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Take Care of Maya
I watched this last night and cried my eyes out. It's a documentary about the Kowalski's and their struggles not so much with Maya's CRPS affliction but more so with Johns Hopkins All Children’s Hospital for allegedly abusing Maya Kowalski, then 10, and accusing her mother of Munchausen by proxy.
#take care of maya#documentaries to watch#seriously it was heartbreaking#but we all need to watch#and learn some empathy#and healthcare shouldn't look at people as money making machines#wtf#where is your hippocratic oath
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catalysts, protectors
#man those episodes#so many things put into perspective#like Simon’s role as a protector and his kindness and empathy and compassion and existence being the catalyst for the rest of ooo to#flourish#and Betty is a protector of Simon#I wonder if the last two episodes will explore more of her character? there’s so much to be explored about her giving so much of herself#to Simon but not thinking about what she wants for herself#do we get to explore her feelings or see her at all? will she have changed or learned to let go#I think there will be some sort of closure for the both of them#but at what cost#I am still crying over that scene with Simon’s memory of Betty and their song#my art#fionna and cake#fionna and cake spoilers#simon petrikov#betty grof#petrigrof#golbetty
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#disco elysium#disco elysium fanart#kim kitsuragi#harrier du bois#harry du bois#this is probably one of my fav conversations in the game...#sad that not many people get to see it(?) cause you need like 7 in empathy?#comics#comic art#trans#cw blood#blood#cw smoking#my first time making a comic i hope it looks okay lmao#ough i have so many thoughts about kim and his complicated relationship with his name#im interpreting the dialogues in a very transgender way but its definitely about his racial identity too#cause its a *seolite* name#another factor of him not being seen as a revacholian#and its one of the only things he has left of his parents too#i wonder if the name kim is seen as more masculine or feminine in seol and in other isolas?#im definitely *not* projecting haha#i read once in a fic that kim *attempted* to translate his parents' letters when he was young#10/10 fic made me cry#thats why i decided to add the seolite dictionary - i dont think kim would have *tried* to learn seolite otherwise#he definitely has some kind of internalized racism he needs to get over#sorry for rambling#my art
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if we should protect children because they are vunerable, this means you would protect cruel children who bullies people who different than them then. the children who responsible to trauma for someone else's entire years
You're assuming that "protecting" children is the same as absolving them of responsibility and that's not what I said. All children are vulnerable, because all children are children; they don't come out of the womb with a perfectly working moral compass anymore than they come out of it waiting to hurt people--they're vulnerable because their understanding of the world is entirely at the mercy of what we, as adults, consistently tell them and show them. Children behaving cruelly aren't exempt from that--they learn that cruelty from somewhere, or someone. Your job, as the adult, is to make sure they understand that it's unacceptable so it will not happen again--but your job is also to ask why someone that young is behaving this way to begin with, so you can ensure they become better.
"Protecting" kids is not ignoring when they hurt or torment others, it's not refusing to teach them consequences or right from wrong, it's not "zero tolerance" policies in schools that treat a child being bullied and the child bullying them as equal instigators, and it's certainly not protecting them from recognizing, and atoning for, the pain they have caused someone else. You don't have to make peace with the now-adults who hurt you when you both were kids, but you cannot let the horrors of your own childhood impact how you treat or respond to the children living theirs around you right now, either.
You don't protect kids so they can get a free pass for bullying or tormenting another child. You protect them because kids are impulsive, emotionally reactive, and profoundly social (which means deeply impressionable) human beings who are still learning & processing insane amounts of information every day about what it means to be alive, to be alive as yourself, to be alive as yourself with other people. Protecting them is realising that you can't isolate the responsibility of a 10 year old from the bigger responsibility of the literal grown adults around them, adults who are in charge of teaching them about the world and how to behave in it. Whether you have children of your own in the future or not is completely irrelevant to this; we all become those adults eventually--no matter what happened to us as kids.
#ask#Anonymous#i dont want to keep repeating myself on this but we're all carrying fucked up and traumatizing childhoods to some extent and if you want to#spare another child going through the same thing the solution is not to hate on children bc they didnt ask to be born any more than the res#of us did. but they're here now and what are you going to tell them while they are?#what kind of an adult and what kind of a compass are you going to become for them during the time they're learning about being alive?#and if you decide its not your problem the minute this child says or does something fucked up and that they're a lost cause at the age of 8#bc their impulse control is shitty and their empathy & understanding is still buffering then that is part of the problem. they learn what#they're doing is okay and then they keep doing it--to other kids and years later other adults. our world is fucked up and makes fucked up#people and if you have it in your ability to limit that damage at its most formative and dangerous point then why wouldn't you?#notes from elsewhere
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i think my favorite part of the lion's head fights was that everyone was like "i am here to shame you into being a better person" EXCEPT for hiragi vs sako. that fight was just sako going "i am going to beat your ass for telling me to stop following you >:(" and hiragi going "i'm sorry i left you behind and also i'm going to beat YOUR ass :(". that was some real gay shit right there.
