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mcxcuseme13 · 2 months ago
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Everyone's like "when you're on the podium you need to spray everyone"
And I'm like, "Thank God I'm not in F1 cause if you put the spout of that champagne anywhere near me"
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rearranging-deck-chairs · 5 months ago
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if 9&10 were "dont wander off", and 11&12 were "the doctor lies", 13s rule #1 is "dont question me"
"have we not had a good time together" shes pointing yaz to the rule that yaz very well knows is there: we can travel if you dont ask me any difficult questions. yaz knows this is the rule - "because you ask too many questions", "this team structure isnt flat" - but she also was the one to invite the doctor into her home so im pretty sure she also knows shes not gonna kicked out that easily. she has some leeway. which she has been using between revolution and flux, which is why the doctor reminds her of the rules
i dont think she'd kick her out though. she wouldnt. i think it's just that the more you break the rule, the more unpleasant she becomes to be around, and eventually youre gonna walk out on your own. she doesnt want you to, she'd rather you stay and dont ask questions. but if youre gonna try to ask questions anyway, i think thats whats gonna happen
and yaz must think so too. because she does back off. because she doesnt want that to happen either. and it does anyway
#dont question me/dont challenge me. questions are the sore spot but the challenge is one she says explicitly once#because you see this in how she is with other people too. dont try her patience. dont act like shes smaller. dont challenge her or Die#based on the giggle - 'i thought i was clever' 'what do i say?! because im always sooo certain' - i dont think 14 is like this#also based on the expressions of affection#hes not that......reactive. to this. specific thing#so i wonder if it runs over to 15#he seems chill. i think? he seems fairly chill. but also i think we've so far only seen him mostly in control of things#faced with the maestro temporarily not entirely in control hes Notably Less Chill#but still bigger picture. hes mostly in control of things right now i think#or uhhhh based on how eager he seems to get out of the role of doctor#hmmmmm#13 didnt want it but like. was stuck with it i think#didnt want it but nobody else was gonna do it. thats why 12 regenerated#15 comes out 14 Literally Quitting#he doesnt want it and hes decided hes not stuck with it. maybe#none of this is true btw im just saying words recreationally#like those 13 moments are super cherrypicked and i havent rewatched in forever so#dont believe me gfkjghgjh#this is based more on how i write them than what ive seen basically#anyway in terms of 14/yaz i think it takes yaz a while to figure out how to deal with 14 Not being like this#bc she got soooo practiced at handling 13. most of which was abt like not tripping this rule too much#she'd keep it up with 14 and he'd just do stuff that like breaks the rule from his side and yaz wouldnt have any idea how to deal with it#he'd show her hes chilled out a bit. about this. over and over and it'd still take her moooooonthssssssss to start relaxing#just muscle memory at this point. doesnt help that shes also like this#i wonder if 14 - in a sort of compelte reversal - wants to be told what to do and how to do and#seeks out situations where someone else knows more than him so he can sit down and say 'teach me'#i think thats what he does. about all the human stuff. hes like teach me. all of it. show me how to do this
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toytulini · 2 months ago
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I dont know why youve leapt to assuming this post was about the workplace? the original post mentioned friends, family, and going out for drinks, and it feels a bit like a bad faith read to assume this meant for you to try to talk about weird niche TV show interests to your boss, when it seems far more likely to be a post about not letting cringe culture rule your entire life, in a time when its so common for ppl to let themselves become beholden to tiktok microtrends, and being terrified that theyll lose all their friends if anyone finds out they enjoy steven universe.
It’s crazy and fucked up that being yourself is actually the solution.
