up someone as a bit and end up playing them for years.. hidden is only here because of you, because you have given your effort to showing every person who has come and gone, or stayed, the love that i always hoped would be here. this community would not exist without the work you all have put in. the way you all have rallied together to help one another, the red carpet welcome you all make sure each new member gets, the chaos and the laughs.. i sincerely sit here and just stare sometimes, because damn how the fuck did i get so lucky to call this place mine? and we haven’t even touched on the talent and the plots that hit the dash, like holy shit??? i could probably go on for another whole post just about how much fun i have reading all the threads on the dash, how much i love seeing everyone’s skills with edits or whatever ideas you all come up with!! i am seriously in shock that we got this lucky. the magic in hidden has and always will be you. the heart and soul of this place is the love that exists here, the friendship and community that has grown because of all of you. hidden is and always will be special because of you all. and i just love you all so much, i don’t know if i could ever say thank you enough to each person who has been here. you do not go unnoticed, no matter who you are. everything you do is appreciated. just know i am giving each and every one of you a little kiss on the forehead right now. just.. thank you. seriously, more than anything, thank you. 

but while i have everyone captive, i do have to give a shoutout to the team that makes this all possible. i know it’s their favorite time of the year, where i get to be proud mom and appreciate my admins for all that they do, day in and day out, all that is seen and unseen. these people are the only reason i have survived this long, i want them to know how grateful i am for all of them, and i only get to do it once a year or else i think they’d block me.

sunny; gotta start with my day one, always. you have been at my side for everything, when you sent your app a week into this place being open, i know you never expected us to be sitting here seven years later, experiencing so much of life together as a team. we have only gotten stronger because of all we have gone through. i don’t know where i would be without you on my team, but i know hidden wouldn’t be here without you. you have been my rock, my grounding presence, in everything. you are always the voice of reason i need when i am going off the rails and panicked, and i know that us finding each other wasn’t an accident. the universe knew we needed each other. there is no one else i would rather have as the holder of the braincell. i can never thank you enough, really and truly, for everything.

aria ; sincerely, i don’t think anything would get done on the main without your input. somehow, some way, you always find a solution to a problem. i swear, you are magic, when it comes to fc suggestions and complicated ethnicities, you somehow always come through. i know when you’re typing, we’re gonna be saved cause man, i don’t know how we ever function without you. on top of just being a powerhouse on the main, and being literally one of my most valued people, one of my dearest friends, you are sincerely one of the funniest people i have ever met, and when i see little guys, they always make me think of you. there is so much i could sit here and thank you for, but i hope you know when i say thank you in the chat, or that i love you, that it is meant with every ounce of sincerity i have. 

jodie ; the heart of the team for real, like truly just the most fiercely loving person i have ever met. when someone is in need of help, you are the first person there, even if your offer is chaotic, you are there to pick people up when they need it. thank you for always making me laugh, for always being at my side for some chaotic idea and cackling with me over it. you carry the team with knowing about fandoms some of us don’t even want to research, and i am forever grateful for that. and despite how much i hate the time difference, i do love that we have you for those times we cannot be around. thank you for always being there as the support and heart, i don’t know what i would do without you at my side to laugh with. 

and kasey ; saved my bluetooth twin bitch for last, because i know you hate being perceived and loved like this, but you gotta deal with it for one day :)) our braincell needs to be together to work, or not work.. depending on your view. thank you for being my platonic life partner, for being the person i know i can turn to when i gotta vent and then be told to chill the fuck out. you always know how to stop me from bugging out, no matter what the situation is. you always allow me to be unapologetically me, and i cannot thank you enough for that. i am so glad we get to be friends, to be each other together, and that i can always count on you to be there when i need you. thank you for always being ready to deal with whatever comes our way, for always being down for whatever insanity i wanna do, and for bringing in your own insanity. i am forever grateful for everything you have done for me and for hidden. 

alright, i am forcing myself to stfu, i promise. i just feel so beyond blessed, that hidden is so lucky to have these four supporting it, supporting me. i couldn’t do this without all of them, they have given so much for hidden and it does not go unnoticed. i love you guys so fucking much. and hidden, members past and present, anyone who just sees us in the tags : THANK YOU. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. seven fucking years guys, i am just !!!!!!!!!!!! i love you all so much. it has been the greatest joy and blessing in my life to call myself your head admin. thank you for making hidden your home. here’s to SEVEN FUCKING YEARS and all the ones after it! i cannot wait to see what this year brings for us!!!

all the love, always – admin maig ♥♥

[the-lonelybarricade]

Hi MB. How are you? Please I have a question.

How do you write without getting affected by the fandoms take on things and even canon. I really love elucien, and writing them gives me so much joy but sometimes writing them can feel strained because of the fandom, even after I block it out. I might see a post I don’t want to see mistakenly, and then it affects me when I am writing .

My mind will immediately go, oh but this will never happen because this person said this, so don’t write it. But I want toooo. With all the drama and antis for feysand or elucien or whoever how do you do it?? I try to tell myself it’s fiction so it doesn’t matter but it’s still hard.

Haha I have a feeling you wrote MB because of my ask box label 😅 sorry for tricking you!!

My advice is to curate your experience as much as possible. In my opinion the most crucial way of doing that is by blocking people who make posts that you don’t like seeing. And I’m serious, be brutal about it because your mental health comes first.

I’ve blocked loads of “antis” for ships/characters that I like, but I’ve blocked just as many, if not more, people who like the same things that I do but don’t engage in fandom in a way that I find fulfilling (starting drama, policing characterisation, shitting on other ships for no reason, etc.). They’re the people you’ll end up having the most crossover with and so it’s important to weed your own garden so that it’s only filled with content that will make YOU happy

I would also suggest only following blogs that create an environment you want to surround yourself in! And if you haven’t, try making use of tumblr’s tag filters as well. I personally have every single anti tag filtered for every acotar ship/character because I’m just here for a silly goofy time. I also use Xkit as a browser extension to literally hide posts from my dash if they include content I have filtered

It also helps if you can find a positive community of people to support you and cheer you on! So many fic writers in this fandom are lovely, lovely people who are super supportive of new writers, all you have to do is come say hi! My dms are always open if you want to chat 💕

[multifandumbmeg]

Personal vent post into the void but like

Bro, the past two years have been so hard. I seemingly (not quite but it's complicated) developed a series of chronic health issues out of nowhere and it's like my body just finally gave up. Granted, a lot of bad shit happened to me and I abused the fuck out of it growing up and in my early 20s because I was taught the only limits I had were mental weaknesses which could be simply overpowered with willpower, but even so.

Apart from developing crippling chronic pain (from a few bad migraines a year to daily to occasionally getting one or two days off here and there now that I'm heavily medicated), I'm a medical mystery, my fatigue is unbelievable (for someone who has suffered with debilitating chronic insomnia from childhood, it's different), and now my mom is having serious health issues as well, and she's the only person in my family I get along with.

Today I went out with one of my best friends, who had me sleep over at her house and bought me food because she knows I'm running out of cash and borderline suicidal again. We had an awesome time, but I slept in VERY late because we were up til a whopping 11pm, then we walkes a grand total of maybe 1 1/2 blocks downtown between a diner and a single shop. I came home and showered for the first time this week, probably longer than that, and I've been bedridden since then. Migraine aside, that's just the tiredness. On non-migraine days, I'm guarenteed to get one if I leave the house. Being outside is instant pain, and it's only going to get worse as the weather heats up.