#lyz talks#wind breaker#hiragi toma#sako kota#every other bofurin v lions head fight was like. you stupid mf!!! learn some fucking manners!!! have some empathy!!!#meanwhile hiragi and sako are like. what if i beat u up and then tenderly carried your body off stage. what then.#what if my hand curled into your shirt after u knocked me out like when we were kids. what then.#like WHAT was in the water with those two why were they so. gay. homosexual even.
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i can't stop thinkng about kristen this episode. her kindness. her honesty. she sees a grieving man; a man she hates, a man who has wronged her and hurt her, a man who she would be well within her right to vow to destroy, to laugh at his pain. and she says "it's too sad not to tell him". she tells him the truth about what she knows. a hard truth, but a necessary truth. he doesn't believe her, but she tells him anyway, because she cares. because this is a world barely a step from hers.
she talks to her brother, and she doesn't try to make a grand gesture. she doesn't try to heroically convince him to turn away. she empathises, she's been there. she tells him she understands. and she meets his doubt with courage, with a hand to hold, with a lantern to light up the overwhelming darkness. she offers him the hand he needs when he's too afraid to ask for it.
she talk to jawbone. she sees how hard a time he's having, and she reaches out. she helps, and she tells him that her plan was to take advantage of him, but she couldn't go through with it. she's honest and kind and giving at every fucking turn, and she tries again and again and again.
it's in the way she would still reach out and try to reconnect with her parents, who let her down and betrayed her trust and innocence. The way she insisted that buddy be revived, and was hopeless when she could do nothing to help. for all her chaos and bits, kristen is one of the most heartfelt and genuine characters in dimension 20 and i fully fully believe that.
#fhjy spoilers#fhjy#kristen applebees#i keep thinking about ill pray#its the first song i wrote breaking my sorta year long dead patch of music#kristen applebees and her faith and devotion broke my intense writers block#and still “i'll pray to those who'll listen / and i'll pray to everyone still left”#“i'll pray til i don't need your permission / and i'll pray and i'll learn your name” is still some of the hardest lyrics ive done#sorry to turn this general ally beardsley appreciation into a personal blah board but its like#god kristen applebees is all faith and kindness and empathy and it terrifies the people who oppose her#how can you fight someone who looks at you and returns only kindness?
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the rudy hate train is crazyy
OBX Fans: *Harass Rudy and Madison for YEARS about Jiara, harass their partners, scream and cry over Jiara, ship them irl to the point they get uncomfortable*
OBX Fans when actions have consequences:
Somewhat spoilers below but some of you need the reminder that Rudy is still a fairly new actor and OBX was his big break. It can be overwhelming and we've seen time and time again how easily fame breaks people, especially when it's sudden. An example? After sudden fame and going viral, Chappell Roan now suffers from depression. You shouldn't need to be told to care about the mental health and privacy of others.
Whether or not Rudy wanted out of the show, I support him. No, it is not unprofessional or selfish for him to put HIMSELF first. We do not know if it was Rudy or the Pates idea to end his arc like this but it does not warrant acting bitchy toward him.
How many times are we gonna watch actors crumble under the pressure, stress, and AUDACITY of fans before we realize they aren't fucking machines?
A lot of people in the tags need to learn some basic fucking empathy because you know what it reminds me of when people treat actors like this? How the people of the Capitol treat Victors in THG. With little to no respect.