#reblog#this feels like it was a personal post by the OP who has realized that stifling every interest and thing that they like to constantly#manage how they are percieved and avoid doing anything cringey or weird is uh fucking exhausting and terrible for your mental health#that has spread quite far past containment#and is now being entirely misread as reveal every weird little thing about yourself At Work.#maybe i simply dont know any better tho cos ive so far worked in warehouse grunt jobs with a bunch of other weird unhinged little freaks#im fairly certain that entire second shift had adhd or something similar enough lmao#i have weird colored hair i even went in a couple times with it styled into sort of a bihawk. i wore a shirt covered in furbies. i carry#a purse shaped like a trilobite. so far the most challenging thing for my coworkers seemed to be the fact that i continue to diligently#wear an n95 cos i dont want to get sick. i wasnt telling my coworkers about my depraved oc lore...but id talk about the newest season of#stranger things with them since i watched it. i talked about cats and fish. i talked about atla. i told a couple of them that i wanted to#learn how to walk on stilts. it was fine. yes youre going to have to do some amount of managing how your percieved. but if you let that#take priority over every aspect of your life youll go insane#and there are people who have let their fear of being judged take over every single aspect of their life#and they do genuinely need to hear that its okay to wear a cringey band Tshirt or whatever#also: i hope porfessionalism standards continue to get more lax. death to professionalism. i just got a job offer wearing a tacky print#short sleeve button down covered in sharks with a vampire squid necklace and jeans with a faded blue fauxhawk. this needs to be possible in#more workplaces and its stupid that it isnt. even if you are not expressing your true self at work for your own safety. you should at least#recognize that these standards are absurd and arbitrary. and if a coworker is brave enough to reveal a tiny bit of their authenticity to u#i think it would be kind to give them the space for that. even if its not your weird.#that said. in these warehouses there were also people who were unhinged in the bad way. the 'blasting alex jones at work' way.#and i was fairly cold to these people. i did my best to be purely professional with them and not express interest in getting to know them.#and i didnt love that the guy who thought stop signs = communism (derogatory from him) was also driving a forklift around#but to his credit he did at least obey the stop signs. so.#this job thats accepted me with the tacky fish shirt and blue hair doesnt pay super well and seems like its going to be a bit chaotic. but#we'll see. and if it doesnt work there i can always go back to that first warehouse job unfortunately. cos im pretty sure they wouldve let#me get away with so so so much
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bunny-heels · 7 months ago
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someone with a phobia of cats commented on my nearly 6 year old post about me being baffled by someone who screamed at a cat saying i shouldn't care about peoples phobias. fair. i did tag it with the phobia. shouldnt have done that. i go to their blog and their yelling saying that tumblr is being ableist for using cat imagery on the site. okay i guess. although the cat is basically the internet mascot so its not any websites fault is a cat shows up. i scroll down a lil more.
"i hope everyone who likes dogs suffers. there is no such thing as a good dog, only a trained dog, and those are rare"
okay. i see. so. question:
does this not apply to people with service dogs?
or does that not fall under ableism for you?
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ringirlthings · 2 years ago
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officialspec · 8 months ago
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What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?
It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.
It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.
Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.
Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?
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first off i hate this ask and i think youre a freak. in any other world i wouldve blocked you for this but unfortunately for both of us i actually like this type of philosophy. dont send this shit to anyone else though
i dont think its right to compare human sexuality to the same thing in animals, to get that out of the way. im sure until a certain point it comes from the same biological impulses, but human beings have way more complicated social structures and reasons for coupling that just do not exist in other animals. our social behaviours are what make us unique in the animal kingdom and that definitely extends to gender and sexuality. so theres that
people love to tout 'gender is a social construct' around like its a criticism in and of itself, which i think betrays a misunderstanding about social constructs in general. theyre the foundations we build language on to better understand each other, and affected by a whole host of cultural and historical factors. just because theyre subjective and complicated doesnt mean they arent real. in terms of the effect they have on peoples lives they may be the most real thing that exists
for example, 'kindness' is a social construct. the definition and ways it is enacted differ greatly across personal and cultural lines. but no one would ever suggest a world where kindness doesnt exist or loses meaning, because its an essential part of the way we interact with each other (in the same way i dont really see a world where gender entirely ceases to exist, mainly just one where people have more fun with it. im not a psychic though so who knows)
similarly, sexuality in humans is another social construct. i think the driving biological forces behind it are very real, but the labels people attach to those impulses are subjective attempts to express their inner world to the people around them if that makes sense. and those same biological impulses are ALSO subject to social ideas of gender, because those ideas are established at birth and reinforced over a persons entire lifetime
to use myself as an example, im a gay trans man. ive identified as other things in the past, because i was trying to pick apart feelings i had and express them to others in an attempt to find community. my identity might change as i get older and experience new things, or it might not. i identify as gay because im not attracted to the social concept of women, and someone i would otherwise be attracted to might lose all appeal after i find out they fall under that concept (this has happened before w transfems pre and post coming out lol)
of course, the real REAL answer to this is that trying to give queer identities rigid and objective definitions is a fools errand, and also lame as fuck. someone might identify as gay and be more attracted to general masculinity than men as a social category, maybe they fool around with a couple of butch women without considering themself any less gay. two otherwise identical people might be a butch lesbian and a gay trans man without either of those identities coming into conflict. they might even be the same person at different times of the week
the labels people choose to use are communication tools, not objective signifiers. if you dont understand them, they probably arent talking to you
social constructs are everything. we as humans have the unique ability to interpret our own messy desires and impulses into words that other people can use to form an idea of someone else in their mind. its how we build connections, and of course it isnt perfect because trying to squeeze someones entire personal history and the centuries of context that defined it into a handful of syllables is going to leave some room for error. but its all we have, yknow? so we keep trying. and i think thats much more human than any imposed objective 'truth' could ever be
tldr we live in a society dipshit. get with it
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misfithive · 10 months ago
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What I think Simon likes about Wille
I have seen some discussions about “why Simon even like Wille” (😔☹️💔) both here and elsewhere. I'm bored sooooo here is my list of what I think! I admit when I first watched I used to wonder sometimes why Simon liked him, mostly bc the back and forth hot and cold of season 1 could understandably be exhausting however once i thought about it I came up with many things. (some are hc ish ) :) I also think that if you love wilmon's relationship then you can see what they see in eachother. Two people (Wilmon) created that dynamic together both of them are loving/open/gentle with each other it is deeper than " i like that he sings and he is pretty"- they like how the other person makes them feel which is different I think than what is usually portrayed in teen relationships. People focus too much on their fights/angst sometimes and not their nice moments I think the good outweighs the bad. Also why i believe in endgame bc they have something deep and special.