I've been unemployed 5 months, coming off 8 months of working only twice a week. After years of not getting so much as a job interview (I worked temp jobs arranged by my mom, who works for a temp agency) I had to turn down the Peace Corps because by the time I was accepted, my health had deteriorated so much I knew I couldn't go. I had two degrees, including a masters from an elite university, know five languages, have copious experience in various fields and I can't get a job doing literally anything, even if I ignore my illness and pretend it'll be possible for me to attend. I feel like a complete loser. I worked my absolute ass off and have got absolute nothing to show for it. I finally got some interviews recently, which went really well, and I got rejected from both. The temp agency called to offer me a job and when I called them back they said actually the client cancelled it. I have a migraine as I write this and have to contemplate what medication I can take, because I may have a worse one later and I can't take too many in one week.

A few days ago, hitting an emotional low, I decided to finally pick up a huge project I started last year again because I was having a fair run of good days (read: some migraineless days, mostly mild pain days). I almost announced it on here. Then a new string came up. Every time I start to make progress on something or it seems like FINALLY things are looking up! I get ground into the dust and kicked again.

So all that to say, times fucking suck, that's why I've not been responsive or consistently around, and if anyone has any tips for chronic pain/chronic illness coping I need it. Because Lord, I was mentally ill before all this. ANYWAY just needed to vent and stop complaining to my poor two friends for once because they're also getting murdered by life.

[sapwine-and-starcharts]

2, 10, 12, 17, 19, and 28 for the ask game ^_^

So 2 and 10 were answered HERE but they weren’t actually like Outer Wilds fandom specific so I’ll re answer them <3

2 - Which of your fics is your pride and joy?

Out of all of my outer wilds fics i think that either Berry-Jam kisses (Time Buddies) or Sapwine and Starcharts (Startners before they were Startners :’}) have to be up there in terms of my favourite fics I’ve written.

I talked about BJK in the other post but SaS is a whole other story.

It wasn’t my FIRST outer wilds fic, that was Time to Go but it was the first time i thought about Chert and Mylo meaning something to eachother. It was the beginning of Startners, my blorbos, and hell!! I named my OW blog after it!!!!!! I don’t think its my best written fic by a long shot, i was still figuring out 2POV perspective and how to characterize both Chert and Mylo but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t live in my heart forever and ever.

10 - Is there a character or ship you'd love to write for, but haven't yet?

I mean probably Gosslate? I keep meaning to write for them but never getting around to it lmaoooo.

If not Gosslate then Cherro. Mostly because i already write for ChertMylo and now that I’ve officially included Gabbro in the startnership i really should write for the two of them huh??

(I actually have some drafts of something i was working on for them but its uh… lets just say its not suitable for this blog…)

12 - What was the first fandom you wrote for?

Written? Gravity Falls.

An INCREDIBLY old piece from back in HIGH SCHOOL about what if Stanley died in the portal explosion that brought back his brother. It’s VERY bad and i never ever posted it anywhere and i never will!

POSTED though? Stanley Parable.

Tethered-Together was the first ever fic i actually posted something for and got that sweet sweet taste of authorship. It’s definitely not my best work, the formatting is all over the place and i couldn’t figure out how to get from the last chapter i posted to the idea in my head for where i wanted to take the ending but people liked it! People really REALLY liked it!

Plus it inspired me to make You Can’t See Me Behind the Screen, a 432 centered fic that is, while again incredibly rough, one of my favourite works i did for TSP. Shout out to that one commentor who commented on nearly every chapter and the commentor who, when i came back to post a chapter after nearly a year of hiatus commented ‘HOLY SHIT YOUR BACK?????!!!!!’ Which skyrocketed my confidence to the moon. They’re probably one of the reasons i continued to write honestly.

17 - What is something you recently felt proud of in your writing?

I have a hard time picking out stuff I’m proud of. I’m incredibly critical of my work and i always think i can improve or find something wrong with it. But if i had to pick SOMETHING I’d have to go with the way i write romance. Usually i stuff a bunch of angst in there and call it a day but recently I’ve been writing some softer stuff. Like my Eskerfels fics and Berry Jam Kisses, people have praised me for the warmth and comfort they exude and i gotta agree with them on that one!!!

Outside of my writing tho, the idea that so many people can enjoy my writing and even say that I inspire them to create (You know who you are <3) is just??? Thats another thing i feel so baffled yet proud of. If i can inspire even one person to get outside their comfort zone and try to create their own art, i think I’ve done my job as an artist :}

19 - How do you get over writer's block?

I don’t LMAO. Literally, i don’t actively try to shake it. The writers block consumes me until i jolt up in the middle of the night with a single cool line i want to write down and then the writing juice starts to flow again. Hyperfixations do help a lot tho. If a character can worm their way into my brain enough they usually free me of what ever blocks I’m going through.

28 - What's the angstiest idea you've ever come up with?

SO theres a few?

One is from YCSMBtS (the Stanley Parable fic i mentioned above) where lines of code literally tear 432 apart and unravel them like yarn until they merge into the game itself and becomes the Time Keeper.

The Horrors That Lie Beneath ft. Mylo discovering what’s under the surface of the Interloper, the very thing that was their main driving force. It’s not shown afterwards but they really struggle to come to terms with the fact that the thing they looked up to wiped out an entire race… Like they have an identity crisis about it and everything

Grieving for a World Lost to Time is a Final Campfire fic based around the 5 stages of grief. Each of the travellers gets their own stage of grief they help Mylo through or make Mylo feel, and then Hornfels was gonna be the secret 6th stage ‘Finding Meaning’. I never got around to actually WRITING more than the prologue but oughh i want to…

I could actually keep going, my favourite genre is angst and like SO many of my personal OCs i put through the wringer over and over. Literally if you put in ‘angst’ into the search bar for my works I’m pretty sure most of my fics will show up lmao.

Anyways!! TYSM for asking!!!! <3

[xb0rder-7inex]

I just want to address something because it's really irritating me and it's not personal it's just something I have a really low tolerance for right now.

Please do not send me asks that are essentially an invitation to vent to you. I won't talk to you about my situation and this isn't some kind of romanticized relationship. I'm 30 years old. I am a full adult and I am in an abusive relationship. It isn't like I can talk about it and everything is fine. There is a legal barrier here that we are literally going to trial for. This isn't a light problem it's a very private subject and the only reason I post about it is to keep myself accountable for which actions are my own and to pick up on patterns to make note of in the case that I start to feel like I'm being gaslit. It's more to cover my own ass than anything and it also helps me cope (like journalling) when he blocks me.

The harsh reality is that I don't know what lengths he will go to and while I don't believe him to be violent I truly have no idea what he would do to me and sometimes I am really scared of him. But he psychs me out mentally a lot and he is more emotionally and mentally abusive than he is physically abusive. It's all just here for documentation.