#bumbleanswers#rudy pankow#jj maybank#obx#outer banks#i dont usually tag like this with asks and such but#some people need to chill the fuck out#does it suck/hurt? absolutely#but it does not warrant wishing ill or wishing unemployment on someone#grow the fuck up#and learn some basic fucking empathy
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rewatching nowhere boys (yeah sue me i know i know) and i'm lowkey obsessed with how sam isn't even like,,, mean, he starts talking to andy and felix right from the start and isn't insulting or rude to them, he calls them nicknames he uses for the rest of the show, he has a few rude moments and insults but definitely not as much as jake does, who's an actual bully
it's very fascinating to me how sam's ENTIRE arc is really just him getting a reality check and being like "dude you gotta be less selfish", dare i say incredibly adhd coded (hi hello it is me i relate to this so fucking much), and he's right at the age for it too, which fifteen year old hasn't gotten bonked in the head by destiny and told "yo cut it off and think of others", it's genuinely so nice
#nowhere boys#sam conte#idk man i just really really like sam#he's not a dick#he just needed to learn some empathy#and then he did !! and he bettered himself !!#and yeah sure it was mostly to get mia back#but he's a kid#he does get genuinely better and kinder#but !!!#they don't make him sacrifice his quirks#and they don't change his personality#he's still airheaded and kinda self important and doesn't notice others naturally#but he makes the EFFORT to do so throughout the series#idk man i'm just obsessed with how this all is written#they're fascinating to meeeeeeeeeee#@the three people reading this who have been fans of this show for a decade#i get you man i get you#there is so much in here
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i swear this panel drives me INSANE. this as a visual while the text says "it feels like we're pretty close", them being the same age but hien already having developed her tough personality while he's still a sensitive boy. this being one of the FEW things we know about their relationship. what tje hell man what the hell
#dungeon meshi#shuro#toshiro nakamoto#hien#i need to expand on this a little more in my post but auuuu auuu god what is going on...#falin and laios giving him the push to be more of himself Guh#LISTEN#i know hien's totally got some repression in her too but she learned to deal with it completely differently#her low empathy note kind of feels like a measure along with her own confidence to not let things affect her#she got thrust into this world of her job since she was so small so no doubt she had to be strong mentally for that too...#and dont even get me started on hien's acceptance and expectation of them ending up together. bevause im gonna talk about it later#ive been trying to piece together why falin and laios being themselves affected him so much but presumably not hien#but like . she is fucking ripe with issues man i know it. i see now
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got myself an icecream last night as a treat for continuing to exist and the kid working there gave me a bunch free-scoop coupons AND set me up with a rewards card WITH bonus points AND gave me a discount on my cone hehehehh. 😎 🍨
(actually i feel terrible for her because she vented a little about how people had been rude and it’s like—goddamnit. why are people such ASSHOLES? like be kind in general but ESPECIALLY be kind to your fucking servers and DOUBLE ESPECIALLY when they’re literal fucking kids, you piss-drinking wankers. the only reason she set me up so good was because i used my bare-basic fucking manners, like, are you seriously telling me there are grown adults out there who don’t know how to say hello and please and thank-you? that’s rhetorical, i know there aren’t the assholes are everywhere, it just makes me mad LMFAOOOO. off-topic but the mouse is unrelated, just cute; it’s from meri meri!!! i use them for my christmas dinner decorations and if you have/know children they do great birthday stuff too (i mean, u can also use them for adult birthdays 😎 don’t let labels stop u from having fun). look at this little miss. she’s ready for a day at the beach AND her house is an icecream, it’s perfect.)
#justice for my little friend bc she was so precious :( she was like ‘thank-you for being nice!!!’ and it actually broke my heart LOL#one year in service work like retail or hospo should be MANDATORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#maybe then some of these wankers will learn EMPATHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#anyways thank u for the icecream queen i will get some on the weekend after i post the shouto chapter as a reward 😎
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Do you ever think that when Cale was KRS, he subconsciously knew about the curse? All of those terrible things kept happening to people he cared about- so much so that it would become a recognizable pattern (that he would realize later on was an actual curse) so he unintentionally twisted his mind into the piece of origami it is now, attributing people to their worth and convenience and refusing to express care for anyone, inside of his heart or to the outside world.
… He fails at hiding it. He fails because he doesn’t even know what counts as caring about someone’s well being, he doesn’t know what it looks like! He’s only ever had his own concern towards himself (and Lee Soo Hyuk and Choi Jung Soo), and everyone who cares for him like he cares for them— dies.
He knows how to be a team leader and how to manage and take responsibility for his members, but he doesn’t want to outwardly or inwardly care. Even after finding out about the curse, he doesn’t see how he refuses to care about things.
Well- he does care about things. Arguably more than anyone else, because his internal longing for human connection is so bone-deep that he can only create reasons why he’s helping people, instead of saying that he wants to.
‘Want’ got Cale nowhere. ‘Family’ got him nowhere. ‘Friends’ left him to sweep up his broken remains. ‘Home’ didn’t last, ‘safety’ is an illusion, and ‘emotions’ have only ever gotten in his way. Time and time again, these facts got drummed and burned into his mind.
It’s all he knows. It’s all Kim Rok Soo knew for his aching, dragging 36 years of existence.
Now he’s Cale Henituse.
Those facts are still there. They’ve become deep, welded scars in his mind. They’ll never go away.
But he’s learning. Very, very slowly. Those scars will never disappear, but maybe through this story, he can learn to traverse his trauma.