1. I think Simon thinks Wille is adorable in a dorky way or finds him endearing. When Wille dropped the utensil after their first real convo Simon was blushing and giggling
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2. Wille actively seeks him out a lot and tries to help Simon when he can/ When someone is giving you that kind of attention it is flattering and shows how kind Wille is (the tip about tutoring, the rowing tips, the song on the piano). Thats a quality someone would find attractive
3. Similarly when they are together Wille’s attention and energy is solely focused on him / Wille smiling at him adoringly all the time. I think that would make anyone feel special and especially if you are like Simon and spend a lot of energy caring for/thinking about other people
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4. Wille is generally very gentle with Simon which is beautiful and also imagine someone being that gentle with u and holding u like that im sure u would fall in love too lmfao even tho simon is asleep I think he felt it and this isnt the only example I just like the picture hehe
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5. Wille wears his heart on his sleeve. Simon is more guarded with his feelings i think he could drawn to how open/expressive/ softhearted Wille is with him. “I didn't want to lose you” “you are beautiful” etc
6. Wille makes him sandwiches asks him how he is doing a lot etc sorry but no boys were making me sandwiches as a teenager a lot of small things like this are still a big deal
7. Wille is a prince and he could be a total arrogant a** hole like everyone else at that school and no one would think twice but he is not. It takes a certain type of person to actively not be like that when u are born into that level of privilege and everyone will let you get away with whatever. I think Simon likes that Wille is different than than the other people at school who ignore him and treat him bad.
8. Simon feels safe around Wille (maybe with the exception of the music room scene) but they have a safe space together its a strong contrast to the dynamic with marcus and i think everything with marcus serves to highlight how special the dynamic is with Wille.
9. Wille gives good hugs
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10. Wille is nice to Linda and tries to make her feel included Simon thought that was cute (it was very cute)
11. They can laugh together and see how silly (ridiculous) august/some of the antics of the other boys are
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12. I could go on okay but love is not always rational and cant be contained in a list, they are soulmates and thats that!!!!!!!!!
//Adding that i think Omar said in an interview that despite what Simon says in the locker room he thinks Simon likes that Wille accepts him for who he is. But if anyone can find the clip pls share I dont wanna misquote him! //
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mollyjames · 5 months ago
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Been having a hard time lately expressing what I want from people helping me in video games. There's times when I appreciate it but other times when folks mean well but it spoils my fun.
I think it comes down to what I do and do not consider a waste if time. I like exploration and I like puzzles. In Souls games in particular, I like approaching combat as if it were a puzzle. That can mean figuring out an enemy's gimmick, or it can mean figuring out the moveset of this cool new weapon I just found. (It's also why I dont like relying too heavily on a single weapon. Something like the Bolt of Gransax is powerful, but it's also a bit of a skeleton key in combat: just shoot enemies from a distance until they die. More fun when you have to also run away from a dragon, less for mobs that die in one hit.)
When I get to a new area and someone tells me go to X location to get Y item, it's like they've told me the solution to a puzzle I barely got the chance to look at. I dont get to engage the part of my brain I find the most rewarding. Failure is also an important part of puzzle solving. It means I get to test ideas and learn new things. Telling me not to go a certain direction yet doesn't tell me anything. Even if ultimately I turn back, I still dont feel like I wasted my time because I learned something.
That's not to say I never want help. The other day I got stuck in one section of the DLC combing an area for over an hour trying to find a solution to a puzzle that I simply wasn't able to access yet. That was a waste of time. I also dont mind being flagged to check out certain areas. To me that isnt telling me the solution so much as telling me "hey, there's a fun puzzle over there! Go check it out!"
I dont know if that makes sense or if there's a cleaner way of expressing what I'm talking about here. Maybe I need to chill more. But I think curiosity is genuinely a major drive for me. I want it stoked, not bludgeoned.