My life has literally fallen apart because of him. It is so fucking likely that none of you can relate to losing literally every single thing you had in your life. Your dog, your job, your home, your relationship, all of your friends, your family, your car, and practically a foot as well. When you're supposed to be the fucking victim. To be victim blamed by law enforcement when you're trying to go back because you know how much worse it gets when you try to move on. To be placed in a shelter surrounded by true drug addicts (I'm talking meth, crack, fentanyl, etc) having never gone near any of that shit in your life with all the staff telling you that you don't belong here and not knowing when you'll be able to get out of this unfamiliar territory. Having to rebuild literally your entire life from the ground up. Playing roulette with thousands of other people in the city let alone the province who are just trying to pick up their broken pieces too.

Absolutely nothing anyone says can make that better and I've made peace with where I am. I'm a grown ass woman dealing with some really serious shit that I can't just walk away from. It's an abuse cycle that leaves you walking on eggshells so frequently that it's so much easier to take it than it is to try and leave. There has to be a right time and there has to be a plan. It can take years.

I have a leg up for housing because I'm not an addict and I'm in a DV situation and I qualify for some extra benefits and my main goal right now is to manifest housing. I need to get out of the shelter. I need to get into a space that's my own. Something that is mine. A place that he can't take away from me.

That kind of shit takes time. It takes a lot of resources and it's a lot of waiting. Im in Canada so it may be a little different everywhere but I encourage you to look at statistics and maybe something will make sense to you about why you can't just leave a toxic relationship, and why it's triggering to victims to tell them they deserve better and to leave.

[sheprd]

aaand this is why i dont talk about my dog in public

^people will literally say this stuff unprompted the second they learn where my dog is from. its extremely alienating

i know most of my followers arent Dog People so this shit probably makes no sense but the internet dog community at large is so teeming with drama and gossip in particular about anyone who deliberately mix-breeds dogs and will reverse engineer any reason to hate anyone and everyone involved with as much

it drives me crazy. i briefly had plans to make a sideblog for dog stuff and posting about my dog but encountering this attitude multiple times when even so much as mentioning my support for this breeding program quickly changed my mind. ironically i had reconsidered recently and had started setting up a dog blog for myself the other day but this reminded me that i actually dont want to do that at all

ive already been blocked and shit talked by people just for expressing neutral-positive opinions about this program in replies. i just dont think its worth it 99% of the time.

but anyway yes i love my dog and so does every wolven owner i know. i literally dont know of any owner who doesnt sing praises about the dogs they have from this program. there arent even that many dogs, a few dozen in total. im sure they exist but theres kind of no reason for it since the breeder takes back dogs anyway. if these dogs arent right for you she will personally drive out and pick them up. none of them have any horrible health issues. none of them have died tragically. none of them have been involved in bite incidents to the best of my knowledge (obviously most owners wouldnt publicly disclose this) these are good dogs. the program speaks for itself if you dont fill your ears with unsubstantiated gossip you read on facebook first

if you have verifiable information about this breeder that paints them negatively then i would genuinely like to be made aware. i dont think theyre perfect, and i myself have approached her directly with criticism and scrutiny and asked her to answer for some of the rumors id heard. im not blindly supportive. but every single time i ask people to source any of their claims i just get blocked, no matter how polite or good faith or earnest i am about it. asking for proof is itself seen as "supporting an unethical breeder" and it drives me nuts

hopefully someday people shut up about it

[crow-in-gotham]

BLOG POST NO. 9 - RED HOOD IN MY APARTMENT, HOPE THIS DOESN’T KEEP HAPPENING

Are the Gotham vigilantes okay? Specifically Red Hood? And I don’t mean that in a physical way (although I do wonder how most of them are still alive despite the concerning amount of bodily harm they apparently go through) but in more of a mental way—

I know that the obvious answer is no (wearing spandex and hidden body armor and going around jumping on rooftops to fight villains isn’t exactly something a sane person would do, and plus there’s not a single actual sane person in Gotham anyway) but I still gotta ask.

Now, I live— like— basically in Crime Alley, right? Not really smack-dab in the middle of it (thank fuck) but on the outskirts (do I count that was a win?). So basically, I am still within what people say is Red Hood’s territory (which, you know— thank fuck again). Essentially, what this means is that I get to encounter the vigilantes every once in a while. Not like a whole lot (I don’t see them everyday— or, well, everynight I guess?) but definitely more times than I have ever encountered a hero back when I lived in the Pearl of the Orient Seas (Philippines. I’m talking about the Philippines—).

So, story time: I was walking home, as you do, after my shift at the Gotham City Public Library (for context to those reading this without it, I work there in my spare time). Mr. Gordon (he keeps telling me to call him Jim but my Filipino ancestors would incinerate me so no) was busy with a case so he couldn’t drive me home this time— which, you know, not to worry, it isn’t the first time this has happened anyway, so it’s cool.

So there I am, just going “lalala” to my humble abode. I had managed to get all the way to my block with no incidents. So the walk was going great.

Well, up until I was about 3 buildings away from my apartment and I suddenly got dragged into a dark alleyway by some nutjob wearing a ski mask. Honestly I thought that kind of get-up only appeared in movies or TV shows, but I digress. The dude pulled a gun on me and threatened to shoot if I didn’t give him all my money. So basically your average mugging experience, right?

So I did what any normal human being (read: insane) would do and gave him my wallet. I mean what else was I supposed to do, just beg for my life and cry? I’m way too self-deprecating for that shit, and also I stopped giving a fuck by the third time something like this happened.

Plus, if a mugger or deranged serial killer or one of the fucked up villains of Gotham don’t kill me first, then my degree will finish the job :) (I think I need therapy. But do I really? Nahh)

Any-fucking-way, unfortunately for ski-mask-mcgee over here, he decided to mug one of the types of people that he shouldn’t mug: a broke college student. Like bro, there’s literally nothing in my wallet other than a measly $3 and a lollipop. What the fuck did you expect?

So he takes my $3 (rude) then fucking points the gun at me again and threatens to shoot (that threat’s getting old) if I don’t hand him everything I have. And I’m like— dude wtf? That’s literally everything I have, right there in your hand?? What do I look like, the fucking city bank?

I was starting to get annoyed (and cold because god it was freezing) when suddenly, a shadow just swoops down and lands next to us. Dude in the ski mask panicked and shot at the general direction of whatever the fuck decided to drop by (literally) but then quickly got incapacitated after getting punched in the face by said shadow person.

Then they stepped into the light to zip tie the mugger’s hands together (because handcuffs are so last season) and lo and behold, can you guess who it is? That’s right, it’s the Red Hood! Claps and cheers all around (I was so dead tired that I just deadpanned when I saw who it was).

He asked me if I was alright, yada yada, you know, basic “I just saved you, I hope you’re okay” 101, with a dash of barely managed anger issues. You know, for flavor.

I was about to just turn around and speedwalk to my apartment (because fuck I really wanted a nap) when suddenly I notice something that was marginally concerning.

This guy (Red Hood) was bleeding.

And it was not one of those little trickles— this man had a bullet wound in his abdomen that looked like it was a mini rendition of the fucking Niagra Falls.

So obviously I’m concerned (or I hope I at least looked concerned— I was too tired to know what facial expression to actually make) and I asked him, like, “hey dude, you good?” And this idiot just looks at me, follows my gaze towards his abdomen (how did he not fucking notice) and just shrugged— fucking shrugged— and said, “ ‘Tis but a flesh wound”.

Whether or not I laughed is none of your business.

While I appreciate the Monty Python and the Holy Grail reference (great movie by the way, 100/10), it was definitely not a flesh wound.