I hope so.
I really, really hope so.
(Drafted: January 23, 2023)
(I found this gathering dust in my drafts and decided to post it)
#it hurts to see him hurt himself and his friends when sacrificing himself. I know that’s what he feels is best#to truly express his desire for a good and happy life. and his way to avoid actually *saying* that he cares while still protecting the#people he cares about#and yeah seeing him hurt and his friends caring about him can be haha big angst hit the cry button now ->#but I really do hope that he learns to step back and acknowledge WHY he wants to protect these ppl so much#this boy needs some emotional intelligence. a therapist. and a slacker life#oh I just had the best idea for an angsty story#cough COUGH anyway haha empathy y’know. my boy needs his friends to step in bc he’s self destructive#tcf#lcf#I need to write this idea down so y’all can cry later LMAOOOOOO#trash of the counts family#lout of the counts family#totcf#lotcf#cale henituse#kim Rok Soo#not a reblog
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wanna ask how you feel about the eridan bpd headcanon/theory(?? not sure what to call it!) you're so good at your character analysis and i'd love to see your outlook on it
Since I don't have a degree or any formal training in psychology, I feel deeply uncomfortable diagnosing characters. I've made an autism joke before but only because I'm on the spectrum. He's definitely traumatized and anxious, but I mean those as descriptors of his behavior rather than capital-D Diagnoses. I try to focus on those when I can - the cause and effect of cognition, self-image, and behavior - and those factors may very well match up with DSM criteria, but I try not to touch an actual diagnosis with a ten foot pole unless the author has explicitly stated that X character has Y condition.
#there's a variety of reasons for this#part of it is that im GROSSLY unqualified to be handing out diagnoses when it takes a full on PhD to do that in real life#part of it is that psychology is inchoate and we are still very much in murky waters#for example: complex ptsd isn't even IN the DSM yet#and iirc my therapist told me it was because theyre still figuring out how to classify it (attachment disorder? trauma disorder? etc.)#part of it is that (from my limited and undereducated understanding) there are diagnoses that you can assign by completing a checklist...#but some that require a hell of a lot more testing and ruling out other potential causes#and the cluster-b personalities are (IIRC) not even ones you're supposed to diagnose minors with#bc of fears of self fulfilling prophecy and because minors in general are still developing personalities In General#and like the fact that i can't say that with authority speaks to how unqualified i am to do any diagnosing right? hahaha#and part of it is just because like#unless the story is specifically About That and the author has stated so explicitly#i think diagnosing characters tends to put blinders on analysis#like if i were to seriously go 'eridan is autistic' then it would massively bias my reading and understanding of his character#and we have 0 indication that eridan was ever explicitly intended to be autistic or that the author was trying to do an autism specifically#that doesn't mean that the reading is invalid because like thats what death of the author means#all readings are technically valid including stuff the author didn't necessarily intend#but that's just not the way i like to engage with media and not the way i like to approach character analysis#because PERSONALLY it just feels kind of reductive - but also -#i'd wager MOST of us don't have degrees in psychology#so when i say 'X character has Y condition' it might mean something totally different to somebody reading my analysis#even people who have Y condition aren't exempt because a lot of mental illnesses differ from person to person#whereas if i explain “X character has Y thoughts and Z behaviors” there's no ambiguity in that#eridan struggles with noticing that people are suffering and with realizing that he should care#at least part of this is due to his horrific murder-filled upbringing which rendered empathy a detriment & so he learned to ignore it#it could be autism - but it could also be trauma -#or he might just be Like That without actually meeting the diagnostic criteria for autism#& you can't even technically be diagnosed with C-PTSD#or maybe he has a burgeoning personality disorder but you aren't supposed to DX those too early anyway#or maybe hes just 13. see what i mean hahaha. ive reached the 30 tag limit
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one of the best things about getting older is hitting the point where you look around and realize you arent legally bound to be nice to anyone. it doesnt matter if youve known someone all your life or if you met them last week, if you decide someone is too immature, unevolved, annoying or just plain uninteresting to you, you can simply tell them you dont want to talk anymore. you can just break it off and walk away. you dont have to stay in meaningless or frustrating friendships or relationships. you can decide you dont like someone and it doesnt have to be moral it can be any reason you could ever think of and you can simply say hey. i dont think were compatible and id like to go our own ways. and then you can clean your hands of it and never have to stress about it again. its fantastic.