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helluvagirlboss · 13 days ago
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In light of the impending Ghostfuckers emotional damage, here’s a scenario that I don’t think will happen in the show, but I think it would be absolutely fucking hilarious (based on a conversation I had with @awkwardandeccentric )
Imagine later down the line after Blitz and Stolas have been in an established relationship, Blitz is now on decent terms with Octavia, and maybe Stolas has been working at IMP for a bit, Blitz decides to throw the company a party called the “Our Dads Sucked Party” because of how all of them have Daddy Issues.
Stolas, Blitz, and Moxxie are the obvious choices, but they include Loona too because her biological dad sucked. Octavia joins, despite having a good dad, but she does have Mommy Issues and more recently Uncle Issues (aka Andrealphus) and doesn’t wanna be left out.
Millie is there for moral support.
Blitz also invites Fizzarolli to this party because Fizz’s dad was fairly absent and that contributed a lot to his exploitation later in life.
And assuming he has made up with Barbie by this point, he invites her.
Eventually Blitz makes the executive decision to have an open invite.
He posts about it on Sinstagram that says “kum or dont, idc, fuk r shitti dads”
So Blitz doesn’t have the most popular following on Sinstagram and enough people hate him that he assumes like maybe a few extra people shows up so he just rents out a floor in one of the nicer buildings in the Pride Ring.
But instead of like a few extra people…like half of Hell shows up.
So many of his ex flings and one nights stands are there as well as a bunch of people he never dreamed he’d be in the same room with again.
Verosika shows up.
Angel Dust shows up.
Multiple Overlords show up.
Blitz panics.
Because now they have to rent out the whole damn building and he has to designate floors. Tailored to specific needs.
There’s the crying floor, the therapy floor, the rage floor, the fuck it we ball floor, the fuck it we fuck floor.
This proves difficult when someone in dire need of two or more floors can’t cross over, and it causes multiple fights, that he needs to break up.
Also he has to work overtime to keep the Overlords the fuck away from each other because he is not going to deal with the fallout if an Overlord feud gets too murdery.
(He also sees an interaction between Angel Dust and Valentino that sets off the red flags in his head that he really needs to keep Valentino specifically away from Angel.
Angel thanks him for it the next day.)
His last straw is when Lucifer fucking Morningstar shows up.
Absolutely not. Blitz refuses to lose cool points by having this party go sideways in front of the King of Hell Himself.
So he bites the bullet…and calls a certain hotel for help.
Turns out Princess Charlie Morningstar is more than eager to take an overwhelming majority of drunk party-goers into her hotel, and somehow manages to bed and feed all of them.
She gets stars in her eyes when multiple hungover residents express a desire to stay at the Hotel for longer.
(Husk tries to tell her it’s because they all have hangovers that’ll last them multiple days, but Vaggie’s spear shuts him up).
And that’s the story of how Charlie managed to fill up the Hazbin Hotel for the first time in forever and it’s all because Blitz decided to throw a party dedicated to everyone with daddy issues.
Blitz doesn’t know if he regrets everything or nothing.
He doesn’t regret the praise he gets for throwing the biggest party in Hell.
But he does regret the reparation bills he gets from the owner of the building he rented.
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thebiter · 1 month ago
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been thinking about dizzy (the ship) a lot and i actually really like it
theres something about the inherent tragedy of it
i might not be able to make awesome fanart like all the people on here but i am very very good at rambling so heres my unedited unrevised thoughts about it
lizzy and doll are what historians would call "very good friends." they do everything together. despite the differences everyone else sees between them, they know each other and understand each other and care about each other. and in the case of dizzy, they want each other.
the thing that you have to understand about these two characters is that they have one similarity. they are very good at putting up a front.
doll shows this very well, we see her being a bit silly and expressive and fun a few times but as soon as its her time to enter the spotlight and enter the cast of main characters properly, shes a totally different person. her front, her mask, is a person who is cold and calculated. someone who is capable and independent and mysterious. nobody knows what she wants and she wants it to stay that way
lizzy. i dont think people give her enough credit for this. shes the popular girl. her entire thing is putting up a front. nobody, and i mean nobody, is actually 100% Like That. she is very good at performance. playing a role for an audience. lizzys front is one of disinterest. of compliance because it is the path of least resistance. doll is her friend after all, why should she care if she becomes a serial killer just to enact a revenge plot. anything for her besties.
and thats a very interesting dynamic to me. doll pretends not to care about anything to hide the fact that she does care. shes trying to save the world after all! and also maybe a certain drone in particular. and then theres lizzy. lizzy pretends not to care about dolls actions to hide the fact that she does care. about doll.