So I did what any sane, normal, totally not crazy human being would do and dragged this personification of a wall of muscle towards my apartment. (After calling the police to take the very much knocked out mugger laying on the ground, of course)

I don’t even know how the hell I managed to drag this guy into my apartment because, for 1, he could literally bench press me, and 2, he could snap me in half like a twig, and 3, I am about as muscular as a sea sponge. Meaning to say, I am not muscular or strong whatsoever.

I’m pretty sure Red Hood just let me drag him into his apartment because it looked like I would cry otherwise (and I would have).

Anyway, so that’s the story of how I got the Red Hood into my home, I guess—

It uh, took me about 5 seconds after sitting him down on the couch and grabbing my first aid kit before I realized that I’m a fucking idiot because I don’t have any medical training, and I obviously don’t know how to fucking remove a bullet.

Is this why my mother said that I should take Nursing instead? Well fuck.

I think Red Hood also realized that I am a fucking dumbass because he just stared at me staring at him and fucking laughed.

He laughed.

Fuck I wanna bury myself in a hole and die—

Thankfully though (and also concerningly) Red Hood knows how to remove bullets from himself (wtf dude) and I just helped him disinfect and bandage up his wound (with him instructing me, because again, I am a dumbass).

So that’s the story of how I ended up with the Red Hood on my sofa.

Fucking great. Wonderful. Apparently he decided to take the rest of the night off and just crashed there instead (I definitely did not bribe him to stay by giving him some of my snacks from home— nope, no sir-ie, I have no idea what you’re talking about).

I’m writing this from the comfort of my bedroom while he just sleeps on the sofa outside, in the living room.

Holy fuck I have the Red Hood in my house.

He ate the snacks I gave him and fell asleep while listening to Legally Blonde play on the TV.

What the ever loving fuck is happening in my life.

… I need to go to bed.

Good fucking night.

[dimiclaudeblaigan]

Okay I don't do this normally but out of curiosity, I looked at that guys' posts and yeah they're going around sealioning anyone who likes Dimitri being all like "how can you say Dimitri/AM is your favorite when you didn't play all the routes". Buddy it's called having preferences, subjectivity and opinion. I'm sure if we twist their behavior around back at them, they'll be like stop bothering us for liking Edel cause double standards is their bread and butter.

Yeah, I had taken a brief scroll through their blog the first time I saw them argue with Random about Claude because I had a pretty strong feeling that they were just another stan running around around against Rhea and Dimitri fans because I knew that person didn't follow Random when they started pulling the bad faith Claude takes.

I scrolled through a few posts before I was like yeah I'm not even gonna bother looking further because I could see all they were doing was arguing with people whose names I recognized, and the only people who ever do that are the stans. They also have absolutely nothing else but discourse on their blog.

It's crazy to me too, because I've seen those same Dimitri fans try to talk about anything else FE related and yet they still get pulled back into discourse. Like, I'm at the point where I believe everyone in that immediate group is just actively being stalked by the stans (and I recall one of them mentioning they are being stalked by them, but my guess is if one of them is, all of them are).

Also, the stans tend to pull the "you didn't play xyz route" when I'm quite certain most if not all of the Dimitri fans on Tumblr have at the very bare minimum watched the full route on YouTube of anything they didn't play. All these people have the information they need to know where they stand opinion-wise, and like you said, it's just... having an opinion. The stans have their opinions, we don't agree with them, and we don't engage with them unless they engage with us first.

Something I've noticed about the group of Dimitri fans that gets stans going after them is that it's always the stans who start it. They always respond to asks sent to those people. In other words they go onto those people's blogs, look at their posts/their replies to their anons, and start arguing at them over literally anything they say in thsoe ask responses.

Every single time I see a post reach my dashboard from any of those people (you might know the Faerghus/Dimitri group I'm talking about), it's always a stan going after them when they were just answering one of their own anons and posting something on their own blog. I'm sure there are people who think they engage in discourse too much, but they don't even start it. They get harassed and can't just blog in peace.

Unfortunately those same stans have been targeting Random as of late (and I've noticed it's more and more different ones so they're probably going after someone as soon as they notice their buddies are doing so) so it's not that surprising that they've taken notice of me since she and I interact regularly. They basically go through the chain of who interacts with who and try to start shit.

Oh nonnie honey, you better believe if even a single Dimitri fan did to them what they do to us, they'd be all over that and whining about it and posting callouts and shit.

I just want to be able to post whatever my feelings are about Dimitri without worrying that people will try to tear it down because "it's not about Edel-chan and it portrays Dimitri in a good light".

I've blocked every Edelstan I've come across but more of them keep popping up, so... I guess the blocking never ends. My block list is basically just Edelstans and bots at this point with few exceptions.

Funny how the stans don't block Dimitri fans who hate Edelgard to avoid seeing them (it's because they don't actually want to, because they want to argue), even though we're all over here trying to block them, but some of them block evade to keep going. Literally like Dimitri fans have tried to block them and move on, but they persistently find ways to keep harassing. And like I said, they go down the line, so eventually they'll just find every active Dimitri lover who posts about him and whine at them.

[oyasumi-dove]

‘Afab writers are a problem because I’m afab and I don’t like femininity.’ Isn’t the take you think it is, hon. And don’t give me that “that’s not what I said” bullshit, cause you literally did. From an afab person who loves my femininity and writes *tagged* fem!reader, it brings me joy that my very existence pisses you off. Must take a lost of effort to be that fragile…

Hating anyone who’s afab and a writer just because some ignorant people don’t tag fics is genuinely the worst excuse I’ve ever seen. It’s not that big a deal. What, did the scary fem!reader fics reach through the screen and bite you or something? A lot of afab readers tag their fics, a lot of non afab readers don’t tag their fics, the x reader niche has way bigger problems with tagging than not tagging the gender of the reader. But I guess none of that matters because god forbid you go five seconds without showing your obvious bias.

Honestly, stop pretending you’re doing this in good faith and actually trying to help. You’re doing it to get on people’s nerves. Your spam posts are vague and don’t actually tell people what you want them to tag, you’re a massive hypocrite, and you respond hatefully to anyone who doesn’t suck your dick. I hope your ultimate goal is for the problem you’re complaining about to get worse, because that’s the only thing you’re accomplishing here.

Hhhhmmmm

Well…!

I did say that it was a personal issue for me and I had a bias. I don’t think I tried to hide that fact! However, I stated that the writers who didn’t tag their posts as fem!reader were the problem for me. It’s only some of your guys existence that pisses me off 😍

I can see that my response was worded horribly, though, I don’t know how to explain myself to you. If you think of me as a hypocrite then how exactly am I suppose to change your views on me..? Like ok, I guess im a hypocrite to whoever you are.

I never said I wanted to be the “good” guy in all this LOL. I am open to change my opinions on certain things, but I haven’t exactly always been nice about it. You can tell in my posts. Of course I’m going to start lighting up when people agree with me and actually hear me out. Literally who wouldn’t!??? With all the people who do not agree with me, I’m just arguing back with them?? Am I not allowed to counter their messages when half of them are spewing shit my way 🤦

You aren’t my problem! At least you (proclaim) to tag your work. I don’t think you write for every other fem!writer. Also I don’t know where you got those statistics from with the “a lot of non afab writers don’t tag their fics” yadayada, ok. Try to block every variation of fem reader and scroll down an x reader tag right now!

