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Neopronoun users:

Im curious as to what made you decide to use your set of pronouns. What was different about them? What made them click? Are they linked to a specific type of feeling?

Ill go first,

My neopronouns are xe/xer

I chose them because personally for myself i do not like themed pronouns or any that are linked to a specific thing like noun pronouns are for example. Xe/xer just felt right. I found that i tend to use it more on days where i might feel more agender. Also i wanted pronouns that encapsulate vith the male and female part or me.

The set always felt red to me, the xe reminded me of he and the xer reminded me of her (i know xe pronouns are usually xe/xyr or xe/xem but i dont like the strong r sound and xem feels too muh like them and i hate they/them for myself)

Ze/zir also has the same sound but idk, felt really yellow and also i just didn't like the shape of it, didn't work. The X just felt like a placeholder or a blank space, kinda like how my gender felt sometimes.

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I guess before i was just apathetic to how i presented myself. Not really discomfort but i recently realised that before i figured myself out, i did not care how i looked for example. I just wore a tshirt and leggings but then once i figured i was bigender, i started discovering that i do like to dress up and such

That is one example.

But its stuff like that

Can I get some insight from trans folks who don’t experience dysphoria?

[yourbigendergremlet]

Welcome to the bedroom!

This blog is a safe-space for people who are bigender, bigenderfluid/bigenderflux, other bigender labels, multigender, gender-nonconforming, neopronoun users, and lgbt+ and allies in general!

This blog will provide my own experiences discovering being bigenderflux, answers to questions, pronoun and name checks, and more

FYI

Do not send in any NSFW content, this is a safe space for minors

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About me:

Hi there, im Candy and/or Cory! My pronouns are she/he/xe/xer and i am bigenderflux

I figured out that i am bigenderflux in 2023 and discovered that there are very little blogs for people like me. Im still figuring it out myself but we can do that together on this blog! Feel free to send in asks :)

Check out my other blogs:

@candy8448 - main blog

Follow my main blog for general fandom talk

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What is Bigender?

Bigender is the experience of having two genders. These can be a combination from binary genders, nonbinary genders, xenogenders, demigenders, fluid genders, agender, or anything else, about whatever combination feels right for you. There are other bigender labels like bigenderfluid/bigenderflux which is where one or both of your genders change in either gender or intensity

What is Multigender?

Multigender is the experience of having more than just one gender. Common identities under this umberella include: bigender, trigender, polygender and pangender. Each one of these also include their own microlabels. These genders can be any combination of gender identity and are not just limited to male/female/nonbinary

Any identity can use whatever pronouns desired, even if it doesnt "match" the gender

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Active Bigender&Multigender blogs (that i can find):

(Feel free to mention more that i missed)

General lgbt+ blogs masterlist

@your-bigender-big-brother

@multigenderswag

@our-multigender-experience

@our-bigender-experiences

Bigender resources:

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More blog info here (my OCs, faq, check rules+)

No dni but i will block people if i see fit

-Your bigenderflux gremlet (tbb)

[yourbigendergremlet]

Also do you know which version of the bigenderflux flag is the most popular one? Which one do you like best?

Personally i do not tend to like combined pride flags, and the bigenderflux ones especially do not appeal to me.

In flags, i prefer them to be siimpler and more memorable/recognisable (like how the trans flag is) so i like having fewer rows (5 being the max since more feels like too much) and combined flags tend to always go way over that, trying to represent all of both flags so i dont like them.

This is the most common bigenderflux flag i think and i think you can see what i mean by its too busy. And while there are many made by other people, they tend to not appeal to me much either, as well as the fact that most people probably wouldbt recognise it, which is somethig i personally want in my flags. There is this really lovely one i saw on reddit but i still wouldnt use it myself although i do love the colours

I prefer to use the two seperate flags instead of a combined flag, and even then the most used flags dont feel right to me in terms of meaning behind it, i still find them good because of the colours. I do want to redesign them eventually but do not have the motivation at the moment to do so at the moment, i might eventually. In the meantime i will continue to use the more popular/my favorite genderflux and bigender flags

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I should probably know this but what does t4t mean?

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Before, gender was not something i thought about too much but it was a question i had started to randomly ask myself as a hypothetical.

When i thought about it, i would always figure that i would probably be transmasc if i weren't a girl, and definetly not nonbinary (those were the two gender terms that i properly knew/understood back then) but i always shrugged it off because whenever i thought about it more i always noticed that i was VERY confident in my femininity, so i couldn't be something else.

I wasn't oposed to being seen as a male however. I would dress up in a more "masculine" style, i cut my hair because it would look nice, and i would be able to look like male characters and such but i was always confident in my femininity so i never thought much about it.

However one day in front of the mirror i was brushing my hair and ii don't remember what train of thought sparked the memory, but i suddenly remembered a random tweet i had found a few years back with a drawig of a bigender character and the flag. I had asked them what the flag was and what it meant and they explained it to me. I suddenly remembered that interaction while brushing my hair and something pinged in my head.

I then proceeded to take a while researching the identity, exploring the community on tumblr and youtube, finding memes on pintrest etc and then later decided that this was me after some initial denial. I then came out to my two closest friends and the rest is history

Question for my bigender followers

How did you realize you had two genders?

