#and no mentall illness is not an excuse

[jalattes]

chappell roan's recent statement about parasocial relationships should really open the door to the conversation about how fandoms suffer from the exact same types of behaviors

if there's a very influential artist or member of a fandom it seems like people forget to treat them like a person. It's okay to like their art. It's okay to rally behind their takes or ship headcanons. It's not okay to practically worship the ground they walk on and shower them with constant praise.

On the other side of that coin I believe it's also up to those people with a decent amount of influence in fandom spaces to set boundaries when things start getting weird— especially in fandoms geared towards younger audiences. As an adult you shouldn't be relying on your dopamine hit of positive feedback from minors. You shouldn't be engaging with them in dms where there's a weird power dynamic if you know for a fact that they see you as some sort of higher figure of influence.

We all need to work on making parasocial relationships less common, both in regards to celebrities and in fandom spaces in general

[tagzpite]

May I just point out that calypso is apologising (no matter how backwards it comes off ) only when Odysseus was finally freed by someone else from her.

And that until then she was still actively pushing Odysseus’ Boundaries??

Lighter mot or no she kept this man against his will for seven years. And she didn’t GROW UP on that island. She had a life before that— that led her to be trapped by the gods.

Like she IS a sympathetic and tragic character but let’s not act like she’s innocent.

“for seven years she kept you against your will”

THIS DAMN LINE. LISTEN. BLOODY LISTEN TO IT ALL. DONT PICK WHAT YOU CHOOSE.

There’s a REASON people don’t have an issue with Circe. Are happy to see her as a FRIEND to Odysseus. CALYPSO IS NOT THE SAME CASE.

[astralzeraphias]

“he was mentally ill. this monster was a- was a sick fantasy. a product of his dementia.”

“…i saw it too. does that make me disturbed? demented? does… that make me sick too?”

[sergle]

one of these years... ONE OF THESE YEARS.... people will send me nice / normal messages instead of whatever this is LMAO

[melli4uhbees]

"This is how Meat loves Meat."

[wwooyology]

OH SO THEY WANT ME DEAD????? 😀😀😀😀

[medicalunprofessional]

[marmelade-sky]

"I simply can't communicate my needs-" learn how to.

"I'm bad at communicating my feelings-" learn it then.

"I constantly lose friends because I don't keep up with them-" make an effort.

"I just have terrible emotional regulation-" self-reflect. Get better.

"Sorry I'm always late-" improve your time management strategies.

"Everytime I meet this person they make me feel awful-" don't meet them anymore. I know it's hard, do it anyway.

"My relationship with my partner is suffering because I never talk to them about what I need and want-" they can't read your mind. Learn to talk.

If you are an adult, you can learn how to handle your own feelings. Sit down, write it down, self-reflect, make strategies. Seek change. Better yourself.

Weaponized emotional incompetence, where you expect people around you to handle your issues without ever trying to change, isn't the way to go. You have agency, use it.

[cantgetworsethanthistbh]

i think about this page way too much i have a god damn religion to it atp... i already pointed out how ford sobbed like a baby and stained this page with his tears (the wet spots are so distinct on the stan drawing and literally no other stain in the book looks like that aaaa) before but now im also thinking of how at no point does ford consider that stan would decline going to gravity falls for him or just straight up not show up

l looked through the og journal 3 for comparisons sake and the equivalent of this page are these ones

and still no mention of the very real possibility that stan would just reject going at all. theres no "he could say no", theres no "he might reject me," theres no "he could not answer me but..." at all. infact, in the page with the perpetual motion machine, he says "i must await his ARRIVAL" as if its already done, agreed and guaranteed stan would show up just because he said so.

that drives me crazy. theres just no doubt at all. hes very clearly under the impression that stan is living a good life scamming and conning people amd is doing fine on his own, yet he believes stan would just drop everything for him? is his faith in stans loyalty that strong? does he really believe so strongly in their bond he hasnt nurtured for practically a decade? does he just get off knowing he has power over stan like this or is it the fact he just can't fathom a world where stan would say no? i mean stan did come, so clearly hes right to think that. do you think ford would ever keep him on a leash? stan would let him atp hed let ford put a fucking brand of his name o his ass. thats basically what happened in canon. its canon ford owns stans whole ass and he knows it

[sholmeser]

good to see you home in one piece!

[nufc-carraville]

THEY ALWAYS LEAN INTO EACH OTHER WHEN THEY LAUGH, CAN THEY ACTUALLY NOT?!

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

I can imagine anything guy image: “I can spiral into tears and convince myself I’m the worst person alive over anything”

[cologona]

The bats cornering Jason and ripping into him for getting another child (Sasha) involved with his villainy when he threw such a fit about there being another Robin.

Sasha: You guys know I’m wanted for murder right? If I weren’t with Jason I’d be in Arkham.

Dick, or someone else idc: What?

Sasha: He’s also… maybe 3 years older than me, at most? If you only count the years he was conscious we’re the same age…

Dick: What?

[cluster-b-culture-is]

BPD culture is feeling bad when people say your blaming your behavior on BPD when you're putting in every ounce of your being to change and act differently while explaining how your BPD makes your symptoms appear and why you act that way because of it.

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[swamp-gremlin]

merry crisis and happy holidays boils and ghouls! i have once again crawled fourth from my deep reclusive hermit hide to lay the second chapter of This isn't Over Jack at your feet (please read it... plblese....)

[luvevee]

Getting into Mouthwashing is awesome until you wanna autistic babble to others about it only to realize most of the convos discussing the game are 95% about Jimmy and nobody else, please I want variety