I really am that fragile though!! Because who the hell doesn’t feel dysphoric when coming upon an untagged posts and get hit with she/her pronouns 💀 Spoiler alert: Not every afab is happy or as comfy as you are with their femininity. YES, it will kill me if I see an untagged fem reader fic. If I see a another one I will actually succumb to the sweet relief that is death :(( Not even my FILTERED TAGS will be able to stop this…!

There’s so many posts about tagging your work correctly, how to actually use your tags and what to do with them. My first fucking post is showing you how to add tags. Unless you WANT me to start adding text on every single one of my posts on how to use tags, because that sounds like a great idea :3

Hhhnmmm

[odinsblog]

i usually use the anon function bc im embarrassed to ask people things sjfjfjhs but I've never sent anything horrible to anyone!! I'm sorry you've had negative experiences with the anon function before, you don't deserve that at all!! sending love!

[re: this post]

Thank you. I genuinely appreciate you rn

People like you are literally the only reason why I don’t completely disable the anon feature, because I understand that sometimes people are shy, or they want to express themselves without taking shit. I actually dO get that

But alas, as with everything, there are those who abuse what really should be thought of as a nicety, or privilege—some people just abuse it

Very long rant, incoming

So here’s the thing, right? Sometimes when people are online, they act and behave in ways they wouldn’t dare to irl

I’m not the government. I don’t have a staff to edit my posts. I’m not anybody special. I’m just some dude on the internet who enjoys sharing my opinions and other things. If YOU don’t like or agree with my opinions or something else that I post, you are completely free to keep scrolling or to block me. That’s fine. But when anons begin demanding that I phrase things the way that they’re more comfortable with, then we got serious issues

And another thing: people need to not be so quick to assume malicious intent where none exists

For example, I have accidentally typed the number 500 in a post when I meant to type 50–now, in the specific post, it truly was a significant error. But an anon immediately jumped into the comments and self righteously accused me of lying to make a point, rather than saying to themselves, “Hm, maybe Odin just made a typo”

And my personal favorites

them: YOU’RE SPREADING MISINFORMATION AND DISINFORMATION !!!!

me: um, it was a fucking joke? do they have jokes where you come from?

Or,

me: posts a video of an alligator and some cranes, and adds a bit of whimsical commentary

them: WELL ACTUALLY, THAT IS PROBABLY PREDATORY BEHAVIOR AND I THINK YOU SHO-

me: no. goddamn, I can’t be fucking whimsical on a social media site? eat shit. stfu

And also,

them: well technically, it’s not really fascism

me: maybe not, but it’s fucking close enough. I’m not gonna wait for people to start getting marched into ovens and say, “now can we call it fascism??”

I have literally had all of these dumb, stupid ass conversations (almost verbatim) here on tumblrdotcom, and lemme tell ya, it’s frustrating af

And other times, when I author a post containing a hyperlink on desktop but then later edit it on mobile, sometimes the hyperlink doesn’t carry over to mobile and you’re left with a post that may say “source,” but is not clickable. It happens sometimes, and it’s not a big deal, right?? WRONG! Instead of sending an ask to ask me what happened to the link, I’ve had anons accuse me of “not crediting” a source

I’ve had people use anon to accuse me of cropping videos so that I could somehow “steal” credit from others, and I’m just like … What??? Who does that? Who has the time for all of that? Are you aware that sometimes people on the internet see something like a video or a photo from somewhere else (also uncredited from twitter, reddit, facebook, etc), and then just post it here on tumblr??

And no, I am not talking about reposting someone’s art or other works

Look, if YOU get your thrills from finding out who/where/when the very first instance of every single cat or dog video came from, that’s great! Do you. Knock yourself out. Have fun. But don’t try to shame others because we aren’t all humorless poindexters like you

If I post something from tiktok, the video generally tells you where to go to see it there. If it’s a tweet or from reddit, again, there are usually twitter or reddit handles in the tweet. And NO, I am not putting a link to every single tweet or reddit thread or facebook post — if that’s that important to you, then figure it out. It’s not hard, and in the year 2023 most adults should have the necessary skills to find an original tweet, if that’s something that’s important to you. I’m not doing it for you, not sorry

(SN: I’ll never forget when I took my first college English literature course, and at the end of the semester I was on the bubble for getting an A or an A+ in the class, and our final exam was a written essay that would decide my final grade. I didn’t quite score the A+ that I wanted, and when I looked over my essay, the professor wrote on it: “Odin, you are the quintessential college freshman, and your inquisitiveness has made this semester one of my most enjoyable.” And after class, I walked up to him and thanked him, and asked him what quintessential meant? He opened his mouth and was about to answer me, but then he smiled, wagged his finger at me and said, “you should learn to look things up.” He was one of my favorite professors (had a British accent, eyeglasses and reminded me of Giles from Buffy), but I’ve never forgotten that lesson. Some of you very obviously need to learn it too)

I’ve also made what are very obviously jokes online, only to have people accuse me of misrepresenting facts—and then I’m like, do I really need to explain the concept of what a joke is to you people??

Like, I could see if it was something racist, trans/homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic, etc, BUT I DON’T DO THAT

I think that some people need to be seen as, or have a desire to be known as a gatekeeper, and instead of using just a tiny bit of common sense, they try to make mountains out of molehills to elevate themselves in the eyes of their followers

The people who act this way are truly joyless human beings, and they probably suck all the fun out of parties and other events that people are forced to spend time with them

Maybe try socializing a bit more? Learn to read (online) cues. Don’t be so eager to accuse everyone of doing something wrong just so that YOU get to look like the good guy

And all of that’s without even addressing all of the straight up racist anons that I constantly receive

Like, do people even understand that we aren’t inside of each other’s heads? Sometimes we’re all dealing with life and other stuff. And just maybe people are busy trying to have just a tiny bit of fun, and then the mf fun police come along and try to ruin shit? Because I don’t use a word exactly the same way you do?? Or because of an obvious joke?? You guys who do this kind of shit really SUCK

I feel sorry for you

I almost can’t believe this is the piddling little shit that some people choose to be upset over

Please find some REAL things to be upset over

Try learning to use the feature that lets users (gasp) make a post of their very own! instead of fixating on one goddamn mutha fucking post that wasn’t worded to your liking

I am not here for the discourse with anyone with an internet connection and a keyboard

Please go touch some grass

[pyreflydust]

It's worse than just people not knowing how to deal with the nature of storytelling because at least some of the people who don't get upset about not knowing anything will instead make up what they think is going to happen. Which, that used to feel fun! It can still be fun in smaller groups or in the right fandoms. But it's not fun when it's really the same kind of person who calls literally every string not being tied a plothole because those people will instead think of the way they think the story is going or that they want it to go and call it bad writing when it goes somewhere else, even if that somewhere else also made sense.

And to add to op's point about shipping, at least part of the bullshit shipping drama comes from people who project to ship vs people who just want interesting stories and character dynamics. It's not that there is no overlap between the two, but the people who are primarily projecting seem to think that everyone ships the way they do. If you ship something that would be unhealthy they think you're saying that's something you want, and always seem to act like you're either romanticizing abuse or that you're putting yourself in the abuser's position for whatever reason. Even in cases where they're not attached to either character in a ship this can lead to extra bullshit drama and discourse due to people not understanding others get different things from stories that they do. (I've seen someone say that instead of shipping an abusive ship you should just ship the character with a self insert which made a lot of bullshit discourse make more sense.)