like are you seeing what im seeing. these two want the best for each other. theyre both trying to protect each other. but in their very unwise attempts to hide the truth from each other. to not hurt each others feelings. they fail to just. communicate
so lizzy never tries to stop doll
and doll never stops to consider lizzys feelings
lizzys sole act of rebellion was an attempt to save a life. she warned v just barely too late. the one time lizzy ever broke her front, took off the mask. it was only to save someone elses life
dolls sole act of compassion was to allow lizzy to know about her plans at the prom in the first place. her need for revenge.
and yet neither of these are about each other.
they wear the masks for each other after all
lizzy let it down to save v because v was not who she put up a front for
doll let it down to get closer to lizzy because it wasnt even related to her real grander plans
in the end they both kept their masks up for too long
lizzy never stopped doll from leaving on a trip to her own death
and doll never told lizzy about what was really going on in the world around her
in their misguided attempts to protect each other they both failed. worse than failed. they were enabling each others behaviors.
lizzy let doll do whatever she wanted and doll allowed lizzy to feign ignorance
all because they were both too scared of what might happen if they told the truth
that conflict was the only thing they feared
but it was the one thing they needed
and now its too late
and neither of them could save the other
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northern-passage · 1 year ago
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is it weird/wrong of me to always play a lesbian character as a man? like no mater what if game i always try and be female, the man mc i just can fit into as a man myself. i dont think its anything to do with wanting to be a woman (but if i was reborn and able to chose how i looked and what gender i would be i would pick to be a woman) im just a bit confused becuse i have seen people say that im basiclly sexuallising lesbians and its very wrong of me to do that. im just lost becuse it dont want to sexualise that but i just feel more comfrotble being a woman in the game becuse it feels like im able to express myself more/be more emotinal, but if im a man ingame it jusr feels wrong of me to do any of that, like im not soppused to.
well... it doesn't really sound like you're sexualizing anyone. what you've described here doesn't really seem to have anything to do with sex in that way at all. it sounds like you just feel more comfortable playing as a woman and there's nothing wrong with that.
there are definitely some games that do write their male and female mcs differently & force them into a very strict gender role (ie man is always big, strong, stoic & masculine whereas woman is always small, dainty, emotional & feminine) and i can definitely understand that it can be uncomfortable being forced into that little box. as a butch lesbian myself i often don't like playing as a stereotypical "submissive feminine woman" & will sometimes choose to play as a man instead to avoid it.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with playing games or exploring characters that are different from you. in fact i think it's very important to learn about other people's experiences. my other game, blood choke, has a lesbian mc but i have no issue with other people playing it; in fact i encourage it!
and now, to be clear, i absolutely am just a random stranger on the internet and there is no way i can extrapolate anything about you and nor do i want to assume anything. but i really really urge you to maybe do some reflecting about why you may feel this way. maybe you are just uncomfortable with being confined to specific gender roles and that's absolutely fair on its own. we live in a patriarchal society that puts a lot of pressure on both women and men to be a certain way. you can express yourself and be emotional as a man, regardless of what society says, if that's what you want. and you can play games as a woman if that makes it easier for you to do that.
but you also just admitted to me that you feel more comfortable playing as a woman in self-insert games because you feel like you can better express yourself as a woman, and that if you had the chance, you would purposefully choose to be a woman in real life.
i feel like i have to let you know that you can actually be a woman in real life, right now, if that is what you really want instead.
at the end of the day i can't tell you what it is that you want nor can i really give you "permission" to do something. maybe none of this really applies to you at all-- again, i'm just a random person on the internet. i don't know you. but based on what you just told me i think it would be worth it for you to sit in these feelings and really think about them and what they may mean. maybe it means nothing. or.... maybe you learn something new about yourself.
either way, just know that what you're doing-- playing as a woman/lesbian-- is fine. especially if it is something that brings you comfort & allows you to express yourself in a way that you feel you normally can't.
much love to you anon 🫶
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barbthebuilder · 3 months ago
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hey, it's alright if you cant answer this because i understand!
I'm having trouble with what my gender identity is, I'm afab, and i have always thought i was cis until early 2024. in jan i experimented with being genderfluid, as i realised how much i loved presenting masc and how it made me feel so much better being masc.
shortly after that, i had a weird feeling constantly while presenting masc or fem, where if i was fem i would just feel cis, but if i presented masc i would feel like i'm still cis but just dressing up. my solution to this was to choose a different name to the very feminine one i was assigned, so i chose charlie, which in my head is a very feminine name but also very masculine, based on the people ive seen with that name.
i decided on the lable nonbinary for a bit. (maybe 3 months or so) but when i was using just they/them pronouns i felt like i was missing out on the other genders i wanted to be, so i used they/he/she for a bit, which was fine.
i realised soon after that nobody was using he/him for me, so i dropped it because it felt like a waste and just used they/she, which made me extremely dysphoric, so i went back to they/them.
im currently using they/them, nonbinary, and dressing masc daily, (not wearing any makeup to avoid any dysphoria at all) BUT im also a lesbian. ive been a lesbian for about 2 years and im certain that i am, but can i be enby and lesbian ??? or any other lable and lesbian because thats another thing thats been making me feel weird about my gender
i know this is pretty confusing so if you dont know then i get it, no worries!! i hope you have a nice day :D
Yo, gender identity stuff can be pretty confusing so I don't balme you for feeling uncertian about all of this.