#pruning becomes necessary as you get older bc some people stop maturing or refuse to learn and grow and its like oh okay#well then bye#and thats that on that#i think it also brings a lot of mindfulness to the relationships you DO keep and you DO foster and you DO grow#bc to make a relationship (even friendships) last#you have to find common ground. you have to find bridges in communication styles. you have to have empathy and forgiveness#its a lot of work and its not something you owe anyone. if there are people you dont want to do the work with then just be up front#dont be a dick (unless they warrant it) you dont have to tell someone were not friends anymore bc you chew w ur mouth open#but you can communicate clearly that you dont think youre compatible people and you want to go your own way#freedom
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Real, picture of what happens when you attend Tumblr University
Small nitpick but why did the artist turn some of the spines of the books away from us, why couldn’t he think of more bad gay things that college teaches you. Like he thought five books wasn’t a big enough pile but couldn’t think of two more titles?
“America is Evil” “Trans Socialism” “Gay Math” “Socialism For You(and Everyone)” “Books are Sexist” there’s a few right there
2/10 unfortunately I must admit this is a well-drawn picture of a smart rational man getting his head flattened by evil gay books.
#boomer cartoons#boomer comic#2/10#college bad#anti-lgbt#love that he is still so smart and rational after a brain flattening#since his face is flat there’s no opportunity to show big boomer nose so that makes the drawing slightly better#I think sometimes I say boomer comic when I mean conservative comic#but they broadly overlap I guess#they’re so close with college being overpriced#but even in my sjw ass art school we barely talk about this stuff#like I know gay gender classes are probably required to some extent in some colleges but that’s not a bad thing imo#I’m sure some of its dumb but a lot of it is just the truth about the world and learning to have more empathy and understanding#*flattens your head*
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I feel like I'm going insane. That episode read to me as a lot more tragic than other people are reading it. Yeah they were racist and rich and spoiled and awful but they were just kids. They were all just kids. Lindy was absolutely terrified throughout the whole thing and clinging desperately to what she knew, which was terrible. They could've had the chance to learn and become better but they chose to go die and it's infuriating and tragic because nobody deserves that. Nobody deserves to be eaten by slugs or die of exposure in the woods. Nobody deserves to suffer like that. But they chose it rather than let the Doctor help them because they'd rather stay in their rich white supremacist bubble and he just wants to help and there's nothing he can do.
Maybe it's because one of my core beliefs is that nobody deserves death and suffering. Nobody. Even the worst person on earth can learn from their mistakes and come back and change and everyone deserves that chance. There's no such thing as too late. But they're never going to get that chance because they actively rejected it and to me that's still very, very sad.
#dead men do tell tales#doctor who#doctor who spoilers#dot and bubble#I am losing my mind. I am actually losing my mind#maybe it's because my brain is always telling me that I'm the worst person alive#instead of just saying that no I'm not my response is to say yeah okay and even the worst person alive doesn't deserve to die and can chang#what matters is that I'm taking the next step. and anyone can choose at any point to take the next step#and they actively rejected doing that and it's sad and infuriating#because nobody deserves to die#but they get what they chose#there's also the fact that I was raised by racist trump supporters and had to unlearn a lot of shit#which I was only able to do because I got out of my small town cult bubble and I was actually willing to listen to people#the problem comes when you see assholes and go wow look at those horrible unsympathetic assholes I could never be like them#by treating them as solely monstrous and something completely different from you you ignore your own ability to be monstrous#because you're not like them you're better#even the worst person is still a person and not some cartoon villain#and thinks that their actions are justified#and I'm always looking at people being assholes and going what makes you think this behavior is okay. you clearly think you're in the right#seriously what makes you think this. I want to know your exact thought process so I can stay far the hell away from it#I've been the asshole thinking I was completely in the right and I've seen people be absolutely horrible and justify it to themselves#so I'm always aware that this could be me. I could be being a total fucking dick. so I'm going to study you so I can avoid that#also the next person who says it was because they didn't learn empathy/were unempathetic gets slapped
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from time to time, when I post anything relating to ruzzian attacks on Ukraine, I get these dumb ass comments about "OHH BUT WW3 WILL START IF NATO/ANY OTHER THING/YOU NAME IT DOES ANYTHING!!" and it's just so??? huh?? so you would rather let a nation, a whole country get invaded and decimated?? its people killed by some fucking imperialist pigs? really? cool logic🤡🤡🤡 like, ah yes, let's make sure to let this terrorist state wreak havoc 'cause otherwise there will be ww3🤡 I fucking bet y'all 20 bucks that if those people's country was under attack, they would be super angry, yelling at the world to do something
but of course, if it doesn't concern them or their relatives, they won't feel empathy
#cardi rambles#people are such hypocrites#some people need to fucking learn some empathy#maybe then the world would be a little better
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