You don't have to answer, of course, but I'm curious to know how others have come to that conclusion.

[yourbigendergremlet]

whats a gremlet?

Why hello there anon!

Gremlets are just a little four eyed, round headed, humanoid species that i created, i use a main one as my avatar and the other (in my pfp) for my self projection. You can see them both on this post

Thnx for the ask!

[yourbigendergremlet]

More about the bedroom

Masterpost

Me:

To be more specific on what i identify as, i am a bigenderflux male&female and prefer to have my pronouns alternating, but using one set if fine. My gender changes in intensity. This means that some days i feel more female than male, vise versa, both fully male and female, only one or the other or sometimes even neither. However, my genders remain as female&male.

I do not like they/them pronouns in reference to myself. Please refrain from it.

If you want to use other neos or even mirror pronouns for me, go for it. I still haven't fully decided on what i like so maybe ill like something i hadn't thought of before

OCs you might see often on this blog:

This is a gremlet, a species that i made

This one here is the one i use as my avatar and he uses he/him pronouns, he currently doesn't have a name

Here is Toby, although not one i use as my avatar, she might be seen from time to time. His pronouns are she/he and is mainly used for self projection. She's an offshoot of the gremlets and also the one in my pfp

Violetclaw is my old warrior cats OC. She was created years before i figured out i was bigender and uses she/her pronouns. Im not really big in the warriors fandom anymore and you might see her less but she is still one of my main OCs that i used to use as my avatar and you might see her every once in a while

Name/Pronoun Checks:

All checks will be tagged under #tbb.checks

In your ask, please state that you want a check and the name and pronouns you would like. If you want seperate checks, specify which pronouns and names to uuse in each.

She/her he/him they/them and it/its pronouns can be given like that but if you want a different set of pronouns, please give the full set (they/them/their/theirs/themself)

If you use multiple sets, i will try to alternate every other sentence

I will write a personalised paragraph based on what you give me so if you would like, you can include an intrest or two, otherwise ill make a general paragraph

Faq:

Check out my #tbb.qna tag for more

Before you ask, you're valid and can use whatever label and pronoun you like no matter your experiences

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As a bigenderflux person, what i am trying to do is binding (i know its painful and hard, and i want to get trans tape since i hear that is less hard on your body, and it lets you go out shirtless and swim in it, so that is an option, but once im safe to buy and apply it for long periods of time without suspicion)

And for hrt, see what things you want from it. I personally want the body hair and deeper voice, but sometimes i like my higher voice so what i am planning to do is voice train myself so that i have the option to go between both voices. Its hard, but it will be worth it.

And i also plan to start using those hair growth products once im away and safe to be able to do it, and research what works well then, or let it grow out naturally

I guess see what temporary alternates you want from hrt, and see what you can do for them so that you always easily have the option to go back.

Really hope this helps, and good luck with deciding what you want to do, and of course research everything thoroughly before you start doing/using them! And of course its normal and fine ti feel this way

need advice / small vent

guys is it normal as a genderfluid (possibly demiboy) person to want to look more masculine and not have stupid meat spheres on their chest but also be too scared to go through hrt or surgery bc medical stuff is waaaay too scary?

like, right now i wanna be a man SOOOOO bad and i hate hearing ppl call me a girl but im too scared to even consider actually doing something about it in the future bc what if the fluidity hits and i start feeling feminine again and end up regretting it all way down the line

i mean i can’t do anything now but im still torn between medically transitioning in the future and regretting it or never medically transitioning and feeling the same amount of dysphoria plus feeling like a coward does anyone have advice?

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@solarcitymelodies

As a bigenderflux person (formerly identified ad bigenderfluid) i personally like to use bigenderflux as my main terms, while others i identify as are more broad/umberella categories, since they sound fun

Such as: gender nonconforming (gnc for short), genderqueer and multigender for example

(Ill be looking at that list though, would love to hoard more terms (lol))

back again! I was here a bit ago asking abt the bigenderfluid label and I can't seem to find a flag for it anywhere 😭 am I just silly or what?

I was also kinda wondering if there were any more labels I might fall under just for funsies-- bc I seem to experience being bigenderfluid differently from most folks. I've seen one person say in their experience it's more like the way people use the bisexual label, as in two or MORE genders, which sounds a lot like me :3 it's difficult to explain but that's the best description I've got, really...

There are many bigenderfluid flags on this wiki page for starters!

This link shows a bunch of bigender labels and this huge list has a lot of multigender labels in general. I wouldn't really know any specific labels to show you unless I had more details.

For me, I consider bigender to be two or more genders, and I just call it bigender. You could definitely use bigenderfluid on its own for whatever reason you want to, but I totally get wanting to try out some fun new labels that are a little more specific. Feel free to reach out again and I can try to help! - 💙💚

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Actually bigender means the experience of having two genders (or more depending on the person)

While male + female bigender experiences are more common, it also can be a combination of binary, nonbinary, fluid/flux, demi, xeno, abinary/trinary or agender genders

Its a common misconception but it is important to correct that

-yourbigendergremlet ::)

what does bigender mean?

Someone who identifies as bigender is someone is simultaneously male and female! Hope this helped!