The experience of feeling like you basically fake being genderfluid is something I have dealt with in the early days too. You have identified as a woman for a very long time. It's natural that there is a part if you that rejects nonbinary thinking. You're just not used to thinking about yourself in other ways.
That too shall pass. Feeling like you're faking is temporary if you sureound yourself with good support system and reprogram binary thinking. That happened to me at least.
I can totally relate to feeling like you miss out on something while using they/them. I am personally fine with those pronouns but I much rather be called she or he.
Now, I want you to notice something. You expressed that the best set of pronouns for you that you experimented with was she/they/he. You stuck with those, however people did not use he/him for you. I said: "it felt like a waste". A waste of what? I wonder if there are other feelings involved here too. It just bugs me that you have changed such a big part of yourself beacuse of how everybody was treating you. Maybe the pronouns are not the problem here but how others use them on you.
You seem to be very uncomfortable with she/they and not fully yourself with they/them. Seems like the masculine part of you is a very important one. I don't think it would be true to yourself to reject or supress it.
I think the problem with realising what your gender identity is will be connected to your desire to conform. Don't ask yourself "will they accept me?" but "will I accept me?".
For example, you seem to be very strongly connected to your lesbian label but here you are asking complete stranger if you can use it. Are you a lesbian? If you want to, then yes. Don't try to be what others perceive you to be. Just. Be.
I'm not sure if this was helpful lol. Let me know if you want to! I'm always open to the chatter. Sending lots of love!! <33
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sophieinwonderland · 5 months ago
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i dont think i really get the whole x-punk thing. like for some, yes, its a form of self expression... but also just... use the word punk?
i get a new tag sort of but everyones arguing on whats REALLY punk, and i think many punks wouldn't waste their time arguing about whos excluded from the punk label and would instead, you know, fight for what they think is right in ways that would change things? just going "ew endos bad and fake and not REAL systems" doesnt change the fact that even disordered DID/OSDD systems still need acceptance and to be understood and helped and not be treated as some super rare basically impossible thing that .0001 percent of the population has. maybe correcting people from using "multiple personality disorder" or starting a DID/OSDD support group in your community might be a start.
but all these anti endos just want to have the label systempunk to sound cool while still being exclusive and spending their time arguing against "the endos" because they're "making doctors not listen to us" when newsflash, the doctors are already ableists, and you need to help educate them instead of yelling at other victims. but okay
i swear some of the x-punk things just sound like it's cool and exclusive for only certain punks and all they care about is appearance. looking like a punk and poorly playing the part i guess.
I agree with most of this, but I actually really love the idea behind the x-punk labels.
As I understand, this started with cripplepunk, which is centered around applying punk values to disability pride, rejecting ableist societal ideals that expect people with disabilities to behave one way to be deserving of support, while celebrating individuality and pride in who you are.
Terms like madpunk and neuropunk sprung out of that for neurodiverges.
I know there's debate over whether cripplepunk should be exclusive to people with physical disabilities or if it should be an umbrella for all disabilities, and that sort of gatekeeping can breed toxicity between communities that are both victims of ableism and should be seeking solidarity.
But whatever your stance on that debate is, I do feel these labels are important for people in these groups looking to take pride in who they are and reject both systemic ableism and internalized ableism. Because cripplepunk and its offshoots are more than the sum of their parts. It's more than just punk and it's more than just disability pride.
The problem with Systempunk
With systempunk, anti-endos took a look at an already punk community, Pluralpunk, and decided to make something that was less punk.
Their view of systemhood is based purely on what they perceive as the medical model of systemhood, or what their friends say that is. Anything that doesn't conform to that is bad.
And their values aren't based on fighting against an ablesist society or psychiatry or anything of the sort. No, because to them, the real problem is this other group of plurals and so-called "fakers".
And their problem with pluralpunk was that it was too individualistic.
It celebrated people who were too different and too weird.
It was fundamentally too punk for them.
So anyway, yeah. I like a lot of other types of x-punk labels. I don’t like ones that try to strip away the punk from them though, and are only interested in using punk as an aesthetic.
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lightlycareless · 7 months ago
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Hii! I just wanted to let you know that I'm a big fan of your work!
I started of with discovering your "First it Hurts" fic on ao3, then being updated to your every post cus I look forward to every fic or hc's you make!