But yeah it's frustrating because projecting onto blorbos is a great therapy tool! You can see the best of yourself and learn to love the worst of yourself and work through shit that you need to work through in order to heal. But not being able to acknowledge that you're doing that takes away some of the good and puts you at risk for starting fights with people who have different headcanons or even who adhere to canon. I'd even go so far as to say one of the better ways of doing this is to not heap the entire burden on a single blorbo because you're less likely to want one to be Literally You if you have more characters who have different pieces of you in them.

A lot of all of this feels like it's coming from people who misunderstand the transformative part of fandom. Writing meta and theories isn't about getting the right answer as to where the story is going. Writing fic, shipping or otherwise, isn't about writing what literally everyone who likes the source wants to read nor do you have to read every fic like it's the source material's expanded universe. No fandom is a hivemind, and the big open internet being what it is now means you're going to see a lot of people with different wants and needs from their stories and headcanons and theraputic blorbo projecting. Yeah it can be frustrating when it feels like they've gotten the characters so fucking wrong -- and sometimes they will have -- or where they're into things you're not into, but that's what blocking and blacklisting and maybe petty vague posting is for.

the longer i stay in fandom, the longer i think a huge amount of bad takes and discourse come from an... abundance of identifying with a character

to be clear, i don't think it's bad to identify with a character. far from it! i think that's part of what makes fiction so powerful.

and it's only logical people often attach to a blorbo because they're just like me, for real. a person will see some element of themselves-- their race, their gender, their sexuality, their hobbies, their family life, their specific flavour of neurodivergence-- and something just resonates. it gives them a way to explore and name this important part of themselves, a part they maybe didn't even know existed before it.

and everything is well and good until some split between them and the character shows up

because of course, no character, except an explicit self-insert written by yourself, will ever be a perfect 1:1 for your own experiences. so sooner or later-- maybe in canon, maybe in a fanwork-- your blorbo diverges from your lived experience in a huge way.

I think this is why shipping culture in particular gets so toxic. While it is by no means the only way to indulge with shipping, a significant portion is 'if i was in that character's shoes, i would choose X'. the fight becomes for your own self-identity.

but this gets expanded in other ways. a character who is revealed to be black when the majority of the fandom had just assumed they were white. or revealed to be queer, or maybe the 'wrong' flavour of queer. or fuck, even some more innocuous part of their backstory, one that's nonetheless so meaningful for SOMEONE, but now it feels like the story is saying, fuck you, we're doing something else

i don't know. i just feel acknowledging this perceived-attack-on-identity helps me understand why people react it what seems to be such outsized way to canon and fanworks alike.

at the same time, i think it's a really important thing to check in yourself.

it's nice, to see a character who you identify with. who resonates with for being like you. but it's also nice to acknowledge and appreciate the way characters are not like you at All. how great it is to get insight into this totally different lived experience. and to muse on how wonderful that recognition might be for someone who does have that background.

[sunghun]

enhypen as your best friend

requested; yep :p

warnings; mentions of food in jay and niki’s, minor mention of bullying in sunghoon’s

note; this took me so long to write 😭😭writer’s block is truly a bitch, but hopefully i’ll be posting more often in the near future!!

희승 - heeseung;

for some reason i see him as being that low-key annoying hipster friend

that you lovingly put up with <3

has a song for you to listen for literally every occasion

he’s also the friend that makes you wonder how he even survives

bc you swear he just never sleeps??

you could text him at any time

and he always answers within a few minutes

so either he has some kind of sixth sense for when you wanna talk to him

or he has no life and is always awake waiting for you to message him

and ofc you like to tease him about it

“wow heeseung i didn’t know you were so obsessed with me”

“well i can’t let you have another breakdown at 3am by yourself now can i”

touché

you guys also go on lots of platonic ‘dates’

so many midnight coffee runs

and you’ll just sit on a bench in some park and talk until the sun is coming up

the best friend that’s always there for you

제이 - jay;

the grandpa friend <3

always complains about being out too late

scolds you if you do anything dangerous

impromptu lectures on life even tho he’s like the same age as you

but you know he only does it bc he cares <3

if you’re nervous about doing smth he’ll immediately offer to do it with you or for you

but also encourages you to go out on your own and do things for yourself :))

likes to use you as his “guinea pig” when testing out a new recipe for something

which you honestly don’t mind bc his cooking is just chef’s kiss tbh

definitely the friend who just buys stuff for you

“here.”

“what’s this?”

“that necklace i saw you looking at in the store for like 5 minutes”

he’s low-key kinda tsundere about it sometimes tho

“hey y/n what do you want?”

“oh no i’m good i didn’t bring any money.”

“did i ask if you brought money?”

“but-“

“What Do You Want?”

so yeah

even if he’s a lil rough around the edges

at the end of the day you both know that you’d do anything for each other

the best friend you can always count on

제이크 - jake;

being besties with jake means you question why you’re friends with such a dumbass

legit has the humor of a 12 year old boy like the amount of stupid memes he sends you…

rip my dude

but he’s also the sweetest guy you know so!!

i guess that evens it out

comes over so often he practically lives at ur house

like he just worms his way into your family so subtly

suddenly it’s not a complete family reunion if jake isn’t there

but you also like to hangout at coffee shops/cafes!!

especially the aesthetic looking ones

ur number 1 hypeman

takes the best pics of you for ur social media

“yes y/n! work it bro!”

lots of sleepovers where you’ll stay up watching movies or playing video games until the sun is coming up

you guys probably volunteer at a pet shelter too

and you have to talk jake out of adopting every single dog there almost daily

even if you don’t physically see each other every day

you still text and call each other every day

bc the two of really are like family to each other

the best friend that makes you feel loved no matter what

성훈 - sunghoon;

to this day people still wonder how you and sunghoon are friends

bc like. you’re just so opposite??

plus when you first met you both hated each other

and for literally no reason too

but one day you guys found out there was some dickhead bully at school that you both hated more than you hated each other

like they’re just talking shit about you until suddenly sunghoon walks up and starts defending you?? like what universe did you land in

but anyways ever since then you two got closer and now you’re bffs

people mistake you for a couple all the time mostly bc you’re the only person sunghoon will allow to hold his hand

he isn’t the most affectionate person but if you are he’ll begrudgingly allow you to cuddle up to him when you watch a movie

is so so so observant

which means he always gets you the best gifts

lots of hanging out at the mall bc you both enjoy people watching

so you’ll usually get some coffee and then just sit on a bench and rate people’s outfits

when you guys first started hanging out sunghoon was pretty shy

but the more you got to know each other the more he came out of his shell

and now he tends to match ur energy <3

the best friend that always understands you

선우 - sunoo;

the best bff you ask for

literally the first person you tell anything to

if you’re there you can bet sunoo isn’t far off

the two of you haven’t gone a day without speaking since you became friends

and you both love making fun of each other

all in the name of love, ofc <3

lots of good natured bickering and fake arguing

you guys go on lots of walks and like to have little picnics

and weekly movie/drama nights are definitely a thing

where sunoo will catch you up on the latest rumors and gossip around school during the boring parts of whatever you’re watching

you two also call each other pet names a lot

whether it be normal ones like babe or weird, over the top ones like snuggle bunny-poo

he also likes to randomly surprise you with flowers every once in a while

just because <3

you guys know everything about each other and know that you can always trust the other with your secrets

the best friend that you sometimes wish was more

정원 - jungwon;

is basically ur adopted sibling whether you like it or not

he can either be your favorite person or the person u loathe the most

he lives next door so you both are at each other’s house constantly

and your mom may or may not low-key like him more 3

which he loves to rub in ur face /3

but it’s okay bc maeumi likes you more <3

which you love to rub in his face <33

you both like to go on ‘adventures’ whether it’s going to mcdonald’s at 3 am

or exploring the woods by your house in the middle of the day with a backpack that only has a couple juice boxes and some fruit snacks in it

you also build pillow forts in rooms all the time!!