Also, I loved the valentines special post 💗💗 BUT IM SO CURIOUS ABOUT NAOYA'S LETTER AHH, anyways I just wanted to let yknow that I love your fics and the way you write Naoya! I hope you continue writing fics about him since there's a scarcity on Naoya fics HAHAHA, but I dont mean to pressure you! Please take your time, and I'm eagerly waiting for your new fics!
Hello!!
Awww thank you so so so much!! I'm so happy you're liking it so far!!!!! 🥺❤️ akajghajkghasgjas as well as my oneshot :>
Also, I'd like to apologize for the delay; I'm slowly working my way through requests, the main fic, and the weird schedule for my job 💀 I greatly appreciate your support and patience 🥺❤️ Also, I'll be writing Naoya fics for like, ever. I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO SEE HIM ANIMATED OMG ALL THE INSPIRATION.... gotta keep this small part of the fandom alive!!!!
Now... to the letter.... I feel like it would've gone something like this:
warnings: naoya is a prick, no surprise. but... he has feelings, just that he doesn't know what to do with them. this is the oneshot anon is referring to.
Happy reading!
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Y/N.
I didn’t think letters were still written in these times, outside of elderly people and the socially inept, but I suppose that for certain occasions they are still necessary.
By the time you get this you’ll probably already have an idea of where I’m going with it, yet I’ll still write it down.
I cannot deny that you came onto my life in the most unexpected way, not necessarily the best either.
I didn’t like your siblings, and I still don’t. I think of them to be nothing but highly annoying, arrogant, especially your sister who seems to parade herself around Gojo and the privilege she had of knowing him.
Your brother is somewhat… calmer in that aspect, he tends to keep to himself, and I respect that. Everyone should be like that, you know?
But I’m not here to talk about them, of course, I’m here to talk about you.
When I heard that you were going to enroll, I wasn’t thrilled, I genuinely thought great, another nuisance was to grace the school grounds—I already had this preconceived idea of you and was more than ready on keeping it… until I finally I saw you.
I’m sure you’ve heard this a thousand times already, someone like you must’ve undoubtedly… but you are the prettiest girl I have ever seen in my life. Your beauty is so mesmerizing, I couldn’t believe it was real—anyone thinking otherwise is either blind, stupid, or lying. Or maybe all at the same time.
I didn’t accept those feelings at first, tried my hardest to ignore them and go back to disliking you, find a reason to hate you and move on.
But I couldn’t, and when I heard your laughter, saw your smile, or the cute way your eyes twinkled whenever you were excited about something, I knew it was impossible for me to disregard it any further.
My feelings for you had only grown more and more as time passed, and now, I find it physically impossible to contain them, but still hard to express them to you in person.
So, I resorted to this letter, which I hope will be able to accurately convey what I feel for you, if only for a fraction, until then.
What I mean to say is… If you let me, Y/N, I can show you how special you are to me.
I can give you all that you want in the world—it doesn’t matter what, whether it being money, or the stars themselves—I will not spare any expense to give you what you deserve, and I shall assess that every day of my life until my death, starting with the gifts I’ve sent you today, alongside those waiting in your dorm.
I shall call you mine. No other man will be able to lay a hand on you, and I won’t allow any other woman to do the same to me either. My eyes will solely keep to you, and you alone; I expect you to do the same.
And in turn… I don’t ask much, except that you see me the same cheerful, adorable way you see others when happy, the one that has me completely enthralled, unable to keep it off my mind for more than one second, and… accept me into your heart.
If you so decide it appropriate to get to know each other better, you know where to find me. I shall await your response.
Naoya.
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As you can see, Naoya isn’t overtly romantic or good with words (I mean, the slander at the beginning lol) but he tries, as genuinely as possible—his honesty is a virtue to appreciate lol. Also, he was TREMBLING while writing this, if not crying hahaha he really almost died when he wrote you were the prettiest girl in the whole while world.
He’ll become more comfortable with it, of course, he’s a man that can’t hold himself when it comes to talking. But it’s nice to see him all shy for once 😊
Akgjakogja I’m so happy you all liked this little oneshot—I know it was quite the bomb to drop on valentine’s day, but I swear, it’s a happy ending story :>
If there’s more you want to know about that oneshot/au just let me know, I’ll be more than happy to indulge!!
Take care, and hope to see you soon!!!
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ikkosu · 7 days ago
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In your opinion in the fan space is Prowl a popular or unpopular character? I love how much attention you give him but it’s been a little hard finding other blogs that do. Wasn’t sure if it was just because he isn’t as popular or something
I adore prowl, for personal and uh, lusftul reasonf BAHAHHJHA. my opinion and rant below I guess?
I dont really know how to answer this question, I’m terrible at expressing my opinions without short circuiting every second but I do think Prowl is quite popular (not as popular as the fandom’s babygirls : Ratchet, Starscream, and etc but you get the gist) and for both popular and unpopular reasons is he so.
Especially, with him being known as the Pricktm, and just generally an asshole (which I don’t really believe). I mean, he is an asshole but c’mon. It’s often I see he’s characterized by his unlikable traits, which in turn, antagonizes him often (where is his sassy side!!!) and I do find those jokes funny but at a certain point I get irked when that’s the only thing they could see about him.
I know some prowl lover’s already made this point, but he’s so much more than the typical cold calculating Autobot with no other hobbies than committing war crimes. The only reason I welcomed that aspect mostly because it’s funny and also because i usually keep his deeper character analysis to myself, since I relate to his character a little too deeply as well. (Not on the war crimes part, I am anything but a war criminal)
Especially when prowl would be introduced into ES and immediately everyone just immediately assume prowl!!! Asshole!! I want him to be mean!! I do agree it would be funny if he is, and his arc of being lovable towards everyone would be heartwarming, but come on… even in the shows they’d anataginize him for being logical and calculating, it’s frustrating when most of the things he said are right (okay he’s a bit too much on the organic thing, prowl seriously) but I love how prowl is in ES his personality is perfect. He’s affectionate, he listens and he still has his typical prowl personality that I like.
okay I’m going off on a tangent now. Uh, anyways back to prowl. As for the other blogs that don’t talk much about prowl, I guess it depends on who they like. But I was a little confused, maybe it’s because I’m talking about prowl often and most of my moots love prowl and most of my followers love prowl so I’m in the prowl zone of tumblr, so I get a lot of things related to prowl ahaha so I was like wait people don’t talk about prowl? But it’s only recently I noticed that Prowl is getting popular. I have no idea why, though.
conclusion : yes, he’s quite popular. It also normally depends on the blog if they like him or not.
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gynoids-over-androids · 6 months ago
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How do you deal with being a radfem in the art world? In feel like I made a huge mistake in my younger years when I was drawn into queer art and now most of my art contacts are 'queer'. Not only is queer art getting worse and worse when it comes to quality and pretty void of intelect but I also feel if I say exactly what I want with my art, Ill be outcast forever. Not that I have loads of succes but everything would be over then : ( these days Im staying off feminist topics because I know, if I do something woman centric, people will not like it..... I feel like an idiot coward.
im currently switching to tech and continuing art on the side, to secure my wellbeing financlially at least. i think if i wasn't doing it, id be way less eager to talk about feminist topics...
i also feel like a coward sometimes, i know what you mean. for example for this exhibition/art residency i didnt outright tell im a radical feminist, i said im a "materialist feminist who goes to the root and re-mater-ializes female history" lol. i know i wouldnt be "allowed" to mention it at best (happened to another art piece about a radfem) and #cancelled at worse. i know other radfems who are more outspoken about this, i feel like a coward compared to them, but i also think being strategic wouldnt hurt. i think there are ways to present your work and yourself that wouldnt compromise it but also wouldnt completely erase what you want to say.
when we were working on this exhibtion, honestly i didnt even say anything when they were talking about certain topics cause that would be high risk, low reward. for others, id turn their own tactiques on them ("wow, this is something i only hear in the west! maybe i dont understand this cause im an immigrant", "wow thats crazy that there are so many different genders, in X language we only have the word for sex and we use the english word "gender"for sexist stereotypes") etc. It was VERY funny!
i had accusations of transphobia because i often depict vulvas in my work abt women, so i just mad fun of these accusations ("what, do i need to stick dicks everywhere then? im not interested"). a male artist with a piece about gay men which only depicted dick havers didnt (normal) have this criticism ofc.
i agree 100% with what you say about "queer" art. it's such a meaningless label today in the art world, it's anything but subversive. ime it's something these (western and middle+ class) artists use to mean "abnormal", but about ANYTHING! (ex. making art about your stay in a mental health clinic is "queer"). it's SO bigoted.
personally i have a "squeeze every opportunity" mindset. if TRAs want to infiltrate the art space (predominantly female at least in the beginning btw) and make everything about them, why cant we? we need to use every opportunity we can, because i can guarantee no one else is gonna make real feminist art. we need to be strategic about this, sure.
another thing (and thats just my opinion) sometimes we just need to present feminist work without marking them as radical. expressing radfem views and describing them as normal feminism is safer for us and makes the piece more accessible to others, and thats my ultimate goal. im not interested in arguing with cultists, im interested in making art for women.
finally i think its important to create our own spaces and opportunities. id love to make an exhbition or a book abt radfem art one day.
if you want to dm me to talk more, you're welcome, i'll respect your desire for safety
tldr i deal with this by humour + idgaf attitude + trolling + not depending on this financially + being strategic with what you say
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