bc it makes the sleepover experience 10x better, can confirm

he’s always the first person you send the weird videos you find late at night to, and vice versa

and you both love to give each other random little gifts from time to time even if they seem really weird to other people

sooooo many inside jokes

the best friend that you know you’ll always have

니키 - niki;

literally the most annoying person u know

u call him brat affectionately <3

and he calls you his grandparent not affectionately 3 (jk jk)

bc even if you’re the same age or younger than him

i can assure you he is going to tease you about your age/the way you act

also you both will occasionally ghost each other for a few weeks

like sometimes to the point where ppl wonder if you’re still even friends

but when they ask ur like “wdym we’re literally bffs??”

and then continue to talk like nothing ever happened

you guys make fun of each other all. the. time.

lovingly of course, but still

like you guys will be at a thrift shop or smth

and riki will find the most horrendous looking stuffed animal there and buy it

and when you ask him why he got such an ugly thing he’ll just be like

“bc it reminded me of you! ^-^”

jokes on him tho bc a few weeks go by and suddenly he can’t sleep without it so

also lots of park hangouts in the evenings!!

especially in the summer like you guys will get some ice cream or popsicles and just hang out at a playground

pushing each other on the swings or seeing how long you both can hang on the monkey bars

the best friend that makes you feel like you never have to grow up

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[avintagekiss24]

Hi! I don't want to start anything on here and am always willing for civil conversations. At this point there's so much I've found out about Seb (besides the video he liked, the tommy lee thing, and the girlfriend thing) that I feel so guilty if I would continue to support him. I love him sm but it just doesn't look good rn. He is associated/follows an organisation (for helping veterans) that has posted a blue lives matter flag picture and who's co-founder has sexual assault allegations against him, and worked with him in 'The last full measure'. His friend Paul Walter Hauser has done blackface in the past, and when called out on it he just listed a few people that also did blackface. There's more, I found a discussion on here that I can link. I seriously don't support "cancel culture" bc I don't think it helps anyone but there are just a lot of 'mistakes' and shady people that can be linked to Seb, I wish it wouldn't be that way. I honestly don't know what to think about it anymore.

Hi! I’m also open to having civil conversations and I don’t believe you’re trying to start anything. I really do think this situation of dragging up a four year old video and taking it completely out of context is harmful not just to Black people, but to fandom/activism in general. This is gonna be long because I’m going to take your points one by one, and I want to preface this by saying that I will not answer any derogatory, sideways asks pertaining to this subject. I will delete every single one and will block your silly ass. I’m not going to argue with people who think I’m blindly supporting Sebastian because I’m just trying to get fucked by him, or people who think I hate myself and am trying to appease some white man.

So, on with the discourse!

The video he liked - this video was taken completely out of context and that is my main issue with this whole situation. It was not a video of a white man saying that he thinks he should be able to say the n word as everyone claimed it was. They were quickly debating on whether or not it's okay to say in rap lyrics. He was told no, that's not okay, that's never okay and they moved on from it. That's it. End of story. That somehow was twisted into a click bait style headline of "Sebastian Stan likes a video of a white man defending his right to say the n word" when that is absolutely not true. My other issue is that people are more upset that Sebastian liked the video than they are about the white man in the video literally saying the n word. So, do you really care about the use of the n word like you're claiming? Cuz if you do, you'd be more upset at the white man that said the word than you would be about the white man simply liking the video. Or, are you just using this as an excuse to grandstand against a white man you don't like?

The Tommy Lee thing - Sebastian Stan playing Tommy Lee does not make Sebastian Stan a bad person. Is Charlize Theron a bad person for playing Aileen Wuornos, a prostitute who started murdering men? Is Leonardo DiCaprio a bad person for playing a slave owner? Is Edward Norton a bad person for playing a nazi sympathizing racist? Actors play bad people. That doesn't mean that they themselves are bad people. 1990's Tommy Lee was a bad person, but that should have no bearing on who Sebastian Stan is or his character as a man.

The gf/Paul Walter Hauser thing - Why are we holding Sebastian accountable for what the people around him are doing? Again, why are we more upset that Sebastian is associated with people who have done questionable things than the specific people themselves? I'm not going to speak on the kimono wearing -- I'm not Asian. It's not my place to say whether or not its offensive because it's not my culture, but she posted that picture and attended that party before she started dating Sebastian, quite possibly before she even knew him. Same with Paul. I think that black face thing was long before he knew Sebastian. Now, if Sebastian was defending these actions, going around saying "I think it's okay for white women to wear Kimono's" "I think black face is fine" "I think white people should be able to say the n word" then we'd have a different story, wouldn't we? But that's not what we have, and that's not what he is doing. He is not responsible for the things his friends do or have done in the past just because he's more famous than they are, and he is not required to speak on them. Let's put it this way -- would you be comfortable having to be responsible for something a friend of yours did before you knew them? Would you want to have to be forced to answer for your friend when you yourself had nothing to do with the questionable behavior?

The organization that supports the military/blue lives matter - Sebastian cannot control what message that foundation puts out and it does not mean that he is or is not pro-police himself. There is not enough concrete evidence -- if any evidence for that matter -- that Sebastian is a blue lives matter supporter. Did Sebastian donate before they put up the blue lives matter post? Or after? I don’t know, cuz I don’t follow him that closely, but if he donates before they come out with a particular stance, that means he should be held accountable for that? I know I donated to an organization once and they turned out to support something that i’m 100% against. That means I’m a bad person because I couldn’t see into the future? Another point, how can we be certain that Sebastian saw the blue lives matter post in the first place? I know I’m not online 24 hrs a day, I miss posts all the time and I’m just an average person. I make three or four tumblr posts a day, and I’m gone. I have to play catch up on social media, and even then, I still miss stuff. So I’m sure the same happens to a working actor. As for the co-founder, I don't know who this person is and would rather not get into any allegations against them because I don't want to trigger anyone who comes across this post. If Sebastian knows about these allegations, is a willing participant/supporter of this person then yeah, that's pretty shitty, but we don't know the inner workings of this friendship/acquaintance/work relationship. We don’t know how close they are or if they even still speak.

I’m a pretty big fan of Don Cheadle. He’s a stand up guy, he’s a great actor, he’s funny, he’s political and stands up for what he believes in and in a very public way. I support him. Don Cheadle is also friends with Chris Evans, RDJ, Mark Ruffalo, and Letitia Wright (just to name a few). Chris Evans has a bipartisan forum that highlights/promotes right wing politicians, RDJ defended Chris Pratt during the whole “he’s the worst Chris in Hollywood” crap, who’s technically done black face, and who once said to a female reporter “nice tits” when she walked into the room, Mark Ruffalo just walked back his support of Palestine, and Letitia Wright retweeted/supported an anti-vaxxer/anti-trans Pastor who equated an ingredient of the covid vaccine to the devil because it contained some parts of the word Lucifer. Does that mean Don is now a bad person because he’s friends with these people? Why isn’t he getting any heat for his friendships with them? Why isn’t he being held accountable for what they’ve done and said? Oh right, because he’s not a white fave. So people don’t care one way or the other, which brings me to my next point. 

I can guarantee you that if Sebastian’s gf or Paul or this co-founder were not associated with Sebastian in any way, nobody would give a shit about her wearing a kimono, about Paul doing black face, or about the co-founder/organization being blue lives matter supporters and in that lies the actual problem. Being critical of people and their actions should be consistent and should happen all the time -- not just when they interact with your white fave. That’s when it becomes performative and looks like you just want to be able to show internet people that you follow/support/stan unproblematic celebrities, when really, you don’t care.

I think the moral of this post is that I think it's unfair to hold a complete stranger to a standard that I cannot hold myself to. I also don't view celebrities the way most teenagers/twenty somethings do, and that’s because when I entered fandom we didn't have social media, so I grew up with a wall between myself and said celebrities. There is no wall now with the presence of social media. "Fans" nowadays have a weird ownership feeling over celebrities because they can read their personal thoughts or view personal pictures and think that they have this personal quasi-friendship with them. I can't get on board with that. I prefer having the wall and I still keep the wall.

If supporting Sebastian makes you uncomfortable, then by all means, stop supporting him. Just make sure you are making this decision for yourself based on credible sources and concrete evidence and that you're not letting this fake woke activist mob make you feel uncomfortable. Internet activism means nothing unless you put your money where your mouth is in your real life and 90% of the social justice internet warriors do not. Real activism is bigger than changing your avi to a black square.

[barbieswithbettyfinn]

Also you shouldn't have an 18+ blog if the characters are literally minors tf

Firstly, I have a pretty good idea who you are, and you're more than free to block me if you disagree with my existence so much you felt the need to come into MY inbox (on anon, might I add, like a coward), to start shit. Since you're the one with the problem and all, I mean... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The block button's right there, and it's free!

Ignoring your classy use of the r-slur in your last ask, the 18+ in my description is for me. Hi, I'm over 18, and this is (or was) an agere blog. There is nothing 18+ here other than swearing and my age. And if the latter alone disqualifies me from taking part in fandom then I'm going to assume you're a terminally online minor who needs to take a really long time-out from the Internet. Because if you're an adult sending shit like this, oof. All I can say is yikes, my man, what's your damage?

Also the characters aren't real lol. The "literal minors" do not exist. The actors are real people though. Adult people. Playing minors. Adult people playing seventeen-year-olds. Who we suspend our disbelief for. For the two hours we watch them we pretend they're 17yos doing high school things and not 20-30yos running around on a near-empty stage saying lines, singing songs, and dancing their asses off. Who take their blazers, wigs, mics, etc off at the end of the night and walk the streets of the city as anonymous as they can be til they have to put everything back on again.

Secondly, we are not playing this game tonight.

Mmhm, see, I know exactly where this is going. I know the definition you're thinking of and I'ma promise you, that's not what that means. You are not going to label me with the wrong definition and brand me as something I'm not. I'll put it in a bigger font so you don't miss it:

Proshipper is not synonymous with pedophile. You know what is synonymous with pedophile? MAPs!

Luckily for me, the older I get, the less I like people under the age of 18! In fact, the younger you are, the less I like you. Convenient, isn't it? Especially in this day and age when everyone is more exhausting than ever.

The prefix PRO means FOR (eg: pro-choice, pro-life, pro-censorship, pro-ship). It is NOT short for problematic.

Likewise, the prefix ANTI means AGAINST (eg: anti-abortion, anti-LGBT, anti-war, anti-ship).

Being a proshipper means

you don't go around sending anon hate to randos because of their tastes (or what you assume is their taste, and you know what they say about assuming!). That's harassment, kids, and that's illegal! Their opinions, my opinions, his opinions, her opinions have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU so why are you so pressed? Don't yuck someone else's yum. Your squick might be their squee and vice-versa.

you curate your own experience. This person's annoying you by posting too much? Block them so you never have to see them again. That person's spamming the tags? Block them, you're free. That person made art/fic/has a headcanon that contradicts yours and it makes you feel some type of way? You got one guess what I'm gonna say next. Block. Them. If you can demand they block you, why don't you block them first? Since, again, you're the one with the problem and they're just minding their own business.

you don't have to okay EVERY single ship/dynamic you find if you just don't vibe with it because everyone has different tastes just like they like different food. I like durian, but I hate cilantro. I will not eat cilantro for a million dollars. If you try to trick/force me into eating cilantro at all ever, YTA. Some people only have wholesome fluffy ships, and as long as they're not acting like that makes them better than people who ship anything other than that, guess what! As long as they're not going around bothering people about their ships especially if they disagree, guess what!! As long as they're not offering their unsolicited opinions to people under the guise of "helping" them see the "error of their ways" or some bs like that, GUESS WHAT!! AS LONG AS THEY'RE NOT A DICK ABOUT FANDOM CONCEPTS, GUESS FUCKING WHAT!!! congratulations, you're proship! and you didn't even need a problematic pairing!

you ignore what you don't like and consume what you do like! Y'know, like regular people. And you don't bitch and moan after you intentionally upset yourself and make it everyone else's problem (like a baby). I cannot stress how much of an asshole you are if you do this. If you don't want to put in the effort to block, cuz that takes so much, you can always scroll away. If you hate DD:DNE, don't bitch about clicking on a fic that is PROPERLY TAGGED "DEAD DOVE: DO NOT EAT." That's on your dumb ass for not checking the tags first!! You opted in, and you can also opt OUT. Yes, even if your bff sent it to you cuz they suffered and now you have to. Jesus Christ.

you don't police what people are/are not allowed to like. BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT THEM. And it stands to reason if you can police their preferences, they can police yours, right? It's only fair. And if not, what makes you the arbiter of taste, hm? That'd be pretty boring if we all had the same exact likes and dislikes and no one was allowed to branch out and explore new things. When do you guys have fun?

you ship and let ship. The sandbox is big enough for everyone! Suz can play Hug and Snuggles Barbie and Ken over here, and Sam can play Battle Royale Death Barbie and Ken over there. And if I sound condescending that's kind of the point!! If you can't play nice, just don't play together! What a concept!

Alright, I'm done. I hope you learned something. I hope the 40-odd people who follow me learned something. Proship is nothing more than a stance on fiction, and fiction is not real. Fiction by itself cannot hurt anyone. It is not the fault of the creator if people use their creation to hurt others. You know who is at fault? The real person who used the creation with the intention to hurt others. Real people are real. Real people can hurt and be hurt. Fictional characters are NOT real and exist only as concepts.

Get your head out of your ass, the hole's as big as it's gonna get. Grow up. Drink some fucking water. And learn some goddamn respect. Tf? Smdh